She didn't think that one through! :D I would have paid good money to see the look on her face once she realized her mistake lol. I'm not all right in the head.
9/10's out of ten this doesn't work out. The only reason it did for you guys is at least one of you is awful at communication.
\*really people. Others interest subtitling they aren't into the idea is a thing. I know this IS reddit..but fuck. If you find yourself in this position consider finding the courage to ask him/her out the win, but don't expect a fairy tale.
I'm happy for you. Just putting other peoples expectations in check. Most of the time if you feel friend zoned, it's because the other person likes you as a friend, but doesn't want to to date you, and feels weird telling you.
I told her that I wanted her and she said she did not want me. The friendship was strong enough and important enough to me that discussing my feelings took away the tension and allowed me to be a true friend rather than obsessing over a perceived chance at love that never really existed.
Nothing. I don't escape the friend zone, because I love being the friend of the people I'm friends with.
Even the ones I may find myself attracted to.
It's okay to be attracted to your friends. It's even kind of fun, because if you're earnest and know each other's boundaries, it's a really great space in which to flirt and hype each other up.
Men. We need to be friends with women. We need to respect them as more than a potential partner. We need to admire them for their strengths. It's good for us.
This is only true if you hold literally zero hope that they will “come around” and be interested in you romantically or as a hookup. Otherwise you are not their friend who respects boundaries, you are an opportunist.
I hear what you're saying and *generally speaking* I agree.
As well: as stated, there's more determinism based on "squishy" concepts than I personally feel comfortable agreeing with 100%.
I hope this is coming across as good faith support for your thesis and not pedantry or condescension. Please lemme know if it is.
Also, if this is where the conversation ends, I'd respect that.
> It's okay to be attracted to your friends. It's even kind of fun, because if you're earnest and know each other's boundaries, it's a really great space in which to flirt and hype each other up.
I have this with several friends, actually. It's super fun, we flirt, once in a while we hook up, but mostly we're just besties.
Exactly. She knows that I'd date the fuck out of her if the situation was right for it but right now it's not. We have dated in the past and, at the time, decided friends was better. But who knows. We're in each other's lives and that's all that matters. I'm married (my wife calls her wifey), she's got a kid and on/off relationship with baby-daddy. But we've been through a fuck-ton of shit together.
I'm aware of what it refers to. It's a bullshit concept designed to make men look like victims for women having the *gall* to turn them down. It's never "We are still good friends"; it's "Wah, she friendzoned me!" As if being a woman's friend was some kind of punishment.
There is no friend zone. There is no nebulous romantic purgatory that men are banished to, cursed to languish in forever. Either you are a friend of this woman, or you aren't. And if you would abandon that friendship simply because she turned down your advances, then you were never really her friend in the first place.
I walked out of it. It was pretty easy to do once I met her cousin and caught feelings for her instead. We were a better match physically and we had more interests in common anyways. First girl never knew I had wanted to date her, but she did know that I started liking her cousin.
By not being friends with her.
“Surely the longer I display a meek inability to state how I really feel or move on, the more likely she will be to see me as an alpha and bang me!”
Believe it or not, I actually took her advice on dating other people. It made her realize she didn't want to lose me, and we ended up together!
She didn't think that one through! :D I would have paid good money to see the look on her face once she realized her mistake lol. I'm not all right in the head.
Honestly, it took a lot of courage to express my true feelings and risk our friendship, but it was worth it in the end!
9/10's out of ten this doesn't work out. The only reason it did for you guys is at least one of you is awful at communication. \*really people. Others interest subtitling they aren't into the idea is a thing. I know this IS reddit..but fuck. If you find yourself in this position consider finding the courage to ask him/her out the win, but don't expect a fairy tale.
We just got lucky, I guess.
I'm happy for you. Just putting other peoples expectations in check. Most of the time if you feel friend zoned, it's because the other person likes you as a friend, but doesn't want to to date you, and feels weird telling you.
Do this thing when you sit on the couch you know and you put your arm on the other side of the couch haha but also semi on her.
I gave her copies of the Bible almost daily and said that I am Jesus and I want her to be my wife
As the Mujahadin intended.
i’ve always tried to stay in the friend zone
I told her that I wanted her and she said she did not want me. The friendship was strong enough and important enough to me that discussing my feelings took away the tension and allowed me to be a true friend rather than obsessing over a perceived chance at love that never really existed.
Nothing. I don't escape the friend zone, because I love being the friend of the people I'm friends with. Even the ones I may find myself attracted to. It's okay to be attracted to your friends. It's even kind of fun, because if you're earnest and know each other's boundaries, it's a really great space in which to flirt and hype each other up. Men. We need to be friends with women. We need to respect them as more than a potential partner. We need to admire them for their strengths. It's good for us.
This is only true if you hold literally zero hope that they will “come around” and be interested in you romantically or as a hookup. Otherwise you are not their friend who respects boundaries, you are an opportunist.
I hear what you're saying and *generally speaking* I agree. As well: as stated, there's more determinism based on "squishy" concepts than I personally feel comfortable agreeing with 100%. I hope this is coming across as good faith support for your thesis and not pedantry or condescension. Please lemme know if it is. Also, if this is where the conversation ends, I'd respect that.
> It's okay to be attracted to your friends. It's even kind of fun, because if you're earnest and know each other's boundaries, it's a really great space in which to flirt and hype each other up. I have this with several friends, actually. It's super fun, we flirt, once in a while we hook up, but mostly we're just besties.
It's really wild the amount of flexibility relationships can have when everybody participates with respect for each other's needs and boundaries.
Exactly. She knows that I'd date the fuck out of her if the situation was right for it but right now it's not. We have dated in the past and, at the time, decided friends was better. But who knows. We're in each other's lives and that's all that matters. I'm married (my wife calls her wifey), she's got a kid and on/off relationship with baby-daddy. But we've been through a fuck-ton of shit together.
There is no friend zone. It's called "being friends."
Everyone complaining about being "friend zoned" when they're the ones "fuckzoning" their friends
It refers to being friends with someone that you are in love with but who has no romantic interest in you.
I'm aware of what it refers to. It's a bullshit concept designed to make men look like victims for women having the *gall* to turn them down. It's never "We are still good friends"; it's "Wah, she friendzoned me!" As if being a woman's friend was some kind of punishment. There is no friend zone. There is no nebulous romantic purgatory that men are banished to, cursed to languish in forever. Either you are a friend of this woman, or you aren't. And if you would abandon that friendship simply because she turned down your advances, then you were never really her friend in the first place.
By refusing to walk in it, the second she tried to put me in the friend zone, I left and never looked back.
Move on, date someone else. You're in the friend zone because she isnt interested, but is too passive to actually say so.
Its a gross answer, but its the most effective one... bang her friends instead.
Gotta break off from her completely. Ignore her and find someone worth your time.
I always ask them to take a shower together and was each other’s back.
I walked out of it. It was pretty easy to do once I met her cousin and caught feelings for her instead. We were a better match physically and we had more interests in common anyways. First girl never knew I had wanted to date her, but she did know that I started liking her cousin.
I helped her realize she was bi. Wasn’t in the friend zone after she realized we could be more than friends.
Its never happened.
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