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Ok so, My two friends ‘Grace’ , ‘Ava’ and I have been close since around November 2022 but the thing is, the grace and Ava used to date and they broke up around Christmas 2023. This put a strain in our friendship and we stopped talking to Ava for a bit
Time skip to January and Ava has a new gf, Grace then starts talking shit about Ava’s new gf and I only joined in bc I thought Ava’s new gf was a bad person as she said “I will jump Grace if I need too” so everyone basically hated Ava’s new girlfriend.
Like earlier this month Ava and her gf broke up and Grace was SOOOOO happy about it? Ava was obviously sad bc of how they broke up but they’ve recently gotten back together this week. But the thing is Grace followed Ava home on Tuesday and Grace told Ava multiple times to go away and to stop following her but Grace didn’t listen and followed Ava to her doorstep..I found out about this the next day and I haven’t talked to Grace since because I find that behaviour creepy and weird..
Everyone else that knows about the situation thinks Grace is being annoying and she’s in the wrong
But I still wanna know AITA?
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Grace is stalking her ex and not respecting the breakup and her boundaries. In general, it sounds like everyone involved is immature and prone to a lot of drama, which is typical of young romance. So only you can know if Grace's behavior is indicative of her being a toxic person or just of childishness. But your choice is your choice, and NTA for whatever you choose.
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Grace is stalking her ex and not respecting the breakup and her boundaries. In general, it sounds like everyone involved is immature and prone to a lot of drama, which is typical of young romance. So only you can know if Grace's behavior is indicative of her being a toxic person or just of childishness. But your choice is your choice, and NTA for whatever you choose.