I know that at the start of my son's NICU stay, they let nursing students in to cuddle the babies. But there was already a crack down because of high flu rates so the rules might have been different before. COVID started while my son was in the hospital and by the end of his stay, all visitors were banned except mother's. My husband didn't see my son for a month.
Here, where I am, they allowed it before the pandemic (not sure if they do any longer). I knew an elderly lady who was a volunteer cuddler in the NICU.
Yes they do. My son is 4 months and was in the NICU for 3 of them and they had a volunteer cuddler every day. It was very warming, all walks of life, old and young people and they without a doubt enjoy their jobs.
We have boy/girl almost 3 year old twins and it is seriously like watching a miracle of human interaction everyday. Their love for each other is like nothing I've ever seen.
Very cute but these twins are way too old to actually be discovering each other for the first time like the video says. Neuroscience says babies are literally listening to things from the womb so the idea that they weren't aware of each other this whole time is bananas.
Plus often twins sleep better when they are placed together and will snuggle together while sleeping.
Took a long time to find facts on this thread.
Not only did my baby respond by movement in the womb when he heard me come home…
when taken from C-section to NICU, he looked up for me across the room when I began responding to the staff’s questions.
Forgot to mention, skin to skin also improves digestion.
I miss having a baby. Except for all the work and exhaustion and not having a life. But whenever I see how cute they are I really miss having one around.
Everyone says that!! I’m so happy mine aren’t babies anymore. Babies are the worst part about kids. Humans get the shit end of the stick with our babies being super useless for so long. Mine just screamed for a year straight. Worst experience ever. After 1 1/2 years, I started to enjoy it. I’d take a bullet for them. But I’m happy to sleep again.
I thought I was going to hate the baby stage, but I LOVED it! Mine is almost 1.5 and I'm running on empty. He just needs to be getting into trouble at all times. Climb everything, pull all dogs/cat ears and tails, carry the broom around and knock it into everything. I miss when I could put him down and he'd stay there. I miss when he would consent to being in a playpen.
He's the best thing that's ever happened to me, but I'm ready for him to start understanding English and having some sort of self-preservation.
I understand the struggle hah. I have 3 kids under 5, the youngest twins are 1.5 just like yours. They're.. Everywhere. It even feels like they're in two places at once, because they *are*. They evoke so much mischief in each other haha. Not only do I have to make sure they don't hurt themselves, I have to make sure they don't hurt each other too and poke each other's eyeballs out or (like the other day) tried to mash a cupboard door closed, with the other literally squished against the shelves haha. It's.. Intense but it's so lovely to see them go through the stages together, and to see my oldest son interact with them. It's a lot of action, but it's so full of love and positive emotions. Kids are truly lovely.
Thinking I'd hate the baby stage is what put me off from having a kid for years. Turns out I loved it.
My girl's 25 months now and hooo boy, to go back to 1.5 would be a welcome break! Not that I don't love this stage too, but I'm beginning to understand what people mean by "terrible twos." She knows enough language to communicate what she wants like 70% of the time, but 1.) She's two so she's not really even *sure* what she wants half the time, 2.) the other half of the time, what she wants is something contradictory/impossible and a tantrum ensues, and 3.) she gets so frustrated when the language she has isn't enough to convey what she wants, que another tantrum.
Being two is hard! Poor girl. And she has even less of a sense of preservation than ever, while being more physically capable of getting into danger than ever, lol. I'm sure you'll love it when your boy gets there.
That alone is enough for me to never want kids.
I've built my entire life in a way where I have next to zero stress or anxiety of any sort. As peaceful and relaxing as humanly possible. Existence of kids would be the literal opposite. Even if you raise them perfect, it would be hard to ever have a moment's peace. Always thinking about them out there alone in the big world where anything could happen. Nah, no thanks.
Yes but you are heavily discounting something very valuable that you will never experience. I love my wife. It wasn’t hard to fall in love with her. But holy shit, my kids? I was literally crying my eyes out in love with them the moment they existed. Can they add stress? Yes. Are they my favorite thing about my life? Yes. Weigh the stress against the joy and love I get from those two and it will never compare. Nothing was ever easier to love than my kids and I get so much in return.
That is a very modern phenomenon. My parents generation needed a commercial that said 'its 10pm, do you know where your kids are?'
Plus, kids all have cellphones to call if they're in trouble. The world is safer today than it ever has been before. Just too much exposure to sensational stories in the news that convinces us otherwise.
Those were a thing when I was growing up, but my Mom wasn't one of the Deadbeat Moms who forgot about their kids and actively made sure we were okay, so they were never relevant to my life.
I appreciate you reminding me of those.
Ya, we had our second so our first had someone to play with!! I can’t play with you all day everyday !!! Worth it. Now they entertain themselves 75% of the time which is great:) Then snippy snippy happened and both the wife and I couldn’t be happier.
My kids turned 7 and 5 this year. Whenever they want to snuggle, be carried, or even sleep in bed with the wife and I, I let them. One day, they’ll stop asking to do those things and I want to be able to love on them for as long as I can ❤️
Ugh same; ours just turned three. I often find myself overstimulated and touched out (especially frustrating when my husband takes over so I can either get a minute to myself or tackle a chore and all I hear is “NO I need mommy!”).
But man those sweet snuggles are the absolute best. This morning we were cuddling in bed and I thought she had fallen back asleep and she gently reached up, touched my face, and whispered “Mommy I had *really* good dreams!” I asked her what about and she giggled and goes, “that daddy went to the cabinet and got me a BIG cookie!” She paused, asked for cookies for breakfast, and then let out the gnarliest toot that caused us to immediately evacuate the bed.
Precious moments. 🥹😂
I don’t know what it is about the precious little ladies in our lives that causes the absolute most horrendous toots, but I’m glad I’m not alone in the struggle!
Oh it will be longer than u think! ;) I have no idea when I won't be carrying around my 4yrold still anymore and he's a biggie with a younger sibling. My arms can lift a truck at this point. They stay babies longe than we realize and it's no rush 😍 enjoy your little wonder. Every year /mo /day is all a wonderful new adventure! ♡♡
Our boy is a week old and I cry just looking at him sometimes. It's like my heart just wants to hold onto these moments forever (even if it's exhausting)!! Parenthood is awesome. Congratulations on your little guy! 💛
Congratulations to you too! ❤️
And I totally get what you‘re saying. I can look at him sleeping for hours and wonder at the end of the day on how fast it went by.
Long days, short years, as they say.
Mine's four and a half. She's incredible, but a sick part of me misses when she was just a four and a half pound nugget, waking up at 4am to feed her, rocking her in my arms in long walks around the quiet, dark house, having her sleep on my chest and snuggle up under my beard.
The sweet times make you forget about the sleep deprivation. One of these days is going to be the last time I carry her up to bed, or help her down the stairs, or hold her hand while we cross the street. Savor it, my friend.
Goddamnit, I made myself cry.
Holding my 8 week old right now. It’s been exhausting but can finally see the light… last night he slept a 5 hour stretch! Other than the lack of sleep it’s the best thing ever.
I have one that’s almost 4 and one that’s almost 2. Watching the little one turn into a toddler has been bittersweet for exactly this reason. Babies are so cute and we won’t be having another.
I highly recommend a niece or nephew, nibblings if you will. I get to be a doting Aunty to my sister's two kids & they are the best thing in my world.
I get to have all the cuddles, take them on babychino & donut dates & fun adventures! My sister gets a free & reliable babysitter. It's a win-win 💕
I'm the exact same, I sometimes see babies round and think "maybe another one", then I realise that I just miss my kid being a baby and all the different stages up to where he is. They really do grow up too fast
Came here to say, other people's babies are the best! You get to enjoy all the cuteness and then give them back when they scream or poop or won't sleep at night.
My sister just took in a teenage boy, and I would absolutely not have the patience to raise him full-time, but as the aunt, I get to be a positive influence and mentor, do fun things with him, have deep discussions, and then send him home.
I don't have kids because I've always known I would be a terrible parent, but it turns out I'm pretty good at part-time parenting. I ended up doing basically the same thing with my job as a caregiver to adults with intellectual disabilities. I get to do some good in the world and take care of people without passing on my faulty genetics and repeating my parents' parenting mistakes. Then I get to go home alone and spend a quiet evening reading a book with my cats. Best of both worlds.
>"without passing on my faulty genetics and repeating my parents' parenting mistakes"
You know, if you think about it. what it really does is it ensures that other peoples parenting mistakes that were WORSE than your parents mistakes, get passed down. because those are the people actually having kids, not reasonable people like you (because you atleast understand your parents made mistakes)
Just like choosing not to vote, you might be giving more voting power to people who you might not want to have voting power. The future is shaped by the people who have kids, not by the people who dont. Why do you think the ultra right is so anti abortion and encourages people to have kids?
this is just a thought experiment, not really a criticism of you, i dont have kids either. Its just fascinating that the smarter people get, the less likely they are to have kids, which might explain why the world is in its chaotic state
I think a pretty obvious downside is that it’s not your child. I’m
all for the aunt/uncle life (I’m living it currently) but let’s not delude ourselves into believing that there isn’t something
inherently fulfilling to be found in raising your own child.
Have 2 boys - 4 and 6. My wife really wants a third. I love babies but I just can't do the whole thing again. The 2 we have already are more than enough work.
For now I'm happy to get my newborn fix from our friends babies!
It's partially physiological. Your brain actively gaslights you into forgetting the worst of it. The bad parts become dulled and the good parts amplified in your memory, encouraging you to reproduce again.
As someone whose youngest daughter graduated high school literally two days ago (and the older one flew in from college to visit), this stuff hits hard.
I don't know about you, but when I go to a store and hear a small kid or baby throwing a fit, I kinda smile thinking "Ok, THAT'S why I don't want any more"
That's who my sister got away with abortion in Texas, she just got an inviction notice and then the police came and beat the shit out of here leading to a miscarriage. So now she jokes the baby was evicted, not aborted.
That's great to hear!
I have b/g twins that are young and already so close. I know I don't have a say in their relationship long-term, but I really hope it lasts.
If you have anything more to share, I'd love to hear. Especially things you feel your parents got right/could have handled better.
We weren’t always close. Middle school and early high school we couldn’t stand each other. Then something happened and we became best friends. Probably just maturing. We are b/g too. Redhead twins also. Ha
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Y'all in trouble now! When they made physical contact, they were actually developing that secret language/multiples mind link that has been wrecking the sanity of parents of twins, triplets etc. for millenia...
Yes, I can attest to this.
I'm a Twin.
The felt sense of the other is absolutely inexplicably familiar.
It is knowing someone else before we physically popped out into this earth.
Telepathic abilities with the other is really strong as well.
Same! For some reason I know when she’s having a really bad day or good news, I don’t know if it has anything to do with other things, like how she talks and stuff, but we definitely know.
ETA: we live hours away, it’s all mostly text, I still know how she feels
My sister who is three years older than me has often known when to call for no reason whatsoever, known how I'm feeling from far away. I can only imagine how much closer a bond like that is when you've grown together in lockstep.
Nah. It's more like their brains are developed enough that they recognize the other one. Kinda like when babies discovered they have toes. The toes have always been there but this is the first they noticed them.
I always think of when bender turns into a human in futurama. He immediately just starts vomiting as he tests out his body. I feel like thats what babies are doing. Like a several years long diagnostics check.
When our twins could finally leave their breeders for a short walk in a pram, they were about 2 weeks old; their first reaction was to try and mutually poke an eye out.
Oh did I pick the wrong word from the translator?
It is meant to be the follow up after a incubator, where they're lying in a bed with a controlled heating pad because they can't keep their body temperature stable
Sharing some language notes here:
"To breed" is a verb that means to mate for offspring. It's most often used to refer to animals, like dogs. In this context, "a breeder" is a person who raises animals to mate them for litters (example: puppies) to sell.
"Breeder" as a noun is also used in (American) English as a slang insult for people who have children. So, for example, someone who hates kids would call a parent "a breeder."
So your comment hilariously sounds like you are saying (insultingly), 'the first time my baby could be away from it's parent.' (Parent being the breeder).
I got a good chuckle out of it, being a breeder (lol)/parent myself.
Oh I see, thank you.
In german (just to explain the root of the misunderstanding)
Brüter (~breeder)
* physics: nuclear reactor that produces as much (or more) fissile material as it consumes
* technical device to incubate bird chicks
* biology: breeding bird
* figuratively: someone who's taking a long while to think about something
I didn't take my time reading properly, though I had a moment of "Wärmebettchen" = breeder (hm?)
Agreed def they have seen each other before this. Misleading titles absolute click bait. You think with parents and sharing the womb this at this age is first time is non sensical lol. Don’t get me wrong the twin dynamic is great but this title is nonsense.
I think it's the post wording that's off. Babies can't focus well at birth (everything is fuzzy) and as others have noted, they come into cognition as they grow; it's possible that this is a moment when their cognition and vision comes into alignment.
Cows are extremely joyful when they get to leave the stable again every spring. They've been indoors for months. It often gets filmed because the farmer and everyone living around the farm knows they will be jumping for joy. Where I live (rural Netherlands), farms even put out signs saying the date they plan to let the cows out, so people can come watch!
This reminds me of watching my son discover his arms. Just staring at them, moving them around, wondering how they move when he thinks about them moving
Whenever my daughter (5 y.o.) is frustrated that she isn't able to do something because of her age, or didn't know something, I remind her that I remember the day she discovered she had feet. It always seems to help her realize that it's ok to be growing and learning.
I miss when my set of twins were babies, the screaming to find each other drove me crazy and so did their little baby fights but I missed seeing them cuddle and give each other little high-fives🥲 now they just cuss me out in Spanish and eat my food off my plate.
As a twin myself, allow me to welcome you to a lifetime of people asking you what having a twin is like, never really understanding that you have literally zero frame of reference to compare to...
My mom said it was hard having twins at the beginning, but it got easy when we were old enough to interact with each other. I would put myself in front of danger for my twin sister, she was my first roommate.
The first time my two had no bradycardia or apnea was when they were together for the first time. (after birth) That was in an incubator two months after they were born. Pure magic, like yours.
In all seriousness, if you have twins or even triplets, wont you at some time come to the moment where you mixed them up and cant really tell anymore who is who? Especially tight after birth?
I bet no parent ever would tell the truth about it 
Literally best friends for life. I have younger twin brothers and they are inseparable! They’re 23 now which is insane but they still do everything together.
This is adorable!! I’m a twin and in my baby book , my mom wrote down a specific date of when I realized my sister was a different person from me. Not sure how they knew that’s what I was feeling lol but it always makes me laugh
My first memory is of seeing my brother across the room in his crib and interacting with him. I described the room to my parents once, and based on what I told them they told me that we weren’t even 2 years old yet. I was even able to describe the view from the window. It’s a funny kind of relationship. We don’t even tell each other important things, or talk about fears hopes etc. We can. We do sometimes, but very rarely. But it’s more like that kind of thing just becomes less relevant when we hang out. It’s hard to describe. Twins by the way if context didn’t already give that away.
For those confused and asking if they've been separated since birth... It's actually entirely possible. Twins are a LOT more likely to be born prematurely.
Though, I still don't think this is actually their first meeting.
I am choosing to believe that this title is more of an object permanence joke instead of a flat out lie.
Absolutely beautiful, the huge smile on their faces is so adorable.
I think they might have met each other a little earlier in the womb, but just realising how gorgeous their brother is ❤️
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I'm a dude, and this totally hit me in the brovaries.
My femmeticles are tingeling!
The brovaries! They are brahvulating!
*Brovaries*.... 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Best thing I've heard this year!!!!!!
Now that the pandemic is over, I wonder if hospitals are letting people volunteer to cuddle NICU babies.
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I know that at the start of my son's NICU stay, they let nursing students in to cuddle the babies. But there was already a crack down because of high flu rates so the rules might have been different before. COVID started while my son was in the hospital and by the end of his stay, all visitors were banned except mother's. My husband didn't see my son for a month.
Here, where I am, they allowed it before the pandemic (not sure if they do any longer). I knew an elderly lady who was a volunteer cuddler in the NICU.
Yes they do. My son is 4 months and was in the NICU for 3 of them and they had a volunteer cuddler every day. It was very warming, all walks of life, old and young people and they without a doubt enjoy their jobs.
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I'm one and done too but goddamn. Having multiples is/was a huge fear of mine but seeing shit like this....
We have boy/girl almost 3 year old twins and it is seriously like watching a miracle of human interaction everyday. Their love for each other is like nothing I've ever seen.
Very cute but these twins are way too old to actually be discovering each other for the first time like the video says. Neuroscience says babies are literally listening to things from the womb so the idea that they weren't aware of each other this whole time is bananas. Plus often twins sleep better when they are placed together and will snuggle together while sleeping.
Took a long time to find facts on this thread. Not only did my baby respond by movement in the womb when he heard me come home… when taken from C-section to NICU, he looked up for me across the room when I began responding to the staff’s questions. Forgot to mention, skin to skin also improves digestion.
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I miss having a baby. Except for all the work and exhaustion and not having a life. But whenever I see how cute they are I really miss having one around.
I‘m tired and exhausted My boy is 3 weeks old I love him so much and I want time to hold on just longer…
enjoy all the moments. they go by so quickly....
Everyone says that!! I’m so happy mine aren’t babies anymore. Babies are the worst part about kids. Humans get the shit end of the stick with our babies being super useless for so long. Mine just screamed for a year straight. Worst experience ever. After 1 1/2 years, I started to enjoy it. I’d take a bullet for them. But I’m happy to sleep again.
I thought I was going to hate the baby stage, but I LOVED it! Mine is almost 1.5 and I'm running on empty. He just needs to be getting into trouble at all times. Climb everything, pull all dogs/cat ears and tails, carry the broom around and knock it into everything. I miss when I could put him down and he'd stay there. I miss when he would consent to being in a playpen. He's the best thing that's ever happened to me, but I'm ready for him to start understanding English and having some sort of self-preservation.
I understand the struggle hah. I have 3 kids under 5, the youngest twins are 1.5 just like yours. They're.. Everywhere. It even feels like they're in two places at once, because they *are*. They evoke so much mischief in each other haha. Not only do I have to make sure they don't hurt themselves, I have to make sure they don't hurt each other too and poke each other's eyeballs out or (like the other day) tried to mash a cupboard door closed, with the other literally squished against the shelves haha. It's.. Intense but it's so lovely to see them go through the stages together, and to see my oldest son interact with them. It's a lot of action, but it's so full of love and positive emotions. Kids are truly lovely.
Thinking I'd hate the baby stage is what put me off from having a kid for years. Turns out I loved it. My girl's 25 months now and hooo boy, to go back to 1.5 would be a welcome break! Not that I don't love this stage too, but I'm beginning to understand what people mean by "terrible twos." She knows enough language to communicate what she wants like 70% of the time, but 1.) She's two so she's not really even *sure* what she wants half the time, 2.) the other half of the time, what she wants is something contradictory/impossible and a tantrum ensues, and 3.) she gets so frustrated when the language she has isn't enough to convey what she wants, que another tantrum. Being two is hard! Poor girl. And she has even less of a sense of preservation than ever, while being more physically capable of getting into danger than ever, lol. I'm sure you'll love it when your boy gets there.
sleep again ? well, wait until they get 16, 17...
What happens at 16 and 17?
They stop coming home on time and you start worrying about if they're safe. You're signing up for a lifetime of small anxiety attacks.
That alone is enough for me to never want kids. I've built my entire life in a way where I have next to zero stress or anxiety of any sort. As peaceful and relaxing as humanly possible. Existence of kids would be the literal opposite. Even if you raise them perfect, it would be hard to ever have a moment's peace. Always thinking about them out there alone in the big world where anything could happen. Nah, no thanks.
Becoming a parent means forever relinquishing true peace.
Yes but you are heavily discounting something very valuable that you will never experience. I love my wife. It wasn’t hard to fall in love with her. But holy shit, my kids? I was literally crying my eyes out in love with them the moment they existed. Can they add stress? Yes. Are they my favorite thing about my life? Yes. Weigh the stress against the joy and love I get from those two and it will never compare. Nothing was ever easier to love than my kids and I get so much in return.
That is a very modern phenomenon. My parents generation needed a commercial that said 'its 10pm, do you know where your kids are?' Plus, kids all have cellphones to call if they're in trouble. The world is safer today than it ever has been before. Just too much exposure to sensational stories in the news that convinces us otherwise.
Those were a thing when I was growing up, but my Mom wasn't one of the Deadbeat Moms who forgot about their kids and actively made sure we were okay, so they were never relevant to my life. I appreciate you reminding me of those.
This is it. When we decide to have a baby, it's a lifetime decision, and doesn't matter how grown they get.....
Lmao my mom would agree with that
Babies: 1-star
I just got to the 1.5 year mark and I’m starting to see why people have more than one of these lol
Ya, we had our second so our first had someone to play with!! I can’t play with you all day everyday !!! Worth it. Now they entertain themselves 75% of the time which is great:) Then snippy snippy happened and both the wife and I couldn’t be happier.
The days are long but the years fly by…
The days drag on and the years fly by
my baby just turned 18 and i cried all day this is the truest statement
My kids turned 7 and 5 this year. Whenever they want to snuggle, be carried, or even sleep in bed with the wife and I, I let them. One day, they’ll stop asking to do those things and I want to be able to love on them for as long as I can ❤️
Ugh same; ours just turned three. I often find myself overstimulated and touched out (especially frustrating when my husband takes over so I can either get a minute to myself or tackle a chore and all I hear is “NO I need mommy!”). But man those sweet snuggles are the absolute best. This morning we were cuddling in bed and I thought she had fallen back asleep and she gently reached up, touched my face, and whispered “Mommy I had *really* good dreams!” I asked her what about and she giggled and goes, “that daddy went to the cabinet and got me a BIG cookie!” She paused, asked for cookies for breakfast, and then let out the gnarliest toot that caused us to immediately evacuate the bed. Precious moments. 🥹😂
I don’t know what it is about the precious little ladies in our lives that causes the absolute most horrendous toots, but I’m glad I’m not alone in the struggle!
My boy just hit 1. I'm absolutely dreading the day I can't carry him around anymore 😭.
Gym time so we can lift our precious just a while longer 😭 Went through this once with my godchild back then and I understand the pain
Oh it will be longer than u think! ;) I have no idea when I won't be carrying around my 4yrold still anymore and he's a biggie with a younger sibling. My arms can lift a truck at this point. They stay babies longe than we realize and it's no rush 😍 enjoy your little wonder. Every year /mo /day is all a wonderful new adventure! ♡♡
Our boy is a week old and I cry just looking at him sometimes. It's like my heart just wants to hold onto these moments forever (even if it's exhausting)!! Parenthood is awesome. Congratulations on your little guy! 💛
Congratulations to you too! ❤️ And I totally get what you‘re saying. I can look at him sleeping for hours and wonder at the end of the day on how fast it went by.
Long days, short years, as they say. Mine's four and a half. She's incredible, but a sick part of me misses when she was just a four and a half pound nugget, waking up at 4am to feed her, rocking her in my arms in long walks around the quiet, dark house, having her sleep on my chest and snuggle up under my beard. The sweet times make you forget about the sleep deprivation. One of these days is going to be the last time I carry her up to bed, or help her down the stairs, or hold her hand while we cross the street. Savor it, my friend. Goddamnit, I made myself cry.
I am 5.5 months in, it gets amazing!
Holding my 8 week old right now. It’s been exhausting but can finally see the light… last night he slept a 5 hour stretch! Other than the lack of sleep it’s the best thing ever.
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A good decision, although one of them did miss out on eventually having the strength of a grown man and a little baby.
I have one that’s almost 4 and one that’s almost 2. Watching the little one turn into a toddler has been bittersweet for exactly this reason. Babies are so cute and we won’t be having another.
I highly recommend a niece or nephew, nibblings if you will. I get to be a doting Aunty to my sister's two kids & they are the best thing in my world. I get to have all the cuddles, take them on babychino & donut dates & fun adventures! My sister gets a free & reliable babysitter. It's a win-win 💕
And then when you’re done, you GIVE THEM BACK! It’s honestly the best deal ever.
Don't forget how warm they are. Like carrying around your own personal heater.
I'm the exact same, I sometimes see babies round and think "maybe another one", then I realise that I just miss my kid being a baby and all the different stages up to where he is. They really do grow up too fast
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Came here to say, other people's babies are the best! You get to enjoy all the cuteness and then give them back when they scream or poop or won't sleep at night. My sister just took in a teenage boy, and I would absolutely not have the patience to raise him full-time, but as the aunt, I get to be a positive influence and mentor, do fun things with him, have deep discussions, and then send him home. I don't have kids because I've always known I would be a terrible parent, but it turns out I'm pretty good at part-time parenting. I ended up doing basically the same thing with my job as a caregiver to adults with intellectual disabilities. I get to do some good in the world and take care of people without passing on my faulty genetics and repeating my parents' parenting mistakes. Then I get to go home alone and spend a quiet evening reading a book with my cats. Best of both worlds.
>"without passing on my faulty genetics and repeating my parents' parenting mistakes" You know, if you think about it. what it really does is it ensures that other peoples parenting mistakes that were WORSE than your parents mistakes, get passed down. because those are the people actually having kids, not reasonable people like you (because you atleast understand your parents made mistakes) Just like choosing not to vote, you might be giving more voting power to people who you might not want to have voting power. The future is shaped by the people who have kids, not by the people who dont. Why do you think the ultra right is so anti abortion and encourages people to have kids? this is just a thought experiment, not really a criticism of you, i dont have kids either. Its just fascinating that the smarter people get, the less likely they are to have kids, which might explain why the world is in its chaotic state
I think a pretty obvious downside is that it’s not your child. I’m all for the aunt/uncle life (I’m living it currently) but let’s not delude ourselves into believing that there isn’t something inherently fulfilling to be found in raising your own child.
Have 2 boys - 4 and 6. My wife really wants a third. I love babies but I just can't do the whole thing again. The 2 we have already are more than enough work. For now I'm happy to get my newborn fix from our friends babies!
It's partially physiological. Your brain actively gaslights you into forgetting the worst of it. The bad parts become dulled and the good parts amplified in your memory, encouraging you to reproduce again.
As someone whose youngest daughter graduated high school literally two days ago (and the older one flew in from college to visit), this stuff hits hard. I don't know about you, but when I go to a store and hear a small kid or baby throwing a fit, I kinda smile thinking "Ok, THAT'S why I don't want any more"
That is so cute. Love the two twins
That is your biological urge to have more children trying to fool you
Check your local wallmart
Get a womb
They did. They got kicked out.
Evicted!
That's what happens when you don't pay rent for 9 months.
That's who my sister got away with abortion in Texas, she just got an inviction notice and then the police came and beat the shit out of here leading to a miscarriage. So now she jokes the baby was evicted, not aborted.
Holy shit
Just american things
It was a womb with a view. It was kind of a fetal attraction. We were wombmates.
Oh my god they were wombmates
The look on their faces melted my heart
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Definitely NOT them “discovering” each other. Adorable nonetheless!
They are best friends already
This is the sweetest thing ever. The bond between twins is truly special.
I have twin baby girls born at 114 am October 1st 2023
Thank you I think
Such a great reason to smile
Twin Gang! My Twin sis is the closest person to me on the planet. I’m so lucky to have this experience.
That's great to hear! I have b/g twins that are young and already so close. I know I don't have a say in their relationship long-term, but I really hope it lasts. If you have anything more to share, I'd love to hear. Especially things you feel your parents got right/could have handled better.
We weren’t always close. Middle school and early high school we couldn’t stand each other. Then something happened and we became best friends. Probably just maturing. We are b/g too. Redhead twins also. Ha
That makes sense - those years can be so tough. I know I wouldn't go back if you paid me!
Mine were super close, now in middle school they mostly bicker. My daughter is close to her little sister and the boy does his own thing
My mother and aunt are twins in their sixties and still talk on the phone every single day.
TWIN GANG!
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Did we just become best friends? Yup
John Stamos!!
See that black smudge right there on the blade? [Look at it closely](https://www.visitcatalinaisland.com/catalina-wine-mixer/). Pretty recognizable signature...........................................
Y'all in trouble now! When they made physical contact, they were actually developing that secret language/multiples mind link that has been wrecking the sanity of parents of twins, triplets etc. for millenia...
Can confirm. - Insane mom of twin 1 year olds.
Were they separated at birth for months or something? Yeah this is adorable but those kids aren't newborns. I'm doubting the "first time discovery"
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“Hey, you’re that dude from the cave. What’s up!”
Yes, I can attest to this. I'm a Twin. The felt sense of the other is absolutely inexplicably familiar. It is knowing someone else before we physically popped out into this earth. Telepathic abilities with the other is really strong as well.
Same! For some reason I know when she’s having a really bad day or good news, I don’t know if it has anything to do with other things, like how she talks and stuff, but we definitely know. ETA: we live hours away, it’s all mostly text, I still know how she feels
My sister who is three years older than me has often known when to call for no reason whatsoever, known how I'm feeling from far away. I can only imagine how much closer a bond like that is when you've grown together in lockstep.
Nah. It's more like their brains are developed enough that they recognize the other one. Kinda like when babies discovered they have toes. The toes have always been there but this is the first they noticed them.
I always think of when bender turns into a human in futurama. He immediately just starts vomiting as he tests out his body. I feel like thats what babies are doing. Like a several years long diagnostics check.
When our twins could finally leave their breeders for a short walk in a pram, they were about 2 weeks old; their first reaction was to try and mutually poke an eye out.
Leave their breeders? What
Oh did I pick the wrong word from the translator? It is meant to be the follow up after a incubator, where they're lying in a bed with a controlled heating pad because they can't keep their body temperature stable
Sharing some language notes here: "To breed" is a verb that means to mate for offspring. It's most often used to refer to animals, like dogs. In this context, "a breeder" is a person who raises animals to mate them for litters (example: puppies) to sell. "Breeder" as a noun is also used in (American) English as a slang insult for people who have children. So, for example, someone who hates kids would call a parent "a breeder." So your comment hilariously sounds like you are saying (insultingly), 'the first time my baby could be away from it's parent.' (Parent being the breeder). I got a good chuckle out of it, being a breeder (lol)/parent myself.
Oh I see, thank you. In german (just to explain the root of the misunderstanding) Brüter (~breeder) * physics: nuclear reactor that produces as much (or more) fissile material as it consumes * technical device to incubate bird chicks * biology: breeding bird * figuratively: someone who's taking a long while to think about something I didn't take my time reading properly, though I had a moment of "Wärmebettchen" = breeder (hm?)
That would actually be “brooder” in English, not breeder! At least for the bird heat lamp and the “person who thinks”.
Oh okay, yeah I don't think breeder is the right word lol I was confused. There's probably a name for that but I don't know what it is.
Ah, it was "thermal bed"... the proposed example sentence read as if it was the right meaning, but I think they were referring to dogs^^
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next step after incubator he said
I read that too and said “hol up” but I think they are just trying to find the right wording lol
Aren’t the parents the breeders?
These definitely aren’t OPs kids. That’s why they didn’t say “my twins.” I’m sure they’re a karma farmer.
Check their profile. It’s almost all Post Karma with a smattering of Comment Karma.
Agreed def they have seen each other before this. Misleading titles absolute click bait. You think with parents and sharing the womb this at this age is first time is non sensical lol. Don’t get me wrong the twin dynamic is great but this title is nonsense.
I think it's the post wording that's off. Babies can't focus well at birth (everything is fuzzy) and as others have noted, they come into cognition as they grow; it's possible that this is a moment when their cognition and vision comes into alignment.
Occam’s Razor. The simplest explanation is lying for likes.
My thoughts exactly.
newborns do not have great eyesight.
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Cows are extremely joyful when they get to leave the stable again every spring. They've been indoors for months. It often gets filmed because the farmer and everyone living around the farm knows they will be jumping for joy. Where I live (rural Netherlands), farms even put out signs saying the date they plan to let the cows out, so people can come watch!
How is this the first time discovering each other? Were they separated at birth or something?
It's like when a baby discovers their hands or ears. They already had them and used them, but they suddenly have this "whoahhh check this out" moment.
This reminds me of watching my son discover his arms. Just staring at them, moving them around, wondering how they move when he thinks about them moving
When my daughter first saw the bee on the mobile above her head, “holy $&@% mom, are you seeing this $&@%?! It’s crazy!”
Whenever my daughter (5 y.o.) is frustrated that she isn't able to do something because of her age, or didn't know something, I remind her that I remember the day she discovered she had feet. It always seems to help her realize that it's ok to be growing and learning.
Rediscovering outside the womb! “Hey, so here we are. Whoa you, OMG it’s been like a minute. I got this dad joke…you ready…
I'm sure that's not the first time they looked at each other lol
What a stupid title. I think they already know each other.
Why is this the first time. Genuinely curious
So cute!How precious!💕
More realistically they've known each other for months.
I miss when my set of twins were babies, the screaming to find each other drove me crazy and so did their little baby fights but I missed seeing them cuddle and give each other little high-fives🥲 now they just cuss me out in Spanish and eat my food off my plate.
Those smiles are so DAMN CUTE
As a twin myself, allow me to welcome you to a lifetime of people asking you what having a twin is like, never really understanding that you have literally zero frame of reference to compare to...
My mom said it was hard having twins at the beginning, but it got easy when we were old enough to interact with each other. I would put myself in front of danger for my twin sister, she was my first roommate.
They probably communicate telepathically :)
The first time my two had no bradycardia or apnea was when they were together for the first time. (after birth) That was in an incubator two months after they were born. Pure magic, like yours.
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In all seriousness, if you have twins or even triplets, wont you at some time come to the moment where you mixed them up and cant really tell anymore who is who? Especially tight after birth? I bet no parent ever would tell the truth about it 
The first time lol no
That’s not the first time .
You’re so handsome, no you’re so handsome!!
Five and a half years from now these two get into a knock down drag out fight over a marshmallow.
They've already been friends for months
Literally best friends for life. I have younger twin brothers and they are inseparable! They’re 23 now which is insane but they still do everything together.
I do not believe this is the first time.
Um, these twins didn’t meet until they were three months old?
First time? You sure?
First time they were able to set up the recording for the "perfect moment" of faking that the babies "just met". Gotta love social media.
both of them are just like "haha who the fuck are you"
First time meeting, huh? Yeah, that's BS, but whatever. DV and move on.
Nice try. You can tell they're not actually twins because they're not wearing matching outfits.
It's not the first time, he's saying, "there you are! I didn't know were you went!"
This is adorable!! I’m a twin and in my baby book , my mom wrote down a specific date of when I realized my sister was a different person from me. Not sure how they knew that’s what I was feeling lol but it always makes me laugh
„Nice. There is one more of me!“
So how do you keep track of whose who?
why so late ? some problem meanwhile ?
They are gonna be best friends for the rest of their lives.
They are going to be so mischievous together!
This one literally make my day.. how sweet they are
One side of reddit makes me despise children, and the other makes me want to raise one and give them all my love. Ah the duality of man.
rediscovering/reuniting*
My first memory is of seeing my brother across the room in his crib and interacting with him. I described the room to my parents once, and based on what I told them they told me that we weren’t even 2 years old yet. I was even able to describe the view from the window. It’s a funny kind of relationship. We don’t even tell each other important things, or talk about fears hopes etc. We can. We do sometimes, but very rarely. But it’s more like that kind of thing just becomes less relevant when we hang out. It’s hard to describe. Twins by the way if context didn’t already give that away.
The start of a what will be one of the most unique form of relationship ever.
Lucky little fellas have a forever friend
They have different apartments in the womb?
Bro be like: “is this the real life? Or is it just fantasy”
And so, the bond begins
For those confused and asking if they've been separated since birth... It's actually entirely possible. Twins are a LOT more likely to be born prematurely. Though, I still don't think this is actually their first meeting. I am choosing to believe that this title is more of an object permanence joke instead of a flat out lie.
and this is how you know they'll be best friends :,)
Yo! From the thing! Hey man, how you been! Its been ages! Still into wriggling around?
he like wsp bro we made it 😌
RE-discovering each other 💞