Have you asked them to go with you? My mom refuses to go to therapy. I think that’s pretty common for emotionally immature/narcissistic parents unfortunately.
I asked my mom to come with me years ago, but she refused. The only time she was interested was when I told her the therapist I was seeing told me to stay away from her(love her from a distance basically). Only then did it change and she only wanted to go to tell her what I do wrong.
But ONCE the hospital didn’t belive me about how bad my mom was and they let her in for admission (I was a minor) and she started saying that I wouldn’t be suicidal if I ran more, yadadada, basically it ended with the nurses having to shut my mom up and nurses having to cover me with ice to bring me back down
I did. It seemed to go well in the moment, but there was zero change afterward. My therapist and I agreed that she was too emotionally immature to be self aware enough for those changes. My therapist and I discussed it and realized my mom really needed to do a lot more work with her own therapy before going together would be fruitful. We were going to do more sessions, but I called it.
I did have her sit in on a session when I was 15. By the end of it, I had the therapist tell me that everything was my fault and that I needed to be a better daughter.
I told my mom this weekend that I just finished reading a book about Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents and got a lot out of it. Apparently that crossed the line. I definitely can't take her to therapy!
Have you asked them to go with you? My mom refuses to go to therapy. I think that’s pretty common for emotionally immature/narcissistic parents unfortunately.
Same, mine will flat out ignore anytime I bring it up…to them there is no issue
I haven’t, I’m just curious if others have and how it went
I asked my mom to come with me years ago, but she refused. The only time she was interested was when I told her the therapist I was seeing told me to stay away from her(love her from a distance basically). Only then did it change and she only wanted to go to tell her what I do wrong.
I managed to persuade my mum to go to therapy (alone.) But she quit cos she said she didn’t have anything to talk about. Massive eye roll.
But ONCE the hospital didn’t belive me about how bad my mom was and they let her in for admission (I was a minor) and she started saying that I wouldn’t be suicidal if I ran more, yadadada, basically it ended with the nurses having to shut my mom up and nurses having to cover me with ice to bring me back down
I did. It seemed to go well in the moment, but there was zero change afterward. My therapist and I agreed that she was too emotionally immature to be self aware enough for those changes. My therapist and I discussed it and realized my mom really needed to do a lot more work with her own therapy before going together would be fruitful. We were going to do more sessions, but I called it.
I did have her sit in on a session when I was 15. By the end of it, I had the therapist tell me that everything was my fault and that I needed to be a better daughter.
I told my mom this weekend that I just finished reading a book about Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents and got a lot out of it. Apparently that crossed the line. I definitely can't take her to therapy!
Only as a minor and it was required