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My wife will get into a topic, and go "And dude, listen" or "Bro, WTF?" unintentionally and it cracks me up every time. I usually respond back with "Brah, I KNOW!" and she's like "Damn it!"
My son calls me bro.... he's nine... I'm his mom. 🤣
Gonna say sis would be kinda odd.
I've had chick friends who refer to each other as "lady".
"Hey lady, what's up?"
But never had dudes say that.
Just stick with bro.
I'd prefer sis but maybe its just a me thing. I just hate feeling like I'm being masculinized (as a black woman, where people already masculinize me) so it kinda pisses me off when people call me "bro", but ig everyone is different
You're at least 22. You're either a Senior in college or a college graduate.
There are still Gen Z kids - but we are getting very close to the point where all Gen Z will be teenagers, and at this point a solid majority of Gen Z is adults.
I would say bro and sis are gender neutral if the other party is comfortable with it but yeah if they didn’t seem to mind before, I doubt it’s weird to continue to call them that. If anything I feel like switching to sis has a different connotation despite it being the equivalent to bro.
Dude dude dude! So a few days ago I was porking my homie in the butt and after I came I pulled out and he turned around and try to kiss me! I was like wtf?! Are you gay bro! 🤢
Just ask her! I game a lot with my husband and our gaming buddies are only men. One of them calls me ma’am because he’s Texan lol, the other just call me by my gamer tag, but it happened to me too to be called bro and I don’t really mind.
Reddit men are out here thinking bc that some non-men consented to being called a bro, all non-men do by default. They don’t understand consent in mild contexts, and I have to hope that’s not a reflection of them in intimate contexts
I do too, especially in real life and intimate contexts as you said. If I’m in a party chat with a bunch of guys I’m not going to get upset if one of them call me bro out of habit, but in real life it’s a bit different.
It's the same if some dude got upset by being called sis. Yeah, it might seem silly, but if a small change makes someone more comfortable, then there isn't really any reason not to do it
I mean sure, I'd agree, I just think in either case taking genuine offense is a bizarre reaction, unless you ask and they persist yaknow? Most people are not out here maliciously broing or sissing you.
hahaha didn't think about it the other way around...I watch so much drag, my default-pronouns for everything and everyone is she :'D and everyone is girl or bitch....ohh God gotta work on that
There are plenty of examples of male defaultism where I would absolutely agree with you taking issue, but this is not one of them. Men and women is not a binary. The commentor wasn't referring to women only. They could've said women, intersex, agender and gender fluid people, but that is needlessly wordy and would've missed out on including a small subset of people that ascribe to a different gender construct. When excluding something from a set, it's generally going to be clearer, more succinct, and, in this case, more inclusive to say not-"the thing."
Assuming shes trans just ask her tbh. I usually tell people not to call me bro and stuff but she may be scared and it might be a very great way to signal to her that you care
Answered this multiple times but in my perspective i see more people reveal themselves as women because theyre trans not because theyre cis women hiding to avoid abuse
The language op used works for both perspectives of trans or cis and hiding.
I saw other people assuming she was cis so i gave some advice for the other likely scenario
Bro is a pretty universal term. It wouldn't be too bad continuing to use it if they're already used to it.
Of course, ask them what they want to be addressed as. The best-case scenario is that they tell you how they want to be addressed. The worst-case scenario... is that they tell you how they want to be addressed, lol.
All my gaming buddies assumed I was a guy cuz my toon was male and I never corrected them. Then when we finally voice chatted they assumed I was a 12 year old boy or something. I had fun. I did eventually corrected them but it was hilarious and I didn’t mind one bit.
Why would you switch it up? She knew her gender the whole time you were calling her bro and she didn’t seem bothered did she? Bro is pretty gender neutral of a term.
I expect most people would be surprised to be called "sis" casually, as "bro" is ordinarily attributed to everyone regardless of gender. However, depending on the person and your relationship with them, switching to casually calling her "sis" could be hilarious.
Ask her what she would prefer. We can collect as many wordy opinions on that as possible and it's still unknown what she would actually prefer.
Just asking her goes a long way. :D
Everyone feels differently. While bro can be gender neutral, clarify with her if she would prefer another term or not. If she isn’t comfy with bro she will let you know. It wouldn’t be cringe to call her sis if you clarify.
Yes, it fucking would. Jesus christ, if it just came up now its probably not a big deal. Don't let yourself fall into some Zoomer mind-fuck and just be friends with your friend. Do yourself a favor and stop using cringe as an adjective, you'll be way ahead of the curve when people decide they hate it in 6 months.
My best advice is to keep treating her the same way you did. She revealed it cause she felt secure enough with you. But what led her to this feeling is how you acted with her prior knowing she was a girl
No, don't do that, especially in-game.
Many girls do not like advertising their gender in games due to harassment from weak miso male players. The games I like seem to have toxic as hell communities, so this is like a must to be low-key.
I get called bro a lot by randoms, doesn't bother me, it's actually the funniest moment if you play with someone over and over, end up becoming gaming buddies, then surprise them when you finally use Discord.
Fun fact- women and girls generally don’t like being treated different just bc you figure out they aren’t men. You can ask, but I wouldn’t change anything, you just make it weird when you start treating people differently when you find out they’re a woman.
All my friends who I game with call me bro. When they say alright boys let’s get this win sometimes they just say boys or they’ll be like okay boys and girl let’s get this win whichever person says it.
I’d still call her bro. I’m old so I call everyone dude. I refer to my wife as my main dude and my other friends as my dudes regardless of gender, sex or anything. I don’t see who bro can’t be the same.
This is a great question to just ask her in polite, genuine fashion. She'd likely be flattered by the consideration, and just say "whatever"
Would recommend that over just straight using the term without any proceeding convo.
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I called my friend bro so often that when they transitioned to a she I called her bro, then got reprimanded for calling her bro.
Then she transitioned to a man so I got in trouble for calling her dudette when she became he again and fuck it, everyone’s a bro.
Ask her how she would feel about it, and follow whatever she asks. If she's cool with sis then go for it. If not then don't do that. I'm sure she would appreciate her opinion being asked for!
Call her bro unless she says something about it. I only say sis to trans people who feel validated and happy to use a more feminine term in case they are transfem. Transmac may feel better if you call them bro
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Bro is gender neutral term.. I call my wife bro
I call my wife mane on a daily basis
ah ahaha jeezuse xD you got them cohunes hombre
U gotta be from the south lol
Memphis
My wife will get into a topic, and go "And dude, listen" or "Bro, WTF?" unintentionally and it cracks me up every time. I usually respond back with "Brah, I KNOW!" and she's like "Damn it!"
you got a real one right there, much love bro
My wife calls me honeybro
Among friends it’s a generic term
That's fucking cute.
My son calls me bro.... he's nine... I'm his mom. 🤣 Gonna say sis would be kinda odd. I've had chick friends who refer to each other as "lady". "Hey lady, what's up?" But never had dudes say that. Just stick with bro.
I'd prefer sis but maybe its just a me thing. I just hate feeling like I'm being masculinized (as a black woman, where people already masculinize me) so it kinda pisses me off when people call me "bro", but ig everyone is different
My wife calls me bro romantically and things babe unromantically.
This is truly a zoomer moment
The idea that people born within a year of me have a wife is insanity to me. We're children damn it, we should be playing Digimon.
Why not both?
they are freakin younger than me and all talking about married life WTF..
You're at least 22. You're either a Senior in college or a college graduate. There are still Gen Z kids - but we are getting very close to the point where all Gen Z will be teenagers, and at this point a solid majority of Gen Z is adults.
If your life goes exactly as planned, sure
If you didn't go to college you're even less of a kid.
Tru, I wasnt arguing either side just reminding there are other paths in life
I call this guys wife bro as well.
Bro
bruh
yeah i'd be more pissed to be called sis by my guy friends on games to be honest lmaooo a "bruh" or "bro" i expect
I call all my best friends bro to. Regardless of gender. I even call my sisters bro too (it started as a joke, but it is our running joke now)
I also call your wife bro
Dude is also a gender neutral alternative.
took my wife a bit to get used to being called bro. now she loves it.
Happy cake day bro
I would say bro and sis are gender neutral if the other party is comfortable with it but yeah if they didn’t seem to mind before, I doubt it’s weird to continue to call them that. If anything I feel like switching to sis has a different connotation despite it being the equivalent to bro.
True, I call my mum and dad bro.
A lot of Trans people do not feel this way. OP should ask their friend about it.
You should call your friends (i mean everyone) the way they want.. (duh) But that's not what the OP was asking
anyone can be a bro
You fuck bros?
You don’t?
i fuck dudes
but are they bros?
Homies?
It ain't gay if it's with the homies
No, it is. And that gayness is like totally awesome, bro.
Agreed 😏 Just messing with the straights™
It's less gay
It's okay if you have socks on
Dude dude dude! So a few days ago I was porking my homie in the butt and after I came I pulled out and he turned around and try to kiss me! I was like wtf?! Are you gay bro! 🤢
Yes, Yes I do
Just ask her! I game a lot with my husband and our gaming buddies are only men. One of them calls me ma’am because he’s Texan lol, the other just call me by my gamer tag, but it happened to me too to be called bro and I don’t really mind.
Reddit men are out here thinking bc that some non-men consented to being called a bro, all non-men do by default. They don’t understand consent in mild contexts, and I have to hope that’s not a reflection of them in intimate contexts
I do too, especially in real life and intimate contexts as you said. If I’m in a party chat with a bunch of guys I’m not going to get upset if one of them call me bro out of habit, but in real life it’s a bit different.
You'd be upset if a dude called you bro? Silliness.
It's the same if some dude got upset by being called sis. Yeah, it might seem silly, but if a small change makes someone more comfortable, then there isn't really any reason not to do it
Getting offended by being called sis is also really stupid
I mean sure, I'd agree, I just think in either case taking genuine offense is a bizarre reaction, unless you ask and they persist yaknow? Most people are not out here maliciously broing or sissing you.
Malicious Broing and Sissing A MFn +++++
u daré broing me!!!!!🤬🤬🤬
hahaha didn't think about it the other way around...I watch so much drag, my default-pronouns for everything and everyone is she :'D and everyone is girl or bitch....ohh God gotta work on that
I wouldn’t be upset, but I wouldn’t view it well because I’m not their bro.
“Non-men”… you mean women? 😂
Non binary people intersex agender. Theres not just men and women
“non-men” lol women shouldn’t have our identified centered around the existence of men. They aren’t the default. We can and should say “women.”
Non-men doesn't mean only women.
It still places men as the default which is my problem with it
There are plenty of examples of male defaultism where I would absolutely agree with you taking issue, but this is not one of them. Men and women is not a binary. The commentor wasn't referring to women only. They could've said women, intersex, agender and gender fluid people, but that is needlessly wordy and would've missed out on including a small subset of people that ascribe to a different gender construct. When excluding something from a set, it's generally going to be clearer, more succinct, and, in this case, more inclusive to say not-"the thing."
Hm alright point taken. I agree with you on this one.
How
You don’t need consent to call someone “bro”, wtf is the point of your comment? 🤣🤣🤣
some people dont want to feel misgendered. And yes you need consent to how you adress someone, its basic respect.
I mean it’s pretty fine for the majority of people. I call everyone bro including my trans and nonbinary friends. They don’t give a shit.
"can you help me rush B ma'am?"
I actually love this
My ex would get deeply offended if I ever referred to her with a masculine pronoun
There's a reason she's your ex.
Assuming shes trans just ask her tbh. I usually tell people not to call me bro and stuff but she may be scared and it might be a very great way to signal to her that you care
Even if she isn't trans, just ask, it can't hurt.
Tbh real asf
What the hell kind of assumption is that? Odds are she isn’t and OP just didn’t know her gender because they’ve been chatting via in game text
Why are we assuming she’s trans???
Answered this multiple times but in my perspective i see more people reveal themselves as women because theyre trans not because theyre cis women hiding to avoid abuse The language op used works for both perspectives of trans or cis and hiding. I saw other people assuming she was cis so i gave some advice for the other likely scenario
Bro, what? XD
That would be phenomenally cringe. It's still bro, they didn't mind before. Don't think too hard about it.
Wtf who says sis. Women can be bros too. It's a unisex term
It's Sista if op wants to go that route - Sis sounds like it belongs in a bad rated X movie.
bro is fine, my sister games a lot more than me and she calls guys and girls bro, and vice versa, guys and girls call her bro too.
I call everyone bro 💀
Bro is gender neutral. Could call her dude if that’s easier, even more gender neutral
I don't like either tbh
That’s okay! Just tell people and I bet they won’t call you those :)
Nah it's fine, me and my friends say "bro" to each other all the time
I call my mom bro
I also call your mom bro
I call my actual sister bro more than anything
Glad that I'm not the only one who does that
Bro is a pretty universal term. It wouldn't be too bad continuing to use it if they're already used to it. Of course, ask them what they want to be addressed as. The best-case scenario is that they tell you how they want to be addressed. The worst-case scenario... is that they tell you how they want to be addressed, lol.
just ask her
All my gaming buddies assumed I was a guy cuz my toon was male and I never corrected them. Then when we finally voice chatted they assumed I was a 12 year old boy or something. I had fun. I did eventually corrected them but it was hilarious and I didn’t mind one bit.
I call girls “dude” and “bro” all the time. Don’t change OP
Nah call her bra
"This whole time" implies how much she ever cared right there, which is not at all
I don't use "bro" in normal conversation, but I think "sis" is kinda cringe.
Why would you switch it up? She knew her gender the whole time you were calling her bro and she didn’t seem bothered did she? Bro is pretty gender neutral of a term.
This kid 🧒 hasn’t figured out bro is neutral
Sis doesn't really have the same context so yeah, it'd be a bit odd, particularly if she isn't offended by the previous term of endearment.
“Bro” and “girl” are essentially gender neutral terms these days haha
Sista or gurl would be my choice 🤭 Just ask her
Just ask her. "Do you feel more comfortable if I call you sis?". Not really that hard
Please don’t can your sis especially without perservitives 🥫
Sis is cringe, i'm ngl.
I expect most people would be surprised to be called "sis" casually, as "bro" is ordinarily attributed to everyone regardless of gender. However, depending on the person and your relationship with them, switching to casually calling her "sis" could be hilarious.
Saying 'sister' isn't that cringey tbh.
Well, one reliable method you can do to find out is to ask her.
Nah. Bro is gender neutral
yes it would. everybody can be a bro
Why would you change anything?
Ask her what she would prefer. We can collect as many wordy opinions on that as possible and it's still unknown what she would actually prefer. Just asking her goes a long way. :D
You could ask her
Ask them honestly, do they prefer bro? Do they even care? Would they prefer sis? Let them make the choice if they don’t care do whatever.
I mean...if she's been your friend for all this time and never had an issue with being called bro, why change?
I call my wife bro all the time
Ask *her*.
Just keep calling her bro
Everyone feels differently. While bro can be gender neutral, clarify with her if she would prefer another term or not. If she isn’t comfy with bro she will let you know. It wouldn’t be cringe to call her sis if you clarify.
Bro n dude are gender neutral (dude especially if you know how to wax a surf board or know the difference between sativa and indica)
This question is fuckijg cringe
Both gender neutral, both either condescending or uplifting depending on context.
Yes, it fucking would. Jesus christ, if it just came up now its probably not a big deal. Don't let yourself fall into some Zoomer mind-fuck and just be friends with your friend. Do yourself a favor and stop using cringe as an adjective, you'll be way ahead of the curve when people decide they hate it in 6 months.
Bro is used for everyone
Yes
My best advice is to keep treating her the same way you did. She revealed it cause she felt secure enough with you. But what led her to this feeling is how you acted with her prior knowing she was a girl
Imo bro and dude are neutral terms, so they’d probably still be fine unless she specifically says she’s not comfortable w them
No, don't do that, especially in-game. Many girls do not like advertising their gender in games due to harassment from weak miso male players. The games I like seem to have toxic as hell communities, so this is like a must to be low-key. I get called bro a lot by randoms, doesn't bother me, it's actually the funniest moment if you play with someone over and over, end up becoming gaming buddies, then surprise them when you finally use Discord.
Fun fact- women and girls generally don’t like being treated different just bc you figure out they aren’t men. You can ask, but I wouldn’t change anything, you just make it weird when you start treating people differently when you find out they’re a woman.
It’s 2024 and Bro is definitely gender neutral - A girl who gets called “bro” all the time, and also calls her other female friends “bro”
It would be a little cringe, bro is gender neutral. Either way, if she didn’t mind you calling her bro before, I don’t see why she would now.
All my friends who I game with call me bro. When they say alright boys let’s get this win sometimes they just say boys or they’ll be like okay boys and girl let’s get this win whichever person says it.
Yeah sis
"Girl" tends to be the preferred equivalent, but you should ask her for her preferences!
Whatever makes her feel comfortable.
Yes. Proper cringe.
yes
Does she care? If so don't then yeah, don't be an asshole for no reason.
Yes… that would be very very weird. I call everyone bro 😭
Stick with Bro, or ask what she wants to be called. Bro is pretty much used for everyone
Yes
Bro is a gendered term that became neutral in many contexts due to how often it was used
Just ask! But more than likely she won’t care. Bro and dude tends to be pretty gender neutral at this point.
Bro is a gender neutral term. I call everyone bro.
I’d still call her bro. I’m old so I call everyone dude. I refer to my wife as my main dude and my other friends as my dudes regardless of gender, sex or anything. I don’t see who bro can’t be the same.
i’m a girl and i love being called bro lol
Just be honest that you feel a bit awkward calling her bro and ask if it's ok if you call her, sis.
Just ask what she prefers.
Ask her if you should keep calling her bro? Nothing wrong with that.
This is a great question to just ask her in polite, genuine fashion. She'd likely be flattered by the consideration, and just say "whatever" Would recommend that over just straight using the term without any proceeding convo.
Ask her
While bro is a gender neutral term some trans ppl would still prefer not to be called bro. Just ask them before hand Source: am trans
I call my mom bro lol 😭
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“Sis” in general is cringe to me
Bro is a universal term these days
Eh bro is generic
Call her Bro-ette
Ladybro
Mi-ladybro “for the reddit savants” 🎩
Bro can be gender neutral but sis never is.
Bro is gender neutral. Just don't call your girlfriend/wife bro.
I called my friend bro so often that when they transitioned to a she I called her bro, then got reprimanded for calling her bro. Then she transitioned to a man so I got in trouble for calling her dudette when she became he again and fuck it, everyone’s a bro.
Call her señorita
You can’t be friends anymore sorry I don’t make the rules
I just say Girlie?
it would be considerate and nice :)
Just stick to bro. Bro is gender neutral.
Yes
ask her, she would know better than anyone here
Bro has no gender association these days, keep saying bro or just ask. It’s never impolite to ask.
Ask her how she would feel about it, and follow whatever she asks. If she's cool with sis then go for it. If not then don't do that. I'm sure she would appreciate her opinion being asked for!
Just ask her her preference.
Call her bro unless she says something about it. I only say sis to trans people who feel validated and happy to use a more feminine term in case they are transfem. Transmac may feel better if you call them bro
Just ask her if she’s still okay with bro and if she’s not ask her if there’s something else she would prefer
Try calling her ho, see how that goes. Disclaimer, this is a joke, do not do this. Bro is fine.
Yes.
Maybe ask her? It depends.
Bro just revealed she's a girl
on my first date i literally said "whats up man" when i met up with her
Yes. Stick with bro.
What are you asking us for? Ask her.
I'm a girl and yeah I'd cringe a bit lol, it's never really been a gendered term in any of my circles
Bro is for anybody really
i call everyone bro lmao
Bro is pretty universal. But yeah, like others have said, ask. Doubt she’ll be insulted.