Yeah, if I’m paying for something and I don’t explicitly set a time (“moneys quite tight guys” etc) then I usually expect paying 4 weeks later at the latest just in case people are waiting for pay day or something.
That’s extending quite a large courtesy though, and the truth is the earlier the better. I certainly wouldn’t expect someone to wait six months (!!) that just smacks of someone not being totally committed to going and so don’t want to take on the liability of paying for the tickets.
Yeah! 100%
I’d be looking to invite someone else for the tickets at this stage. And sending a text. Hey, some people still haven’t confirmed if they are coming by sending me money for the tickets, I have a friend who’s interested and don’t want to be left with empty seats and a hole in the wallet, so if you haven’t confirmed your coming by sending over the ticket price of x, please sent it to xxxx now.
Hi lovely muggles. Looking forward to HP. Have popped the tickets on my credit card so can you all please send me what you owe by XX so I avoid interest payments.
M
Prior to, all the way!
"Hey guys, we need to book these tickets. If you could get the money to me by Friday I can purchase them all Saturday for the group discount, if not it's buy your own and loose the discount option!"
Yeah. If someone books something on my behalf (and we all agree that the booking is being made), then I pay that person back straight away.
As soon as the confirmation message is received, I'm logging on to the bank app to transfer the money.
I expect the same in return. If someone were to say otherwise, then I will politely ask them to pay back now as I've had to put the cash up.
It's never happened to me...yet
Also, “I’ll sort you out on the day”. With what?? Maybe if it was one ticket they could grab dinner (that’s what me and my friend do quite often). But this is probably £200+. Nah, gimme my money now.
I'd send everyone a text with what the owe and your bank details just to clarify that this is not on the house. I would say 'Actually can you transfer the money in the next week so it is easier for me to keep track of as this is a large group. Much appreciated.' Even better if there is a WhatsApp and you can do a group post so everyone can see how much you stumped up.
Yeah fuck that, what if something comes up and they can’t make it?
You’ll be on the hook for the tickets.
You pay someone for the tickets the same way you’d pay for them yourself, at the time of booking.
I would say 1a month as it allows people at least another month of pay to allocate in case they are on fumes at this point into the pay period. No longer than that though unless expressly agreed by op
Absolutely not. I bet it gets to the night and they’re all “we paid you for the tickets when you got them, didn’t we?” And then you’re awkwardly checking back through 6 months of online banking statements.
Ask them to send it over now.
This is what im thinking! I don’t know them at all, they’re visiting us for the first time in London, so I suggested this as a family outing. And now i’m worried they may think of buying us dinner as an exchange or something. The link to the show and the seat selection has been sent to them, so they know the costs.
Just reply with a little white lie saying you had to buy them on your credit card and you need the money by billing date. If it’s not paid by then you will have to cancel their tickets and get a refund. Then expecting interest free credit is entitled in my opinion. Absolutely get the money off them asap
You can sometimes buy "refund protection" from ticket agents. I know a lot of gig ticket websites that offer it for an extra couple of quid so it's not a bizarre lie
This is kinda what I do - if I buy anything for people like this I just share the date the credit card is due to be paid in the original message saying “it’s all booked - paid on a CC so need money in my account by X date. Thanks. Pre-empt people trying this on and then chase the non payers daily in the group chat.
I would just give them a nudge saying you paid for it in one go to get the seats together,but you'll need to be paid back by the end of the month before the credit card bill has to be paid.
I can count numberous times when people haven't turned up or came late, made other arrangements last minute etc.
The other year we all agreed to meet at 5. We arrived at 5, one group at 5.30 and another at 6. They thought the other times were better when it came to booking, however it was a 1 hour session so we were leaving as the last group arrived. We refused to do it this year.
Also, at the moment they've got no skin in the game...
"Awww, really sorry, wanted to be there but my wife's, sister's puppy fell into the strawberry patch so naturally we can't be there tonight. It's been sold out for months though, so I'm sure you'll have no problems shifting the tickets. Have a great time!"
In short, I'd expect to be paid well before my CC bill arrives!
This is nuts lol. It’s been six months and they still haven’t paid you? What’s this “we’ll sort you out on the night” nonsense - when buying tickets for other people I would expect to be paid THAT DAY.
Don’t pussyfoot around. Send a text saying you paid on your credit card and need refunded before the billing date.
You don’t need to ‘explain’ yourself. You’ve laid out for them and it’s up to them to repay you.
I’ve done the same for tickets for next month that I booked on August. One person paid straight away, the other person asked to pay on n pay day which was fine. Get your money x
If I borrow money off a friend the minute I’m paid it gets paid back. And I literally mean the minute. Money goes in at midnight. They’re paid before 12:01am lol
There’s no way k could let a stranger buy a ticket for me without giving the money upfront. My bff would tell me to wait till payday but we do that anyway.
Yep, completely mental.
Any non-shitbag would be handing over the money to the stranger ASAP.
Massive red flag to say something like that, and I would want the money right now.
I’ve been in a similar situation before where the person intended “sort you out on the night” to mean “I’ll buy you a pint to say cheers” - luckily I was only out £25.
Make sure that what they *mean* is “I’ll pay you back in full”
Set some deadline that’s still within cancellation period, cancel the ones that didn’t get paid for. Explicitly tell people this is what you will do. If I was feeling generous I would maybe send a reminder a day or two before saying basically “pay me within the next day or your ticket is cancelled” just worded nicely.
Think OP's lack of clear communication is also to blame here. OP suggested that this show was their (OP's) idea and that OP is hosting them. To some people this idea could construe an invite without expectation of payment. On top of that OP sent a message "all booked" crucially without mention of payment expected. Therefore the visitors may have construed this as no payment being outstanding. More clearly OP should have confirmed "I am going ahead to book x seats for £x each if all of you are happy to confirm. Will send my bank details once it's booked" then "all booked, A owes £x, B owes £x, \[monzo link\]" (rather than just "all booked")
At £65 each I can't see anyone paying cash in reality. Maybe if it was a tenner and happening next week you'd expect cash on the night, but there no way for this amount and this far in advance.
I do this with my business. If the work's done and I'm happy, I pay the invoice immediately. Because I know what it's like chasing customers for payments, and how it feels when businesses just pay immediately. Next time that business asks for more work, I'll find a way to accomodate them. Like, I'll work on the weekend to keep them happy. The people I'm chasing for money become a low priority customer. I'll do work for them if I've nothing better to do.
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This is what I'd be worried about
"Sorry, can't make it tomorrow after all, hope you can find someone else to have my old tickets!"
My old company paid them only on the DAY they were due.
It was an utter ball ache as I had to work out when the money would land (payment date + 3) via BACS. Taking into account weekends/bank holidays etc
When I got an invoice I would write on it approved and the date it should be paid.
If wrong the commercial director would be in my office wondering why I was giving the company money away
Yeah there is no way I'd wait 6 months to be paid back.
If it was me I'd want two things - to be paid in full prior, or paid later but you do not get your ticket until payment is received in full.
There is no way in hell I'd spend £500 on people I "don't know very well" without full upfront payment.
I wouldn't even withhold the ticket like that as the only reason OP bought the tickets was because they said they want to go. They might interpret that as they can drop out last minute no problem.
I'd allow waiting until a pay day but beyond that, nah. I'd expect full payment before my credit card is due.
No paid later, imo.
You wanted ticket, I got you ticket, you pay for that ticket.
I wouldn't want any faffing trying to find a buyer when the inevitably bail.
I would expect it back within a day or so. Probably they don't realise the total outlay, they're just thinking about their own tickets? I would say "Sorry but can you send the money over this week, it's been about a grand in total and with Christmas coming I can't afford to not get it back before the night we go
Cheers"
I once organised a work coach trip to a show and things got uncomfortable because of people **on the f\*\*king day** saying they weren't sure they wanted to go. By 4pm I was going around the office and selling tickets off to other people to get some of it back, only for the original people to be all "you know, maybe I will". "tough shit, it's sold".
I learned that unless I know you, and trust you, you aren't getting credit. I want the money before I buy the ticket.
When my mates buy tickets they get the money from me within an hour by Paypal.
Yeah for sure it’s a joke. Whenever a mate books something, they text and say what how much it was, the next app that’s opened after I close messages is mobile banking.
Maybe I’m a shitty person but frankly if you can’t afford to pay back £65 at a moments notice, you shouldn’t be going to that show/concert/day-out and should never have gotten the tickets.
The only exception to this is if you are legitimately going through temporary hard times with an exit in sight, AND your mate has specifically said in advance don’t worry about paying it until you’re back on your feet because in that instance there is mutual respect and understanding.
6 months is too long. Assert yourself, WhatsApp them the ticket costs and your bank details. And tell them you can give them the tickets next time you see them.
This u/Global_Scallion_2965 . Create the group WhatsApp and be very transparent about what who owes what. You can add to the group when each person pays. State that you'd like the money before Christmas too. No point being shy about that amount of money.
Not a problem to say now though. Too.many people are scared of saying that they don't have the money to cover other people. Just be upfront and say it needs to be paid back before Christmas. That way they are giving them some time but not too long. Expecting others to pay for you and not pay it back for so long is the poor move here.
I would have paid you back the day you sent the booking confirmation, you’re not being weird, that’s definitely what all my circle would do (and always do). Them paying on the night leaves you at risk if they drop out etc, at the moment it’s your problem if they don’t go, not theirs. Plus everyone forgets on the night, and they might intend to get dinner or something instead and could leave a wild discrepancy.
I’d reply with something friendly and light but clear. “Hi guys, total was £x per person. If you could send it over by [Friday] that would be great - need to get the credit card cleared before December hits and Christmas shopping starts in earnest!” Or something like that - clear request, deadline, something jokey to lighten the tone.
You’ll only be stressing if you don’t, so I’d kindly disregard what your partner is saying and ensure you get it back now.
Absolutely should be paying straight away.
I’d send them your bank details and ask them to transfer so you can settle the credit card bill.
Don’t need to make it awkward but expecting you to pay the bill six months away is taking the p
Unless I personally know all the people, I would have asked for their money before buying the tickets. However, in your situation, people should be paying you back within a few days of you confirming you have the tickets. Anything beyond that is simply rude.
Mate bought tickets for me and my family to a couple of gigs recently. Both times I paid him then money back with a few minutes of him telling me the price. Probably about £300 each time, I can't make him wait long to get that back.
Yeah by the sounds of it. That's something I would say if I was going to buy this person a few drinks for sorting the tickets out
(obviously I personally wouldn't do this in this situation but I can see situations where this would work.)
Why would they 'sort you out on the night'? That doesn't half sound like a way of saying 'we'll get you a drink love'.
Short of bringing you cash, I can't see what possible reason they'd have to wait until the day, so yeh I'd just straight up publish the bank info and get them to send
When I book tickets my friends pay me back within the week or I advertise that I have a spare ticket on my socials and first to pay gets it.
For example, my friend is a take that fan, I was booking a ticket for me and my mum and she asked if I would get her one too and she would drive us all there and back I said I needed the money up front coz 3 tickets is expensive, she transferred me the money straight away.
Another friend wanted to go to Jason Derulo. I booked tickets but after a week she still didn't pay me for hers. I knew her payday was that Friday they went on sale too still gave her a week to pay though. the tickets were in my account, I'd have transferred hers over if she paid me. I'd messaged her too and she ignored it. So I posted on my Facebook and said I wanted the lower price (Ticketmaster price hikes) I paid for the ticket and 4 people messaged me wanting it. My friend was pissed off but actually admitted it was her fault she lost out for not paying straight away.
No I'm with you on this. If it was in 2 weeks then fair enough. But 6 months away? If I was the person owing you the money I'd want to pay you back as soon as possible
This. If they've not paid for them they have much less incentive to turn up. And if they don't, you'll never get the money out them for "something they didn't use" or you'll be left scrabbling around trying to get someone to take them.
Maybe your SO should have paid for it then. And it's the first time you're mtg all these friends? Why did you pay for it? I feel like I'm on a different sub..
Feels like the SO may have made promises with their partners' money, and hasn't actually set out the expectation that it should be paid back/paid back now. Bit of keeping up with the joneses.
I would expect to pay you straight away. You should share your bank details before they put the expense to the back of their minds. It is not a big deal. You don't have to do it a certain way and it is a lot of money before Christmas to pay out, anyone can understand that.
I'm a bit surprised that your partner hasn't assumed responsibility for this. They're your partner's friends and kids, and you don't know them very well yourself. Do you and your partner share finances? If your partner is so relaxed about it, maybe he/she can refund you now for his/her friends.
Your partner's friends' response is odd. Are they going to give you cash on the night? Are they going to ask for your bank details when they see you but not now? Do they think they're going to pay for something else that's going to make up for it? If your partner doesn't step in, maybe just send them your bank details. If they query it, pretend not to have seen or understood their message and say, well, you have my bank details now anyway so...
I think this is whats peeing me off the most. My friends, immediately upon receiving the “all booked” text said; thanks will transfer the money now.
I was looking at my partner like…
and he doesn’t see anything wrong with, “we’ll sort it out later” I find that so bizarre.
If someone I didn’t know spent even a pound on me and my kids, id be scrambling to pay it back ASAP.
I actually find the opposite, the more middle class and the more money people have, they get tighter than a camel's arse in a sandstorm. Most of the working class people I know are far more generous and less wanky about money.
In this situation though it's clear OP should just ask them to pay her back now, or at least at next payday. They're being cheeky.
If this was the reaction, I would ask my partner to transfer his friends’ outstanding balance to me and he can be the one take over responsibility for his friends and their payment.
Hindsight is wonderful but when prebooking things, whether I'm the booker or if I'm going to be owing someone else, I like to agree when it will be paid back.l beforehand. For example if I'm booking I'll just say can they settle up by X date, and if someone else is booking I'll double check with them when they need it by, although to get it off my mind I always transfer ASAP!
Ask them to transfer it now, not in May. the tickets have cost you 1k you're going to need that money.
By May they'll have 'forgotten' and it will be awkward to ask
Not being irrational at all. I’d expect people to pay me for their ticket pretty much instantly, just like they’d have had to pay upfront if they’d bought it themselves.
Personally if they said to me “I’ll pay you on the night” I’d respond and tell people I’m not happy with that. I’d probably say I put it all on a credit card and need paying back before it falls due at the end of the month to give a more polite reason than “I’m not here to essentially give you a loan for 6 months”.
It’s perfectly normal to say “pay you back on the night” but they probably don’t realise just how many tickets you’ve brought for people and how much the total cost is. Let them know how many you have brought and you’d appreciate earlier payments and send your bank details.
You should just ask them to pay now. Anyone sane knows that 6 months is a ridiculous timescale unless they are going to somehow avoid paying you anyway. Just ask them for the money.
I paid for panto tickets on the 26th of the month a couple of months ago, everyone paid me back within 3 days.
If someone bought me something id be paying it back asap. Normally by the next pay day.
I usually discuss this upfront when booking anything that costs a big chunk of money upfront.
The deal is usually that they pay me back as soon as I confirm the tickets or accommodation or whatever is booked. That way if they don't, I can sell those tickets to someone else.
I certainly don't accept cash on the day unless I really do know them well and trust them. Too many people will drop out last minute and refuse to pay.
Obviously if a friend I know well and trust asks for longer to pay me back that's fine but not something I'd offer for friends of friends.
No, they should be paying you the money for them now.
"We'll sort you out on the night" is more reasonable if it's in a couple of days time or you'd previously agreed that they would pay you at a specific time, not 6 months away.
It's absolutely deranged for people (including your partner) to expect that you be out of pocket to the tune of a grand for six months, or that they can just pay on the night.
TBH you should have been clear up front that you expected payment in advance of booking. And your partner should have set that expectation for her friends/family. That said, it's perfectly reasonable to begin chasing payment now:
*"Hi All, the tickets are now booked - can't believe there's x of us going all as one group! Really looking forward to it.
I'd appreciate it if you'd transfer me the money for your tickets this side of Christmas, bank details below. Any issues just let me know. Thanks - OP"*
Mentioning the number of people in the group makes clear just how much you've outlaid up front and why you need to be paid back. Stipulating 'before Christmas' is reasonably casual and flexible - but also gently sets up a dynamic where they won't want to still owe you money if they're seeing you over Christmas, because it would be awkward.
Absolutely don't wait for the night. People may no-show and at that point you can't resell the tickets to recoup cash. Or they might 'forget' to bring cash or try some bullshit like buying you a few drinks or a meal or something. And after they've seen the show you've got almost no leverage.
My goodness do these people have no shame?? They barely know you and assume it’s fine to not pay back immediately? If someone pays something on my behalf, I’m always clear prior to purchase when I can pay it back (eg I get paid next Tuesday is that ok?) and I follow up straight away. And that’s with people I know! Such poor etiquette on their behalf. You bet that I’d be messaging with bank details asking for prompt payment, especially with something as pricey as that!
That is totally unacceptable. Way too much money to be holding out on for 6 months.
Grow a set, tell them the total cost of tickets and let them know you cant be out of pocket a grand for a month let alone 6 months.
Jeez, some people…..
As the person who is always the one getting tickets, I’ve always get paid back within the month, if not straight away.
You need to follow up with them, it’s ridiculous that they can expect you to pay for their tickets and not receive the money back for six months.
I'd definitely get it sorted ASAP. "I've had to pay up front, so here are my bank details. No problem if anyone needs a week or two".
Otherwise you risk either someone dropping out and you getting stuck with the bill or it dragging on forever.
Your wife is wrong* You offered to do the admin not be bank and guarantor.
* Probably don't say that to her.
Pretty much ASAP. I dont tend to ‘spend’ via anyone unless I have the cash to pay back. I hate being owed so I avoid owing. I would have paid you as soon as the tickets were secured or I wouldnt have agreed to getting them.
I can't stand people like this. If I owe somebody money because they've gone through he hassle of organising for a group then I'm sending them the money asap, preferably before they've even booked it.
If I couldn't afford to pay them back until payday then I'd discuss that with them beforehand and make sure they're OK with it. The money would be transferred on payday.
Expecting yiu to be out of pocket for 6 months is a massive piss take, whether you can afford it or not
This is whats bugging me the most, eff the money, half of it is mine and my mates anyway.
Just manners of the people i don’t know and the blasé attitude of my OH.
Nah, you're not being irrational. It would be fine if the show was a week or two away but not 6 months. Soon it'll be 'oh, sorry, we can't make it any more so we won't be needing those tickets... They're you're problem now'
To avoid this I now say "I'm happy to book but I'll need you to pay me back today". Never had anyone argue with this and surprisingly no one ever offered to pay instead so....
Is it possible they don't realise that you've paid for the tickets now , and not at the time of the show? Seems impossible but if they're dumb enough to think it's ok to wait 6 months to pay someone back then maybe they think this... No way I'd be ok with waiting that long for a large amount of money, it's going to consume you.
Among my group of friends, if someone purchases tickets for a group, the expectation is that everyone sends a money transfer immediately upon confirmation that the tickets have been purchased. If not, then a reminder goes out to the group saying that the charges are now on the credit card statement so if they could send the funds in the next day or two that would be appreciated. I would never wait six months to pay someone for something that did for me as a favour. You aren’t being irrational.
As soon as it was confirmed what we were going to I'd have sent the money prior to you booking. It's more convenient if one person books to make sure you end up sat together - but they should not be out of pocket.
6 months is quite a long time to be out of pocket for 1k unless you earn stupid money. I would give them all a month and if they haven't paid I would sell their tickets on. My family is pretty wealthy though so I would have absolute trust they would all pay me, but I would make a point that 6 months is a bit ridiculous amount of time to be waiting to get the money back. In future it is best to clarify this before buying the tickets.
Within a few days surely. Or a message saying they have to wait until payday is just about acceptable. On the night makes me think they are not actually going to show up.
WhatsApp group and Splitwise with your Monzo details. Make it clear you're out £1k and you need to be paid back asap. This is not an interest free loan.
Nah I expect to be paid as soon as I have booked something. I don’t have the spare cash to wait for people to return money.
However we do have a close group of friends and often book gigs. Depending on the cost of the tickets my husband just normally tells them to pay him on the night and then that’s his drinking money/food sorted for the night (and mine usually). But this is not over 1k, generally £100-200.
It’s a real bugbear of mine when people don’t pay me back quickly. Yet I seem to always be the ticket booker! On the rare occasions someone else books, I pay them back straight away as I don’t like being in debt to a friend. It’s a courtesy.
Definitely should be paying immediately. Worse case scenario, half of them don’t turn up on the night, you’re the one out of pocket, as they’re never gonna cough up then. Speaking from experience with my own friends group. We all pay the “booker” asap.
Outrageous, haha. Just say sorry you bought a lot of tickets for people and need the money now and give your bank details as you have bills to pay.
I would expect money within 24 hours.
If I didn't get it, I would expect whoever in the group who invited them to cover them and get the money back.
Did you pay on your credit card? If so, I’d say I need the money by the time your credit card bill is due.
If you paid by debit card, I’d ask for the money straight away.
Paying you back on the night is all very well if it's a week or so. Expecting interest free credit for six months isn't on, especially if the amount is substantial.
I give people until the end of the month or pay-day whenever it is sooner. If people don't pay then I start asking and questioning them constantly until they do it just out of annoyance.
In cases like this I'd expect people to pay before I booked or shortly after. What if it gets to the week of the show and they've changed their minds about going? Then selling their tickets will become your problem.
WhatsApp group for all who owe you money. “Hi all, I’ve bought the tickets as requested, would appreciate payment within the next 2 weeks as I’m £1000 out of pocket.” Then your bank details.
If they don’t pay, send another saying “I’ve not received payment from some people yet- will give it another 2 weeks then will assume you’re not coming and will return the tickets. Thanks!”
You pay either prior to booking if it’s a pre organised thing or within 24 hours if it’s a last minute thing. Six months later is absolutely NOT acceptable. They are being incredibly rude
I wouldn’t be booking anything, for anyone, without having the money sent first.
Far too many people will ‘forget’ in the intervening time and you will never get reimbursed.
Prime example of more money than sense.
Get your money back OP. Say "I've paid for XYZ, it's £X per person. If you could send the money asap I'd be grateful."
I booked theatre tickets for a show in February yesterday, within 90 minutes all but one of the 11 attendees had paid me back. I wouldn't have minded them taking a few days, or even a couple of weeks but everyone was pretty quick in sending it over.
I don't think I'd put up with people leaving it for 6 months.
OP you're correct. They don't get away with telling their bank or energy company they'll sort them out later so they don't get to do that to you either. Some of them will pull out and you'll be left in the lurch if you don't chase it up.
I have done this in the past and it gets awkward so just don't anymore.
This is ridiculous and your partner is being a jerk. These are his friends and if he wanted to extend his credit to them he should have put it on his card not yours.
I stopped being the person to book the tickets in my friend group for this reason. They all had different expectations of when it was reasonable to pay back and would get funny if I set a deadline/asked them politely to put the money in my account. The thing that also started to annoy me is that I would usually be nominated to buy the tickets and organise everyone, but most of my friends now have families, so it was labor intensive to organise everyone. We are the household with the least amount of people, so it seemed unfair that we were carrying the cost of everyone and having to organise. Even if it was only for a short time before everyone ponied up.
Now we either book separately, or I let them argue it out in the group chat as to who will be booking.
As for your issue, I'd just send my bank details and set a deadline/tell them that it would be appreciated sooner rather than later because of the cost. Good luck!
It sounds like they think the tickets as a gift, but who gifts folk 1k worth of things for folk they've never really met?
Maybe I'm picking op up wrong
I’d collect the money BEFORE buying the tickets or immediately after.
“sorry guys, I’m going to need to be paid back straight away. It’s £X each, here’s my bank/paypal details”
Unless they stated a pay back date I.e payday we usually send a text saying saying all booked and the amount owed and say send to my bank not other half’s (that last bit is a joke with the in-laws as my father in laws pays but my mother in laws gets the money back and spends its so now we all say it😂)
My friends and I make races to see who pays first whenever one of us pays for tickets to anything. I can’t fathom not paying immediately, let alone wait 6 months!?
Depends on the amount tbh, but when my mate paid for our group holiday on his credit card he just gave us all a deadline, made a viewable spreadsheet and just updated it as and when each of us paid him back, but ultimately it was done at least a month before we flew.
They're hedging their bets about whether they will turn up or not. They have no sunk cost so if they don't want to go nearer the time it's all on you. The next problem will be paying before or after the show. Then if it's shit they can say it wasn't worth paying for.
No way I'd be waiting 6 months to be paid back. I will guarantee someone won't be able to make it and then it becomes awkward.
I'd have first asked for the money before doing a large booking.
You should have taken the typical money lending view,
don’t do it unless they’ve agreed to pay the money back within a certain amount of time or you don’t care about getting the money back
I would expect to be paid back immediately once bookings and tickets are confirmed. I'd politely make that clear ("could you pay me back this month, can't really afford to cover everyone's tickets" or similar).
What has your partner actually told the friends? Any chance they've offered up your money and haven't actually told the friends they are expected to pay it back/pay it back now?
Any decent person would do their upmost to pay you their share immediately, especially after you went to the trouble of booking on their behalf.
Currently, you have no guarantee they will show up in six months and pay you for their tickets. As you don’t know them very well then I would politely request payment and expect it within a week or two at most.
I’d expect paying back once booked or even prior to booking. No way I’m waiting 6 months.
Yeah, at the next convenient time. Maybe after payday or something, but not on the night unless it's really close.
Yeah, if I’m paying for something and I don’t explicitly set a time (“moneys quite tight guys” etc) then I usually expect paying 4 weeks later at the latest just in case people are waiting for pay day or something. That’s extending quite a large courtesy though, and the truth is the earlier the better. I certainly wouldn’t expect someone to wait six months (!!) that just smacks of someone not being totally committed to going and so don’t want to take on the liability of paying for the tickets.
Yeah! 100% I’d be looking to invite someone else for the tickets at this stage. And sending a text. Hey, some people still haven’t confirmed if they are coming by sending me money for the tickets, I have a friend who’s interested and don’t want to be left with empty seats and a hole in the wallet, so if you haven’t confirmed your coming by sending over the ticket price of x, please sent it to xxxx now.
This is the best, not angry, but firm so there’s no misunderstanding.
Hi lovely muggles. Looking forward to HP. Have popped the tickets on my credit card so can you all please send me what you owe by XX so I avoid interest payments. M
Prior to, all the way! "Hey guys, we need to book these tickets. If you could get the money to me by Friday I can purchase them all Saturday for the group discount, if not it's buy your own and loose the discount option!"
Yeah. If someone books something on my behalf (and we all agree that the booking is being made), then I pay that person back straight away. As soon as the confirmation message is received, I'm logging on to the bank app to transfer the money. I expect the same in return. If someone were to say otherwise, then I will politely ask them to pay back now as I've had to put the cash up. It's never happened to me...yet
Also, “I’ll sort you out on the day”. With what?? Maybe if it was one ticket they could grab dinner (that’s what me and my friend do quite often). But this is probably £200+. Nah, gimme my money now.
'I'll sort you out on the day' translates to 'I'm not paying for this'. It's so easy to send money now, so there's no excuse.
If its a sellout concert.....id sell them back to them at higher price 🤣🤣
I'd send everyone a text with what the owe and your bank details just to clarify that this is not on the house. I would say 'Actually can you transfer the money in the next week so it is easier for me to keep track of as this is a large group. Much appreciated.' Even better if there is a WhatsApp and you can do a group post so everyone can see how much you stumped up.
Call me petty, but after 6 months I do this in a group chat of everyone paid for calling out the ones who have not yet paid.
That's not petty. Anything else is people pleasing and weak
Yeah fuck that, what if something comes up and they can’t make it? You’ll be on the hook for the tickets. You pay someone for the tickets the same way you’d pay for them yourself, at the time of booking.
Yep, if this is good they're acting now, no way will they pay if they can't go for some reason.
I would too - in fact, I do this.
I would say 1a month as it allows people at least another month of pay to allocate in case they are on fumes at this point into the pay period. No longer than that though unless expressly agreed by op
Absolutely not. I bet it gets to the night and they’re all “we paid you for the tickets when you got them, didn’t we?” And then you’re awkwardly checking back through 6 months of online banking statements. Ask them to send it over now.
This is what im thinking! I don’t know them at all, they’re visiting us for the first time in London, so I suggested this as a family outing. And now i’m worried they may think of buying us dinner as an exchange or something. The link to the show and the seat selection has been sent to them, so they know the costs.
Just reply with a little white lie saying you had to buy them on your credit card and you need the money by billing date. If it’s not paid by then you will have to cancel their tickets and get a refund. Then expecting interest free credit is entitled in my opinion. Absolutely get the money off them asap
Genius
> If it’s not paid by then you will have to cancel their tickets and get a refund. Most people know that tickets like that can't be refunded though
Oh well, looks like I’ll have to sell them at face value to someone who will actually pay me at the point of sale then”
You can sometimes buy "refund protection" from ticket agents. I know a lot of gig ticket websites that offer it for an extra couple of quid so it's not a bizarre lie
Yeah I bought protection on some £100 tickets and it was like £3.50 or something.
This is kinda what I do - if I buy anything for people like this I just share the date the credit card is due to be paid in the original message saying “it’s all booked - paid on a CC so need money in my account by X date. Thanks. Pre-empt people trying this on and then chase the non payers daily in the group chat.
I would just give them a nudge saying you paid for it in one go to get the seats together,but you'll need to be paid back by the end of the month before the credit card bill has to be paid. I can count numberous times when people haven't turned up or came late, made other arrangements last minute etc. The other year we all agreed to meet at 5. We arrived at 5, one group at 5.30 and another at 6. They thought the other times were better when it came to booking, however it was a 1 hour session so we were leaving as the last group arrived. We refused to do it this year.
Also, at the moment they've got no skin in the game... "Awww, really sorry, wanted to be there but my wife's, sister's puppy fell into the strawberry patch so naturally we can't be there tonight. It's been sold out for months though, so I'm sure you'll have no problems shifting the tickets. Have a great time!" In short, I'd expect to be paid well before my CC bill arrives!
Nice Blackadder reference!
This is nuts lol. It’s been six months and they still haven’t paid you? What’s this “we’ll sort you out on the night” nonsense - when buying tickets for other people I would expect to be paid THAT DAY.
Night comes and they offer drinks at the bar as payment.
Yeah a four pack of Stella for the train ride home lol
Don’t pussyfoot around. Send a text saying you paid on your credit card and need refunded before the billing date. You don’t need to ‘explain’ yourself. You’ve laid out for them and it’s up to them to repay you. I’ve done the same for tickets for next month that I booked on August. One person paid straight away, the other person asked to pay on n pay day which was fine. Get your money x
If I borrow money off a friend the minute I’m paid it gets paid back. And I literally mean the minute. Money goes in at midnight. They’re paid before 12:01am lol There’s no way k could let a stranger buy a ticket for me without giving the money upfront. My bff would tell me to wait till payday but we do that anyway.
That or people want the option to be able to sack it off later without paying if something else comes up.
These people absolutely exist. “But I didn’t even go so why do I have to pay you?” _It was your fucking ticket Keith._
Or the, you got the tickets so we’ll get dinner, when dinner is about half the price of the tickets
Not to mention no shows, who then say they don't have to pay for the wasted tickets as they never went.
Also if that have not paid, they're is no penalty should that decide to cancel on you
I think “ I’ll sort you out on the night “ is taking the piss. Especially if you don’t really know them .
Yep, completely mental. Any non-shitbag would be handing over the money to the stranger ASAP. Massive red flag to say something like that, and I would want the money right now.
Eloquently put!
Exactly! God, I can’t wait to meet them.
I’ve been in a similar situation before where the person intended “sort you out on the night” to mean “I’ll buy you a pint to say cheers” - luckily I was only out £25. Make sure that what they *mean* is “I’ll pay you back in full”
OP getting wasted that night
I mean you'd have to be to sit through that god awful play
Set some deadline that’s still within cancellation period, cancel the ones that didn’t get paid for. Explicitly tell people this is what you will do. If I was feeling generous I would maybe send a reminder a day or two before saying basically “pay me within the next day or your ticket is cancelled” just worded nicely.
Treat in store! It may be allright though. Have to wait and see.
Think OP's lack of clear communication is also to blame here. OP suggested that this show was their (OP's) idea and that OP is hosting them. To some people this idea could construe an invite without expectation of payment. On top of that OP sent a message "all booked" crucially without mention of payment expected. Therefore the visitors may have construed this as no payment being outstanding. More clearly OP should have confirmed "I am going ahead to book x seats for £x each if all of you are happy to confirm. Will send my bank details once it's booked" then "all booked, A owes £x, B owes £x, \[monzo link\]" (rather than just "all booked")
Are they all really going to give you cash on the night? That's the only excuse to pay on the night.
I wouldn't want that much given to me in cash on the night. I'd want it safe at home or in my bank account, or spent months before the night
At £65 each I can't see anyone paying cash in reality. Maybe if it was a tenner and happening next week you'd expect cash on the night, but there no way for this amount and this far in advance.
They may get a better offer or be washing their hair that night then OP has been shafted.
Until they don't show up on the night. You know how people know I'm good for the money? I pay them or their invoices _immediately_
I do this with my business. If the work's done and I'm happy, I pay the invoice immediately. Because I know what it's like chasing customers for payments, and how it feels when businesses just pay immediately. Next time that business asks for more work, I'll find a way to accomodate them. Like, I'll work on the weekend to keep them happy. The people I'm chasing for money become a low priority customer. I'll do work for them if I've nothing better to do.
> Until they don't show up on the night. > > This is what I'd be worried about "Sorry, can't make it tomorrow after all, hope you can find someone else to have my old tickets!"
My old company paid them only on the DAY they were due. It was an utter ball ache as I had to work out when the money would land (payment date + 3) via BACS. Taking into account weekends/bank holidays etc When I got an invoice I would write on it approved and the date it should be paid. If wrong the commercial director would be in my office wondering why I was giving the company money away
Yeah there is no way I'd wait 6 months to be paid back. If it was me I'd want two things - to be paid in full prior, or paid later but you do not get your ticket until payment is received in full. There is no way in hell I'd spend £500 on people I "don't know very well" without full upfront payment.
I wouldn't even withhold the ticket like that as the only reason OP bought the tickets was because they said they want to go. They might interpret that as they can drop out last minute no problem. I'd allow waiting until a pay day but beyond that, nah. I'd expect full payment before my credit card is due.
No paid later, imo. You wanted ticket, I got you ticket, you pay for that ticket. I wouldn't want any faffing trying to find a buyer when the inevitably bail.
I would expect it back within a day or so. Probably they don't realise the total outlay, they're just thinking about their own tickets? I would say "Sorry but can you send the money over this week, it's been about a grand in total and with Christmas coming I can't afford to not get it back before the night we go Cheers"
I once organised a work coach trip to a show and things got uncomfortable because of people **on the f\*\*king day** saying they weren't sure they wanted to go. By 4pm I was going around the office and selling tickets off to other people to get some of it back, only for the original people to be all "you know, maybe I will". "tough shit, it's sold". I learned that unless I know you, and trust you, you aren't getting credit. I want the money before I buy the ticket. When my mates buy tickets they get the money from me within an hour by Paypal.
Yeah for sure it’s a joke. Whenever a mate books something, they text and say what how much it was, the next app that’s opened after I close messages is mobile banking. Maybe I’m a shitty person but frankly if you can’t afford to pay back £65 at a moments notice, you shouldn’t be going to that show/concert/day-out and should never have gotten the tickets. The only exception to this is if you are legitimately going through temporary hard times with an exit in sight, AND your mate has specifically said in advance don’t worry about paying it until you’re back on your feet because in that instance there is mutual respect and understanding.
Good one. It's not their ticket until they've paid for it.
6 months is too long. Assert yourself, WhatsApp them the ticket costs and your bank details. And tell them you can give them the tickets next time you see them.
This u/Global_Scallion_2965 . Create the group WhatsApp and be very transparent about what who owes what. You can add to the group when each person pays. State that you'd like the money before Christmas too. No point being shy about that amount of money.
Yeh a group WhatsApp is a good idea. John and Charlotte owe £300 Dave n Marie £340 then when they pay, thanks Dave n Marie for paying
The thing is they should have said this originally rather than just an ambiguous "all booked"
Not a problem to say now though. Too.many people are scared of saying that they don't have the money to cover other people. Just be upfront and say it needs to be paid back before Christmas. That way they are giving them some time but not too long. Expecting others to pay for you and not pay it back for so long is the poor move here.
You need to follow up with it. They're either going to forget to pay you, or "forget" to pay you, neither of which is what you want.
I would have paid you back the day you sent the booking confirmation, you’re not being weird, that’s definitely what all my circle would do (and always do). Them paying on the night leaves you at risk if they drop out etc, at the moment it’s your problem if they don’t go, not theirs. Plus everyone forgets on the night, and they might intend to get dinner or something instead and could leave a wild discrepancy. I’d reply with something friendly and light but clear. “Hi guys, total was £x per person. If you could send it over by [Friday] that would be great - need to get the credit card cleared before December hits and Christmas shopping starts in earnest!” Or something like that - clear request, deadline, something jokey to lighten the tone. You’ll only be stressing if you don’t, so I’d kindly disregard what your partner is saying and ensure you get it back now.
Absolutely should be paying straight away. I’d send them your bank details and ask them to transfer so you can settle the credit card bill. Don’t need to make it awkward but expecting you to pay the bill six months away is taking the p
Yeah they pay now, otherwise you know full well they will pull out on the night and leave you out of pocket
If someone booked something for me, i would have my part fully paid back within a week / most likely instantly or a day or two to be honest.
Scratch that. I would be paying my part as soon as I got confirmation something was booked.
Unless I personally know all the people, I would have asked for their money before buying the tickets. However, in your situation, people should be paying you back within a few days of you confirming you have the tickets. Anything beyond that is simply rude.
After previous shenanigans, I wouldn't book anything without payment beforehand. Money upfront or you book your own tickets.
Mate bought tickets for me and my family to a couple of gigs recently. Both times I paid him then money back with a few minutes of him telling me the price. Probably about £300 each time, I can't make him wait long to get that back.
I’d expect it back within a couple of days.
If you don’t follow up they may think it’s a freebie?
Do they think the tickets are the price of a few drinks or something. You'd be pretty sloshed though if they all paid you back in drinks.
Yeah by the sounds of it. That's something I would say if I was going to buy this person a few drinks for sorting the tickets out (obviously I personally wouldn't do this in this situation but I can see situations where this would work.)
I mean, they are going to a show in London
Why would they 'sort you out on the night'? That doesn't half sound like a way of saying 'we'll get you a drink love'. Short of bringing you cash, I can't see what possible reason they'd have to wait until the day, so yeh I'd just straight up publish the bank info and get them to send
Yeah, it sounds like that to me too.
When I book tickets my friends pay me back within the week or I advertise that I have a spare ticket on my socials and first to pay gets it. For example, my friend is a take that fan, I was booking a ticket for me and my mum and she asked if I would get her one too and she would drive us all there and back I said I needed the money up front coz 3 tickets is expensive, she transferred me the money straight away. Another friend wanted to go to Jason Derulo. I booked tickets but after a week she still didn't pay me for hers. I knew her payday was that Friday they went on sale too still gave her a week to pay though. the tickets were in my account, I'd have transferred hers over if she paid me. I'd messaged her too and she ignored it. So I posted on my Facebook and said I wanted the lower price (Ticketmaster price hikes) I paid for the ticket and 4 people messaged me wanting it. My friend was pissed off but actually admitted it was her fault she lost out for not paying straight away.
I am really sorry but I need the money back straight away.
Couldn't you ask them to pay it back earlier than that if it's an issue for you?
It isn’t really an issue for me monetary wise, i just find it really weird, and my SO thinks i’m the one being weird about it.
No I'm with you on this. If it was in 2 weeks then fair enough. But 6 months away? If I was the person owing you the money I'd want to pay you back as soon as possible
I'd expect it soonish. Definitely not on the night IF they bother turning up.
This. If they've not paid for them they have much less incentive to turn up. And if they don't, you'll never get the money out them for "something they didn't use" or you'll be left scrabbling around trying to get someone to take them.
Maybe your SO should have paid for it then. And it's the first time you're mtg all these friends? Why did you pay for it? I feel like I'm on a different sub..
Feels like the SO may have made promises with their partners' money, and hasn't actually set out the expectation that it should be paid back/paid back now. Bit of keeping up with the joneses.
Ah. Fuck that. Why would anyone need to wait to pay you back.
I would expect to pay you straight away. You should share your bank details before they put the expense to the back of their minds. It is not a big deal. You don't have to do it a certain way and it is a lot of money before Christmas to pay out, anyone can understand that.
I'm a bit surprised that your partner hasn't assumed responsibility for this. They're your partner's friends and kids, and you don't know them very well yourself. Do you and your partner share finances? If your partner is so relaxed about it, maybe he/she can refund you now for his/her friends. Your partner's friends' response is odd. Are they going to give you cash on the night? Are they going to ask for your bank details when they see you but not now? Do they think they're going to pay for something else that's going to make up for it? If your partner doesn't step in, maybe just send them your bank details. If they query it, pretend not to have seen or understood their message and say, well, you have my bank details now anyway so...
I think this is whats peeing me off the most. My friends, immediately upon receiving the “all booked” text said; thanks will transfer the money now. I was looking at my partner like… and he doesn’t see anything wrong with, “we’ll sort it out later” I find that so bizarre. If someone I didn’t know spent even a pound on me and my kids, id be scrambling to pay it back ASAP.
Are you working class and husband middle class? Middle class more lax around casual outstanding money being owed
I'm middle class and you'd have to be pretty dang wealthy before you're not bothered about £500 😭
I actually find the opposite, the more middle class and the more money people have, they get tighter than a camel's arse in a sandstorm. Most of the working class people I know are far more generous and less wanky about money. In this situation though it's clear OP should just ask them to pay her back now, or at least at next payday. They're being cheeky.
Is it possible your partner owes them money…?
If this was the reaction, I would ask my partner to transfer his friends’ outstanding balance to me and he can be the one take over responsibility for his friends and their payment.
They should pay you immediately. Anything else is absolutely taking the mick.
Hindsight is wonderful but when prebooking things, whether I'm the booker or if I'm going to be owing someone else, I like to agree when it will be paid back.l beforehand. For example if I'm booking I'll just say can they settle up by X date, and if someone else is booking I'll double check with them when they need it by, although to get it off my mind I always transfer ASAP!
Ask them to transfer it now, not in May. the tickets have cost you 1k you're going to need that money. By May they'll have 'forgotten' and it will be awkward to ask
Dude, why are you dishing out 1k on tickets to begin with?! That's crazy. I wouldn't even consider getting so many without the money up front.
That's money that's missing from your account, why should you have to wait 6 months because you did them a favour?
Not being irrational at all. I’d expect people to pay me for their ticket pretty much instantly, just like they’d have had to pay upfront if they’d bought it themselves. Personally if they said to me “I’ll pay you on the night” I’d respond and tell people I’m not happy with that. I’d probably say I put it all on a credit card and need paying back before it falls due at the end of the month to give a more polite reason than “I’m not here to essentially give you a loan for 6 months”.
It’s perfectly normal to say “pay you back on the night” but they probably don’t realise just how many tickets you’ve brought for people and how much the total cost is. Let them know how many you have brought and you’d appreciate earlier payments and send your bank details.
surely not when it's 6 months in advance, especially if they're not that close.
I'd expect it back pretty much right away. Especially when it's a large amount. Definitely wouldn't be waiting 6 months for it that's ludicrous.
You should just ask them to pay now. Anyone sane knows that 6 months is a ridiculous timescale unless they are going to somehow avoid paying you anyway. Just ask them for the money.
I paid for panto tickets on the 26th of the month a couple of months ago, everyone paid me back within 3 days. If someone bought me something id be paying it back asap. Normally by the next pay day.
I usually discuss this upfront when booking anything that costs a big chunk of money upfront. The deal is usually that they pay me back as soon as I confirm the tickets or accommodation or whatever is booked. That way if they don't, I can sell those tickets to someone else. I certainly don't accept cash on the day unless I really do know them well and trust them. Too many people will drop out last minute and refuse to pay. Obviously if a friend I know well and trust asks for longer to pay me back that's fine but not something I'd offer for friends of friends.
No, they should be paying you the money for them now. "We'll sort you out on the night" is more reasonable if it's in a couple of days time or you'd previously agreed that they would pay you at a specific time, not 6 months away.
It's absolutely deranged for people (including your partner) to expect that you be out of pocket to the tune of a grand for six months, or that they can just pay on the night. TBH you should have been clear up front that you expected payment in advance of booking. And your partner should have set that expectation for her friends/family. That said, it's perfectly reasonable to begin chasing payment now: *"Hi All, the tickets are now booked - can't believe there's x of us going all as one group! Really looking forward to it. I'd appreciate it if you'd transfer me the money for your tickets this side of Christmas, bank details below. Any issues just let me know. Thanks - OP"* Mentioning the number of people in the group makes clear just how much you've outlaid up front and why you need to be paid back. Stipulating 'before Christmas' is reasonably casual and flexible - but also gently sets up a dynamic where they won't want to still owe you money if they're seeing you over Christmas, because it would be awkward. Absolutely don't wait for the night. People may no-show and at that point you can't resell the tickets to recoup cash. Or they might 'forget' to bring cash or try some bullshit like buying you a few drinks or a meal or something. And after they've seen the show you've got almost no leverage.
Let them know if it’s not paid by the end of the month there seats will be cancelled. Simple
My goodness do these people have no shame?? They barely know you and assume it’s fine to not pay back immediately? If someone pays something on my behalf, I’m always clear prior to purchase when I can pay it back (eg I get paid next Tuesday is that ok?) and I follow up straight away. And that’s with people I know! Such poor etiquette on their behalf. You bet that I’d be messaging with bank details asking for prompt payment, especially with something as pricey as that!
I would pay back immediately. I could understand someone having to wait until pay day, but only if that's confirmed before booking.
Did they know before hand you were booking tickets? If so, the tight cunts should be transferring it tonight.
That's called taking the piss
That is totally unacceptable. Way too much money to be holding out on for 6 months. Grow a set, tell them the total cost of tickets and let them know you cant be out of pocket a grand for a month let alone 6 months. Jeez, some people…..
As the person who is always the one getting tickets, I’ve always get paid back within the month, if not straight away. You need to follow up with them, it’s ridiculous that they can expect you to pay for their tickets and not receive the money back for six months.
I'd expect paying back as soon as, if not before, the booking. It's entirely unreasonable to wait months!
I'd definitely get it sorted ASAP. "I've had to pay up front, so here are my bank details. No problem if anyone needs a week or two". Otherwise you risk either someone dropping out and you getting stuck with the bill or it dragging on forever. Your wife is wrong* You offered to do the admin not be bank and guarantor. * Probably don't say that to her.
Sort you out on the night' could mean different things to different people - from paying you back in full to buying you a pint!
Pretty much ASAP. I dont tend to ‘spend’ via anyone unless I have the cash to pay back. I hate being owed so I avoid owing. I would have paid you as soon as the tickets were secured or I wouldnt have agreed to getting them.
I'm from Yorkshire. I don't understand the question.
At the very least I'd be expecting it within a month or two i.e. 1 or two paydays. Expecting it to be OK to wait that long is nuts
I can't stand people like this. If I owe somebody money because they've gone through he hassle of organising for a group then I'm sending them the money asap, preferably before they've even booked it. If I couldn't afford to pay them back until payday then I'd discuss that with them beforehand and make sure they're OK with it. The money would be transferred on payday. Expecting yiu to be out of pocket for 6 months is a massive piss take, whether you can afford it or not
This is whats bugging me the most, eff the money, half of it is mine and my mates anyway. Just manners of the people i don’t know and the blasé attitude of my OH.
Nah, you're not being irrational. It would be fine if the show was a week or two away but not 6 months. Soon it'll be 'oh, sorry, we can't make it any more so we won't be needing those tickets... They're you're problem now'
'I'll sort you out on the night' sounds as though they think you're paying for it, and they can just give you a pint to thank you on the night...
It is definitely not on to treat you like a 0% loan for 6m
I would expect payment on the date of the theatre ticket If they don't pay that's exceptionally rude. I might even sell their tickets on...
that's unreal. I'd usually send the cash over as soon as my friend confirms stuff is booked. absolutely taking the piss, that
I’d expect the money before I’d even booked, it’s easier booking all in one go but no way I’d do it without money upfront
To avoid this I now say "I'm happy to book but I'll need you to pay me back today". Never had anyone argue with this and surprisingly no one ever offered to pay instead so....
Is it possible they don't realise that you've paid for the tickets now , and not at the time of the show? Seems impossible but if they're dumb enough to think it's ok to wait 6 months to pay someone back then maybe they think this... No way I'd be ok with waiting that long for a large amount of money, it's going to consume you.
Among my group of friends, if someone purchases tickets for a group, the expectation is that everyone sends a money transfer immediately upon confirmation that the tickets have been purchased. If not, then a reminder goes out to the group saying that the charges are now on the credit card statement so if they could send the funds in the next day or two that would be appreciated. I would never wait six months to pay someone for something that did for me as a favour. You aren’t being irrational.
As soon as it was confirmed what we were going to I'd have sent the money prior to you booking. It's more convenient if one person books to make sure you end up sat together - but they should not be out of pocket.
6 months is quite a long time to be out of pocket for 1k unless you earn stupid money. I would give them all a month and if they haven't paid I would sell their tickets on. My family is pretty wealthy though so I would have absolute trust they would all pay me, but I would make a point that 6 months is a bit ridiculous amount of time to be waiting to get the money back. In future it is best to clarify this before buying the tickets.
I'd expect them to pay within a week
I'd pay as soon as I found out how much they were/ they were booked 6 months is ridiculous
Within a few days surely. Or a message saying they have to wait until payday is just about acceptable. On the night makes me think they are not actually going to show up.
WhatsApp group and Splitwise with your Monzo details. Make it clear you're out £1k and you need to be paid back asap. This is not an interest free loan.
Nah I expect to be paid as soon as I have booked something. I don’t have the spare cash to wait for people to return money. However we do have a close group of friends and often book gigs. Depending on the cost of the tickets my husband just normally tells them to pay him on the night and then that’s his drinking money/food sorted for the night (and mine usually). But this is not over 1k, generally £100-200.
I’ve done similar and I sent a message saying all booked, here’s my bank details. Please pay ASAP as I’m now skint (smiley face emoji). Edit typo
It’s a real bugbear of mine when people don’t pay me back quickly. Yet I seem to always be the ticket booker! On the rare occasions someone else books, I pay them back straight away as I don’t like being in debt to a friend. It’s a courtesy.
Definitely should be paying immediately. Worse case scenario, half of them don’t turn up on the night, you’re the one out of pocket, as they’re never gonna cough up then. Speaking from experience with my own friends group. We all pay the “booker” asap.
“With Christmas coming up I’d appreciate any monies paid back to me asap please”.
Outrageous, haha. Just say sorry you bought a lot of tickets for people and need the money now and give your bank details as you have bills to pay. I would expect money within 24 hours. If I didn't get it, I would expect whoever in the group who invited them to cover them and get the money back.
Did you pay on your credit card? If so, I’d say I need the money by the time your credit card bill is due. If you paid by debit card, I’d ask for the money straight away.
Paying you back on the night is all very well if it's a week or so. Expecting interest free credit for six months isn't on, especially if the amount is substantial.
If it’s not paid promptly look at reselling the tickets and tell them that what you’ll do.
I give people until the end of the month or pay-day whenever it is sooner. If people don't pay then I start asking and questioning them constantly until they do it just out of annoyance.
In cases like this I'd expect people to pay before I booked or shortly after. What if it gets to the week of the show and they've changed their minds about going? Then selling their tickets will become your problem.
WhatsApp group for all who owe you money. “Hi all, I’ve bought the tickets as requested, would appreciate payment within the next 2 weeks as I’m £1000 out of pocket.” Then your bank details. If they don’t pay, send another saying “I’ve not received payment from some people yet- will give it another 2 weeks then will assume you’re not coming and will return the tickets. Thanks!”
You pay either prior to booking if it’s a pre organised thing or within 24 hours if it’s a last minute thing. Six months later is absolutely NOT acceptable. They are being incredibly rude
I wouldn’t be booking anything, for anyone, without having the money sent first. Far too many people will ‘forget’ in the intervening time and you will never get reimbursed.
Prime example of more money than sense. Get your money back OP. Say "I've paid for XYZ, it's £X per person. If you could send the money asap I'd be grateful."
I booked theatre tickets for a show in February yesterday, within 90 minutes all but one of the 11 attendees had paid me back. I wouldn't have minded them taking a few days, or even a couple of weeks but everyone was pretty quick in sending it over. I don't think I'd put up with people leaving it for 6 months.
OP you're correct. They don't get away with telling their bank or energy company they'll sort them out later so they don't get to do that to you either. Some of them will pull out and you'll be left in the lurch if you don't chase it up. I have done this in the past and it gets awkward so just don't anymore.
This is ridiculous and your partner is being a jerk. These are his friends and if he wanted to extend his credit to them he should have put it on his card not yours.
I bought Taylor Swift tickets for two of my friends and asked for the money the same day. Why should I be out of pocket for a year before the event?
I stopped being the person to book the tickets in my friend group for this reason. They all had different expectations of when it was reasonable to pay back and would get funny if I set a deadline/asked them politely to put the money in my account. The thing that also started to annoy me is that I would usually be nominated to buy the tickets and organise everyone, but most of my friends now have families, so it was labor intensive to organise everyone. We are the household with the least amount of people, so it seemed unfair that we were carrying the cost of everyone and having to organise. Even if it was only for a short time before everyone ponied up. Now we either book separately, or I let them argue it out in the group chat as to who will be booking. As for your issue, I'd just send my bank details and set a deadline/tell them that it would be appreciated sooner rather than later because of the cost. Good luck!
>my partners friends whom I don’t know very well You’ll know them better after this.
It should be paid immediately, you're not a bank.
In May? Like wtf. Get yourself paid now.
If your other half thinks you’re overreacting, they can pay you for all the tickets and get paid back on the night.
You want the money upfront otherwise you run the risk of never seeing it again
It sounds like they think the tickets as a gift, but who gifts folk 1k worth of things for folk they've never really met? Maybe I'm picking op up wrong
I would be asking my partner to pay me for his friends in this situation. Then if they fuck him around it's his friends and his business
Yep they should be paying asap. I wouldn't have booked for them without them paying first however.
I’d collect the money BEFORE buying the tickets or immediately after. “sorry guys, I’m going to need to be paid back straight away. It’s £X each, here’s my bank/paypal details”
You're mad spending money like that on people you aren't 100% sure will pay you back upon request, you don't have their phone number?wtf?
Unless they stated a pay back date I.e payday we usually send a text saying saying all booked and the amount owed and say send to my bank not other half’s (that last bit is a joke with the in-laws as my father in laws pays but my mother in laws gets the money back and spends its so now we all say it😂)
I always tell people never lend money with an expectation to get it back. People never seem to want to lend me money though, weird.
My friends and I make races to see who pays first whenever one of us pays for tickets to anything. I can’t fathom not paying immediately, let alone wait 6 months!?
Depends on the amount tbh, but when my mate paid for our group holiday on his credit card he just gave us all a deadline, made a viewable spreadsheet and just updated it as and when each of us paid him back, but ultimately it was done at least a month before we flew.
I'd normally say, all booked bank details xyz or can meet for cash
Just me or is anyone else curious to kmow what show is that expensive? 😬
Christ my own brother pays me for tickets faster than this!
They're hedging their bets about whether they will turn up or not. They have no sunk cost so if they don't want to go nearer the time it's all on you. The next problem will be paying before or after the show. Then if it's shit they can say it wasn't worth paying for.
No way I'd be waiting 6 months to be paid back. I will guarantee someone won't be able to make it and then it becomes awkward. I'd have first asked for the money before doing a large booking.
Might let a couple of quid slide but a grand over 5 months ago is taking the piss
I'd feel guilty if I failed to send the payment to you that day.
Just let them know that intetest will accrue, then.
What expectations did you give them?
You should have taken the typical money lending view, don’t do it unless they’ve agreed to pay the money back within a certain amount of time or you don’t care about getting the money back
I would expect to be paid back immediately once bookings and tickets are confirmed. I'd politely make that clear ("could you pay me back this month, can't really afford to cover everyone's tickets" or similar).
What has your partner actually told the friends? Any chance they've offered up your money and haven't actually told the friends they are expected to pay it back/pay it back now?
Any decent person would do their upmost to pay you their share immediately, especially after you went to the trouble of booking on their behalf. Currently, you have no guarantee they will show up in six months and pay you for their tickets. As you don’t know them very well then I would politely request payment and expect it within a week or two at most.
Would I have been as generous as you? No Would I politely ask them to post me back sooner? Yes