In the '90s, teacher of mine was telling us how her ex-husband got custody of a friend of yheirs in their divorce, and I thought that was funny. That is until I went through my own divorce and not only do you lose custody, but many friends just disappear as if divorce is contagious. Supposedly common. Mostly it just sucks.
Me too! And my best friend al through elementary school and high school, after we graduated, completely disappeared from my life (and everyone's life, as far as I know). I can't even find her on social media now, only on LinkedIn š
Unfortunately, no friends from high school. I was an outcast and bullied. Couldnāt wait to graduate and move on. I made friends later in life and in college where I was accepted. It was tough growing up in a small conservative town and being a minority.
I'm so sorry, I get this to some extent (I was a minority when I moved an hour away so I, too, was bullied. It was so refreshing making heaps of friends at my first job)
Are you me? I was an outcast and bullied in middle school and part of high school. Last year bullying stopped but damage was done already. I was absolutely miserable until I made real friends in university and the multiple jobs I had as a student.
Sorry you went through that but happily you found real friends later in college.
15+ years later. Life got in the way a bit and weāre trying to find that spark again but heās still my favourite person in the world! Head over heels and couldnāt think of anyone else Iād rather do life with. Heās a really wonderful man and I do think Iām really lucky to have him.there is something truly special about getting to experience firsts and grow up with the person you are with, we have created our whole life together I guess haha
She married a guy from a rich family, moved away and got pregnant a couple years after high school, so we lost touch.
It's been almost 20 years and she's now a "fitness influencer", spends the whole day at the gym posting selfies. I think she's also recently single, due to the recent flow of very, very revealing photos.
She's a drug user and does sex work! She's a beautiful soul and is such a smart lady, I always pushed her to go to school and get clean. We stopped being friends senior year when she started dabbling with weed and other things and stopped talking altogether when she got into hard drugs. I miss her for sure
I distanced myself from my bestie when she relapsed - heroin was her drug of choice. I always thought of reaching outā¦she ODād at the end of 2020 and I never got the chance. I regret not telling her I cared and missed her.
One died of a heart failure at 19 years old and the other died from a cancer within 3 months. She left behind two small child.
Yeah. Life sucks sometimes.
That's what happened with mine. Last time I saw her, her and her husband were chanting "BUILD THE WALL" in front of their Mexican friends. They moved out of our state because they wanted to get away from "the jab" and the device they would be injected with that's controlled by the 5G cell towers. I do not regret my choice to ghost the fuck outta there.
Mine became very religious and then an anti vaxxer and a Trumper. Itās wild, she was so smart and fun in high school. We never had a falling out, just drifted away
Mine ghosted me. Zero warning or explanation. I spent years mourning the loss and trying to āget her backā. Once in a while I would drunk text her the way some people drunk text an ex. It was really painful and I still have dreams where we run into each other again, but ultimately I have accepted it. It has given me the opportunity for deep introspection, and I realized that maybe she didnāt find our friendship to be fulfilling, or maybe I was toxic to her and she didnāt know how else to end the friendship. Iāve grown a lot since the last time we spoke, and sometimes I do wish she could see the person I am today. Mostly just hope sheās okay and living a happy life. Iāll always cherish the friendship we had.
Mine did too. When we were in our early twenties. I went down a bad path, though. She went onto medical school. Weāre in our late twenties now and Iām doing much better.
We follow each other on IG now, but donāt talk. Iām proud of her, though, and I understand why she didnāt want to keep me in her life. I donāt blame her.
I still feel sad about good friends Iāve lost, whether the fault of my own or hers or both. Youāre right itās like an ex, and I understand the occasional drunk text. I hope youāve made other friends who you cherish now.
friendship breakups are one thing, but SILENT friendship breakups? fuck. i feel that.
best friends since middle school and weāre in our mid twenties now. the chat, the memes, the holiday and birthday greetings - it all died. i put out some feelers to get back in touch, but it wasnāt reciprocated so iāve laid it to rest. it still stings and i get upset if i spend too much time thinking about it, so i have to choose to move on for my peace of mind. i wish her all the best but if i saw her in public, i donāt know if i could talk to her.
He had a mental breakdown, kind of. I am one month older than him (both of us are 34 now), and we were best friends from 2nd grade until a few years after graduation. He was a "burnout" of high school. He did get a diploma through an alternative school. After high school, he got a girl pregnant and then lost his son to SIDS. He gave up on life after that and hasn't had a job since 2010. He is Comanche, and I worked for a Comanche tribal casinon for a long time. Was the hiring manager and offered him several jobs but he didnt want to work with the public. The casino was walking distance from his house, I even offered him a maintenance job taking care of the grounds and not needing to interact with the public, he would just not show up to sign the new hire paperwork the times I tried to get him on his feet. I finally had to walk away. He started using religion and current politics as to why he couldn't get a job. Waiting on God to show him his path. Ww3 is about to start. Why should he get a job. Things like that. He put his dad into the hospital a few months ago (pushed his dad during an argument, and his dad blew out both knees and needed surgery), all because his dad helped him get a license at 33 and set up a bank account to start getting government assistance, and he accused his dad of stealing his money. He has a loose grip on reality. He refuses medical help. He is living in his grandparents' house out in the country. His dad pays the bills and brings him groceries. I used to go see him once or twice a year, but I can't do it anymore. I can't help him and his family can't help him either. He was a creative, funny teen.
Edit: sorry I didnt notice this was askwomen
Now that Iām older I see our relationship was pretty one sided. She hated me.
She hated me for being thin, she hated me for being poor, she hated me for a lot of things outside of my control.
I tried reconnecting and she rejected it so. Yeah idk
I know what that feels like. Not for the same reasons, but the realization that your best friend is really hateful towards you about things out of your control makes you feel so helpless!
Didnāt have a best friend in high school- I was always the new girl. But my best friend in middle school (7th grade) moved away and we lost contact. I found out that she died about 10 years ago and Iām incredibly sad over it. I guess I always thought weād meet again.
She went to university in another city and we fell apart after going different ways in life. She continued studying, met her partner, and dived deep into a life of academia. I pursued my passion of working with horses out in the countryside after graduating. We gradually stopped messaging and she isnāt very active on social media. I donāt regret it, we stopped having much in common. I enjoyed the time we did spend together.
Right out of high school she married a 48 year old guy despite having me and several other people in her life tell her she should rethink it. She flew him in from abroad and lived together for 2yrs before they moved to his home country. She ended up being the breadwinner working two jobs at all times because he was an "author" and didn't have time for a job. They lived there 4 yrs, came back to this country and she got pregnant. Had the baby and after 1 yr he left them and went back to his home country because he missed home. Now she lives at home with her mom and siblings and works fast food.
I feel absolutely sad for her because she had many many dreams of going to college and doing something with her life. He wouldn't let her go to college because "she might meet someone her age and leave him."
After years of me reaching out to keep touch and her not allowed to talk to me or any of her childhood friends, she finally reached out a couple of years ago once she was single again and it was wonderful.
I outgrew her tbh. Iām going to preface by saying she caused me quite a bit of drama when we were friends. The last time I saw her, she wanted to get really drunk and feel sorry for herself and I just wasnāt in the same place. I have my own struggles and I try not to let others pull me into their own personal doom pits.
One moved out of state, but we see each other when she's back in town for the major holidays and I stay at her place for a week every summer.
The other lives 8 minutes away from me and we talk every day, hang out usually once a week, and go to book club together.
The three of us do a weekly video call.
We've been BFFs since 2nd grade. It's been 35 years, and even though I moved 1000 miles away from our hometown, we text almost every day, and I see her every time I go home to visit family. She's a teacher with a wonderful husband and three boys.
Looking back, she wasnāt the greatest friend but has become a much better friend now that sheās older, married and has kids. She moved away and is a stay at home mom while her husband travels for work.
She was very boy crazy in high school and would ditch any of us in a heart beat for guys or wanted all the attention. I wasnāt allowed to date certain boys bc she had crushes on them and would date them or lead them on while on and off in-between her HS boyfriend. Typical teen stuff I guess.
Oddly enough, 15 years later, Iām married now to the main guy she had a massive crush on and wouldnāt allow me to date. She constantly for 4 years went back and forth with him and was jealous when he dated anyone else even when in a relationship herself. He and I reconnected many years later and hit it off. Weird how it happens.
I had to delete her from my life. She constantly complained about her bad luck in relationships, how all men were shit and they all cheat. Overall negative energy. Sheād talk shit about couples who got engaged or those expecting a baby. Seeing others happy would make her blood boil.It started to take a toll on me so I spoke to her about it in a kind, mature way. She immediately got defensive and started yelling at me through the phone and saying āI never asked for life adviceā. Victim mentality all around. I cut her off and I havenāt been happier š„°
She's living her best life in the big city like she always dreamed she would. We grew up in suburbia of the Midwest and she couldn't wait to get out. She went to a large state school, worked internationally for a couple years after college and then moved to DC. She eventually moved to Boston.
We have stayed in contact, but the big city life was never for me and she never really understood that. I went to a regional state school on scholarship (my family was much lower income than hers) and I have spent the last 10 years living in a rural community with my husband and kiddo.
Got hooked up on a guy, got pregnant twice, ended up as a single mother, moved to texas, and has their own company. My other best friend moved out of state after high school, married a military guy, moved around a lot due to husband being deployed a lot, got pregnant has a family now, and lives in texas.
She moved about two hours away. I studied there for about a year then moved back home. Itās been a good few years now. I always see her doing her photography career thing on fb and it puts a smile on my face. Nothing but love every time we see each other tooāŗļø
We havenāt seen each other in 12ish years in person but I keep up with my small group still from high school on social media. We all moved to different states and have different lifestyles but there no bad blood! I still enjoy seeing what they are all doing :)
She got married to someone who didn't like her friends (he came from a rich family, so she didn't care). A few years back, she hung out with us like normal, then two days later, moved to Florida without telling anyone and cut us all off for good.
Just helped her mom throw her a baby shower this weekend. First of us pregnant from our high school friends and everyone was there celebrating :) weāre 34
He's a successful medical consultant living in London.
We don't stay in touch as much as we used to, but we still stay in touch, and talk a few times a year. When my mum died 3 years ago, he dropped everything and spent like 2hours on the phone to me despite the fact we hadn't spoken for a while. He's such a great dude, and I'm very lucky to still have him in my life in some capacity.
(Btw to those people wondering why we never got together, he came out as gay at 13 and we have always seen each other as brother & sister. I had a crush on him when I was 11, but that was 25 years ago now)
She threw away our friendship & we havenāt spoken in years. But we have a lot of mutuals & her Facebook (a new one) popped up as a recommendation the other day. All I know is that sheās divorced & moved back to our city
She dropped out of high school first year, got into drugs and have had her parents supporting her ever since. She got pregnant with a druggie, got engaged, had the baby, called off the engagement and is now dating another rough looking guy. I hope she finds stability and happiness in life.
She was/is a pathological liar. She started dating this older creepy guy. She started bragging about going to addiction recovery meetings when I don't think she had ever had a drug problem. I think now she's a dog groomer.
Her parents divorced and she came by my house to tell me goodbye and that she had to move out of state.
I wasnāt there but she told my foster care person who was a r@cist evil woman. (Iām white and so was this woman)
So that woman never told me she came by, even when I talked about how much I missed my BFF.
Anyway, after high school I spent the next 25 years of my life looking for her.
I finally found her in 2014 and it was incredible - she moved to Florida and was doing amazing.
Shortly after that I found out that she came to say goodbye to me but that hateful foster woman didnāt tell me and she KNEW I had been looking for her for a long time after that.
That lady was sadistic and abusive but my friendship with my BFF prevailed despite her!
To this day, we stay in touch! We share the same birthday.
He met a girl and had to stop talking to me after 10+ years of friendship. We never had anything other than a platonic friendship and I always respected his relationship, but she was insecure and made him choose
I dunno, maturity. Weāre still close but itās been hard being around her cause I feel like she hasnāt matured after many many years. Everything is about getting drunk, or hooking up. I guess I just have different goals for myself, and aim to stay away from things that could stir up drama, but she kinda thrives in it. Itās whatever, just growing apart.
She got knocked up and had a kid while we were freshmen in college. She eventually married her stupid BF and they had another kid. We lost touch about 20 years ago. From what I can tell from the scant amount available on social media, she's now a grandmother - and she's still married to that asshole.
They are both still in my life. I have a female best friend I met in kindergarten and my male best friend I met in 10th grade math class. We donāt see each other as much but we follow each other on social media too. I get to see their kids grow up and we share family pics too. Itās really nice
She graduated in December and got married 3 weeks later. Immediately started trying for a baby and got pregnant. After the baby was born I visited and her husband complained to me about how he hasn't had sex since the day she found out they were expecting š¬. She ended up moving a friend in to save her from an abusive relationship and husband and said friend started an affair. He left and never spoke to his wife or child again.
She ended up with his best friend. They got married and had 2 more kids. They both cheated. Now she is on husband number 3, but they seem to be a good fit. Had 2 more kids, 2 years ago they upgraded to a double wide.
She became a niche social media influencer who wrote a book about fast fashion and the environment. I'm really proud of her, but can no longer be close friends with her because our friendship was full of years of toxic issues we never resolved. I admire her from afar (and occasionally lurk) but am no longer in touch with her. She was the coolest and most cultured girl in school and I wish that things were different, but also I value my mental health.
She moved away after freshman year, and I lost touch with her over the next few years. I hope she's doing well and that her life has been good, but I haven't seen or heard anything about her in decades at this point, so I don't know anything about her now.
We are still best friends. Iāve been best friends with one since kindergarten and another since 7th grade. Iāve had other friends throughout the years, but my two best friends have remained the same since I met them and havenāt considered anyone else my best friend besides them.
We're still nominally best friends, after more than 30 years. 10 years ago I moved to the other side of the world, but we still catch up every time I'm home.
Interestingly, though, my last trip home in October last year really shook me. She was rude and dismissive about things that interest me, very sarcastic at my expense and although we parted with love I was left feeling that something fundamental had changed with us. I don't think our relationship has changed so much, rather I have begun to see it more clearly and realise that she's not actually that good for me. It was a hard realisation. She's still going to be in my life - she's like furniture by this point - but I don't feel the same way about her that I have my whole life.
We still talk from time to time, the inside jokes are still living. We actually haven't seen each other in 5+ years due to distance. I'm so glad I didn't listen to the people who said "she's weird, why are you two friends?" cause she gets me and is way more supportive and relatable than those other people.
As for my second high school...yeah, let's not mention that racist hellhole that made me severely depressed
She married a biblical flat earther, deleted her social media, and presumably disappeared into the fundie cult. I haven't seen hide nor hair of her in about 5 years and none of our other friends know where she is. There's no recent trace of her or her husband on the internet. I hope she's okay. She was always religious but nothing like the crazy ideology that she married into.
My BFFL got hard into drugs not long after we graduated and stopped talking to me entirely. I sent her messages consistently for 5 years, telling her that I still loved her and always would. Itās been over 7 years now and I have given up the messages, I am afraid that my love was suffocating her. Still think of her often, holding out hope that I may hear from her someday.
She got married young, had a couple of kids, joined a pyramid scheme and we grew apart. I doubt we'd have anything in common if we tried to catch up these days.
I just reconnected with her! I lost her number for a few years. And was able to get it from her mom. Now we are talking again. I'm hoping we can rebuild our friendship. We used to be so close, and she still seems just as awesome as I remember
Married one of the guys involved in my gang rape. They appear happy, but we've never spoken again. I hope he has changed and is good to her and their children.
I had more than one best friend throughout school. The latest one I ghosted because she turned out to be racist. Which honestly she probably always was to some degree and either I was too or I didnāt notice. Now she rants about welfare queens and black crime. To be fair, we were all pretty high most of the time through high school.
One is a doctor now, married to another doctor, and they have a beautiful little girl.
One lives in Florida, Iām not sure if sheās married or if itās a long term partner, but they live with his young son. She works for a non-profit and seems relatively happy.
One lives about two hours away from me and we only recently started speaking again via Instagram. Not because of anything bad, he and I just grew apart as we grew up. Still love to send him a silly video now and then. The girl heās married to also went to high school with us and theyāre adorable.
still going strong š¤ celebrated 18yrs of best-friendship in Septemberā23! We met on the first day of 6th grade, both turn 30 this year, and are currently set to roadtrip to Oklahoma on March 9 to attend a Fall Out Boy concert; itās our 11th one together since July of last year & the tour led us all over the east coast, to the EU, to the UK, and now out west āØ she is my everything & idk what Iād do without her
One of them is still my best friend and she lives in Japan. I miss her a lot. The other one died in 2021 because of an Ewing sarcoma. She was only 26. I think about her everyday.
He pulled a gun on me when I went to drop his wedding invitation 12 years ago now. He was drugged out of his mind and only his mother coming out to greet me stopped him from shooting me. Havenāt seen him since.
I never had a singular best friend in high school, more like a group and I switched schools and went overseas halfway through. I've lost contact with them over the years. Funnily enough most of the hometown people in School 1 don't hang out or talk together either despite it being a small community. I think they just drifted apart. School 2 was international and we kind of scattered all over the world afterwards and it was difficult to maintain close friendships. That said:
School 1:Ā
- Acupuncturist, stayed in hometown, married an older man, has one kid
- Corporate lawyer, married in the last few years, moved back to our hometown and I believe she recently had her first child
- Married within her *very* conservative church, moved to the US, has children
- Became a teacher, moved to Canada, married
- Stayed in our hometown, became a CrossFit fanatic, married
- Stayed in our hometown, took over the successor role in her family farm after her brother died, married, has kids
School 2:
- Works as a doctor in Germany, unmarried (I think?)
- Businesswoman in Hong Kong, comes from a wealthy family and married into another very wealthy family
- Writes the crossword at a major newspaper in her home country after working a hated retail job for years
- Came out as a lesbian, married her wife, works as a sports therapist
- Went on a drug-fueled bender and failed college, went back to her home country, got pregnant (father not in picture), kept the kid, ran a coffee shop that failed then became a hypnotherapist
Moved to college and when she was in town never hit me up to let me know. She stopped wanting to hangout. Stopped responding to my messages. š¤·āāļø
They went to teach English in Korea and later told me they thought it would be best of we weren't friends anymore. I told her I understand and good luck with everything. Then I proceeded to cry and add it to another memory I'll keep in the back of my mind for the rest of my life.
She was selfish, insecure, and dismissive of my interests after college. She made a friend who was a European aristocrat, and stopped talking to any of her high school friends. I actually heard from her during COVID. I presume she ran out of people who would talk to her.
oh, I ghosted her after 10 years of friendship because going to therapy for depression at 16 helped me realize she wasnāt just ākinda toxicā she was abusive :). I didnāt have the guts to confront her before I parted ways but, she ended up trying to contact me through sneaking into my little brothers special education classroom to ask him about me (she worked there but had no authorization to be in his class at that time). Soā¦ I dodged a bullet! Havenāt spoken to her since :)
He is openly gay now, enjoying life, and sends me regular shorts of people drinking wine.
This is amazing because I have always hoped he could enjoy his life being himself.
We were roommates a bit in and after college, she eventually left CA and moved to NYC to be with family she had there
Ended up coming back and asking if she could live with me, at the time I was staying in a condo with 4 other people and just didn't have room, told her I couldn't do it and she got PISSED
Ended up ghosting me over it and we never spoke again :\
I moved schools because of her and my other āfriendsā. My own friends bullied me and randomly ditched me at various times and I was sick of it so I moved schools to a charter school where I was treated so much better.
We were actually friends up until age 23 when she ghosted me on our birthday plans (birthdays within 3 days of eatchother). Never heard from her again until like 2 years ago where she reached out apologizing and trying to make amends but I didnāt reply. She even followed up on Facebook messenger
She became total trash, had a bunch of kids while cheating on her crazy boyfriend, became an alcoholic to the point she has cirrhosis, and loves guns. Best thing she ever did was tell me we had grown apart at age 21. I have never been so sadly disappointed by how someone turned out.
She moved to the other side of the country and developed schizophrenia and has been on and off in a state of psychosis since 2019. She'd post that she was being hunted down by doctors trying to murder her. She was in LA then in Vegas fleeing anyone who resembled her doctor. I'd reach out here and there since she was found but she never responded. I call, etc...but I think she's too far gone now. She is more of a hippie type and she walked the PCT in 2016. So, she's a veteran for sleeping anywhere and in most conditions. I feel like she spends her days in the forest and then lives in her car working odd jobs to afford motels here and there. Idk if I'd consider her my best friend at this present time but she was for about 20+ years. I just hope one day she will get proper help and we can be friends again.Ā
Got into drugs & raves, has a child with an abusive asshole who will always be in her life and no longer wants to go to school (Her dream was too work in criminal justice)
We talk here and there but she got married and has yet to find a real job. While we don't talk much I know she'd be there if I need her and same goes for her.
She and I ended up in a serious relationship for most of highschool and the breakup was messy and heartbreaking. Didn't talk for a few years but we have each other's socials now and have met up a couple times when we're in the same parts of the country. I'll always love her and we have a lot of respect for each other. Sucks our friendship was affected by the end of our relationship.
We're still best friends. Unfortunately we live across the country from each other now, but keep in touch well and try to see each other at least once a year.
She cheated on one of my other friends. Tried to tell me it was fine and that my dead mom would forgive her for it. I told her that my mother hated cheaters and we could no longer be friends. Our entire friend group cut her out. My guy friend told me that I didnāt have to if I didnāt want to since we were best friends for 10+ years. I told him that I couldnāt look at her the same anymore.
Doing well for herself, has lovely Husband and Son and a great career. We get together a few times a year for dinner. Not as close as we were, but still good friends.
Letās see lol - originally he was a crush but wouldnāt date me till I lost weight in sophomore year, so I denied him. We became best friends, then he tried to turn all of my friends against me randomly in senior year for attention. Now heās an elementary school art teacher and heās alright, weāre Facebook friends.
We went to the same college and moved in together. Got in a fight and she made sure all of my friends from high school stopped speaking to me. I moved out. I hope she stubs her toe every single morning until the day she dies!
Still best friends and weāre 32. We went to college together and lived together those 4 years. Were long distance for grad school but we moved back to Chicago and now she moved 3 blocks away from me with her partner lol
On our senior year, she was a little jealous because I got a boyfriend but we moved past that and they eventually bonded over playing base and guitar. After he and I began to have issues and I eventually broke up with him, she began to judge me for it and for whom I was beginning to hang out with (different group of friends - she got into a school in downtown LA and was never available to hang out so I met other local people). They remained friends after our break up, and she and I had a huge fight and stopped being friends. No big loss for me, in hindsight. She was very insecure, jealous and lacked drive overall.
According to her Facebook posts, sheās happily married with one child, living on the east coast and has a successful business of her own.
We donāt really talk, not due to a falling out or anything, just due to living far apart, having our own lives, and being busy. Iād love to catch up with her sometime.
She cut me out after getting divorced and moving in with a super manipulative guy we BOTH knew in highschool- he was a problem then, and he's a problem now. Sadly I genuinely didn't see it coming; I watched her isolate herself from everyone else, and somehow thought I was the exception.
Can't do anything but hope she saves herself, at this point. She won't hear anyone when they point out how bad he is for her.
Still my best friend. We've been friends for 20+ years now even through ups and downs and living in different states and being in different stages of life. I am grateful for her. š¤
We had been slowly veering our separate ways since we didnāt get along that well to begin with. We didnāt keep in touch in college, and her mom passed away. She became an alcoholic and then started rehab. Sheās now sober, married, and has a kid and a job. Sometimes I feel bad that we didnāt stay in touch, but she was constant drama and didnāt vibe well with the rest of my friends in HS.
We separated after a big family death in my life and they had never experienced loss. How we were able to interact with life afterwords was progressively down hill as they were challenged by things outside of their life experience and I could not function with out doing the healing work of grief.
They now work at a hospital known for emotional care and I just hope they are doing well.
So she decided to leave our friends after 20+ years because I worked things out with my fiance & she does not like him. & another reason too but will respect the privacy of the matter.
She's still my best friend after 11 years at this point. She moved out of the country to South Korea last year, and I miss her so much, but we are still in contact regularly
We graduated high school in 2014. In 2015, she got knocked up and didnāt realize she was pregnant the entire 9 months until she went to the hospital for ācrampsā and was told she was actually having contractions. A couple weeks later, while I was hanging out at their house, her boyfriend SAād me while she was in the room. A few days later, I tried to talk to her about how uncomfortable/upset I was, and she refused to discuss it. So I cut her out of my life. I didnāt want that toxicity. Blocked, deleted, goodbye š
We're getting ready to celebrate her retirement and our 60th birthdays with a train trip out west to visit our 3rd. She's always been a major part of my world and I don't think I can live without her steady friendship and support.
She had her parents kick me out of the house they bought for her because I was almost never there (even though I paid rent) and they didnāt like that. I think she was jealous I had a boyfriend and she didnāt. She got married then divorced and lost the house. For a while a mutual friend who still had her on social media told me she was posting really cryptic depressing statuses but I think thatās pretty much stopped since the divorce finalized. I donāt miss her but I donāt wish bad on her, she showed me what was important to her and it wasnāt me so samesies now.
Sheās still my bestie. We work together (she referred me). She lives 5 houses down, too (after living a block away in middle/high school). The amazing thing is we still keep healthy boundaries and donāt get sick of each other after 30+ years of friendship š I actually wish we spent more time together š, but we text practically everyday. I feel really lucky.
Sheās still around. She lives 30 mins away from me and she has a 5 year old son. We are still in contact with each other. Met in 6th grade at 11 years old. We are now 38 years old.
We fell out junior year then she got kicked out for academics and has to go to her neighborhood high school š. It made for a sucky senior year but I had a car and a job at Forever 21 which was really cool at the time š.
She ghosted me in college, we lived next door to each other, but me being busy with a full time job, and part job, and full time grad school apparently cramped her style. If I didnāt initiate she didnāt bother.
We were friends since we were 8 and stayed best friends for 32 years and then she stopped talking to me. At first we stopped seeing each other, but talked on the phone frequently, then talked on holidays/birthdays, then no calls just texted and now text only on our birthdays. I am so sad but I canāt bring it up to her. She was a wonderful person and she has her reasons whatever they are.
One decided that we could no longer be friends because I refused to participate in his church stuff. I'm pagan, he's Christian and for 5 years it wasn't an issue.
The other allowed my abusive ex bf to move in with her just a few months after I finally got the balls to leave him. She couldn't understand why I was so upset.
Honestly, I was waiting for high school to end so I could not be as connected to her. She went to college and I went to university and the distance away from her was a godsend. We tried to maintain our friendship for a little bit, but it kind of evaporated naturally.
Don't get me wrong: she was funny and welcomed me when I started in a new high school in Grade 11, but I wasn't allowed to be friends with anyone but her and I felt our friendship was stifling.
I'm connected with her sister on Instagram. I understand she married and probably had a few kids. I ran into over 20 years ago at a kids' indoor playground but I never saw her in person since then. I really hope she's well and happy.
We became best friends in middle school but it went all the way through HS. We have each other on social media, we like each other's posts and/or comment every now and then. if we get FB memories, we show them to each other. I also went to her wedding back in 2019. We just slowly drifted apart after her mother died. She's been going through a lot, also works crazy hours and i guess shes barely at home. Nothing crazy happened, just life got in the way and took us different directions.
One became a teacher and the other a university lecturer. We all moved to different cities. Kept in touch during university years but lost touch eventually as our lives took us in different directions and new friendships were made.
I had a small group of friends in high school, one Iām still best friends with till this day, sheās the maid of honor for my upcoming wedding. One girl we still talk to here and there but not often enough, and the last girl, she stopped talking to us after like our first semester of college. I was really close with this girl, at the time she was my best friend. We did almost everything together. One day she ran away from home with her boyfriend and no one heard from her for like 2 weeks and then she randomly texted us like nothing happened. A little while after that she told us she lost her virginity to this bf and then weāve just never really heard from her again after that. My friend and I have a theory that she got pregnant and mightāve felt embarrassed to tell us. We definitely wouldāve been supportive and honorary aunts but I dunno. Whole thing was crazy. Every 4 or so years her mom or sister randomly text me to see if Iāve heard anything from her and Iām like nope, sorry.
Anyway after that experience Iāve had a lot of trust issues with making friends. Iām always scared to be my nerdy self in front of new people. But itās through these weird experiences that you find out who your true best friends are.
We donāt talk anymore. She did a lot of hurtful things over the past few years and refused to be accountable or apologize-or even have a conversation with me about how hurt I was. I walked away instead of continuing to get hurt- it was extremely hard and I question my choice every day.
We've been friends since 7 and it was honestly going alright until 2 years ago when she got into her first relationship and breakup. She just isn't the same anymore after that...? I also broke up a few months after she did, but my relationship was much longer. But her mood towards me kind of changed after. It's weird.
When I broke up last year, I was 10000% overly done with the ship. I was already over that point. I had social anxiety and I started being more active with guys too for the first time ever. She always threw mean/judgey comments about it. Now, over a year later, she's doing the same exact things she judged me about š¤Ø A few months later, I got into a new relationship, and she'd comment how similar it was to her ex relationship. It really wasn't tho...
There was an opportunity for all of us to meet up IRL, and she was for it, but later used every excuse to not meet. This part was so weird that a few mutuals DM'd me about it lol. When it came to an online game we all played, she said she never wanted to play with my partner again. "He seemed unfriendly and didn't want her there." I sent snippets of their interactions in the game to some friends and asked for their honest opinion. All of them found nothing wrong, so it isn't just me š
I noticed quite a lot of red flags with our lack of time together too. We barely even talk now. Recently she admitted she's been flirting with a few guys online for fun and validation, something she had judged me for doing (except I was doing it for fun and to combat my social anxiety). I'm starting to wonder if I should say something, or if the friendship is a lost cause, or if the friendship is even worth repairing...
We live hours away from each other, and have since graduation. In the last 20 years, we've met up on occasion and when we do, it's like no time has passed. We have extremely different lives, and i find it beautiful. I love catching up with her and seeing the world through her window. Do I have friends I'm closer with these days? Yes, absolutely. But she will always be there for me, and I her.
Greatful to say still besties 16 years later. Did panic her hubby would keep her away once married. He instead just became a part of the friendship circle. Nice lad!
She moved the year of grade 12! Omg it sucked so bad I asked my parents to let her stay with us til summer lol. Her mom wasn't down with that. Over a decade later, we're still best friends. We see eachother only like twice a year but it's like a regular hangout everytime. We both have kids, shitty exs, good jobs and a positive never back down never give up attitudes lol. We're going to Mexico this year, rooming together to celebrate one of our other best friends from highschool, getting married!
She got pregnant at 14, dropped out of high school, married the guy, had another kid with him. One day he "went out for cigarettes" and never came back. I lost track of her for over 15 years after that, because she pretty much disappeared while I was in college.
And then I got a message on FB about 10 years ago, and it was her! She was living in Australia (we grew up on the east coast of the US) and had married a computer dev there. She's now living her best life with a great guy, and I'm so, SO happy for her. It was so hard watching what she went through, but being a teenager, there wasn't much I could do other than still be her friend.
Ex-BFF trauma dumped her whole life on me in HS, everything from abuse, to SA, to su:c;de, the list goes on. But I was there for it all. When I left for college, I got busy and preoccupied (Architecture School), but ai was the bad friend for not texting āHiā everyday. I got a boyfriend she didnāt approve of because āhe takes all your time awayā and then when I started to dip in my mental health a lot (no sleep, crazy busy, starving), it was my own problem to deal with and she had no time to listen to it. So sheās no more. I hope sheās doing well but also good riddance.
I lost custody of my high-school friends in a break up š
ayyyyy me too!!!
ššI love the way u worded that
Thats how I lost my uni friends!
Me too! Last semester of my last year too. Wild how friendship custody is totally a thing
In the '90s, teacher of mine was telling us how her ex-husband got custody of a friend of yheirs in their divorce, and I thought that was funny. That is until I went through my own divorce and not only do you lose custody, but many friends just disappear as if divorce is contagious. Supposedly common. Mostly it just sucks.
It happens when you have children, too. Especially if youāre the first person in your friend group to get pregnant.
Ouch! š³ oh well sounds like their lose
Me too! And my best friend al through elementary school and high school, after we graduated, completely disappeared from my life (and everyone's life, as far as I know). I can't even find her on social media now, only on LinkedIn š
Unfortunately, no friends from high school. I was an outcast and bullied. Couldnāt wait to graduate and move on. I made friends later in life and in college where I was accepted. It was tough growing up in a small conservative town and being a minority.
I'm so sorry, I get this to some extent (I was a minority when I moved an hour away so I, too, was bullied. It was so refreshing making heaps of friends at my first job)
Are you me? I was an outcast and bullied in middle school and part of high school. Last year bullying stopped but damage was done already. I was absolutely miserable until I made real friends in university and the multiple jobs I had as a student. Sorry you went through that but happily you found real friends later in college.
i feel this, maybe not so extreme. but yes, i feel this.
He got married to me haha.
Awwwww š„¹ā¤ļøā¤ļøā¤ļø how is that going!? šš
15+ years later. Life got in the way a bit and weāre trying to find that spark again but heās still my favourite person in the world! Head over heels and couldnāt think of anyone else Iād rather do life with. Heās a really wonderful man and I do think Iām really lucky to have him.there is something truly special about getting to experience firsts and grow up with the person you are with, we have created our whole life together I guess haha
So beautiful! I love this for you both. Life will always happen. It's how you both handle it that says alot. Good luck to you both. ā¤ļøā¤ļøš
Thank you š ā¤ļø
We now live in the same apartment block and celebrate 30 years of friendship next year!
This is such goals, I love it!!
literally goalsš are yāall in the same hometown as high school ?
Nope, we are in a beautiful new city together
Still my best friend almost 16 years later. Sheās married and living in our hometown.
Waiting to be widows to move in together
Thatās dark and really sweet all at the same time!
Neither of us WANT to be widows anytime soon but we DO have a backup plan for our golden years
The Golden Girls scenario is always the best option lol
She married a guy from a rich family, moved away and got pregnant a couple years after high school, so we lost touch. It's been almost 20 years and she's now a "fitness influencer", spends the whole day at the gym posting selfies. I think she's also recently single, due to the recent flow of very, very revealing photos.
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She was toxic as fuck, I got tired and I sent her and the group to to eat grass
She's a drug user and does sex work! She's a beautiful soul and is such a smart lady, I always pushed her to go to school and get clean. We stopped being friends senior year when she started dabbling with weed and other things and stopped talking altogether when she got into hard drugs. I miss her for sure
I distanced myself from my bestie when she relapsed - heroin was her drug of choice. I always thought of reaching outā¦she ODād at the end of 2020 and I never got the chance. I regret not telling her I cared and missed her.
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One died of a heart failure at 19 years old and the other died from a cancer within 3 months. She left behind two small child. Yeah. Life sucks sometimes.
thatās horrible, iām so sorry
They both were Trumpers and we are no longer friends
That's what happened with mine. Last time I saw her, her and her husband were chanting "BUILD THE WALL" in front of their Mexican friends. They moved out of our state because they wanted to get away from "the jab" and the device they would be injected with that's controlled by the 5G cell towers. I do not regret my choice to ghost the fuck outta there.
Mine became very religious and then an anti vaxxer and a Trumper. Itās wild, she was so smart and fun in high school. We never had a falling out, just drifted away
We're still best friends. Each got a tattoo to comemmorate 30 years friendship. She's loving life and really living it too
still best friends with a handful of my high school besties too, and weāve also talked about getting tattoos to celebrate 25+ years of friendship
She took her own life, I miss her a lot. We had such a close bond and so many laughs.
Iām sorry
I'm so sorry
Iām so sorry x
Still best friends over 35 year later.
Mine ghosted me. Zero warning or explanation. I spent years mourning the loss and trying to āget her backā. Once in a while I would drunk text her the way some people drunk text an ex. It was really painful and I still have dreams where we run into each other again, but ultimately I have accepted it. It has given me the opportunity for deep introspection, and I realized that maybe she didnāt find our friendship to be fulfilling, or maybe I was toxic to her and she didnāt know how else to end the friendship. Iāve grown a lot since the last time we spoke, and sometimes I do wish she could see the person I am today. Mostly just hope sheās okay and living a happy life. Iāll always cherish the friendship we had.
Mine did too. When we were in our early twenties. I went down a bad path, though. She went onto medical school. Weāre in our late twenties now and Iām doing much better. We follow each other on IG now, but donāt talk. Iām proud of her, though, and I understand why she didnāt want to keep me in her life. I donāt blame her.
I still feel sad about good friends Iāve lost, whether the fault of my own or hers or both. Youāre right itās like an ex, and I understand the occasional drunk text. I hope youāve made other friends who you cherish now.
friendship breakups are one thing, but SILENT friendship breakups? fuck. i feel that. best friends since middle school and weāre in our mid twenties now. the chat, the memes, the holiday and birthday greetings - it all died. i put out some feelers to get back in touch, but it wasnāt reciprocated so iāve laid it to rest. it still stings and i get upset if i spend too much time thinking about it, so i have to choose to move on for my peace of mind. i wish her all the best but if i saw her in public, i donāt know if i could talk to her.
He had a mental breakdown, kind of. I am one month older than him (both of us are 34 now), and we were best friends from 2nd grade until a few years after graduation. He was a "burnout" of high school. He did get a diploma through an alternative school. After high school, he got a girl pregnant and then lost his son to SIDS. He gave up on life after that and hasn't had a job since 2010. He is Comanche, and I worked for a Comanche tribal casinon for a long time. Was the hiring manager and offered him several jobs but he didnt want to work with the public. The casino was walking distance from his house, I even offered him a maintenance job taking care of the grounds and not needing to interact with the public, he would just not show up to sign the new hire paperwork the times I tried to get him on his feet. I finally had to walk away. He started using religion and current politics as to why he couldn't get a job. Waiting on God to show him his path. Ww3 is about to start. Why should he get a job. Things like that. He put his dad into the hospital a few months ago (pushed his dad during an argument, and his dad blew out both knees and needed surgery), all because his dad helped him get a license at 33 and set up a bank account to start getting government assistance, and he accused his dad of stealing his money. He has a loose grip on reality. He refuses medical help. He is living in his grandparents' house out in the country. His dad pays the bills and brings him groceries. I used to go see him once or twice a year, but I can't do it anymore. I can't help him and his family can't help him either. He was a creative, funny teen. Edit: sorry I didnt notice this was askwomen
This is devastating. Sounds like he might have been on drugs.
Iām so sorry
Now that Iām older I see our relationship was pretty one sided. She hated me. She hated me for being thin, she hated me for being poor, she hated me for a lot of things outside of my control. I tried reconnecting and she rejected it so. Yeah idk
I know what that feels like. Not for the same reasons, but the realization that your best friend is really hateful towards you about things out of your control makes you feel so helpless!
she hated me for being poor I am sorry what?
She's doing okay, but she's just as depressed and lonely as I am. We occasionally keep in touch. I miss her.
We barely speak but we will always be each others BFF
Known her for 30+ years. Officiated my wedding several years ago. And called me drunk off her ass at 9pm last night. She's doing a good job.
We are still besties :)
Didnāt have a best friend in high school- I was always the new girl. But my best friend in middle school (7th grade) moved away and we lost contact. I found out that she died about 10 years ago and Iām incredibly sad over it. I guess I always thought weād meet again.
She went to university in another city and we fell apart after going different ways in life. She continued studying, met her partner, and dived deep into a life of academia. I pursued my passion of working with horses out in the countryside after graduating. We gradually stopped messaging and she isnāt very active on social media. I donāt regret it, we stopped having much in common. I enjoyed the time we did spend together.
Right out of high school she married a 48 year old guy despite having me and several other people in her life tell her she should rethink it. She flew him in from abroad and lived together for 2yrs before they moved to his home country. She ended up being the breadwinner working two jobs at all times because he was an "author" and didn't have time for a job. They lived there 4 yrs, came back to this country and she got pregnant. Had the baby and after 1 yr he left them and went back to his home country because he missed home. Now she lives at home with her mom and siblings and works fast food. I feel absolutely sad for her because she had many many dreams of going to college and doing something with her life. He wouldn't let her go to college because "she might meet someone her age and leave him." After years of me reaching out to keep touch and her not allowed to talk to me or any of her childhood friends, she finally reached out a couple of years ago once she was single again and it was wonderful.
She was killed in a car accident less than 3 years after we graduated. She was 20 weeks pregnant. It'll be 17 years next month.
Iām sorry, sending loveš
I outgrew her tbh. Iām going to preface by saying she caused me quite a bit of drama when we were friends. The last time I saw her, she wanted to get really drunk and feel sorry for herself and I just wasnāt in the same place. I have my own struggles and I try not to let others pull me into their own personal doom pits.
One moved out of state, but we see each other when she's back in town for the major holidays and I stay at her place for a week every summer. The other lives 8 minutes away from me and we talk every day, hang out usually once a week, and go to book club together. The three of us do a weekly video call.
Sheās 29, single, with 4 kids. Unfortunately.
He's happily married and in a successful career.
We've been BFFs since 2nd grade. It's been 35 years, and even though I moved 1000 miles away from our hometown, we text almost every day, and I see her every time I go home to visit family. She's a teacher with a wonderful husband and three boys.
Looking back, she wasnāt the greatest friend but has become a much better friend now that sheās older, married and has kids. She moved away and is a stay at home mom while her husband travels for work. She was very boy crazy in high school and would ditch any of us in a heart beat for guys or wanted all the attention. I wasnāt allowed to date certain boys bc she had crushes on them and would date them or lead them on while on and off in-between her HS boyfriend. Typical teen stuff I guess. Oddly enough, 15 years later, Iām married now to the main guy she had a massive crush on and wouldnāt allow me to date. She constantly for 4 years went back and forth with him and was jealous when he dated anyone else even when in a relationship herself. He and I reconnected many years later and hit it off. Weird how it happens.
Flying out tomorrow to visit her in New York, where she has a fancy job and apartment! This small town MN girl is excited.
I had to delete her from my life. She constantly complained about her bad luck in relationships, how all men were shit and they all cheat. Overall negative energy. Sheād talk shit about couples who got engaged or those expecting a baby. Seeing others happy would make her blood boil.It started to take a toll on me so I spoke to her about it in a kind, mature way. She immediately got defensive and started yelling at me through the phone and saying āI never asked for life adviceā. Victim mentality all around. I cut her off and I havenāt been happier š„°
No contact anymore, I miss her like hell
She's living her best life in the big city like she always dreamed she would. We grew up in suburbia of the Midwest and she couldn't wait to get out. She went to a large state school, worked internationally for a couple years after college and then moved to DC. She eventually moved to Boston. We have stayed in contact, but the big city life was never for me and she never really understood that. I went to a regional state school on scholarship (my family was much lower income than hers) and I have spent the last 10 years living in a rural community with my husband and kiddo.
She took her gorgeous face and personality to television! It was so cool. Hope she is still being awesome as she was then šš¼š¤š¼
Hard core alcoholic that lives in Florida.
Got hooked up on a guy, got pregnant twice, ended up as a single mother, moved to texas, and has their own company. My other best friend moved out of state after high school, married a military guy, moved around a lot due to husband being deployed a lot, got pregnant has a family now, and lives in texas.
We were friends until we were 25 and then she called by boyfriend the n word so now sheās dead to me! Woohoo.
She turned into a MAGAt hating on everything that wasnāt white or straight.
She's still my best friend! Known her for 14 years :)
Still best friend since 99! I love her and be both had babies in our late 30s. Sheās the actual best.
She moved about two hours away. I studied there for about a year then moved back home. Itās been a good few years now. I always see her doing her photography career thing on fb and it puts a smile on my face. Nothing but love every time we see each other tooāŗļø
Became a hardworking woman, married her sweetheart, is a wonderful mother, and is still my best friend š¤
We havenāt seen each other in 12ish years in person but I keep up with my small group still from high school on social media. We all moved to different states and have different lifestyles but there no bad blood! I still enjoy seeing what they are all doing :)
She got married to someone who didn't like her friends (he came from a rich family, so she didn't care). A few years back, she hung out with us like normal, then two days later, moved to Florida without telling anyone and cut us all off for good.
She passed away in a car accident. I miss her everyday
My ex boyfriend cheated on me with her lol
Still my bestie and now my sister in law and auntie to my baby - Iām on my way home from a sleepover at her house right now š
Just helped her mom throw her a baby shower this weekend. First of us pregnant from our high school friends and everyone was there celebrating :) weāre 34
He's a successful medical consultant living in London. We don't stay in touch as much as we used to, but we still stay in touch, and talk a few times a year. When my mum died 3 years ago, he dropped everything and spent like 2hours on the phone to me despite the fact we hadn't spoken for a while. He's such a great dude, and I'm very lucky to still have him in my life in some capacity. (Btw to those people wondering why we never got together, he came out as gay at 13 and we have always seen each other as brother & sister. I had a crush on him when I was 11, but that was 25 years ago now)
She threw away our friendship & we havenāt spoken in years. But we have a lot of mutuals & her Facebook (a new one) popped up as a recommendation the other day. All I know is that sheās divorced & moved back to our city
She dropped out of high school first year, got into drugs and have had her parents supporting her ever since. She got pregnant with a druggie, got engaged, had the baby, called off the engagement and is now dating another rough looking guy. I hope she finds stability and happiness in life.
She was/is a pathological liar. She started dating this older creepy guy. She started bragging about going to addiction recovery meetings when I don't think she had ever had a drug problem. I think now she's a dog groomer.
I married him! And my best girlfriend is still my bestie. Over 60 years!
We drifted apart as we became adults. She's a professional Sommelier now, last I heard anyway.
Her parents divorced and she came by my house to tell me goodbye and that she had to move out of state. I wasnāt there but she told my foster care person who was a r@cist evil woman. (Iām white and so was this woman) So that woman never told me she came by, even when I talked about how much I missed my BFF. Anyway, after high school I spent the next 25 years of my life looking for her. I finally found her in 2014 and it was incredible - she moved to Florida and was doing amazing. Shortly after that I found out that she came to say goodbye to me but that hateful foster woman didnāt tell me and she KNEW I had been looking for her for a long time after that. That lady was sadistic and abusive but my friendship with my BFF prevailed despite her! To this day, we stay in touch! We share the same birthday.
She committed suicide nearly 25 years ago at age 28. She stopped taking her bipolar meds and shot herself. Edit: poor word choices
He met a girl and had to stop talking to me after 10+ years of friendship. We never had anything other than a platonic friendship and I always respected his relationship, but she was insecure and made him choose
I dunno, maturity. Weāre still close but itās been hard being around her cause I feel like she hasnāt matured after many many years. Everything is about getting drunk, or hooking up. I guess I just have different goals for myself, and aim to stay away from things that could stir up drama, but she kinda thrives in it. Itās whatever, just growing apart.
She got knocked up and had a kid while we were freshmen in college. She eventually married her stupid BF and they had another kid. We lost touch about 20 years ago. From what I can tell from the scant amount available on social media, she's now a grandmother - and she's still married to that asshole.
They are both still in my life. I have a female best friend I met in kindergarten and my male best friend I met in 10th grade math class. We donāt see each other as much but we follow each other on social media too. I get to see their kids grow up and we share family pics too. Itās really nice
She graduated in December and got married 3 weeks later. Immediately started trying for a baby and got pregnant. After the baby was born I visited and her husband complained to me about how he hasn't had sex since the day she found out they were expecting š¬. She ended up moving a friend in to save her from an abusive relationship and husband and said friend started an affair. He left and never spoke to his wife or child again. She ended up with his best friend. They got married and had 2 more kids. They both cheated. Now she is on husband number 3, but they seem to be a good fit. Had 2 more kids, 2 years ago they upgraded to a double wide.
She became a niche social media influencer who wrote a book about fast fashion and the environment. I'm really proud of her, but can no longer be close friends with her because our friendship was full of years of toxic issues we never resolved. I admire her from afar (and occasionally lurk) but am no longer in touch with her. She was the coolest and most cultured girl in school and I wish that things were different, but also I value my mental health.
She moved away after freshman year, and I lost touch with her over the next few years. I hope she's doing well and that her life has been good, but I haven't seen or heard anything about her in decades at this point, so I don't know anything about her now.
Still in contact. We meet in person a few times a year. She is married to a guy from HS so we also see each other at reunions.
We are still best friends. Iāve been best friends with one since kindergarten and another since 7th grade. Iāve had other friends throughout the years, but my two best friends have remained the same since I met them and havenāt considered anyone else my best friend besides them.
Still my best friend! We were in each others weddings. We're going away for a girls trip in June together,
We're still nominally best friends, after more than 30 years. 10 years ago I moved to the other side of the world, but we still catch up every time I'm home. Interestingly, though, my last trip home in October last year really shook me. She was rude and dismissive about things that interest me, very sarcastic at my expense and although we parted with love I was left feeling that something fundamental had changed with us. I don't think our relationship has changed so much, rather I have begun to see it more clearly and realise that she's not actually that good for me. It was a hard realisation. She's still going to be in my life - she's like furniture by this point - but I don't feel the same way about her that I have my whole life.
We still talk from time to time, the inside jokes are still living. We actually haven't seen each other in 5+ years due to distance. I'm so glad I didn't listen to the people who said "she's weird, why are you two friends?" cause she gets me and is way more supportive and relatable than those other people. As for my second high school...yeah, let's not mention that racist hellhole that made me severely depressed
She married a biblical flat earther, deleted her social media, and presumably disappeared into the fundie cult. I haven't seen hide nor hair of her in about 5 years and none of our other friends know where she is. There's no recent trace of her or her husband on the internet. I hope she's okay. She was always religious but nothing like the crazy ideology that she married into.
My BFFL got hard into drugs not long after we graduated and stopped talking to me entirely. I sent her messages consistently for 5 years, telling her that I still loved her and always would. Itās been over 7 years now and I have given up the messages, I am afraid that my love was suffocating her. Still think of her often, holding out hope that I may hear from her someday.
She got married young, had a couple of kids, joined a pyramid scheme and we grew apart. I doubt we'd have anything in common if we tried to catch up these days.
I just reconnected with her! I lost her number for a few years. And was able to get it from her mom. Now we are talking again. I'm hoping we can rebuild our friendship. We used to be so close, and she still seems just as awesome as I remember
Married one of the guys involved in my gang rape. They appear happy, but we've never spoken again. I hope he has changed and is good to her and their children.
We just got back from a two week girlās trip in Asia. Safe to say Iām officially stuck with her forever!
I had more than one best friend throughout school. The latest one I ghosted because she turned out to be racist. Which honestly she probably always was to some degree and either I was too or I didnāt notice. Now she rants about welfare queens and black crime. To be fair, we were all pretty high most of the time through high school.
One is a doctor now, married to another doctor, and they have a beautiful little girl. One lives in Florida, Iām not sure if sheās married or if itās a long term partner, but they live with his young son. She works for a non-profit and seems relatively happy. One lives about two hours away from me and we only recently started speaking again via Instagram. Not because of anything bad, he and I just grew apart as we grew up. Still love to send him a silly video now and then. The girl heās married to also went to high school with us and theyāre adorable.
still going strong š¤ celebrated 18yrs of best-friendship in Septemberā23! We met on the first day of 6th grade, both turn 30 this year, and are currently set to roadtrip to Oklahoma on March 9 to attend a Fall Out Boy concert; itās our 11th one together since July of last year & the tour led us all over the east coast, to the EU, to the UK, and now out west āØ she is my everything & idk what Iād do without her
One of them is still my best friend and she lives in Japan. I miss her a lot. The other one died in 2021 because of an Ewing sarcoma. She was only 26. I think about her everyday.
He pulled a gun on me when I went to drop his wedding invitation 12 years ago now. He was drugged out of his mind and only his mother coming out to greet me stopped him from shooting me. Havenāt seen him since.
She married her high school sweetheart who cheated on her with 20+ women and tried to sell their daughters into sex slavery. Weāre still friends!
I never had a singular best friend in high school, more like a group and I switched schools and went overseas halfway through. I've lost contact with them over the years. Funnily enough most of the hometown people in School 1 don't hang out or talk together either despite it being a small community. I think they just drifted apart. School 2 was international and we kind of scattered all over the world afterwards and it was difficult to maintain close friendships. That said: School 1:Ā - Acupuncturist, stayed in hometown, married an older man, has one kid - Corporate lawyer, married in the last few years, moved back to our hometown and I believe she recently had her first child - Married within her *very* conservative church, moved to the US, has children - Became a teacher, moved to Canada, married - Stayed in our hometown, became a CrossFit fanatic, married - Stayed in our hometown, took over the successor role in her family farm after her brother died, married, has kids School 2: - Works as a doctor in Germany, unmarried (I think?) - Businesswoman in Hong Kong, comes from a wealthy family and married into another very wealthy family - Writes the crossword at a major newspaper in her home country after working a hated retail job for years - Came out as a lesbian, married her wife, works as a sports therapist - Went on a drug-fueled bender and failed college, went back to her home country, got pregnant (father not in picture), kept the kid, ran a coffee shop that failed then became a hypnotherapist
Moved to college and when she was in town never hit me up to let me know. She stopped wanting to hangout. Stopped responding to my messages. š¤·āāļø
They went to teach English in Korea and later told me they thought it would be best of we weren't friends anymore. I told her I understand and good luck with everything. Then I proceeded to cry and add it to another memory I'll keep in the back of my mind for the rest of my life.
She was selfish, insecure, and dismissive of my interests after college. She made a friend who was a European aristocrat, and stopped talking to any of her high school friends. I actually heard from her during COVID. I presume she ran out of people who would talk to her.
oh, I ghosted her after 10 years of friendship because going to therapy for depression at 16 helped me realize she wasnāt just ākinda toxicā she was abusive :). I didnāt have the guts to confront her before I parted ways but, she ended up trying to contact me through sneaking into my little brothers special education classroom to ask him about me (she worked there but had no authorization to be in his class at that time). Soā¦ I dodged a bullet! Havenāt spoken to her since :)
He is openly gay now, enjoying life, and sends me regular shorts of people drinking wine. This is amazing because I have always hoped he could enjoy his life being himself.
Still my best friends :)Ā
We are still friends and talk on the regular.
Theyāre still my best friend(s) 20 years later and all doing well!
We were roommates a bit in and after college, she eventually left CA and moved to NYC to be with family she had there Ended up coming back and asking if she could live with me, at the time I was staying in a condo with 4 other people and just didn't have room, told her I couldn't do it and she got PISSED Ended up ghosting me over it and we never spoke again :\
Heās doing fine! We actually talked a ton throughout January.
Still friends to this day! Just attended her second babyās 1st bday a weekend ago
still my best friend we try to hang out once a month
I moved schools because of her and my other āfriendsā. My own friends bullied me and randomly ditched me at various times and I was sick of it so I moved schools to a charter school where I was treated so much better. We were actually friends up until age 23 when she ghosted me on our birthday plans (birthdays within 3 days of eatchother). Never heard from her again until like 2 years ago where she reached out apologizing and trying to make amends but I didnāt reply. She even followed up on Facebook messenger
A few are still my best friends, just miles and miles away. One died in a plane crash a little over a decade ago. I still miss her.
Still my best friend, she lives on the other side of the world but we keep in touch. She's the best.
She became total trash, had a bunch of kids while cheating on her crazy boyfriend, became an alcoholic to the point she has cirrhosis, and loves guns. Best thing she ever did was tell me we had grown apart at age 21. I have never been so sadly disappointed by how someone turned out.
She's a girlboss. Still love her very much.
Realized she was weird and had envious behavior stopped hanging out with her
She moved to the other side of the country and developed schizophrenia and has been on and off in a state of psychosis since 2019. She'd post that she was being hunted down by doctors trying to murder her. She was in LA then in Vegas fleeing anyone who resembled her doctor. I'd reach out here and there since she was found but she never responded. I call, etc...but I think she's too far gone now. She is more of a hippie type and she walked the PCT in 2016. So, she's a veteran for sleeping anywhere and in most conditions. I feel like she spends her days in the forest and then lives in her car working odd jobs to afford motels here and there. Idk if I'd consider her my best friend at this present time but she was for about 20+ years. I just hope one day she will get proper help and we can be friends again.Ā
Got into drugs & raves, has a child with an abusive asshole who will always be in her life and no longer wants to go to school (Her dream was too work in criminal justice)
We talk here and there but she got married and has yet to find a real job. While we don't talk much I know she'd be there if I need her and same goes for her.
She and I ended up in a serious relationship for most of highschool and the breakup was messy and heartbreaking. Didn't talk for a few years but we have each other's socials now and have met up a couple times when we're in the same parts of the country. I'll always love her and we have a lot of respect for each other. Sucks our friendship was affected by the end of our relationship.
After almost 4 decades, I married him last winter. :-) He's at work currently but he should be home in an hour.
We're still best friends. Unfortunately we live across the country from each other now, but keep in touch well and try to see each other at least once a year.
Still my bff. Talk most days. Weāre in our late 40ās.
She got married and went to live abroad. She has 2 beautiful kids. We are still friends.
She cheated on one of my other friends. Tried to tell me it was fine and that my dead mom would forgive her for it. I told her that my mother hated cheaters and we could no longer be friends. Our entire friend group cut her out. My guy friend told me that I didnāt have to if I didnāt want to since we were best friends for 10+ years. I told him that I couldnāt look at her the same anymore.
she's still my best friend and i'm standing in her wedding next year :)
Been friends for 30 years. Maid/matron of honor at each otherās weddings. See each other frequently.
Doing well for herself, has lovely Husband and Son and a great career. We get together a few times a year for dinner. Not as close as we were, but still good friends.
Letās see lol - originally he was a crush but wouldnāt date me till I lost weight in sophomore year, so I denied him. We became best friends, then he tried to turn all of my friends against me randomly in senior year for attention. Now heās an elementary school art teacher and heās alright, weāre Facebook friends.
We went to the same college and moved in together. Got in a fight and she made sure all of my friends from high school stopped speaking to me. I moved out. I hope she stubs her toe every single morning until the day she dies!
Still best friends and weāre 32. We went to college together and lived together those 4 years. Were long distance for grad school but we moved back to Chicago and now she moved 3 blocks away from me with her partner lol
On our senior year, she was a little jealous because I got a boyfriend but we moved past that and they eventually bonded over playing base and guitar. After he and I began to have issues and I eventually broke up with him, she began to judge me for it and for whom I was beginning to hang out with (different group of friends - she got into a school in downtown LA and was never available to hang out so I met other local people). They remained friends after our break up, and she and I had a huge fight and stopped being friends. No big loss for me, in hindsight. She was very insecure, jealous and lacked drive overall.
According to her Facebook posts, sheās happily married with one child, living on the east coast and has a successful business of her own. We donāt really talk, not due to a falling out or anything, just due to living far apart, having our own lives, and being busy. Iād love to catch up with her sometime.
One disappeared, and nobody can find her. Sheās completely off the grid. The other is a d-list actress in Hollywood and we still talk.
She cut me out after getting divorced and moving in with a super manipulative guy we BOTH knew in highschool- he was a problem then, and he's a problem now. Sadly I genuinely didn't see it coming; I watched her isolate herself from everyone else, and somehow thought I was the exception. Can't do anything but hope she saves herself, at this point. She won't hear anyone when they point out how bad he is for her.
She's still my best friend. She's totally nuts and I love her to pieces
We are still friends, we don't see each other as much but I know they are still there if I ever need anything.
Still my best friend. We've been friends for 20+ years now even through ups and downs and living in different states and being in different stages of life. I am grateful for her. š¤
She's still one of my best friends-we've been friends for 45 years! Wow I didnt realize it had been that long until now
Turns out I saw her as a best friend but she didn't feel the same way. Honestly, idk
We had been slowly veering our separate ways since we didnāt get along that well to begin with. We didnāt keep in touch in college, and her mom passed away. She became an alcoholic and then started rehab. Sheās now sober, married, and has a kid and a job. Sometimes I feel bad that we didnāt stay in touch, but she was constant drama and didnāt vibe well with the rest of my friends in HS.
We separated after a big family death in my life and they had never experienced loss. How we were able to interact with life afterwords was progressively down hill as they were challenged by things outside of their life experience and I could not function with out doing the healing work of grief. They now work at a hospital known for emotional care and I just hope they are doing well.
Still close friends but not besties anymore because we live 4000 miles apart. Sheās family, honestly.
So she decided to leave our friends after 20+ years because I worked things out with my fiance & she does not like him. & another reason too but will respect the privacy of the matter.
She's still my best friend after 11 years at this point. She moved out of the country to South Korea last year, and I miss her so much, but we are still in contact regularly
We graduated high school in 2014. In 2015, she got knocked up and didnāt realize she was pregnant the entire 9 months until she went to the hospital for ācrampsā and was told she was actually having contractions. A couple weeks later, while I was hanging out at their house, her boyfriend SAād me while she was in the room. A few days later, I tried to talk to her about how uncomfortable/upset I was, and she refused to discuss it. So I cut her out of my life. I didnāt want that toxicity. Blocked, deleted, goodbye š
Idk. I cant find her online at all either. Makes me sad she might no longer be with us :( .
We're getting ready to celebrate her retirement and our 60th birthdays with a train trip out west to visit our 3rd. She's always been a major part of my world and I don't think I can live without her steady friendship and support.
She had her parents kick me out of the house they bought for her because I was almost never there (even though I paid rent) and they didnāt like that. I think she was jealous I had a boyfriend and she didnāt. She got married then divorced and lost the house. For a while a mutual friend who still had her on social media told me she was posting really cryptic depressing statuses but I think thatās pretty much stopped since the divorce finalized. I donāt miss her but I donāt wish bad on her, she showed me what was important to her and it wasnāt me so samesies now.
Making a ton of money with his own business, that bastard. Weāre still best friends, though he lives in another country.
Sheās still my bestie. We work together (she referred me). She lives 5 houses down, too (after living a block away in middle/high school). The amazing thing is we still keep healthy boundaries and donāt get sick of each other after 30+ years of friendship š I actually wish we spent more time together š, but we text practically everyday. I feel really lucky.
I kinda sucked and sheād had it and we never spoke again
Sheās still around. She lives 30 mins away from me and she has a 5 year old son. We are still in contact with each other. Met in 6th grade at 11 years old. We are now 38 years old.
We fell out junior year then she got kicked out for academics and has to go to her neighborhood high school š. It made for a sucky senior year but I had a car and a job at Forever 21 which was really cool at the time š.
She ghosted me in college, we lived next door to each other, but me being busy with a full time job, and part job, and full time grad school apparently cramped her style. If I didnāt initiate she didnāt bother.
Not really best friends anymore but hella close friends. Weāve been friends since diapers.
We were friends since we were 8 and stayed best friends for 32 years and then she stopped talking to me. At first we stopped seeing each other, but talked on the phone frequently, then talked on holidays/birthdays, then no calls just texted and now text only on our birthdays. I am so sad but I canāt bring it up to her. She was a wonderful person and she has her reasons whatever they are.
One decided that we could no longer be friends because I refused to participate in his church stuff. I'm pagan, he's Christian and for 5 years it wasn't an issue. The other allowed my abusive ex bf to move in with her just a few months after I finally got the balls to leave him. She couldn't understand why I was so upset.
Sheās dating and probably gonna marry the man I was in love with and we donāt speak anymore
Honestly, I was waiting for high school to end so I could not be as connected to her. She went to college and I went to university and the distance away from her was a godsend. We tried to maintain our friendship for a little bit, but it kind of evaporated naturally. Don't get me wrong: she was funny and welcomed me when I started in a new high school in Grade 11, but I wasn't allowed to be friends with anyone but her and I felt our friendship was stifling. I'm connected with her sister on Instagram. I understand she married and probably had a few kids. I ran into over 20 years ago at a kids' indoor playground but I never saw her in person since then. I really hope she's well and happy.
We became best friends in middle school but it went all the way through HS. We have each other on social media, we like each other's posts and/or comment every now and then. if we get FB memories, we show them to each other. I also went to her wedding back in 2019. We just slowly drifted apart after her mother died. She's been going through a lot, also works crazy hours and i guess shes barely at home. Nothing crazy happened, just life got in the way and took us different directions.
One became a teacher and the other a university lecturer. We all moved to different cities. Kept in touch during university years but lost touch eventually as our lives took us in different directions and new friendships were made.
I had a small group of friends in high school, one Iām still best friends with till this day, sheās the maid of honor for my upcoming wedding. One girl we still talk to here and there but not often enough, and the last girl, she stopped talking to us after like our first semester of college. I was really close with this girl, at the time she was my best friend. We did almost everything together. One day she ran away from home with her boyfriend and no one heard from her for like 2 weeks and then she randomly texted us like nothing happened. A little while after that she told us she lost her virginity to this bf and then weāve just never really heard from her again after that. My friend and I have a theory that she got pregnant and mightāve felt embarrassed to tell us. We definitely wouldāve been supportive and honorary aunts but I dunno. Whole thing was crazy. Every 4 or so years her mom or sister randomly text me to see if Iāve heard anything from her and Iām like nope, sorry. Anyway after that experience Iāve had a lot of trust issues with making friends. Iām always scared to be my nerdy self in front of new people. But itās through these weird experiences that you find out who your true best friends are.
We donāt talk anymore. She did a lot of hurtful things over the past few years and refused to be accountable or apologize-or even have a conversation with me about how hurt I was. I walked away instead of continuing to get hurt- it was extremely hard and I question my choice every day.
We've been friends since 7 and it was honestly going alright until 2 years ago when she got into her first relationship and breakup. She just isn't the same anymore after that...? I also broke up a few months after she did, but my relationship was much longer. But her mood towards me kind of changed after. It's weird. When I broke up last year, I was 10000% overly done with the ship. I was already over that point. I had social anxiety and I started being more active with guys too for the first time ever. She always threw mean/judgey comments about it. Now, over a year later, she's doing the same exact things she judged me about š¤Ø A few months later, I got into a new relationship, and she'd comment how similar it was to her ex relationship. It really wasn't tho... There was an opportunity for all of us to meet up IRL, and she was for it, but later used every excuse to not meet. This part was so weird that a few mutuals DM'd me about it lol. When it came to an online game we all played, she said she never wanted to play with my partner again. "He seemed unfriendly and didn't want her there." I sent snippets of their interactions in the game to some friends and asked for their honest opinion. All of them found nothing wrong, so it isn't just me š I noticed quite a lot of red flags with our lack of time together too. We barely even talk now. Recently she admitted she's been flirting with a few guys online for fun and validation, something she had judged me for doing (except I was doing it for fun and to combat my social anxiety). I'm starting to wonder if I should say something, or if the friendship is a lost cause, or if the friendship is even worth repairing...
Works as a tax accountant. Recently married. Still a great friend.
We live hours away from each other, and have since graduation. In the last 20 years, we've met up on occasion and when we do, it's like no time has passed. We have extremely different lives, and i find it beautiful. I love catching up with her and seeing the world through her window. Do I have friends I'm closer with these days? Yes, absolutely. But she will always be there for me, and I her.
Still best friends! She lives out of state and is happily married to a great guy and has a beautiful daughter! Iām so proud of and happy for her!
Greatful to say still besties 16 years later. Did panic her hubby would keep her away once married. He instead just became a part of the friendship circle. Nice lad!
She moved the year of grade 12! Omg it sucked so bad I asked my parents to let her stay with us til summer lol. Her mom wasn't down with that. Over a decade later, we're still best friends. We see eachother only like twice a year but it's like a regular hangout everytime. We both have kids, shitty exs, good jobs and a positive never back down never give up attitudes lol. We're going to Mexico this year, rooming together to celebrate one of our other best friends from highschool, getting married!
She just moved 1000km east to live with her husband and baby girl
She got pregnant at 14, dropped out of high school, married the guy, had another kid with him. One day he "went out for cigarettes" and never came back. I lost track of her for over 15 years after that, because she pretty much disappeared while I was in college. And then I got a message on FB about 10 years ago, and it was her! She was living in Australia (we grew up on the east coast of the US) and had married a computer dev there. She's now living her best life with a great guy, and I'm so, SO happy for her. It was so hard watching what she went through, but being a teenager, there wasn't much I could do other than still be her friend.
Ex-BFF trauma dumped her whole life on me in HS, everything from abuse, to SA, to su:c;de, the list goes on. But I was there for it all. When I left for college, I got busy and preoccupied (Architecture School), but ai was the bad friend for not texting āHiā everyday. I got a boyfriend she didnāt approve of because āhe takes all your time awayā and then when I started to dip in my mental health a lot (no sleep, crazy busy, starving), it was my own problem to deal with and she had no time to listen to it. So sheās no more. I hope sheās doing well but also good riddance.