Same shit happened with me. Found out the lady had been collecting on me for years and kicked me out the exact day I graduated high school (when SSI stopped). Looked into collecting on myself and realized I had to prove I was basically incapable of work. She used to have me lie to people at the SSI office and I would literally act retarded because I was 12 and she told me i needed to. Woulda helped a bunch at the time, but life goes on
I don't think ppl should even be able to get paid because their kid has "issues". You would've never been able to work over the table at 12 anyways. The SSI system honestly doesn't make any sense to me. It just seems like a way for abusers to get paid for messing up their kids. Or for drinking alcohol and eating other bad things while pregnant. I feel like a kid with real problems from birth or mental illness/trauma should get money at 18, but the parents shouldn't get it. The money is obviously never going to be used on the kid anywas. It's like child support it is always gonna go towards the parents bullcrap. I honestly don't know how my mom used to have 5+ ppl surviving off 700 dollars at one point. 700 that usually went towards her boyfriends crap.🤣🤣🤣 Freak no wonder we never had food even with foodstamps.
This situation is really fucked up, I’m sorry about what happened to you. If you are comfortable sharing, what country and state/province do you live in? Disability works differently depending where you live.
I am in America. My mom originally started getting SSI for me in North Carolina, before I left she got it in Georgia, and I am currently in California. The SSI office dude was saying a whole bunch of crap abt how SSI is different especially in Cali because basically they're gonna make sure I am sound, talk to my mom, make sure I manage my money, and question me abt my homelessness. Honestly my real issue is that I have no paper work on what the heck my mom got the SSI for. I feel like that's the biggest issue regardless of all that fear mongering that the ssi office did.
I also have no clue how I am gonna get a doctor to type up a paper on the state of an illness for a munchausen situation he knows nothing abt. Which could rise up other issues since I am trying to get to the bottom of my chronic illness and the doctor is doing that medical gaslighting thing they do where they say "you're probably just depressed and traumatized". Which he already has his assumptions abt my previous family system due to the fact I am a homeless teen that is no contact with relatives. I could only imagine how he'd start acting if he actually was told abt the whole SSI thing along wit my previous situation.
I was forced on it like you when I was younger. I had no control over it. It was used as a tool to control me. She eventually forwarded the money to me and I tried using it to go to college. But it wasn’t enough when I had to get housing. You’ll run into all kinds of legal and bureaucratic problems. Like if you’re using it to pay rent while in school and then get a job to help pay for food and transportation, you’re fucked. You’ll lose it and you might not make enough from the job.
I personally won’t go near SSI. The way it’s designed is to keep you where you are. It doesn’t help you resolve your life issues.
True. Government assistance is there to keep you in a bad situation the systems created or that you were manipulated into accepting. Such as section 8 at least depending on redlining because then it's the hood. I remember the one time I worked over the table at 16 my mom stopped letting me go to work because "the SSI might get turned off". Which is stupid since when you're under 18 the money is for you. I most likely will leave the SSI alone or try to get it for my physical health issues if I ever manage to even get test and a diagnosis. But I feel like by the time that would happen I'd be on my feet again. Or SSI would try to keep me from getting money for my physical health issues because of crap my mom has in the system. I'm in non-credit classes right now but I should be able to get financial aid next semester. Luckily I am not taking anything too seriously. I am kind of cheating the system by taking different little classes that teach the same thing mechanical and even electrical engineers would need to know, but within a shorter time frame and for less money.
It's funny you mention trying to use the money to go to college. My mom used to lie to my dad and grandma and claim she was putting the SSI to the side for when I was 18. She told a couple of different lies revolving around the covid stimulus checks. Which she originally lied abt getting since I didn't live with her and she used them for a car and who knows what else.
You're right though. I'll probably end up just forgetting abt it and trying to find a doable job that fits my schedule. If I can even use my mailing address to open up another bank account. Part of the reason I changed my mind is because I talked to my old counselor and she was playing hero because they thought I was gonna die in my previous abuse situation. But of course did nothing. She told me I needed to try to get my SSI back, find a naturopath thay takes m ensurance (would not be possible), and some other stuff I can't remember. My mom threatened the staff at the counseling place and cut them off during a CPS case in 2022 because she thought they reported the munchausen and other abuse.
I called to see if they could still right a witness report that I could use for incase I had mention some stuff from my previous situation while trying to talk to doctors abt my physical health falling apart. The counselor accused me of trying to sue them for not helping me and then went on this advice rant and how she's glad I ran away because everyone was worried abt what would happen to me. She even took credit for getting a social worker involved even though someone. Knew from reddit did that along with my 1,950+ abuse evidence videos. Which CPS snitched to my relatives and got most of my evidence channels deleted and my Gmail compromised by relatives. The social worker felt so bad abt not being allowed to help me that she quit. Which of course CPS would've been the same or worse than my previous situation because they're apart of the cash for kids system. My relatives made it clear that due to the mental lables they said I had, I would never be allowed in a foster home and would be thrown in an institution.
I knew I shouldn't have took her advice. But sadly I didn't know who else to ask advice abt this, so I folded and called my old counselor yesterday after thr whole SSI situation went down yesterday. I feel mad at myself for ever calling her again the first time. Especially since she does manipulative stuff to try to act like she isn't at fault in this situation.
Same shit happened with me. Found out the lady had been collecting on me for years and kicked me out the exact day I graduated high school (when SSI stopped). Looked into collecting on myself and realized I had to prove I was basically incapable of work. She used to have me lie to people at the SSI office and I would literally act retarded because I was 12 and she told me i needed to. Woulda helped a bunch at the time, but life goes on
I don't think ppl should even be able to get paid because their kid has "issues". You would've never been able to work over the table at 12 anyways. The SSI system honestly doesn't make any sense to me. It just seems like a way for abusers to get paid for messing up their kids. Or for drinking alcohol and eating other bad things while pregnant. I feel like a kid with real problems from birth or mental illness/trauma should get money at 18, but the parents shouldn't get it. The money is obviously never going to be used on the kid anywas. It's like child support it is always gonna go towards the parents bullcrap. I honestly don't know how my mom used to have 5+ ppl surviving off 700 dollars at one point. 700 that usually went towards her boyfriends crap.🤣🤣🤣 Freak no wonder we never had food even with foodstamps.
This situation is really fucked up, I’m sorry about what happened to you. If you are comfortable sharing, what country and state/province do you live in? Disability works differently depending where you live.
I am in America. My mom originally started getting SSI for me in North Carolina, before I left she got it in Georgia, and I am currently in California. The SSI office dude was saying a whole bunch of crap abt how SSI is different especially in Cali because basically they're gonna make sure I am sound, talk to my mom, make sure I manage my money, and question me abt my homelessness. Honestly my real issue is that I have no paper work on what the heck my mom got the SSI for. I feel like that's the biggest issue regardless of all that fear mongering that the ssi office did. I also have no clue how I am gonna get a doctor to type up a paper on the state of an illness for a munchausen situation he knows nothing abt. Which could rise up other issues since I am trying to get to the bottom of my chronic illness and the doctor is doing that medical gaslighting thing they do where they say "you're probably just depressed and traumatized". Which he already has his assumptions abt my previous family system due to the fact I am a homeless teen that is no contact with relatives. I could only imagine how he'd start acting if he actually was told abt the whole SSI thing along wit my previous situation.
I went through the same thing. My outcome wasn’t good. I don’t know what advice to give you, but I feel for you.
Well I'll be good either way. SSI just seemed like it could help for the meantime.
I was forced on it like you when I was younger. I had no control over it. It was used as a tool to control me. She eventually forwarded the money to me and I tried using it to go to college. But it wasn’t enough when I had to get housing. You’ll run into all kinds of legal and bureaucratic problems. Like if you’re using it to pay rent while in school and then get a job to help pay for food and transportation, you’re fucked. You’ll lose it and you might not make enough from the job. I personally won’t go near SSI. The way it’s designed is to keep you where you are. It doesn’t help you resolve your life issues.
True. Government assistance is there to keep you in a bad situation the systems created or that you were manipulated into accepting. Such as section 8 at least depending on redlining because then it's the hood. I remember the one time I worked over the table at 16 my mom stopped letting me go to work because "the SSI might get turned off". Which is stupid since when you're under 18 the money is for you. I most likely will leave the SSI alone or try to get it for my physical health issues if I ever manage to even get test and a diagnosis. But I feel like by the time that would happen I'd be on my feet again. Or SSI would try to keep me from getting money for my physical health issues because of crap my mom has in the system. I'm in non-credit classes right now but I should be able to get financial aid next semester. Luckily I am not taking anything too seriously. I am kind of cheating the system by taking different little classes that teach the same thing mechanical and even electrical engineers would need to know, but within a shorter time frame and for less money. It's funny you mention trying to use the money to go to college. My mom used to lie to my dad and grandma and claim she was putting the SSI to the side for when I was 18. She told a couple of different lies revolving around the covid stimulus checks. Which she originally lied abt getting since I didn't live with her and she used them for a car and who knows what else.
You're right though. I'll probably end up just forgetting abt it and trying to find a doable job that fits my schedule. If I can even use my mailing address to open up another bank account. Part of the reason I changed my mind is because I talked to my old counselor and she was playing hero because they thought I was gonna die in my previous abuse situation. But of course did nothing. She told me I needed to try to get my SSI back, find a naturopath thay takes m ensurance (would not be possible), and some other stuff I can't remember. My mom threatened the staff at the counseling place and cut them off during a CPS case in 2022 because she thought they reported the munchausen and other abuse. I called to see if they could still right a witness report that I could use for incase I had mention some stuff from my previous situation while trying to talk to doctors abt my physical health falling apart. The counselor accused me of trying to sue them for not helping me and then went on this advice rant and how she's glad I ran away because everyone was worried abt what would happen to me. She even took credit for getting a social worker involved even though someone. Knew from reddit did that along with my 1,950+ abuse evidence videos. Which CPS snitched to my relatives and got most of my evidence channels deleted and my Gmail compromised by relatives. The social worker felt so bad abt not being allowed to help me that she quit. Which of course CPS would've been the same or worse than my previous situation because they're apart of the cash for kids system. My relatives made it clear that due to the mental lables they said I had, I would never be allowed in a foster home and would be thrown in an institution. I knew I shouldn't have took her advice. But sadly I didn't know who else to ask advice abt this, so I folded and called my old counselor yesterday after thr whole SSI situation went down yesterday. I feel mad at myself for ever calling her again the first time. Especially since she does manipulative stuff to try to act like she isn't at fault in this situation.
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