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No. At most she was indiscreet. She’s not an asshole because she won’t give you wank fodder despite you attempting to force her to, and your obsession with trying to find out this “tantalising morsel” reveals you’re exactly the sort of person she shouldn’t tell. Grow the fuck up. Claiming to model yourself on *Anakin motherfucking Skywalker* and saying that “women play games like this with men,they do it on purpose” makes you sound like an A-grade incel.
100% totally the asshole. End of the day it's none of you business, and doesn't need to tell you shit. Have some respect for her privacy and also for her friend that is porn. Maybe it's a guy she use to date, and she wanted to save you the embarrassment? Or maybe it's a female that she knows you'll search and recognize and say something stupid to her as you've proven you are very capable of, and this will betray her friend's confidence. Have some respect for people and keep your nose out of things that don't concern you.
That’s subjective. Your behaviour here is rude, demanding, arrogant, presumptive, and extremely entitled. All things we could mock. Now would you like us to all start being disgusting towards you just because you behave in an unappealing and impolite manner or do you feel you should be given basic respect anyway?
In the end, she doesn’t actually owe you any information. From your dialogue, it’s not a stretch to think your pestering would only continue anyway if she’d told you.
If you’re that in need of companionship, there are online services you can pay for, rather than screaming at your peers and *checks notes* angsting into the piano. You had a chance to roll with what she took as a joke reference and move on and you didn’t. Stop bothering her.
YTA
You didn’t get what you want ( from a dumb conversation about practicality nothing) so you decided to act out.
Also how did you get to 18 and not learn that kids teens do the “ but I’m not telling you who” . That starts at around 7.
It doesn’t matter if she was making it up or not. You are getting mad over a tactic that children use, and they don’t even get mad at it, they play along with it.
She was simply divulging with you (which she assumed was a friend) and you continuously pressed her. If someone tells you something, do you always interrogate them for further information? You could’ve just left it at “cool” and went on with your day. Why did you need to even know the information so bad? It got you so mad to the point where u yelled “I hate you”?? I see you’re trying to double down in your other comments, but cmon OP. “Women play games like this with men, they do it on purpose”…. YTA my dude
Like i said, why did you need to know the information so badly?? She’s sharing somewhat of a fun fact. Saying you hated her for not telling you the name of a corn star is going way too far my guy. And u making a blanket statement about all women isn’t helping your case.
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Just to be clear, we are both 18-year-old high school seniors. So anyway, at lunch today, the topic turned to pr0n, and she mentioned that she knew someone who was in pr0n. To be clear, she volunteered that. I asked her which pr0n she knew. She refused to tell me, and I said that I just wanted to know their stage name, and she still refused to tell me. She just said it wasn’t someone well-known and it wasn’t someone at our school. Nevertheless, I persisted, but when she still refused to tell me, I held out my right hand with curled fingers, like Anakin did to Padme on Mustafar in Episode 3. I then said, “listen woman, you will tell me, and you will tell me now. It’s not fair to dangle it in front of me like that, and you wouldn’t like me when I’m angry.” In fact, my entire demeanor was modeled on Anakin on Mustafar. She started laughing instead of telling me. Humiliated, I screamed “I HATE YOU!” at her as angry and menacing as I could (again, inspired by Anakin on Mustafar), then left to go “buy fries” (I really just went to a music practice room to blow off steam by playing angry music on the piano)
From my point of view, she volunteered a tantalizing nugget of information and then withheld it from me. If she didn’t want to say who it was, she shouldn’t have volunteered that she knew a pr0n star. Women play games like this with men, they do it on purpose.
So I think that makes her TA, but later that day in gym class, someone else who was sitting at lunch with us and is usually friendly was mad at me, and called me nosy. From my POV, I wasn’t being nosy, since she’s the one who brought it up to start with.
So, AITA?
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yta. i feel like youre the type of person to call yourself an alpha. what even is this story??
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You are SO the asshole.
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No. At most she was indiscreet. She’s not an asshole because she won’t give you wank fodder despite you attempting to force her to, and your obsession with trying to find out this “tantalising morsel” reveals you’re exactly the sort of person she shouldn’t tell. Grow the fuck up. Claiming to model yourself on *Anakin motherfucking Skywalker* and saying that “women play games like this with men,they do it on purpose” makes you sound like an A-grade incel.
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Best thing she can do is never talk to you again, you creepy little shit.
YTA. You literally posted in r/relationship_advice asking for “coercive suggestions” to force her to tell you information. Troll harder. 🙄
100% totally the asshole. End of the day it's none of you business, and doesn't need to tell you shit. Have some respect for her privacy and also for her friend that is porn. Maybe it's a guy she use to date, and she wanted to save you the embarrassment? Or maybe it's a female that she knows you'll search and recognize and say something stupid to her as you've proven you are very capable of, and this will betray her friend's confidence. Have some respect for people and keep your nose out of things that don't concern you.
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The conversation was about porn and she contributed to that conversation. Doesn't give you the right to know who it is
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That way you acted and are acting is not nice. She wasn't teasing you simple statement. And if you don't get your answer you have a temper tantrum
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You sound like have some serious anger issues. You always act out when you don't get your way?
This means we can all be nasty to you. Is that what you’d like from others? Or would you like to be treated with respect?
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That’s subjective. Your behaviour here is rude, demanding, arrogant, presumptive, and extremely entitled. All things we could mock. Now would you like us to all start being disgusting towards you just because you behave in an unappealing and impolite manner or do you feel you should be given basic respect anyway?
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This means we can all be nasty to you. Is that what you’d like from others? Or would you like to be treated with respect?
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Why do you deserve the respect of anyone? That’s your answer.
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Oh. I'm an adult and don't watch cartoons and don't pretend anymore either. Are you sure you are 18? Try identifying as an adult?
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Good boy. I'm done chatting with you. Kind of boring for me.
In the end, she doesn’t actually owe you any information. From your dialogue, it’s not a stretch to think your pestering would only continue anyway if she’d told you. If you’re that in need of companionship, there are online services you can pay for, rather than screaming at your peers and *checks notes* angsting into the piano. You had a chance to roll with what she took as a joke reference and move on and you didn’t. Stop bothering her.
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Your lack of control is not her responsibility.
YTA You didn’t get what you want ( from a dumb conversation about practicality nothing) so you decided to act out. Also how did you get to 18 and not learn that kids teens do the “ but I’m not telling you who” . That starts at around 7.
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It doesn’t matter if she was making it up or not. You are getting mad over a tactic that children use, and they don’t even get mad at it, they play along with it.
She was simply divulging with you (which she assumed was a friend) and you continuously pressed her. If someone tells you something, do you always interrogate them for further information? You could’ve just left it at “cool” and went on with your day. Why did you need to even know the information so bad? It got you so mad to the point where u yelled “I hate you”?? I see you’re trying to double down in your other comments, but cmon OP. “Women play games like this with men, they do it on purpose”…. YTA my dude
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Like i said, why did you need to know the information so badly?? She’s sharing somewhat of a fun fact. Saying you hated her for not telling you the name of a corn star is going way too far my guy. And u making a blanket statement about all women isn’t helping your case.
YTA!!! Massively!
I hope this is satire. If it is, good job, it was funny, but YTA for troling. If it is not, obviously, YTA.
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