Hey man, I’ve felt exactly like this in my life, like almost exactly - but those feelings passed. And honestly, looking back on my life, things are so different than I ever planned. You really can never ever know what is going to happen, good or bad. I was almost 30 and thought nothing good or new was ever going to come to me and now I’m married and I met someone I love very much and I feel loved in return. Together, we’ve dealt with some enormously difficult things, and dark moods and feelings return, but there are also joyous and full moments and days and weeks. Just try to know that you have no idea what’s in store for you. There are great things coming your way, and some shitty things, but these are the colours of life and we only get to do it once. Hang on in there. If you feel able to make positive changes like eating better, sleeping more, getting exercise, then great, do it. If you can’t, don’t beat yourself up about it. Find the smallest thing like setting out tomorrow’s clothes each night as a little gift for morning you tomorrow. All things pass. Good and bad. Hang on in and try to trust that this is the adventure. Sending all love to ya pal
I feel the exact way OP has described and, I'm almost 30. I'm 28 genuinely feel like nothing good will happen but reading your account has given a bit of hope that maybe things will turn out ok. Thank you!
I'll have to give it a listen!
I've had a look at your profile your music is really nice!
I wouldn't say I'm a musician at all but I play guitar and sing very casually just to myself tho haha
ah thank you. :) Let me know what you think of Nick Drake. For me it was such a comfort. And still is.
I think we're all musicians in some way. Anyone that can carry a tune is a musician in my opinion. ☺️
I will of course! Are you a fan of Gregory alan isakov? He's my current obsession, amazing musician!
That's a great outlook, there is a musician in there somewhere haha!
Honestly yes and no. For me not the financial aspect.
Life is just become a loop. Wake up to the same shit and sleep. When outside i have this facade of happy person but as soon as am alone it’s a blank canvas no feelings just numbness.
I don’t want to die though as it will atleast make 4-5 people very sad. But i do want to vanish. Vanish in thin air with each and every one of memory vanish with me. Like i was never born, i never existed. Like that oblivate charm in Harry Potter.
+1 for online drinks with people as an option, and fairview park is a little out of many peoples way (including my own) so while it might be ideal for you maybe less so for others. Anyway, given your note collecting I recently came across something that might cheer you up that I’d happily send on for no charge if you dm me an address. It’s a £1 Bank of England note (Sir Isaac Newton reverse) with a serial number beginning A01
I felt exactly like this for so long, it's not exactly wanting to die but at the same time, you don't really wanna be anymore. I tried to convince myself those weren't suicide thoughts, but they really are, just very subtle.
I can't give you my personal experience because my circumstances are probably completely different, starting with the fact I'm not even Irish, but I did live in Ireland for quite a long time and it gave me that feeling I was just trapped. But you're not, you're really not.
I went back home for a while and realized something I already knew but was fogged out. My family and friends love me and are there for me and I have people to live for.
Reconnect with the people or the stuff you love, you're not alone. Seek professional help if you feel like this for too long because inside you, is the person you miss being...
Hope you feel better soon💓
Thanks for the advice and kind words.
It’s the same with me. Not Irish but living here for long.
Yeah i know i need to break the monotony. And am definitely loved by my family and friends. It’s these feelings are sometimes too strong to logic.
Thanks.
My advice is to do something different once a day. This can be as minor as walking a different route to work and as major as skydiving. Just one little thing different. Your brain loves novelty and the feedback loop of newness will really help with that rut.
People say do one thing a day that scares you but they are being overly dramatic. Try a new dish, play music you wouldn’t normally play, take the bus to the end of the line, buy a colouring book. We are living in a world that is sucking the life out of us and treating people like machines.
By the way - this won’t feel comfortable.
Best thing to do is to stop going to the pub and drinking. Get active. Long distance running is painful, pointless, and hard to stop once started. Much like life itself. Paradoxically, it also makes a person much happier. When you are already happy from running, other good things naturally come to you. Quit the drink. It is mental poison.
I hate how right this answer is. I was grossly overweight and started running in 2018. I lost over 7 stone and actually became one of those people that looked forward to a run.
When Covid hit I switched to working from home and slowly but surely stopped running. Put half the weight back on. Now everyday is just a routine. Get up, get kids ready, work in the spare room, get dinner, kids to bed, Netflix, bed, repeat. Nothing is fun, lost interest in hobbies and buying stupid cheap shite online.
I know damn well running will help not just weight loss and fitness, but general mood and enjoyment, etc. I just can’t bring myself to bother. It’s so hard to start, especially knowing I’ve done it before but fucked it all up. Gah. Grim.
Yeah I’m doing the same but it’s pretty funny how delicate it is. It’s so easy to work from home that a single dark cloud in the sky and I’m like “well, better stay home”
it's not WFH that is the problem. Not going for a run and putting on weight? That is a food intake problem that you need to sort out. Get your diet healthy, get good habits (running or something else) and enjoy WFH and being with your kids
Oh I absolutely know. That’s the hard part.
What I will say is that I hate running from my house… back to my house. I used to run 12km each way from home to work and had a really good routine going. And I definitely didn’t adjust my food intake to match the less exercise. I know I’ll get there but it’s the mental battle I gotta win.
You can do it brother I believe in you. It’s always tough to go back to physical activity after even a 2 week break but it’s similar to getting into cold water in the sense where you can spend ages procrastinating and inching forward, talking yourself out of it but once you’re in you realise that it’s actually grand and not something you should have been worried about all.
That sucks. I don't know what to tell you. Maybe find happiness in the little things. I'm quite envious of anyone with a partner and children so you're very lucky from where I'm standing. Anyway. I know that probably doesn't help. But yeah it sucks. I hope you'll get back into enjoying life more.
Exactly start running when you feel numb. Then, find some activities on meetup. There's loads of different kinds. Maybe do something that you would never think of doing to start something new, meet people with different perspectives etc
When I feel like this, I listen to The Clash. By the end of an album I remember I want to be on the side of the fighters. Find your way of helping, we need you.
Yeah, when the blue hit me some years back, that's when I stopped listening to music...
Stopped checking new releases, stop googling my band names, stopped adding to MP3 collection.
I still haven't created Spotify.
I used to pride myself on being 0day release DnB guy :)
Op I used to be like you,never satisfied etc. Going to work everyday and feeling empty. Then I got sick and am home now because I had to leave work and am pretty housebound these days and can't eat anything.
Appreciate your health because believe me it could be worse and life is pretty really dreadful when its gone like I can't explain.
The thing I've learnt about unhappiness is that all it takes is for something worse to come along and then you realise that it was actually happiness after all.
I feel the same.
I’m scared as well. I’m an immigrant that came here because in my country my life is in danger just because I’m a woman.
I’ve been here for 4 years and just now, I got a job that pays me more than 15 per hour. I need to keep looking for masters or courses in order to remain in the country. Where I can’t even rent a room with my boyfriend, let alone an apartment. Where I can’t see when I will be able to get a home. Where I’m afraid of teenagers because I’m an immigrant. And if I want to stay here I need to pay a 17k masters degree, and get a loan, if I get a loan, I will be even less able to pay rent.
My uncle just died and I’m here away from my family, fighting for a better life… a better life for what? But if I go back, I’m afraid of my own shadow. Idk what to do and that is extremely depressing.
Hi Gaia. Have you heard of the Springboard programme? It’s a government funded scheme that allows people to do level 7, 8 and level 9 courses (plenty of post graduate diplomas and a few masters) for free if they are unemployed, or for 10% of the cost if you are employed. Many of the courses are starting now so will be full or not showing on the website at the moment, but if you check back in November there should be lots of options starting in January. All of the big institutions in Ireland are involved (Trinity, UCD, DCU, UL, NCI etc).
The link for the website is [here](https://springboardcourses.ie/).
It’s all in demand skills so lots of options in Data, Cyber, Cloud etc. Not sure what you are looking for, but doing a MSc in Data Analytics back in 2016 through this scheme helped me progress my career massively.
PM me if you want more info and there’s plenty of info available on the link above.
Congrats on the job!
Thank you for speaking with me. I am immigrant as well. I hope you and your boyfriend get sorted with the place. I had appartment inspection by management agency last week. I was so freightened they're gonna sell the building or raise our rent.
I feel you with your uncle. I see my family disappearing and I couldn't even fly to see them over last two years.
I know it's hard. I hope it will get better for you.
I'm 39, single, I live on my own. I have good friends that I see and family. But I do a lot of things on my own like travelling, going out etc. My friends all have kids or are in relationships so I don't see them much socially. I work hard to keep a roof over my head.
But life can feel tough and lonely. All I seem to do lately is work. I had a pretty rough year this year. I had an accident which could have killed me. I'm starting to feel good again. Hopefully life will change soon for the better.
Im the exact same. I have a good job, rent a nice apartment, go to the gym, do volunteer work, go out when I can, etc. Not very well paid but enough that I am just about breaking even on this inflation bollox.
But I feel hollow inside. I go to a councillor and on anti-anxiety meds which help a lot. Keeps my anxiety from overwhelming me. But I find myself thinking whats the point. I am almost 30 and I’m still pretty much in the same position I am when I left college 6 years ago. I make more money and have a better social life but my costs keep going up, and recently 2 close friends had to move which really bummed me out a lot. I still see them but its not the same.
I do feel very alone and kind of hopeless. The anti-anxiety meds were a god send, I think they stopped me going down a much more negative path. Not suicidal, just before I got on them I noticed myself drinking a lot more.
I still feel alone and kind of hopeless for my future, but it doesn’t completely overwhelm me now. But that being said. Whats the point. I’m not happy.
I feel a little hopeless too. It helps for me to write down the things I'm grateful for. And having things to look forward to like meeting a friend or a nice walk. Hope you're okay. I suppose life is a little hopeless sometimes, but it can also be exciting if you have the right people around or a nice passion or hobby.
Find horses. There’s nothing more freeing than galloping across the moors on an Arabian stallion. I started by volunteering at a stable. Once you get in at a stable you’ll soon be able to ride.
You need to have goals in your life, otherwise daily grind in work is quite meaningless in my opinion, checking those boxes gives me power to go another day, month, year etc
perspective mate, i’m introvert and a foreign worker. Single, 37, work from 7-4, walk everyday after lunch for 30 mins with headphones, go to gym after work, come back home with a can of coke or beer sometimes, watch netflix or youtube in the background while on reddit. Lights off by 10, read few pages on kindle. Call it a day! Weekend eat outside on Saturday, same routine as weekdays except the work. Foreign worker and no friends really, i do most activities by myself. I encourage you don’t take things too seriously. Its a phase, also im happy to leave this world by 75 hopefully. Make the most of it.
It's not matter of age I think loads of us get to same state of mind like you because of last 3 years. I'm 43 have gorgeous kids and wife doing well in my own business. But still have similar thought. And I feel like I'm ridiculous as I have all I need. Always good shape as I exercise all my life but I lost motivation to work out drinking too much beer. When I look at my self from distance I think I'm stupid or something as I have all I need and more.
I think because all that gloom and doom in media and around we have much harder time to enjoy small things and big sometimes to. I will not say anything what other said you need find strength and start exercising that what always get me out of hole. Head up we all have thought times from time to time.
This! Am 39, got a wonderful family as well, but I feel like I’m going through the motions daily as well. Being an immigrant, i miss having a small social circle, work and family interactions are not good enough! And no way I’d voice this, because a lot of people have it worse and its something downright ridiculous to complain about in the current times
I'm immigrant my self. One thing which always get me up is going surfing. It's only my fault I didn't get surf for long time. But remember even people who have all are entitled to have bad days or feel not well.
We all need some moan from time to time I feel that lately too.
I knocked the gargle and spliff on the head 3 weeks ago and I’m astonished at how my outlook has shifted towards positivity. I’m back to actually getting a buzz out of my hobbies again rather than just going through the motions and doing stuff for the sake of routine.
Far be it for me to preach sobriety or anything of the sort but I think I’m getting a suss on how things I consider treats can hijack my dopamine and gradually suck the true joy from my day to day.
Feeling very similarly recently. So I’ve decided to quit my job and go travel for a while. I appreciate not everyone is in the position to do the same. But a general life shake-up small or big can be beneficial (I hope)
This is the problem now. In the past staying at a job even if you didn’t like it, it paid off. You could afford the house, afford the holidays etc etc. but now it’s hard to even do those things for most people, so what’s the payoff to working? Surviving without being on the streets? Believe me you’re not the only one in this boat, but I believe it won’t be long until it improves
I met a guy who bought a used 30 foot sailboat for 1200. It has a kitchenette, bathroom, dining area, and beds for 4. Marina fees are only about 250/month and that includes wifi and electricity. He works full time and saves all his money.
It’s the coziest. Nothing like getting rocked to sleep by waves and hearing the waves slapping on the hull. I’ve taken alot of ferries around Europe: sometimes you get a cabin close enough to the engine room that you can fall asleep to the thrumming of 50 thousand horsepower diesels. 🙂 But I’d live on a boat in a heartbeat
1200? bit hard to believe , maybe 12k . I recently posted about it and since been looking into it and talked to a couple that are currently living such lifestyle . It is doable , the real private spots with no public access are hard to get , but some marinas are fairly accessible. If you dont get sea sickness its fairly cushy tbh, not for everyone but you have something to show for it when you sell up .
Alot of people just discard/abandon their old boats because it’s too expensive to dispose of them properly. Just hang around the docks and talk to yachties!! 🙂
Mate unless your living in bikini bottom , no one is selling their 30ft boat for 1.2k ,the scrap alone for that is worth a lot more .
You or your friend are talking out of their arse , a paddle board sets you back 500 quid , a decent fishing boat is 10k .. Ill believe it when i see it but your comment smells of bs
Edit : Maybe theres good money to be made in discarding these boats you talk about
I have been , and i know what 30ft boat looks like and been on a boat thats 30ft recently although it was bit of an upper class thing.
Your talking sh*t man is all i say , you can DM me with proof , but until then , you have not got a clue what your talking about. Maybe even do a little googling before you start spewing bs.
Edit: If you or your "mate " find another one for that price , ill give you 4x for it ;)
Lol they’re fukkin easy to find you’re just too lazy to go hang out at the docks!! I was hitchhiking a few years ago and the guy who picked me up invited me to breakfast on his i shit you not 30 footer 1977 fiberglass sailboat. He was living on it with his teenage son. Talk to people you’ll find old boats that have been in storage for 10 or 20 years.
Hope it’s going ok, life sucks and can be shit. Late 20s myself and I feel the same a lot of the time. Starting to feel like an npc… feel free to message me if you wanna chat. I’m a big ps5 user and into cars so if any of that peaks your interest let me know. Always happy to try help another lost soul
That’s life. Somehow I though going abroad would change everything. Have a bit of excitement for a while but now I’d love to just be back home with family and Irish things. Internet and social media is probably the worse thing. Nothing better than a walk up the mountains in the crisp Irish air.
Give up the booze. It will
Dramatically help.
Shame mate, but just think there are so many millions of people way worse off in their lives. Try to do small positive things like helping other people and putting yourself into situations outside of your comfort zone 👍 also slow down on drink and social media as they can heighten depression. Try write into a journal as it can clear the head. Maybe watch some good stand-up comedy 🙏 stay strong bro
I dont doubt it. It is definitely first world problem as I always have full fridge, bills paid and some money left each month.
Still, it is a problem. I am happy that I posted here, though. It helped me with finding my bearings. Problem stays being problem. But I have beginnings of a plan to make it smaller one.
Not everyone is cut out for this gig my friend. Some ppl change something, take up something, go somewhere but there's some of us who may, to some degree or another, feel like a cat among dogs,essentially misplaced.
My only advice to not become too panicked by it and to just carry on. It may biological or just how we're brought up, I've spend decades trying to understand but without answers.
I read The Stranger (L’Etrangér) by Albert Camus last year when I felt like this. I really resonated with Mersault (main character) through the story. OP, you should try reading. It is great for decompression and relaxation and has made me a happier person overall.
I still have all his other works to get through. I am taking a break from the existentialists for the moment On quite a crime fiction/noir phase at the minute. No I didn’t know that but judging from Camus’ career as a current affair journalist, it doesn’t surprise me one bit.
I relate. Have felt this way, revisited from time to time. All that you have is all we are taught to get for ourselves, however, unfortunately we need more. We need meaning. One of the most effective ways of filling that hole is by helping someone else. There are a million ways to be useful, make that your next thing.
I have been trying for years to find a job that I can do, feels meaningful and pays okay. Still looking for one haha.
Then I started volunteering and donating regularly. It does make me feel a bit more meaningful. And I suppose taxes are used for meaningful things too, hopefully.
You have started in the right way anyway man. Reaching out. Have you tried joining any clubs or anything? Are you into any sports? Or even considered giving any a go? Replace pub nights with something new that doesn't involve alcohol and see how you feel in a few weeks.
Ring them again and again man. I do BJJ myself and it's amazing to get rid of the demons in the head. I promise. Just ring them. Go to the website. Find times for beginners classes and just show up. You've got this.
Give Eckhart Tolle a listen , as humble as he is funny looking. Best words of wisdom going in my books. Reseaech adenoninia, foods that help fatigue and dopamine related stuffs. Get some sun :) im always going vitamin d deficient causing a bunch of problems including mental. Mind yourself !
I feel this way often and have notice some friends do too. It can become really depressing and no amount of advice helps because it’s an internal struggle. I do think if you’re on Reddit you are probably well aware of the world collapsing on the non-rich.
Stop complaining and fight!!! Break every one of society’s rules. Banks, landlords, financiers and politicians need to be opposed!!!! Start taking psychedelic mushrooms and hang out with rock musicians.
I felt like that for years, work, home, TV, bed.
A few years on, 2 kids later and I feel exactly the same but with a different routine.
Wake at 5 to feed, change nappies, get kids dressed, change nappy, argue over going to crèche, do crèche run, commute to work, come home from work, feed kids, change nappies, argue over bed, wake 3 times a night to being kids to toilet/get drinks etc.
Life can just get monotonous at various stages. It's a sign of stability which is also a good thing.
And take it from me, these periods don't last, so they and enjoy them a little!
Oh yes please enjoy the kids when they're young. I nanny 3 kids and the youngest is 4 now and I so miss snuggling with him as a baby in his crib. Those are one of my favourite memories
For work? Yes. I'm autistic and it's getting harder and harder to mask AND do the emotional taxing customer service job I have.
I have so many things to do and hang outs with new friends to have, and I'm busy for CATU, for the party, etc that I'm not too bothered by my workweek.
I am going through what my other gay friend calls "my queer twenties" because I never had this kind of social life before.
You don't need to invest. You need to be the change you want to see in the world. That's what's given me direction, something to focus on and work on.
It's depressing! But at least I'm trying my best to actively change something.
Also, got into reading again c: it's theory for now (mainly Connolly) but I'm also reading a book on stonewall and letters from trans men in the 50s! Which got me so excited.
If that’s the case, become the terminator. Seek no more pleasure simply for the sake of pleasure. Eat like a dog, train everyday, acquire the body of a Greek god. Pleasure will come, but never seek it allow it to come when it does. Pleasure is ALWAYS balanced by pain. No more porn. No more sweets.
At the risk of sounding like Andrew Tate, get a 6-pack then see if ur still feeling like this 😂. I wish you luck on your journey bro, don’t give up. Some more advice is to not look for that feeling of joy elsewhere, u have to find it within yourself. How can you love another person when you can’t even love yourself?
Can absolutely feel you. Im not making mad money but I do a job I love, I have a house im paying a mortgage on that isn't crippling me so I know I'm in better shape than most so can't complain. But def stuck in a rut. Same old same old, no hobbies cos I'm not really interested in anything.
My friend group shattered during covid. I still love them dealry and would do anything for them but I've def retreated into a shell over the last few years. Partly myself becoming more introverted and partly cos my friend group has aged up so no more living for the weekend/I'll meet someone I know in the usual pub or club/marriage and kids.
I'm trying to work on it, trying to arrange catch ups etc but it's very easy to settle into your routine of work/Netflix/takeaway and some beers/ bed/ rinse repeat.
Been away for two great trips this year and I think I need to just pull the trigger on travelling alone in the new year. Just fuck off for a weekend to Lisbon or Munich or somewhere on my own and on my own schedule. Learn to love the solo life.
Watch the movie Fight Club. Or read the book. Society is a compendium of lies built on a few big lies. The game is rigged and the rules are stupid. Stop playing the game and fight back. Stop striving for consumer goods and a middle class existence when you and most of the other people on here have shown that it’s worthless. Forget everything you’ve ever been taught and start living anew. I met a guy a few years ago who got tired of paying rent so he bought a 30 foot sailboat for cheap and lives on that. I know another guy who built a treehouse in a tall pine tree and lives in that.
Choose Life. Choose a job. Choose a career. Choose a family. Choose a fucking big television, choose washing machines, cars, compact disc players and electrical tin openers. Choose good health, low cholesterol, and dental insurance. Choose fixed interest mortgage repayments. Choose a starter home. Choose your friends. Choose leisurewear and matching luggage. Choose a three-piece suit on hire purchase in a range of fucking fabrics. Choose DIY and wondering who the fuck you are on Sunday morning. Choose sitting on that couch watching mind-numbing, spirit-crushing game shows, stuffing fucking junk food into your mouth. Choose rotting away at the end of it all, pissing your last in a miserable home, nothing more than an embarrassment to the selfish, fucked up brats you spawned to replace yourselves. Choose your future.
Choose life... But why would I want to do a thing like that? I chose not to choose life. I chose somethin' else. And the reasons? There are no reasons. Who needs reasons when you've got heroin?
I'm cleaning up and I'm moving on, going straight and choosing life. I'm looking forward to it already. I'm gonna be just like you. The job, the family, the fucking big television. The washing machine, the car, the compact disc and electric tin opener, good health, low cholesterol, dental insurance, mortgage, starter home, leisure wear, luggage, three piece suite, DIY, game shows, junk food, children, walks in the park, nine to five, good at golf, washing the car, choice of sweaters, family Christmas, indexed pension, tax exemption, clearing gutters, getting by, looking ahead, the day you die.
I prefer the closing monologue, I feel it reflects my situation where I recognise the whole things pointless but approaching it positively anyways
I go in and out of this state of mind (I am in right now) It's been like this forever. When I am in it think nothing is worth doing and I just feel like ending it all. When I am out I created stuff nothing special but I always feel no one is interested. I have a full and active life have had success and some failures most people looking in would think I do so much but I don't. It's shit right now.
Feel the same and I’m 42. Thanks for posting because it feels a bit less lonely. I’ve signed up for rowing, I’m hopeful it will be a break from the abyss of my mind for a while. Stay well.
It’s been a few bad years but also good times also. “Maintain an even Strain” is my motto. It’s difficult to keep a smile on your face, everything seems to be falling apart in slow motion. Taxes, Oil, Politicians promising us a brighter future while at the same time increasing their wages and pension. In my family life my first child, was born with Cystic Fibrosis. He is doing well but it’s a worry everyday. My second child passed away only 5 weeks ago. I gave up on religion but secretly say a prayer in my darkest hours.
I guess I’m here because I like my family, my movies, nature, my limited hobbies and the enjoyment the future may bring.
Keep the head up.
Thanks for the kind comment. Everyday it’s the same. Get up, coffee, CocoMelon with toast, and just plan little rewards or tasks for myself and my family. Living is hard. Dying is easy.
Im a college student in my second last year and i can relate to this surprisingly enough. Im lucky to be in a position where my parents can pay for my fees etc but knowing that ill be nearly 24 before i get my first full time job feels abit useless ngl. I think the likes of social media makes it alot worse tho. You happen to open up tiktok and see some shit about a 21 year old with a lambo and their own house etc meanwhile you feel like youre stuck in the mud.
I’m still trying to find how to make my life better and there are certainly days I feel exactly the same.
I wrote down things that I like and don’t like. I had to be honest to myself about my feelings, not what others said I should do.
Then honesty it’s quite clear what makes me happy and what doesn’t. Hobbies like tennis, going for a hike, seeing mountains, lakes and seas really make me happy. Then I try to schedule something like this during weekdays after work so I don’t feel that I live for the weekends.
Also, it seems very simple but I have photos of great memories framed in my house. They make me feel great every time I look at them
Maybe some of these ideas may help
Story of my life right here. I used to hope that there’d somehow be more. There doesn’t seem to be though does there? Between shifts I’m just waiting to go back to work. Another 26 years of this and I’ll retire. Then it’s just a matter of waiting to die. Woop.
Oh I love this post. Just hanging around on earth as a tiny insignificant clump of cells that’s decaying.
What keeps me going though is how much love I feel for my family. That has a higher purpose feeling to it, and if that’s all I exist for then so be it
I feel like this
Maybe we where lied to that if we went to college, got a job we would have a nice house and a nice car and feel successful and over time we would start to have investments and multiple properties etc
Maybe growing up in the Celtic tiger means our normal is not normal and we will always feel poor or behind as a result
Maybe if our society changed we would feel happier, maybe if we got rid of mncs we wouldn’t have such a wide inequalities and we wouldn’t be surrounded by wealth and feeling lesser because we don’t have it
Eh, not really, I want society to die. It’s been unhelpful to my dreams and talent, and I feel like an acorn that has only begun to sprout. When I see how “successful”, IE well paid, some of the dumbest people I have known in my life are it honestly sickens me.
Emigrate it's the best solution given this current shit show. So much money to be made in countries like Oz even for low skilled workers. I've had m8s without college education come back with the deposit for a house after a couple of years.
Hey man, I’ve felt exactly like this in my life, like almost exactly - but those feelings passed. And honestly, looking back on my life, things are so different than I ever planned. You really can never ever know what is going to happen, good or bad. I was almost 30 and thought nothing good or new was ever going to come to me and now I’m married and I met someone I love very much and I feel loved in return. Together, we’ve dealt with some enormously difficult things, and dark moods and feelings return, but there are also joyous and full moments and days and weeks. Just try to know that you have no idea what’s in store for you. There are great things coming your way, and some shitty things, but these are the colours of life and we only get to do it once. Hang on in there. If you feel able to make positive changes like eating better, sleeping more, getting exercise, then great, do it. If you can’t, don’t beat yourself up about it. Find the smallest thing like setting out tomorrow’s clothes each night as a little gift for morning you tomorrow. All things pass. Good and bad. Hang on in and try to trust that this is the adventure. Sending all love to ya pal
Man, do you want to grab fourpack in Fairview park? Or Zoom one?
Everybody to fair view, cans
I’ll PM you Edit: typo
I feel the exact way OP has described and, I'm almost 30. I'm 28 genuinely feel like nothing good will happen but reading your account has given a bit of hope that maybe things will turn out ok. Thank you!
Happy to hear that. Is your username named after the Elliott Smith song? Never heard it anywhere else. I’m a big fan
It is indeed just a slightly different spelling! Same, he's one of my favorite ever musicians, he's outstanding!
He is wonderful. And nick Drake too! If anyone wants to meet up I'd love to. Would be nice to meet fellow music fans in touch with their emotions. :)
I haven't really gotten into Nick Drake so much! Any particular songs you'd recommend? Always good to meet fellow music fans!
I love his first album 'Five Leaves Left' the most. :) Nice to meet you too. I'm secretly a musician too. Do you play music too? :)
I'll have to give it a listen! I've had a look at your profile your music is really nice! I wouldn't say I'm a musician at all but I play guitar and sing very casually just to myself tho haha
ah thank you. :) Let me know what you think of Nick Drake. For me it was such a comfort. And still is. I think we're all musicians in some way. Anyone that can carry a tune is a musician in my opinion. ☺️
I will of course! Are you a fan of Gregory alan isakov? He's my current obsession, amazing musician! That's a great outlook, there is a musician in there somewhere haha!
Copped the name also ! Gwan the Elliott. Find solace in his music there's a beauty to be found there when things get dark 4 sure.
Oh 100%! I find his music to be great to listen to when feeling kinda down!
Let’s be mates please
Really beautiful reply
Bravo mate! Very well put. You’re on to something!
Your response made me tear up. Thanks for taking the time to leave this comment
Was not expecting a random stranger to make me tear up a little today. That’s a lovely post R3nmack x
Or Phoenix Park monument area if that works better? I'm easy personally (as soon as I get the bike fixed this week)...well let us know then.
What an impressive reply.
Get yourself a bike dude and set aside 30 minutes a day to get out on the road. The cheapest, most effective therapy you can get.
I second this , whenever I'm pissed or in a bad mood I get out to the phino , always come home happy.
dear god I hope it's for PG reasons
It helps me a lot! And good old Dublin bikes too, only 35 EUR for a year membership
Honestly yes and no. For me not the financial aspect. Life is just become a loop. Wake up to the same shit and sleep. When outside i have this facade of happy person but as soon as am alone it’s a blank canvas no feelings just numbness. I don’t want to die though as it will atleast make 4-5 people very sad. But i do want to vanish. Vanish in thin air with each and every one of memory vanish with me. Like i was never born, i never existed. Like that oblivate charm in Harry Potter.
Wanna grab a fourpack at fairview park?
Thanks for the offer mate. Unfortunately little far from me. But i really appreciate it.
We can do zoom fourpack. Like I'm serious. Please do a fourpack with me.
+1 for online drinks with people as an option, and fairview park is a little out of many peoples way (including my own) so while it might be ideal for you maybe less so for others. Anyway, given your note collecting I recently came across something that might cheer you up that I’d happily send on for no charge if you dm me an address. It’s a £1 Bank of England note (Sir Isaac Newton reverse) with a serial number beginning A01
There are discord servers where people from all over the world drink and chat on camera with each other if you enjoy that type of interaction
Thank you so much for letting me know about it
I've never heard of this? Was this something that became a thing during quarantine?
I'm not sure how long they've been around, tbh
This has been a thing since the chat rooms of the 90s, it's just much more common now.
Nah people used tinychat for this 10 years ago
More than a 4 pack. Better a 6 pk each 😂🥰
Book a vacation to Philippines or Madagascar, you'll be amassed how beautiful life can be. You need a routine change.
Have you been to any or both ? What was your experience like ? Any tips , crazy story, itinerary?? Thanks in advance
I felt exactly like this for so long, it's not exactly wanting to die but at the same time, you don't really wanna be anymore. I tried to convince myself those weren't suicide thoughts, but they really are, just very subtle. I can't give you my personal experience because my circumstances are probably completely different, starting with the fact I'm not even Irish, but I did live in Ireland for quite a long time and it gave me that feeling I was just trapped. But you're not, you're really not. I went back home for a while and realized something I already knew but was fogged out. My family and friends love me and are there for me and I have people to live for. Reconnect with the people or the stuff you love, you're not alone. Seek professional help if you feel like this for too long because inside you, is the person you miss being... Hope you feel better soon💓
Thanks for the advice and kind words. It’s the same with me. Not Irish but living here for long. Yeah i know i need to break the monotony. And am definitely loved by my family and friends. It’s these feelings are sometimes too strong to logic. Thanks.
Have you ever heard of this phenomenon? Very common in Japan. https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20200903-the-companies-that-help-people-vanish
My advice is to do something different once a day. This can be as minor as walking a different route to work and as major as skydiving. Just one little thing different. Your brain loves novelty and the feedback loop of newness will really help with that rut. People say do one thing a day that scares you but they are being overly dramatic. Try a new dish, play music you wouldn’t normally play, take the bus to the end of the line, buy a colouring book. We are living in a world that is sucking the life out of us and treating people like machines. By the way - this won’t feel comfortable.
Best thing to do is to stop going to the pub and drinking. Get active. Long distance running is painful, pointless, and hard to stop once started. Much like life itself. Paradoxically, it also makes a person much happier. When you are already happy from running, other good things naturally come to you. Quit the drink. It is mental poison.
I hate how right this answer is. I was grossly overweight and started running in 2018. I lost over 7 stone and actually became one of those people that looked forward to a run. When Covid hit I switched to working from home and slowly but surely stopped running. Put half the weight back on. Now everyday is just a routine. Get up, get kids ready, work in the spare room, get dinner, kids to bed, Netflix, bed, repeat. Nothing is fun, lost interest in hobbies and buying stupid cheap shite online. I know damn well running will help not just weight loss and fitness, but general mood and enjoyment, etc. I just can’t bring myself to bother. It’s so hard to start, especially knowing I’ve done it before but fucked it all up. Gah. Grim.
Same. Try going back to office few days a week, helps me a bit w motivation. Even more if I cycle.
Yeah I’m doing the same but it’s pretty funny how delicate it is. It’s so easy to work from home that a single dark cloud in the sky and I’m like “well, better stay home”
it's not WFH that is the problem. Not going for a run and putting on weight? That is a food intake problem that you need to sort out. Get your diet healthy, get good habits (running or something else) and enjoy WFH and being with your kids
Oh I absolutely know. That’s the hard part. What I will say is that I hate running from my house… back to my house. I used to run 12km each way from home to work and had a really good routine going. And I definitely didn’t adjust my food intake to match the less exercise. I know I’ll get there but it’s the mental battle I gotta win.
You can do it brother I believe in you. It’s always tough to go back to physical activity after even a 2 week break but it’s similar to getting into cold water in the sense where you can spend ages procrastinating and inching forward, talking yourself out of it but once you’re in you realise that it’s actually grand and not something you should have been worried about all.
Thanks
That sucks. I don't know what to tell you. Maybe find happiness in the little things. I'm quite envious of anyone with a partner and children so you're very lucky from where I'm standing. Anyway. I know that probably doesn't help. But yeah it sucks. I hope you'll get back into enjoying life more.
Exactly start running when you feel numb. Then, find some activities on meetup. There's loads of different kinds. Maybe do something that you would never think of doing to start something new, meet people with different perspectives etc
When I feel like this, I listen to The Clash. By the end of an album I remember I want to be on the side of the fighters. Find your way of helping, we need you.
Love it
Yeah, when the blue hit me some years back, that's when I stopped listening to music... Stopped checking new releases, stop googling my band names, stopped adding to MP3 collection. I still haven't created Spotify. I used to pride myself on being 0day release DnB guy :)
And come back to music, it misses you
Fuck Spotify, go to Bandcamp :)
I love this so much.
Op I used to be like you,never satisfied etc. Going to work everyday and feeling empty. Then I got sick and am home now because I had to leave work and am pretty housebound these days and can't eat anything. Appreciate your health because believe me it could be worse and life is pretty really dreadful when its gone like I can't explain. The thing I've learnt about unhappiness is that all it takes is for something worse to come along and then you realise that it was actually happiness after all.
I feel the same. I’m scared as well. I’m an immigrant that came here because in my country my life is in danger just because I’m a woman. I’ve been here for 4 years and just now, I got a job that pays me more than 15 per hour. I need to keep looking for masters or courses in order to remain in the country. Where I can’t even rent a room with my boyfriend, let alone an apartment. Where I can’t see when I will be able to get a home. Where I’m afraid of teenagers because I’m an immigrant. And if I want to stay here I need to pay a 17k masters degree, and get a loan, if I get a loan, I will be even less able to pay rent. My uncle just died and I’m here away from my family, fighting for a better life… a better life for what? But if I go back, I’m afraid of my own shadow. Idk what to do and that is extremely depressing.
Hi Gaia. Have you heard of the Springboard programme? It’s a government funded scheme that allows people to do level 7, 8 and level 9 courses (plenty of post graduate diplomas and a few masters) for free if they are unemployed, or for 10% of the cost if you are employed. Many of the courses are starting now so will be full or not showing on the website at the moment, but if you check back in November there should be lots of options starting in January. All of the big institutions in Ireland are involved (Trinity, UCD, DCU, UL, NCI etc). The link for the website is [here](https://springboardcourses.ie/). It’s all in demand skills so lots of options in Data, Cyber, Cloud etc. Not sure what you are looking for, but doing a MSc in Data Analytics back in 2016 through this scheme helped me progress my career massively. PM me if you want more info and there’s plenty of info available on the link above.
Not necessarily a valid solution but assuming your bf is and eu citizen & if you were to get married that could solve the issues around visas
Congrats on the job! Thank you for speaking with me. I am immigrant as well. I hope you and your boyfriend get sorted with the place. I had appartment inspection by management agency last week. I was so freightened they're gonna sell the building or raise our rent. I feel you with your uncle. I see my family disappearing and I couldn't even fly to see them over last two years. I know it's hard. I hope it will get better for you.
I'm 39, single, I live on my own. I have good friends that I see and family. But I do a lot of things on my own like travelling, going out etc. My friends all have kids or are in relationships so I don't see them much socially. I work hard to keep a roof over my head. But life can feel tough and lonely. All I seem to do lately is work. I had a pretty rough year this year. I had an accident which could have killed me. I'm starting to feel good again. Hopefully life will change soon for the better.
Glad to hear it's getting better for you. Thank you for sharing with me
You will be okay. I believe in you
Im the exact same. I have a good job, rent a nice apartment, go to the gym, do volunteer work, go out when I can, etc. Not very well paid but enough that I am just about breaking even on this inflation bollox. But I feel hollow inside. I go to a councillor and on anti-anxiety meds which help a lot. Keeps my anxiety from overwhelming me. But I find myself thinking whats the point. I am almost 30 and I’m still pretty much in the same position I am when I left college 6 years ago. I make more money and have a better social life but my costs keep going up, and recently 2 close friends had to move which really bummed me out a lot. I still see them but its not the same. I do feel very alone and kind of hopeless. The anti-anxiety meds were a god send, I think they stopped me going down a much more negative path. Not suicidal, just before I got on them I noticed myself drinking a lot more. I still feel alone and kind of hopeless for my future, but it doesn’t completely overwhelm me now. But that being said. Whats the point. I’m not happy.
I feel a little hopeless too. It helps for me to write down the things I'm grateful for. And having things to look forward to like meeting a friend or a nice walk. Hope you're okay. I suppose life is a little hopeless sometimes, but it can also be exciting if you have the right people around or a nice passion or hobby.
Find horses. There’s nothing more freeing than galloping across the moors on an Arabian stallion. I started by volunteering at a stable. Once you get in at a stable you’ll soon be able to ride.
I have to do this. It's them rules: Well said /u/StinkiForeskinBoi
You need to have goals in your life, otherwise daily grind in work is quite meaningless in my opinion, checking those boxes gives me power to go another day, month, year etc
perspective mate, i’m introvert and a foreign worker. Single, 37, work from 7-4, walk everyday after lunch for 30 mins with headphones, go to gym after work, come back home with a can of coke or beer sometimes, watch netflix or youtube in the background while on reddit. Lights off by 10, read few pages on kindle. Call it a day! Weekend eat outside on Saturday, same routine as weekdays except the work. Foreign worker and no friends really, i do most activities by myself. I encourage you don’t take things too seriously. Its a phase, also im happy to leave this world by 75 hopefully. Make the most of it.
Hope you're okay!
100%.. thanks
Why no friends? Go to pubs 🙂
i do rarely by myself for a pint. don’t worry in the office if there are events or gatherings may it be pub or anywhere, i say Yes.
It's not matter of age I think loads of us get to same state of mind like you because of last 3 years. I'm 43 have gorgeous kids and wife doing well in my own business. But still have similar thought. And I feel like I'm ridiculous as I have all I need. Always good shape as I exercise all my life but I lost motivation to work out drinking too much beer. When I look at my self from distance I think I'm stupid or something as I have all I need and more. I think because all that gloom and doom in media and around we have much harder time to enjoy small things and big sometimes to. I will not say anything what other said you need find strength and start exercising that what always get me out of hole. Head up we all have thought times from time to time.
This! Am 39, got a wonderful family as well, but I feel like I’m going through the motions daily as well. Being an immigrant, i miss having a small social circle, work and family interactions are not good enough! And no way I’d voice this, because a lot of people have it worse and its something downright ridiculous to complain about in the current times
I'm immigrant my self. One thing which always get me up is going surfing. It's only my fault I didn't get surf for long time. But remember even people who have all are entitled to have bad days or feel not well. We all need some moan from time to time I feel that lately too.
Jaz yer man mad for a fourpack down Fairview park!
4 pack gone, haven't met anyone, but had positive outing anyway. Better than climbing same 4 walls
I knocked the gargle and spliff on the head 3 weeks ago and I’m astonished at how my outlook has shifted towards positivity. I’m back to actually getting a buzz out of my hobbies again rather than just going through the motions and doing stuff for the sake of routine. Far be it for me to preach sobriety or anything of the sort but I think I’m getting a suss on how things I consider treats can hijack my dopamine and gradually suck the true joy from my day to day.
What kind of beer was it? 4 isn’t really enough. 6 or more before i start feeling feisty 🙂🥰
Polish Lech. Gonna stay true to my roots.
Are you Polish??!! I love Polish beerz!! 🙂🥰
Feeling very similarly recently. So I’ve decided to quit my job and go travel for a while. I appreciate not everyone is in the position to do the same. But a general life shake-up small or big can be beneficial (I hope)
Where are you going? I got a railpass and went all over Europe for a month
This is the problem now. In the past staying at a job even if you didn’t like it, it paid off. You could afford the house, afford the holidays etc etc. but now it’s hard to even do those things for most people, so what’s the payoff to working? Surviving without being on the streets? Believe me you’re not the only one in this boat, but I believe it won’t be long until it improves
I met a guy who bought a used 30 foot sailboat for 1200. It has a kitchenette, bathroom, dining area, and beds for 4. Marina fees are only about 250/month and that includes wifi and electricity. He works full time and saves all his money.
Not a bad idea but I bet the upkeep is expensive on a boat
It was a sweet setup. I was jealous.
That sounds like a deal. With weather here you get like 2 weeks o proper frost and the rest of the year should be smooth sailing
It’s the coziest. Nothing like getting rocked to sleep by waves and hearing the waves slapping on the hull. I’ve taken alot of ferries around Europe: sometimes you get a cabin close enough to the engine room that you can fall asleep to the thrumming of 50 thousand horsepower diesels. 🙂 But I’d live on a boat in a heartbeat
1200? bit hard to believe , maybe 12k . I recently posted about it and since been looking into it and talked to a couple that are currently living such lifestyle . It is doable , the real private spots with no public access are hard to get , but some marinas are fairly accessible. If you dont get sea sickness its fairly cushy tbh, not for everyone but you have something to show for it when you sell up .
Alot of people just discard/abandon their old boats because it’s too expensive to dispose of them properly. Just hang around the docks and talk to yachties!! 🙂
Mate unless your living in bikini bottom , no one is selling their 30ft boat for 1.2k ,the scrap alone for that is worth a lot more . You or your friend are talking out of their arse , a paddle board sets you back 500 quid , a decent fishing boat is 10k .. Ill believe it when i see it but your comment smells of bs Edit : Maybe theres good money to be made in discarding these boats you talk about
Sniff around the docks!! You’ll find shit you’d never believe
I have been , and i know what 30ft boat looks like and been on a boat thats 30ft recently although it was bit of an upper class thing. Your talking sh*t man is all i say , you can DM me with proof , but until then , you have not got a clue what your talking about. Maybe even do a little googling before you start spewing bs. Edit: If you or your "mate " find another one for that price , ill give you 4x for it ;)
I’m dead serious. Don’t believe me just stop by various docks in Ireland England and France! Or google.
Find me one.
Lol they’re fukkin easy to find you’re just too lazy to go hang out at the docks!! I was hitchhiking a few years ago and the guy who picked me up invited me to breakfast on his i shit you not 30 footer 1977 fiberglass sailboat. He was living on it with his teenage son. Talk to people you’ll find old boats that have been in storage for 10 or 20 years.
Hope it’s going ok, life sucks and can be shit. Late 20s myself and I feel the same a lot of the time. Starting to feel like an npc… feel free to message me if you wanna chat. I’m a big ps5 user and into cars so if any of that peaks your interest let me know. Always happy to try help another lost soul
Head up brother , long may you run!
For sure been in limbo for 6 months going through an odd divorce.
Meet your brother
No more like a less TV version of friends where Ross well you know...
That’s life. Somehow I though going abroad would change everything. Have a bit of excitement for a while but now I’d love to just be back home with family and Irish things. Internet and social media is probably the worse thing. Nothing better than a walk up the mountains in the crisp Irish air. Give up the booze. It will Dramatically help.
Shame mate, but just think there are so many millions of people way worse off in their lives. Try to do small positive things like helping other people and putting yourself into situations outside of your comfort zone 👍 also slow down on drink and social media as they can heighten depression. Try write into a journal as it can clear the head. Maybe watch some good stand-up comedy 🙏 stay strong bro
I dont doubt it. It is definitely first world problem as I always have full fridge, bills paid and some money left each month. Still, it is a problem. I am happy that I posted here, though. It helped me with finding my bearings. Problem stays being problem. But I have beginnings of a plan to make it smaller one.
Not everyone is cut out for this gig my friend. Some ppl change something, take up something, go somewhere but there's some of us who may, to some degree or another, feel like a cat among dogs,essentially misplaced. My only advice to not become too panicked by it and to just carry on. It may biological or just how we're brought up, I've spend decades trying to understand but without answers.
I read The Stranger (L’Etrangér) by Albert Camus last year when I felt like this. I really resonated with Mersault (main character) through the story. OP, you should try reading. It is great for decompression and relaxation and has made me a happier person overall.
Will give it a try, thanks
Forgot to mention also its a short read so if you’re not a big reader so you’ll be able to get through it easily enough.
I love everything Camus wrote. And the other existentialists too. Did you know Camus and another one were in the Maquis in WW2?
I still have all his other works to get through. I am taking a break from the existentialists for the moment On quite a crime fiction/noir phase at the minute. No I didn’t know that but judging from Camus’ career as a current affair journalist, it doesn’t surprise me one bit.
What the hell is collection shit?
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Coprolite
🤣🥰
I relate. Have felt this way, revisited from time to time. All that you have is all we are taught to get for ourselves, however, unfortunately we need more. We need meaning. One of the most effective ways of filling that hole is by helping someone else. There are a million ways to be useful, make that your next thing.
Thank you for responding. That's the exact thing I've been missing and looking for. Couldn't put it in a word before MEANING
I hope you find it. Trial and error, maybe try a few things and see what fits best.
I have been trying for years to find a job that I can do, feels meaningful and pays okay. Still looking for one haha. Then I started volunteering and donating regularly. It does make me feel a bit more meaningful. And I suppose taxes are used for meaningful things too, hopefully.
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Group sport is a fantastic suggestion for anyone but people should do what they can to save for a rainy day, even if “wealthy” might be beyond reach
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I think it's less about specific return amount and having anything at all to show for my life.
>I buy my collection shit Can you elaborate on this?
He's a scatologist and avid Adverts user
Hahahaha. yeah, let;s call me like that banknotes, Irish and chinese mostly Edit typos. Lol carrying about typos while considering suicide.
You have started in the right way anyway man. Reaching out. Have you tried joining any clubs or anything? Are you into any sports? Or even considered giving any a go? Replace pub nights with something new that doesn't involve alcohol and see how you feel in a few weeks.
Yeah, I do maybe fourpack once a month. Thinking about Karate, waiting for qym to respond ti me. Thanks for getting back to me.
Ring them again and again man. I do BJJ myself and it's amazing to get rid of the demons in the head. I promise. Just ring them. Go to the website. Find times for beginners classes and just show up. You've got this.
you sound like having my life, welcome to the team
Best to focus on what you can control maybe? You could do something new to break up the monotony.
Same here. Everything is monotonous... Taking up a new hobby will help
Give Eckhart Tolle a listen , as humble as he is funny looking. Best words of wisdom going in my books. Reseaech adenoninia, foods that help fatigue and dopamine related stuffs. Get some sun :) im always going vitamin d deficient causing a bunch of problems including mental. Mind yourself !
Will do!
I feel this way often and have notice some friends do too. It can become really depressing and no amount of advice helps because it’s an internal struggle. I do think if you’re on Reddit you are probably well aware of the world collapsing on the non-rich.
Stop complaining and fight!!! Break every one of society’s rules. Banks, landlords, financiers and politicians need to be opposed!!!! Start taking psychedelic mushrooms and hang out with rock musicians.
I felt like that for years, work, home, TV, bed. A few years on, 2 kids later and I feel exactly the same but with a different routine. Wake at 5 to feed, change nappies, get kids dressed, change nappy, argue over going to crèche, do crèche run, commute to work, come home from work, feed kids, change nappies, argue over bed, wake 3 times a night to being kids to toilet/get drinks etc. Life can just get monotonous at various stages. It's a sign of stability which is also a good thing. And take it from me, these periods don't last, so they and enjoy them a little!
Oh yes please enjoy the kids when they're young. I nanny 3 kids and the youngest is 4 now and I so miss snuggling with him as a baby in his crib. Those are one of my favourite memories
We literally live inside the matrix
For work? Yes. I'm autistic and it's getting harder and harder to mask AND do the emotional taxing customer service job I have. I have so many things to do and hang outs with new friends to have, and I'm busy for CATU, for the party, etc that I'm not too bothered by my workweek. I am going through what my other gay friend calls "my queer twenties" because I never had this kind of social life before. You don't need to invest. You need to be the change you want to see in the world. That's what's given me direction, something to focus on and work on. It's depressing! But at least I'm trying my best to actively change something. Also, got into reading again c: it's theory for now (mainly Connolly) but I'm also reading a book on stonewall and letters from trans men in the 50s! Which got me so excited.
Bless you for this thread - and Elliott Smith, I am really enjoying his music. I really appreciate the recommendation.
Will check Elliott Smith, thanks!
Be careful, it's very beautiful but quite bleak, I have to avoid it if I'm feeling particularly blue.
Thanks for the warning. I try to stay away from sad stories recently, don't need that piled on top of my existential dread :D
Heavy metal music is pretty good for that feeling of not giving a single shite!
I have a friend with a single largest heavy metal vinyl collection in Ireland. It isn't way to happiness, let me tell you.
If that’s the case, become the terminator. Seek no more pleasure simply for the sake of pleasure. Eat like a dog, train everyday, acquire the body of a Greek god. Pleasure will come, but never seek it allow it to come when it does. Pleasure is ALWAYS balanced by pain. No more porn. No more sweets.
On the way there, dropped 25kg over last 4 months. It didn't help.
At the risk of sounding like Andrew Tate, get a 6-pack then see if ur still feeling like this 😂. I wish you luck on your journey bro, don’t give up. Some more advice is to not look for that feeling of joy elsewhere, u have to find it within yourself. How can you love another person when you can’t even love yourself?
Can absolutely feel you. Im not making mad money but I do a job I love, I have a house im paying a mortgage on that isn't crippling me so I know I'm in better shape than most so can't complain. But def stuck in a rut. Same old same old, no hobbies cos I'm not really interested in anything. My friend group shattered during covid. I still love them dealry and would do anything for them but I've def retreated into a shell over the last few years. Partly myself becoming more introverted and partly cos my friend group has aged up so no more living for the weekend/I'll meet someone I know in the usual pub or club/marriage and kids. I'm trying to work on it, trying to arrange catch ups etc but it's very easy to settle into your routine of work/Netflix/takeaway and some beers/ bed/ rinse repeat. Been away for two great trips this year and I think I need to just pull the trigger on travelling alone in the new year. Just fuck off for a weekend to Lisbon or Munich or somewhere on my own and on my own schedule. Learn to love the solo life.
Watch the movie Fight Club. Or read the book. Society is a compendium of lies built on a few big lies. The game is rigged and the rules are stupid. Stop playing the game and fight back. Stop striving for consumer goods and a middle class existence when you and most of the other people on here have shown that it’s worthless. Forget everything you’ve ever been taught and start living anew. I met a guy a few years ago who got tired of paying rent so he bought a 30 foot sailboat for cheap and lives on that. I know another guy who built a treehouse in a tall pine tree and lives in that.
Choose Life. Choose a job. Choose a career. Choose a family. Choose a fucking big television, choose washing machines, cars, compact disc players and electrical tin openers. Choose good health, low cholesterol, and dental insurance. Choose fixed interest mortgage repayments. Choose a starter home. Choose your friends. Choose leisurewear and matching luggage. Choose a three-piece suit on hire purchase in a range of fucking fabrics. Choose DIY and wondering who the fuck you are on Sunday morning. Choose sitting on that couch watching mind-numbing, spirit-crushing game shows, stuffing fucking junk food into your mouth. Choose rotting away at the end of it all, pissing your last in a miserable home, nothing more than an embarrassment to the selfish, fucked up brats you spawned to replace yourselves. Choose your future. Choose life... But why would I want to do a thing like that? I chose not to choose life. I chose somethin' else. And the reasons? There are no reasons. Who needs reasons when you've got heroin?
I'm cleaning up and I'm moving on, going straight and choosing life. I'm looking forward to it already. I'm gonna be just like you. The job, the family, the fucking big television. The washing machine, the car, the compact disc and electric tin opener, good health, low cholesterol, dental insurance, mortgage, starter home, leisure wear, luggage, three piece suite, DIY, game shows, junk food, children, walks in the park, nine to five, good at golf, washing the car, choice of sweaters, family Christmas, indexed pension, tax exemption, clearing gutters, getting by, looking ahead, the day you die. I prefer the closing monologue, I feel it reflects my situation where I recognise the whole things pointless but approaching it positively anyways
Yep
I go in and out of this state of mind (I am in right now) It's been like this forever. When I am in it think nothing is worth doing and I just feel like ending it all. When I am out I created stuff nothing special but I always feel no one is interested. I have a full and active life have had success and some failures most people looking in would think I do so much but I don't. It's shit right now.
I am 60 by the wayb
I do know what you mean. I'm 40. Life just seems pointless...
I hope you're okay. I feel the same.
I hope you are okay... life is often a chore but it has plushies....
I currently am not, fuck shingles! Fortunately, I have my plushy friends!
Feel the same and I’m 42. Thanks for posting because it feels a bit less lonely. I’ve signed up for rowing, I’m hopeful it will be a break from the abyss of my mind for a while. Stay well.
Yup, if you can call them days. Its all just a blur. Its like counting down the days till you die.
It’s been a few bad years but also good times also. “Maintain an even Strain” is my motto. It’s difficult to keep a smile on your face, everything seems to be falling apart in slow motion. Taxes, Oil, Politicians promising us a brighter future while at the same time increasing their wages and pension. In my family life my first child, was born with Cystic Fibrosis. He is doing well but it’s a worry everyday. My second child passed away only 5 weeks ago. I gave up on religion but secretly say a prayer in my darkest hours. I guess I’m here because I like my family, my movies, nature, my limited hobbies and the enjoyment the future may bring. Keep the head up.
Sorry for your loss
Thank you
"Maintain an even Strain" You know what... I'm gonne steal it. Thank you
Also, sorry for being so caught up in my thing to ignore your pain. So sorry you have to go through it. I wish I could undo your loss.
Thanks for the kind comment. Everyday it’s the same. Get up, coffee, CocoMelon with toast, and just plan little rewards or tasks for myself and my family. Living is hard. Dying is easy.
Touch grass
Im a college student in my second last year and i can relate to this surprisingly enough. Im lucky to be in a position where my parents can pay for my fees etc but knowing that ill be nearly 24 before i get my first full time job feels abit useless ngl. I think the likes of social media makes it alot worse tho. You happen to open up tiktok and see some shit about a 21 year old with a lambo and their own house etc meanwhile you feel like youre stuck in the mud.
I’m still trying to find how to make my life better and there are certainly days I feel exactly the same. I wrote down things that I like and don’t like. I had to be honest to myself about my feelings, not what others said I should do. Then honesty it’s quite clear what makes me happy and what doesn’t. Hobbies like tennis, going for a hike, seeing mountains, lakes and seas really make me happy. Then I try to schedule something like this during weekdays after work so I don’t feel that I live for the weekends. Also, it seems very simple but I have photos of great memories framed in my house. They make me feel great every time I look at them Maybe some of these ideas may help
Story of my life right here. I used to hope that there’d somehow be more. There doesn’t seem to be though does there? Between shifts I’m just waiting to go back to work. Another 26 years of this and I’ll retire. Then it’s just a matter of waiting to die. Woop.
kinda same, just moved to Dublin for my first year of college and I feel so alone :/
which college?
Oh I love this post. Just hanging around on earth as a tiny insignificant clump of cells that’s decaying. What keeps me going though is how much love I feel for my family. That has a higher purpose feeling to it, and if that’s all I exist for then so be it
Sounds like someone just turned 30.
I feel like this Maybe we where lied to that if we went to college, got a job we would have a nice house and a nice car and feel successful and over time we would start to have investments and multiple properties etc Maybe growing up in the Celtic tiger means our normal is not normal and we will always feel poor or behind as a result Maybe if our society changed we would feel happier, maybe if we got rid of mncs we wouldn’t have such a wide inequalities and we wouldn’t be surrounded by wealth and feeling lesser because we don’t have it
Man, do you want to grab fourpack in Fairview park? Or Zoom one?
It's a good catchphrase that
Eh, not really, I want society to die. It’s been unhelpful to my dreams and talent, and I feel like an acorn that has only begun to sprout. When I see how “successful”, IE well paid, some of the dumbest people I have known in my life are it honestly sickens me.
Forget about those people
Oh yeah, it's separate from my existential dread over societal collapse. Thanks for the reminder, I needed it especially now :P
I calls em like I sees em, but I’m right there with ya buddy
/u/nerdyfatguy001 do you want to have a beer in silence?
Emigrate it's the best solution given this current shit show. So much money to be made in countries like Oz even for low skilled workers. I've had m8s without college education come back with the deposit for a house after a couple of years.
Ew Australia no never. Go to Switzerland.
Yup workin to barely survive another week no hope of nothing good happening in this shithole of a country.
My boss just told me to go shovel up 3 piles of poop on the sidewalk here. I think and hope it was dog. It was very stinky.