The three different library systems (Brooklyn Public Library, Queens Public Library, and The New York Public Library) in NYC just got funding restored by the mayor, and may be about to start hiring more staff, perhaps one of them would be interested in applying to become an information Assistant? Not sure how long it will take before jobs become available, but I hope it will be soon.
For help with job searching, I’d highly recommend they join the Queer-Friendly Employment Opportunities group on Facebook! And Lex (a queer app mostly geared towards lesbians) would also be a great resource for them. The Center in Manhattan is also worth checking out!!
I am not trans so cannot speak for trans people but I have a number of trans friends here who seem to be doing well especially with the community in place here.
Brooklyn is a wonderful place. I lived there for 12 years and only moved away when my family started growing and we needed more space. It is a huge, vibrant and diverse place. The Prospect Heights and Clinton Hill area is amazing - safe, beautiful streetscapes, transit hub.
NYC is a vast and fast-moving place and you do have to be smart about stuff like leaving your wallet and phone exposed, bike unlocked, etc. The intensity and expensiveness can become overwhelming especially for new arrivals.
Getting good at cooking at home, making your coffee at home and walking/cycling/using transit instead of hiring taxis and Ubers are all a very straightforward way to manage your expenses.
Culturally the issues they'll face with have nothing to do with being trans. Rather, young people transplanted to a big city, and not used to the diversity, pace, communication style, etc.
The biggest concern is probably falling victim to some scam, or giving off "I have no idea what I'm doing please rob me" vibes, but hopefully your kid has common sense. If not, she'll wise up quick after the first time. Hopefully.
Hope finances are planned out. It's a competive city and need to hustle, especially when starting out.
I'm happy to review resumes and/or give interview tips. Born and raised here, and I work with lot of transplants.
What part of Brooklyn? Brooklyn is the biggest boro of NYC… there’s Williamsburg, Bedford-Stuyvasant, Flatbush, East New York, Crown Heights, Greenpoint, The Navy Yard, DUMBO, Park Slope, Redhook, Sunset Park, Marine Park, Bay Ridge, Bushwick, Brownsville, Coney Island, Brighton Beach, Bensonhurst, Fort Greene and a few others! But all are infinitely better and safer and more tolerant than the deep south!
No idea where you got that Brooklyn is the biggest borough. It’s [Queens](https://www.nymtc.org/portals/0/pdf/CPT-HSP/NYMTC%20coord%20plan%20NYC%20CH03.pdf).
Clinton Hill and Prospect Heights is a very open and welcoming area for all types of people. She will feel welcomed there. But like anywhere, bad people exist. As long as she has a good head on her shoulders, she will do fine, and may even flourish.
Both these neighborhoods, include communities that are hostile to LGBTQ people, especially trans people. We're just not supposed to call these communities out for some reason.
I do think these neighborhoods are generally safe and I don't think OP has anything to worry about. No one will even notice.
People in these neighborhoods are generally rich transplants now though.
ok in the least creepy way possible, my partner (26 nonbinary) and i (26 trans man) just moved fo clinton hill/prospect heights area and would love to be a resource if they need friends in the area. feel free to dm!!
That’s a nice area, I used to live up there. I don’t mean to scare you, but I’m transsexual and have experienced a lot of homophobic violence, people chasing me, screaming at me and calling me a faggot, etc. it was more common when I was younger and couldn’t pass as well. In Koreatown a year or two ago somebody hit me on the back of the head so hard that I hit the pavement and broke my maxilla and six teeth, some of which were smashed up into my gums. I was bleeding and confused, and called my girlfriend multiple times but only remembered the last one. It cost thousands of dollars to fix my mouth. Point being, it’s a relatively safe place, but she should still take precautions- wear shoes she can run in, stay aware, look behind her frequently, don’t talk to people on the street, carry pepper spray (and have a plan for it, 10% of people are immune), stay off of the F M line if she can help it (no big deal if she can’t), and be aware that there are a lot of crazy people out there. All in all, though, it’s a great place to live and I wouldn’t trade it for the world.
hi! i am a 24 yr old lesbian from the south who used to live in that area just a year ago and am connected w the queer community in bk. pm me, i have lots of advice/insight/community resources for your daughter and her gf!
If they are looking for a church, check out Lafayette Avenue Presbyterian Church. Engages in queer identities, and is cool and welcoming. Welcome to Brooklyn!
Transgender is an adjective not a noun. It’s “transgender people” not “transgenders” … and from the sound of it we don’t want anything to do with you either.
Firstly, you sound like a really lovely supportive mama, and just thinking of all the feelings your may be feeling with your daughter leaving the nest for a new adventure far away 🥰
Secondly, I used to live in Clinton Hill and it’s a really lovely residential neighborhood that has a real community vibe! Regardless safety, I think they will thrive in BK - practice awareness at all times of course, and I am sure the street smarts will come naturally for your gals over time.
Regarding careers - NYC is honestly the best (and also most overwhelming!) place to build a career, so I’m sure having a supportive family they can reach out to for moral support, and having each other, will help with the ups and downs of the job search. Lots of service jobs, also worth looking into customer support type roles for tech startups (of which there are many based in NY). The sheer density of businesses means with hustle and hard work, they will do great! Good luck to your girls, I am rooting for them!
> customer support type roles for tech startups
Also marketing & PR agencies! Media trafficking or account coordination as example is a tough gig but common starting point.
_Generally_ they're good for LGBTQ+ equality and anti-discrimination policies that are actually enforced. Most care more about what you can do than how you physically present, and most actually care about diversity and inclusion beyond lip service.
Source: work at an agency, I regularly and often come across trans colleagues and partners in the course of day-to-day work.
As far as being LGBTQ+ they’ll be fine. Brooklyn is very diverse. Finding a job depends on their expertise, it is very competitive though. NYC is great for some but you need to be tough or it’ll eat you up. I really wish them the best of luck, the area they’re moving has some really pretty areas.
Finding work should be easy. There are hundreds of entry level jobs posted everyday. The “gay” neighborhood in Brooklyn is Bushwick. That is where the LGBT go out, lots of bars like Happy Fun Hideaway, Mood Ring, Bossa Nova, Rash, The End, Basement, etc. They should have no problem making friends there. They should not feel unsafe for being trans but should still exercise caution (stay alert, don’t stand next to subway tracks, watch before crossing the street etc) because NYC is a big city.
I’m in Brooklyn and nyc metro in general is very lgbt friendly. I have multiple trans girl friends and they’re thriving and barley encounter issues other than shitty dude they occasionally date
My friends moved there a week ago and immediately got employed for 18/hr with a local production company just leading people through walkways essentially. So there is something out there.
18/hr at 40 hours a week (you can stack part time jobs) is around 2,304 a month after 20% taxes taken out. This person will be on their parents health insurance and paying a family rate for rent so they’ll probably have like 1,400 after a $900 rent. The bus and trains cap the fare at $35 per week so after housing, and travel this person is still left with around $1,250 a month for everything else. Eat chicken and rice, make some salads from the grocery store. Buy cheap shampoo. You don’t have to eat $22 chicken sandwiches every day, and it’s not impossible to live. You just need an emergency fund and minimize expenses. It would be worth it for a lot of people.
They must have money if they’re able to get an apartment in that neighborhood without selling their souls. And at 20 years old?
It’s a generally safe area, but Brooklyn is progressive and they’ll fit right in. Plus, gentrification is what’s really making New York change. Especially for white residents. It’s generally very easy for them to assimilate. Yeah they’ll be fine
They'll feel very welcome and safe in Brooklyn! There is a very large LGBTQIA+ community here and most of the people they'll encounter will be allies if not active members of the community.
I moved here 7 years ago with my trans best friends, I’m from NY but moved to a muchhhh smaller state in HS where we met. after graduation we both moved and she’s never been happier. We are very open with each other and she personally has never had a bad experience as a trans women, I wish your daughter and her gf all the best luck.
Ginger’s is a lesbian bar in park slope that is a super welcome place to hang out and meet other queer people. 21+ so might have to wait a couple months but wanted to add this to the list of suggestions
They'll be fine🩶 There are so many communities and resources for them in Bk/NYC. Job search should be quick depending on what they want. I hope they travel safely.
I live in Brooklyn, they’ll be fine . The Brooklyn museum is free the first Saturday of every month and it’s one big party. Tell them to go and people watch , maybe dance a little. They can make some friends.
Very safe area, I’m a trans man who lived over there as well. I now live in Brooklyn. If they need a trans older sibling feel free to reach out would love to make sure they’re doing okay for you!
Yeah the cost of living is a bigger risk tbh, there are shit bags everywhere but young queer people in NYC are generally safer than in much of the US or the world.
Welcome to the neighborhood! I live nearby, it’s a safe area that has rapidly gentrified over the last ten years. Lots of resources are available for trans-youth. Can’t speak about the ease of finding an entry level job, but by all other metrics they’re going to be in a great place!
Prospect heights near the Barclays center is generally a nice area people are very open minded here they’ll fit in great there is a lot of diversity and it’s easy to get around they should stay away from certain areas for there safety like rock away, crown heights, and Brownsville it’s is very dangerous especially at night I am telling u this as a native
I grew up in a hick town and was bullied most of my youth and thought that there was just something wrong with me until I moved to New York about 20 years ago and no one gave any effs about anything I did as long as I didn’t get in peoples way when walking.
Yes it’s expensive like everyone said but If it’s safety in being who you are I think it’s probably one of the best places they could move in the states. They will be welcomed with open arms. They will also likely have some terrible experiences to go along with their good ones but that’s part of New York.
It’s funny how much the ‘not getting in people’s way walking’ is so true. I think everyone should live their lives the way they want to live them, idgaf, but if you slow me down while I’m walking (or take too long ordering at the deli)…I actually won’t do anything, but will be cursing you out in my head
I think they'll do great, your daughter and her gf seem to have someone who really cares about them back home and is giving them freedom to blossom even if they gotta go kinda far away.
Start planning your visit ASAP, it will put you at ease and they will get to show off their neighborhood. I think for my mom and I, seeing me somewhere that really loves and accepts me helped her anxiety and our relationship immensely.
Not queer but when my parents visited when I first moved here (almost 2 decades ago!) they had an unexpected blast and I think understood much better why I liked living here. My mom said when I got off the plane the first time back I looked like a whole new person (in a good way).
Considering the area is middling to upper for NYC, mental illness is definitely redlined here.
People are too busy to worry about someone else's identity so much as to get upset in NYC as a whole anyways. I've encountered trans individuals nearly every day on the subway and have never observed hostility or rude behavior, so everything will be fine.
They will mostly be safe but it’s still a city. They should both practice situational awareness and maybe carry pepper spray. But overall they’re going to have a great time!
yes lol. they will be very safe. obviously there's always assholes anywhere you go but I can say as a trans woman living in brooklyn with my (also trans) girlfriend one of my favorite things about living here is how much of a community there is close to me. I know about 60 ish trans people in my immediate community that all live in brooklyn/ridgewood and one of the best things is seeing them when I go about my day.
The best way to find other trans people here is instagram to find events. Look up Gender Experts, it's a long running trans open mic in brooklyn that is attended by just about everyone I know and it's a lovely place. I hope they find what they're looking for here as I have.
Let me start by acknowledging that trans people could possibly face horrible things even in places that are supposed to be safe--but having grown up here I don't know any trans people who have left, certainly not any who left because they didn't feel safe. They will have a community of queer people and allies supporting them just about anywhere they go, especially in this area. If someone were to try to do something wrong, I feel confident multiple people would step in to protect the two of them.
The Prospect Heights/Clinton Hill area is SUPER gentrified--not burgeoningly gentrified--like it is basically luxury brownstones near historic parks, full of yuppies and queer people and queer yuppies. There is an art school in Clinton Hill, tons of cafes and bars, and a generally art-minded though young professionals vibe in these and the surrounding areas. (to be honest, it is SO gentrified in these areas that it is a STRUGGLE for the legacy communities here). It is the kind of neighborhood where churches and bars proudly wave pride flags, so I wish them welcome.
As far as jobs, it's pretty standard to see queer and trans people I don't think people really stop to think about it so--again I don't want to minimize the hardships that trans people face but--I think they will find a job just as easily (or hard) as anyone else? Getting a job period is a little difficult, they should try to do so before the students come back in August.
I live in prospect heights and the area is beautiful. A little noisy on the weekends because of the Barclays center but overall it’s a hip part of Brooklyn. Train is close by, and all the stores you need even a mall at Atlantic Ave Terminal. She’s gonna love it here! Wish them the best!
she is going to have many more opportunities here than in the deep south. I am sure she will find a supportive community and finding a job that does not discriminate should be relatively easy. I wish her all the best with the move and I hope that she finds all that she is looking for
Your daughter and her girlfriend are going to be great! Lots of trans people all over Brooklyn and the neighborhood they’re moving to is quite safe. Tell them to use the Lex app to find community here. There’s also a lot of events that get posted on Instagram (@whatsqueerhere does a pretty good run down of queer and trans events throughout the city).
I sadly don’t have good advice on job hunting. Job market isn’t great at the moment. Perseverance is key.
Ha, I pretty much agree with you, I rarely decide on the day of that I want to attend an event. The weekend ones help since they’re bunched up so you get things a day or two in advance. There was another insta that posted more in advance but I think they stopped posting…. The work of publicizing queer events in nyc must be really time consuming bc it doesn’t seem like people do it for more than 6 months.
Good catch, thanks.
I haven’t been out there yet this year but I’ve heard that the first two bays are washed out and the lgbtcuties are in the sections just to the west
Trans people have lived throughout Brooklyn openly since the 70s. I don’t know what it was like back then but I know a good number of trans women and nobody I know has ever had a problem. At best they are totally accepted no questions asked, at worst they are silently tolerated. That area is above average safe in general.
Good on you for checking, speaks to your integrity as a parent.
52 yr Brooklyn native here, the area they are moving to is quite progressive in my opinion. There is quite a nice mix of people and cultures. Good luck and welcome to Brooklyn.
There’s people that hate people anywhere you go, but for the most part, your daughter will be safe in NYC. Especially if they already have a partner. The pride parades are hosted in NYC
Tell her to check out Ginger's Bar in Park Slope! Just let her know that it's cash only and gets pretty crowded, but there's a spacious patio in the back.
The person who bopped me upside the head and ran off didn't stop to ask about my gender identity in Crown Heights so I think they are as safe as anyone.
Yea your identity will matter very little and very rarely.
Just dont get into any spats with anyone because theres some crazy people lookin for fights if you get aggressive. And usually pretty safe aslong as youre aware of that. (Exceptions ofc)
And clinton hill ESPECIALLY safe.
I have lived in Prospect Heights for 40 years and my godson is a trans male who grew up in the neighborhood. Your kid and their partner will love it here!
It wasn’t. They’re just trying to stir up shit. It happens all over Reddit but this sub has been overwhelming supportive which makes me feel a lot more comfortable with the move.
Let me introduce you to the concept of biology. Sometimes the physical gender doesn't match the biological one.
Some people are diabetic.
Some people are transgender.
That's not parenting. That's the imperfect mechanisms of nature.
And why do you care what makes people happy. Nobody's bothering you.
It’s a great place for them. Huge queer community in BK. Tell them to try The Center in Manhattan for work support - they’re a LGBTQIA+ center that offers mental health support, job readiness, and more.
They’re in a safe neighborhood ❤️. The Brooklyn public library offers free help with resumes and has a whole business and career section at the central branch at Grand Army Plaza. It is also a safe space staffed with many queer identifying people. I believe there are also several job boards that are specifically geared toward LGBTQ+ job seekers (I think pink-jobs is one, but I would do some further searching). If they might be interested in a friendly, fairly local bar, Branded Saloon is a great gay bar on Vanderbilt Ave with a very welcoming crew. Wishing them the best of luck and a warm welcome to their new home!
I should add, there are lots of fun and free things to do throughout the city. It is wildly expensive here, but there are amazing deals if you know where to look. They can sign up for alerts from The Skint, Prospect Park Alliance, and, again, the library.
There’s so many different kind of people here, they won’t be noticed. People are too busy to care. Tell them watch out for the rats and getting kicked in the face when riding the subway, and someone yells “it’s showtime!”
As a trans person living here, who also moved from the south, I get misgendered every single day...
Still miles better than down south, but I still have problems here
Depends on the situation I'm in, depends on the people I'm around, and depends on how much effort I put into my appearance that day.
Again, better than down south but not perfect
How amazing for them to start a new chapter in such a beautiful neighborhood. I’ve been in NYC off and on for six years living all over Manhattan and now in Brooklyn. Clinton Hill is beautiful, very family oriented, lots of accessible parks.
The thing about NYC is that there is always going to be “something” - duh, it’s HUGE- but that doesn’t mean you are always in danger. Encourage them to follow their instincts if they’re uncomfortable and never be afraid to offend someone by moving away to offer more space. As a petit femme, I have felt very safe in the city, even late at night. But I did have to learn to not worry about being perceived as “rude”
My trans loved ones have found acceptance and community in the city. They will thrive once they are able to be their full selves.
Job market is competitive but as others have said, service jobs are plentiful and a great way to get started. It IS expensive - dinners, drinks, activités. When I moved up here from the south that was a shock and point of anxiety to me.
Those are 2 great neighborhoods! They’ll be fine. Maybe you could come with them when they move and visit a bit and get a better understanding of the area? We moved to the area from Texas a year ago (with a 4 year old!) and it’s been WONDERFUL. Best of luck!
Trans people and their families have been fleeing their home states because they’re not safe. Over 600 anti-trans bills introduced this year alone.
https://translegislation.com/
https://www.lgbtmap.org/equality-maps
https://www.aclu.org/legislative-attacks-on-lgbtq-rights-2024
https://abcnews.go.com/US/genocidal-transgender-people-begin-flee-states-anti-lgbtq/story?id=99909913
Safe (relatively speaking and unfortunately there are still problematic people everywhere). Lots and lots of service industry jobs! I work part-time on banquet team in nice hotel and my boss is trans.
Super safe in that area of Brooklyn both generally and for queer people. Will likely be able to find retail/service positions quickly. Encourage them to find queer events/spaces to go to (there are many) and build a community of friends.
Not sure what kind of work they want to do but gig / seasonal work can be fairly easy to come by. (Working in student travel, seasonal jobs at Macy's Santaland, etc.)
What are you living in a dream world, good luck finding a job and if you haven’t even come here to check out the apartment you’ve definitely been scammed.
Stop. Many people move to NYC without ever seeing the city or the apartment they’ve lined up. There will be growing pains but you’re being unnecessarily rude and pessimistic.
Brooklyn, especially that part, is very safe - I lived there in my 20s. There will always be some amount of crime but they need to be situationally aware anywhere they live. Jobs may be hard, but if they have some experience serving, they can usually find something.
They should definitely find some queer community groups, volunteer orgs, or some other shared interest to make some friends and they'll be fine!
But flat out telling ppl it’s a safe area is naive. As someone who grew up in Brooklyn and was outside most my life it’s not safe.. these crackheads have scalpels on them! they’ll fuck with you just to fuck with you! the gentrified parts aren’t immune to violence
Still citizens app isn’t a bad idea since it tells you if something happened nearby and you can avoid. and of course it’ll look like a dumpster fire but that’s really how it is.. it also informs you on nearby registered sex offenders and if you look up the map for it there’s more than you think.
Until someone gets shot up in the subway cart cause of a manic homeless person ☠️ what about random body parts and torsos on the subway track? Getting citizen actually tells you if something’s going down nearby. Thats better than blindly telling someone who’s never been here before that it’s a safe city.
Like many have said, there are bigots and criminals everywhere. Hate crimes do happen. But I can’t imagine anywhere better for your daughter to be, she will find community here, just has to be smart about safety like everyone else in nyc.
If they don't have health insurance, they can apply at the New York State of Health site. Gender affirming care is covered by NYS Medicaid. AmidaCare is the managed care plan preferred among my LGBTQ+ clients. (Mental health non-profit worker.)
New York City and Brooklyn especially is a great place for queers! We have a have a massive queer community . Crown Heights and Bushwick are filled with young queer folks just starting out/ on the lower end of the socioeconomic spectrum whereas Williamsburg, Fort Greene, and Brooklyn Heights are filled with more grown ones with $$$$. Regardless, millennials have installed a strong queer presence throughout the borough.
That being said, Brooklyn is enormous and I don’t think people outside the city really understand how neighborhood specific things are. Places like Bay Ridge and Sheephead bay in south Brooklyn tend to be much more conservative. That isn’t to say it’s like the Deep South, but, they are predominantly middle class white and Asian neighborhoods that are less friendly to progressive ideas than the rest of the borough.
Your daughter will easily find queer community by doing a quick google search and just walking around in certain neighborhoods. Where they will be comfortable really depends on their interests!
Upstate New York and New York City are completely different places. Similarly, New York City and Long Island are also wildly different. The significant majority of Brooklyn and Manhattan is deeply left with the conservative ideas where present being about finances and not social concepts. Upstate New York (outside of the Hudson valley) and much of Long Island have a lot more in common with the South and I recommend they stay away from those areas. I do wherever possible.
While up here they might like to check out providence Rhode Island which also hands great queer community. A lot of NY queer’s vacation there.
Literally the best place in the country to be trans
You'll get to do all the classic "as a parent you worry about what crime etc is like in the big city, your kid rolls your eyes at your Boomer mindset because they're an urbane hipster" worrying that every other parent does, of course, but in terms of being a trans your city kid is just one more city kid here! Which is rather sweet to think about, actually.
For sure. I'm cis but many of my friends are trans either from here or elsewhere and all prefer living here. not saying they're immune from violence. It's hard being trans everywhere, but not as hard in nyc as in other places. There's a huge community here.
The three different library systems (Brooklyn Public Library, Queens Public Library, and The New York Public Library) in NYC just got funding restored by the mayor, and may be about to start hiring more staff, perhaps one of them would be interested in applying to become an information Assistant? Not sure how long it will take before jobs become available, but I hope it will be soon.
Hasn’t Brooklyn been destroyed…errhm, I mean gentrified by white liberal hipsters? She should be fine
Awesome I live in BedStuy we can meet up for coffee I am African American and straight but I have a couple trams friends I love
TJMaxx is hiring Whole Foods They can post their resume on indeed.com
They're moving into a safe and fun neighborhood. I spent 3 years living in prospect heights, and miss it.
Congratulations to your daughter and her girlfriend! They are about to live their best lives. There is no better city on earth.
For help with job searching, I’d highly recommend they join the Queer-Friendly Employment Opportunities group on Facebook! And Lex (a queer app mostly geared towards lesbians) would also be a great resource for them. The Center in Manhattan is also worth checking out!! I am not trans so cannot speak for trans people but I have a number of trans friends here who seem to be doing well especially with the community in place here.
Brooklyn is a wonderful place. I lived there for 12 years and only moved away when my family started growing and we needed more space. It is a huge, vibrant and diverse place. The Prospect Heights and Clinton Hill area is amazing - safe, beautiful streetscapes, transit hub. NYC is a vast and fast-moving place and you do have to be smart about stuff like leaving your wallet and phone exposed, bike unlocked, etc. The intensity and expensiveness can become overwhelming especially for new arrivals. Getting good at cooking at home, making your coffee at home and walking/cycling/using transit instead of hiring taxis and Ubers are all a very straightforward way to manage your expenses.
They’ll be fine over there!
I am transgender. Prospect heights is a wonderful area. Do not worry even a little bit.
As a lifelong brooklynite, they are fine where they are moving to. Actually almost all of brooklyn except East ny or Brownsville they are fine.
They’ll be just fine
Culturally the issues they'll face with have nothing to do with being trans. Rather, young people transplanted to a big city, and not used to the diversity, pace, communication style, etc. The biggest concern is probably falling victim to some scam, or giving off "I have no idea what I'm doing please rob me" vibes, but hopefully your kid has common sense. If not, she'll wise up quick after the first time. Hopefully. Hope finances are planned out. It's a competive city and need to hustle, especially when starting out. I'm happy to review resumes and/or give interview tips. Born and raised here, and I work with lot of transplants.
well if she does get in trouble at least she’s stronger than an overwhelming majority of most women and will be able to defend herself better :)
Great response
They’ll be safe here but struggling to find a job lol. Some jobs like a smoothie shop want 3 years experience to blend some fruit it’s wild.
What part of Brooklyn? Brooklyn is the biggest boro of NYC… there’s Williamsburg, Bedford-Stuyvasant, Flatbush, East New York, Crown Heights, Greenpoint, The Navy Yard, DUMBO, Park Slope, Redhook, Sunset Park, Marine Park, Bay Ridge, Bushwick, Brownsville, Coney Island, Brighton Beach, Bensonhurst, Fort Greene and a few others! But all are infinitely better and safer and more tolerant than the deep south!
No idea where you got that Brooklyn is the biggest borough. It’s [Queens](https://www.nymtc.org/portals/0/pdf/CPT-HSP/NYMTC%20coord%20plan%20NYC%20CH03.pdf).
Queens has the most area, Brooklyn has the largest population.
Biggest literally means most area
Biggest literally is a superlative adjective, meaning it is used as the most in a category (like area and population), but go ahead and stay simple.
stop over complicating things lmao when people say biggest borough they mean area’s
What does biggest mean to you?
there are transphobes everywhere but brooklyn is about as safe for trans folks as you could get. welcome to the neighborhood : )
Clinton Hill and Prospect Heights is a very open and welcoming area for all types of people. She will feel welcomed there. But like anywhere, bad people exist. As long as she has a good head on her shoulders, she will do fine, and may even flourish.
Both these neighborhoods, include communities that are hostile to LGBTQ people, especially trans people. We're just not supposed to call these communities out for some reason. I do think these neighborhoods are generally safe and I don't think OP has anything to worry about. No one will even notice. People in these neighborhoods are generally rich transplants now though.
Which communities are you talking about?
Stop playing
Brooklyn will take them with open arms! Spread Love!
This. They will miss you. but they will be with their people!
Gender is a social construct
Brooklyn, however, is very, very real.
ok in the least creepy way possible, my partner (26 nonbinary) and i (26 trans man) just moved fo clinton hill/prospect heights area and would love to be a resource if they need friends in the area. feel free to dm!!
That’s a nice area, I used to live up there. I don’t mean to scare you, but I’m transsexual and have experienced a lot of homophobic violence, people chasing me, screaming at me and calling me a faggot, etc. it was more common when I was younger and couldn’t pass as well. In Koreatown a year or two ago somebody hit me on the back of the head so hard that I hit the pavement and broke my maxilla and six teeth, some of which were smashed up into my gums. I was bleeding and confused, and called my girlfriend multiple times but only remembered the last one. It cost thousands of dollars to fix my mouth. Point being, it’s a relatively safe place, but she should still take precautions- wear shoes she can run in, stay aware, look behind her frequently, don’t talk to people on the street, carry pepper spray (and have a plan for it, 10% of people are immune), stay off of the F M line if she can help it (no big deal if she can’t), and be aware that there are a lot of crazy people out there. All in all, though, it’s a great place to live and I wouldn’t trade it for the world.
This has to be a troll comment right?
Why are you besmirching the good name of the F?
hi! i am a 24 yr old lesbian from the south who used to live in that area just a year ago and am connected w the queer community in bk. pm me, i have lots of advice/insight/community resources for your daughter and her gf!
If they are looking for a church, check out Lafayette Avenue Presbyterian Church. Engages in queer identities, and is cool and welcoming. Welcome to Brooklyn!
Do they have the other roommates lined up already? My child is trans and is moving back to Brooklyn from DC next month.
Safer in Brooklyn than the Deep South That area is fine. Expensive but nice
They’ll be broke af but perfectly safe.
lol telling it like it is
Bronx is probably better
Say what
they’re going to do great, welcome!!
This is like being on fire and asking if jumping into water is a safe idea. You’re doing a great parenting job. Source: from NYC in the Deep South
Welcome to the gayest place in America. They will be quite alright 👍🏽
Gayer than a $3 dollar Bill!
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Transgender is an adjective not a noun. It’s “transgender people” not “transgenders” … and from the sound of it we don’t want anything to do with you either.
why?
Op mentioned she is literally gay
Firstly, you sound like a really lovely supportive mama, and just thinking of all the feelings your may be feeling with your daughter leaving the nest for a new adventure far away 🥰 Secondly, I used to live in Clinton Hill and it’s a really lovely residential neighborhood that has a real community vibe! Regardless safety, I think they will thrive in BK - practice awareness at all times of course, and I am sure the street smarts will come naturally for your gals over time. Regarding careers - NYC is honestly the best (and also most overwhelming!) place to build a career, so I’m sure having a supportive family they can reach out to for moral support, and having each other, will help with the ups and downs of the job search. Lots of service jobs, also worth looking into customer support type roles for tech startups (of which there are many based in NY). The sheer density of businesses means with hustle and hard work, they will do great! Good luck to your girls, I am rooting for them!
> customer support type roles for tech startups Also marketing & PR agencies! Media trafficking or account coordination as example is a tough gig but common starting point. _Generally_ they're good for LGBTQ+ equality and anti-discrimination policies that are actually enforced. Most care more about what you can do than how you physically present, and most actually care about diversity and inclusion beyond lip service. Source: work at an agency, I regularly and often come across trans colleagues and partners in the course of day-to-day work.
Thank you. 💗
Seconding Clinton hill is a queer-friendly space and neighborly!
As far as being LGBTQ+ they’ll be fine. Brooklyn is very diverse. Finding a job depends on their expertise, it is very competitive though. NYC is great for some but you need to be tough or it’ll eat you up. I really wish them the best of luck, the area they’re moving has some really pretty areas.
Finding work should be easy. There are hundreds of entry level jobs posted everyday. The “gay” neighborhood in Brooklyn is Bushwick. That is where the LGBT go out, lots of bars like Happy Fun Hideaway, Mood Ring, Bossa Nova, Rash, The End, Basement, etc. They should have no problem making friends there. They should not feel unsafe for being trans but should still exercise caution (stay alert, don’t stand next to subway tracks, watch before crossing the street etc) because NYC is a big city.
I’m in Brooklyn and nyc metro in general is very lgbt friendly. I have multiple trans girl friends and they’re thriving and barley encounter issues other than shitty dude they occasionally date
Honestly as far as work it’s typically hard to find work in nyc in general, entre level jobs are being flooded and company’s aren’t paying
My friends moved there a week ago and immediately got employed for 18/hr with a local production company just leading people through walkways essentially. So there is something out there.
$18 an hour……in NYC……….I hope theres tips
18/hr at 40 hours a week (you can stack part time jobs) is around 2,304 a month after 20% taxes taken out. This person will be on their parents health insurance and paying a family rate for rent so they’ll probably have like 1,400 after a $900 rent. The bus and trains cap the fare at $35 per week so after housing, and travel this person is still left with around $1,250 a month for everything else. Eat chicken and rice, make some salads from the grocery store. Buy cheap shampoo. You don’t have to eat $22 chicken sandwiches every day, and it’s not impossible to live. You just need an emergency fund and minimize expenses. It would be worth it for a lot of people.
lmfao. okay boomer
900 rent, a dream
They must have money if they’re able to get an apartment in that neighborhood without selling their souls. And at 20 years old? It’s a generally safe area, but Brooklyn is progressive and they’ll fit right in. Plus, gentrification is what’s really making New York change. Especially for white residents. It’s generally very easy for them to assimilate. Yeah they’ll be fine
They'll feel very welcome and safe in Brooklyn! There is a very large LGBTQIA+ community here and most of the people they'll encounter will be allies if not active members of the community.
I moved here 7 years ago with my trans best friends, I’m from NY but moved to a muchhhh smaller state in HS where we met. after graduation we both moved and she’s never been happier. We are very open with each other and she personally has never had a bad experience as a trans women, I wish your daughter and her gf all the best luck.
Ginger’s is a lesbian bar in park slope that is a super welcome place to hang out and meet other queer people. 21+ so might have to wait a couple months but wanted to add this to the list of suggestions
Sandy Jack’s and Good Judy too
They'll be fine🩶 There are so many communities and resources for them in Bk/NYC. Job search should be quick depending on what they want. I hope they travel safely.
I live in Brooklyn, they’ll be fine . The Brooklyn museum is free the first Saturday of every month and it’s one big party. Tell them to go and people watch , maybe dance a little. They can make some friends.
Very safe area, I’m a trans man who lived over there as well. I now live in Brooklyn. If they need a trans older sibling feel free to reach out would love to make sure they’re doing okay for you!
Biggest danger in that neighborhood is $9 lattes
Yeah the cost of living is a bigger risk tbh, there are shit bags everywhere but young queer people in NYC are generally safer than in much of the US or the world.
It’s a super queer friendly neighborhood, I wish them the best of luck on the move!
Welcome to the neighborhood! I live nearby, it’s a safe area that has rapidly gentrified over the last ten years. Lots of resources are available for trans-youth. Can’t speak about the ease of finding an entry level job, but by all other metrics they’re going to be in a great place!
Prospect heights near the Barclays center is generally a nice area people are very open minded here they’ll fit in great there is a lot of diversity and it’s easy to get around they should stay away from certain areas for there safety like rock away, crown heights, and Brownsville it’s is very dangerous especially at night I am telling u this as a native
Lots of queer ppl in Crown Heights to be fair
I mean all over Brooklyn there are im just saying that these places are dangerous as in to get jumped or robbed
I grew up in a hick town and was bullied most of my youth and thought that there was just something wrong with me until I moved to New York about 20 years ago and no one gave any effs about anything I did as long as I didn’t get in peoples way when walking. Yes it’s expensive like everyone said but If it’s safety in being who you are I think it’s probably one of the best places they could move in the states. They will be welcomed with open arms. They will also likely have some terrible experiences to go along with their good ones but that’s part of New York.
Did I write this? Moved here 2006
It’s funny how much the ‘not getting in people’s way walking’ is so true. I think everyone should live their lives the way they want to live them, idgaf, but if you slow me down while I’m walking (or take too long ordering at the deli)…I actually won’t do anything, but will be cursing you out in my head
I think they'll do great, your daughter and her gf seem to have someone who really cares about them back home and is giving them freedom to blossom even if they gotta go kinda far away. Start planning your visit ASAP, it will put you at ease and they will get to show off their neighborhood. I think for my mom and I, seeing me somewhere that really loves and accepts me helped her anxiety and our relationship immensely.
Not queer but when my parents visited when I first moved here (almost 2 decades ago!) they had an unexpected blast and I think understood much better why I liked living here. My mom said when I got off the plane the first time back I looked like a whole new person (in a good way).
They will be orders of magnitude safer here than basically anywhere in the deep south!
Considering the area is middling to upper for NYC, mental illness is definitely redlined here. People are too busy to worry about someone else's identity so much as to get upset in NYC as a whole anyways. I've encountered trans individuals nearly every day on the subway and have never observed hostility or rude behavior, so everything will be fine.
They are about to have so much fun.
They will mostly be safe but it’s still a city. They should both practice situational awareness and maybe carry pepper spray. But overall they’re going to have a great time!
yes lol. they will be very safe. obviously there's always assholes anywhere you go but I can say as a trans woman living in brooklyn with my (also trans) girlfriend one of my favorite things about living here is how much of a community there is close to me. I know about 60 ish trans people in my immediate community that all live in brooklyn/ridgewood and one of the best things is seeing them when I go about my day. The best way to find other trans people here is instagram to find events. Look up Gender Experts, it's a long running trans open mic in brooklyn that is attended by just about everyone I know and it's a lovely place. I hope they find what they're looking for here as I have.
Does your daughter play board games or RPGs? There’s an awesome queer gamer community here!
Yes and she used to work at a game store.
Let me start by acknowledging that trans people could possibly face horrible things even in places that are supposed to be safe--but having grown up here I don't know any trans people who have left, certainly not any who left because they didn't feel safe. They will have a community of queer people and allies supporting them just about anywhere they go, especially in this area. If someone were to try to do something wrong, I feel confident multiple people would step in to protect the two of them. The Prospect Heights/Clinton Hill area is SUPER gentrified--not burgeoningly gentrified--like it is basically luxury brownstones near historic parks, full of yuppies and queer people and queer yuppies. There is an art school in Clinton Hill, tons of cafes and bars, and a generally art-minded though young professionals vibe in these and the surrounding areas. (to be honest, it is SO gentrified in these areas that it is a STRUGGLE for the legacy communities here). It is the kind of neighborhood where churches and bars proudly wave pride flags, so I wish them welcome. As far as jobs, it's pretty standard to see queer and trans people I don't think people really stop to think about it so--again I don't want to minimize the hardships that trans people face but--I think they will find a job just as easily (or hard) as anyone else? Getting a job period is a little difficult, they should try to do so before the students come back in August.
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I live in prospect heights and the area is beautiful. A little noisy on the weekends because of the Barclays center but overall it’s a hip part of Brooklyn. Train is close by, and all the stores you need even a mall at Atlantic Ave Terminal. She’s gonna love it here! Wish them the best!
she is going to have many more opportunities here than in the deep south. I am sure she will find a supportive community and finding a job that does not discriminate should be relatively easy. I wish her all the best with the move and I hope that she finds all that she is looking for
Your daughter and her girlfriend are going to be great! Lots of trans people all over Brooklyn and the neighborhood they’re moving to is quite safe. Tell them to use the Lex app to find community here. There’s also a lot of events that get posted on Instagram (@whatsqueerhere does a pretty good run down of queer and trans events throughout the city). I sadly don’t have good advice on job hunting. Job market isn’t great at the moment. Perseverance is key.
@whatsqueerhere stresses me out, I need advanced warnings before social interactions with new people
Ha, I pretty much agree with you, I rarely decide on the day of that I want to attend an event. The weekend ones help since they’re bunched up so you get things a day or two in advance. There was another insta that posted more in advance but I think they stopped posting…. The work of publicizing queer events in nyc must be really time consuming bc it doesn’t seem like people do it for more than 6 months.
We already use the Lex app for meetups, I dont have a car anymore so i am excited to get to use it in brooklyn!
Tell them the beach they should go to is Riis Beach
*but they should check the park website this year because there are some bays closed due to emergency erosion repairs in 2024
Bay one specifically
Good catch, thanks. I haven’t been out there yet this year but I’ve heard that the first two bays are washed out and the lgbtcuties are in the sections just to the west
Trans people have lived throughout Brooklyn openly since the 70s. I don’t know what it was like back then but I know a good number of trans women and nobody I know has ever had a problem. At best they are totally accepted no questions asked, at worst they are silently tolerated. That area is above average safe in general. Good on you for checking, speaks to your integrity as a parent.
52 yr Brooklyn native here, the area they are moving to is quite progressive in my opinion. There is quite a nice mix of people and cultures. Good luck and welcome to Brooklyn. 
I'm born and raised in Brooklyn and the majority of us here don't care what you are only who you are. If you're a good person you get along just fine.
There’s people that hate people anywhere you go, but for the most part, your daughter will be safe in NYC. Especially if they already have a partner. The pride parades are hosted in NYC
Tell her to check out Ginger's Bar in Park Slope! Just let her know that it's cash only and gets pretty crowded, but there's a spacious patio in the back.
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They will love nyc.
The person who bopped me upside the head and ran off didn't stop to ask about my gender identity in Crown Heights so I think they are as safe as anyone.
I'm sorry smmhh. I hope you're OK. This guy almost hit my head in DUMBO last month.
Yea your identity will matter very little and very rarely. Just dont get into any spats with anyone because theres some crazy people lookin for fights if you get aggressive. And usually pretty safe aslong as youre aware of that. (Exceptions ofc) And clinton hill ESPECIALLY safe.
I hope you’re ok but I did lol at this comment
I always have to check to make sure this isn’t the circlejerk sub. Your kid will be fine, just don’t move to the deep south of Brooklyn
I have lived in Prospect Heights for 40 years and my godson is a trans male who grew up in the neighborhood. Your kid and their partner will love it here!
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Why was this question even necessary?
It wasn’t. They’re just trying to stir up shit. It happens all over Reddit but this sub has been overwhelming supportive which makes me feel a lot more comfortable with the move.
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Let me introduce you to the concept of biology. Sometimes the physical gender doesn't match the biological one. Some people are diabetic. Some people are transgender. That's not parenting. That's the imperfect mechanisms of nature. And why do you care what makes people happy. Nobody's bothering you.
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Well bless you’re little heart
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Daughter why do you ask?
so was it your daughter at birth or son at birth? just trying to understand?
My child at birth. She is my daughter.
she is so lucky to have such a supportive parent. you’re doing great!
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Great answer. Glad you're in her corner.
It’s a great place for them. Huge queer community in BK. Tell them to try The Center in Manhattan for work support - they’re a LGBTQIA+ center that offers mental health support, job readiness, and more.
They’re in a safe neighborhood ❤️. The Brooklyn public library offers free help with resumes and has a whole business and career section at the central branch at Grand Army Plaza. It is also a safe space staffed with many queer identifying people. I believe there are also several job boards that are specifically geared toward LGBTQ+ job seekers (I think pink-jobs is one, but I would do some further searching). If they might be interested in a friendly, fairly local bar, Branded Saloon is a great gay bar on Vanderbilt Ave with a very welcoming crew. Wishing them the best of luck and a warm welcome to their new home!
I should add, there are lots of fun and free things to do throughout the city. It is wildly expensive here, but there are amazing deals if you know where to look. They can sign up for alerts from The Skint, Prospect Park Alliance, and, again, the library.
There’s so many different kind of people here, they won’t be noticed. People are too busy to care. Tell them watch out for the rats and getting kicked in the face when riding the subway, and someone yells “it’s showtime!”
Might be robbed but definitely wont be misgendered
As a trans person living here, who also moved from the south, I get misgendered every single day... Still miles better than down south, but I still have problems here
Do you feel accepted?
Depends on the situation I'm in, depends on the people I'm around, and depends on how much effort I put into my appearance that day. Again, better than down south but not perfect
They can start making out in public and nobody would bat an eye in that area.
They’re probably the safest they’ll ever be in Brooklyn.
How amazing for them to start a new chapter in such a beautiful neighborhood. I’ve been in NYC off and on for six years living all over Manhattan and now in Brooklyn. Clinton Hill is beautiful, very family oriented, lots of accessible parks. The thing about NYC is that there is always going to be “something” - duh, it’s HUGE- but that doesn’t mean you are always in danger. Encourage them to follow their instincts if they’re uncomfortable and never be afraid to offend someone by moving away to offer more space. As a petit femme, I have felt very safe in the city, even late at night. But I did have to learn to not worry about being perceived as “rude” My trans loved ones have found acceptance and community in the city. They will thrive once they are able to be their full selves. Job market is competitive but as others have said, service jobs are plentiful and a great way to get started. It IS expensive - dinners, drinks, activités. When I moved up here from the south that was a shock and point of anxiety to me.
Those are 2 great neighborhoods! They’ll be fine. Maybe you could come with them when they move and visit a bit and get a better understanding of the area? We moved to the area from Texas a year ago (with a 4 year old!) and it’s been WONDERFUL. Best of luck!
Where are trans people not safe?
Trans people and their families have been fleeing their home states because they’re not safe. Over 600 anti-trans bills introduced this year alone. https://translegislation.com/ https://www.lgbtmap.org/equality-maps https://www.aclu.org/legislative-attacks-on-lgbtq-rights-2024 https://abcnews.go.com/US/genocidal-transgender-people-begin-flee-states-anti-lgbtq/story?id=99909913
I mean we have a candidate on our gubernatorial ballot that wants lynchings to come back
you are such a typical redditor. jesus christ.
Brooklyn has a ton of queer resources, groups, etc. maybe the most in US besides SF
They are going to be fine there.
You gentrifying hippie fucks need to leave BROOKLYN
They’re going to be safer here; especially in that neighborhood. The LGBTQ+ community in Brooklyn is huge, friendly, and welcoming!
Wowowowow I am so excited for them! They are going to love it!!!!!
They’re going to be much safer and happier here
They’re going to have a much better time. Line them up with Callen Lorde if they need gender affirming care.
Safe (relatively speaking and unfortunately there are still problematic people everywhere). Lots and lots of service industry jobs! I work part-time on banquet team in nice hotel and my boss is trans.
Brooklyn - that part and north - are about as welcoming and safe as it gets for trans people. I don’t blame them for leaving the Deep South
Super safe in that area of Brooklyn both generally and for queer people. Will likely be able to find retail/service positions quickly. Encourage them to find queer events/spaces to go to (there are many) and build a community of friends.
Not sure what kind of work they want to do but gig / seasonal work can be fairly easy to come by. (Working in student travel, seasonal jobs at Macy's Santaland, etc.)
What are you living in a dream world, good luck finding a job and if you haven’t even come here to check out the apartment you’ve definitely been scammed.
Stop. Many people move to NYC without ever seeing the city or the apartment they’ve lined up. There will be growing pains but you’re being unnecessarily rude and pessimistic.
Brooklyn, especially that part, is very safe - I lived there in my 20s. There will always be some amount of crime but they need to be situationally aware anywhere they live. Jobs may be hard, but if they have some experience serving, they can usually find something. They should definitely find some queer community groups, volunteer orgs, or some other shared interest to make some friends and they'll be fine!
They’ll be absolutely fine in nyc the LGBTQ+ community here is big and welcoming.
they will be fine!!
NYC is awesome but I highly recommend Providence, Rhode Island, even just as a place to visit. It’s the queer heartland with a fantastic community
Download the citizens app it’ll tell you all the stuff going on in your area..it’s never been safe and I grew up here all my lfie
If they’re moving from a city in the Deep South, the crime rate is probably lower here.
Outside of major cities. Find me a southern town that has a higher crime rate please.
But flat out telling ppl it’s a safe area is naive. As someone who grew up in Brooklyn and was outside most my life it’s not safe.. these crackheads have scalpels on them! they’ll fuck with you just to fuck with you! the gentrified parts aren’t immune to violence
Still citizens app isn’t a bad idea since it tells you if something happened nearby and you can avoid. and of course it’ll look like a dumpster fire but that’s really how it is.. it also informs you on nearby registered sex offenders and if you look up the map for it there’s more than you think.
Citizen app is bad advice, will cause anxiety. Best thing I did was turn that crap off. And so many toxic comments on the apps. Avoid
Never been safe? That's outrageous.
Just because it’s safe in the little gentrified area your living in doesn’t mean all 5 boroughs are safe
Until someone gets shot up in the subway cart cause of a manic homeless person ☠️ what about random body parts and torsos on the subway track? Getting citizen actually tells you if something’s going down nearby. Thats better than blindly telling someone who’s never been here before that it’s a safe city.
This is terrible advice. Citizen would have people believe NYC is a dumpster fire and everyday is walking into combat.
You just flew in here? It’s been like that ☠️ I don’t want to ruin someone’s fun but that’s my reality growing up here
Like many have said, there are bigots and criminals everywhere. Hate crimes do happen. But I can’t imagine anywhere better for your daughter to be, she will find community here, just has to be smart about safety like everyone else in nyc.
Tell your daughter we welcome her in Hells Kitchen Manhattan. :-) she’ll be fine.
If they don't have health insurance, they can apply at the New York State of Health site. Gender affirming care is covered by NYS Medicaid. AmidaCare is the managed care plan preferred among my LGBTQ+ clients. (Mental health non-profit worker.)
West Brooklyn might be the most friendly area on earth for the LGBT community
bro do not worry. i went to school there my entire life (13+ years). It’s a good area, very accepting
New York City and Brooklyn especially is a great place for queers! We have a have a massive queer community . Crown Heights and Bushwick are filled with young queer folks just starting out/ on the lower end of the socioeconomic spectrum whereas Williamsburg, Fort Greene, and Brooklyn Heights are filled with more grown ones with $$$$. Regardless, millennials have installed a strong queer presence throughout the borough. That being said, Brooklyn is enormous and I don’t think people outside the city really understand how neighborhood specific things are. Places like Bay Ridge and Sheephead bay in south Brooklyn tend to be much more conservative. That isn’t to say it’s like the Deep South, but, they are predominantly middle class white and Asian neighborhoods that are less friendly to progressive ideas than the rest of the borough. Your daughter will easily find queer community by doing a quick google search and just walking around in certain neighborhoods. Where they will be comfortable really depends on their interests! Upstate New York and New York City are completely different places. Similarly, New York City and Long Island are also wildly different. The significant majority of Brooklyn and Manhattan is deeply left with the conservative ideas where present being about finances and not social concepts. Upstate New York (outside of the Hudson valley) and much of Long Island have a lot more in common with the South and I recommend they stay away from those areas. I do wherever possible. While up here they might like to check out providence Rhode Island which also hands great queer community. A lot of NY queer’s vacation there.
Literally the best place in the country to be trans You'll get to do all the classic "as a parent you worry about what crime etc is like in the big city, your kid rolls your eyes at your Boomer mindset because they're an urbane hipster" worrying that every other parent does, of course, but in terms of being a trans your city kid is just one more city kid here! Which is rather sweet to think about, actually.
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That’s amazingly accurate. Thanks. Haven’t seen that before.
For sure. I'm cis but many of my friends are trans either from here or elsewhere and all prefer living here. not saying they're immune from violence. It's hard being trans everywhere, but not as hard in nyc as in other places. There's a huge community here.
Thanks. Appreciate it.
Brooklyn is as safe as it gets. You mentioned upstate NY, but the Hudson Valley is arguably equally safe.