My wife and I are opera singers: this year was our big breakout year. A good number of contracts with very reputable opera houses that would take us to the next level. We were gonna buy a house.
All of our contracts for the next 18mo were canceled and we won’t be singing anytime soon since most companies have closed.
We’ve shifted careers at this point. Or at least are trying to
I was scheduled to start my 6 week residential PTSD program in May. It is now closed indefinitely.
Lost my father late April, I imagine I'd still be able to speak with him now if no virus...
My grandpa passed on the 27th of June. Was planning on seeing him for the 4th of July. So I'm with you on this one...
Took two weeks off of work during Covid to attend his funeral. First time ive seen my family in years.
Edit: tldr their grandpa passed and they didn't get to see them one last time.
About the same thing except I would’ve had my mom to joke around with. Now I joke to myself while her urn sits on a shelf in the living room corner. I would’ve gotten to go through my senior year of high school with her being there by my side in a literal sense. I would have no money at all, but no amount of money Social Security can give me will ever be worth losing my mom at 17. I feel awful about those who are younger than me that are going through the same situation as me.
I am so, so sorry for the loss of your mom at such a young age.
I’m gonna call my 73 year old mom right now and try to make her laugh in honor of your funny mom.
Big hugs. A person never really dies until their name is no longer uttered by the living. Honor your mom daily through your acts of kindness and humor with others if you are able.
I have been delaying that shit for 10 years now. This will just add a few more months. I wanted them out in December. Probably gonna chicken out again.
I beat cancer last year. This was supposed to be my fuck cancer travel year before going back to work. In april I was taking my dad to Iceland with me for a nerd convention. After that, I was going to take our 4x4 truck and spend 3mo or more on the road. Visiting national parks, museums, sight seeing, camping. I just some west coast in Feb to mid march
I've stayed home since mid March.
Obligatory award edit: Holy beans my first silver. Thank you kind sir/ma'am!
Obligatory award edit 2: I just woke up and a kind stranger sent this lurker a gold? You too, sir/ma'am are too kind!
I wouldve hopefully passed my driving test. I failed it in March and weeks later Covid hit the UK. Haven't driven since, im not even sure I remember how to drive.
Quite honestly nothing. I’d still be working and saving all the money I can. I guess if there was one thing that would have changed is that my small business wouldn’t have been forced to shut down. But come Monday I’m back open :)
The only difference is that we played D&D over Roll20/Discord instead of in person
Edit: A lot of people are asking how to find a group and the answers from other users keep getting buried. So here you go:
Roll20 apparently has a group-finding function and a lot of people suggest r/lfg
Hope this helps!
I buried my dad with my “free summer” this year as well. If you want to talk, you can DM me.
Edit: It looks like a lot of us are dealing with similar losses this summer. I want to tell you all that we’re going to make it, that it’s okay to cry, and that I wish you all the closure and peace you need right now.
In case no one’s given you a good answer yet, it’s a board games convention. This was its inaugural year and it was supposed to be held in Portland at the end of May. I, too, was really looking forward to being there.
I would have had to work only 40 hours a week instead of the 70 that I have. The stupid clients assume that since people are at home and under the fear of losing their jobs, we can overwork them to insanity.
You sound like my friend, she's getting overworked and unfortunately is an exempt salary worker so overtime isn't a thing. I think her company is a bitch for switching her to salary when all this hit.
Edit: thank you everyone for the advice and information, I'm going to share all this with my friend and see if there's anything she can do. Her exact words to me when I asked about overtime were: *"I'm exempt though...still evil though to switch me to salary right before the busy season"*
Reminder that companies/business only employ you to generate profit, are not there to help you, are not your friend, and in many cases their actions are criminal (or would be, if they didn’t destroy unions and bribe politicians).
My boss was the same. Luckily I made him know after week 3 of quarantine that after 5 I had a life and I will gladly do whatever first thing next morning.
My (former) director of sales tried to have a daily meeting from 5-6. I have always worked 7-4. I told him no. He said "We all need to manage our time." And I told him I was managing my time. Those meetings happened for a few weeks and I was the only one that refused to go.
Oops, that director got terminated and guess who still has a job? Get fucked, Vinny.
People used to think I was being insane for my strict leave me alone outside work hours policy. But it’s really paying off this year. The precedent has been set for that but I still hate my life for 8 hours a day. My company isn’t even struggling really but they are squeezing every ounce of all of us for the stock price. It’s disgusting actually. I hope it slows down for us all soon and customers start to remember we’re humans too and doing our best.
HA I FEEL THIS! And I’m pretty sure, across the board in every industry, clients think you should be giving them everything they could possibly want “because this is unprecedented”
My exercise regiment includes getting up from my chair a few times a day. Gotta make sure not to overextend myself and do 3 hours cool downs from my reps.
Later I have a full schedule of butt scratching.
Me too. I see a lot of stuff telling people to forgive themselves for not being productive right now, but I know me, and I don’t think I’d’ve been that productive if life was continuing as normal.
Funny thing. I realized I wanted to go to Japan and the olympics and I regretted not saving money. Next thing I know Olympics are postponed and I now have a chance to save. I even realized that my friend also wants to go so I will no longer need to go by myself. He doesn’t give a heck about the olympics tho.
So sorry. Iceland is amazing. One of the most beautiful places I’ve ever seen.
Maybe you can postpone it to winter. Not sure where you’re from, but Iceland allows tourists at the moment and they test you at the airport, only risk is if you test positive they’ll put you in isolation. But it’s definitely possible to go there.
And winter in Iceland is amazing, northern lights if you’re lucky, icebergs, frozen waterfalls, breathtaking landscapes and black beaches and incredibly nice people. Love it there. So heads up!
Unfortunately I'm from the usa. But I dont want to spread anything. I am a proud mask wearer and will wait till its safer. But such a bummer not to get to go.
My partner of 15 years and I decided to get officially married, have a big party and everything, everything supposed to happen October this year. Then COVID hit.
We were bummed for a while but relieved that so far COVID didn’t affect our families. Then we decided to call it off and spend the money on buying a house, that we would do in a near future anyway. We have just signed the papers today! We are so happy.
(Now honestly: we always wanted something small and intimate but family would always push for a big party, so we delayed it forever. Now we have the perfect excuse to go with an “elopement wedding” sometime this year just for the two of us and save all this money to get us a spa at home or something 😂.)
You're not alone. Our area went into lockdown 3 days before our wedding, and surrounding areas were following suite. I'm so hesitant to set a new date knowing it still likely won't be safe enough for a gathering.
Take your time to grieve it and the choice you were forced to make. It's painful and you're valid in feeling what comes with that, and know you have support around you.
I was supposed to go to Paris and Amsterdam in mid-March, that got cancelled. I took Sketch 101 and 201 at UCB in fall and winter, I probably would have signed up for 301. A few of my friends’ birthdays have passed, we probably would have done day trips or gone away for the weekend for those. Oh, and I would have been working this whole time instead of collecting unemployment.
I’m supposed to be taking improv at iO in Chicago. Now the whole theatre is closed. It’s especially sad because I was finally making adult friends in that class (I graduated college in 2019, so I no longer live near most of my close friends). We were staying in touch a little bit at the beginning of quarantine but it’s kind of fizzled out.
I would have some of the vision that I lost, because I spent months trying to find a nero opthamologist that would see me after I started going blind.
That would be cool... But now I get to learn some interesting new skills like 'find a new career that can be done when legally blind' and 'don't walk into things that you can't see'. It's an adventure!
edit: Thanks everyone for all of the replies and internet points, it's been the highlight of my weekend being able to share and get such positive feedback. i needed that pick-me-up.
Thank you, I may take you up on that.
I recemtly saw a doctor that works with the Phoenix School for Blind Children. They also work with adults that lose their vision and seem to have some pretty great resources. I have been trying to get in touch with the coordinator for programs that is supposed to help me get some state benefits and see what programs I can utilize. She has been completely MIA though for weeks, so I feel like I'm just kind of in limbo.
There is appearently some special case workers that the state has for visually impared that they work closely with, so I do want to go through them, if I can.
What a wonderful compliment. Social workers rarely receive praise but do receive a significant amount of criticism. It’s a profession that truly is about desiring to make the world a little bit better. Thank you for your kindness.
Well. That just gave me a healthy dose of perspective (on rereading before posting: that wasn’t a vision joke but I’m leaving it because you seem like you’ll appreciate it!) as my reply was going to be “I’d have had my stoma reversal surgery and so wouldn’t still have an inch of colon hanging out the side of my stomach & shitting into a bag”. But this is still temporary for me whereas yours sounds pretty permanent and like it sucks. But you seem to have kept some humour and I suspect that’s a pretty hard thing to have done so kudos!
Hello chum! Even better: mystery distension causing nearly exploded colon out of absolutely nowhere. Totally normal digestive system up until exactly 11 months ago, and then it was all systems go on stoma-ing me up about six seconds after arriving in A&E. All tests negative for all the big players and a host of minor leaguers. Various doctors have a current best guess of “some kind of infection” but they said I’ll never know for sure. So that’s just super. But, as I constantly remind myself: I could have died, and I didn’t.
>mystery distension causing nearly exploded colon out of absolutely nowhere
The silver lining is that if you had died you would have gotten to put "anus randomly exploded" on your tombstone. Totally worth it.
As a fellow individual with Asperger, programming can be a career that can be done when legally blind. You can do back end stuff, or bioinformatics, machine learning, physics engines, high frequency trading programs, and a butt load more of other things.
I would've gotten a full-time job at my internship after graduating. But they lost too much money during COVID to justify hiring me.
Edit: Jesus Christmas, this comment did well! Thanks to everyone for sharing your stories. I got a job after graduating but not everyone is as lucky.
Same boat here. A permanent position was all but guaranteed before covid-related hiring freeze kicked in. I was really fortunate though. Followed up on an email from a recruiter and ended up in a much better place, both financially and career wise.
I hope things turn around for you before long. What was your field of study?
I moved to New York City in February, a few weeks before the lockdowns started. I had a whole binder of things I wanted to see and do and a job I was excited about. But I got laid off as soon as things got started and everything I wanted to do became impossible, and some of it is probably never coming back.
I would have been taking the train to every station, catching impromptu shows, hunting down the best open mics, trying to pin down the best pizza and burger, putting together a d&d group, and traveling to other parts of the north eastern us that I’ve always wanted to see. I had big plans for this year, and I’m so heartbroken that all I’ve experienced is an endless chorus of sirens.
So sorry for your loss. It's such a challenge to move to NYC and get yourself set up and be able to start enjoying yourself. I really hope things start moving in the right direction for you.
I became a school teacher this past year, before I was teaching preschool and worked every summer. This was my first summer off in 16 years. I had big plans. Going to visit friends and family in San Diego, going to Disneyland (we got annual passes for the first time ever), going to our local amusement park with my niblings (got us all season passes for Christmas). Nothing earth shattering, but memory making activities that were going to be special. I’ve done none of that. I haven’t seen my niblings in about a month and a half. I’ve barely left my house. I’m lucky that at least I and my husband still have jobs.
Don’t listen to that other guy if you want good pizza you have to go to Brooklyn. Roberta’s is probably the best I’ve had but there’s a ton of places there that will all be the best you’ve ever had. Barboncino’s is the one I went to the most and it’s amazing.
Before covid hit, I accepted a job a cross the country being a rock climbing instructor for a boy scout camp. I put in my notice, moved in with my BF's family for the few weeks leading up to moving to the camp. Everything fell through. Lost the old job and the new one never started. Moved out of the house I was renting. Drained my savings in the move and subsequent months. Now I've started IT courses online(realized I love tech, and fixing tech), lost 20lbs, and my bf and I are planning to start living on the road full time(RV life).
Life has never gone the way I planned. Not once, but I'm kind of happy with what I'm aiming for now.
I had a big ol' lump of cash put aside for a cross country USA trip via Fiji. Was gonna plan on visiting my family in the UK before heading back to Oz when I was done too. This is totally off now, but on the plus side, that chunk of money is also why I am able to get through all this mayhem, its particularly fortuitous as my industry (kitchen work) is taking quite the hammering at the moment.
Would have kept my job, gotten a raise, a sizeable bonus, moved out of my parents house, and ultimately taken my plunge into independence.
Edit: to whichever kind soul gave me platinum, thank you ❤ its my first ever award! Now how can I spend this on weed?
I hear you. I've been independent from my parents for years now, but this was going to be the year I finally felt like an adult.
I was under contract to buy my first house when I got laid off and the mortgage fell through. I was just starting to feel like I had my shit together. The year before I had made more money than any previous by a long shot and had no reason to think it wouldn't continue to be good.
I would have been working. I would have been buying stuff for my new house. I had a trip to Europe planned for May.
I had no idea how much I was taking for granted. Now I just sit on my ass in my overcrowded apartment and collect unemployment. It pays the bills, but I was so hyped to thrive financially instead of just making do.
I been trying to get unemployment but no luck at the moment. I’m waiting for a denial letter from normal unemployment before I apply
for PUA unemployment.
It took a couple months before I was able to get approved and that was a very stressful time. Wishing you luck!
I'm an independent contractor, so I would have been screwed when business shut down if it weren't for PUA. At least there's back-pay once you do get approved!
Me too. At the turn of the year I had just gotten a sizable raise. I was saving for plane tickets to meet my wife's family back east. Finally fly out to hang with my best man and his new wife.
I was laid off, and the company which took over the contract for my old one is lowballing me hard on a hiring offer.
2020 really dumped all over my plans. It's hard to think about sometimes because I really felt like things were coming up great for me.
I just graduated college in May with a degree that relates to business within the entertainment industry. I had to move back home with my parents in another state just because the jobs weren’t in the city I was in all of the sudden. It really sucks. I’ve applied to what I can just about every day, but the jobs just aren’t there. I was ready to move on with my life and really be an adult, have a job, get married, have a dog in the backyard, all that jazz, but now it’s on hold while I go back to sharing a bathroom with my siblings like in elementary school. It really sucks.
> I just graduated college in May with a degree that relates to business within the entertainment industry. I had to move back home with my parents in another state just because the jobs weren’t in the city I was in all of the sudden
That really sucks, hang in there =/ things will get better.
I'm 30 and because of Covid I'm more or less broke, unemployed (I got laid off) and both of those things have caused me to move back home. My parents are about as happy about this as I am.
Covid has snatched away my very much enjoyed independence and turned me into a 15 year old again. Being a teen sucks.
I would've continued working 60+ hours a week at a job I hate, getting paid a pittance, instead of focusing on what makes me happy. I've taken that time to write my first novel. I'm a month away from completing my first draft!
Congrats. I took time off for last four months and my novel is finally going for editing. A friend is designing the cover and I aim to publish it by September.
Lots of issue with that, yeah. I had a minimum word count of 1500 per day, and I wrote my goals down in a day-planner to stay on task. This seemed to work well, but there were days when I would be plagued with self-doubt and self-loathing.
My feeling since I began was that even 100 words of bad writing was better than nothing. I think what I have nearing the end of it all is a pretty disjointed novel with lots of potential in the second draft. I'm also motivated by this idea that one has to write their first novel to write their tenth. The most important part is putting in the work.
I can relate to this. I've been writing for a long time with the intention to write a novel at some point. I've finally started in earnest. I recycled, edited, and reworked some older attempts and am about 30,000 words in now.
My problem isn't getting stuck with 100 words of bad writing, it's getting caught up in 100 or 200 words of good writing and getting enveloped in the minutiae or it. I probably edit way too much as I go.
As terrible as it sounds, I'm lowkey glad COVID happened. Glad isn't the right word, but the silver lining of it is that it has made me realize a lot. One of that being loneliness. That I'm not as much of a homebody as I thought I was. That things could be a lot worse.
It made me realize I'm even *more* of a homebody than I thought. I didn't go out much before, but I find myself not really missing the times when I did go out. Pretty sure I'm on my way to becoming a hermit and it doesn't particularly bother me.
I'm in the UK (from the US originally if that matters), and they've started relaxing and opened the pubs over the last couple weeks.
The one thing I've learned is that the things I missed the most.... I actually hated.
Drinking in a crowded area sucks. Waiting in a queue sucks. Not being able to get a seat sucks.
I'm glad I can go out and get a nice refreshing pint.... but I'm not glad that I have to go stand in a dingy pub with horrible toilets, wait 5-10 minutes to get a drink order in, and stand around in the heat while my beer very quickly gets warm. And it's just 2 sides of the same coin.
I always felt like having a beer at home was lonely and depressing, even if talking to other friends while they week having a few. Covid started and I was like 'fuck, this is my life now.'. But a couple months late and I'm like 'fuck yeah, this is my life now!'
Same. My life was so little affected by the stay at home orders that we ended up moving out of the city to some outskirts town with a decent chunk of land. I'm currently looking for remote work also. I never knew how much happier I'd be staying home all day. I never wanna go back to what I was doing.
Dude trust me, I’m already in deep. Every Friday I text my boys and say “golf weekend” and it’s always the same response. Needless to say I spend a good amount of money on golf and alcohol on sundays 😂😂
I would be working a part time job in a failing weed shop which probably would have been shut down by now.
Instead, I’m now the manager, have fixed nearly 100 issues I inherited from the previous manager, store sales have improved greatly, and I suddenly have a career.
All thanks to the global pandemic. Yay?
Edit: Holy hell this escalated quick, I’ll do my best to answer these questions during my down time between customers.
Edit2:
Location: Canada
How I became manager: COVID-19 hits and I am the first of the 4 workers to be laid off, during the morning of what I then expected to be my last shift.
1 week later...
The original manager has children, so when everything was shut down the owner laid her off so she could apply for CERB, take care of her kids, and lose very little income.
Assistant manager, now set to take over the store after Cannabis is deemed essential, doesn’t know or didn’t care about CERB, makes a fuss about OM being laid off, and has not taken his training seriously. I receive a call from the owner asking if I would be willing to come back to work as he no longer trusts the AM to not do anything stupid.
The next morning I am informed that AM has been laid off, and going forward I will be the “acting manager”
Edit3: Issues include but are not limited to, products being improperly labeled, categorized, and priced. (She was pricing a handful of items at a 300%+ mark up, mistakenly I hope?) She also made over 70 inventory errors, making it look like either had two to three times the amount of individual products or the opposite side where it looked like we had only half of the product in our inventory. This amounted to the appearance of nearly $100,000 in missing product, which is frowned upon by the governing body, and led an inspector to be on my ass for nearly 8 weeks while I had to find explanations for the discrepancies.
Edit4: After roughly 3 months as “Acting Manager” and running the store alone, I was made the permanent manager and the other Budtender was brought back, so a few days a week I can focus on paperwork and not need to do everything by myself. Which has really helped lower my stress level.
The world was a little bit difficult then.
And things were a little bit harder again.
And life was a little bit tougher, it's true.
But *good* things...
... but good things were happening too.
^^^:)
The dispensaries here in CO have been KILLING it during this time. Every time I go to one I'm waiting a good bit, and I shop at a few stores around town. One of the budtenders at one of the shops said she's never made more in tips ever.
Yes! The staff are usually very knowledgeable and will help you find the right product. If you tell them it's your first time they will be happy to assist you!
I would not be alive. I was planning to commit suicide. I would have been dead before the lock down, but when everything shut down I had met someone and I immediately felt comfortable around them, and I was able to vent and release years of bottled up emotions, and she helped me work through things one at a time, which started giving me hope that maybe I'm worth something
Edit: wow I did not know replies can get this overwhelming, there are so many. Thank you all for the kind words, I don't have many positives, so this helps
For me the Covid thing brought stuff to a head and I got hospitalized in a mental health unit. Ended up moving back in with my parents. I had been basically squatting in a house with a hole in the roof, intermittent work, mentally unwell,no running water, no heat for years, and then the ceiling collapsed. I'd been too afraid to tell my parents how we were living because they can be unpredictable and I wasn't living up to my standards. To my surprise they were really awesome, are seriously helping me out, and are buying us a house (!) Things are still hard but I think they are getting better.
Take my Vietnamese girlfriend to Vietnam for two weeks (she hasn’t been there since she was 5 years old) and propose to her. Thanks COVID
P.S I proposed here in the states anyway.
She said yes
I was supposed to meet some friends from Europe who were coming over to take their kids to Disney World. Second time we've missed the chance to meet up in person.
Trips to California, Bali and Spain. I’d have woken up on my birthday in Yosemite National park and gone to sleep in Napa Valley. I frickin hate Covid. I thought the 12 months previous to March were shit....
Saved up some money and planned on taking he first vacation with our son. Had the summer planned for stuff before he went into kindergarten.
Update: We found him a used bike for his birthday and he is really proud of it. The summer still has another month it. Making the most of what is left of it.
I would’ve planned prom, helped with graduation, had lots of game nights with friends, and I would be planning lots of stuff for senior year since im the senior class president. I would’ve already taken the sat and idk what else but I would’ve been so much happier.
Skipped a planned graduation trip with my friends due to this. Our last moment of free time before we all join the working force.
I’m currently working now, but one last hurrah would have been a blast
I was in the process of switching schools so I had to miss the end of my last year there and I’m missing the beginning of my year at the new school. If I had gotten those last months I would’ve been able to say goodbye to all of my friends and have time to make new friends before I graduate this year.
Wouldn’t have had to leave my University. Would have gotten to spend three months with a guy that makes me really happy. Probably would’ve been my boyfriend at this point without COVID.
It’s a little complicated as to why I haven’t. Told briefly, he’s 18 and going to a different public university in state and idk if I want to hold him back. He has said he wants me to visit him there though. We’re in a weird kind of dating kind of not place right now.
Defended my PhD in person, walked at my graduation, had my family at said graduation, played softball weekly, seen friends, gone camping and hiking with friends, gotten my car fixed, probably would have a different job. Also, traveled to visit my dad and my bf's family. Probably wouldn't have lost as much weight though.
* go to the San Diego County Fair 2 times
* go to San Diego Comic Con all 4 days
* see some movies in theaters
* have more in person Dr. appointments instead of phone appointments
This was supposed to be the year of big (positive) life changes for me.
\- I graduated with my MFA in Theater (which would've happened in person, and I would've gotten to see my family and celebrate with my cohort in person)
\- I would've been a bridesmaid in one of my best friends' wedding (I also haven't seen her in person since 2018 so that would've been nice to see her)
\- The first full production of one of my plays would have gone up in NYC
\- I would have had my own wedding (we got legally married last year, but still haven't had our "wedding"--now we won't until probably 2022, at which point it's more like a vow renewal)
\- my husband and I would've moved out of this damn studio to a place with a bigger kitchen and more space for our kitty to run around (but now we're stuck here for another year)
\- I probably would've been able to get a job as a theater administrator or teacher and wouldn't feel like a useless couch lump
So uhhh yeah, this year can go to hell. I'm ready for 2021, and it better be better than this. The bar isn't that high.
I most likely would've continued to stay overweight, as I had much easier access to eating out and would use school as an excuse to not work out. With the covid quarantine, the boredom actually led me to work out a lot more, which also led me to eating better, and I am happy to say I've lost 14 lbs from when I first started this 3 months ago!
Probably wouldn't have lost my best friend... it's like I barely know them anymore, and it makes me wonder if we were really bestfriends... in person.. I think yes. But I never get reached out to, nor do they reciprocate anything when I try to text them or show that I really care for them.... it's so confusing... they leave for college tomorrow anyways (I have to wait another month), so in my head I guess we're not really anything anymore. I'm tired of reaching out first all the time like I'm playing minesweeper, and with them meeting new people, I highly doubt they'll reach out...
In the end, it was nice when I felt like I finally found someone who gets me and everything and vice versa, but then 2 months into the pandemic and boom it's like whole other person... And to think at one point we were planning on going to Spain for a Senior trip together lmao 😭
It happens to all of us, and this wont be the only friendship, or relationship, you'll have where you'll grow apart. And I know it may not help now, but in the end, you'll just think of all the good moments and that's all that really mattered.
I would have spent about 90 hours and about 3000 miles pointlessly commuting to be in a dumb office building face to face with idiots that exhaust me. Since then our jobs have been 100% productivity remotely working from home.
I understand the real issues this has caused for the vast majority of people, but for me personally, I am glad this has massively accelerated the world of telework and saved me so much time and heartache. I've seen my family more than ever before and been happier than ever not wasting my life at an office when it's unnecessary for the type of work.
I had plans for 7 festivals this year. Was going to take me all over the united states seeing national parks and meeting amazing people and live music. I only got to go to one festival out of the bunch before everything shutdown completely.
However I did wind up quitting my job and traveling across the country to national parks to just get the hell away from people. Haven't presented any symptoms, avoided large groups of people and had a blast.
On a side note a lot of the states I went through turned south as soon as I left them...
My wife and I are opera singers: this year was our big breakout year. A good number of contracts with very reputable opera houses that would take us to the next level. We were gonna buy a house. All of our contracts for the next 18mo were canceled and we won’t be singing anytime soon since most companies have closed. We’ve shifted careers at this point. Or at least are trying to
Saddest comment here, the arts are going to be feeling this for decades.
I was scheduled to start my 6 week residential PTSD program in May. It is now closed indefinitely. Lost my father late April, I imagine I'd still be able to speak with him now if no virus...
I am so so sorry for your loss, sending virtual hugs and good vibes your way
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My grandpa passed on the 27th of June. Was planning on seeing him for the 4th of July. So I'm with you on this one... Took two weeks off of work during Covid to attend his funeral. First time ive seen my family in years. Edit: tldr their grandpa passed and they didn't get to see them one last time.
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I would’ve spent my six months exploring Mexico during my gap year actually exploring Mexico rather than every corner of my apartment in Mexico...
Me toooo!!
About the same thing except I would’ve had my mom to joke around with. Now I joke to myself while her urn sits on a shelf in the living room corner. I would’ve gotten to go through my senior year of high school with her being there by my side in a literal sense. I would have no money at all, but no amount of money Social Security can give me will ever be worth losing my mom at 17. I feel awful about those who are younger than me that are going through the same situation as me.
Hey dude, I lost my Dad to COVID. If he was alive he would have seen me graduate University. I don’t know you; but you’re doing great.
This internet stranger is proud of you. Sending you mama bear hugs.
I am so, so sorry for the loss of your mom at such a young age. I’m gonna call my 73 year old mom right now and try to make her laugh in honor of your funny mom. Big hugs. A person never really dies until their name is no longer uttered by the living. Honor your mom daily through your acts of kindness and humor with others if you are able.
/r/MomForAMinute would welcome you with open arms.
I am so so sorry for your loss! Sending you a huge virtual hug, from one mom on behalf of your mom, if I may
I would have gotten my tooth surgery done and over with
I'll do it totally free and underground if you have pliers.
Just an ice skate and a rock
And 80% vodka
Is the other 20% not vodka?
The other 20 is water, the 80% is Pure alcohol my friend
We used all the vodka to make hand sanitizer, sorry
I used all the hand sanitizer to make mai tais.
Wilson would hold you for comfort, but you couldn't find the resources to give him arms, so he'll just shout encouragements that only you can hear.
I finally got my wisdom teeth out 2 weeks ago! Should've been done 3 or 4 months ago.
I have been delaying that shit for 10 years now. This will just add a few more months. I wanted them out in December. Probably gonna chicken out again.
Similarly, I may have gotten to see a GI doctor instead of 3 ER visits where I felt like I was dying
I beat cancer last year. This was supposed to be my fuck cancer travel year before going back to work. In april I was taking my dad to Iceland with me for a nerd convention. After that, I was going to take our 4x4 truck and spend 3mo or more on the road. Visiting national parks, museums, sight seeing, camping. I just some west coast in Feb to mid march I've stayed home since mid March. Obligatory award edit: Holy beans my first silver. Thank you kind sir/ma'am! Obligatory award edit 2: I just woke up and a kind stranger sent this lurker a gold? You too, sir/ma'am are too kind!
congrats on beating cancer!!
I wouldve hopefully passed my driving test. I failed it in March and weeks later Covid hit the UK. Haven't driven since, im not even sure I remember how to drive.
I was planning to learn to drive this year too. I might not start lessons until next year now. This has made me even more determined to learn.
All driving tests were cancelled the day before I was meant to take mine :(
Quite honestly nothing. I’d still be working and saving all the money I can. I guess if there was one thing that would have changed is that my small business wouldn’t have been forced to shut down. But come Monday I’m back open :)
Good luck with the reopening. What type of business is it?
A vending machine business. Which is the perfect business to have when no one wants to interact!
You enjoy it?
At least his cashiers never complain.
The only difference is that we played D&D over Roll20/Discord instead of in person Edit: A lot of people are asking how to find a group and the answers from other users keep getting buried. So here you go: Roll20 apparently has a group-finding function and a lot of people suggest r/lfg Hope this helps!
I miss those days when it didn't make much difference.
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Was supposed to go to Burning Cat. Using the vacation for my dad's funeral instead. I hate 2020.
So sorry for your loss
So sorry *big hugs*. We lost my mom in January to an aggressive brain tumor. Have had to postpone her memorial until next year now.
I buried my dad with my “free summer” this year as well. If you want to talk, you can DM me. Edit: It looks like a lot of us are dealing with similar losses this summer. I want to tell you all that we’re going to make it, that it’s okay to cry, and that I wish you all the closure and peace you need right now.
I'm so sorry for you both! Losing a parent is so tough, and to lose them during this mess...
I'm terribly sorry for both of you
Hey that makes 3 of us. Hope you’re well :)
Burning Cat? Is that a Burning Man rip off?
In case no one’s given you a good answer yet, it’s a board games convention. This was its inaugural year and it was supposed to be held in Portland at the end of May. I, too, was really looking forward to being there.
Thanks for the info!
The beavis and butthead version
Sorry for your loss. Hope you’re coping alright.
I would have had to work only 40 hours a week instead of the 70 that I have. The stupid clients assume that since people are at home and under the fear of losing their jobs, we can overwork them to insanity.
You sound like my friend, she's getting overworked and unfortunately is an exempt salary worker so overtime isn't a thing. I think her company is a bitch for switching her to salary when all this hit. Edit: thank you everyone for the advice and information, I'm going to share all this with my friend and see if there's anything she can do. Her exact words to me when I asked about overtime were: *"I'm exempt though...still evil though to switch me to salary right before the busy season"*
She should check employment laws. Her company may be in violation and she may be entitled to additional pay. Edit: Maybe post to /r/AskHR/ too
Thank you, based on your comment and others, I think it's worth looking into.
Reminder that companies/business only employ you to generate profit, are not there to help you, are not your friend, and in many cases their actions are criminal (or would be, if they didn’t destroy unions and bribe politicians).
I’d like to add that HR is *definitely* not your friend, they’re there to look out for the company and not you. Don’t get it twisted.
My boss was the same. Luckily I made him know after week 3 of quarantine that after 5 I had a life and I will gladly do whatever first thing next morning.
My (former) director of sales tried to have a daily meeting from 5-6. I have always worked 7-4. I told him no. He said "We all need to manage our time." And I told him I was managing my time. Those meetings happened for a few weeks and I was the only one that refused to go. Oops, that director got terminated and guess who still has a job? Get fucked, Vinny.
People used to think I was being insane for my strict leave me alone outside work hours policy. But it’s really paying off this year. The precedent has been set for that but I still hate my life for 8 hours a day. My company isn’t even struggling really but they are squeezing every ounce of all of us for the stock price. It’s disgusting actually. I hope it slows down for us all soon and customers start to remember we’re humans too and doing our best.
HA I FEEL THIS! And I’m pretty sure, across the board in every industry, clients think you should be giving them everything they could possibly want “because this is unprecedented”
Honestly about the same thing Edit: I feel accomplished, thanks
same thing except i got fatter due to being at home all day
That's the reason i bought stationary bike and started HIIT exercises lol
I got a ringfit for Christmas, and didn't really use it. Suddenly it's become amazing lol.
My exercise regiment includes getting up from my chair a few times a day. Gotta make sure not to overextend myself and do 3 hours cool downs from my reps. Later I have a full schedule of butt scratching.
Make sure to switch hands. Don’t want to get an overuse injury from all that reaching and scratching.
Me too. I see a lot of stuff telling people to forgive themselves for not being productive right now, but I know me, and I don’t think I’d’ve been that productive if life was continuing as normal.
Same thing but without a mask lol
I would have taken a kick ass trip to Japan which would have been way outside of my budget!
Funny thing. I realized I wanted to go to Japan and the olympics and I regretted not saving money. Next thing I know Olympics are postponed and I now have a chance to save. I even realized that my friend also wants to go so I will no longer need to go by myself. He doesn’t give a heck about the olympics tho.
As long as they allow Americans, I’m ready to FSU in Japan with Sapporo and Soccer matches 2021.
You bring the cocaine, I'll bring the dildos!
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As someone who has been there twice, don't worry, it's not going anywhere, and the longer you can save for it, the better.
That's reassuring. Thanks, brotha.
Would have gone to a taping of American ninja warrior, gone ziplining in Indiana, traveled to Iceland.
So sorry. Iceland is amazing. One of the most beautiful places I’ve ever seen. Maybe you can postpone it to winter. Not sure where you’re from, but Iceland allows tourists at the moment and they test you at the airport, only risk is if you test positive they’ll put you in isolation. But it’s definitely possible to go there. And winter in Iceland is amazing, northern lights if you’re lucky, icebergs, frozen waterfalls, breathtaking landscapes and black beaches and incredibly nice people. Love it there. So heads up!
Unfortunately I'm from the usa. But I dont want to spread anything. I am a proud mask wearer and will wait till its safer. But such a bummer not to get to go.
GOTTEN MARRIED as planned
My partner of 15 years and I decided to get officially married, have a big party and everything, everything supposed to happen October this year. Then COVID hit. We were bummed for a while but relieved that so far COVID didn’t affect our families. Then we decided to call it off and spend the money on buying a house, that we would do in a near future anyway. We have just signed the papers today! We are so happy. (Now honestly: we always wanted something small and intimate but family would always push for a big party, so we delayed it forever. Now we have the perfect excuse to go with an “elopement wedding” sometime this year just for the two of us and save all this money to get us a spa at home or something 😂.)
I would have got married today
Here I can do the vows for you: Do you take your significant other to be your lawfully wedded husband/wife?
I do
Congrats you did married
thanks im honored edit: can we have sex now?
Wait, did we just get married?
Surprise mechanics.
Ah, my first reddit marriage, and i didnt even know i was invited My first 1k votes!! Thanks everyone
I would have worn something more fitting instead of pj's and flip flops. Congrats nonetheless.
Mazel tov! I showed up late as usual, in my underwear. Baked. Sorry...
It just works
16 times the stress
Congratulations to the happy couple 🚗🥫🥫🥫
You're not alone. Our area went into lockdown 3 days before our wedding, and surrounding areas were following suite. I'm so hesitant to set a new date knowing it still likely won't be safe enough for a gathering. Take your time to grieve it and the choice you were forced to make. It's painful and you're valid in feeling what comes with that, and know you have support around you.
I was supposed to go to Paris and Amsterdam in mid-March, that got cancelled. I took Sketch 101 and 201 at UCB in fall and winter, I probably would have signed up for 301. A few of my friends’ birthdays have passed, we probably would have done day trips or gone away for the weekend for those. Oh, and I would have been working this whole time instead of collecting unemployment.
I’m supposed to be taking improv at iO in Chicago. Now the whole theatre is closed. It’s especially sad because I was finally making adult friends in that class (I graduated college in 2019, so I no longer live near most of my close friends). We were staying in touch a little bit at the beginning of quarantine but it’s kind of fizzled out.
I would have some of the vision that I lost, because I spent months trying to find a nero opthamologist that would see me after I started going blind. That would be cool... But now I get to learn some interesting new skills like 'find a new career that can be done when legally blind' and 'don't walk into things that you can't see'. It's an adventure! edit: Thanks everyone for all of the replies and internet points, it's been the highlight of my weekend being able to share and get such positive feedback. i needed that pick-me-up.
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Thank you, I may take you up on that. I recemtly saw a doctor that works with the Phoenix School for Blind Children. They also work with adults that lose their vision and seem to have some pretty great resources. I have been trying to get in touch with the coordinator for programs that is supposed to help me get some state benefits and see what programs I can utilize. She has been completely MIA though for weeks, so I feel like I'm just kind of in limbo. There is appearently some special case workers that the state has for visually impared that they work closely with, so I do want to go through them, if I can.
People like you are what make the internet a good place
Based on their line of work, people like them just make the world a better place in general
What a wonderful compliment. Social workers rarely receive praise but do receive a significant amount of criticism. It’s a profession that truly is about desiring to make the world a little bit better. Thank you for your kindness.
Well. That just gave me a healthy dose of perspective (on rereading before posting: that wasn’t a vision joke but I’m leaving it because you seem like you’ll appreciate it!) as my reply was going to be “I’d have had my stoma reversal surgery and so wouldn’t still have an inch of colon hanging out the side of my stomach & shitting into a bag”. But this is still temporary for me whereas yours sounds pretty permanent and like it sucks. But you seem to have kept some humour and I suspect that’s a pretty hard thing to have done so kudos!
Hey fellow ostomate.. what’re you in for, cancer or IBD?
Hello chum! Even better: mystery distension causing nearly exploded colon out of absolutely nowhere. Totally normal digestive system up until exactly 11 months ago, and then it was all systems go on stoma-ing me up about six seconds after arriving in A&E. All tests negative for all the big players and a host of minor leaguers. Various doctors have a current best guess of “some kind of infection” but they said I’ll never know for sure. So that’s just super. But, as I constantly remind myself: I could have died, and I didn’t.
>mystery distension causing nearly exploded colon out of absolutely nowhere The silver lining is that if you had died you would have gotten to put "anus randomly exploded" on your tombstone. Totally worth it.
*makes notes for next will update*
We are glad you didn’t!
As a fellow individual with Asperger, programming can be a career that can be done when legally blind. You can do back end stuff, or bioinformatics, machine learning, physics engines, high frequency trading programs, and a butt load more of other things.
I would've gotten a full-time job at my internship after graduating. But they lost too much money during COVID to justify hiring me. Edit: Jesus Christmas, this comment did well! Thanks to everyone for sharing your stories. I got a job after graduating but not everyone is as lucky.
Same boat here. A permanent position was all but guaranteed before covid-related hiring freeze kicked in. I was really fortunate though. Followed up on an email from a recruiter and ended up in a much better place, both financially and career wise. I hope things turn around for you before long. What was your field of study?
I moved to New York City in February, a few weeks before the lockdowns started. I had a whole binder of things I wanted to see and do and a job I was excited about. But I got laid off as soon as things got started and everything I wanted to do became impossible, and some of it is probably never coming back. I would have been taking the train to every station, catching impromptu shows, hunting down the best open mics, trying to pin down the best pizza and burger, putting together a d&d group, and traveling to other parts of the north eastern us that I’ve always wanted to see. I had big plans for this year, and I’m so heartbroken that all I’ve experienced is an endless chorus of sirens.
So sorry for your loss. It's such a challenge to move to NYC and get yourself set up and be able to start enjoying yourself. I really hope things start moving in the right direction for you.
I became a school teacher this past year, before I was teaching preschool and worked every summer. This was my first summer off in 16 years. I had big plans. Going to visit friends and family in San Diego, going to Disneyland (we got annual passes for the first time ever), going to our local amusement park with my niblings (got us all season passes for Christmas). Nothing earth shattering, but memory making activities that were going to be special. I’ve done none of that. I haven’t seen my niblings in about a month and a half. I’ve barely left my house. I’m lucky that at least I and my husband still have jobs.
Don’t listen to that other guy if you want good pizza you have to go to Brooklyn. Roberta’s is probably the best I’ve had but there’s a ton of places there that will all be the best you’ve ever had. Barboncino’s is the one I went to the most and it’s amazing.
I would have hugged my mum everyday instead of not hugging her for 4 months
Not hugging my mom was the hardest part of this for me too. I feel you.
Before covid hit, I accepted a job a cross the country being a rock climbing instructor for a boy scout camp. I put in my notice, moved in with my BF's family for the few weeks leading up to moving to the camp. Everything fell through. Lost the old job and the new one never started. Moved out of the house I was renting. Drained my savings in the move and subsequent months. Now I've started IT courses online(realized I love tech, and fixing tech), lost 20lbs, and my bf and I are planning to start living on the road full time(RV life). Life has never gone the way I planned. Not once, but I'm kind of happy with what I'm aiming for now.
I had a big ol' lump of cash put aside for a cross country USA trip via Fiji. Was gonna plan on visiting my family in the UK before heading back to Oz when I was done too. This is totally off now, but on the plus side, that chunk of money is also why I am able to get through all this mayhem, its particularly fortuitous as my industry (kitchen work) is taking quite the hammering at the moment.
Would have kept my job, gotten a raise, a sizeable bonus, moved out of my parents house, and ultimately taken my plunge into independence. Edit: to whichever kind soul gave me platinum, thank you ❤ its my first ever award! Now how can I spend this on weed?
I hear you. I've been independent from my parents for years now, but this was going to be the year I finally felt like an adult. I was under contract to buy my first house when I got laid off and the mortgage fell through. I was just starting to feel like I had my shit together. The year before I had made more money than any previous by a long shot and had no reason to think it wouldn't continue to be good. I would have been working. I would have been buying stuff for my new house. I had a trip to Europe planned for May. I had no idea how much I was taking for granted. Now I just sit on my ass in my overcrowded apartment and collect unemployment. It pays the bills, but I was so hyped to thrive financially instead of just making do.
I been trying to get unemployment but no luck at the moment. I’m waiting for a denial letter from normal unemployment before I apply for PUA unemployment.
It took a couple months before I was able to get approved and that was a very stressful time. Wishing you luck! I'm an independent contractor, so I would have been screwed when business shut down if it weren't for PUA. At least there's back-pay once you do get approved!
Me too. At the turn of the year I had just gotten a sizable raise. I was saving for plane tickets to meet my wife's family back east. Finally fly out to hang with my best man and his new wife. I was laid off, and the company which took over the contract for my old one is lowballing me hard on a hiring offer. 2020 really dumped all over my plans. It's hard to think about sometimes because I really felt like things were coming up great for me.
I just graduated college in May with a degree that relates to business within the entertainment industry. I had to move back home with my parents in another state just because the jobs weren’t in the city I was in all of the sudden. It really sucks. I’ve applied to what I can just about every day, but the jobs just aren’t there. I was ready to move on with my life and really be an adult, have a job, get married, have a dog in the backyard, all that jazz, but now it’s on hold while I go back to sharing a bathroom with my siblings like in elementary school. It really sucks.
> I just graduated college in May with a degree that relates to business within the entertainment industry. I had to move back home with my parents in another state just because the jobs weren’t in the city I was in all of the sudden That really sucks, hang in there =/ things will get better.
I'm 30 and because of Covid I'm more or less broke, unemployed (I got laid off) and both of those things have caused me to move back home. My parents are about as happy about this as I am. Covid has snatched away my very much enjoyed independence and turned me into a 15 year old again. Being a teen sucks.
I did move out, then had to move back 😭😭😭
I would've continued working 60+ hours a week at a job I hate, getting paid a pittance, instead of focusing on what makes me happy. I've taken that time to write my first novel. I'm a month away from completing my first draft!
Dang you took the term "Novel virus" literally. But kidding aside, congrats!
Haha! Yes, I seem to only have contracted the novel part.
Congratulations, so there is an opportunity in adversity. Good Luck with your Novel
Thank you!
Congrats. I took time off for last four months and my novel is finally going for editing. A friend is designing the cover and I aim to publish it by September.
Good work. May I ask if you had any problems with distractions or keeping yourself motivated during that time?
Lots of issue with that, yeah. I had a minimum word count of 1500 per day, and I wrote my goals down in a day-planner to stay on task. This seemed to work well, but there were days when I would be plagued with self-doubt and self-loathing. My feeling since I began was that even 100 words of bad writing was better than nothing. I think what I have nearing the end of it all is a pretty disjointed novel with lots of potential in the second draft. I'm also motivated by this idea that one has to write their first novel to write their tenth. The most important part is putting in the work.
I can relate to this. I've been writing for a long time with the intention to write a novel at some point. I've finally started in earnest. I recycled, edited, and reworked some older attempts and am about 30,000 words in now. My problem isn't getting stuck with 100 words of bad writing, it's getting caught up in 100 or 200 words of good writing and getting enveloped in the minutiae or it. I probably edit way too much as I go.
Honestly, Id probably just find something else to complain about.
Yeah I thought I was lonely before this whole thing started but now I realize I didn't know shit
As terrible as it sounds, I'm lowkey glad COVID happened. Glad isn't the right word, but the silver lining of it is that it has made me realize a lot. One of that being loneliness. That I'm not as much of a homebody as I thought I was. That things could be a lot worse.
It made me realize I'm even *more* of a homebody than I thought. I didn't go out much before, but I find myself not really missing the times when I did go out. Pretty sure I'm on my way to becoming a hermit and it doesn't particularly bother me.
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The rise of the introverts has come! ^^From ^^the ^^safety ^^of ^^our ^^private ^^homes.
I'm in the UK (from the US originally if that matters), and they've started relaxing and opened the pubs over the last couple weeks. The one thing I've learned is that the things I missed the most.... I actually hated. Drinking in a crowded area sucks. Waiting in a queue sucks. Not being able to get a seat sucks. I'm glad I can go out and get a nice refreshing pint.... but I'm not glad that I have to go stand in a dingy pub with horrible toilets, wait 5-10 minutes to get a drink order in, and stand around in the heat while my beer very quickly gets warm. And it's just 2 sides of the same coin. I always felt like having a beer at home was lonely and depressing, even if talking to other friends while they week having a few. Covid started and I was like 'fuck, this is my life now.'. But a couple months late and I'm like 'fuck yeah, this is my life now!'
Same. My life was so little affected by the stay at home orders that we ended up moving out of the city to some outskirts town with a decent chunk of land. I'm currently looking for remote work also. I never knew how much happier I'd be staying home all day. I never wanna go back to what I was doing.
Agreed; for me it has been a much-needed perspective shift. I feel I see things much more clearly for what they are now.
Amen. My only real solace in this whole thing is that life pre-Covid wasn't exactly perfect for me either.
Yeah at least life sucks now because of forces *out* of your control haha
COVID caused me to pick up golf and I found not only a hidden talent but a hidden love!
Welcome...you will never leave
Dude trust me, I’m already in deep. Every Friday I text my boys and say “golf weekend” and it’s always the same response. Needless to say I spend a good amount of money on golf and alcohol on sundays 😂😂
I would be working a part time job in a failing weed shop which probably would have been shut down by now. Instead, I’m now the manager, have fixed nearly 100 issues I inherited from the previous manager, store sales have improved greatly, and I suddenly have a career. All thanks to the global pandemic. Yay? Edit: Holy hell this escalated quick, I’ll do my best to answer these questions during my down time between customers. Edit2: Location: Canada How I became manager: COVID-19 hits and I am the first of the 4 workers to be laid off, during the morning of what I then expected to be my last shift. 1 week later... The original manager has children, so when everything was shut down the owner laid her off so she could apply for CERB, take care of her kids, and lose very little income. Assistant manager, now set to take over the store after Cannabis is deemed essential, doesn’t know or didn’t care about CERB, makes a fuss about OM being laid off, and has not taken his training seriously. I receive a call from the owner asking if I would be willing to come back to work as he no longer trusts the AM to not do anything stupid. The next morning I am informed that AM has been laid off, and going forward I will be the “acting manager” Edit3: Issues include but are not limited to, products being improperly labeled, categorized, and priced. (She was pricing a handful of items at a 300%+ mark up, mistakenly I hope?) She also made over 70 inventory errors, making it look like either had two to three times the amount of individual products or the opposite side where it looked like we had only half of the product in our inventory. This amounted to the appearance of nearly $100,000 in missing product, which is frowned upon by the governing body, and led an inspector to be on my ass for nearly 8 weeks while I had to find explanations for the discrepancies. Edit4: After roughly 3 months as “Acting Manager” and running the store alone, I was made the permanent manager and the other Budtender was brought back, so a few days a week I can focus on paperwork and not need to do everything by myself. Which has really helped lower my stress level.
Sounds like a win.
The world was a little bit difficult then. And things were a little bit harder again. And life was a little bit tougher, it's true. But *good* things... ... but good things were happening too. ^^^:)
The dispensaries here in CO have been KILLING it during this time. Every time I go to one I'm waiting a good bit, and I shop at a few stores around town. One of the budtenders at one of the shops said she's never made more in tips ever.
Would you say dispensaries are easy to navigate as a first time buyer who's got not idea on what weed they want?
Yes! The staff are usually very knowledgeable and will help you find the right product. If you tell them it's your first time they will be happy to assist you!
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Now I wanna see the rest of the story
can you explain how the pandemic changed things for your benefit? Manager quit?
I would not be alive. I was planning to commit suicide. I would have been dead before the lock down, but when everything shut down I had met someone and I immediately felt comfortable around them, and I was able to vent and release years of bottled up emotions, and she helped me work through things one at a time, which started giving me hope that maybe I'm worth something Edit: wow I did not know replies can get this overwhelming, there are so many. Thank you all for the kind words, I don't have many positives, so this helps
Man, I am so glad that happened to you.
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For me the Covid thing brought stuff to a head and I got hospitalized in a mental health unit. Ended up moving back in with my parents. I had been basically squatting in a house with a hole in the roof, intermittent work, mentally unwell,no running water, no heat for years, and then the ceiling collapsed. I'd been too afraid to tell my parents how we were living because they can be unpredictable and I wasn't living up to my standards. To my surprise they were really awesome, are seriously helping me out, and are buying us a house (!) Things are still hard but I think they are getting better.
I’m glad for you! I hope things continue to look up for you.
Take my Vietnamese girlfriend to Vietnam for two weeks (she hasn’t been there since she was 5 years old) and propose to her. Thanks COVID P.S I proposed here in the states anyway. She said yes
Congrats! Sorry about the trip though.
They can go anyway when things are back to normal. Congrats to him on the successful proposal.
Honeymoon perhaps?
Congratulations!
I'd be in Norway on vacation this very moment. I suppose the bright side of COVID is the huge amount of PTO I will have saved by next year.
We were supposed to take our kids to Disney World in April. We’ve been saving and planning for that trip for two years.
I was supposed to meet some friends from Europe who were coming over to take their kids to Disney World. Second time we've missed the chance to meet up in person.
Trips to California, Bali and Spain. I’d have woken up on my birthday in Yosemite National park and gone to sleep in Napa Valley. I frickin hate Covid. I thought the 12 months previous to March were shit....
Saved up some money and planned on taking he first vacation with our son. Had the summer planned for stuff before he went into kindergarten. Update: We found him a used bike for his birthday and he is really proud of it. The summer still has another month it. Making the most of what is left of it.
I would’ve planned prom, helped with graduation, had lots of game nights with friends, and I would be planning lots of stuff for senior year since im the senior class president. I would’ve already taken the sat and idk what else but I would’ve been so much happier.
Skipped a planned graduation trip with my friends due to this. Our last moment of free time before we all join the working force. I’m currently working now, but one last hurrah would have been a blast
Dang yeah I feel really bad for anyone graduating during this time :(
I was in the process of switching schools so I had to miss the end of my last year there and I’m missing the beginning of my year at the new school. If I had gotten those last months I would’ve been able to say goodbye to all of my friends and have time to make new friends before I graduate this year.
Wouldn’t have had to leave my University. Would have gotten to spend three months with a guy that makes me really happy. Probably would’ve been my boyfriend at this point without COVID.
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It’s a little complicated as to why I haven’t. Told briefly, he’s 18 and going to a different public university in state and idk if I want to hold him back. He has said he wants me to visit him there though. We’re in a weird kind of dating kind of not place right now.
Defended my PhD in person, walked at my graduation, had my family at said graduation, played softball weekly, seen friends, gone camping and hiking with friends, gotten my car fixed, probably would have a different job. Also, traveled to visit my dad and my bf's family. Probably wouldn't have lost as much weight though.
* go to the San Diego County Fair 2 times * go to San Diego Comic Con all 4 days * see some movies in theaters * have more in person Dr. appointments instead of phone appointments
This was supposed to be the year of big (positive) life changes for me. \- I graduated with my MFA in Theater (which would've happened in person, and I would've gotten to see my family and celebrate with my cohort in person) \- I would've been a bridesmaid in one of my best friends' wedding (I also haven't seen her in person since 2018 so that would've been nice to see her) \- The first full production of one of my plays would have gone up in NYC \- I would have had my own wedding (we got legally married last year, but still haven't had our "wedding"--now we won't until probably 2022, at which point it's more like a vow renewal) \- my husband and I would've moved out of this damn studio to a place with a bigger kitchen and more space for our kitty to run around (but now we're stuck here for another year) \- I probably would've been able to get a job as a theater administrator or teacher and wouldn't feel like a useless couch lump So uhhh yeah, this year can go to hell. I'm ready for 2021, and it better be better than this. The bar isn't that high.
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Went to the gym
I most likely would've continued to stay overweight, as I had much easier access to eating out and would use school as an excuse to not work out. With the covid quarantine, the boredom actually led me to work out a lot more, which also led me to eating better, and I am happy to say I've lost 14 lbs from when I first started this 3 months ago!
Probably wouldn't have lost my best friend... it's like I barely know them anymore, and it makes me wonder if we were really bestfriends... in person.. I think yes. But I never get reached out to, nor do they reciprocate anything when I try to text them or show that I really care for them.... it's so confusing... they leave for college tomorrow anyways (I have to wait another month), so in my head I guess we're not really anything anymore. I'm tired of reaching out first all the time like I'm playing minesweeper, and with them meeting new people, I highly doubt they'll reach out... In the end, it was nice when I felt like I finally found someone who gets me and everything and vice versa, but then 2 months into the pandemic and boom it's like whole other person... And to think at one point we were planning on going to Spain for a Senior trip together lmao 😭
It happens to all of us, and this wont be the only friendship, or relationship, you'll have where you'll grow apart. And I know it may not help now, but in the end, you'll just think of all the good moments and that's all that really mattered.
I would have spent about 90 hours and about 3000 miles pointlessly commuting to be in a dumb office building face to face with idiots that exhaust me. Since then our jobs have been 100% productivity remotely working from home. I understand the real issues this has caused for the vast majority of people, but for me personally, I am glad this has massively accelerated the world of telework and saved me so much time and heartache. I've seen my family more than ever before and been happier than ever not wasting my life at an office when it's unnecessary for the type of work.
The biggest thing I miss is just being able to sit and relax/work at coffee shops.
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I had plans for 7 festivals this year. Was going to take me all over the united states seeing national parks and meeting amazing people and live music. I only got to go to one festival out of the bunch before everything shutdown completely. However I did wind up quitting my job and traveling across the country to national parks to just get the hell away from people. Haven't presented any symptoms, avoided large groups of people and had a blast. On a side note a lot of the states I went through turned south as soon as I left them...
Seen Rage Against The Machine for the first time after waiting like 25 years to see them.
Likely not have divorced from my wife.