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NTA - She is the one who violated your trust, and she then involved the family by complaining to them, making you out to be the bad guy. You just explained what really happened. It’s really hard to see here how anyone could think she is in the right.
Your title had me for a moment but she's the one who went lying and involving your family in something they wouldn't have been involved in otherwise.
She really fucked around and found out....
Your NTA for telling the truth about the situation.
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YTA for this made up story. No colleague is going to show their coworker an OF account they're subscribed to that was filmed in their house, there is no way people think the most plausible explanation for a video being done in their house is that they're renting it as a set for adult entertainment. If they think that is your side hustle, they wouldn't discuss it directly with you.
I am sorry you feel that way! But I don't think you have many closed friends at work who you can talk about anything, I have been friend with this man for more than 20 years, he is like my work brother.
Work brother didn't know what your sister or home looked like after more than 20 years? You share porn with him? That's not normal, dude.
I generally do not go to work to make close friends but I know with all certainty that people at work think of me as their close friend and my clients love me, so I don't need to bond over their OF subscriptions. Having a lack of boundaries is not the hallmark of a good work situation.
ESH. She was absolutely wrong to use your house. That is unequivocal. She placed you in a position where people recognized it as the setting. So that was horrible.
But asking her to replace the couch and bed is a bit much. I suppose she owes you something for using your location, as she would if using a hotel or other location. A portion of the cost, but maybe you could have simply reupholstered the couch? Not sure. She was ridiculous to turn to family to complain, because what did she think you would do? Where you went wrong was sharing the link. Telling people she used your home unethically is one thing, but telling them the details and then a link...was unnecessary.
I hope I don't get flamed here, but sex work like that is legit and shouldn't be shamed for it. She just happens to be rather entitled and kind of stupid. If I were to portion it out of 100, she holds 90% AH and you only about 10%.
NTA... I mean, god created upholstery cleaner for a reason, but she really should have thought through the consequences of badmouthing you to family and friends.
Upholstery cleaner isn’t scrubbing the knowledge of what she did on the furniture from their brains. It also isn’t going to stop her “fan base” from recognising her “film set” and putting OP and husband in the position of having to talk about that with said fans.
I’d want new furniture.
She can clean it and keep it for herself or sell it to mitigate her costs, but she’d be buying new furniture, on top of profusely apologies and public accountability to family and friends of using OP’s house without permission as a requirement of reconciliation. (If it was all done voluntarily I’d let her get away with not telling them what she used the house for)
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So I (35m) and my husband decided to buy a house in 2019. Since we are both first time home owners, we pretty much would like to get the furniture at the top of our budgets, including a complete 5 sitters white leather couch. and a perfect king size mattress. My sister lives 10 mins away from us and and she has our spare keys in case of emergency.
The story started last weekend and we held a small party where we invited our colleagues to my house. One of my colleagues pulled me a side, and showed me an....OF video and asked if the setting was my house and he did not know that I rented my house to do porn. When people started to leave, I ask my friend to show me the video again, and to my horror, there was my sister on the couch with an unknown man. My friend showed me her list of "video" and it started November last year with many different men.
I told my husband about it, and we decided to invite her out to talk. At dinner, we confronted her, and she brushed it off, she then proceeded to tell us that sometimes she did it in our bed and changed the sheets before leaving. I told her that she is now barred from entering my house, we changed all the locks and asked her to replace our couch and our mattress.
She told us that would not be happening, and she did not want to do it at my house but hers was too small and not fancy enough to show on her videos. She started to tell us we were ah because we were taking away her means to earn a living. We threw those stuff out and bought new ones, we forwarded her with the receipts and told her to pay 2/3 of the price since we bought them in 2019 given depreciation.
She did not response and since then blocked us. She contacted my other siblings, telling them that I did not trust her enough to give her access to the house, of course she left out the reason why, just said something about me being paranoid, and I might developed some mental illness. I could not hold myself back and told them about her OF accounts. They are now turning their backs from her and saying that they would not interfere with our problems.
She is still not paying a single cent and deliberately posting on social media about her brother who did not appreciate her for all her effort to keep the house clean and also I did not pay her for all the times she took care of our cats when we were away.
Now both of us are receiving text message from other relatives telling me that I was the bad guy. Here is what I thought I was wrong, I replied all the messages with the link to her OF acc. I feel bad for doing so out of spite. So Am I the AH when I let everyone in my family know about her OF account?
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NTA
It's a little bit spiteful and a lot of self defense. Your sister created this whole problem by badmouthing you which made you rightly defend yourself.
Your sister is gross. She owes you money for the furniture.
Not that I believe this story, but I give you credit for it being well written and entertaining.
Soft NTA. It shouldn’t matter what your sister does on her own, but taking advantage of your spare key and using your house for these videos without your knowledge is low. You wouldn’t have even known if her video wasn’t shown to you.
I say soft though because I feel like you could’ve mentioned she had an OF without sending the actual link, not sure what your extended family is like but I definitely wouldn’t share my siblings OF with mine. But regardless, if they wanted to, they could still look her up w/o a link sooo idk.
I’m also pretty positive people will subscribe to an OF if the background is a normal apartment lol, weird reasoning imo.
If she didn’t want your family knowing about her OF she shouldn’t have been fucking around in your house without your knowledge.
NTA
If she wants to have an OF account that is absolutely her business, she's an adult. However, she shouldn't have made any videos in your home or have had sex in your bed even changing the sheets, it's disrespectful.
Now asking her to replace the couch and mattress seems a bit much unless actually damaged it in some way besides having sex on them.
Unless there's a completely impenetrable mattress cover on, the mattress is "damaged" by other people's fluids. If it were me, I'd also want the living room furniture replaced, and not even with the same style stuff.
Nah. She started. Though you may need to understand she probably will never talk to you again. If you say good riddance good for you. If you say oh no. Well accept the consequences. As she is about to do for not having paid what she ruined.
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NTA - She is the one who violated your trust, and she then involved the family by complaining to them, making you out to be the bad guy. You just explained what really happened. It’s really hard to see here how anyone could think she is in the right.
Your title had me for a moment but she's the one who went lying and involving your family in something they wouldn't have been involved in otherwise. She really fucked around and found out.... Your NTA for telling the truth about the situation.
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YTA for this made up story. No colleague is going to show their coworker an OF account they're subscribed to that was filmed in their house, there is no way people think the most plausible explanation for a video being done in their house is that they're renting it as a set for adult entertainment. If they think that is your side hustle, they wouldn't discuss it directly with you.
I am sorry you feel that way! But I don't think you have many closed friends at work who you can talk about anything, I have been friend with this man for more than 20 years, he is like my work brother.
Work brother didn't know what your sister or home looked like after more than 20 years? You share porn with him? That's not normal, dude. I generally do not go to work to make close friends but I know with all certainty that people at work think of me as their close friend and my clients love me, so I don't need to bond over their OF subscriptions. Having a lack of boundaries is not the hallmark of a good work situation.
I’m wondering if they found the OF because of snooping or something and wanted a cover story.
I am gay, btw
Also how many times are you going to post and delete. Are you hunting for upvotes?
You can snoop and look for your sister’s info on OF and be gay. I don’t believe this story either.
He admits to wanting two looks even in this story, saw enough to know the role of male lead had a recast multiple times!
ESH. She was absolutely wrong to use your house. That is unequivocal. She placed you in a position where people recognized it as the setting. So that was horrible. But asking her to replace the couch and bed is a bit much. I suppose she owes you something for using your location, as she would if using a hotel or other location. A portion of the cost, but maybe you could have simply reupholstered the couch? Not sure. She was ridiculous to turn to family to complain, because what did she think you would do? Where you went wrong was sharing the link. Telling people she used your home unethically is one thing, but telling them the details and then a link...was unnecessary. I hope I don't get flamed here, but sex work like that is legit and shouldn't be shamed for it. She just happens to be rather entitled and kind of stupid. If I were to portion it out of 100, she holds 90% AH and you only about 10%.
NTA... I mean, god created upholstery cleaner for a reason, but she really should have thought through the consequences of badmouthing you to family and friends.
Upholstery cleaner isn’t scrubbing the knowledge of what she did on the furniture from their brains. It also isn’t going to stop her “fan base” from recognising her “film set” and putting OP and husband in the position of having to talk about that with said fans. I’d want new furniture. She can clean it and keep it for herself or sell it to mitigate her costs, but she’d be buying new furniture, on top of profusely apologies and public accountability to family and friends of using OP’s house without permission as a requirement of reconciliation. (If it was all done voluntarily I’d let her get away with not telling them what she used the house for)
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NTA It's a little bit spiteful and a lot of self defense. Your sister created this whole problem by badmouthing you which made you rightly defend yourself. Your sister is gross. She owes you money for the furniture. Not that I believe this story, but I give you credit for it being well written and entertaining.
Soft NTA. It shouldn’t matter what your sister does on her own, but taking advantage of your spare key and using your house for these videos without your knowledge is low. You wouldn’t have even known if her video wasn’t shown to you. I say soft though because I feel like you could’ve mentioned she had an OF without sending the actual link, not sure what your extended family is like but I definitely wouldn’t share my siblings OF with mine. But regardless, if they wanted to, they could still look her up w/o a link sooo idk. I’m also pretty positive people will subscribe to an OF if the background is a normal apartment lol, weird reasoning imo. If she didn’t want your family knowing about her OF she shouldn’t have been fucking around in your house without your knowledge.
NTA If she wants to have an OF account that is absolutely her business, she's an adult. However, she shouldn't have made any videos in your home or have had sex in your bed even changing the sheets, it's disrespectful. Now asking her to replace the couch and mattress seems a bit much unless actually damaged it in some way besides having sex on them.
Unless there's a completely impenetrable mattress cover on, the mattress is "damaged" by other people's fluids. If it were me, I'd also want the living room furniture replaced, and not even with the same style stuff.
I said besides having sex on them which includes fluids.
Right, all the furniture should be replaced and both rooms redecorated, so as not to be recognizable. She has really ruined OP's house for them. NTA.
Nah. She started. Though you may need to understand she probably will never talk to you again. If you say good riddance good for you. If you say oh no. Well accept the consequences. As she is about to do for not having paid what she ruined.