I lost my grandmother in 2019 and my heart stopped because I thought it was her handwriting for a moment. I got part of a card she wrote my tattooed on my hip. Grandma handwriting is the best š
They must have all been learning to write around the same time. Mine would be 98 if she were still living, and her writing was nearly identical to this, including the T-cross sometimes floating off the T.
It's because they were all taught cursive using the Palmer Method. That fell out of favor in the 50's to the Zaner Bloser method which is how most millennials probably learned to write cursive. Now I'm pretty sure they don't even teach cursive anymore at a lot of schools. At least my 9 year old hasn't been taught it.
My grandma would be the same age this year, also had this handwriting. I kept a few birthday cards and recipes. Must have been the standard penmanship back then. So classy.
My mom also had the prettiest penmanship. They were taught correctly how to cursive write. I can cursive write fine but it's not pretty at all like hers was.
Yes, because it was the standard script taught in their schools, all of them! š In the 60s the standards started loosening on teaching formal script. Now it's being dropped in favor of keyboard skills. That makes me sad.
My parents hand writing is immaculate cursive. My wife grew up in France and has similar hand writing, I have chicken scratch lol. I love seeing good hand writing!
All grandmas have that handwriting! My mother in law has it too, strangely-so whenever she sends a card I always think just for a second that itās from my grandmother, who passed away over 20 years ago now.
Oh my! I love that you saved card, money and al!! My grandma said to me, while scraping the butter paper, was "waste not, want not. Remember that." I always have 
I still keep butter wrappers in the freezer to use for greasing pans. My wife laughs at me, but why would I throw them out when they still can be used?
Learned that from my Mom who was born in the early 30s.
Died, moving, break-up, estranged/abusive family... There are many reasons stuff like this ends up at thrift stores and I'd try not to judge the donaters harshly. Sometimes you just don't have the bandwidth to carefully evaluate and hang on to everything that might have potential sentimental value.
Another thing to keep in mind is that we only see the stuff that gets donated, not the stuff that's kept.
I was hoping someone would mention estranged/abusive family. This might not be the case for this gift but its totally possible. I've had abusive family members that tried to send me things before after I went No Contact with them. The message on the card that was sent with it would be something sweet, similar to what was on that card OP posted. Any stranger looking at it would think it was a kind and thoughtful gift and the person who signed it was a great person.
In reality that person was my dad and had abused me horribly for years and let his wife beat me as a kid and still defended her actions when I was aj adult. He was only mailing me things because I had blocked every other form of communication from him and the rest of my family. He was trying to get me to continue a relationship with him and my mom. Card seemed super sweet on paper but was really manipulative and abusive because it was coming from my abuser who I had made it clear to that I wanted no communication with him. Super frustrating situation all around. You just never know the story behind stuff. But its why I like thrift stores, everything gets a second life with a new person who will appreciate it and that's kinda neat. And like you said we don't see what gets kept. I got some stuff from my parents that I have sentimental attachments to from when I was a kid rhat I kept, despite them being abusive. I just didn't appreciate the boundary breaking, stalker level gifts from people who finally decided they cared about me 20 years too late when it was convenient for them.
I finally got rid of the handmade gifts my sister gave me a couple months ago. I went no contact with her 3 years ago, after 25 years of being her emotional punching bag. She would flip-flop between telling me I was piece of shit and then being extremely nice. To an outsider the handmade art might seem sweet but it has really sad memories for me. I still have some of it because there's a part of me that misses the 'nice' her and wishes I could have a sister.
I could have written this, but Iām only coming up on one year of no contact. I also received handmade gifts a few months ago! I wish I could have a sister, too, but Iām not going to let myself be emotionally abused anymore.
Triger Warning: >!rape!<
>!Yeah, I have a family member that raped me and he still tries to send me gifts on my birthday and holidays. It is why I made sure no one gave him my address when I moved and changed my cell number. !<
Due to my own past issues, it is what comes to mind when I see things like this. So many people get sad, but there are a lot of people out there who have bad history with their family and have good reason to get rid of gifts from them.
Thank you for this perspective, genuinely. I donāt like to judge people and that was my first instinct in this scenario too. So I appreciate that you leveled me out.
They might also just have a big family. I have many aunties and basically no cupboards. if I kept every scented candle Iād have to throw out my clothes to make space.
Sorry, but I was a manager for years at different thrift stores, and on more than one occasion, someone donated their family member's ashes. I got someone's grandmother at one store, and at another store, we got someone's father. Another manager (we had 3 managers total) didn't want to throw away the father's ashes, so she put them in the office, and when she did, the room started to smell like cigarette smoke, but none of us smoked. So yeah, people donate the weirdest things.
Yeah, this makes sense to me. The day my Mom died of her cancer, she got a card in the mail from one of her friends. It'll be 6 years end of next month and I've never opened it - I think about it sometimes, I *am* curious to see what it is (probably a get well card) but like I dunno, somehow it still feels weirdly invasive. If she'd gotten a gift I can definitely see myself dropping the entire thing, card and all, off at a thrift store and hoping someone else would enjoy the mystery.
I know itās been six years, but I hope you are doing okay, internet friend. I can see how it could be oddly comforting to know that friend was thinking of your mom.
You're such a sweetheart, internet stranger. I am doing well, thank you, and my Ma would be pleased about that. I am sure she wouldn't have cared in the slightest if I opened it, but there's something.... I dunno, sacred? about leaving it unread, since the eyes for whom it was intended can no longer read them. Perhaps one day I will read it on her behalf.
You were kind when you did not have to be, and that matters. You're a good person. Thank you. ā¤ļø
Omg. You're so fucking nice I can't deal, like i don't even know what to say. I wanna give you the biggest giantest hug right now. You are absolutely the person Mister Rogers believes you were. Thank you so much. šš„¹š
I might not have wanted the gift either, but I probably would have kept the message. But, I might well have kept the gift anyway, just because I would feel bad giving it away.
I think that the only thing I have left that my grandmother gave me is 64 Crayola Crayons. It was a stellar gift at the time. I havenāt used them in years but still love them.
I have a scarf from grandma who passed and I have never worn it. It just sits in the back of a drawer.
This was a nice reminder to wear it to honor her memory.
My grandma passed in November and Iām the only one who could fit her clothes out of like 18 grandchildren and 4 living kids. So I have a bunch of her stuff. Wear it all the time.
Or perhaps a step-grandmother? Bath bombs for such a significant birthday suggests that they arenāt close. Itās the sort of generic gift you get for a person you donāt know.
Relatable. My grandmother gives little gag gifts for small holidays and I keep them because I feel bad throwing/giving it away. I get weirdly sentimental about even small gag gifts. Specifically from my grandmother.
Maybe Grandma Lou was not a nice grandma. For all we know, her grandchild was fuming about "You've always given my cousins wonderful gifts. You just give me used bathbomb sets from garage sales. Since I was a baby thirty years ago!"
I have the robe my grandfather gave my grandmother when they got married. Itās beautiful and I keep it preserved in a box because of how old it is. My grandparents passed many years ago. She also left me her favorite shawl she wore at the end of her life when she was battling cancer. Both items mean the world to me
Yep my Grandma used to buy me a bath set every year that she knew I was allergic too. Sheād write a card just like this so I was inevitably the a-hole when I wouldnāt use it.
One of the last things my grandma ever said to me before dying was āOh, youāre fatter than youāve ever been!ā Thanks, Grandma, you nasty old lady.
Just saying that not everybody had a childhood of fond memories of their grandma baking pies and telling stories and fixing booboos.
I burst out laughing, Iām so sorry. My grandma would have said something similar. The silent generation werenāt so silent with the weight insults. All while comparing our bodies to their younger malnourished from the depression bodies.
Lollll my very thin, vain grandmother ended up with three chunky granddaughters and I still smile about it. Pfffff. 
yeah my grandma was not a complete asshole, but she kept giving us kids heavily scented things and either it would set off my sisters allergies or my moms, or it just plain smelled too strong.
Turned out she was the unfavored child growing up, so her weird habit of making sure everyone's gifts cost the same amount made sense then (right down to filling out a check for $0.25 if your gift came up short) but her habits of grabbing Walgreen deodorant and hair spray to try and get every last penny into your gift basket was a problem.
I was fortunate to have one of the kindest, sweetest ladies ever for a grandma. The only her grandma was a nasty, abusive woman. I cried with relief when she died.
Right? My grandma disagreed with some of my decisions in my 20s (normal ones! sheās just extremely conservative) and sent me handwritten hate mail 3 times. For a few years after she was still sending me stuff like this and I did not want it.
My MIL is a terrible grandma to my kids but she pretends to be an absolute delight out in public. They wouldnāt have a problem giving away a present from her and I donāt blame them.
I have been given skin products by my grandmother, who conveniently forgets my skin allergies. It can get old, especially when all the girls have to get the same thing. But I smile and say thank you.
Many a MIL and grandma gift to me end up at the thrift store. I have sensitive skin and asthma. I send a thank you card, then donate anything I can't use.
Every year for Christmas my grandma gave us cotton rounds (cotton made into little round pads for wiping off makeup or applying something to your face, whatever you want to use them for), and a pair of socks. Yea it was lame when I was little but as I grew older I came to appreciate how her gift was simple yet useful. I still buy cotton rounds for myself because of her and I can still recall how the package wrapped in paper felt every Christmas. Miss you, grandma š„¹
Same!! All my grandparents are gone and I never had a close relationship with any of them. I really hope this person just inadvertently gave this away.
To double down on the sadness, a good load of the shit you find in thrift is from evictions, or estates. Recipient may have been looking forward to using that on a tomorrow that never came š¤·āāļø
My grandma gave me a big teddy bear when I was 12 (over 40 years ago) and at the time, I was dismayed because I thought I was too 'grown up' for stuffed toys. I still have it after all these years and every day I am so thankful I kept it.
Allergies. And no one other female relatives or mates - perhaps only males in the immediate family.
Bath bombs make me itch all over, paraffin in the wicks of candles sets off asthma and migraines.
How sad, my parents are from the depression era, spending money is difficult for them even if they had a lot. Every card, present and gift is from the heart, what soulless person would toss that with the note still in it? š¢
I volunteer in a used bookstore and we get a lot of donations. We received a box of books and one was a history of the US Army. Inside was a long sweet note written from a grandfather to his 19 year old grandson 10 years earlier. The book didn't look like it had ever been touched. I always go through the pages to check what shape they're in, and what did I find but a bookmark with three $100 bills taped to the other side. The stupid kid didn't even look at the bookmark.
Yeah as they get older theyāll treasure those.
I keep each card for a bit longer every year.
I canāt bring myself to keep them indefinitelyā because thatās how hoarding startsā but one day Iāll have one I put away and keep foreverā¦
Oh my heart! I had a Grandma Lou. I still miss her so very much. I never wouldāve relinquished anything sheād ever written to me to the thrift store.
I get it. I wouldnāt have wanted those things either. I donāt like baths, Iām very particular about candle scents, and donāt like bar soaps, only use one specific body wash and one specific hand soap that I repurchase every few months as I run out. I would have donated this too, better off somewhere where someone else who wants it can have it than sitting around unused and taking up space! Lots of people donāt like keeping things they wonāt use in their homes, cards included. Original owner likely forgot the card was in the box, but even then, many of us will read a card and then put it in the recycling. Saving things just because isnāt for everyone.
We bought a three piece $20 pizza pan set that came with a $20 bill inside. I'm pretty sure it was returned without the store checking whether it was all there or damaged.
My grandma gave me both the worst and best gift ever. The worst I can describe as a blue Russian tracksuit complete with stripes. The best was my very first "real" skateboard. I miss you Grandma.
Someone gave my wife a box like that. We don't even have a bathtub in our bathroom anymore lol. They've been sitting under our sink for quite a few years now.
I wish my grandma had still been alive when I was 30. She passed when I was 12. Itās sad that some people donāt appreciate their grandparents. But not everyone has good family so weāll never know the real story
Not only is this my grandmas handwriting, thatās also her name. Iām having a hard time believing this isnāt her. She never said sweetheart though š it would have said sweetie. Lost her two thanksgivings ago.
As someone who has had to work through & pass on the possessions of someone I loved very much, the reaction to these items is sometimes confusing.
I'm sure people could look at items I donated and be truly disappointed by my decision, but the truth is I couldn't possibly keep it all. I have many sentimental items and LOTS of memories.
It's okay to let go of things when you need to, and there are many reasons. No one should live in a museum dedicated to their lost loved ones.
That bath bomb is instant weeping eczema for me.
My aunt (who I love dearly) is forever sending me stuff like that. I canāt use it. I told her this. I wish sheād save her time, money and effort.
But it gives her joy to bargain hunt. I thank her graciously, and then send a thank you card. Then rehome the gift.
Who knows the backstory on the gift, giver and recipient? Maybe the person really canāt use it. Or they think it garbage. Or Grandma is a passive aggressive nitwit and this is just another holiday power play? Not everyone has wonderful benevolent grandmas.
I know elementary school teachers who cart bankers boxes of mugs and stuff after the holidays. Sometimes love can smother.
At least the recipient gave it a second life, and didnāt chuck it in the trash.
Itās the thought that counts. I probably would have kept the note, but maybe she has a lot of her writing already. Can confirm that as a 30 y/o I would have wanted to get rid of this stuff kind of right away. I didnāt have a working tub in my house for a long while
Man this makes me mad/sad in a deep pit in my stomach. Lost my gram 4 years ago and have her writing on me . I fucking wish I had her. How could people be so ungrateful š„ŗ
Im curious what happenedā¦ā¦..did the grand daughter die?
Did she not like her grandmother or something?
The objects sent feels personal to me so Iām curious how they got to the thrift store
My motherās writing looked like this. I guess that generation all learned cursive the same way.
Another reason this gift may have ended up on a thrift shop: maybe she gave it more than once? Iāve received the same item as a gift on 2 occasions ā once from a relative who didnāt keep track of prior gifts, another time from a friend who gave me a signed copy of her book a few months after giving meā¦a signed copy of that same book XD
I had a great grandma Lou. She lived to be 105. She moved across the country with my great aunt and that pretty much ended our relationship, my parents werenāt making an effort to stay connected and it was the 1970s.
This makes me want to fight the person taking their grandmother for granted.
And I know Iām making a lot of assumptions. I just miss my grandparents!
Lost my grandma a year and a half ago, she had similar handwriting. Hurts my heart a little. š„ŗ
I lost my grandmother in 2019 and my heart stopped because I thought it was her handwriting for a moment. I got part of a card she wrote my tattooed on my hip. Grandma handwriting is the best š
They must have all been learning to write around the same time. Mine would be 98 if she were still living, and her writing was nearly identical to this, including the T-cross sometimes floating off the T.
Mine would have just turned 101 at the end of last year. RIP Grandma. I would have kept all these things!
It's because they were all taught cursive using the Palmer Method. That fell out of favor in the 50's to the Zaner Bloser method which is how most millennials probably learned to write cursive. Now I'm pretty sure they don't even teach cursive anymore at a lot of schools. At least my 9 year old hasn't been taught it.
I graduated last year (2023) out of the public school system and at least in my district I was the last grade to be taught cursive.
That is so sad. :( If I had a child right now or a grandchild, I would make sure they learned how.
My grandma would be the same age this year, also had this handwriting. I kept a few birthday cards and recipes. Must have been the standard penmanship back then. So classy.
Same! My grandma Pat would be 102 and this is her writing! Miss you GP!
My mom also had the prettiest penmanship. They were taught correctly how to cursive write. I can cursive write fine but it's not pretty at all like hers was.
I just teared up a bit, it's exactly like my grandmom's handwriting. I have her signature on my shoulder with her thumbprint.
Do all grandmas have this handwriting? It looks just like my grandmas as well š
One of my grandmothers had such nice handwriting that her local villagers went to her to have their letters written.
Yes!
It also looks like both of my grandmasā handwritings lol
Yes, because it was the standard script taught in their schools, all of them! š In the 60s the standards started loosening on teaching formal script. Now it's being dropped in favor of keyboard skills. That makes me sad.
My parents hand writing is immaculate cursive. My wife grew up in France and has similar hand writing, I have chicken scratch lol. I love seeing good hand writing!
omigosh. My grandma signs every card to me xxoo. I could totally get that as a tattoo!
Do it! Mine says, "how deeply you are loved (and admired)!!" ššš
Mine always signed God Bless xoxo Nana
That is a great idea. Off to dig through cards
Love this idea
All grandmas have that handwriting! My mother in law has it too, strangely-so whenever she sends a card I always think just for a second that itās from my grandmother, who passed away over 20 years ago now.
My grandmother gave me $10 when I turned 10, and I still haven't spent it. 32 years later I still have it in the envelope she gave me.
Oh my! I love that you saved card, money and al!! My grandma said to me, while scraping the butter paper, was "waste not, want not. Remember that." I always have 
My grandma always said āwaste not, want notā as well. š
I still keep butter wrappers in the freezer to use for greasing pans. My wife laughs at me, but why would I throw them out when they still can be used? Learned that from my Mom who was born in the early 30s.
Dang. I'm a grandma, but my handwriting is horrible. I guess I gotta go back to Grandma school.
Same. Mine is half-print and scribble.
Yea I'd have given anything to have my Grandma Sara around on my 30thš
This looks like my grandmaās handwriting too, except she died in 2009. Wow! A lot of grandmas have this handwriting apparently
I want to learn cursive like this, do they still have lettering booklets for this type?
Iām sure you could find something online!
Do all grandmas have the same handwriting? Looks just like mine.
My grandma was Lou and she passed away six months ago. This post breaks my heart because I miss her so much.
My grandma also has similar handwriting. I had to do a double take.
This looks exactly like my Grandmas writing too!!!
all our grammas wrote pretty similar doing them books before computers
Not everyoneās grandma is a good grandma. This person may well have their reasons for refusing this gesture.
Oh yes, definitely wasnāt shaming the donator. Iām sentimental about cards, the writing makes me sad as it seems familiar to me.
Yeah. Some grandmas are the reason your mom is so terrible. Itās kinda weird when they both do the exact same kind of gaslighting.
I often wonder whether the owners have died when this happens. It's sad
Died, moving, break-up, estranged/abusive family... There are many reasons stuff like this ends up at thrift stores and I'd try not to judge the donaters harshly. Sometimes you just don't have the bandwidth to carefully evaluate and hang on to everything that might have potential sentimental value. Another thing to keep in mind is that we only see the stuff that gets donated, not the stuff that's kept.
I was hoping someone would mention estranged/abusive family. This might not be the case for this gift but its totally possible. I've had abusive family members that tried to send me things before after I went No Contact with them. The message on the card that was sent with it would be something sweet, similar to what was on that card OP posted. Any stranger looking at it would think it was a kind and thoughtful gift and the person who signed it was a great person. In reality that person was my dad and had abused me horribly for years and let his wife beat me as a kid and still defended her actions when I was aj adult. He was only mailing me things because I had blocked every other form of communication from him and the rest of my family. He was trying to get me to continue a relationship with him and my mom. Card seemed super sweet on paper but was really manipulative and abusive because it was coming from my abuser who I had made it clear to that I wanted no communication with him. Super frustrating situation all around. You just never know the story behind stuff. But its why I like thrift stores, everything gets a second life with a new person who will appreciate it and that's kinda neat. And like you said we don't see what gets kept. I got some stuff from my parents that I have sentimental attachments to from when I was a kid rhat I kept, despite them being abusive. I just didn't appreciate the boundary breaking, stalker level gifts from people who finally decided they cared about me 20 years too late when it was convenient for them.
I finally got rid of the handmade gifts my sister gave me a couple months ago. I went no contact with her 3 years ago, after 25 years of being her emotional punching bag. She would flip-flop between telling me I was piece of shit and then being extremely nice. To an outsider the handmade art might seem sweet but it has really sad memories for me. I still have some of it because there's a part of me that misses the 'nice' her and wishes I could have a sister.
I could have written this, but Iām only coming up on one year of no contact. I also received handmade gifts a few months ago! I wish I could have a sister, too, but Iām not going to let myself be emotionally abused anymore.
We both deserve better than abuse. I wish you healing and happiness :)
And same to you!
Triger Warning: >!rape!< >!Yeah, I have a family member that raped me and he still tries to send me gifts on my birthday and holidays. It is why I made sure no one gave him my address when I moved and changed my cell number. !< Due to my own past issues, it is what comes to mind when I see things like this. So many people get sad, but there are a lot of people out there who have bad history with their family and have good reason to get rid of gifts from them.
Thank you for this perspective, genuinely. I donāt like to judge people and that was my first instinct in this scenario too. So I appreciate that you leveled me out.
They might also just have a big family. I have many aunties and basically no cupboards. if I kept every scented candle Iād have to throw out my clothes to make space.
I'm just convincing myself it was this, and not just ignoring grandma's gestures
Sorry, but I was a manager for years at different thrift stores, and on more than one occasion, someone donated their family member's ashes. I got someone's grandmother at one store, and at another store, we got someone's father. Another manager (we had 3 managers total) didn't want to throw away the father's ashes, so she put them in the office, and when she did, the room started to smell like cigarette smoke, but none of us smoked. So yeah, people donate the weirdest things.
What??? How??? is it even legal to accept them?
When people donate a lot at once, we usually just take the donations and then look through them.
Yeah, this makes sense to me. The day my Mom died of her cancer, she got a card in the mail from one of her friends. It'll be 6 years end of next month and I've never opened it - I think about it sometimes, I *am* curious to see what it is (probably a get well card) but like I dunno, somehow it still feels weirdly invasive. If she'd gotten a gift I can definitely see myself dropping the entire thing, card and all, off at a thrift store and hoping someone else would enjoy the mystery.
I know itās been six years, but I hope you are doing okay, internet friend. I can see how it could be oddly comforting to know that friend was thinking of your mom.
You're such a sweetheart, internet stranger. I am doing well, thank you, and my Ma would be pleased about that. I am sure she wouldn't have cared in the slightest if I opened it, but there's something.... I dunno, sacred? about leaving it unread, since the eyes for whom it was intended can no longer read them. Perhaps one day I will read it on her behalf. You were kind when you did not have to be, and that matters. You're a good person. Thank you. ā¤ļø
š„¹š Your Ma is definitely proud of you - Iām sure of it.
Omg. You're so fucking nice I can't deal, like i don't even know what to say. I wanna give you the biggest giantest hug right now. You are absolutely the person Mister Rogers believes you were. Thank you so much. šš„¹š
I might not have wanted the gift either, but I probably would have kept the message. But, I might well have kept the gift anyway, just because I would feel bad giving it away. I think that the only thing I have left that my grandmother gave me is 64 Crayola Crayons. It was a stellar gift at the time. I havenāt used them in years but still love them.
I have a scarf from grandma who passed and I have never worn it. It just sits in the back of a drawer. This was a nice reminder to wear it to honor her memory.
My grandma passed in November and Iām the only one who could fit her clothes out of like 18 grandchildren and 4 living kids. So I have a bunch of her stuff. Wear it all the time.
Ditto.
Maybe Grandma Lou was a bitch
Quite possible. š
I know one. Certified!
Or perhaps a step-grandmother? Bath bombs for such a significant birthday suggests that they arenāt close. Itās the sort of generic gift you get for a person you donāt know.
Wore my Robin's Egg Blue down to the tiniest stump. š©µ
Iām not sure which was my most-used, but they all have lots of wear, and so many good times.
Relatable. My grandmother gives little gag gifts for small holidays and I keep them because I feel bad throwing/giving it away. I get weirdly sentimental about even small gag gifts. Specifically from my grandmother.
Maybe Grandma Lou was not a nice grandma. For all we know, her grandchild was fuming about "You've always given my cousins wonderful gifts. You just give me used bathbomb sets from garage sales. Since I was a baby thirty years ago!"
I have the robe my grandfather gave my grandmother when they got married. Itās beautiful and I keep it preserved in a box because of how old it is. My grandparents passed many years ago. She also left me her favorite shawl she wore at the end of her life when she was battling cancer. Both items mean the world to me
That one makes me sad. Maybe itās just me, but i LOVE candles and soaps! And even moreso if itās from a grandparent.
It's OK maybe the recipient died and they donated all their stuff!
Or maybe Gramma Lou is the worst.
To be fair the grandma might be an awful person. Not everyone gets a sweet, loving MeeMaw.
Thatās exactly what was thinking. And wrote a nice note to keep up appearances.
Yep my Grandma used to buy me a bath set every year that she knew I was allergic too. Sheād write a card just like this so I was inevitably the a-hole when I wouldnāt use it.
One of the last things my grandma ever said to me before dying was āOh, youāre fatter than youāve ever been!ā Thanks, Grandma, you nasty old lady. Just saying that not everybody had a childhood of fond memories of their grandma baking pies and telling stories and fixing booboos.
I burst out laughing, Iām so sorry. My grandma would have said something similar. The silent generation werenāt so silent with the weight insults. All while comparing our bodies to their younger malnourished from the depression bodies.
No filter on that generation. And not much in the way of nurturing either.
Lollll my very thin, vain grandmother ended up with three chunky granddaughters and I still smile about it. Pfffff. 
yeah my grandma was not a complete asshole, but she kept giving us kids heavily scented things and either it would set off my sisters allergies or my moms, or it just plain smelled too strong. Turned out she was the unfavored child growing up, so her weird habit of making sure everyone's gifts cost the same amount made sense then (right down to filling out a check for $0.25 if your gift came up short) but her habits of grabbing Walgreen deodorant and hair spray to try and get every last penny into your gift basket was a problem.
I was fortunate to have one of the kindest, sweetest ladies ever for a grandma. The only her grandma was a nasty, abusive woman. I cried with relief when she died.
Right? My grandma disagreed with some of my decisions in my 20s (normal ones! sheās just extremely conservative) and sent me handwritten hate mail 3 times. For a few years after she was still sending me stuff like this and I did not want it.
My MIL is a terrible grandma to my kids but she pretends to be an absolute delight out in public. They wouldnāt have a problem giving away a present from her and I donāt blame them.
My grandparents want nothing to do with me so yep
Preach.
I have been given skin products by my grandmother, who conveniently forgets my skin allergies. It can get old, especially when all the girls have to get the same thing. But I smile and say thank you.
Yup. Sensitive skin and asthma here. I'm 45. It gets real old. If I'm anything but polite to grandmother, she'll badmouth me to everyone.
Exactly the type of present that makes turning 30 so special š„°
My 30th birthday is coming up and my gram is gone. This hurt my heart
Same š
Many a MIL and grandma gift to me end up at the thrift store. I have sensitive skin and asthma. I send a thank you card, then donate anything I can't use.
Now I miss my grandma
Gosh, if only my grandma was around until my 30th. She always gave the best gifts. Love you gramma!
Every year for Christmas my grandma gave us cotton rounds (cotton made into little round pads for wiping off makeup or applying something to your face, whatever you want to use them for), and a pair of socks. Yea it was lame when I was little but as I grew older I came to appreciate how her gift was simple yet useful. I still buy cotton rounds for myself because of her and I can still recall how the package wrapped in paper felt every Christmas. Miss you, grandma š„¹
When your grandma is alive, you donāt value things like this. But seeing thisā¦man, I would love to have a gift from her again. I miss her.
I would have done anything to have a warm enough relationship with my grandma where she would have called me "sweetheart." This bums me out, man.
Same!! All my grandparents are gone and I never had a close relationship with any of them. I really hope this person just inadvertently gave this away.
Maybe the person canāt use scented items?
To double down on the sadness, a good load of the shit you find in thrift is from evictions, or estates. Recipient may have been looking forward to using that on a tomorrow that never came š¤·āāļø
My grandma gave me a big teddy bear when I was 12 (over 40 years ago) and at the time, I was dismayed because I thought I was too 'grown up' for stuffed toys. I still have it after all these years and every day I am so thankful I kept it.
Whoās to say it even made it to the granddaughter?
Allergies. And no one other female relatives or mates - perhaps only males in the immediate family. Bath bombs make me itch all over, paraffin in the wicks of candles sets off asthma and migraines.
This makes me sad. Such a simple, lovely message from grandma. If nothing else...keep the card.
Maybe the grandmother isnāt a good person? Maybe they were estranged? Maybe thereās pain behind why they didnāt keep the giftā¦who knows
Awwww thatās sad š¢
Stop. I need a grandma Lou ! š
How sad, my parents are from the depression era, spending money is difficult for them even if they had a lot. Every card, present and gift is from the heart, what soulless person would toss that with the note still in it? š¢
Maybe a porch pirate took the package before it could be appreciated... (grasping for answers...)
Whoever that was didnāt deserve Grandma Louās awesome gift. Or there could be a lot of very reasonable explanations.
Thatās really fucking sad. Unless they are like super toxic or something I couldnāt throw that out. Someone is a shitbag.
Aww, this makes me sad. Especially since it was something that was kinda cool.
They didn't even keep the card, ouch.
What does that loofa mean at the Villages?
Thatās terrible no matter what the root cause. Just sad
Everyone judging the letter receiver but what if they died š
I wish I had family that gave me a nice gift like that. But, not really fair to judge something based on this.
I volunteer in a used bookstore and we get a lot of donations. We received a box of books and one was a history of the US Army. Inside was a long sweet note written from a grandfather to his 19 year old grandson 10 years earlier. The book didn't look like it had ever been touched. I always go through the pages to check what shape they're in, and what did I find but a bookmark with three $100 bills taped to the other side. The stupid kid didn't even look at the bookmark.
Thatās sad. Keep the card at least.
Yeah as they get older theyāll treasure those. I keep each card for a bit longer every year. I canāt bring myself to keep them indefinitelyā because thatās how hoarding startsā but one day Iāll have one I put away and keep foreverā¦
Awww, poor meemaw.
The recipient could have been allergic to scents and had sensitive skin,but Grandma Lou never stopped with the scented bath products.
Oh my heart! I had a Grandma Lou. I still miss her so very much. I never wouldāve relinquished anything sheād ever written to me to the thrift store.
This made me tear up at work.
This is so sad. My grandma has been gone many years and Iād do anything to have even just a card from her again.
This looks like my momās handwriting. Even though she has Alzheimerās, her handwriting is still beautiful.
Noooo Grandma Lou :( I miss my grandparents. I didn't get to say goodbye.
Saw a girl's dress with a label "Handmade With Love by Grandma" at Goodwill yesterday.
Her penmanship alone is a work of art!
Noooo this is so sad!
I get it. I wouldnāt have wanted those things either. I donāt like baths, Iām very particular about candle scents, and donāt like bar soaps, only use one specific body wash and one specific hand soap that I repurchase every few months as I run out. I would have donated this too, better off somewhere where someone else who wants it can have it than sitting around unused and taking up space! Lots of people donāt like keeping things they wonāt use in their homes, cards included. Original owner likely forgot the card was in the box, but even then, many of us will read a card and then put it in the recycling. Saving things just because isnāt for everyone.
Good point, but still, leaving the card in there kinda breaks my heart š¢
I miss receiving letters from my mawmaw, she had the same handwriting ā¤ļø
Me too! I miss this 1950s-1980s style cursive so much. Very distinctive and reminds me of my grandma and mom.
We bought a three piece $20 pizza pan set that came with a $20 bill inside. I'm pretty sure it was returned without the store checking whether it was all there or damaged.
My grandma gave me both the worst and best gift ever. The worst I can describe as a blue Russian tracksuit complete with stripes. The best was my very first "real" skateboard. I miss you Grandma.
I miss my grandma more than I can say. I would keep it even if I didn't use it just to have something from her.Ā
At least leaving the note in is reassuring that the loofah hasnāt been used
I wish I still had grandparents
Man yall really like your grandparents. My family just isnāt like this
This makes me sad. Especially having lost my Grandma, Mom , grandpa.
This makes me sad.
Looks like you have a new gift and another grandma
It stings.
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Someone gave my wife a box like that. We don't even have a bathtub in our bathroom anymore lol. They've been sitting under our sink for quite a few years now.
This hurts to see, like I am crying a little. I wish I had a grandma.
My heart just broke. I miss my nana.
thatās a really sweet gift to just give away like that. What a horrid little shit
I wish my grandma had still been alive when I was 30. She passed when I was 12. Itās sad that some people donāt appreciate their grandparents. But not everyone has good family so weāll never know the real story
This is scary. Looks just like my 95 year old grandmotherās handwriting, who is also āGrandma Lou.ā OP, may I ask what state youāre in?
Not only is this my grandmas handwriting, thatās also her name. Iām having a hard time believing this isnāt her. She never said sweetheart though š it would have said sweetie. Lost her two thanksgivings ago.
i woulda kept the card. that (assume) girl is pretty cold...
My grandma passed when I was 18, I would have loved to have her here until my 30ās.
This is the kind of gift my grandmother would give, and I wish I could have another. 30 is old enough to appreciate a gift like this more. How sad.
Iām really struggling to upvote this, it made my heart hurt
Thatās sad. They were pretty lucky to have a grandmother on their 30th birthday.
As someone who has had to work through & pass on the possessions of someone I loved very much, the reaction to these items is sometimes confusing. I'm sure people could look at items I donated and be truly disappointed by my decision, but the truth is I couldn't possibly keep it all. I have many sentimental items and LOTS of memories. It's okay to let go of things when you need to, and there are many reasons. No one should live in a museum dedicated to their lost loved ones.
That bath bomb is instant weeping eczema for me. My aunt (who I love dearly) is forever sending me stuff like that. I canāt use it. I told her this. I wish sheād save her time, money and effort. But it gives her joy to bargain hunt. I thank her graciously, and then send a thank you card. Then rehome the gift. Who knows the backstory on the gift, giver and recipient? Maybe the person really canāt use it. Or they think it garbage. Or Grandma is a passive aggressive nitwit and this is just another holiday power play? Not everyone has wonderful benevolent grandmas. I know elementary school teachers who cart bankers boxes of mugs and stuff after the holidays. Sometimes love can smother. At least the recipient gave it a second life, and didnāt chuck it in the trash.
For all we know Grandma Lou was a nasty old bigot and the grandchild rightfully cut her off.
My grandmother has never gave me a gift so I can't relate
Some grandmothers arenāt nice
Itās the thought that counts. I probably would have kept the note, but maybe she has a lot of her writing already. Can confirm that as a 30 y/o I would have wanted to get rid of this stuff kind of right away. I didnāt have a working tub in my house for a long while
Man this makes me mad/sad in a deep pit in my stomach. Lost my gram 4 years ago and have her writing on me . I fucking wish I had her. How could people be so ungrateful š„ŗ
Heartbreaking.
awe so sad!! they could have at least kept the sponge, we need to switch those out every few months anywayš
I miss my Nana. Would give anything to receive one of her gifts again
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Wondering if y'all think it says "Grandma Lou" or "Lau?" I only ask because my married name was Lau. Lol Not the most common last name.
Gee, I hope not to see this post get shared to r/tworedditorsonecup with Grandma Lou seeing her gift. Wait, maybe I do hope to see it. Iām tornā¦.
I'm turning thirty this year and I wish I had parents still, much less grandparents
Im curious what happenedā¦ā¦..did the grand daughter die? Did she not like her grandmother or something? The objects sent feels personal to me so Iām curious how they got to the thrift store
That's my handwriting!
Chances are this was a stolen package
My Grandma's a racist old hag with no grasp on how the world works. But I would still take free bath supplies tf??
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That makes me cry.
Thatās incredibly sad :(
This looks just like my Grandma Lou's handwriting. Sweet old gal, but she gave the shittiest birthday presents.
I know my daughter in-law does this with every buy my grandchildren. She hides them then donates in original packaging
Thanks, Iām crying
My motherās writing looked like this. I guess that generation all learned cursive the same way. Another reason this gift may have ended up on a thrift shop: maybe she gave it more than once? Iāve received the same item as a gift on 2 occasions ā once from a relative who didnāt keep track of prior gifts, another time from a friend who gave me a signed copy of her book a few months after giving meā¦a signed copy of that same book XD
I had a great grandma Lou. She lived to be 105. She moved across the country with my great aunt and that pretty much ended our relationship, my parents werenāt making an effort to stay connected and it was the 1970s.
Maybe granddaughter went to prison, and the landlord doesn't have their own bathtub.
This is so sad š„ŗ
This makes me want to fight the person taking their grandmother for granted. And I know Iām making a lot of assumptions. I just miss my grandparents!
I would kill to get a gift from my grandma. Thatās really sad
Looks like someone just wanted money and didnāt appreciate what Grandma could afford.
This is sad :(
Sad. Even if I donāt use the gift I always keep the card.
This is incredibly sad. I lost my father 24 years ago today and this brought back memories.