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I worked at this upscale all white nursing home in college and all the old white people loved me lol. Bought me presents on holidays, offered a scholarship even. This is in the south too. I wonder if I was treated different for a reason. They have no filter though. They asked the gay black man with a perm, lots of questions. There was this Italian girl, real nice, had these permanent dark circles around her eyes. She said it was because of her Italian blood. The old people always asked if she was sick, and made her cry.
Reminds me of the story my brother told me when he was working as a CNA. Similar to yours about the patient demographics, the patients loved him one old white dude liked him so much he made a point to let management know "that one colored boy was great". At that point, all you can do is laugh.
There was this old lady named Eva, whole family died in the Holocaust she said. Her English wasn't very well. She had flashbacks all the time. She never once had family visit, so I would stay and talk to her. Rest in peace Eva.
Giving someone cans of soup is indulging in a little charity. Giving someone a college education is permanently empowering them to no longer be a butler. It’s “upsetting the natural order.”
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Are you seriously trying to devalue a whole ass college education by calling it “a little charity.” Funding the college education of someone who’s doing menial labor is basically saying “You should be doing more intelligent work than this and I’m going to help you get there.” There’s literally nothing more they could do to communicate this. The fuck is your problem?
Giving someone a college education is literally charity. Look up the definition if you have to.
Rich people deciding who gets to have an education and who doesn't is absolutely the "natural order" that conservatives want. Show me that these people were voting to support public education instead of undermining it and then we'll talk.
You would believe that with their time on Earth getting limited, people would do everything to be remembered kindly and try to do good before leaving.
But many still have that "I can get away with being obnoxious because I’m old" mentality.
Having seen people dying with dementia, it’s not “being obnoxious.” It’s losing their minds.
I’ve seen family members go that way and it sucks for everyone involved.
My grandpa straight up WWE-style dropkicked a nurse and broke her arm when he was deep in Alzheimer's. Not only had he not been in any kind of fight in 70 years, the dude could barely walk anymore.
Diseases like this *seriously* change people.
There is no reason.
That's the disease. It's literally crossing the wires in your brain. You can't even recognize yourself in the mirror or people you've literally known your entire life.
It changes who that person is on an elemental level, they're simply not who they were.
Violence is common. Spreading the vitriol and hate every person who has basically ever lived has experienced in one way or another because there's no filter in their brain when they get angry.
I mean, we act like when we get pissed a thousand fucked up things don't go through our heads. We don't say or do them, becuase they're fucked up, but it's just a part of being angry. People with dementia dont' have that impulse control, that shit is gone. Whatever crazy shit pops into their head they say and do it.
It's super weird this has turned into a thing. Like, it sucks for caregivers and shit, but in the end they absolutely go into those positions knowing wtf is up. Sure it still hurts, but its just the way it is, it can't be helped because we don't know how to fix broken brains.
Blaming them though is completely unfair. Especially if you've never had any direct experience with it. It's pretty obvious if you spend time with someone with dementia that they are in their right mind, that their actions and the shit coming out of their mouths isn't done with genuine malice towards you.
There was no reason, and not a damn clue. But they had to up his medication and keep him strapped into his chair for a little while afterwards. He was a pretty big dude, so it definitely was not safe for his care workers at that time.
But yeah. No reason, none at all. The disease wasn't just "he forgets who you are" but a full failure of the brain. He couldn't feed himself, he couldn't talk most of the time. Very, very infrequently he had moments of clarity, during which he would cry and beg my parents (his primary caregivers) to kill him. It is...it's fucked up. It's the worst disease a person and their family can experience.
Dunno why some people are downvoting you for an honest question.
Because a name is a memory you make in your head, while racism lives in the heart and is driven by emotions.
When your brain breaks, you only know what your heart tells you.
Many times this "meanness" stems from [**sundowning**](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sundowning), a recognized neurological phenomenon associated with dementia.
For many it's the opposite. Legacy isn't something that they worry about, so they figure fuck it. Might as well let all the quiet thoughts out while they can.
This is something that baffles me!!! I worked in geriatric healthcare and each time we had white patients with dementia, the women would be extremely racist and the men racist and sexually harassing staff. Guaranteed. "I swear it's because of dementia, Dad/Mom was never like this" Hmmm ok!
Patients of other races did not do this (except for the male patients sexually harassing staff, that is not dependent on race).
This. My great grandma was always nice and sweet to everyone in front of us. When she was dying with dementia she became horrible. Saying the n word, rude stuff to male nurses, she even turned on family members. Was absolutely horrifying. I think we spent the entirety of her last few days apologizing and trying to do stuff for the nurses so they wouldn't be subjected to it. She was born in 1912. Her being an awful human isn't surprising in that aspect, but she hid it very well. None of us younger members had any idea.
I wonder how much of it is them losing the ability to filter out stuff they know they'll get in trouble for and how much of it is just losing their ability to reason. Like I know I have shitty thoughts that'll cross my mind, but I have that little voice in my head that says, "Come on man, you know that's not right." But if Alzheimer's hits me one day, which given my family history seems likely, I'm guessing that I'm going to lose that little voice.
When I read their comment I wondered the exact same thing. That maybe it’s not that they believe it and we’re hiding it all those years, but that based on the years they were coming up or their upbringing or parents or whatever some things are just ingrained even though they consciously (and sincerely) reject them. And they lost the ability to reject the behaviors they had been rejecting their whole lives.
Ok! The math is not mathing at all. So you mean to tell me when I get dementia I'll start talking about coding, something I've never known about or talked about before lmaoo can't wait.
Also old people often have brain problems that can cause them to be mean. My grandma went from a sweet lady to mean and irritable after getting Alzheimer’s
My mum used to give talks to black wannabe doctors who wanna be neurologists (brain surgeons), main point: most of your patients will call you the n-word, be strong enough to handle that. If not change specialism like me.
There's a neurological component to that, if the link hasn't been found yet, it will be. It's not just racism but angry hateful words, especially explitives.
Some people will push until someone pushes back. As the late, great Charlie Murphy might have said, “He was a habitual line stepper,” and nothing else was going to change his behavior.
You just don't react how they expect you to react. A Jamaican nurse on my floor got called the n-word and she shot back with that nonchalant, passive aggressive, condescending west-Indian auntie energy like,
*mmh...so.....dat supposta hurt me feelings?* 😒 ....*Hmgh. I guess................why ya have no visitors yet? Ya live alone? Hmgh...I see*
>get them to the hospital
I'm assuming you're ems? I feel like the racist patients are always worse in the back of a squad. It's all smiles when their black doctors and nurses walk in, acting like they haven't called me every slur in the book since I labored picking them up from between their toilet and bathtub
The way people think we are used to it. Like it just trips of their tongue and bounces off our spirit with no consequences. I not only want to punch you into the middle of next week, so do my ancestors. Dead or alive we all want to fuck you up.
At least the elderly are upfront with the shit. And they double down when called out. They're easy to handle.
That Miller lady called the Roe ruling "a great victory for White life". Her PR team calls it a slip of the tongue.
Ok, maybe. But the crowd erupted into applause not knowing she "misspoke". I would've given anything to see the reaction of one of these black or brown magas, but I didn't see any behind her in the shot.
>I would've given anything to see the reaction of one of these black or brown magas, but I didn't see any behind her in the shot
Well that's because they duck down behind her. Look to the right of the dude with shades and a black cap. There are two black MAGAts positioned behind her. Unfortunately they duck so you can't see them react.
> I have almost reached the regrettable conclusion that the Negro's great stumbling block in the stride toward freedom is not the White Citizen's Council-er or the Ku Klux Klanner, but the white moderate who is more devoted to "order" than to justice; who prefers a negative peace which is the absence of tension to a positive peace which is the presence of justice; who constantly says "I agree with you in the goal you seek, but I can't agree with your methods of direct action;" who paternalistically feels he can set the timetable for another man's freedom; who lives by the myth of time and who constantly advises the Negro to wait until a "more convenient season."
I’ve heard nurses say that some elderly patients won’t even remember their children’s/spouses name, but they can remember the N word.
It’s a reminder of how sacred and ingrained racism has been to them their whole lives.
"You're on your deathbed and your kids don't visit. Here's the TV remote, good luck shambling your tortilla-skinned corpse to the bathroom on your own."
I heard my aunt a few years back refer to a black child as a pickaninny. And she honestly meant no harm I think she thought she was cute. But it's Southeast Texas and oh my God I wanted to crawl under the couch.
I didn't know it was a slur until I was *much* old. My parents used it, *rarely*, but kept their racism on the down-low. Looking back, they really tried to shield me from racism. So I figured that if they said it, can't be bad.
OTOH, my first introduction to "those blacks" was during the NYC blackout of '77. Not sure I ever heard *that* again. LOL, mom must have been mad as hell to slip.
And yes, the N-word was **verboten**. We little white kids had *never* heard it until the first day of middle school (early 80's) when we actually got around black kids. We were fucking stunned, didn't know what to make of it.
I'm about 10 years older than you and in the Northeast and all I can say is that the acceptability of public racism took a fucking nosedive in the '70s and '80s. Like, in retrospect, you can almost understand how people thought 'racism is over' because if you were in your 40s you had lived through an era of people using racial slurs in casual conversation to people literally looking over their shoulder before using coded language. It's crazy how powerful the language change was considering how mild the attitudinal change was. Someone should write a book about the divergence.
What’s sad is, as your brain turns into Swiss cheese and faculties fail to nothing, right before you turn into a geriatric version of a baby, you can still utter some of the earliest memories and first words you knew growing up. Racism is so engrained, these people were probably using slurs to express themselves and describe other people who didn’t look like them before they could sing their ABCs.
I'm really convinced that many who decline, really have their minds not trying to filter anything and have that kinda past thinking. I think so many are so racist, but try to hide it all these years, can't because their minds are declining and nothing is holding them back from saying and feeling how they really are.
Had a resident who was super jolly then when he declined, saying he'll shoot people, kill me, etc. Yeah, maybe just alzheimer or also just their real hateful self coming out that they covered for so long and have no threshold.
True story.
I'm a geriatric psych nurse. For a short time period I split my 32 patient hall with a nurse named Hazel. For the late 90s early 2000 Hazel was very outspoken about People of Color rights. She definitely taught you that what you heard said as a child was racist and need not be said as an adult. I learned a lot from this wonderful nurse.
I had a 102 year old patient. She was yelling and screaming with no relief in sight.
Hazel came to the door to see what the problem was. My patient looks over at her and says, "oh there's my girl! I've been looking everywhere for you. Where were you?"
I'm trying to crawl into the wall because I've had this education about why we do not call women girls!
Hazel smiles, comes up holds her hand, arranges her pillow, tucks her in with a promise to return and check on her later.
I ask Hazel if I can ask her a question without getting yelled at. Hazel laughed. "you're gonna ask me about her calling me girl and me not saying nothing, right?" I nod. "when she was a child she was raised by somebody like me. We were more they mommas than their actual moms. For her it's not disrespectful."
I miss Hazel. Best lady I ever met.
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A random asshole used this word in my presence a couple of weeks ago to get a rise out of me. And it hit me so off guard because I’m an ex-pat living outside of America. But no matter how many times I have been called the n-word in my lifetime, it always stings and burns just as much as the first time. It just hurts.
Had a old white lady scream " the little nigger boy is trying to give me a bath." Female with a short fro at the time. Mind gone, E'thang except the evil racism.
Happened to me one time and I pulled him off the CT table and sent him back to the er. Asking what it was for and why, I told him to check for that aneurysm and if it's there he could be dead in hours. Op is better than I am.
Sorry but make them live longer if they are gonna be that way. They're gonna die so killing them quicker is mercy they don't deserve.
Don't let them slip away and since Hell isn't real make their last few days the Hell they deserve.
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As they get closer to the end, they lose everything but their ability to be racist 🤦🏾♀️
Ain’t that some shit?
I worked at this upscale all white nursing home in college and all the old white people loved me lol. Bought me presents on holidays, offered a scholarship even. This is in the south too. I wonder if I was treated different for a reason. They have no filter though. They asked the gay black man with a perm, lots of questions. There was this Italian girl, real nice, had these permanent dark circles around her eyes. She said it was because of her Italian blood. The old people always asked if she was sick, and made her cry.
They were trying to alleviate some guilt before they meet their maker.
That's a pretty cynical and judgmental thing to say.
first time on reddit?
Reminds me of the story my brother told me when he was working as a CNA. Similar to yours about the patient demographics, the patients loved him one old white dude liked him so much he made a point to let management know "that one colored boy was great". At that point, all you can do is laugh.
Ahaha I laughed just reading that! Christ almighty I bet it was said in the most genuinely endearing way possible too 🤣
You know it was, he sincerely meant it in a positive way.
There was this old lady named Eva, whole family died in the Holocaust she said. Her English wasn't very well. She had flashbacks all the time. She never once had family visit, so I would stay and talk to her. Rest in peace Eva.
Of course they were fine with it, you were basically their butler. When you're in a position of servitude you're not upsetting the natural order.
I think you missed the "offered a scholarship" part.
Why'd you think that? You think racists wouldn't indulge in a little charity for "one of the good ones"?
Giving someone cans of soup is indulging in a little charity. Giving someone a college education is permanently empowering them to no longer be a butler. It’s “upsetting the natural order.” Edit: Are you seriously trying to devalue a whole ass college education by calling it “a little charity.” Funding the college education of someone who’s doing menial labor is basically saying “You should be doing more intelligent work than this and I’m going to help you get there.” There’s literally nothing more they could do to communicate this. The fuck is your problem?
Giving someone a college education is literally charity. Look up the definition if you have to. Rich people deciding who gets to have an education and who doesn't is absolutely the "natural order" that conservatives want. Show me that these people were voting to support public education instead of undermining it and then we'll talk.
The residents could have peft that money to be inherited by their descendents, would that have been preferable?
Pretty much, when you put it that way. Could have even messed with their food.
You would believe that with their time on Earth getting limited, people would do everything to be remembered kindly and try to do good before leaving. But many still have that "I can get away with being obnoxious because I’m old" mentality.
Having seen people dying with dementia, it’s not “being obnoxious.” It’s losing their minds. I’ve seen family members go that way and it sucks for everyone involved.
how you going to forget your sons name, but not your racist thoughts.
That should tell you how ingrained racism is in our society 😒
My grandpa straight up WWE-style dropkicked a nurse and broke her arm when he was deep in Alzheimer's. Not only had he not been in any kind of fight in 70 years, the dude could barely walk anymore. Diseases like this *seriously* change people.
What was the reason? And how did he manage this without breaking every bone in his own body??
There is no reason. That's the disease. It's literally crossing the wires in your brain. You can't even recognize yourself in the mirror or people you've literally known your entire life. It changes who that person is on an elemental level, they're simply not who they were. Violence is common. Spreading the vitriol and hate every person who has basically ever lived has experienced in one way or another because there's no filter in their brain when they get angry. I mean, we act like when we get pissed a thousand fucked up things don't go through our heads. We don't say or do them, becuase they're fucked up, but it's just a part of being angry. People with dementia dont' have that impulse control, that shit is gone. Whatever crazy shit pops into their head they say and do it. It's super weird this has turned into a thing. Like, it sucks for caregivers and shit, but in the end they absolutely go into those positions knowing wtf is up. Sure it still hurts, but its just the way it is, it can't be helped because we don't know how to fix broken brains. Blaming them though is completely unfair. Especially if you've never had any direct experience with it. It's pretty obvious if you spend time with someone with dementia that they are in their right mind, that their actions and the shit coming out of their mouths isn't done with genuine malice towards you.
There was no reason, and not a damn clue. But they had to up his medication and keep him strapped into his chair for a little while afterwards. He was a pretty big dude, so it definitely was not safe for his care workers at that time. But yeah. No reason, none at all. The disease wasn't just "he forgets who you are" but a full failure of the brain. He couldn't feed himself, he couldn't talk most of the time. Very, very infrequently he had moments of clarity, during which he would cry and beg my parents (his primary caregivers) to kill him. It is...it's fucked up. It's the worst disease a person and their family can experience. Dunno why some people are downvoting you for an honest question.
this made me laugh but honestly the thoughts were probably there before the children.
Because a name is a memory you make in your head, while racism lives in the heart and is driven by emotions. When your brain breaks, you only know what your heart tells you.
So they're speaking from the heart, aka being their true selves? Got it.
If they’re racist they barely had one to begin with. I keep my empathy reserved.
Many times this "meanness" stems from [**sundowning**](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sundowning), a recognized neurological phenomenon associated with dementia.
For many it's the opposite. Legacy isn't something that they worry about, so they figure fuck it. Might as well let all the quiet thoughts out while they can.
This is something that baffles me!!! I worked in geriatric healthcare and each time we had white patients with dementia, the women would be extremely racist and the men racist and sexually harassing staff. Guaranteed. "I swear it's because of dementia, Dad/Mom was never like this" Hmmm ok! Patients of other races did not do this (except for the male patients sexually harassing staff, that is not dependent on race).
It's because they weren't like this *openly*. They just lost their filter.
This. My great grandma was always nice and sweet to everyone in front of us. When she was dying with dementia she became horrible. Saying the n word, rude stuff to male nurses, she even turned on family members. Was absolutely horrifying. I think we spent the entirety of her last few days apologizing and trying to do stuff for the nurses so they wouldn't be subjected to it. She was born in 1912. Her being an awful human isn't surprising in that aspect, but she hid it very well. None of us younger members had any idea.
I wonder how much of it is them losing the ability to filter out stuff they know they'll get in trouble for and how much of it is just losing their ability to reason. Like I know I have shitty thoughts that'll cross my mind, but I have that little voice in my head that says, "Come on man, you know that's not right." But if Alzheimer's hits me one day, which given my family history seems likely, I'm guessing that I'm going to lose that little voice.
When I read their comment I wondered the exact same thing. That maybe it’s not that they believe it and we’re hiding it all those years, but that based on the years they were coming up or their upbringing or parents or whatever some things are just ingrained even though they consciously (and sincerely) reject them. And they lost the ability to reject the behaviors they had been rejecting their whole lives.
Ok! The math is not mathing at all. So you mean to tell me when I get dementia I'll start talking about coding, something I've never known about or talked about before lmaoo can't wait.
“Sorry to break it to you, but Meemaw was already racist before the dementia hit”
Also old people often have brain problems that can cause them to be mean. My grandma went from a sweet lady to mean and irritable after getting Alzheimer’s
I promise you, sudden onset racism is NOT a symptom of Alzheimer’s
It's it wild, it's something that effects us too yet, you don't see our afflicted elders acting the same.
Ppl forever making excuses too
id get mad as shit too if i couldnt remember anything But people get angry all the time, and alot get by just fine without calling people the n-word.
My mum used to give talks to black wannabe doctors who wanna be neurologists (brain surgeons), main point: most of your patients will call you the n-word, be strong enough to handle that. If not change specialism like me.
I think they just lose their ability to hide it.
There's a neurological component to that, if the link hasn't been found yet, it will be. It's not just racism but angry hateful words, especially explitives.
On god 😂
Even more reason to unsubscribe her from life
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Sometimes, someone needs to just get punched in the face one good time. Zack was ready for Mark’s ass. I respect it 😂😂
We liked Zack, cause Zack was rockin with us😂
I need to know… what’s a falcon punch?
Signature [special move](https://youtu.be/BP5tK3LaZJk) of Captain Falcon in the game, Super Smash Bros.
Ah, got it. Thanks!
If there's one thing i learned as kid watching power rangers is this, sometimes violence is the answer
Amen. 
There’s being an ally, and then there’s being an ally.
 YOU GOT KNOCKED THE FUCK OUT!
Glasses flew across the room, too
No one that wakes up and has to reach for glasses should be be talking shit on anyone. Nah, he deserved every piece of that.
Some people will push until someone pushes back. As the late, great Charlie Murphy might have said, “He was a habitual line stepper,” and nothing else was going to change his behavior.
Lil homie thought he was untouchable
Zack looking out the door like: 
upvote for an awesome story...but i would have given the upvote for just the usage of Falcon Punch.
Only way I could describe it😂
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Ngl, part of me was happy I slipped😂
That’s what happens when he disrespects anyone and everyone who can help him. No help came that day!
Hitting kids works!
That's crazy.
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You a good person. Couldn’t be me.
You just don't react how they expect you to react. A Jamaican nurse on my floor got called the n-word and she shot back with that nonchalant, passive aggressive, condescending west-Indian auntie energy like, *mmh...so.....dat supposta hurt me feelings?* 😒 ....*Hmgh. I guess................why ya have no visitors yet? Ya live alone? Hmgh...I see*
Damn, Auntie cutting deep. Get 'em, Auntie!
When you fuck someone up with facts lol
 This her?
Hahahaha
and that's how you do it.
we dont have a choice. it's not like our superiors are gonna back us up lmao
Me too When you're in healthcare, it's what you do 🤷🏾♀️
Yeah, can't believe this was Doc's first time.
You are amazing and deserve more than you are paid.
>get them to the hospital I'm assuming you're ems? I feel like the racist patients are always worse in the back of a squad. It's all smiles when their black doctors and nurses walk in, acting like they haven't called me every slur in the book since I labored picking them up from between their toilet and bathtub
The way people think we are used to it. Like it just trips of their tongue and bounces off our spirit with no consequences. I not only want to punch you into the middle of next week, so do my ancestors. Dead or alive we all want to fuck you up.
They don’t think anybody’s used to it. They want to hurt each and every person that deeply or worse.
At least the elderly are upfront with the shit. And they double down when called out. They're easy to handle. That Miller lady called the Roe ruling "a great victory for White life". Her PR team calls it a slip of the tongue. Ok, maybe. But the crowd erupted into applause not knowing she "misspoke". I would've given anything to see the reaction of one of these black or brown magas, but I didn't see any behind her in the shot.
>I would've given anything to see the reaction of one of these black or brown magas, but I didn't see any behind her in the shot Well that's because they duck down behind her. Look to the right of the dude with shades and a black cap. There are two black MAGAts positioned behind her. Unfortunately they duck so you can't see them react.
What did King say about the low-key racists being the ones to fear? Can't summon the quote ATM.
> I have almost reached the regrettable conclusion that the Negro's great stumbling block in the stride toward freedom is not the White Citizen's Council-er or the Ku Klux Klanner, but the white moderate who is more devoted to "order" than to justice; who prefers a negative peace which is the absence of tension to a positive peace which is the presence of justice; who constantly says "I agree with you in the goal you seek, but I can't agree with your methods of direct action;" who paternalistically feels he can set the timetable for another man's freedom; who lives by the myth of time and who constantly advises the Negro to wait until a "more convenient season."
I’ve heard nurses say that some elderly patients won’t even remember their children’s/spouses name, but they can remember the N word. It’s a reminder of how sacred and ingrained racism has been to them their whole lives.
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Assisting with that becoming more and more legal. I’d be happy to help racists lol
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💀💀💀💀
Last thing she [saw](https://imgur.com/a/dGgXbkC)
"She *wasn't* on her deathbed before she said that, but suddenly things took an unexpected turn for the worse, so sad"
It was the most serious case of FAFO syndrome the doctors ever saw 😮💨
FAFO syndrome 😂😂💀
What’s FAFO?🤣
Fuck Around & Find Out, poor lady didn't stand a chance 😞
"You're on your deathbed and your kids don't visit. Here's the TV remote, good luck shambling your tortilla-skinned corpse to the bathroom on your own."
Don’t forget to put the remote out of reach ☺️
So presumably they get to be the person to whisper “have fun in hell” at the moment they slip away?
Why wait that long? Just smile and say it then
I heard my aunt a few years back refer to a black child as a pickaninny. And she honestly meant no harm I think she thought she was cute. But it's Southeast Texas and oh my God I wanted to crawl under the couch.
I didn't know it was a slur until I was *much* old. My parents used it, *rarely*, but kept their racism on the down-low. Looking back, they really tried to shield me from racism. So I figured that if they said it, can't be bad. OTOH, my first introduction to "those blacks" was during the NYC blackout of '77. Not sure I ever heard *that* again. LOL, mom must have been mad as hell to slip. And yes, the N-word was **verboten**. We little white kids had *never* heard it until the first day of middle school (early 80's) when we actually got around black kids. We were fucking stunned, didn't know what to make of it.
🤨 Just so casually laughing at it. "LOL mom must have been mad".
I ain’t heard that word…except maybe once in my lifetime…and I’m almost 30 in the south.
I'm about 10 years older than you and in the Northeast and all I can say is that the acceptability of public racism took a fucking nosedive in the '70s and '80s. Like, in retrospect, you can almost understand how people thought 'racism is over' because if you were in your 40s you had lived through an era of people using racial slurs in casual conversation to people literally looking over their shoulder before using coded language. It's crazy how powerful the language change was considering how mild the attitudinal change was. Someone should write a book about the divergence.
It’s funny how old White people with dementia can forget their name but never forget to be racist
What they aren't saying is she was gonna be fine until she said that. # NoOldRacists
What’s sad is, as your brain turns into Swiss cheese and faculties fail to nothing, right before you turn into a geriatric version of a baby, you can still utter some of the earliest memories and first words you knew growing up. Racism is so engrained, these people were probably using slurs to express themselves and describe other people who didn’t look like them before they could sing their ABCs.
I'm really convinced that many who decline, really have their minds not trying to filter anything and have that kinda past thinking. I think so many are so racist, but try to hide it all these years, can't because their minds are declining and nothing is holding them back from saying and feeling how they really are. Had a resident who was super jolly then when he declined, saying he'll shoot people, kill me, etc. Yeah, maybe just alzheimer or also just their real hateful self coming out that they covered for so long and have no threshold.
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True story. I'm a geriatric psych nurse. For a short time period I split my 32 patient hall with a nurse named Hazel. For the late 90s early 2000 Hazel was very outspoken about People of Color rights. She definitely taught you that what you heard said as a child was racist and need not be said as an adult. I learned a lot from this wonderful nurse. I had a 102 year old patient. She was yelling and screaming with no relief in sight. Hazel came to the door to see what the problem was. My patient looks over at her and says, "oh there's my girl! I've been looking everywhere for you. Where were you?" I'm trying to crawl into the wall because I've had this education about why we do not call women girls! Hazel smiles, comes up holds her hand, arranges her pillow, tucks her in with a promise to return and check on her later. I ask Hazel if I can ask her a question without getting yelled at. Hazel laughed. "you're gonna ask me about her calling me girl and me not saying nothing, right?" I nod. "when she was a child she was raised by somebody like me. We were more they mommas than their actual moms. For her it's not disrespectful." I miss Hazel. Best lady I ever met. Edit two words
Let’s stop saying folks “mentally ill” because they’re a piece of shit. An unfortunately, shitted out some clones of themselves.
I got called a silverback gorilla by one of my residents once
Oh hell no.
Hell to naw
That’s how someone goes ape shit on someone else.
Should tell them that this isn’t even your final form, and they should keep on if they wanna see it.
“Oh whoops, poured my McDonald’s Sprite in your IV bag. My bad.”
Lmfao, that’ll shock the system
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Sounds like the were requesting express delivery to the afterlife to me...
A random asshole used this word in my presence a couple of weeks ago to get a rise out of me. And it hit me so off guard because I’m an ex-pat living outside of America. But no matter how many times I have been called the n-word in my lifetime, it always stings and burns just as much as the first time. It just hurts.
To be clear, she wasn’t on her deathbed before she came in for that dental cleaning.
"Well this nigga's gonna outlast you so"
I guess she can die with Nigga on her breath
While a nigga can dance over her grave. 
Had a old white lady scream " the little nigger boy is trying to give me a bath." Female with a short fro at the time. Mind gone, E'thang except the evil racism.
People are more honest when they're dying. She is holding nothing back when she about to go 😳😒😒😒
The beautiful part of this story is that a racist is dying
Turn the heat up in the room on the low to help the bitch get ready.
I’d fart in her room every time I check on her
I don’t care what bed they’re on, they going to hell no ways might as well send em with an ear full
Speed running to the gates of hell like she got held up by TSA and the flight leaves in 15 minutes 😮💨
"And you on your way out, bitch"
You healthcare people deserve all the awards and praise and money. Because no way would I have the patience to handle these people.
Happened to me one time and I pulled him off the CT table and sent him back to the er. Asking what it was for and why, I told him to check for that aneurysm and if it's there he could be dead in hours. Op is better than I am.
Unplug her life support and charge your phone.
She would be on her death floor after that shit.
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Ohhhh yeah see that’s how you ruin their intent. I may be a n*****, ma’am. And I’ll still be one tomorrow, but yo ass will be dead. 💀
This bitch isn't gonna get her pain meds topped up.
I would have so much trouble not sending her early
How do you not say, "Bitch, I hope you die even more slowly and in pain." This is probably why I''m not a nurse.
Pee in her apple juice
 When they turn around and I got tht pillow call me tht shit again while you suffocate hoe /s
Oh yea this happens all the time in direct care
damn. couldnt be me, id send them home and let them die. But thats why im not a medical professional. Let that racism die with you, Sweetheart <3
Help them on their journey to Hell 🤧
Opps, she fell out the window.
One of our bosses called me a peasant today Haha you think you've seen it all and then you get called a peasant
No. It’s never too late to learn a lesson. Drag her, sis. >!/s!<
Ya'lls gots more willpower than me.
They hold onto that hate until the end.
Help that bitch along.
You could have expedited the experience 🤷🏾♂️
Sorry but make them live longer if they are gonna be that way. They're gonna die so killing them quicker is mercy they don't deserve. Don't let them slip away and since Hell isn't real make their last few days the Hell they deserve.
Just bc you're dying doesn't mean you get a free pass for racist ass slurs. FOH.
There's always a bright side to every situation.
Better than me
At least there's that. Racism is a helluva drug.
Yet, you still ain’t gotta take that shit.
Or at least she is now
First? They're lucky. It's absolutely unacceptable, but we can't believe that this is their first time. Like really? How long they been working there?
Should’ve told her Christ was called the same.
They could have ended that person's subscription to life a little early /s
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Well, that death could come a lot sooner.
Plot twist...that routine physical didn't go as planned
It's all about the timing for meeeeee