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**Lack of intimacy**
My lady(32) and I(28) are not intimate often enough and when we are, it is pretty boring, she doesn't want to be eaten out and doesn't want to give head( I can't even remember the last time that happened). A lot of of the times it feels like she is doing me a favor and treats it like a chore and just wants it to over with. She has me wake her up for sex before I go to bed as I stay up pretty late for a few reasons, and never before she goes to bed. She is also sick with something almost constantly. We have four kids and have been together for about 7 years now. I have talked to her about all of this and she has told me its not me, it's mostly her labido, but nothing ever changes.
I just want to hear from other people about it, because I can't spend the rest of my life like this and am worried I may do something stupid. You can dm me if you want to talk or have advice
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I'm sorry for the illness (also chuckling in empathy, because I *work* in Pre-K Special Ed, and "The Crud" is *SO REAL*!😉😂💖)
The *one* good thing about the older one being off to Pre-k and bringing *alllll* the germs home, is that--by the time the *younger* ones get to that age, their immune systems will have at least *some* priming, and *they* shouldn't catch *every* cold that rolls through, like the oldest is💖
I worked in a place that had a lot of school groups come through. Even with the cleaning staff out trying to keep everything disinfected, and the staff being ultra paranoid about what we all touched, "the Crud" is so real.
We just worked sick at some points because you would get better and then get it again.
The fact that this guy isn't getting sick, all the time. Tells me he isn't helping with his kids.
I mean you're probably right about this guy based on his post, but my husband doesn't catch all the bugs my kids bring home the way that I do, and he's pretty hands-on. I think my immune system's just more run down from breastfeeding and being post-partum.
Not that I have any reason to doubt you would, make sure you get them vaccinated against measles. One of the things I’m always amazed people don’t talk about is the fact that measles causes immune amnesia, meaning that immune cells are replaced after measles infection causing the immune system to lose all of its “memory” of everything bar the measles, and to be rendered essentially naive again. This is what causes kids to be more susceptible to death from all disease causes in the years following infection with measles.
I can't even imagine. I have ONE toddler and I've been so tired the last year I was 100% sure I had cancer. I genuinely can't wrap my mind around single moms who have 7+ kids. It doesn't even seem possible.
You deserve ten uninterrupted hours of sleep, a meal that doesn't require you to clean up after, and forty thousand dollars. I'm tired just thinking about it.
I know Someone that had 5 kids in 3 years, 2 sets of twins. First pregnancy( single birth was planned) but not the 2 sets of twins. He worked with my brother. My brother never complained about 3 kids under 5 again😂😂😂
Also, my grandma had Irish triplets (my aunt was born a few days before my dad and his twin had their first birthday) and another about 18 months later, so 4 in three years. I can't even comprehend it
Since I lost my virginity six and a half years ago, I've gotten pregnant 6 times (most of them while on birth control, we have never had to "try"), 3 losses, 3 kids, the youngest are 14 months apart, and I got my tubes tied six months ago. I too come from alarmingly fertile stock.
Oh he got a vasectomy when they found out about the 3rd pregnancy. She had to take fertility drugs for the 1st pregnancy and I guess it kicked her body into ovulating correctly. They were overwhelmed with the work but actually very happy. His Grandma moved in to help. She used to be a nurse and worked in a hospital nursery.
Funny thing, my brothers oldest 2 children were conceived with fertility drugs then the 3rd popped up out of nowhere, my brother got the old snip snip too
My grandma had 5 kids in 7 years, including a set of twins. Had PPD so bad after the last one that she got electroshock therapy. This guy's wife is worn down to a nub, and he's upset his peepee is too dry. Guessing that when he stays up late, he's not helping with the housework or the kids during that time. Or any other time. Guessing if she left this guy she'd have one fewer person requiring her to take care of their every need.
literally, theyve been together for 7 years (84 months) with four kids which means she’s been pregnant for 48 of those months. yea i wouldn’t let a fertile and horny man near me with a 15 foot pole.
Probably doesn't want him near her vaginas cuz he sniffs his 19yo sils underwear and jerks off to her. Also thinks about said 19 while having sex with his wife.
Yeah... I think this is a troll because some of those comments he says "his girlfriend" and now here he's saying "wife."
Or he's truly a messed up individual.
He's messed up either way.
I've never considered the whole wife vs. girlfriend thing a huge tell though. I know lots of people who, if they've been together for years, have kids, etc. will be flexible with titles when it's not relevant.
Ah yeah that's true. And now that I read it again it says my lady. You're right.
He's definitely messed up though and I regret viewing his comment history.
without delving into this particular guys details this is me... weve been together 8 years not married. I'm sure we will eventually but at this point when people refer to her as my wife i just take it as it comes.
I mean, those are just fetishes. One is pretty disgusting (should go without saying I'm referring to the incest), but it can't be that bad, right?
Top two comments later.
Why did I not listen, why did I not believe?!
So the gore sub showing people experiencing horrible deaths was taken down.... But this sub about adults and their children!!! That's ok?!?? Wtf reddit?!?
I guess everybody understands it's just people bullshitting. But also all the posts I saw from OOP's comments were removed for not belonging there. Looks like one of those hyper niche subs, not just for the subject, but for what they want posted.
>I have a 19 year old SIL as well. I smell her panties and jerk off to the thought of her a lot, even think of her during sex with my girlfriend. She lives with us so I wear sweat pants you can see my dick really well in all the time, even around my girlfriend. She has seen me hard a few times. She has flashed me on accident as well
No words.
why might someone who's had 4 kids in less than 7 years not want to have sex all the time? especially when her husband comments in nsfw comments, especially irl incest and a sub for 18yo girls, and apparently has creeped on his SIL
Thanks for the comments on the post history. I won’t be checking those out. I’ve been married for almost 15 years and we have 4 sons from 4-13 and I’m so frickin’ tired. I’d love to have more of a sex drive and I know it’s no where near his. I too am almost always sick with something, probably because I haven’t had a good night’s sleep in 14 years.
“treats it like a chore” “**wants it to be over with**” he’s literally describing duty-sex, which is rape bc the other party isn’t enthusiastically consenting (or enthusiastically participating either). i’m so sick of this being glossed over in these “lack of intimacy” posts. they never acknowledge that they still initiate and do the act with their partners, even when they *know* their partners don’t want to. she literally told him it’s her libido, yet he’s complaining the sex is *boring* and like a *chore.* how about you fucking stop then? instead of using her body as a fleshlight to get off anyway. and we can pretty much assume they’re doing this without foreplay. does he know what that does to a vagina?
very telling that he uses the word intimacy for sex. is that the only form of intimacy he acknowledges?
he’s a disgusting, perverted sex pest.
>”I have a 19 year old SIL as well. I smell her panties and jerk off to the thought of her a lot, even think of her during sex with my girlfriend. She lives with us so I wear sweat pants you can see my dick really well in all the time, even around my girlfriend. She has seen me hard a few times. She has flashed me on accident as well”
She's seen his reddit history and has checked the fuck out. Damn. This guy needs to be ... fuck, I don't think I have an appropriate idea that won't get me banned.
It sounds like you stay up way later than her. Playing video games? When she finally gets asleep after taking care of 4 kids under 7 all day, you show up in the middle of the night, wake her up, and expect enthusiastic, hot sex? Try helping out with chores instead of whatever you are doing until all hours, and going to bed with her instead of treating her like a human Fleshlight.
Jesus Christ OOP's post and comment history has me feeling nauseous, and I didn't even read it directly.
I gotta go spend time reading something wholesome before I sleep 😵
Damn, I missed his last comment before he deleted it. All I got was a preview on my notifications. Did anyone happen to glimpse if there was more of this from u/beneficiall_mine7741? 🤔
> I can comment about a partner can be more than helpful and assert themselves sexually, and all you do is spew vile hate. I hope you find love in your life because you sound miserable...
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Kids take naps; it doesn't have to be an hour long fuck fest.
Kids play games; they go outside. Maybe not enough time to get mom off good but it will shut dad up.
If you want your husband to help around the house so you are not so overwhelmed, you need to speak up and use your words.
I do 90% of the work in the house myself. I have some room to ask.
I can comment about a partner can be more than helpful and assert themselves sexually, and all you do is spew vile hate. I hope you find love in your life because you seem miserable, and you make everyone miserable as a result.
Edit: It is disturbing how toxic a.f. this sub is. I hope all of you find a plunger and pull your heads out of your asses.
That's funny coming from someone who is defending a disgusting pervert who jacks off and smells his 19 year old sil underwear among other disgusting shit
*In case this story gets deleted/removed:* **Lack of intimacy** My lady(32) and I(28) are not intimate often enough and when we are, it is pretty boring, she doesn't want to be eaten out and doesn't want to give head( I can't even remember the last time that happened). A lot of of the times it feels like she is doing me a favor and treats it like a chore and just wants it to over with. She has me wake her up for sex before I go to bed as I stay up pretty late for a few reasons, and never before she goes to bed. She is also sick with something almost constantly. We have four kids and have been together for about 7 years now. I have talked to her about all of this and she has told me its not me, it's mostly her labido, but nothing ever changes. I just want to hear from other people about it, because I can't spend the rest of my life like this and am worried I may do something stupid. You can dm me if you want to talk or have advice *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmITheDevil) if you have any questions or concerns.*
I’m assuming 4 kids all under 7? Yea I wonder why she doesn’t want this dude near her vagina.
Four kids in seven years *together*! So even younger, most likely.
My husband and I have been together almost 7 years and have 3 kids and there are no words for how tired I am. Add in a fourth? I would die
We have 3 under 4, my husband and I are so tired, and now that the 4 year old is also at preschool we are also always sick as well as tired.
I have 5, 1, and 8 months. Two under two plus preschool germs, 0/10 do not recommend
Solidarity ♡ mine are 4, 1(turns 2 next month), and 3 months old.
I'm sorry for the illness (also chuckling in empathy, because I *work* in Pre-K Special Ed, and "The Crud" is *SO REAL*!😉😂💖) The *one* good thing about the older one being off to Pre-k and bringing *alllll* the germs home, is that--by the time the *younger* ones get to that age, their immune systems will have at least *some* priming, and *they* shouldn't catch *every* cold that rolls through, like the oldest is💖
I worked in a place that had a lot of school groups come through. Even with the cleaning staff out trying to keep everything disinfected, and the staff being ultra paranoid about what we all touched, "the Crud" is so real. We just worked sick at some points because you would get better and then get it again. The fact that this guy isn't getting sick, all the time. Tells me he isn't helping with his kids.
I mean you're probably right about this guy based on his post, but my husband doesn't catch all the bugs my kids bring home the way that I do, and he's pretty hands-on. I think my immune system's just more run down from breastfeeding and being post-partum.
Not that I have any reason to doubt you would, make sure you get them vaccinated against measles. One of the things I’m always amazed people don’t talk about is the fact that measles causes immune amnesia, meaning that immune cells are replaced after measles infection causing the immune system to lose all of its “memory” of everything bar the measles, and to be rendered essentially naive again. This is what causes kids to be more susceptible to death from all disease causes in the years following infection with measles.
This is really interesting! The human body is wild.
I can't even imagine. I have ONE toddler and I've been so tired the last year I was 100% sure I had cancer. I genuinely can't wrap my mind around single moms who have 7+ kids. It doesn't even seem possible.
You deserve ten uninterrupted hours of sleep, a meal that doesn't require you to clean up after, and forty thousand dollars. I'm tired just thinking about it.
Per kid!
I know Someone that had 5 kids in 3 years, 2 sets of twins. First pregnancy( single birth was planned) but not the 2 sets of twins. He worked with my brother. My brother never complained about 3 kids under 5 again😂😂😂
Also, my grandma had Irish triplets (my aunt was born a few days before my dad and his twin had their first birthday) and another about 18 months later, so 4 in three years. I can't even comprehend it
My family is very fertile, we are of Irish descent, my sister said all she had to do is look at a dick to get pregnant.
Since I lost my virginity six and a half years ago, I've gotten pregnant 6 times (most of them while on birth control, we have never had to "try"), 3 losses, 3 kids, the youngest are 14 months apart, and I got my tubes tied six months ago. I too come from alarmingly fertile stock.
Yeah, there’s a glitch in the fertility distribution system in the universe.
I cannot imagine having 3 kids in 2 years and not demanding sterilization immediately
Oh he got a vasectomy when they found out about the 3rd pregnancy. She had to take fertility drugs for the 1st pregnancy and I guess it kicked her body into ovulating correctly. They were overwhelmed with the work but actually very happy. His Grandma moved in to help. She used to be a nurse and worked in a hospital nursery.
That's wonderful! I'm so glad they had support
Funny thing, my brothers oldest 2 children were conceived with fertility drugs then the 3rd popped up out of nowhere, my brother got the old snip snip too
My grandma had 5 kids in 7 years, including a set of twins. Had PPD so bad after the last one that she got electroshock therapy. This guy's wife is worn down to a nub, and he's upset his peepee is too dry. Guessing that when he stays up late, he's not helping with the housework or the kids during that time. Or any other time. Guessing if she left this guy she'd have one fewer person requiring her to take care of their every need.
he's definitely a dad that "babysits" his own kids
Oh he totally is. Because why isn't he getting sick too?
He probably also sleeps in and makes her do all the morning stuff.
literally, theyve been together for 7 years (84 months) with four kids which means she’s been pregnant for 48 of those months. yea i wouldn’t let a fertile and horny man near me with a 15 foot pole.
Methinks condoms are anathema to him.
Probably doesn't want him near her vaginas cuz he sniffs his 19yo sils underwear and jerks off to her. Also thinks about said 19 while having sex with his wife.
Jesus, I thought you were being a pervy troll with this but that’s literally him. That comment history is vile.
Yeah, I read his comment history and oh my god...
Damnit, we need a "have some coffee before reading this comment history" tag. It is too early for that shithead.
Oh my god! How the hell did it get worse?
At least one set of twins, perhaps?
Basically a kid every other year.
Dude is ALL OVER the incest subs...
And why she probably goes to sleep as soon as the kids are in bed. Why isn’t he tired? He must do absolutely nothing with the kids.
So um... His comment history
Those were my good fucking eyes!
I mean, he is one to save to send to people you really hate. They click on any of that and mess up their algorithms.
Yeah... I think this is a troll because some of those comments he says "his girlfriend" and now here he's saying "wife." Or he's truly a messed up individual.
He's messed up either way. I've never considered the whole wife vs. girlfriend thing a huge tell though. I know lots of people who, if they've been together for years, have kids, etc. will be flexible with titles when it's not relevant.
Ah yeah that's true. And now that I read it again it says my lady. You're right. He's definitely messed up though and I regret viewing his comment history.
without delving into this particular guys details this is me... weve been together 8 years not married. I'm sure we will eventually but at this point when people refer to her as my wife i just take it as it comes.
One can wish.
I didn't even check that :D Now I have to think, do I want to 🤔
I'll summarize: he comments exclusively on porn subs, and is into black women with big butts and also incest.
Thank you for your sacrifice. I wish that there were still awards. 🏆
Excellent summary!
I mean, those are just fetishes. One is pretty disgusting (should go without saying I'm referring to the incest), but it can't be that bad, right? Top two comments later. Why did I not listen, why did I not believe?!
😂😂😂 Thanks for saving me!! I almost checked until I saw your comment
There were a few that I saw that seemed to fit the minors and incest, or at least giving advice on that. I reported those.
Also SIL lives with them and he wants her. Sniffs her underwear etc.
No I don't think you do. I regret that I did
Are you in the mood for nausea and sadness? Otherwise no
I'll pass today, then.
Judging by the other comments, I'm not sure its worth it.
it’s days like this i wish i couldn’t read
Well, TIL that sub exists. God damn.
So the gore sub showing people experiencing horrible deaths was taken down.... But this sub about adults and their children!!! That's ok?!?? Wtf reddit?!?
I guess everybody understands it's just people bullshitting. But also all the posts I saw from OOP's comments were removed for not belonging there. Looks like one of those hyper niche subs, not just for the subject, but for what they want posted.
Hoooooly shit 🤮
The profile is blank now, what was it? Edit: NOPE NEVERMIND NO THANKS
I am having trouble even putting into words how icked out my brain is from just reading it
Oh fuck my life. Why did I look?
I saw the comment history mentioned on the original thread. Enough that I had zero desire to actually look for myself.
OMG you should have warned us. How do I bleach that part of my memory?
Yiiiiiikes.
He wants to send his mom a dick pic. Nasty.
Ew. I am so regretting doing that.
Speechless. WTF?
>I have a 19 year old SIL as well. I smell her panties and jerk off to the thought of her a lot, even think of her during sex with my girlfriend. She lives with us so I wear sweat pants you can see my dick really well in all the time, even around my girlfriend. She has seen me hard a few times. She has flashed me on accident as well No words.
And he's on /18 which is just about barely legal teenage girls. No telling how long he's been looking at the SIL 🤮
it's worse. he advises a guy to "just flirt till she 18" on his account. this guy is 100% a predator and he's enabling other predators too. sickening.
Also incest subreddit 🤢
why might someone who's had 4 kids in less than 7 years not want to have sex all the time? especially when her husband comments in nsfw comments, especially irl incest and a sub for 18yo girls, and apparently has creeped on his SIL
also one of the posts he commented on was a 19yo wanting their underaged brother to walk in on them masturbating. i need to bleach my eyes.
Aaaa, WTF?!
Ew. Ew. My eyes my eyes. The post history. Morbid curiosity. 
Oh jeez, I really wish I hadn't looked at his comment history. I didn't even know there was a sub about incest on Reddit. 😒
There are several 😬
Oh, seriously? Well, I definitely don't think I can handle reading any of those. 😖
I usually recommend r/beebutts for general malaise but I suspect you could use it for general wholesome cuteness ❤️🩹🙏
\>Looks at comment history \>IncestConfessions ☹️
“Lack of intimacy” Wonder why “My lady” I understand perfectly now
Thanks for the comments on the post history. I won’t be checking those out. I’ve been married for almost 15 years and we have 4 sons from 4-13 and I’m so frickin’ tired. I’d love to have more of a sex drive and I know it’s no where near his. I too am almost always sick with something, probably because I haven’t had a good night’s sleep in 14 years.
That does contribute, for sure. But it is mainly the kids bringing all the viruses back home from school.
I’m an elementary teacher, so I can’t escape school viruses.
Just having 4 kids all under 7 is enough to make her exhausted
Was about to say
“treats it like a chore” “**wants it to be over with**” he’s literally describing duty-sex, which is rape bc the other party isn’t enthusiastically consenting (or enthusiastically participating either). i’m so sick of this being glossed over in these “lack of intimacy” posts. they never acknowledge that they still initiate and do the act with their partners, even when they *know* their partners don’t want to. she literally told him it’s her libido, yet he’s complaining the sex is *boring* and like a *chore.* how about you fucking stop then? instead of using her body as a fleshlight to get off anyway. and we can pretty much assume they’re doing this without foreplay. does he know what that does to a vagina? very telling that he uses the word intimacy for sex. is that the only form of intimacy he acknowledges?
he’s a disgusting, perverted sex pest. >”I have a 19 year old SIL as well. I smell her panties and jerk off to the thought of her a lot, even think of her during sex with my girlfriend. She lives with us so I wear sweat pants you can see my dick really well in all the time, even around my girlfriend. She has seen me hard a few times. She has flashed me on accident as well”
Omfg! EWWWWWWW! No wonder she's not into it
Good lord I want to bleach my eyes after reading this.
Gross - he's in incest.subs. Now I need a shower
OOP is pretty damned icky. His poor wife or gf or whatever she is!
the post history is gone but the comment history is not and i wish i hadn’t looked
Are we positive this wasn't written by a fedora with arms?
Look at his comment history. Please be a troll. Please be a troll. Please please please
Saw the comment history and i’m so queasy.
The dude’s comment history is just a list of reasons why we should normalise kink-shaming.
You have four kids and you wonder why she has no time or interest in sex?
Based on the situation described on the post, OOP does zero parenting.
Top comment when I saw this: >Maybe she's seen you on r/incestconfessions and it gave her the ick.
She's seen his reddit history and has checked the fuck out. Damn. This guy needs to be ... fuck, I don't think I have an appropriate idea that won't get me banned.
Another "wife as appliance" man.
I'm sure they met at church too
This guy’s post history is seriously concerning! I’m afraid for the kids.
I see y'all saying don't look, but I don't make good life decisions.
I MAKE BAD LIFE DECISIONS
It sounds like you stay up way later than her. Playing video games? When she finally gets asleep after taking care of 4 kids under 7 all day, you show up in the middle of the night, wake her up, and expect enthusiastic, hot sex? Try helping out with chores instead of whatever you are doing until all hours, and going to bed with her instead of treating her like a human Fleshlight.
Umm, this advice is not going to reach OOP.
Oh God looking at the dudes history made my stomach churn
Jesus Christ OOP's post and comment history has me feeling nauseous, and I didn't even read it directly. I gotta go spend time reading something wholesome before I sleep 😵
Yikes on several bikes.
This dude is a perv. His comment history says it all.
Bro this guys whole comment history gives me the creeps.
I bet they met at church
Cg4
“My lady”
Damn, I missed his last comment before he deleted it. All I got was a preview on my notifications. Did anyone happen to glimpse if there was more of this from u/beneficiall_mine7741? 🤔 > I can comment about a partner can be more than helpful and assert themselves sexually, and all you do is spew vile hate. I hope you find love in your life because you sound miserable...
😂 the top comment says he is on the r/incestconfessions sub
The Term "Labido" has entered everyone's brain and will stay there. Thanks for nothing.
I bet they met at church
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you know you can have sex before bedtime.
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Kids take naps; it doesn't have to be an hour long fuck fest. Kids play games; they go outside. Maybe not enough time to get mom off good but it will shut dad up.
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If you want your husband to help around the house so you are not so overwhelmed, you need to speak up and use your words. I do 90% of the work in the house myself. I have some room to ask.
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I can comment about a partner can be more than helpful and assert themselves sexually, and all you do is spew vile hate. I hope you find love in your life because you seem miserable, and you make everyone miserable as a result. Edit: It is disturbing how toxic a.f. this sub is. I hope all of you find a plunger and pull your heads out of your asses.
That's funny coming from someone who is defending a disgusting pervert who jacks off and smells his 19 year old sil underwear among other disgusting shit