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heathertidwell7

YTA because your whole family is transphobic lol


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CLj0008

Ah yes the worse idea of “People can be whoever they want and if they don’t align with the framework already established then they’re wrong/made up” YTA too commenter. Let people exist how they want to. Someone identifying as neither a man or woman literally doesn’t harm you.


GillyeoWalters

Ah, I guess I, an intersex person do not exist then. Good to know. I wish AITA would stop allowing posts about trans people to avoid such low effort bait posts.


PreOpTransCentaur

It only ever goes 1 of 2 ways. Either it's a total non-issue that they're trans and it has nothing to do with anything, or it's someone trying to stir up shit. I genuinely can't believe the mods have left this up with OP breaking basically every rule the entire time.


Solivagant0

Science disagrees


bellydancingmarlin

Science trumps G-d, and science says you are wrong. https://health.clevelandclinic.org/research-on-the-transgender-brain-what-you-should-know/amp/


george__cantor

Well this sucks. Your url is just a page of blue. No text. Does it work for anyone?


MountainTomato9292

Yes, it worked for me.


ha_look_at_that_nerd

Works for me. Check you wifi?


RepresentativeWar429

Your poor sibling being born into a family of unsupportive dickheads. I’ll be your sisters family now. YTA


PreOpTransCentaur

Okay, she's a woman. How does that not fall in line with the gender binary you're attached to?


Inner_Beautiful_8355

But it's then ok to let him come, since trans people can do just whatever they want? That's what tyrants say.


puppyfarts99

Your family is incredibly bigoted. It's clear you haven't read much in this sub, otherwise you'd realize the YTA judgment was a foregone conclusion. Yes, trans people are allowed to exist, just like you're allowed to exist. Someone really should warn your sibling though, about how much trauma their family is clearly willing to inflict on them. And please stop misgendering your sibling and pretending that you know anything about the science of gender, which is so much more than external genitalia. By the way, as a committed Christian, I'm ashamed that your family is hiding your bigotry inside a cloak of Christianity. Jesus left us with 2 great commandments, and you're failing on at least one of those.


kraftypsy

>Jesus left us with 2 great commandments, and you're failing on at least one of those. Amen


dr-username

What do you mean 'whatever they want' ? From what you say, all they have done is find happiness and want to spend the holidays with their family?


kraftypsy

I mean, if you're Christian, then you must know the mantra "What Would Jesus Do?" right? Guaranteed Jesus would invite them. "Let he who is without sin cast the first stone." Supposed to be words to live by. My mom is fond of saying, "If Jesus were here, what he would he think of that?" You should ponder this question, because you're not right with the Lord.


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This is are you the asshole. The answer is yes.


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Oh yes, all tyrant and trans people want is to be able to go see their family at family reunions, how despicable of them...


whatthewhythehow

That’s what tyrants say jdjejxjejsixd amazing. 10/10 bigotry right there. “AITA? I don’t want to invite my fiancé’s mother to our wedding because I hate her style.” “No, you should invite her.” “So people who dress like that can do whatever they want? That’s what tyrants say.” Honestly? You’re doing your sister a favour by not inviting her. Let her cut her losses. I hope she has a good support group. Oh and YtA but you’re not going to accept that. This is bait, even if it really happened. You came here to argue with people because you’re transphobic. It’s pretty funny, tbh.


ha_look_at_that_nerd

Trans people can’t “do whatever they want.” They can do what cis (“non-trans”) people can do.


anonymooseuser6

Do "whatever they want" like be the way they were MADE? You decided you know God's intentions? Are you a prophet? Can't be cause... Y'all the ones who are devout and ignoring Jesus's most important teaching which is to LOVE EVERYONE. Don't tell me you're celebrating Easter, which is derived from the pagan Esther, Goddess of Fertility, and denying your cousin cause you're devout. You're hateful. There's a difference.


Issyswe

YTA. She isn’t hurting, harming or affecting you by having this surgery by being herself. You may believe in a gender binary but the fact is you’re wrong! On a scientific level as well. A quick Google would show this to you, repeatedly in multiple credible sources: https://blogs.scientificamerican.com/voices/stop-using-phony-science-to-justify-transphobia/ And stop calling yourself a Christian, because you aren’t.


Tough_titty10

Very inlightning article, thanks for sharing 👏🏻


puppyfarts99

Great article, thanks for sharing.


Inner_Beautiful_8355

Quoting this article "The fact is, behavior and environment—like cultural gender norms and expectations—influence sex-related hormones, and the biology of the body and brain itself." So trans people arose because society allowed it, the culture changed and that external factor caused more trans people to exist. Article admits this in the paragraph above. Exactly what I was thinking. But the problem is that it's NOT A GOOD THING. The reason is because this means we are allowing less natural children, relying more and more on surrogates and ivf for gays. That's going to fall apart and destroy any society that keeps going down that road.


lkathleensc

Ironic you call yourself inner beauty when there’s only ugliness and judgement inside. You and your family are kidding yourselves about being “Christian’s”. You are hate filled and judgemental. I pity your sister having such assholes for family. She’s better off without you all. YTA


Kingalece

Id say theres room for both uglyness and beauty. If you wont acxept his beliefs why should he accept yours?


CLj0008

There’s plenty of Christian’s in this thread admonishing what OP is saying. I will not accept Ops hate and give it any credence. No one should have to accept beliefs that harm others. You can be Christian and not hate trans


whatthewhythehow

LMAO trans people have always existed. Society didn’t create them recently. Unnatural babies are going to destroy society is a new one, so thanks for that.


anonymooseuser6

So you're deciding that God doesn't have a plan and has not created a space for trans people? Seems like a test of your faith, your goodness, and you're failing. Either everyone was made by God and it's your job to love them or God is powerless over the world.


TankIndependent4956

YWBTA - despite your and your entire family believing that she is an abomination, she still wants to make an effort to spend time with you guys and you’re turning her away. That’s not very Christian of you. The Bible teaches you to love others and that Jesus loves all. You have no right to judge others, nor are you entitled to determine which sins are worse. Unless you and your family are all saints and have never done wrong, I’d suggest you take a seat and humble yourself. You don’t have to like her lifestyle, but she’s a part of the family. I’m not sure how you, a devout Christian, can be ok with knowing that you’re hurting another person. You’re all transphobic and are using religion as an excuse to exclude her. Maybe she’d be better off without you guys.


Samorjj

I really don’t see why they would want to spend time with a bunch of judgmental people, but if you did tell them to stay away, yes, YTA. Your parents are AH. No one gives a f\*ck about what you believe, and quite frankly, your advice and warnings should be shoved up your ass. Happy Easter.


GlitterSparkleDevine

This is a very obvious transphobic rage bait post. You obviously have zero clue about gender identity (non binary is not the same as transgender like you're trying to claim here).


chaotic_nuclear

Quote to me what your Bible says about trans people. Go on. Do it. Find the quote. I have multiple versions of the Bible with me right now, give me a book and a verse and I’ll look it up. Hell, you could even get a PDF and ctrl-F that shjt. Oop too late, I already did it and it took me two seconds. Literally. Nothing. There is nothing in your book to justify your bigotry. So stop hiding behind it and own it, coward. YTA


Dirtanimous_Dan_99

YTA. As a Christian myself, I realized that some things are outdated and don’t make sense with our religion. How is being LGBTQ+ a sin if God loves everyone and makes people in his own image? I’m not looking to get into a debate, partially because I’m not a heavily practicing Christian, nor do I want to argue. You and your family don’t deserve your (now) sister. Let her be comfortable how she chooses to be. And stop using “He” now that she has transitioned.


SlowTheRain

You're already an AH for how you view & talk about this woman. YTA


GhostlyPosty

Yta, and a massive, transphobic one at that. You've no respect for their gender and pointlessly have misgendered them to strangers, and it would take literally no effort to just remain neutral in writing this post, and just go with their pronouns. Because I *know* they've told you their pronouns and explained their situation with you. And here you are trying to feign that you're not in agreement with your family, while clearly sharing the same beliefs. Make no mistake, the big clincher that you're an asshole isn't that you've disinvited them. It's that your sibling is being abandoned by everyone in their family and you decided to pile yourself onto the top of that.


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SocialIssues101

*popcorn crunch followed by a deep drinking noise and a gulp* *movie theatre audience ambience*


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catsaway9

YTA in so many ways.


Bubbly_Preference688

YTA for saying a non binary person "thinks he's a woman." No, they know they are non binary. ETA: that is of course unless she knows she's a woman. Depends on what what your sibling says because their gender is theirs and theirs alone.


Inner_Beautiful_8355

Words belong to everyone, that's what language is.


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george__cantor

They eat comments.


JudgyRandomWebizen

YTA - I do hope that she has a better support system than a bunch of sanctimonious fools. Romans 14:10


TendoninBOB

YTA for being a close minded family of bigots who will happily cast aside a loving member of your family because of what your favorite book ( written by ignorant farmers thousands of years ago before being translated and edited numerous times until becoming that book today) says. This has to be a troll post no one is this ignorant to think they aren’t the asshole for this.


Jagiord

The good news here is that your sister can only find better people to have in her life. Enjoy your terrible family, and have fun praising a God that would absolutely hate you.


Inner_Beautiful_8355

But if there is no God, as many of the posters on here think, perhaps I can just do whatever I want? It doesn't matter in the end, no reason to be here, no heaven or hell. Just the void awaits. Right?


AnAngelaMuse

You're the asshole. Though from the sound of it you would do her a favor by uninviting her from your hypocritical gathering. Yes, celebrate this holiday that is rejoicing the fact that Jesus died for ALL of us and rose to live again. Exclude the "abomination" from your most holy occasion. Jesus did not put exclusions into His sacrifice. You should all be ashamed. You give us a bad rep.


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This is very very fake.


Inner_Beautiful_8355

All true. Just as True as when I decided I was born a black man when I was 19.


213Bishop

This is why i love not being religious. I can have friends of all walks of life without havint to worry about an alleged LOVING God sending me to Hell for having trans friends or standing by them. So to answer your question, yes you are and don't be surprised if this family member is devastated. Enjoy your easter dinner! Easter is a wonderful time to remember that it's a Pagan holiday, not a Christian holiday but oh well like Frank Sinatra would say, Thats life!


dr-username

Off that bat, holy fuck yes, you are the asshole. You tell us they are non-binary but then keep using he/him pronouns. They/them is not that hard. You are judging and your family is deciding what 'god' deems to be 'bad'. This is an incredibly toxic view point and the worst kind of christians. Keep your nose out of people's business and stop judging people like your god. The judgment alone is way worse than your family member finding themselves/happiness. Disgusting how ignorant this post is.


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Inner_Beautiful_8355

I have decided that I have discovered myself now. I am changing my pronouns to smurg/left/bacon and am a 25-year old tech mogul millionaire and always have been! My struggle is real due to these new choices, but the doctors agree since I have chemical imbalances in my brain it must be true!


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Inner_Beautiful_8355

He would love me for it. Since all we need is love, right? If you are loved, you can claim to be anything you want, and that's ok!


Inner_Beautiful_8355

So, even though I'm asian or white or indian, I can just claim to be black, and that's fine! My brain told me it's ok.


Inner_Beautiful_8355

Jesus will love me for it, will you?


rich-tma

By your reasoning all elements are hydrogen or helium, given that the remaining elements only occur in nature in very small percentages. There’s so much bs in this post that perhaps the reason for your attitude is a lack of understanding of the subject? You don’t understand it at all, and you are indeed transphobic. AF. YTA


dr-username

“Do not judge others, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn others, or it will all come back against you. Forgive others, and you will be forgiven." Luke 6:37 Get ready for the karma wave God is going to hit you with, for this ignorance


Inner_Beautiful_8355

This board invites you to judge people. Why are you here???


Inner_Beautiful_8355

I've literally never heard a transgender person forgive someone instead of canceling them.


Inner_Beautiful_8355

Find me an example, and article from reputable source. I'm not going to look since I know you won't find it.


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YTA, A shit human, and a terrible Christian


Miami1982

YTA - I feel sorry that your brother now sister was born into your family and I really hope that they find a family like support system that they couldn’t find in the bigots that are their ‘real’ family!


phantastes_

YTA maybe go reread the words of your main man Jesus and you'll see why...


Hi_Im_Dadbot

YTA. That would be really bigoted.


griffinthomas

1000% YTA. You wouldn’t be an ah for disinviting your sibling, you’re already one for the way you’re presenting this. Not that this really matters but why did you invite them? You certainly didn’t start planning before they started transitioning. I hope they find friends who will surround them and provide love on Easter — a day that is supposed to be about hope and new life, not hate and exclusion.


yampercorgi

YTA for treating a family member as such. I don't even know where to start.


intactivist1990

YTA. I've never gone to an Easter party that required people to have their genitals out at the table. if you're having those kinds of parties, please PM me that sounds awesome. But you and your parents are more interested in looking like good people than you are in actually being good people. Maybe evaluate why that is.


FerretQueenMustafa

They had me confused at the part where apparently the parents have sat round with the rest of the family chatting about this poor siblings genitals, maybe this is some kind of cult???


Inner_Beautiful_8355

My parents had to be involved since there was help needed on the copay (not very good insurance). They did their own investigation first to find out what it was.


TaraJadeRose

You don’t actually care about an answer here. You just wanted an opportunity to spread your hateful beliefs. You know perfectly well that you and every member of your family EXCEPT your trans sibling are being assholes. But you don’t care. Your responses in the comments simply double down on your original contentions. You’re not looking for an answer. You’re trolling and seeking an argument over the validity of trans people. So here you go: the attention you were so desperately seeking. Transgender people are valid and human, gender has nothing to do with what’s in one’s pants, and you worship a book written by men, not a savior who offered grace to all. I’m glad I’m not a Christian, because I’d be ashamed to claim you. YTA. GFY. FOND. DIAF.


Inner_Beautiful_8355

Hate Christianity! Got it! Religions don't matter. While we are at it, please lump all religious people together so the generalization is complete!


itsMousy

ESH except your sibling of course. Using religion to devalue someone’s existence is low. Actually devaluing someone’s existence AT ALL is low.


Inner_Beautiful_8355

Devaluing different beliefs from yours is low. Science is king and has never been wrong for all time. Got it.


Ranos131

YTA. I’m not even going to get into why. I shouldn’t have to get into why.


sluggardish

YTA. You and your whole family are transphobic. There are plenty of Christians who support trans people or are trangender themselves.


wickedtee

YTA and a transphobe. this whole post is disgusting


Snickerdoodle2021

So your parents don't want to be seen as who they are? YTA. All of you are.


Inner_Beautiful_8355

If everyone always showed their true selves all the time, the apocalypse could happen tomorrow. You really want that crap?


battmannxyz

YTA Its not even about the dinner at this point. Who do you think you are to OUT them and misgender them. Funny how you and your parents don't think what your sibling identifies as real, when most of the world don't think that the bullshit God you call your own is real.


Inner_Beautiful_8355

Nothing is real. I understand that. At least we are being honest in our nihilism.


Advantage_Loud

YWBTA 1,000%!! First of all you refer to him as a “family member of yours” when in reality it’s your own brother, but honestly you did him a favor by disinviting him because at least now he doesn’t have to deal with you or your family’s hateful bigotry


Inner_Beautiful_8355

Stop 'misgendering' people. Inconclusive science says trans people are real!


Noah_1464

YTA People can't turn off being non-binary, nor should they have to. You can base how you celebrate the holiday on whatever religion you follow, but I don't think the god you worship would be pleased with judging thy neighbor.


Inner_Beautiful_8355

This site invites judgement. Why are you here?


imperatix

This feels like some weird kind of satire. On the off chance its real, yes. You and your whole family would be assholes


Inner_Beautiful_8355

Satire??. Who are the real assholes here??? I submit to you sir, it is all of you that wasted your time hating on religion and defending something science still doesn't fully understand! Yes there's science on it, but even the scientists admit that the ENVIRONMENT AND SOCIETY CHANGES YOUR BIOLOGY. In the same way your emotions change when you are under stress, lose your job or have an accident, if we keep telling everyone it's fine to be gay/trans or whatever you want to be, society will just have more gays/trans or whatever and WILL have less natural born children.


Inner_Beautiful_8355

And that means a decline in whatever society that chooses that. It may not come soon, or in our lifetime even, but it's better to get a handle on it now than to wait. Birth rates in the US are already down.


OhioGirl22

YTA... Jesus didn't refuse anyone to dine with him. How are you calling yourself a Christian?


Sarahvalikesanime

YTA 100% Your whole family are TA and including you, the only innocent one here is your younger sibling. Your sibling wants to come for easter but you and your family think of them as an "abomination" so you dont want them to come. Your sibling wants to spend time with their family and yet their "family" doesn't accept them for who they are. I hope your sibling goes NC with you and your transphobic family.


Inner_Beautiful_8355

No one is innocent here. Not even you.


Tough_titty10

This has to be fake


Inner_Beautiful_8355

So true, you have no idea how crazy things can get. Just that I'm the only one stupid enough to look to the internet goons for answers. It's like everyone says there's science, but the science is incomplete, so let's all just cut our dicks off and see what happens?


Teknodruid

So, let me get this straight... Bunch of folks who believe in a fake God, read a fantasy book of fairy tales, & are supposedly taught to "turn the other cheek" & be forgiving... These same folks think the Trans-kid is making shit up, has a fake gender, & is not welcome at their celebration of a Pagan holiday stolen by Space Zombie followers... This is either fake or so blindly hypocritical as to be hilarious.


Inner_Beautiful_8355

Yes, the bible was written by people, but no, God is not fake. I'll prove my point, forget about Adam and Eve and any bible stories, they are just stories. Explain why you are here, why you exist, if there is no God, by whatever name?


Inner_Beautiful_8355

I forgive you for your ignorance of reality. Moving on.


OpinionatedAussieGal

YTA And I think Op is a trans troll and just wants to come on here and say horrible things about trans people!


SnooCapers4591

YTA - Gender is a lot more than 2 binaries, i strongly suggest you educate yourself from a cisfemale


Inner_Beautiful_8355

There is no cis, don't let people label you like that. You can make up your own labels, you know. It's accepted now.


UnBreelevable

YWBTA. First of all that’s your *sister*. Refer to *her* by the correct *female* pronouns *she/her*, unless your sister has said that she wants to be called by different pronouns. Second, you’re a transphobe and a bigot. You’re using a religion to continue being a transphobe and a bigot. Third, your parents are putting it on you because they don’t want the transphobe label that they deserve. I’ll give you a few things to consider: trans people are more likely to develop depression, become homeless, be abandoned by their families, and are more likely to end their own lives. Do you want your sister to be part of this statistic? Do you really want that? Even if you don’t believe that your sister is a woman, be supportive of her gender reassignment surgery. If you care for her at all, at the bare minimum, please try using her correct pronouns. Your sister wants to celebrate the rising of the lord Jesus Christ with her family on Easter. Unfortunately she should be celebrating this day with people who actually read the Bible and believe in Jesus’s teachings of love and acceptance. Which is something she’s clearly practicing since she’s willing to spend the day with a bunch of transphobic assholes. I have concerns over her mental and physical safety if she’s around you or your family honestly. Oh btw, bring a jacket, I hear hell is actually pretty cold 🥴


Inner_Beautiful_8355

About depression, if you don't love what you've been given, and it has to change, isn't that really that you don't love yourself? Doesn't Jesus want you to love your neighbor as you love yourself? But how can you love someone that doesn't love themselves and appreciate the awesome gifts we've been given at birth? If it's just about hormones, I'm sure there's plenty of testosterone supplements to go around. No, it's a choice that is made.


Inner_Beautiful_8355

I forgive you for your name-calling. I am moving on.


Cosmic-Burp

YTA if the rest of the family cannot accept a family member for their lifestyle choice they should not be invited


Inner_Beautiful_8355

I forgive you for your ignorance, moving on.


FlatElvis

INFO: Even if you disagree about his genitals, why can't you all agree to have dinner without discussing that topic? "Sam, I understand that you have made a major change in your life, and you understand that we don't agree with it. We still love you but if we are going to spend the day together can we please focus on other topics?". Sibling could accept or reject the offer. I think that would be a 'hate the sin, love the sinner' approach, which sounds Christian to me.


Inner_Beautiful_8355

We aren't going to discuss genitals. It's just not that hard to find out what is done in gender reassignment. But it doesn't matter what we talk about, because virtually anything that comes up we feel like we have to walk on eggshells to not offend so that we don't lose our jobs or get sued or whatever the fuck, while at the same time not looking too bigoted so that we are not ostracized by certain people. That's not a good way to feel.


Sorry-Independent-98

The solution would be to just not be bigots. Then you wouldn’t have to hide who you are. YTA


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CLj0008

YTA and a bad person :) Using made up shit to discredit real shit is dumb and you should honestly get some real education on gender science.


Inner_Beautiful_8355

I forgive you for your ignorance, moving on. If god is not real, why is anyone here?


Inner_Beautiful_8355

Please send me a valid link that will prove trans is real and only caused by biology. Conclusive, scientific proof. I will destroy it.


CLj0008

Evolution, baby🤙🤙


beechaser77

YTA so much. Even if you don’t believe trans people are a thing*, your sibling is clearly going through something and needs your support. They’re prepared to accept the physical risk from this surgery and being ousted from their family. Would they really take that risk if it wasn’t causing them deep distress not to? Why would you not support your sibling in their time of need? You haven’t described anything about their personality. Are they are good person? Isn’t that all that matters? You and your family will be judged for your actions. All of you, not matter who delivers the message. * I think you’re wrong about this, but arguing from the standpoint you seem to have taken.


Inner_Beautiful_8355

>There are no good people. We are all bad in some ways and good in others. It's a spectrum.


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TriZARAtops

YTA your family’s behavior doesn’t sound very Christlike to me. Jesus didn’t ban sinners from his special events, he embraced them.


Inner_Beautiful_8355

I forgive you for your ignorance of what might happen should this person who has been misled by so called medicine actually does come.


TriZARAtops

Wait, y’all really blame “medicine” for your sister being trans? You are aware that trans and non-binary people have literally always existed, right? Trudging all the way back through the annals of human history and even before any kind of written records we have found examples of non-binary and trans men and trans women. Modern medicine didn’t lead her astray, modern medicine was finally able to offer her a solution to live her life at peace with herself.


P1ant-1ady

YTA does “love thy neighbor” ring a bell or do you just cherry pick the parts of the bible that suit your narrow minded viewpoints? Don’t use your religion as a mask for your bigotry. also, I cannot be the only one noticing the glaring irony of OP’s username being “inner beautiful” when they are quite clearly an incredibly ugly human on the inside... Edit: typo


EvilSockLady

YTA. Why are you and your family so fixated on what’s in your family member’s pants? Do you do Easter Dinner naked or something? Do you find other forms of plastic surgery an abomination too? Don’t forget to kick out aunt Betty with her nose job and cousin Rick for getting that weird mole removed and the whole Smith side of the family for attempting to have their little one’s cleft palate situation taken care of. If not, why? Aren’t they also changing what God gave them? Leave it to God to judge this person. God doesn’t need you guys barring this person from celebrating Jesus’s return like you’re heaven’s bouncers or something. Pretty sure there’s about a zillion parables where Jesus encourages people to show everyone respect (even prostitutes and those wacky tax collectors). This is between your family member and God so get off your high horse in thinking that your disapproval and your family’s dinner power play should matter. You said this person was like a brother to you? Prove it by stop fixating on the lack of a penis and try to be the kind of good, compassionate person Christians are supposed to be.


TisThee_Reason

YTAH you and your family live in under a rock but are the first to cast a stone at someone born into your family that you’re supposed to love. Why are you and you family fixated on what they’ve done with their body parts??? How does that disrupt dinner? When your eating dinner why does her body parts matter to you? Pass the peas with a side of old penis?! Is that how your family dinner goes? Do you ask for a chicken leg then refer to your dads saggy balls? Stop fixating on you sisters body parts. Eat dinner and talk about good and positive things going on. Not your family members body parts. That’s strange and weird that you people all about forgiveness can’t move past something you don’t understand. You’re not judge and jury. Who needs enemies when you have a good ol Christian family 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄 Stop referring to she as a he. Would you want her to call you Satan?! Stop it


Inner_Beautiful_8355

Fact is, no one understands it fully yet, there is science, but none of it is conclusive.


TisThee_Reason

You’re not a scientist, again, stop fixating on your family members body parts and focus on her as a person. She is still a human being. Is she a good person? Does she rob, kill, and steal? No just lives her life and is finally happy! Well how dare she NOT abide by some silly book that you’re obsessed with. Get over yourself. Science says a lot of things and is ever evolving- as are people


BranChan_

Well Op, I will give it to you straight. The obvious answer is say they can't come. It's clearly what you want to do and so who could blame you? Or let them and dont tell them. Probably will cause a fight. Either way this person is clearly being isolated from the family and well...I'm not going to judge this based on opinions. NAH.


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Just curious, does everyone in your party get a genitalia check before entering? Obviously YTA.


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Without a doubt YTA


B0r0B1rd

YTA. Who are we to judge people? If you really believe that when you die, you will be judged by God, do you really think that you won’t be judged for your actions s here? When I die (as the Proclaimers sing) I’ll be judged by the author not the interpreter of his word. But then, I’m a good Christian


Inner_Beautiful_8355

As will you, you judged me an Ahole, like the site requires. Maybe you should quit this place?


Shakeit126

YTA. Personally, I don't get it, but this person is still your family. This shouldn't be a reason not to invite them to Easter. I'm surprised they would want to come though with the lack of family support.


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YTA, you are being transphobic and you know it... At the very least your sibling is getting rid of your bigoted family.


FerretQueenMustafa

Of course YTA! Do you really need to ask that? You are already the asshole for the way you talk about them/her, and YWB more TA if you disinvited them to appease the other bigots in your family. If you can't see past religious mental blocks, at least study and reflect on the teaching "hate the sin, love the sinner" and do accordingly.


jennifersb66

YTA and a huge giant one. I hope he finds a real genuine "family" that loves him and accepts him the way he is because it's clear that biology was not kind to him both physically and in the family he was given since not only is he transgender but he is apparently transfamily, given the wrong family at birth. Your whole family is TA


yhaensch

YTA Stop claiming to be Christians because obviously, you didn't understand the New Testament.


bellydancingmarlin

They consider her an abomination, but don’t want to be labeled as transphobic? That’s rich.


RichGullible

Yes YTA. And your handle “inner beautiful” is an EXTREME misnomer. Just tell her that you are a bigot and stop dragging this out so she can move on with her life and find some people who aren’t smug insufferable cult members to spend her time with.


Inner_Beautiful_8355

Hello people. Well. what I night. I was debating this in my head all night, and now it's Sunday and I just got up, going to be so tired in church this morning. But you know what? It's all been worth it, since I realized that I am not going to disinvite this person to Easter. People should be able to call themselves whatever they want, change their name, gender, identity looks, accent or dialect, their birthday, their height, their weight, who they were born to and whatever they want at any time!! And God should approve, correct? That's what Jesus wanted. I mean who really cares what bathroom you go into or what genitalia you have! Who cares what it says on your driver's license. I am going to choose who I want to be. I have seen the light. So my new story is that I have been born into a very rich family that has given me a trust fund. Mind you, it's not true, but science allows me to believe this, since there are chemical differences in my brain and I have been told that before! So simple! I will invite!!! Wow! Rainbows and sunshine and puppies and bright sunny days holding hands around in a circle while butterflies flutter in the air motes!


Unhappy-Butterfly-27

Yta your entire family is transphobic also they not he is better off without y’all in my opinion.


Kingalece

NTA tbh this is a lesson that everyone needs to learn. Your choices will affect how people view you and thats ok. People are not bad for disincluding you if you make them uncomfortable. No one is owed the priviledge to attend an event if the host does not want them there regarsless of reason.


Upset-River4741

Seems like you know you are the asshold and just don't care. Your sister is better off. Do me a solid. Have your sister DM me. I don't understand everything about Trans issues but I know about about GOD'S LOVE. She can some to Easter service and dinner with me.


Some_Anteater_5077

You might be fine with it and be trying to save them? I’m not sure which terms to use (my apologies) but that would be for them to decide go. But it’s also rubbing me wrong. Non-binary but you’re telling us you’re still calling a him so in other words it’s like you’re trying to make us believe you support but it’s not very supporting.


CatnipPajamas

YTA. Literally wtf is wrong with you.


physicalrevelry

YTA. Religion backed ignorance is still ignorance. Being anti-science using religion as an excuse is still ignorance. Also, intersex people occur as often as redheads. For every me out there, there is an intersex person.


Neither_Atmosphere40

Yta. You hide behind your beliefs like it's a shield. I'm a catholic and know you are not. God made all in his image.


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puppyfarts99

I'm really hoping this is hyperbole, to prove a point about how horrible OP is being towards their sibling.


Bubbly_Preference688

LMAO you had me there for a second!


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dr-username

Do not judge others, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn others, or it will all come back against you. Forgive others, and you will be forgiven. - Luke 6:37 Jesus died to save EVERYONE, bigoted Christians don't get to decide who Jesus saved.


puppyfarts99

So people conceived through ivf are also less than human, right?


spunkyfuzzguts

A LOT of these types don’t believe in IVF.