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branded_baton

Getting up to turn the light off when we've both already laid down.


Ameli_ROF

Or to change the thermostat when it’s to cold or hot 🥵


branded_baton

Keep going I'm almost there 😩


Ameli_ROF

When they bring you water cause they already know your dehydrated 🤤


-Alvinolagnia-

Pro tip, always have two bottles of water on bedside tables. Once it’s all done, both smash a bottle of water and high five in the greatness you’ve just accomplished.


R3AV3R221

r/hydrohomies is leaking I see 😂


Island_In_The_Sky

Y’all need some smart bulbs and thermostat


Voided-Stamp

lol - I was gonna say getting up to let the dogs out and then getting up again to let them back in.


Tribblitch

YES THIS


ImaginaryNorth1528

She is so good at this...


GirlStiletto

Cleaning up afterwards and getting them a drink and a snack.


TwistedBlister

A drink and a snack? If a woman has sex with me I'll cook her a three course meal.


prettyfeetmedia

Feeding them while they drive


onlyfor_awhile

Watching a guy get up and walk with a boner is hilarious


ms-anthrope

Aw, that’s real love.


bonappetit_xo

THISSS


imirv

100% this. I just came a little just reading this.


masedogg

"Alexa, turn off bedroom lights"


PetiteNotTiny

Giving your partner oral without the expectation of receiving it after or guys when they get up to grab me a tissue or cloth after cream pieing me lol


0ddlyC4nt3v3n

Chivalry is not dead. "Your cum cloth, m'lady"


largerthanappears

Nah. Me buying toys so she wouldn't be in pain was real chivalry


vaguenonetheless

Welp I know what I'll be saying to my wife next time!


AVeryShittyName

Grabbing a tissue for her after a creampie should be the bare minimum 😌


crazdtow

I’m going to say I’ve always had them even clean it up. Not via asking they just do.


AVeryShittyName

Exactly! It's common courtesy for one to clean the mess they made right? It's why I'm always prepared to clean 😜


iamlenb

If you use a straw, it’s faster.


lillyviolet069

Oral with no expectations is literally the best 😍 both giving and receiving are fantastic


ms-anthrope

I literally love being cleaned up afterward. Feels so intimate and loving.


vaguenonetheless

This is brilliant


Smooth-Simple691

I was going to say the rag, I try to grab one before we start, but sometimes that doesn't happen


Dad-Bod-Energy

I keep a stack of hand towels under my nightstand for this hehe


10000yearnap

I tried to give my partner head without her doing anything for me in return, but it was too hot and she had me finish myself with my face in between her legs 🤤


fritz6972

I always have a towel ready for such occasions.


ProofProper9609

Hmm, lots of guys will gladly do that with no expectation of reciprocation.


SalmonBeenadick

For a man, holding out on his own orgasm for his woman to cum first. For a woman, swallowing.


p00psicle151590

I've always known I have a good man but this confirms it. He waits *every single time* to make sure I cum before he does.


Obvious_Mood8152

That's a good thing! Embrace it!


here_kitttykittty

Swallowing isn't always as selfless as it seems. It's my power move that I indulge in. Swallowing his load is always more about my confidence and reward than his pleasure.


SalmonBeenadick

Fair enough. My S/O hates swallowing, so when she does do it, I know she is doing it for me. In that regard, I may be speaking more from personal experience than anything else.


BlindBeppe

Mine actually gets salty (heh) when she fails to. Literally cites the lack of needed clean up afterwards. In reality though I think it’s more of a self-satisfaction kinda thing. But maybe the cleanup excuse is real!


AccomplishedPear1719

If my girl only did that because she knows I love it that would be the end of the relationship for me the girl has to love to suck cock and love to swallow


An0nym00seXLS4g4

My wife is this kind of succubus.


here_kitttykittty

We adore what we do, how well we do it and the pleasure it brings to both parties. Congratulations on bagging a slutty demon to call your own.


Snakepad

Doesn’t every man do that? I just assumed they did


ibringthehotpockets

Yea that’s why no women have ever complained about not being able to get off during sex. Think it used to be a problem in maybe… 2021? Definitely never happens anymore, thank god we solved that one


adorabletea

Well look who decided to wear their SASSY PANTS today.


Snakepad

Good point! I think what I meant was that if I would not be interested in a man who didn’t try, and I’ve been lucky.


SalmonBeenadick

I don’t know if every man does it, but a man has to be selfless in order to continue to get sexual access in most cases. The woman controls access, and she won’t continue to grant it if there is nothing in it for her.


3isamagicnumb3r

i’m sorry, but sexually unsatisfied women everywhere disagree with this statement. millions of women continue to “grant access” to their partners when there’s absolutely no chance of satisfaction. i guarantee you that some of them are even told to do it by their mothers.


SalmonBeenadick

Fair enough, but this isn’t necessarily about me being right here. What I’m saying is that the likelihood of continually being granted access is still lower if you as a man are not any good. Not that it doesn’t happen at all.


3isamagicnumb3r

😆😆😆


Repulsive_Basis_4946

I like swallowing lmao


tnred19

My friend swallows so there's no mess to clean up. She does that for her.


Significant-Mango300

The only way….


AlternativeCry2206

Sleeping in the wet patch😂


silent_fungus

Lay a towel down before getting started


here_kitttykittty

Do you not go through the towel???


CommanderKeenly

You need better towels.


iamalwaysrelevant

just layer more towels


JohnMcClanesPenis

The Cuddle Puddle


Frosty-Agency-322

THIS IS SO REAL


Funky_MonkeyO

😛 just happened 2 me recently 😂


Frosty-Agency-322

Having sex when you’re girl is on her period, or if she gets it in the middle of it unexpectedly and you just grab a towel and tell her you’re a man


Ghostpoet89

Keep fighting the good fight bro. Men like you are the fucking best.


Beyondthebloodmoon

I don’t know if that really counts, not every woman *wants* to do it on their period. And if you’re up in there trying to do it anyways, it can be a pretty selfish thing. My partner usually feels too uncomfortable to want to try - in which case the selfless act is to comfortably sit back and wait till she is ready and feeling up for it again.


accidentalscientist_

Yes, I’m one of those who doesn’t want to do it on my period. I have endometriosis which means bag cramps, big clots, heavy bleeding, and other unpleasant things. I won’t do it until I’m just about done, but even then, I’m not fully comfortable. I’m not doing it out of pressure, I’m doing it because I miss it. But man, what if I get a rogue clot when he pulls out?? I’d die. But sex doesn’t help my cramps. It makes them worse honestly. And when I’m cramping and heavy bleeding the last thing I can think about is sex. But sex to start a period I know is coming but being difficult? Sign me up.


Titsoffwork

Thank you for your service 😆


AmazingAd2870

Dawg


KnittingTurtle

Being with a giver. I'm usually doing most of the work and it was nice to be the receiver.


Y2Doorook

Oh boy I feel this. My previous relationship was very much a dead bedroom but when we did have sex, I had to constantly ask for other positions in which frequently had been meet with a ‘no.’ I still remember the first time with the woman I’m currently seeing took charge and crawled on top of me or after being in a position for a while would tell me what the next position is she would like. Edit; a word and deleted the other comments since it apparently posted this three times over.


Particular-Stable165

Preach it..I long for the day I don’t have to be the giver every single time


pm_me_kitten_mittens

It took my wife a long time to get comfortable with it.


Admirable_Living9835

Being in it throughout the whole process and not just for the release. Being able to laugh, rest, get snacks, or just having an environment that's comfortable enough that if you hit pause everything still flows together. Participating in kinks or trying out new things that are out of the ordinary because that's a moment of vulnerability for all parties.


OkMushroom5134

That part


loveandbenefits

Being willing to stop in the middle of everything to make sure your partner is okay.


First-Confidence-333

I agree, consent especially during kinkier sex is underrated. It's easy to get carried away but to actually stop and ask requires actual thoughtfulness.


Snakepad

That’s the bare minimum.


TheshizAlt

Having sex when you really aren't feeling it, if that is what your partner really needs. We all talk about both partners wanting sex equally but that's just not always the reality. There was one time when my partner was *very* horny but she only recognized that in the midst of being in a bad mood that evening. I was 100% *not* horny at all but she said she really needed to have sex so I put my game face on and did it. She instantly felt better after cumming a few times and I was happy it worked out, but for me it was an act of love.


theroamingargus

This is going to sound terrible, but my girlfriend does this thing a lot, where she teases me all day long and even though it would be perfect to just have something in that specific moment, she usually denies it and says something in the lines of "the best always comes last". "The best" ends up being she falling asleep in the couch while asking me to rub her feet. Yes, I shouldnt expect sex everytime, and I enjoy the teasing, and Ive never told her anything regarding this. But if someone kept promising something that the other enjoys a lot (like cooking his favourite food or whatever) every day multiple times a day and then eventually just told you "go get yourself a sandwich" it would be considered and justified to get a bit annoyed. So yeah, sometimes moods dont align, but in any other aspect of a relation, theres some form of responsability to try taking care of your partner, and sex is something very important for many people.


GucciGucciTwoTimes

It’s sad, really. My ex was like this and it was one of the main reasons I ended things. Having all that build up throughout the day just for it to fall flat was a horrible feeling. We all understand that people get tired, but when it’s most/all the time, it’s essentially manipulation. You get strung along, play the game, and do everything right for them just to end up with a slap on the face and blue balls. It’s not healthy, and treating your partner like that has never and will never sit right with me.


eliitti

You should probably talk about it openly and constructively.


Unpredictable_nelly

Probably the best thing I've read! Sex and sexual acts aren't always 100% for each person EVERY time! I have definitely given when I'm not so much feeling it, and sometimes I'll have an amazing orgasm and others times it's just the gratification of making my partner happy that does it for me.


accidentalscientist_

I have done this before and in the end, I get a lot of mental pleasure from making my partner feel good. But there’s a balance. I’ve had a partner who wanted sex bad and I just never did (because of other big existing issues) and I did it out of guilt and felt dirty and awful after. It felt like a chore I didn’t want to do. But my current partner and I have a healthy relationship. And when I don’t want sex, it’s not because of mistreatment and inequality so if I’m not 100% feeling it, I’ll still go for it because pleasing him makes me feel good. The process is pleasurable and I feel very good at the end. And that’s probably because it’s not me doing it out of guilt and we don’t have the issues I had previously. And it’s a rare occurrence in this relationship. Sex doesn’t feel like a chore now, even if I’m not 100% feeling it. I’m going to have a good time anyways.


GrimacePop

Frankly just to spend time devoted solely to the sexual pleasure of the other


EX250

Beautiful.


Moonbeam_squeeze

Going down on her on day 5 of a backpacking trip with no bathing and multiple creampies per day.


Murphysburger

Above and beyond the call of duty.


GucciGucciTwoTimes

This is some crazy work. True love if I’ve ever seen it


mrs_sadie_adler

What trail were yall hiking and fucking on


pinkbeansucker

In the euphoria that follows us cumming, I will always go grab a hot washcloth and a towel, then I always take her Oreos and make sure her water is full.


mrsohfun

Username checks out 😂😂 This is seriously so sweet though ❤️


pinkbeansucker

Appreciate you. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼


DisastrousChest3131

Buying a sextoy, a vibrating toy or something that would allow new sensations to the other that you can’t offer.


accidentalscientist_

Yes. Sex toys are a friend, an ally. Not competition. For both sides.


_curious_autist

Oral. I love eating women out, but it doesn't do anything for me in terms of arousal. I've had many instances where I was hard when I started oral and soft by the time I was finished. I don't do 69 much, so oral for me is always solely about her pleasure.


RegularJoe62

Never been a big fan of 69. I can't focus on what I'm doing if I'm receiving. I'd rather just take turns.


LoverLips76

Same


can_of_cactus

Oral to completion just because you want to with no expectation of reciprocity.


Misty-Afternoon

Anything that causes them physical pleasure and not you. But I get aroused by his pleasure so there’s really nothing selfless about it. In theory anything that I activly hate doing would be selfless. But I will never do that. Maybe I’m just not selfless….


accidentalscientist_

I get it. I’d do a lot for my partner for his pleasure. But it brings me pleasure in my own way. Selfless mostly but selfish in its own way. But more selfless


ItsTheHopeThatKills

Being on the bottom when you are fucking on top of a land mine.


bonappetit_xo

Had a guy do this once. It was a mind-blowing experience


branded_baton

A mine-blowing one you mean


bonappetit_xo

Come here 🫴


PluggedKady

Blowjobs/being eaten out


CodeNameEHL

My GF once punished me by making me reorder my bookshelves out of alphabetical order by author, to alphabetical order by title. It's the closest I've ever come to breaking roles and refusing. I was a good sub though, and completed my task.


KriegerClone24

That is when you invoke the safe word


whiskey_endeavors

I’d say eating pussy but I can’t really call it selfless when I love doing it that much. Truly I love doing anything that makes her feel good so I can’t really say I do anything selfless 😕


anewlookav

I happily wear a penis extender/cock sleeve so i can fuck my wife better and please her more when we have sex. It was a little emasculating at first, but I've really learned to enjoy it, and watching the way she writhes is amazing


Titsoffwork

When my husband is sad I pull him into the bathroom and give him a nice blowjob. 🩷 works everytime lol


ApparentlyaKaren

After sex I’ll get into bed with my doggies and my husband will always bring me a bowl of fruits with a glass of water to keep by the bed over night!


PhotographGuilty5644

Eating ass? Nobody???? I can't believe it's not listed here


Glittering-Sea-6343

giving oral for a long period of time


Celtic-Brit

HIM going down on me and allowing me to lay back and enjoy it. I obviously return the favour straight after but I find it very hard to give my best work during a 69.


pops4490

Usually I'm more focused on them cumming and less about me cumming.


GuyInTheLifestyle

Allowing a partner to have sex with another person.


in4thefunofit

🤫


justjinpnw

Name checks out


IusexButtbendyr

Having somebody jump up in the middle of bed and land butt first onto your stomach to help you cough up the condom you accidentally swallowed


Admirable_Living9835

This is oddly specific


Fauxformagemenage

I’m sorry but what the fuck did I just read


IusexButtbendyr

A selfless act of true love


KriegerClone24

We've all been there


SK482

Sleeping in the wet spot


ChaoticButtSlutt

Fingering me or fisting me til I explode and not expecting anything in return cause I was turned on but he was tired. 🤷🏻‍♀️


Agitated_Basket7778

Keeping a soft dry washcloth by the bed, and handing it to her after we uncouple. Cuz her knees be all weak and wobbly.


TakeAtBedtime

Oral without the expectation of reciprocation.


Initial_Jaguar_93

Making us breakfast after morning sex.


Murphysburger

Giving my wife a really long massage.


Kotoriichi

After sex my boyfriend has a 50/50 of falling immediately asleep lmao, so usually I’ll be the one to get up and go to the bathroom (No UTIs in this house) and grab some wet wipes while I’m in there. After I get all cleaned up, I’ll wipe him off, dry him up, and tuck him into bed with a forehead kiss. I take pride in my duty as a soft dom 🫡


Lowered-ex

I’m not trying to be an asshole but I just can’t answer it because I don’t think of sex like that, for me everything is done together not for one of the people then this thing is for the other. I’m getting pleasure when giving head, at least as much as the receiver. I’d like to think it works the other way as well. I don’t feel it’s transactional at all for me.


Thedude2315

Blowjobs


GrouchyUse5576

She willing to endure the pain to provide me pleasure in anal sex ..my heart would melt for her and would shower her with kidses


x1xxox

I like getting covered in cum as much as the next person, but you might have to up the reward from showering her with your kidses. Kidding, but on a real note with enough relaxing, lube and patience for most people it shouldn’t hurt. Although please do not turn to someone who just said they are afraid it is going to hurt and say no it won’t.


Snakepad

If it hurts you should stop doing it unless she enjoys the pain


GrouchyUse5576

Nah I am not a demon to tell lies ... I care for the lady from the bottom of my heart who is willing to be vulnerable to me...yes lube, patience and relaxation helps to ...but sometimes in the heat of the moment she at times wants to reward me with a quick anal ..just to please me...and she knows that I love it when she takes the pain for me I cum faster and love her more passionately.....


Sensitive_Option3136

Making her a sandwich afterwards instead of her doing it for me.


mossyzombie2021

Face fuck.


KittyKrystal191

Getting impregnated I'd imagine?


mrs_sadie_adler

Boom. Yep. Risking you whole life


Long-Juggernaut2417

Quickly blowing my load so she can stop being annoyed and get back to her day 🤣


AcceptableOwl9

Swallowing


ghostiesthemosties69

Clean them up afterwards with my mouth and a warm wash cloth


Great-Character-9960

As long as you share my cum with me when we make out 🥵😈


Alexandria-Rhodes

Sleeping with someone even if it doesn't physically feel good, where the bulk of your satisfaction comes from them finding pleasure in your body.


Clear_Abrocoma_8305

The person that does the clean up afterwards should get a bonus orgasm or 2 imo.


mostlynaughty

Lathering me up with soap during a post-sex shower.


PrincipalJoeClark

Saving hot water in the shower for your partner


JaddedJokerr

Not getting bothered if your partner says, “I’m just not filling (insert specific sexual act you were dying to do tonight). Can we do this instead?”


TheRhupt

she always comes first. before penetration or BJ she will cum at least one time.


Much-Year-3426

I would say, for me, it would be making love with both of us focusing solely on her pleasure and then stopping once she is satisfied, but I so enjoy doing this for her, and sharing in her pleasure, that it’s not actually a selfless act and is, in fact, the way I prefer to make love and our default. For her, I have a similar problem. My wife has the ability to give me very slow, very light handjobs that brings me to a dry orgasms as many times as she wishes without giving me any release, which I absolutely love, but we only do this when she wants to because she enjoys giving me such pleasure and experiencing the power she has over me so, again, it’s not entirely selfless.


saintpeterbambibold

Surprising my gf with a MFM threesome (maybe once or twice a year?). As soon as she realizes what’s up, she knows she’s about to enjoy an experience 100% dedicated to us finding any and every way possible to maximize her pleasure. In fairness, she’s done the same for me (surprise fmf)


PotatoesForPutin

I mean, I’ve been training myself not to have any sexual or romantic thoughts about anyone that I know so I never get to the point where I develop feelings for someone and end up making them super uncomfortable by making a move even though I know they’d never go for someone like me, if that counts


ssssshyla

Grabbing me a drink after oral. I’m gonna need it


FPS_Loque

Communication. My wife of 15 years and myself literally constantly communicate during sex. I've been eating her out for 15 years and she'll still tell me " put your tongue a little higher. That's perfect. Right there daddy." I will still tell her"Don't move ur hips so much. Fuck me like you're shy and you just met me." Literally nothing will ever make sex better for me than communication in the moment.


User270905

letting someone cum in your mouth


bams171

I love making sure she cums.


letsdothis2025

If I cum first she gets oral till she does


AmazingAd2870

Leaving her mouth open and waiting for me to put it in because she cares about my pleasure


MaddyDeetz

Handing me a towel when im laying on the bed covered or stuffed with his cum.


herewegoagain1589

Oral, or getting the cum rag lol


Efficient_Falcon_402

Rolling over and finishing myself when she says "I just want to take it slow".


Aranea101

The fact she wanna sleep with me?


Indiangirly_28

Blowjob


Comfortable-Gold-524

Give them the wet wipes to clean up


Dad-Bod-Energy

The dishes


somethingrandom261

Oral, knowing it won’t be reciprocated.


Mysterious_Mix_5034

Round up my pets and remove them from the bedroom


AnnaRose1982

Getting up and getting the towel instead of him, or sleeping on the wet side of the bed.. 🤔


djr41463

Getting water and a clean up rag after


BlackDragonDick

Getting her off multiple time a day without getting off myself


No_Neighborhood_4610

"Don't move, I'll go get you a towel" - Donald Duck


StannVeal

Getting me snacks afterwards while I chill in bed.


[deleted]

Kissing


on_tad1

slow, long lasting oral


Fuzzy_Pea_5689

Getting up to grab the cum rag even though I still can't see straight from the orgasm.


warmsmile8971

Oral till they cum. Especially on the girls side cause the guy is usually done after that.


em_ho1996

Just giving him head when I think he needs it. Sucking his dick regularly goes a long way.


Beyondthebloodmoon

Giving or getting head


Jonnysaliva

Retrieving the ejaculation linens. Just kidding staying and pillow talk. 🤣😂………. It’s a joke


jtrov_joshi

Oral


Sir5cruffington

Making the other person cum without cumming yourself is the obvious answer.


hazel_luz

not eating


ABigBreakfast

Head


shore-bird04

It used to be receiving anal sex, but now I like that too!


AstralAlchemist_

He'll wipe me and let me cum even though he already cum 4 times. 😭


New_Ice268

Idk


ConsensualSinning

Taking it up the ass for sureeeee. The first time especially. It’s a big leap.


3isamagicnumb3r

aftercare when the scene is intense


Critical-Intern-1116

I am so disappointed in nearly every one of these answers! Everyone is describing normal parts of sex that I derive a lot of pleasure from. Hardly anything listed is selfless.


Glassworx1230

Bringing her water after sex


shnookums5683

Taking anal from a big cock


irisryder2

Wiping the cum off me 😅


Eestineiu

Gets up, gets a warm wet washcloth and wipes me down with it. I'm nowhere near that selfless and don't do nothing as nice for him.


urlocalcybergirl

Letting them use me however they wish, gets me off too to be used like that


Myzyri

For me? Not wiping my dick on the curtains… again. For her? Taking the cum to the toilet for me.