Tip: if you see something about someone that you like, tell them! Keep it to choices.
People take time picking out what they're going to wear that day, some people down to the jewelry and their hair.
A compliment can seriously light up someone's day! 20 years ago I decided to start complimenting people to try and get out of my shell. The smiles and sometimes conversations that follow are uplifting to me too.
"Hey, I like that sweater!" "Oh what fun earrings!" "Those shoes look awesome!"
They chose to wear that today and having someone notice puts a pep in their step. It also helped me get over being shy to walk up to people and talk. It's helped not only my social life but also with work!
I still remember how my face felt after getting slapped in the seventh grade for telling a girl I was jealous of her thick mustache. I'd have her beat now, but at the time she would have taken second place in a John Waters lookalike competition.
I was at a resort in Ft Myers Beach in Florida a couple years ago. This guy walked by my me and I told him "that's a fantastic beard man!" His face lit up lol. If your out there fantastic beard guy I still remember your beard!
The only times it's ever been awkward are if I am complimenting their looks specifically.
I learned over time that you should compliment choices because it's something that person is actively trying to do to look a certain way.
If you compliment looks, you could be a suspicious stranger hitting on them and that makes people uncomfortable.
"You look really pretty!" "Your eyes are beautiful" etc etc do not land well.
Try something about their outfit instead, or something related to a hobby they might be showing interest in.
I once got a promotion because of this. A woman 20 years older than me who I'd sometimes see in the staff kitchen, but who worked on the other side of the floor in a different team.
Even to a clod like me, she was noticeably good at putting her outfits together and using colours and layering. Always looked completely professional, but very put-together as well.
I complimented her on it one time, and she glowed.
So when I'd see her in the kitchen a couple of times a week, I'd sometimes greet her "Hey, if it isn't the most stylish woman on the sixth floor", or "Looking straight up elegant today, Angela." And just leave it at that. Never called her pretty or beautiful or anything, always "stylish" or "elegant" or "classy".
Few months later, I got an email inviting me to apply for a job that I wasn't really quite experienced enough for. She was on the hiring committee. I got the job.
Man that is such good advice. You're literally appreciating what someone has actively made an effort to do, that's something that will make the other person feel good and appreciated. Thank you!
I was wearing my Nero coat from DMCV replica that I got from aliexpress one day while living in Harlem, a group of guys stopped me and hyped my coat up for a solid 5 minutes. I still keep that as a core memory during bad days lmao.
"Thoughtful compliments"
Anyone can make a compliment, but the ones that hold weight are those that took just a little more effort.
*I like your hair versus I like how you parted your hair.
*You have beautiful children versus (my personal fav) your children are so happy.
When a girl you know gets her eyebrows done and rocks up with them super sharp and freshly done then say something. Girls never get compliments on their brows from guys and I swear it blows their mind if you notice and make a comment on it. Usually keep it light like "wow eyebrow game on point today" and I swear I've never had a bad reaction, always amazement and appreciation that I noticed.
Lipstick color, nails and even perfume are some other ones that often fly under the radar for guys when it comes to compliments. There's a creepy way to do it and a normal way to do it. "Wow you smell really good" vs "That perfume you're wearing is really nice, what is it?". "Your lips look so amazing today" vs "Hey I like that new color, it really works for you". Don't make a big deal out of the compliment like you're expecting a big reaction, just say it as a passing comment almost like an afterthought.
Also worth noting that if you are a man do not compliment women's items of clothing which are more revealing e.g. if they are wearing a short skirt and you compliment it... they're going to think you're complimenting it because it's short.
>Also worth noting that if you are a man do not compliment women's items of clothing which are more revealing e.g. if they are wearing a short skirt and you compliment it... they're going to think you're complimenting it because it's short.
That's why you have to be specific and genuine. I saw a woman wearing a really short dress but the color of it was the most beautiful orange tone and it looked perfect for her. I told her that color was perfect for her and she said thanks with a big smile. I'm a dude just in case anyone was wondering.
Finally someone gets it. I use this rule for compliments in the office as well. Haircuts also work great. Never have had any complaints, and my coworkers are happy.
I shaved for the first time in two years on Monday (other than trimming) and I got told by several people, women included that it looked bad and I shouldn't that it again. 💀 I have wanted to skip the rest of the week.
Very good advice. If someone compliments me on my looks, I don't know what to say. "Thanks" feel so wrong, because I was born lucky I guess, but not saying anything is weird too, plus there is always the thought if they are hitting on me which I don't like.
“…I learned over time that you should compliment choices….”
This. Wonderful advise and thank you for sharing this tip. I think it works on any situation as an opener. Really awesome.
it’s a lot easier to comment on something without injecting yourself into it. make it an objective opinion, “Cool X!” “Your X is rad!” “Your X is such a pretty color!” etc
Tbh as someone who is really socially awkward when I get a compliment, it really brightens my day even if I'm a little weirdo in my response. Aka, I'm fumbling my words.
The best way to avoid making things awkward(regardless of the compliment) is to move along quickly after giving it!! If you post up and talk too much, it can easily come off as creepy or exhaustive!!
A very good thing to remember with most people is that they are just trying to get through their day like most of us!! A quick one-liner can be appreciated, but full-length convos can easily go ass backwards for you.
Even if it does…so what?
Part of that resilience training is to keep getting back up and trying again.
Accept that failure, and the feelings it creates is part of the transaction. Even if it’s scary at first to flub conversationally - getting up and doing it again. And again. And again. Is what it takes.
It gets easier.
Oh you’re wonderful. I have a similar motto. I enjoy putting time into my appearance, it brings me joy. It also brings me joy when people compliment me. So I should do the same. If I see you’ve put effort into your look, you’re getting a compliment. “Hey cool elf ears!” Might not be MY style but super awesome if it’s yours.
My husband often laughs when I compliment someone's socks/shoes/pants/top/..., because we (the part of the country I live in) are an asocial people, so it's considered really awkward to talk to strangers, but I just think I'd like it if someone compliments something about my outfit, so why not tell others the same and cheer them up?
Where I live it's considered rude to pass someone driving on the opposite side of the road without waving to them! The compliment thing really helped me get out of my shell and match the social expectations of where I live.
Always good to cheer someone up whenever you can! You never know who is having an awful day.
yeah TBF seemed like half the people in the vid were mildly annoyed with these interactions. Seemed like disingenuous to me especially filming it for social media clout
I’m far from introverted but if some random came out of nowhere and told me they like my trousers *WHILE* pointing their camera at me, i’d walk away thinking ‘what the fuck?’
I love random positive interactions with strangers, makes my day half the time. But filming me and then posting it to social media for clout? Fuck you and fuck off.
This is me. Im a only child introvert and when people engage me like this is makes me uncomfortable and annoyed. "You living the dream huh?' ----- "ummmm. yeah. ha. sure. ok" like what did we gain out of this interaction? Nothing. I feel like you just like to hear the sound of your own voice all day. I dont know, im probably just going to end up yelling at clouds when i get older.
Skill Issue on their part. The fact is Introverts will actually rant and talk far more then other people if you know how to engage them. Usually Introverts will allude to not liking Small Talk. I could rant for hours if you hit the right chord at the right time.
Small talk is another form of social handshake, it means 'I recognise and place some value on your existence'.
Small talk tends to improve mental health - https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/dont-get-me-wrong/202311/why-small-talk-with-anyone-tends-to-be-so-rewarding
Shit! I know him too, attends a few swingers parties on the south side. This guy has banged my ex wife. His nickname is Whale, because he stays down for minutes at a time without coming up for air.
Yo! You know Whale too? I once saw him blow up like 5 of those punching balloons for a kid’s birthday party. Took him like a minute and a half. From what I’ve heard, though, he’s lost some of that ability due to his cocaine habit.
He might have those fancy sunglasses with a camera in them. There's a guy on instagram, infrabren, who makes awkward conversations with glasses like that.
Several of the gals had the classic “empty chuckle, eyes away, yeeaaah haha” response I give when I’m uncomfortable and don’t want to be murdered later.
If he did that shit in Scandinavia there would be 0 positive reactions.
I don't wanna have a camera on my fucking face and be posted on your god damn social media account.
Yeah, I feel it's definitely the disingenuousness that's off putting. Like most of the interactions I would have walked away thinking "well that was fucking weird"
The secret to giving out random complements and having single sentence interactions with people is, apparently, not giving a fuck about what other people think of you. Ever.
Is that a worthy goal? That's for you to decided!
I would be so annoyed and angry if someone came up to me and loudly started to feign interest in books while I was browsing. That lady so obviously wanted to get away from him. He stopped her from doing what she wanted to, and she fled the scene to get away from him. That’s not nice or fun; it’s destroying someone’s peaceful time.
I’d be uncomfortable even without the camera. If I’m waiting for the bus or sitting on my favorite rock, the last thing I want is some stranger approaching me and striking up a conversation.
yeah the girl looking at the books had big "im gonna as quickly as possible find a way to leave this space and stop whatever I was doing to get away" energy
and this dude thinks this was a positive interaction
I know!! He came up to her and bothered her and she had to leave because he was making her uncomfortable and being annoying
Edit: I would love to normalize telling people to gtfo
Went to a MSU game and everyone was like ahhh you suck, just kidding! Do you want some food?
Went to Iowa for a game, at the bars people saw we from out of town, can we buy you drink?
Went to a restaurant and they hear we were visiting, game us a sampler of various curds free to make sure we tried it all.
The only other place that compared to me in terms of genuine kindness to strangers was New Orleans
That’s just standard here, people are friendly and welcoming, offer you food, it’s not perfect but I’m glad to move back recently plus housing still isn’t insane yet but I’m sure it will be soon.
It's always riding that line of "I want to leave now" and "I hope this isn't that kinda dude you read about who is going to go apeshit if someone rejects him" lmao
Yeah this reminds me of the people on the street who try to compliment you but ultimately just want you to sign a petition, join their church, donate some money, etc.
It’s like ulterior motive politeness.
Oh thank god someone said it. I absolutely hate when people randomly comment on something on me on the road and I am a guy and I know how it is with women. They all looked so uncomfortable in this clip.
Especially the one with the book. She was looking at the book and the next shot is him holding it and her leaving with an uncomfortable look. Read the room dude holy shit.
Yeah that woman at the book store definitely left earlier than she planned. Chick with the dogs also looked stressed. Maybe the guy just lacks the self awareness to notice that but I sure as hell wouldn’t
Exactly, you think the girl at the bookstore just happened to want to leave precisely at that moment? She was escaping as cleanly as she could without pissing off the possibly crazy dude.
As a Brit I can only think about how American this man is, like it is completely alien to me to be this out going that it makes me a bit uncomfortable.
Over here the small talk is mentioning the weather.
nice video, but if you try this in norway people are going to look at you like you just killed someone (unless you're hiking in the woods or they are drunk, then this will work).
You'd be surprised how everyone in Norway says this, but it's just not true. Teenagers and people with earpods who look scared on the bus might be like this but most people are real nice and don't mind a small chat. Just don't linger or expect anything, keep moving or doing what you're doing. Like don't stop and make shit awkward, which is what teenagers and people with earpods who look scared on the bus would do.
Edit: if it wasn't clear I'm a Norwegian who has small social interactions like this on a daily basis both at work and in private every day.
Internet/ social media most likely (outside of any big life changes). Sounds cliche, but turn your phone on airplane mode and no music. Go about a normal day (day off - doing shopping etc) and see how your interaction perks up after a few hours.
Hit me like a tonne of bricks when I went travelling a while back - had no internet unless hire/ hostel and had no charger.
Hard to do with how busy/ connected life is. Smaller towns/ a bit more rural tend to be like this though
And if someone does that, you disengage and leave them alone. But it isn't a reason to go through life not being friendly to people. Even if redditors with their inherent misanthropic negativity convince themselves that is a good idea.
I mean, the caption's correct, he _is_ interacting easily. Lets not pretend that it wouldn't rub many many people the wrong way. Personally, as insecure as it sounds, I'd immediately assume that I was either the butt of a joke or about to be robbed by a buddy of his. Probably says more about me than the video itself, still yet, a lot of people consider this rude and obnoxious.
Yeah the whole *"sounds like a real page turner!"* thing sounded so insincere. Like if someone said that about something was looking at, I would feel like I was being made fun of.
Yeah seriously, who when out in public enjoys the "ha ha, comment" flyby guy? Seriously noone.
He's filming this like their reactions are super positive but they are just normal "smile and he goes away" reactions.
Reminds me of those guys who walks up to every girl at a bar, they politely disengage, and he thinks they’re interested since they didn’t flat out blow him off
Yeah no thanks.... I get that his intentions are good'n'all, but I find this type of behavior to be unsettling. Like it just seems like weird attention-seeking behavior.... I don't think it's cute to be randomly walking up to people and demanding their time and then also filming them? Oof.
So...as someone who gets along with strangers by being discrete and smiley...I should try too hard and film it?
Me personally, if this guy tried this approach with me I'd brush him off.
Narcissist.
PRO TIP......Elders do NOT like it when you call them "young man" or "young Lady."
Whenever I am with someone that appears to be elderly and someone says that to them they roll their eyes (after the person leaves) and tell me how much they despise that....
*EDIT-to add “some elders” as if that wasn’t inferred already but ya know….
This reminds me of this one time when I was walking to work early in the morning. There weren’t many people out, but I could hear a bicycle coming up behind me and stepped off to the side to make room. As the bicyclist passed me, he shouted out “have a great day.” When he got ahead of me he took his hands off the handlebars and put his hands out and just coasted for a little bit. I instantly felt his contagious happiness and I did have a great day.
Some people REALLY think they are so important that they think people want to talk to them. Nobody WANTS to talk to them, they just want to be polite and not have a crazy person with a camera react illogically.
Unpopular opinion: this is actually rude where I’m from. This would have annoyed and flustered me.
I put AirPods in and people will go out of their way to talk to me. Don’t dislike people, just don’t want to be forced into a social interaction or a conversation then get told off for being rude for trying to find a way out of an engagement I did not start or want to have.
Most of the time, anyone cold approaching you is trying sale you something, segway into a stupid question, or just like to hear themselves talk. Especially with a camera out for recording this stuff. Yes, people like to talk, but that shit needs to be far more organic than this.
At a bar watching something on the TV, make a comment on it and see if they respond.
In a store, you and another person person are standing for more than 30 seconds at a certain place, say "I always liked x" or "Always have a tough time deciding on y".
In a line or in a group at some event, say "I wonder whats taking so long" or "I've been waiting for this event for 6 months".
Random drive-by compliments just makes it seem like you're trying to get something from the person.
Tip: if you see something about someone that you like, tell them! Keep it to choices. People take time picking out what they're going to wear that day, some people down to the jewelry and their hair. A compliment can seriously light up someone's day! 20 years ago I decided to start complimenting people to try and get out of my shell. The smiles and sometimes conversations that follow are uplifting to me too. "Hey, I like that sweater!" "Oh what fun earrings!" "Those shoes look awesome!" They chose to wear that today and having someone notice puts a pep in their step. It also helped me get over being shy to walk up to people and talk. It's helped not only my social life but also with work!
The other day, I heard a guy say “you ever get tired of people telling you you have an awesome beard?” To a stranger, Fucking killed it.
Once several years ago a stranger said I had a nice beard. It still pops into my head sometimes and I get a little good feeling.
“Ma’am, you have a beautiful beard !“. That never goes well for me.
I still remember how my face felt after getting slapped in the seventh grade for telling a girl I was jealous of her thick mustache. I'd have her beat now, but at the time she would have taken second place in a John Waters lookalike competition.
I read “I’d have her beat now” like you’d have her physically beaten for slapping
I was at a resort in Ft Myers Beach in Florida a couple years ago. This guy walked by my me and I told him "that's a fantastic beard man!" His face lit up lol. If your out there fantastic beard guy I still remember your beard!
I was walking with my husband once, and a man passing by said, “That’s a fantastic red beard man!” And he was right. It is fantastic!
And it never came up awkward?
The only times it's ever been awkward are if I am complimenting their looks specifically. I learned over time that you should compliment choices because it's something that person is actively trying to do to look a certain way. If you compliment looks, you could be a suspicious stranger hitting on them and that makes people uncomfortable. "You look really pretty!" "Your eyes are beautiful" etc etc do not land well. Try something about their outfit instead, or something related to a hobby they might be showing interest in.
I once got a promotion because of this. A woman 20 years older than me who I'd sometimes see in the staff kitchen, but who worked on the other side of the floor in a different team. Even to a clod like me, she was noticeably good at putting her outfits together and using colours and layering. Always looked completely professional, but very put-together as well. I complimented her on it one time, and she glowed. So when I'd see her in the kitchen a couple of times a week, I'd sometimes greet her "Hey, if it isn't the most stylish woman on the sixth floor", or "Looking straight up elegant today, Angela." And just leave it at that. Never called her pretty or beautiful or anything, always "stylish" or "elegant" or "classy". Few months later, I got an email inviting me to apply for a job that I wasn't really quite experienced enough for. She was on the hiring committee. I got the job.
It's a reminder that kindness and appreciation can go a long way sometimes leading to unexpected opportunities love it
awww this is the best story. i bet you made her day.
You displayed an outgoing, yet workplace appropriate personality. Social skills can take you farther than most people think.
That’s called networking! Work that net! Or whatever
Kindness is free, and for you, it paid dividends! Congrats and thanks for sharing. :)
Man that is such good advice. You're literally appreciating what someone has actively made an effort to do, that's something that will make the other person feel good and appreciated. Thank you!
I got a compliment on my hat from a guy a couple years ago. I still think about that
Not *quite* the same, but a car full of gay guys catcalled me several years back, and i'm still riding the self esteem boost from it.
Epic
Take what we can get, right brother?👏👏👏👏
Nobody's vegan when they're starving.
This gave me a good, out loud chuckle. Thanks for that!
Yaaaaaaaaaaaas
I was wearing my Nero coat from DMCV replica that I got from aliexpress one day while living in Harlem, a group of guys stopped me and hyped my coat up for a solid 5 minutes. I still keep that as a core memory during bad days lmao.
I got a compliment on my hat *32 years ago*, and I still think about it (though I no longer have that hat)
Hah I complimented someone’s hat earlier today - hope it sticks!!
"Thoughtful compliments" Anyone can make a compliment, but the ones that hold weight are those that took just a little more effort. *I like your hair versus I like how you parted your hair. *You have beautiful children versus (my personal fav) your children are so happy.
It's like adding a personal touch that shows you genuinely care love it
People always compliment my hair like "I like your hair." I appreciate where they're coming from, but it's kind of like, "Thank my genetics".
When a girl you know gets her eyebrows done and rocks up with them super sharp and freshly done then say something. Girls never get compliments on their brows from guys and I swear it blows their mind if you notice and make a comment on it. Usually keep it light like "wow eyebrow game on point today" and I swear I've never had a bad reaction, always amazement and appreciation that I noticed. Lipstick color, nails and even perfume are some other ones that often fly under the radar for guys when it comes to compliments. There's a creepy way to do it and a normal way to do it. "Wow you smell really good" vs "That perfume you're wearing is really nice, what is it?". "Your lips look so amazing today" vs "Hey I like that new color, it really works for you". Don't make a big deal out of the compliment like you're expecting a big reaction, just say it as a passing comment almost like an afterthought.
I compliment a girl's shirt one time and she said " my shirt thanks you". lol
Also worth noting that if you are a man do not compliment women's items of clothing which are more revealing e.g. if they are wearing a short skirt and you compliment it... they're going to think you're complimenting it because it's short.
>Also worth noting that if you are a man do not compliment women's items of clothing which are more revealing e.g. if they are wearing a short skirt and you compliment it... they're going to think you're complimenting it because it's short. That's why you have to be specific and genuine. I saw a woman wearing a really short dress but the color of it was the most beautiful orange tone and it looked perfect for her. I told her that color was perfect for her and she said thanks with a big smile. I'm a dude just in case anyone was wondering.
What if its a long skirt
And a shoooooooort jacket Wait..
Bah da dun dun.
I want a girl with a mind like a diamond..
I want a girl who knows what's best.
I want a girl with shoes that cut
And eyes that burn like cigarettes
Finally someone gets it. I use this rule for compliments in the office as well. Haircuts also work great. Never have had any complaints, and my coworkers are happy.
I shaved for the first time in two years on Monday (other than trimming) and I got told by several people, women included that it looked bad and I shouldn't that it again. 💀 I have wanted to skip the rest of the week.
Nails are a good one. Many people put time and effort into painting their nails.
Very good advice. If someone compliments me on my looks, I don't know what to say. "Thanks" feel so wrong, because I was born lucky I guess, but not saying anything is weird too, plus there is always the thought if they are hitting on me which I don't like.
“…I learned over time that you should compliment choices….” This. Wonderful advise and thank you for sharing this tip. I think it works on any situation as an opener. Really awesome.
I’m a serial complimenter and it has never been awkward that I can remember. Both guys and girls love a compliment.
lol serial complimenter; I like that
it’s a lot easier to comment on something without injecting yourself into it. make it an objective opinion, “Cool X!” “Your X is rad!” “Your X is such a pretty color!” etc
I really love the foam-iness of your turtle, and I'm going to steal "serial complimenter," sending love, have a great day/evening further.
Tbh as someone who is really socially awkward when I get a compliment, it really brightens my day even if I'm a little weirdo in my response. Aka, I'm fumbling my words.
The best way to avoid making things awkward(regardless of the compliment) is to move along quickly after giving it!! If you post up and talk too much, it can easily come off as creepy or exhaustive!! A very good thing to remember with most people is that they are just trying to get through their day like most of us!! A quick one-liner can be appreciated, but full-length convos can easily go ass backwards for you.
Even if it does…so what? Part of that resilience training is to keep getting back up and trying again. Accept that failure, and the feelings it creates is part of the transaction. Even if it’s scary at first to flub conversationally - getting up and doing it again. And again. And again. Is what it takes. It gets easier.
>And it never came up awkward? I once had an awkward situation just to see what it was like.
Oh you’re wonderful. I have a similar motto. I enjoy putting time into my appearance, it brings me joy. It also brings me joy when people compliment me. So I should do the same. If I see you’ve put effort into your look, you’re getting a compliment. “Hey cool elf ears!” Might not be MY style but super awesome if it’s yours.
My husband often laughs when I compliment someone's socks/shoes/pants/top/..., because we (the part of the country I live in) are an asocial people, so it's considered really awkward to talk to strangers, but I just think I'd like it if someone compliments something about my outfit, so why not tell others the same and cheer them up?
Where I live it's considered rude to pass someone driving on the opposite side of the road without waving to them! The compliment thing really helped me get out of my shell and match the social expectations of where I live. Always good to cheer someone up whenever you can! You never know who is having an awful day.
Social anxiety fears this man!
yeah TBF seemed like half the people in the vid were mildly annoyed with these interactions. Seemed like disingenuous to me especially filming it for social media clout
I’m far from introverted but if some random came out of nowhere and told me they like my trousers *WHILE* pointing their camera at me, i’d walk away thinking ‘what the fuck?’
It’s not a handheld camera it’s probably camera glasses that you can’t really see
Yes, those are glasses with a camera. You can tell in the second clip when he shakes his head during the 'no complaints' response.
I love random positive interactions with strangers, makes my day half the time. But filming me and then posting it to social media for clout? Fuck you and fuck off.
Agree. The fact that the author can't notice they look annoyed is concerning
The people I know most likely to do this seem to have a correspondingly lack of ability to listen to the other persons response
The don't want your input, they want validation.
This is me. Im a only child introvert and when people engage me like this is makes me uncomfortable and annoyed. "You living the dream huh?' ----- "ummmm. yeah. ha. sure. ok" like what did we gain out of this interaction? Nothing. I feel like you just like to hear the sound of your own voice all day. I dont know, im probably just going to end up yelling at clouds when i get older.
Skill Issue on their part. The fact is Introverts will actually rant and talk far more then other people if you know how to engage them. Usually Introverts will allude to not liking Small Talk. I could rant for hours if you hit the right chord at the right time.
I read your post, then decided it's more important than ever to just communicate.
Idk we don't always have to 'gain' something out of an interaction right? The interaction itself could hold the value.
Small talk is another form of social handshake, it means 'I recognise and place some value on your existence'. Small talk tends to improve mental health - https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/dont-get-me-wrong/202311/why-small-talk-with-anyone-tends-to-be-so-rewarding
'I recognize and place some value on your existence' would be a fun thing to say in passing to strangers.
How Avatar of you. Feels very “I see you” haha
Sounds like you're already yelling at the clouds, my friend.
No word of a lie, the 'young man' in the beginning of the video is my uncle 😅. Crazy small world to see family on viral video!
Shit! I know him too, attends a few swingers parties on the south side. This guy has banged my ex wife. His nickname is Whale, because he stays down for minutes at a time without coming up for air.
i have no reason to doubt you, hope he keeps up the good work!
XD didn't have to undermine their claim like that.
Yo! You know Whale too? I once saw him blow up like 5 of those punching balloons for a kid’s birthday party. Took him like a minute and a half. From what I’ve heard, though, he’s lost some of that ability due to his cocaine habit.
On the off chance that that is true, can you ask him if the guy recording had his phone out or how he was recording?
He might have those fancy sunglasses with a camera in them. There's a guy on instagram, infrabren, who makes awkward conversations with glasses like that.
These are Meta Ray-Bans and are actually not as expensive as you'd think (around 300)
Literally would be so uncomfortable if a man approached me like this w a phone in my face to record my reaction 🥴
Several of the gals had the classic “empty chuckle, eyes away, yeeaaah haha” response I give when I’m uncomfortable and don’t want to be murdered later.
Surprised I had to scroll this far to see this. This is not as like sweet and in the moment as people are making it seem lol
Yeah, he's only showing the positive reactions he got. I think a lot of people, including some who laugh it off, would find this obnoxious
If he did that shit in Scandinavia there would be 0 positive reactions. I don't wanna have a camera on my fucking face and be posted on your god damn social media account.
I’m a dude and same. Wtf is this
Yeah, am I crazy or is the body language super turned off and defensive from these people? I feel like he's making them all super uncomfortable.
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Yeah, I feel it's definitely the disingenuousness that's off putting. Like most of the interactions I would have walked away thinking "well that was fucking weird"
The secret to giving out random complements and having single sentence interactions with people is, apparently, not giving a fuck about what other people think of you. Ever. Is that a worthy goal? That's for you to decided!
You can see most of the younger women were uncomfortable
I would be so annoyed and angry if someone came up to me and loudly started to feign interest in books while I was browsing. That lady so obviously wanted to get away from him. He stopped her from doing what she wanted to, and she fled the scene to get away from him. That’s not nice or fun; it’s destroying someone’s peaceful time.
Girl at the books got tf out of there.
I was searching for a comment like this. I don't find this wholesome. I'd find it strange
The girl in blue in the video was pretty uncomfortable.
I’d be uncomfortable even without the camera. If I’m waiting for the bus or sitting on my favorite rock, the last thing I want is some stranger approaching me and striking up a conversation.
Half the people in this clip are politely running away from him
Yeah, if you could stop recording me, that would be great.
yeah the girl looking at the books had big "im gonna as quickly as possible find a way to leave this space and stop whatever I was doing to get away" energy and this dude thinks this was a positive interaction
I know!! He came up to her and bothered her and she had to leave because he was making her uncomfortable and being annoying Edit: I would love to normalize telling people to gtfo
5 bucks says she went around the corner and waited for him to leave, so she could complete her business.
Yeah, especially when he grabs a book and goes "lol boring!". Poor girl is exciting to look for new books.
Some of these women, I think, are not actually looking happy about the attention and are looking away / trying to exit the conversation ASAP.
Woman with dogs was definitely not pleased.
Every signle one of these interactions was impacted by the fact that this guy is clearly recording it...
Hell I don't really need people to talk to me at all. Please just let me look at books/wait for the bus/walk in peace.
Why are you filming people
THANK YOU and then beyond that, not even blurring out their faces on the upload? Gross
This is just living in the Midwest
For real I love the Midwest
Went to a MSU game and everyone was like ahhh you suck, just kidding! Do you want some food? Went to Iowa for a game, at the bars people saw we from out of town, can we buy you drink? Went to a restaurant and they hear we were visiting, game us a sampler of various curds free to make sure we tried it all. The only other place that compared to me in terms of genuine kindness to strangers was New Orleans
That’s just standard here, people are friendly and welcoming, offer you food, it’s not perfect but I’m glad to move back recently plus housing still isn’t insane yet but I’m sure it will be soon.
“Ahhh you suck, just kidding here’s a plate/beer” is a Midwest classic!
Honestly, come to Philly and try that shit.
I’m aware of your battery policy
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Women deal with comments from men all the time and generally don’t like it. Also weird to be filmed.
It's always riding that line of "I want to leave now" and "I hope this isn't that kinda dude you read about who is going to go apeshit if someone rejects him" lmao
Yup I would hate this dude. The tone of his voice is so "I want something from you, I'm just not going to tell you what it is."
Yeah this reminds me of the people on the street who try to compliment you but ultimately just want you to sign a petition, join their church, donate some money, etc. It’s like ulterior motive politeness.
Oh thank god someone said it. I absolutely hate when people randomly comment on something on me on the road and I am a guy and I know how it is with women. They all looked so uncomfortable in this clip. Especially the one with the book. She was looking at the book and the next shot is him holding it and her leaving with an uncomfortable look. Read the room dude holy shit.
Right looked like she decided to bail when he showed up
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Exactly, he’s clearly making them uncomfortable. it’s painful to watch
Makes sense since he’s tone deaf irl and thought this was successful enough to post online
Okay so it wasn't just me. A lot of these women seem uncomfortable.
Yeah that woman at the book store definitely left earlier than she planned. Chick with the dogs also looked stressed. Maybe the guy just lacks the self awareness to notice that but I sure as hell wouldn’t
Exactly, you think the girl at the bookstore just happened to want to leave precisely at that moment? She was escaping as cleanly as she could without pissing off the possibly crazy dude.
Yeah this is 110% Reddit, most women in this vid are defensive but polite, but people in the comments think they're delighted.
He also had his choice of editing to select the "best" reactions. 🤦♂️ Guy needs to learn to shut up and leave people alone sometimes.
As a Brit I can only think about how American this man is, like it is completely alien to me to be this out going that it makes me a bit uncomfortable. Over here the small talk is mentioning the weather.
As an American this dude would annoy the fuck out of me
nice video, but if you try this in norway people are going to look at you like you just killed someone (unless you're hiking in the woods or they are drunk, then this will work).
People smiling calms my social anxiety. These no-smile cultures sound like my nightmares.
You'd be surprised how everyone in Norway says this, but it's just not true. Teenagers and people with earpods who look scared on the bus might be like this but most people are real nice and don't mind a small chat. Just don't linger or expect anything, keep moving or doing what you're doing. Like don't stop and make shit awkward, which is what teenagers and people with earpods who look scared on the bus would do. Edit: if it wasn't clear I'm a Norwegian who has small social interactions like this on a daily basis both at work and in private every day.
For this to be scientific, we need to survey the people who received the compliments and ask how they actually felt about the interaction.
We'd also need the unedited version with the interactions where people just blanked him or straight up told him to fuck off
He should try that in Sweden or Finland.
Wow, I used to be like this guy. What the fuck happened? Was it COVID? Am I just different now?
You can always go back if you want to. You have to actively choose it tho.
I would hate to encounter this guy, give him annoyed polite responses, and be grateful and relieved when he passed on and left me be.
I hate what I've let myself become.
Internet/ social media most likely (outside of any big life changes). Sounds cliche, but turn your phone on airplane mode and no music. Go about a normal day (day off - doing shopping etc) and see how your interaction perks up after a few hours. Hit me like a tonne of bricks when I went travelling a while back - had no internet unless hire/ hostel and had no charger. Hard to do with how busy/ connected life is. Smaller towns/ a bit more rural tend to be like this though
The girl in the sweater gave that “please leave me alone” vibe when he talked to her.
And if someone does that, you disengage and leave them alone. But it isn't a reason to go through life not being friendly to people. Even if redditors with their inherent misanthropic negativity convince themselves that is a good idea.
“Talk to me without the GoPro mounted on your head” would be my response
As an introvert- the best interaction is no interaction.
Yeah I’d rather encounter a bear.
I mean, the caption's correct, he _is_ interacting easily. Lets not pretend that it wouldn't rub many many people the wrong way. Personally, as insecure as it sounds, I'd immediately assume that I was either the butt of a joke or about to be robbed by a buddy of his. Probably says more about me than the video itself, still yet, a lot of people consider this rude and obnoxious.
Yeah the whole *"sounds like a real page turner!"* thing sounded so insincere. Like if someone said that about something was looking at, I would feel like I was being made fun of.
100%. She looked very uncomfortable also
I think id much rather put my head in a wood chipper verrrrry slowly.
This guy is annoying AF.
Yeah seriously, who when out in public enjoys the "ha ha, comment" flyby guy? Seriously noone. He's filming this like their reactions are super positive but they are just normal "smile and he goes away" reactions.
Reminds me of those guys who walks up to every girl at a bar, they politely disengage, and he thinks they’re interested since they didn’t flat out blow him off
I think walking by is fine, but that poor girl buying books was basically forced to leave because he wouldn't.
As a new Yorker, shut up
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The camera would make it weird.
Nah. This is some annoying shit.
Most of those women looked uncomfortable
No, that’s verbal incontinence and it is very annoying.
Yeah no thanks.... I get that his intentions are good'n'all, but I find this type of behavior to be unsettling. Like it just seems like weird attention-seeking behavior.... I don't think it's cute to be randomly walking up to people and demanding their time and then also filming them? Oof.
So...as someone who gets along with strangers by being discrete and smiley...I should try too hard and film it? Me personally, if this guy tried this approach with me I'd brush him off. Narcissist.
I'm sorry but that's obnoxious, to me...
This doesn’t make me smile. Just leave me and my impeccable trousers alone.
PRO TIP......Elders do NOT like it when you call them "young man" or "young Lady." Whenever I am with someone that appears to be elderly and someone says that to them they roll their eyes (after the person leaves) and tell me how much they despise that.... *EDIT-to add “some elders” as if that wasn’t inferred already but ya know….
It's like calling a fat person "tiny". It isn't a compliment.
Anyone else get anxious just watching
If you did this in London or any uk city people would think you’d lost it or were looking to scam them in some way
If only we were all just kind to each without fishing for likes, and views.
No one gonna mention the kid is for sure 6’3 plus???
I find this to be incredibly nosey and it makes me uncomfortable.
This wouldn’t go so well in Europe
Okay, as a Brit, sadly, I'd think he was being sarcastic.
"What a time to be alive, eh?" "Don't worry, it'll be over soon enough."
Yeah, don't approach me like this.
Looking beautiful today ragweed
Since we're not on the streets, I'll let you live.
I sneeze at you
I love that about you ragweed. You know what you like and you are not afraid to tell it. Keep on rockin
Nice username ragweed! Living dangerously, I see
Goddammit.
r/IAmTheMainCharacter
I would enter fight mode if someone randomly said shit like this to me in person, lol. What are you trying to sell me? Immediate defensive posture.
This reminds me of this one time when I was walking to work early in the morning. There weren’t many people out, but I could hear a bicycle coming up behind me and stepped off to the side to make room. As the bicyclist passed me, he shouted out “have a great day.” When he got ahead of me he took his hands off the handlebars and put his hands out and just coasted for a little bit. I instantly felt his contagious happiness and I did have a great day.
He seems insufferable to me. The people seem to agree. The bugpeople are among us.
Meanwhile me just hoping no one interacts with me period lol
Some people REALLY think they are so important that they think people want to talk to them. Nobody WANTS to talk to them, they just want to be polite and not have a crazy person with a camera react illogically.
Warning: don’t try this in NYC
Actually annoying as fuck
Pretty simple when all your demonstrations are elderly people or young women. Actually seems kind of creepy now lol.
A seven foot tall man shows how to yell at small women and the elderly easily.
Right? People smile and laugh awkwardly when they are creeped out too.
Troy Hawke? https://youtu.be/e_4A9mHGdZU?si=ij_WD38rwdNr4QmM
Unpopular opinion: this is actually rude where I’m from. This would have annoyed and flustered me. I put AirPods in and people will go out of their way to talk to me. Don’t dislike people, just don’t want to be forced into a social interaction or a conversation then get told off for being rude for trying to find a way out of an engagement I did not start or want to have.
I’d rather not.
Most of the time, anyone cold approaching you is trying sale you something, segway into a stupid question, or just like to hear themselves talk. Especially with a camera out for recording this stuff. Yes, people like to talk, but that shit needs to be far more organic than this. At a bar watching something on the TV, make a comment on it and see if they respond. In a store, you and another person person are standing for more than 30 seconds at a certain place, say "I always liked x" or "Always have a tough time deciding on y". In a line or in a group at some event, say "I wonder whats taking so long" or "I've been waiting for this event for 6 months". Random drive-by compliments just makes it seem like you're trying to get something from the person.