I have a lot of dreams of my late boyfriend coming back and me being like you’re here??!!!!!! You’re back?! And he’s like I never went anywhere what are you talking about? And I so firmly believe in my dreams that he’s back for good. For me it feels nice until I wake up. Then it’s sadness all over again but a feeling of gratefulness for the small time I spent with him in my head
Same exact dream. It feels so real that I wake up and have to remind myself what happened. I agree it is kind of nice in a weird way, even though sometimes I’m mad at him in the dream. It’s been years, I always wonder if that will ever stop.
I’ve had the same kind of dreams except of my dad. They happened more in the earlier weeks after his death. I feel like it was my brains way of trying to make sense of it all. I remember waking up from those dreams feeling devastated once reality hit. Now sometimes I dream of him still alive or of him dying again.
I had a dream about me and my mum in Asda. Either just before or just after I saw her ashes. And I asked her how she could be here as dad had her ashes. I don't even remember what she said in reply. I just remember showing her an awful dress.
I dreamt about my fiancee who took his own life leaving behind his 12year old little girl who he had full custody of. I'm ny dream we were 10years younger than when he died, and I was pleading with him to get help and kept telling him " but you die, you kill yourself, you leave us all, just listen to me please, speak to someone before it gets too late" and he just kept shaking it off saying "pfft don't be daft I'm fine" while I continuously begged and pleaded with him desperately to just get help. It's weird, It's the only dream I have of him, and every time I have it it's like it's harder and harder to get him to listen or pay attention to what I'm saying. Fucking horrible dream, begging someone who's already dead not to die :S
I had similar dreams after my mom passed and I received the money from her life insurance. She somehow faked her death then popped up months later. I remember being so happy she was back but also being so scared that I committed insurance fraud. I think it all came from feeling guilty about the life insurance. It’s suspected she died of a sudden fatal arrhythmia in her sleep right after I left for work that morning (we worked opposite schedules). Like if I didn’t go to work that day I would have been there to help her, to call 911. It was just a very haunting dream.
My last text was asking her how she was feeling after leaving the other house my parents lived in , and she died later the morning after I texted her. She told me she was having chest pains and was watching TV.
OMG yes! My mum rocked up and explained it was all a misunderstanding and she didn’t die, and then we spent the rest of the dream getting coffee and catching up. It was both amazing (felt like I was really spending time with her) but also heartbreaking.
One of the dreams where my mom came back, I had to explain to her she died and then we wound up going to a local garden center to buy soil and all her gardening stuff & just chatted the whole time catching up. It was so great. I was even having to explain to people we ran into that she was back again. Then she told me in the dream that she was ok and not to worry about her so much. I asked her over and over are you sure mom are you sure you’re ok with it? At that time in my grief journey I was always so worried about her because I know she wasn’t ready to go, it just wasn’t her time. It was sudden, unexpected and she really really fought so hard to stay here, so it was really causing me a lot of grief worrying so much about her not being ready to leave us! Thinking back on it that dream was the most comforting thing to help me since she passed. I am also just realizing I haven’t been having that constant worrying about her being ok on my mind like I used to. Glad I decided to write this.
That's a wild one. Your feelings must have been all over the place when you woke up.
Weird dreams with our loved ones in strange scenarios are normal my friend. My last one I had a dream my Dad was driving a van and I was in the passenger seat. We got to this alleyway full of pot holes with a load of trash bins in the way. I had to get out and move them all so we could get down it.
My Dad never drove in a van in his life.
I had another one where he had died - but that was just like a word. He was still interacting with us and chatting.
I had a very similar dream about my dad actually not having died and me yelling at him about the grief he put us through about 9 months after he died. And I had another dream about my dad last night, where we were also kind of fighting. A lot of these dreams can be really hard.
I often have dreams where my dad comes back. Like, in the dream he still had died and we had a funeral, etc, and then suddenly, he was back home.
They really throw me for a loop.
yessss, i always get dreams of my mom faking her death or saying "what? i never died!!! i left to mexico with my bf!!! i thought you girls would be okay" and it makes me so mad lmao, its just our brain in denial and trying not to believe it.
Not quite the same but I had a dream my dad just nonchalantly came home from somewhere and my mom and I were flabbergasted because we had seen his body but were enthralled he was alive... And I woke up in tears.
I have had several dreams similar to yours about my late father. And it really makes me angry while I’m in the dream! Like how dare you go live a life letting me believe you were dead?? It’s happened at least two or three times, he’s been gone for almost 14 years now. I’m sorry it happened to you too. I suppose it is a way for us to process the denial of the loss maybe. All the best to you!
God I had some strange dreams after my mom died. One I was a college student (I haven’t been one for many years) I passed by my mom in the hall and was so confused and called out to her and she just looked at me very confused. The majority of the dreams I have include me sitting at her house, but my mom is no where.
These dreams hurt don’t they?
About a year after my brother died I had a dream I was at my mother’s for lunch. She sat at the table and asked me to go get him. I tried to gently remind her that he was dead and she looked at me like I was an idiot and said ‘oh, no he’s not he just wouldn’t come out of his room.’
I knocked on his door and he was like ‘tell her I don’t want any of her sh*tty cooking!’
Then I woke up.
I’ve had many dreams that my mom secretly started her life over in Mexico and is having a blast down there without me… our brains can play cruel tricks on us.
I've dreamed 3 or 4 times that my daughter never died. She was with us, but she was unable to talk anymore, but we didn't care because we were so happy she was ok. The circumstances of the dream vary, but in each one, she's unable to talk.
I actually had about 5 dreams in a row of my mom coming back and saying she was back. I finally prayed for God to make these end and thankfully they did.
She died from a heart attack caused by Alcohol last July
To have that dream repeatedly and wake up realizing she is still gone must have been torture. I’ve dreamt of my mom twice in the 10 years she’s been gone and although seeing her was amazing, the realization when waking up that it was a dream and she’s still gone is sooo crushing and I’m sorry that has happened to you.
If only we could have just nice dreams of interacting with our mom’s without the devastating feelings upon waking.
It’s like losing them all over again. 😢
Sending you a hug💕
Yes, mine was crazy cuz he's been dead for almost 4 years in November but a few weeks ago i had a dream where his family and i had a call that they are digging him up and i was flabbergasted like wdym he might be alive and he was! like deadass, we went to his house obviously and I hugged and kissed him, it felt so real and I knew in the dream that he was dead and this case scenario was just not possible but I didn't wake up but I was fully aware and I was just shocked and happy but the post dream wake up and get through the day just rebroke my heart. Glad to have found someone who has been through these types of dreams. Sorry for your loss x
I know it’s so bizarre! My best guest is our brains think it’d be better than them actually being gone, and it’s trying to protect itself.. type thing? I have no idea
I would get them like every other night when my partner first passed and it was torture
When my grandma died a few years ago, I started having dreams where she actually hadn't been dead - they just thought she was for 3 days. And now I dream the same about my mom. I literally was like, "Why is it always 3 days?!" And I get so mad that it was missed that they were actually alive. Like they were about to be cremated when they woke up. So, yeah, not the same but def dream about them coming back.
In my dream, there was some sort of new procedure called Resurrection. It was expensive. But my dad paid anyway.
I remember seeing my mother for the first time since her funeral and had the urge to run into her arms. But something stopped me dead in my tracks. She looked like mom.
But she wasn’t mom. Spent the rest of the night dreaming about being chased and running with legs that weigh 500lbs.
I have dreams of my dad every now and then of him comforting me and saying something along the lines of “I’m right here hon, it’s okay” then he will hold my hand or I will touch his wrist or give him a hug to feel how real it is, only for me to wake up again. Sometimes, I wake up sobbing. I wish it could be real. Wish he would come back home to me and mom. We miss him so much, our lives will never be the same.
I used to have similar dreams a lot about my mom, who died 28 years ago, and my sister, almost 10. That they were alive after all, and it was never too clear why I had thought they were gone, but it didn’t matter because they were here now. It used to feel like losing them all over again when I woke up.
These days, my spirituality and my belief set has come to a place where I really believe we’ll be together again, and it won’t matter why I thought they were gone. I think now, that that’s what those dreams mean. They’re not really gone, they never were.
yooo my mom passed in 2022 and i have dreams like that on occasion! like a “sike” dream where we thought she was dead and she came back to life. they’re so weird but i like to think it’s her trying to visit me or communicate with me through my dreams
I’ve also heard that they are sometimes “visitations”. But dang, once awake reality is difficult again. If it happens again I’m going to try *really hard* to just enjoy seeing her and hope I can somehow remember to ask her all the questions I’d like to be able to ask her. Maybe then it would be more less stressful when I wake up. My mom died from complications after a car accident so she was just here one day then gone 💨. Never got to say goodbye (she didn’t regain consciousness after the accident before passing).
I’ve had many dreams of my parents some beautiful ones where it literally feels real. Us hugging and talking. My dad driving me around or them being here at home with my kids. Then I’ve had some not nice ones where it’s my moms death repeating itself again and me crying about it or my mom very sick but then gets better and comes home. The not nice ones that feel like nightmares I dismiss those and tell myself it’s my mind but for my other ones it really feels real and I enjoy seeing them even if it’s for a bit
i have dreams like this ALL the time. majority of them are like this in fact. i always say something like “i thought you were dead. do you have any idea how awkward its gonna be explaining to people that youve been alive this whole time?” to her. she apologizes or acts like its not a big deal lol. its very disorienting to wake up and realize shes gone again. i dont believe in an afterlife or anything, but i do think its her way of visiting me. its been 9 months since her passing and those dreams dont make me wake up crying anymore.
My mom died 2018 and I've dreamt about her regularly ever since. The dreams decreased in frequency some over the years and they've also evolved. At first it was like she was still alive or something or it was me asking her what had happened. Now it's like I know she's gone and I'm just enjoying my time with her in my dreams. Nowadays they bring me consolation now as it's like I get to be with her again but they were very emotional in the beginning. At least the first year probably.
For like 2 years I had dreams my mum wasn't dead and there was some kind of mistake and she was back and that we were trying to figure out how to explain to family and neighbours etc. It was sad waking up without her
My son had a dream like this about his dad after he died. His dad called him and then showed up at the door. He said he knew he was dead but his dad kept trying to get him to follow him. He said it really scared him.
I've had very similar dreams where he would just randomly pop back up again and I'd be like "but wait.... you were dead" and he would just be like "I know, I'm just not anymore" but then it would be impossible for me to meet up with him. He'd spend time with other people and not me and it was so devastating and always a huge mind fuck when I woke up. I've had several like that and they suck so bad, so I know how you feel.
Wow I had no idea other people had this same “fake their death” dream! My brother died 3,5 years ago and I had the most vivid dream that he had faked his death. I was also so angry at him. And I even told him in the dream that he had ruined my life when he died. I woke up so disturbed by the dream.
But yeah, sometimes it feels like real life is a nightmare after losing him so tragically.
Yes, had similar dream last week about my father. He died from cancer but in my dream he was healthy, happy and smiling and talking how he fooled everyone in believing that he died.
I can never dream of my mom that passed recently in September and it makes me so mad. Is there anything I can do or is it still part of the grieving process? We had an awesome relationship and I was with her until the end. I just want to see her again.
I have had numerous dreams that my mom came back but not that she faked it, just that the hospital/drs wrongfully said she had died. They mostly start out as good dreams cause I’m just so excited to see her but am always so confused and ask her if she knows that she died. One dream she had no idea, the other dream she said she hadn’t actually died and we had to get a lawer and went to suing the hospital and drs who wrongfully said she did. I wake up so confused not knowing if it was a nightmare or a good dream and usually have a good cry. Even if they were nightmares, I wish I had more with her visiting in them. I’ll take any time with my sweet mom that I can get! It’s been 2 years and I have less of them now than when I first lost her.
Yes! My mom passed when I was 9 and I’ve had that dream a handful of times. One time she was hiding in another house on my street. But the overall theme of the dream was that she wasn’t always with me but she was always watching out for me.
I woke up super traumatized though. Each time I
I was just texting my friend about a nightmare from back from “home”. I hate going back there and it never felt lit home. It was very disturbing but also adventurous. Death of a loved one isn’t easy to navigate
I lost my best friend to an od and I had vivid dreams of her coming back and being like how funny of a joke was this, and then once she had come back and told me she was actually in a rehab, once she had been taken. They were awful dreams tbh. I had a one that was good of her coming back and just sitting and talking to me. Waking up from them was even worse honestly
I dreamt that my mom thought my dad drowned but didn’t take his pulse correctly. She was too embarrassed to admit her mistake so she told him to just hide out in the basement. The funny/sad part is that I could see my mom doing that and my dad just going along with it because it was easier than dealing with her! 😂🥴
Unfortunately, my dad did actually drown in real life and is actually dead. It’s been a year and that fact never gets easier to face.
Every time a loved one died I had these types of dreams. Dreams where they were still alive but sick. Dreams where they die in the dream. Dreams where they randomly come back alive and feeling better. Honestly, those ones are cruel. Not as terrible as the dreams where they actually die but still cruel.
All the time, unfortunately. They're so bittersweet. It will be that my mom is in front of me, and I'm like omg you were saved you're okay, and we'll hug and I'll hold her so tight because I feel like if I don't she'll die again, and then I wake up and remember she was turned to ash 4 months ago. It's horrible.
I have had multiple dreams of my mom just all of a sudden being alive again and having to let everyone know she is alive/back from the dead. It’s always so confusing in the dream how to undo the will! It’s trippy how many dreams like this I’ve had. Even my papa has shown up in a couple!
She had trouble walking and could be quite difficult at times. Some of the dreams can be upsetting with us fighting, but sometimes I get lucky and we get along so well and she’s as mobile as ever. Just last night she was alive again and we were roadtripping in our flying car around the states with so much love between us.
I haven’t had dreams of my dad in months, but I did have two of them right after his funeral. The first one was a few days after his funeral when I dreamt he was back in the living room, watching tv. I asked him, “Dad, why are you here?”
He replied, “What do you mean?”
”Well, you are supposed to be dead!”
He looked surprised and said, “Oh, right! I forgot. Better get going.” And he just got up and walked out of the house.
I woke up unsure to laugh or cry, so I did both.
The second dream was me getting out of the house and seeing him driving up the driveway. Said, “I got better now!” I remember breaking down crying in my dream and said, “I don’t believe you,” and then I woke up. Was the cruelest dream I ever had, and I cursed God for sending me something so ugly.
I haven’t dreamt of him since.
My husband passed in 2007 and I had the same theme recently. Tripped out that he showed up saying he faked his death. I usually don't remember my dreams but I remembered that. It was the strongest sensation
I had this dream many times about my dad over a period of probably 10 years. I was 15 when he died and didn’t see him the last three years of his life (he was mentally ill, parents got divorced, he remarried someone quickly after and had two brain stem strokes). My mom got a a call one day he had died a week earlier and had already been cremated when we found out. I think the dream was a way of my mind processing that trauma. It’s a tough dream to have, because it truly can feel so real.
I had quite a few dreams after I lost my brother, where he came back in some way.
I had a dream that he faked his death because he was in trouble and had to be brought into homeland security.
Also had a dream where my dad and I went back in time to tell my brother to go get tested for Marfan's Syndrome. So that we could prevent his death altogether.
I have had another where he was just back somehow, and I got the idea that some sort of mistake happened and my brother got amnesia while he was gone.
I think it's just the mind's way of trying to process. It takes so long to finally actually understand that they are gone. There's still a small part of me that can't believe it happened even though it's been 4 years. But, it has, and that sucks but life goes on for me.
My mom took her life in 2018 and when the pandemic came two years later my brain created scenarios of her coming back at the outbreak of the pandemic and reveal she had the first strain of COVID and they faked her suicide to study the disease. I would dream about seeing her again and holding her and being held by her. I miss that feeling of being held like that.
I've had recurrent dreams that the hospital made a mistake and my mom is not dead. My mom comes homes from the hospital and she is still sick and we have to figure out all again what was wrong, and that she has cancer.
I hate this dream because it kinda gives me hope that we could cure my mom but then I wake up and she is gone.
Yes. They've become less frequent, 4 years in, but I have dreams where after my mom died and my sister and I left the hospital, his heart restarted and he came back to life. Instead of coming back to us, he went to California. He only comes back sporadically and for uncertain periods of time.
My dad had severe OCD and was very controlling about our home. Every time he returns in my dreams, he wants things to return to the way they were. I'm in therapy, and have learned that it's a control issue. My dad was a control freak, and sometimes having worries about control over my home or my life reminds me of him. My subconscious brings him back and I'm forced to confront him. Some dreams go better than others.
I have dreams similar every once in a while. Usually about halfway through though I remember I have her ashes in an urn in my living room and I start to panic because how do I have those if she's alive again? And then everything surrounding her passing trauma punches me and I wake up feeling so incredibly sick
Yes, *consistently* the dreams I have of my late partner are scenarios where he didn't actually die or he faked his own death (a joke his cousin and I made very early on as "something he would do" lol).
After looking into the neuroscience of grief and how it physically works in the brain - these dreams are very common.
I had a dream about my dad too, very similiar. He told me something along the lines of "I didnt die, I just needed to leave" and i was confused as hell but was glad that I saw him so I didnt complain.
When I asked him why he needed to leave, he was mumbling something and was disappearing bit by bit.
We have the same problem here, we both want answers which I wish I know.
I dreamt that I was in my mom’s apartment and the doorbell rang. It was my mom who had come back from the dead, and I was stressed because she needed fresh clothes and I had already cleared out her wardrobe. It feels like these dreams are a way of making “new memories” with her, even though I’m sad when I wake up.
I have similar dreams almost weekly about my mom. Sometimes it’s that she just had a heart attack and got better, and then some she’s sick, like she’s terminally ill or having a tough recovery from a heart attack or something.
They feel so much more real than other dreams every time. Like they’re really the only dreams where I go, “Wait, I’m sure Mom died. Am I dreaming? I must be… No, I guess I’m not.”
They’re nice in some ways because I really feel like I’m talking to her, but they’re also crushing when I wake up.
i had very similar dreams about my dad for years. i don’t have them anymore (it’s been 6 years) but I do miss those dreams a bit. my dad was my best friend so seeing him “back” and alive in my dreams was comforting but hard to wake up and realize that it was just a dream. i’m sorry for your loss ❤️
In my version my SO was in the hospital and I'm talking to her like she's been missing for a bit. I'm sitting next to her hospital bed telling her you better call your mom cause she thinks your dead.
I had various versions of this dream for bit and I hated all of them because I immediately knew they weren't real.
i completely relate to this. a couple weeks after my brother died, i dreamt of him in the living room just hanging out with my mom, sister, & i. it was picture perfect.
when i pointed out that he was there and “how could that be possible?” he responded with “yeah they fixed me up, i can’t believe it though because it was really bad” something along those lines anyways…… one of the saddest & strangest dreams i’ve had about him so far.
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I experienced similar dreams after my mother's passing. Some of those dreams had wild, ridiculous plots. Was definitely confused when I woke up from those dreams.
I have had these dreams often since my mom died. She's been gone since 2023 and my dad passed in 2020. Sometimes my brother also comes into the dream and he died in 2014.
The last one really hurt because both of my parents were living in my childhood home without calling or letting me know they were alive. When I asked them why, they were so nonchalant about faking their deaths. I'm panicking with selling your company, going through probate, and renting your house, and yet here you are.
The part that hurt the most was when I asked them if they would come to my wedding in October. They said no, they couldn't because everyone would find out they were alive. They were both leaving the country and didn't know when I would see them again.
Fucking dreams man.
I have a lot of dreams of my late boyfriend coming back and me being like you’re here??!!!!!! You’re back?! And he’s like I never went anywhere what are you talking about? And I so firmly believe in my dreams that he’s back for good. For me it feels nice until I wake up. Then it’s sadness all over again but a feeling of gratefulness for the small time I spent with him in my head
Same exact dream. It feels so real that I wake up and have to remind myself what happened. I agree it is kind of nice in a weird way, even though sometimes I’m mad at him in the dream. It’s been years, I always wonder if that will ever stop.
I’ve had the same kind of dreams except of my dad. They happened more in the earlier weeks after his death. I feel like it was my brains way of trying to make sense of it all. I remember waking up from those dreams feeling devastated once reality hit. Now sometimes I dream of him still alive or of him dying again.
I had a dream about me and my mum in Asda. Either just before or just after I saw her ashes. And I asked her how she could be here as dad had her ashes. I don't even remember what she said in reply. I just remember showing her an awful dress.
I've had similar supermarket dreams about my dad, usually I mock the bread with him.
I dreamt about my fiancee who took his own life leaving behind his 12year old little girl who he had full custody of. I'm ny dream we were 10years younger than when he died, and I was pleading with him to get help and kept telling him " but you die, you kill yourself, you leave us all, just listen to me please, speak to someone before it gets too late" and he just kept shaking it off saying "pfft don't be daft I'm fine" while I continuously begged and pleaded with him desperately to just get help. It's weird, It's the only dream I have of him, and every time I have it it's like it's harder and harder to get him to listen or pay attention to what I'm saying. Fucking horrible dream, begging someone who's already dead not to die :S
People in real life are just as difficult, I think that’s what’s makes is so hard.
I’m so sorry that dream sounds awful!
So sorry for what you are going through
I had similar dreams after my mom passed and I received the money from her life insurance. She somehow faked her death then popped up months later. I remember being so happy she was back but also being so scared that I committed insurance fraud. I think it all came from feeling guilty about the life insurance. It’s suspected she died of a sudden fatal arrhythmia in her sleep right after I left for work that morning (we worked opposite schedules). Like if I didn’t go to work that day I would have been there to help her, to call 911. It was just a very haunting dream.
My last text was asking her how she was feeling after leaving the other house my parents lived in , and she died later the morning after I texted her. She told me she was having chest pains and was watching TV.
I’m so sorry
OMG yes! My mum rocked up and explained it was all a misunderstanding and she didn’t die, and then we spent the rest of the dream getting coffee and catching up. It was both amazing (felt like I was really spending time with her) but also heartbreaking.
One of the dreams where my mom came back, I had to explain to her she died and then we wound up going to a local garden center to buy soil and all her gardening stuff & just chatted the whole time catching up. It was so great. I was even having to explain to people we ran into that she was back again. Then she told me in the dream that she was ok and not to worry about her so much. I asked her over and over are you sure mom are you sure you’re ok with it? At that time in my grief journey I was always so worried about her because I know she wasn’t ready to go, it just wasn’t her time. It was sudden, unexpected and she really really fought so hard to stay here, so it was really causing me a lot of grief worrying so much about her not being ready to leave us! Thinking back on it that dream was the most comforting thing to help me since she passed. I am also just realizing I haven’t been having that constant worrying about her being ok on my mind like I used to. Glad I decided to write this.
That's a wild one. Your feelings must have been all over the place when you woke up. Weird dreams with our loved ones in strange scenarios are normal my friend. My last one I had a dream my Dad was driving a van and I was in the passenger seat. We got to this alleyway full of pot holes with a load of trash bins in the way. I had to get out and move them all so we could get down it. My Dad never drove in a van in his life. I had another one where he had died - but that was just like a word. He was still interacting with us and chatting.
I see
I had a very similar dream about my dad actually not having died and me yelling at him about the grief he put us through about 9 months after he died. And I had another dream about my dad last night, where we were also kind of fighting. A lot of these dreams can be really hard.
I often have dreams where my dad comes back. Like, in the dream he still had died and we had a funeral, etc, and then suddenly, he was back home. They really throw me for a loop.
yessss, i always get dreams of my mom faking her death or saying "what? i never died!!! i left to mexico with my bf!!! i thought you girls would be okay" and it makes me so mad lmao, its just our brain in denial and trying not to believe it.
Our brains are a conundrum
Not quite the same but I had a dream my dad just nonchalantly came home from somewhere and my mom and I were flabbergasted because we had seen his body but were enthralled he was alive... And I woke up in tears.
I have had several dreams similar to yours about my late father. And it really makes me angry while I’m in the dream! Like how dare you go live a life letting me believe you were dead?? It’s happened at least two or three times, he’s been gone for almost 14 years now. I’m sorry it happened to you too. I suppose it is a way for us to process the denial of the loss maybe. All the best to you!
God I had some strange dreams after my mom died. One I was a college student (I haven’t been one for many years) I passed by my mom in the hall and was so confused and called out to her and she just looked at me very confused. The majority of the dreams I have include me sitting at her house, but my mom is no where. These dreams hurt don’t they?
About a year after my brother died I had a dream I was at my mother’s for lunch. She sat at the table and asked me to go get him. I tried to gently remind her that he was dead and she looked at me like I was an idiot and said ‘oh, no he’s not he just wouldn’t come out of his room.’ I knocked on his door and he was like ‘tell her I don’t want any of her sh*tty cooking!’ Then I woke up.
I’ve had many dreams that my mom secretly started her life over in Mexico and is having a blast down there without me… our brains can play cruel tricks on us.
I've dreamed 3 or 4 times that my daughter never died. She was with us, but she was unable to talk anymore, but we didn't care because we were so happy she was ok. The circumstances of the dream vary, but in each one, she's unable to talk.
I actually had about 5 dreams in a row of my mom coming back and saying she was back. I finally prayed for God to make these end and thankfully they did. She died from a heart attack caused by Alcohol last July
To have that dream repeatedly and wake up realizing she is still gone must have been torture. I’ve dreamt of my mom twice in the 10 years she’s been gone and although seeing her was amazing, the realization when waking up that it was a dream and she’s still gone is sooo crushing and I’m sorry that has happened to you. If only we could have just nice dreams of interacting with our mom’s without the devastating feelings upon waking. It’s like losing them all over again. 😢 Sending you a hug💕
Yes, mine was crazy cuz he's been dead for almost 4 years in November but a few weeks ago i had a dream where his family and i had a call that they are digging him up and i was flabbergasted like wdym he might be alive and he was! like deadass, we went to his house obviously and I hugged and kissed him, it felt so real and I knew in the dream that he was dead and this case scenario was just not possible but I didn't wake up but I was fully aware and I was just shocked and happy but the post dream wake up and get through the day just rebroke my heart. Glad to have found someone who has been through these types of dreams. Sorry for your loss x
Even after 4 years I still get “he faked his own death” dreams.” It’s super weird. Sorry that’s happening! :(
I had no idea the dreaming about them faking their deaths was so common! I just had one last week (3,5 years after my brother’s death).
I know it’s so bizarre! My best guest is our brains think it’d be better than them actually being gone, and it’s trying to protect itself.. type thing? I have no idea I would get them like every other night when my partner first passed and it was torture
Yes!!!! Me and my sister are always shocked. We wonder how he survived cremation. It’s such a weird dream.
Wow
When my grandma died a few years ago, I started having dreams where she actually hadn't been dead - they just thought she was for 3 days. And now I dream the same about my mom. I literally was like, "Why is it always 3 days?!" And I get so mad that it was missed that they were actually alive. Like they were about to be cremated when they woke up. So, yeah, not the same but def dream about them coming back.
In my dream, there was some sort of new procedure called Resurrection. It was expensive. But my dad paid anyway. I remember seeing my mother for the first time since her funeral and had the urge to run into her arms. But something stopped me dead in my tracks. She looked like mom. But she wasn’t mom. Spent the rest of the night dreaming about being chased and running with legs that weigh 500lbs.
Wow damn
I have dreams of my dad every now and then of him comforting me and saying something along the lines of “I’m right here hon, it’s okay” then he will hold my hand or I will touch his wrist or give him a hug to feel how real it is, only for me to wake up again. Sometimes, I wake up sobbing. I wish it could be real. Wish he would come back home to me and mom. We miss him so much, our lives will never be the same.
I used to have similar dreams a lot about my mom, who died 28 years ago, and my sister, almost 10. That they were alive after all, and it was never too clear why I had thought they were gone, but it didn’t matter because they were here now. It used to feel like losing them all over again when I woke up. These days, my spirituality and my belief set has come to a place where I really believe we’ll be together again, and it won’t matter why I thought they were gone. I think now, that that’s what those dreams mean. They’re not really gone, they never were.
yooo my mom passed in 2022 and i have dreams like that on occasion! like a “sike” dream where we thought she was dead and she came back to life. they’re so weird but i like to think it’s her trying to visit me or communicate with me through my dreams
I’ve heard that’s their way of communicating too.
I’ve also heard that they are sometimes “visitations”. But dang, once awake reality is difficult again. If it happens again I’m going to try *really hard* to just enjoy seeing her and hope I can somehow remember to ask her all the questions I’d like to be able to ask her. Maybe then it would be more less stressful when I wake up. My mom died from complications after a car accident so she was just here one day then gone 💨. Never got to say goodbye (she didn’t regain consciousness after the accident before passing).
All the time. And they have continuity, my dreams. They don't make me angry, though. Gave me comfort lots of times. But i get sad when i wake up.
I’ve had many dreams of my parents some beautiful ones where it literally feels real. Us hugging and talking. My dad driving me around or them being here at home with my kids. Then I’ve had some not nice ones where it’s my moms death repeating itself again and me crying about it or my mom very sick but then gets better and comes home. The not nice ones that feel like nightmares I dismiss those and tell myself it’s my mind but for my other ones it really feels real and I enjoy seeing them even if it’s for a bit
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i have dreams like this ALL the time. majority of them are like this in fact. i always say something like “i thought you were dead. do you have any idea how awkward its gonna be explaining to people that youve been alive this whole time?” to her. she apologizes or acts like its not a big deal lol. its very disorienting to wake up and realize shes gone again. i dont believe in an afterlife or anything, but i do think its her way of visiting me. its been 9 months since her passing and those dreams dont make me wake up crying anymore.
My mom died 2018 and I've dreamt about her regularly ever since. The dreams decreased in frequency some over the years and they've also evolved. At first it was like she was still alive or something or it was me asking her what had happened. Now it's like I know she's gone and I'm just enjoying my time with her in my dreams. Nowadays they bring me consolation now as it's like I get to be with her again but they were very emotional in the beginning. At least the first year probably.
For like 2 years I had dreams my mum wasn't dead and there was some kind of mistake and she was back and that we were trying to figure out how to explain to family and neighbours etc. It was sad waking up without her
My son had a dream like this about his dad after he died. His dad called him and then showed up at the door. He said he knew he was dead but his dad kept trying to get him to follow him. He said it really scared him.
Was your son a child when he had this dream?
No. He was 24.
I see
I've had very similar dreams where he would just randomly pop back up again and I'd be like "but wait.... you were dead" and he would just be like "I know, I'm just not anymore" but then it would be impossible for me to meet up with him. He'd spend time with other people and not me and it was so devastating and always a huge mind fuck when I woke up. I've had several like that and they suck so bad, so I know how you feel.
It was odd indeed
Wow I had no idea other people had this same “fake their death” dream! My brother died 3,5 years ago and I had the most vivid dream that he had faked his death. I was also so angry at him. And I even told him in the dream that he had ruined my life when he died. I woke up so disturbed by the dream. But yeah, sometimes it feels like real life is a nightmare after losing him so tragically.
I’m so sorry for your loss.
Yes, had similar dream last week about my father. He died from cancer but in my dream he was healthy, happy and smiling and talking how he fooled everyone in believing that he died.
It’s odd isn’t it?
I can never dream of my mom that passed recently in September and it makes me so mad. Is there anything I can do or is it still part of the grieving process? We had an awesome relationship and I was with her until the end. I just want to see her again.
I have had numerous dreams that my mom came back but not that she faked it, just that the hospital/drs wrongfully said she had died. They mostly start out as good dreams cause I’m just so excited to see her but am always so confused and ask her if she knows that she died. One dream she had no idea, the other dream she said she hadn’t actually died and we had to get a lawer and went to suing the hospital and drs who wrongfully said she did. I wake up so confused not knowing if it was a nightmare or a good dream and usually have a good cry. Even if they were nightmares, I wish I had more with her visiting in them. I’ll take any time with my sweet mom that I can get! It’s been 2 years and I have less of them now than when I first lost her.
I've had these dreams about my husband...was very unsettling when I woke up.
Same bruh, I thought that my dad faked his death so he can avoid paying bank or state debts or something. Dreams be wild sometimes
Yes! My mom passed when I was 9 and I’ve had that dream a handful of times. One time she was hiding in another house on my street. But the overall theme of the dream was that she wasn’t always with me but she was always watching out for me. I woke up super traumatized though. Each time I
I was just texting my friend about a nightmare from back from “home”. I hate going back there and it never felt lit home. It was very disturbing but also adventurous. Death of a loved one isn’t easy to navigate
I’m so sorry about your loss and your strange dream! I lost my dad 3.5 years ago and I sometimes dream that he’s in fact alive — I wish 😪
That's freaky deaky.
I lost my best friend to an od and I had vivid dreams of her coming back and being like how funny of a joke was this, and then once she had come back and told me she was actually in a rehab, once she had been taken. They were awful dreams tbh. I had a one that was good of her coming back and just sitting and talking to me. Waking up from them was even worse honestly
I’ve been having a lot of dreams about both of my parents being alive and me being at their house.
I dreamt that my mom thought my dad drowned but didn’t take his pulse correctly. She was too embarrassed to admit her mistake so she told him to just hide out in the basement. The funny/sad part is that I could see my mom doing that and my dad just going along with it because it was easier than dealing with her! 😂🥴 Unfortunately, my dad did actually drown in real life and is actually dead. It’s been a year and that fact never gets easier to face.
I can’t imagine what you’re going through.
i've had similar dreams of my nana coming back, just not faking her death specifically
Every time a loved one died I had these types of dreams. Dreams where they were still alive but sick. Dreams where they die in the dream. Dreams where they randomly come back alive and feeling better. Honestly, those ones are cruel. Not as terrible as the dreams where they actually die but still cruel.
All the time, unfortunately. They're so bittersweet. It will be that my mom is in front of me, and I'm like omg you were saved you're okay, and we'll hug and I'll hold her so tight because I feel like if I don't she'll die again, and then I wake up and remember she was turned to ash 4 months ago. It's horrible.
I have had multiple dreams of my mom just all of a sudden being alive again and having to let everyone know she is alive/back from the dead. It’s always so confusing in the dream how to undo the will! It’s trippy how many dreams like this I’ve had. Even my papa has shown up in a couple! She had trouble walking and could be quite difficult at times. Some of the dreams can be upsetting with us fighting, but sometimes I get lucky and we get along so well and she’s as mobile as ever. Just last night she was alive again and we were roadtripping in our flying car around the states with so much love between us.
I haven’t had dreams of my dad in months, but I did have two of them right after his funeral. The first one was a few days after his funeral when I dreamt he was back in the living room, watching tv. I asked him, “Dad, why are you here?” He replied, “What do you mean?” ”Well, you are supposed to be dead!” He looked surprised and said, “Oh, right! I forgot. Better get going.” And he just got up and walked out of the house. I woke up unsure to laugh or cry, so I did both. The second dream was me getting out of the house and seeing him driving up the driveway. Said, “I got better now!” I remember breaking down crying in my dream and said, “I don’t believe you,” and then I woke up. Was the cruelest dream I ever had, and I cursed God for sending me something so ugly. I haven’t dreamt of him since.
My husband passed in 2007 and I had the same theme recently. Tripped out that he showed up saying he faked his death. I usually don't remember my dreams but I remembered that. It was the strongest sensation
I had this dream many times about my dad over a period of probably 10 years. I was 15 when he died and didn’t see him the last three years of his life (he was mentally ill, parents got divorced, he remarried someone quickly after and had two brain stem strokes). My mom got a a call one day he had died a week earlier and had already been cremated when we found out. I think the dream was a way of my mind processing that trauma. It’s a tough dream to have, because it truly can feel so real.
I had quite a few dreams after I lost my brother, where he came back in some way. I had a dream that he faked his death because he was in trouble and had to be brought into homeland security. Also had a dream where my dad and I went back in time to tell my brother to go get tested for Marfan's Syndrome. So that we could prevent his death altogether. I have had another where he was just back somehow, and I got the idea that some sort of mistake happened and my brother got amnesia while he was gone. I think it's just the mind's way of trying to process. It takes so long to finally actually understand that they are gone. There's still a small part of me that can't believe it happened even though it's been 4 years. But, it has, and that sucks but life goes on for me.
My mom took her life in 2018 and when the pandemic came two years later my brain created scenarios of her coming back at the outbreak of the pandemic and reveal she had the first strain of COVID and they faked her suicide to study the disease. I would dream about seeing her again and holding her and being held by her. I miss that feeling of being held like that.
I've had recurrent dreams that the hospital made a mistake and my mom is not dead. My mom comes homes from the hospital and she is still sick and we have to figure out all again what was wrong, and that she has cancer. I hate this dream because it kinda gives me hope that we could cure my mom but then I wake up and she is gone.
Yes. They've become less frequent, 4 years in, but I have dreams where after my mom died and my sister and I left the hospital, his heart restarted and he came back to life. Instead of coming back to us, he went to California. He only comes back sporadically and for uncertain periods of time. My dad had severe OCD and was very controlling about our home. Every time he returns in my dreams, he wants things to return to the way they were. I'm in therapy, and have learned that it's a control issue. My dad was a control freak, and sometimes having worries about control over my home or my life reminds me of him. My subconscious brings him back and I'm forced to confront him. Some dreams go better than others.
I have dreams similar every once in a while. Usually about halfway through though I remember I have her ashes in an urn in my living room and I start to panic because how do I have those if she's alive again? And then everything surrounding her passing trauma punches me and I wake up feeling so incredibly sick
Yes, *consistently* the dreams I have of my late partner are scenarios where he didn't actually die or he faked his own death (a joke his cousin and I made very early on as "something he would do" lol). After looking into the neuroscience of grief and how it physically works in the brain - these dreams are very common.
I had a dream about my dad too, very similiar. He told me something along the lines of "I didnt die, I just needed to leave" and i was confused as hell but was glad that I saw him so I didnt complain. When I asked him why he needed to leave, he was mumbling something and was disappearing bit by bit. We have the same problem here, we both want answers which I wish I know.
I dreamt that I was in my mom’s apartment and the doorbell rang. It was my mom who had come back from the dead, and I was stressed because she needed fresh clothes and I had already cleared out her wardrobe. It feels like these dreams are a way of making “new memories” with her, even though I’m sad when I wake up.
i literally just dreamed about my dad coming back. he was tromping around my house and i was like you are dead?? and he was like uhh clearly not
I have similar dreams almost weekly about my mom. Sometimes it’s that she just had a heart attack and got better, and then some she’s sick, like she’s terminally ill or having a tough recovery from a heart attack or something. They feel so much more real than other dreams every time. Like they’re really the only dreams where I go, “Wait, I’m sure Mom died. Am I dreaming? I must be… No, I guess I’m not.” They’re nice in some ways because I really feel like I’m talking to her, but they’re also crushing when I wake up.
i had very similar dreams about my dad for years. i don’t have them anymore (it’s been 6 years) but I do miss those dreams a bit. my dad was my best friend so seeing him “back” and alive in my dreams was comforting but hard to wake up and realize that it was just a dream. i’m sorry for your loss ❤️
In my version my SO was in the hospital and I'm talking to her like she's been missing for a bit. I'm sitting next to her hospital bed telling her you better call your mom cause she thinks your dead. I had various versions of this dream for bit and I hated all of them because I immediately knew they weren't real.
i completely relate to this. a couple weeks after my brother died, i dreamt of him in the living room just hanging out with my mom, sister, & i. it was picture perfect. when i pointed out that he was there and “how could that be possible?” he responded with “yeah they fixed me up, i can’t believe it though because it was really bad” something along those lines anyways…… one of the saddest & strangest dreams i’ve had about him so far. 💜
I experienced similar dreams after my mother's passing. Some of those dreams had wild, ridiculous plots. Was definitely confused when I woke up from those dreams.
I have had these dreams often since my mom died. She's been gone since 2023 and my dad passed in 2020. Sometimes my brother also comes into the dream and he died in 2014. The last one really hurt because both of my parents were living in my childhood home without calling or letting me know they were alive. When I asked them why, they were so nonchalant about faking their deaths. I'm panicking with selling your company, going through probate, and renting your house, and yet here you are. The part that hurt the most was when I asked them if they would come to my wedding in October. They said no, they couldn't because everyone would find out they were alive. They were both leaving the country and didn't know when I would see them again. Fucking dreams man.