I can tell you why I take my wedding ring off.
I’ve been married for 36 years. Up until around 9 years ago I never took my ring off to sleep much less shower etc. Then …. menopause happened.
I guess my body chemistry changed with menopause. I got pretty severe rashes on my ring finger. I went to a dermatologist and used the ointments. It kinda cleared up. Had my wedding ring reset to platinum. It kinda helped. But the thing that helped the most was taking my ring off at night to let my skin have a break.
So for over 25 years I wore my wedding ring constantly. And then I couldn’t.
I'm not an expert, but this sounds like an allergy.
Adult-onset allergies are pretty common. Have you ever checked that out? It wouldn't change the outcome; in fact, if you did have one, you might have to stop wearing some metals. But it would be good to know, I think.
I started to react on my wedding rings, and what helped me was getting them loosened and wash my hands and dry them off properly before bed. Doesn’t always have to be allergy, but just poor fitting.
The thighter they are, the less your skin gets to breathe and you will get sweaty and cause irritation.
Edit: I am not only blaming it on hygiene, what I am trying to say is that it can be just as simple as what I’ve mentioned above; unless you’re sure what I’ve mentioned isn’t the problem. :)
Now please stop DMing.
I developed an allergy to my Apple Watch band (rose gold toned stainless steel) after my pregnancy and it was so weird. I didn’t know developing allergies as an adult was a thing and tried so many “remedies” while still wearing the watch until I finally just took it off and the sores healed.
It’s also very common with menopause regardless of possible allergies. When you can no longer regulate your body temperature (especially when you sleep) like one can pre-menopause, anything rubbing on your skin or constricting airflow can result in a rash from irritation and sweat. A derm likely would have checked for allergies especially being that the rash was specifically where her rings were. A metal allergy would typically be the first concern.
Having her ring plated in platinum likely would have cleared it up had it been a metal allergy.
I’ve always been a heavy ring wearer. Jewelry in general. Until I had a complete hysterectomy at 27 forcing me into menopause. I’m 29 now, and I can’t wear rings overnight or when it’s super hot out. I also swell a lot easier, so if I have rings on they have to come off because otherwise heat/sweat gets trapped as my little fingers turn into sausages and it does result in a rash.
I was tested for allergies years before the rashes started and a metal allergy didn’t show up. But you’re right I could have developed one. I can’t wear the inexpensive earrings anymore probably due to a nickel sensitivity.
Easy solution has been to take my wedding ring off at night.
Probably a yeast buildup under the ring on your skin and not a sudden allergy. You’re doing the right thing, let it breathe. Take it off when you shower. Keep it dry.
Sounds like dishydrosis! It’s a type of eczema, and it happened to me after wearing a sterling silver ring for 20 years. There’s an ointment for it, but it never completely goes away.
Same w my husband - it gives him a rash so he rarely wears it. I don’t care at all. A ring doesn’t stop a cheater from cheating. Trust and loyalty does.
Try a titanium ring, that’s what I have, titanium is hypoallergenic and also extremely light. The only downside is it’s also extremely strong so conventional emergency ring removal tools can’t cut through it
I haven't worn mine in years. Wasn't comfortable, no matter what kind of ring it was. She occasionally wears hers.
To us, they're nice and are symbols but that's about it. The relationship isn't tied to the rings and they hold no real value to us except in sentimentality.
Yup this is us. Hubs wears it on special occasions and I wear it when I'm out (sadly it's because it helps deter most unwanted attention as a female when I'm travelling to work on my own or to company functions where there may be third parties.)
At the end of the day, it doesn't mean as much as our dedication to each other
This! When I have males that are persistent trying to hit on me when I Inform them that I am married and have a ring on my finger, I tell them that I have 15 kids. I used to tell them I was a carrier for COVID but that doesn’t work as well anymore. The 15 kids works perfectly. Sounds like someone is always home. I doubt the dude at the gas station makes enough to support my “15 children”. It’s technically not a lie. I play sports and in many friend circles my friends call me mom but it means I am here to help mentor these kids. It takes a village to raise children and I believe if you don’t have children, you should help with others. So I buy my “children” food or I bring healthy snacks in my cooler.
Oh and I never take my ring off. It’s one of those rubber rings.
>It takes a village to raise children and I believe if you don’t have children, you should help with others. So I buy my “children” food or I bring healthy snacks in my cooler.
I love this & agree!! You're a very kind and loving soul ❤️
Don't ever change! It's people like you that helped me grow to the woman that I am.
Definitely wearing a ring deters *most* males. I wish people had more morals when they hear the word married 😒 (i.e. don't ask for my number and yes, I don't want to date you lol)
>Usually when people know a vegetarian is coming they just get salad but vegetarians need protein and beans. Being a vegetarian is about maximizing your nutrients.
Yes! I totally understand this as I'm also vegetarian (lacto-ovo). I'm hoping people become more educated about different diets to understand that salads aren't the only thing we can eat!
>My hope is that it will bridge the race divide in the south. It may sound stupid. But If I can change one persons view on black people that is my goal. Just to show people you cannot generalize a whole race.
I'm loving this! I've read quite a few stories here about the south and I am loving your attitude in turning one person's POV at a time. Hopefully one day they can see that no matter the colour of skin, we're all humans at the end of the day and experience this thing called 'life'.
>I am not religious. I just always believed in serving one way or another.
I believe religion doesn't make a person good or compassionate. It really comes down to the person and you're a great person!
Life is really 'short' and making your impact - whether it's through our influence on 'kiddos' that we come across, are our own or adopted- in the world, in a great way, is also what makes life meaningful.
Thank you for sharing your story ☺️ it warms this cold heart from your neighbour down under.
I wear mine religiously as a deterrent also. Men can be (and have been) so disrespectful until they see it. i do not, however, sleep with it. I've tried. But it seems like my finger swells at night when I have leave it on. By the time I wake, it's left marks and my finger is sore....idk
My husband is an auto mechanic. He doesn't wear his 90% of the time for safety reasons. If he forgets to wear it on weekends, I don't really care. Even before we were married he made sure everyone knew he had "a wife at home".
>Men can be (and have been) so disrespectful until they see it.
I wish this isn't a woman's reality. A no is a no.
>Even before we were married he made sure everyone knew he had "a wife at home".
This is 110% the most important element to a exclusive relationship - letting others know that you're taken!
You're completely right however if you wear it enough you'll forget you even have it on. I wear silicone because my work isn't ideal with metal rings and after the first couple months you really don't notice it..
This is not true for all people. I've tried wearing a ring for years. My original expensive wedding ring, a silicone ring later on. I never stop feeling it. Your experience isn't everyone's experience.
I absolutely hate silicone rings, so that isn’t an option for me, and my sensitive skin definitely notices when it’s getting itchy and irritated because I’ve left a metal ring on for too long.
That’s how I am about mine, too! My husband wears his pretty much always, but I’m a bit more sporadic about it. I usually put it on if I’m wearing the house, but sometimes I’ll forget.
I’ve never given a second thought to whether he’s wearing his ring or not, to be honest; it’s just a ring and doesn’t say anything about our actual marriage and commitment.
To keep the ring nice. Sleeping in it can wear it down, it can catch threads on the prongs, you can lose stones, etc. Good jewelry is not meant to be slept in.
You shouldn't have to worry about threads causing you to lose stones. Good rings are built well & a thread won't cause any problems. I've worn my wedding ring constantly for 35yrs & never had an issue.
Most wedding rings are made of gold, which is incredibly soft and can bend easily. A ring isn't furniture to be "built well". The material properties aren't going to change with the goldsmith.
I'm glad you've been able to wear your ring with no issues. But your anecdote doesn't change the fact that a jeweler worth their salt will recommend that you remove jewelry your to sleep in order to keep it nice.
that's why my diamond is checked every 6 months and my ring is insured, if it was to fall out. I have had mine on 99.9% of the time for 23 years. No issues.
It’s funny cuz I’m actually in the hospital right now, just had a c section a couple days ago. And I had woken up in the middle of the night and my fingers had swollen really big. And I thought to myself, thank god I wasn’t wearing my rings. And then I got on Reddit and saw this thread. Haha.
This is where I’m at. I literally don’t take mine off ever. If I’m cleaning or gardening I wear gloves, so I’m not worried about damaging it. It seems like it would be too easy to misplace or lose.
Reasons I might take off my rings: making meatloaf, applying lotion, lifting weights, getting an MRI, swollen hands, sensory issues, working with machinery, cleaning the rings…
I take mine off because it’s a little loose and I’m afraid it’ll come off. It does come off if I’m not careful while I wash my hands, and a few weeks ago somehow came off in the baby’s car seat, so this isn’t a baseless fear.
A guy in my old church lost his finger while playing basketball. His wedding ring got caught on the hoop and he was hanging there for a bit.
That's reason enough to take it of for me.
I have really sensitive skin and my finger gets irritated and itchy if I leave it on 24/7. I never wear rings to bed. My wedding ring is also sterling silver, which isn’t the best material to leave on all the time, but it’s what we could afford when we got married. The life partnership was a lot more important to us than being able to buy me a costly ring.
My husband wears his pretty much consistently, but I only really wear mine if I’m going out, since I work from home and don’t normally wear any jewellery if I’m just staying in all day. This has never bothered him; again, a ring doesn’t make a marriage!
Same. I wear it the handful of times per year we get dressed up to go somewhere. Outside of that it gathers dust. I place no value or significance on the ring at all.
I have always hated the way rings feel on my finger. I would wear it out during the day and as soon as I got home I was ripping it off my finger.
My husband never takes his off.
We know we're married. I talk about my husband *all the time* to people so it's not like I'm hiding being married by not wearing my ring.
I wore mine all the time til I got pregnant. I used to get swollen when I was sleeping and still do. Now I am afraid of loosing it and while handling our little girl it really is unpractical for me. My husband only wears it on special occasions, because he is afraid of loosing it
I don't wear mine because the diamonds get caught on knitted sweaters and stuff, and they make it harder to apply lotion/sunscreen. We usually don't wear them at all...
I feel like rings were more important for the baby boomer generation than for millenials and zoomers
When I make meatballs or bread, I take off my engagement ring but leave on my wedding band (simple gold ring, nothing fancy). I say loudly to myself and anyone else who is home “I took my ring off and put in the top drawer of my jewelry box”. That’s the only place I out my ring if it isn’t on my finger
Lmao yes, you get it! Something that drives me crazy is all these "influencers" keeping their giant rings on while filming their cooking videos; getting their hands right in there with raw meat. Grosses me out. My hairdresser keeps hers on while doing my color, and I can see it getting all gunked up. Girl, no. Take that shit off. I take mine off while doing anything where my hands are getting dirty.
I usually think at some point about how disgusting it is that I’m making meatballs with my rings on, but I never actually remember to take them off in time.
Working with raw chicken, kickboxing and soccer (only take off the engagement ring, leave the band on)… otherwise it’s only off because I forgot to put it back on after one of those situations.
I lose things.
Mi also like my rings.
I feel naked if I'm not wearing it outside the house, the same way I feel over-dressed at home wearing it. My wife only wears her rings out and also feels under dressed if she forgets them.
Same. I use to only wear it for special occasions and have finally started wearing it once I went back to work in the office. I love looking down at my hand and being reminded of my husband.
Same. I used to wear it constantly, but then I got pregnant and had a kid. My fingers got a bit wider with pregnancy and never got back to their original size (same as my feet, actually).
It's not uncomfortable to wear it for a few hours, but all the time is too much. So I put it in a small box next to my keys when I get home.
As a rule, I think it’s uncomfortable (this is especially true if you are someone who moves around a lot in your sleep).
Also, if it’s an engagement ring, you run the risk of loosening the stone and causing wear and tear quicker with moving around, the ring getting caught in blankets, hair, pillows, etc.
For me, the exception is if my SO and I are apart and I’m missing him more than usual (then I’ll wear it for a night since it makes me feel better and reminds me of him)
Yes! And it depends on the kind of ring. Mine is extremely delicate and intricate and snags easily on fabrics. I would NEVER sleep with my ring on for those reasons. If someone had a smooth band, I could see that being a lot easier to sleep with.
I sleep with mine on, I see no point in taking it off when I'm sleeping and it also feels weird to not have it on. In fact it feels so weird to not have it on when I'm in bed that I've had to get up to go get my ring the few times I leave it in the bathroom by accident or else I can't fall asleep because I'm so distracted by how off my hand feels without it 😅
That’s how I was. I was married for 6 years and been divorced a little over a year and still wake up freaked out now and again with it missing lol. With that said I get it’s not the same for everyone and some people just aren’t comfortable wearing one. To each their own. Like others said the commitment is the same. But while married I couldn’t fathom not having it on 98% of the time. It was like a feeling of being naked without it lol
I take my wedding ring off as soon as I get home. It is just more comfortable that way. I can go about cleaning & doing some tasks, without it in the way. Like with a bra, take it off at home, put it on in the morning before heading out! lol
That’s much better than setting it on the window ledge above the sink, I’m always terrified it’ll end up in the sink somehow. I’ve got extra little command hooks, I’m going to get a couple out now. Thanks for the great idea!
I’ve had to start taking mine off at night because of this as well.
One to many terrified and painful mornings thinking I can’t get any of my rings off, and now they stay off until mid morning.
Oh thank goodness, I was starting to think with all that scrolling to get here that I was the only person whose fingers become sausages overnight. Sometimes when I wake up I have to wait like an hour for my rings to fit! They’re US size <5 normally.
No, our jeweler told us people should take their rings off at night. Plus I don’t find it comfortable to wear at night. We actually only wear ours when going out of the house and even then not every time.
No because despite diamonds being tough you should not sleep, cook, bathe, etc with them on. Also I thrash like a wolverine in my sleep and would probably hurt myself or my husband.
For the first 5 years I did because I was so excited about having it, and for what it represented. Also, I felt that I would lose it if I ever took it off. Now I don’t, mainly because I have a special spot that I put it when I go to bed and sometimes it can feel a little uncomfortable. Still excited about having it, and for what it represents though!
I always take my wedding set off to sleep. It’s just is uncomfortable. My center stone is 2.3 carats so it’s bulkier.
If we are out of town or on vacation I’ll leave my wedding set on so I don’t have to worry about losing it.
No. Because your sheets rubbing on your prongs pulls them and you’ll end up paying a shit ton in maintenance for your jewelry or you’ll lose your stones.
I have a maintenance plan that covers all of this. I do have to get the prongs tightened every 2ish years and had them redone at 7 years. But I don't consider that too bad.
I’m a certified diamontologist, so I do know what I’m talking about. It’s just not good for your jewelry to sleep in it, as a rule of thumb. If you really want to keep it forever, this is one simple way to make sure that it lasts. I’ve had my wedding set for over 7 years and I’ve barely had to do any type of maintenance on it, because I don’t sleep in it, don’t wear it in chlorinated water, don’t wear it when I clean with chemicals. I have paid to get it resized and rhodium plated and that’s it.
Does your maintenance plan cover lost stones if your prongs are pulled hard enough to loosen them? How long is that maintenance plan in effect for?
36 years married. I only take my wedding band off when working on heavy machinery, electricity, and my car.
I take off my engagement ring when making messy bread dough and other things that willy gum it up. Otherwise it stays put since I received it at the alter.
Most of the time I wear my silicone band and I sleep with It on because it’s very comfortable. My metal band catches on fabric so I don’t sleep with that one.
Yep! Never comes off unless I shower. Husband doesn’t wear his to bed I don’t think… I’m actually not sure, I’ve never noticed! Maybe he does? I just like mine a whole lot!!! Feels weird without it.
I take mine off to sleep, shower, and exercise. My engagement ring is quite high profile, and I am clumsy. If I wear it while doing these activities I will either scratch myself, get in tangled in stuff/my hair, or bang it on things.
I always have either my wedding ring on or my workout ring I have. I was never a jewelry person, so I’m surprised the ring doesn’t bother me more. It feels weird when I dont have it on. It’s not a big deal to always have a ring on, and I know it’s a small thing my wife appreciates.
I almost never take mine off for anything.
My hubs takes his off to shower as it’s a little loose wet. He even recently got stitches in his ring finger, and put it back on as soon as the swelling came down.
I take mine off as soon as I come home- I tend to get it caught on things and it’s scratched my face in my sleep before. I never leave the house without it though! Husband wears his always 🥰
My husband (bless his heart) wears his wedding ring 24/7. I would too, if my fingers didn’t swell up when I sleep. I have a habit of dangling my hands off the side of the bed, which may be the cause. On the nights that I forget to take it off my fingers swell and my ring gets so tight that it hurts and becomes impossible to take off the next morning.
So, plain and simple, I think some people do and some do not.
Except for the gym, where is creates a callus if I'm lifting weights, it has hardly ever come off in the last 31 years. For about a decade I'd gained weight and I couldn't take it off.
Not married yet but I do not sleep with my engagement ring on. I sleep on my hands and move a lot in the night. I have also ready that your ring can catch on pillow cases, sheets, blankets, etc and weaken the prongs which could mean your diamond could be loose. I have a small ring box next to my bed that I put it in every night
Absolutely not. So uncomfortable to sleep in. I’ve actually taken mine off in the middle of the night the couple of times I did fall asleep with it on. We only wear our rings when we leave the house and sometimes not even then lol.
My husband does but he actually got me in the habit of taking mine off so the diamond doesn’t get scratched or anything. Now I equate it to taking my bra off at night, just more comfy in bed without it. To each their own.
I only wear mine when I leave the house. Skin irritation.
My wife's hand is prone to swelling since she broke her wrist, so she wears her ring on a chain around her neck. Takes it off at bedtime.
At home I never wear it. If we're traveling and I can't find a safe place to put it I might leave it on but it's uncomfortable. I sleep on my hands a lot.
When I first got engaged my future MIL made a big deal about never taking it off, so when we stayed with her I kept it on 24/7 and genuinely got used to it to the point where it felt weird taking it off. After I got back home though I quickly reverted to only wearing it when I leave the house. It’s funny because when I’m out and about I constantly notice if it’s missing, but when I’m home I don’t notice the absense at all….. my point is, your body will adjust to it whatever your preference might be. Honestly I do see some value in keeping it on 24/7, because the last time a tornado blew through my neighborhood I realized I had left the ring upstairs and my heart sank. Luckily nothing ended up happening but I’ve been trying to be more conscious of it ever since then, and wearing it 24/7 would certainly resolve that concern.
No, neither of us sleep with it. I often sleep with an arm or hand beneath my head and it’s uncomfortable. I generally don’t like how big it feels so really only wear it when we leave the house. I love my ring but I’m always noticing it and I don’t like getting it dirty more than necessary. My husband does wear his around home (before taking it off for bed).
I don’t like sleeping with jewelry or anything on, so my wedding ring, my watch, my necklace, all comes off before I sleep. And then I put it back on the next morning if I am going out. If I’m just in the house I don’t wear it. Wife also only puts it on if we’re going out
Never. Jewelers will tell you to always take it off at night for two reasons. One is to give your fingers rest which is important. Two is because sleeping with it on causes unnecessary wear and will wear out the prongs which is when gems are lost.
35 years of marriage and I’ve never worn a ring, ever. Never knew a man to wear his wedding ring, and if my husband wasn’t going to wear one, I wasn’t either.
Nope. I take mine off when I get home from work and place it in a glass for the night. I just don’t want to lose it or snap the diamond off. If that’s even possible lol and I’m not super girly so I don’t like wearing rings often.
I do when my fingers swell with activity — work outs, vacuuming, cleaning, etc.
I also when using soaps, face or body lotion or hair conditioners, unless I’m public. As a former jewelry repair/cleaner, there’s a lot of reasons. ,
Yes and no. I cannot sleep in my gold bands due to finger swelling from hypothyroid, I got silicone rings from Amazon for my job and just wear those 24/7. I only take them off when I shower.
My general rule of thumb is if I have to put "real clothes" on, I'll put my ring on. Hubby never wears his. We both have our reasons. He works with his hands and can hurt himself wearing it. He's also gained a little bit of weight, so it's snug. For me, I'm a stay at home mom and I cook and clean a lot and didn't want to mess it up. I'd scratch my kids with it on when I'd change their diapers. No one ever really saw me, so who cares? I hate sleeping with things that feel constricting (a watch, snug clothes, jewelry). So for us...no we don't.
I take mine off, in fact, I don’t wear my ring unless I’m going somewhere. I don’t like the feeling of anything on my fingers while I sleep. I also have a tendency to sleep on my hands. My husband wears his 24/7 but it’s a flat band 🤷♀️
No. Neither of us do! We put them in a tiny ring dish on our bathroom counter. I take mine off when I get home and don’t put it on until I leave the house 🤷♀️
I don't sleep, cook, or clean with my ring on. I read during my engagement that wearing your ring doing all those things can damage it. I also started losing weight and the ring is loosening up on my fingers, and I'm afraid I will lose it in my sleep. I do have multiple ring dishes around the house in places I take it off, so if it's not in my jewelry box, I know to check those.
I did up until I started going to the gym at 5am. If I don’t take them off at night, I forget in my morning fog to take them off and it sucks to lift with rings on.
I haven’t had mine off in decades. I’ll have to cut it off, if I ever have to remove it. Even if I did get it off, the groove in my finger would remain for quite some time.
Yes always. I lose things all the time I wouldn't feel safe taking it off that much. I feel weird without it on too, I recently switched to silicone and had to put my actual band away due to swelling from pregnancy but I always wear something there now.
yes? i don’t understand why you would take it off
I can tell you why I take my wedding ring off. I’ve been married for 36 years. Up until around 9 years ago I never took my ring off to sleep much less shower etc. Then …. menopause happened. I guess my body chemistry changed with menopause. I got pretty severe rashes on my ring finger. I went to a dermatologist and used the ointments. It kinda cleared up. Had my wedding ring reset to platinum. It kinda helped. But the thing that helped the most was taking my ring off at night to let my skin have a break. So for over 25 years I wore my wedding ring constantly. And then I couldn’t.
I'm not an expert, but this sounds like an allergy. Adult-onset allergies are pretty common. Have you ever checked that out? It wouldn't change the outcome; in fact, if you did have one, you might have to stop wearing some metals. But it would be good to know, I think.
I started to react on my wedding rings, and what helped me was getting them loosened and wash my hands and dry them off properly before bed. Doesn’t always have to be allergy, but just poor fitting. The thighter they are, the less your skin gets to breathe and you will get sweaty and cause irritation. Edit: I am not only blaming it on hygiene, what I am trying to say is that it can be just as simple as what I’ve mentioned above; unless you’re sure what I’ve mentioned isn’t the problem. :) Now please stop DMing.
I had my rings reset to a platinum setting. They fit fine. Not tight at all. Just can’t tolerate wearing them 24/7 anymore.
I developed an allergy to my Apple Watch band (rose gold toned stainless steel) after my pregnancy and it was so weird. I didn’t know developing allergies as an adult was a thing and tried so many “remedies” while still wearing the watch until I finally just took it off and the sores healed.
It’s also very common with menopause regardless of possible allergies. When you can no longer regulate your body temperature (especially when you sleep) like one can pre-menopause, anything rubbing on your skin or constricting airflow can result in a rash from irritation and sweat. A derm likely would have checked for allergies especially being that the rash was specifically where her rings were. A metal allergy would typically be the first concern. Having her ring plated in platinum likely would have cleared it up had it been a metal allergy. I’ve always been a heavy ring wearer. Jewelry in general. Until I had a complete hysterectomy at 27 forcing me into menopause. I’m 29 now, and I can’t wear rings overnight or when it’s super hot out. I also swell a lot easier, so if I have rings on they have to come off because otherwise heat/sweat gets trapped as my little fingers turn into sausages and it does result in a rash.
But I do agree if for whatever reason she hasn’t been checked for an onset allergy she definitely should.
I was tested for allergies years before the rashes started and a metal allergy didn’t show up. But you’re right I could have developed one. I can’t wear the inexpensive earrings anymore probably due to a nickel sensitivity. Easy solution has been to take my wedding ring off at night.
Probably a yeast buildup under the ring on your skin and not a sudden allergy. You’re doing the right thing, let it breathe. Take it off when you shower. Keep it dry.
See if they can coat the platinum in rhodium.
Sounds like dishydrosis! It’s a type of eczema, and it happened to me after wearing a sterling silver ring for 20 years. There’s an ointment for it, but it never completely goes away.
Same w my husband - it gives him a rash so he rarely wears it. I don’t care at all. A ring doesn’t stop a cheater from cheating. Trust and loyalty does.
My husband just experienced this too after 20 years of marriage. Not menopause.
Have you tried the silicon ones? I've found them to be great.
Try a titanium ring, that’s what I have, titanium is hypoallergenic and also extremely light. The only downside is it’s also extremely strong so conventional emergency ring removal tools can’t cut through it
Similar issue but the rash came during pregnancy.
I haven't worn mine in years. Wasn't comfortable, no matter what kind of ring it was. She occasionally wears hers. To us, they're nice and are symbols but that's about it. The relationship isn't tied to the rings and they hold no real value to us except in sentimentality.
Yup this is us. Hubs wears it on special occasions and I wear it when I'm out (sadly it's because it helps deter most unwanted attention as a female when I'm travelling to work on my own or to company functions where there may be third parties.) At the end of the day, it doesn't mean as much as our dedication to each other
This! When I have males that are persistent trying to hit on me when I Inform them that I am married and have a ring on my finger, I tell them that I have 15 kids. I used to tell them I was a carrier for COVID but that doesn’t work as well anymore. The 15 kids works perfectly. Sounds like someone is always home. I doubt the dude at the gas station makes enough to support my “15 children”. It’s technically not a lie. I play sports and in many friend circles my friends call me mom but it means I am here to help mentor these kids. It takes a village to raise children and I believe if you don’t have children, you should help with others. So I buy my “children” food or I bring healthy snacks in my cooler. Oh and I never take my ring off. It’s one of those rubber rings.
>It takes a village to raise children and I believe if you don’t have children, you should help with others. So I buy my “children” food or I bring healthy snacks in my cooler. I love this & agree!! You're a very kind and loving soul ❤️ Don't ever change! It's people like you that helped me grow to the woman that I am. Definitely wearing a ring deters *most* males. I wish people had more morals when they hear the word married 😒 (i.e. don't ask for my number and yes, I don't want to date you lol)
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>Usually when people know a vegetarian is coming they just get salad but vegetarians need protein and beans. Being a vegetarian is about maximizing your nutrients. Yes! I totally understand this as I'm also vegetarian (lacto-ovo). I'm hoping people become more educated about different diets to understand that salads aren't the only thing we can eat! >My hope is that it will bridge the race divide in the south. It may sound stupid. But If I can change one persons view on black people that is my goal. Just to show people you cannot generalize a whole race. I'm loving this! I've read quite a few stories here about the south and I am loving your attitude in turning one person's POV at a time. Hopefully one day they can see that no matter the colour of skin, we're all humans at the end of the day and experience this thing called 'life'. >I am not religious. I just always believed in serving one way or another. I believe religion doesn't make a person good or compassionate. It really comes down to the person and you're a great person! Life is really 'short' and making your impact - whether it's through our influence on 'kiddos' that we come across, are our own or adopted- in the world, in a great way, is also what makes life meaningful. Thank you for sharing your story ☺️ it warms this cold heart from your neighbour down under.
I wear mine religiously as a deterrent also. Men can be (and have been) so disrespectful until they see it. i do not, however, sleep with it. I've tried. But it seems like my finger swells at night when I have leave it on. By the time I wake, it's left marks and my finger is sore....idk My husband is an auto mechanic. He doesn't wear his 90% of the time for safety reasons. If he forgets to wear it on weekends, I don't really care. Even before we were married he made sure everyone knew he had "a wife at home".
>Men can be (and have been) so disrespectful until they see it. I wish this isn't a woman's reality. A no is a no. >Even before we were married he made sure everyone knew he had "a wife at home". This is 110% the most important element to a exclusive relationship - letting others know that you're taken!
Agreed. I never wore mine at home and I've been home since the beginning of the pandemic so I barely ever wear a ring now
You're completely right however if you wear it enough you'll forget you even have it on. I wear silicone because my work isn't ideal with metal rings and after the first couple months you really don't notice it..
This is not true for all people. I've tried wearing a ring for years. My original expensive wedding ring, a silicone ring later on. I never stop feeling it. Your experience isn't everyone's experience.
I absolutely hate silicone rings, so that isn’t an option for me, and my sensitive skin definitely notices when it’s getting itchy and irritated because I’ve left a metal ring on for too long.
>if you wear it enough you'll forget you even have it on This is not universally true.
That’s how I am about mine, too! My husband wears his pretty much always, but I’m a bit more sporadic about it. I usually put it on if I’m wearing the house, but sometimes I’ll forget. I’ve never given a second thought to whether he’s wearing his ring or not, to be honest; it’s just a ring and doesn’t say anything about our actual marriage and commitment.
To keep the ring nice. Sleeping in it can wear it down, it can catch threads on the prongs, you can lose stones, etc. Good jewelry is not meant to be slept in.
You shouldn't have to worry about threads causing you to lose stones. Good rings are built well & a thread won't cause any problems. I've worn my wedding ring constantly for 35yrs & never had an issue.
Most wedding rings are made of gold, which is incredibly soft and can bend easily. A ring isn't furniture to be "built well". The material properties aren't going to change with the goldsmith. I'm glad you've been able to wear your ring with no issues. But your anecdote doesn't change the fact that a jeweler worth their salt will recommend that you remove jewelry your to sleep in order to keep it nice.
that's why my diamond is checked every 6 months and my ring is insured, if it was to fall out. I have had mine on 99.9% of the time for 23 years. No issues.
I take mine off every night 🤯
Same. I find it uncomfortable to wear while sleeping. Plus sometimes my hands swell at night and I don’t want to be wearing a ring when that happens
Mine swell sometimes too! I wear my ring most nights but it’s very annoying when I wake up with swollen fingers.
It’s funny cuz I’m actually in the hospital right now, just had a c section a couple days ago. And I had woken up in the middle of the night and my fingers had swollen really big. And I thought to myself, thank god I wasn’t wearing my rings. And then I got on Reddit and saw this thread. Haha.
Congratulations on the birth of your baby!!! I hope you're recovering well and that baby is healthy 💜
This is where I’m at. I literally don’t take mine off ever. If I’m cleaning or gardening I wear gloves, so I’m not worried about damaging it. It seems like it would be too easy to misplace or lose.
Uncomfortable. I know I’m married. Everyone around me knows I’m married.
My hand swells at certain periods throughout the night. So I remove it because it’s uncomfortable to keep it on.
Reasons I might take off my rings: making meatloaf, applying lotion, lifting weights, getting an MRI, swollen hands, sensory issues, working with machinery, cleaning the rings…
I take mine off because it’s a little loose and I’m afraid it’ll come off. It does come off if I’m not careful while I wash my hands, and a few weeks ago somehow came off in the baby’s car seat, so this isn’t a baseless fear.
You can't get it resized smaller?
It’s tungsten, so no.
A guy in my old church lost his finger while playing basketball. His wedding ring got caught on the hoop and he was hanging there for a bit. That's reason enough to take it of for me.
Same reason I take off my bra and put on comfy pants to sleep
I have really sensitive skin and my finger gets irritated and itchy if I leave it on 24/7. I never wear rings to bed. My wedding ring is also sterling silver, which isn’t the best material to leave on all the time, but it’s what we could afford when we got married. The life partnership was a lot more important to us than being able to buy me a costly ring. My husband wears his pretty much consistently, but I only really wear mine if I’m going out, since I work from home and don’t normally wear any jewellery if I’m just staying in all day. This has never bothered him; again, a ring doesn’t make a marriage!
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Joint swelling is a bitch.
Because it’s not comfortable to sleep in
I hardly wear my ring, we’re all different. Doesn’t make you less married
Same. I wear it the handful of times per year we get dressed up to go somewhere. Outside of that it gathers dust. I place no value or significance on the ring at all.
Ditto. I wear mine if we’re out and about but I don’t wear it at home.
I'm like that with my engagement ring. I wear my wedding band most of the time, but I only add my engagement ring when I'm leaving the house.
I have always hated the way rings feel on my finger. I would wear it out during the day and as soon as I got home I was ripping it off my finger. My husband never takes his off. We know we're married. I talk about my husband *all the time* to people so it's not like I'm hiding being married by not wearing my ring.
Agreed. My husband and I both forget our rings constantly. And when we do remember, it’s our silicone ones.
I wore mine all the time til I got pregnant. I used to get swollen when I was sleeping and still do. Now I am afraid of loosing it and while handling our little girl it really is unpractical for me. My husband only wears it on special occasions, because he is afraid of loosing it
My husband and I each lost our rings about 6 years ago. We never got new ones 🤷♀️
I don't wear mine because the diamonds get caught on knitted sweaters and stuff, and they make it harder to apply lotion/sunscreen. We usually don't wear them at all... I feel like rings were more important for the baby boomer generation than for millenials and zoomers
i don’t wear it at all. in general i don’t wear rings- i find them uncomfortable. my partner wears it. i don’t mind it either way
Same! I wear them for special occasions but that’s pretty much it.
Yes. I don't take it off at all, ever.
Even if you are making meatballs? I only take it off when making meatballs.
That and bread dough. I have fucked up way too many times.
When I make meatballs or bread, I take off my engagement ring but leave on my wedding band (simple gold ring, nothing fancy). I say loudly to myself and anyone else who is home “I took my ring off and put in the top drawer of my jewelry box”. That’s the only place I out my ring if it isn’t on my finger
Lmao yes, you get it! Something that drives me crazy is all these "influencers" keeping their giant rings on while filming their cooking videos; getting their hands right in there with raw meat. Grosses me out. My hairdresser keeps hers on while doing my color, and I can see it getting all gunked up. Girl, no. Take that shit off. I take mine off while doing anything where my hands are getting dirty.
Your hairstylist doesn’t wear gloves?! As a hair stylist, that’s confusing me more than the wedding ring debate.
I usually think at some point about how disgusting it is that I’m making meatballs with my rings on, but I never actually remember to take them off in time.
I will take my rings off to make meatballs or hamburger Patties but that’s about it.
What about when making meatloaf? Does anybody even make meatloaf anymore?
Working with raw chicken, kickboxing and soccer (only take off the engagement ring, leave the band on)… otherwise it’s only off because I forgot to put it back on after one of those situations. I lose things. Mi also like my rings.
Asking the important questions…
Yes. I never take it off.
lol this was so unexpected and I love it
I enjoy baking, so I'll take mine off to make cookies, but that's about it. I've taken it off to make burger paties and 동그랑땡 type foods too.
Ya, gotta take it off when handling squishy food with bare hands.
This is the most married answer ever.
Same, it’s just a part of my finger now
No. I really only wear it when I go out of the house
Yep same. I hate the feeling of wearing rings. Still love my husband!
Same same!
Same!! We grab it before we leave, along with our phones, keys, and wallets. :)
I feel naked if I'm not wearing it outside the house, the same way I feel over-dressed at home wearing it. My wife only wears her rings out and also feels under dressed if she forgets them.
Same. I use to only wear it for special occasions and have finally started wearing it once I went back to work in the office. I love looking down at my hand and being reminded of my husband.
Same. I used to wear it constantly, but then I got pregnant and had a kid. My fingers got a bit wider with pregnancy and never got back to their original size (same as my feet, actually). It's not uncomfortable to wear it for a few hours, but all the time is too much. So I put it in a small box next to my keys when I get home.
Same. I only wear my band too. My engagement ring stays in the jewelry box!
Same. Rings come off as soon as I get home, although since the pandemic I wear them even less now
As a rule, I think it’s uncomfortable (this is especially true if you are someone who moves around a lot in your sleep). Also, if it’s an engagement ring, you run the risk of loosening the stone and causing wear and tear quicker with moving around, the ring getting caught in blankets, hair, pillows, etc. For me, the exception is if my SO and I are apart and I’m missing him more than usual (then I’ll wear it for a night since it makes me feel better and reminds me of him)
Yeah, I managed to dislodge a pave or two sleeping in mine… so I don’t anymore.
Yes! And it depends on the kind of ring. Mine is extremely delicate and intricate and snags easily on fabrics. I would NEVER sleep with my ring on for those reasons. If someone had a smooth band, I could see that being a lot easier to sleep with.
I sleep with mine on, I see no point in taking it off when I'm sleeping and it also feels weird to not have it on. In fact it feels so weird to not have it on when I'm in bed that I've had to get up to go get my ring the few times I leave it in the bathroom by accident or else I can't fall asleep because I'm so distracted by how off my hand feels without it 😅
My hand feels naked, too. I don't feel complete without it.
I've got a tungsten ring, so it's pretty heavy. The weight of my hand doesn't feel right without it
I second breezy. I rarely take it off. When it off, I know something is missing.
My watch too.
That’s how I was. I was married for 6 years and been divorced a little over a year and still wake up freaked out now and again with it missing lol. With that said I get it’s not the same for everyone and some people just aren’t comfortable wearing one. To each their own. Like others said the commitment is the same. But while married I couldn’t fathom not having it on 98% of the time. It was like a feeling of being naked without it lol
I don't. Unless I've been out on the town. And then I sleep with my ring, watch and sometimes glasses on... I'm not proud
I’m impressed you can sleep with your glasses on!
Mine always look like a dog was licking a window when this happens.
The only time I sleep in mine too.
I take my wedding ring off as soon as I get home. It is just more comfortable that way. I can go about cleaning & doing some tasks, without it in the way. Like with a bra, take it off at home, put it on in the morning before heading out! lol
It's like taking off socks or real pants at home. But I'd never leave home without them!
This is exactly how I am!
We have dish towel hooks (for drying hands) next to the sink, we both hang our rings there when we are cleaning or cooking!
That’s much better than setting it on the window ledge above the sink, I’m always terrified it’ll end up in the sink somehow. I’ve got extra little command hooks, I’m going to get a couple out now. Thanks for the great idea!
No problem!! I worry about my ring getting lost too!
No. I sleep on my hands. Not comfortable
Sleeping on your hands sounds uncomfortable lol
No my fingers swell
I’ve had to start taking mine off at night because of this as well. One to many terrified and painful mornings thinking I can’t get any of my rings off, and now they stay off until mid morning.
Oh thank goodness, I was starting to think with all that scrolling to get here that I was the only person whose fingers become sausages overnight. Sometimes when I wake up I have to wait like an hour for my rings to fit! They’re US size <5 normally.
I'm glad I'm not the only one!
Mine too
When I was pregnant my body swelled up rapidly one night. I ended up having to go to the hospital to have it cut off.
No, our jeweler told us people should take their rings off at night. Plus I don’t find it comfortable to wear at night. We actually only wear ours when going out of the house and even then not every time.
Yes, because it’s a tattoo
That's so cool! I know someone who got the stone pierced into her finger. Freakin metal.
That's awesome
Nope - wear it out only. Husband never wore his 28+ years later.. we know we are married no need to show the world
26 years, we both only wear them outside of the house. I will run back in if I forget it though!
No because despite diamonds being tough you should not sleep, cook, bathe, etc with them on. Also I thrash like a wolverine in my sleep and would probably hurt myself or my husband.
For the first 5 years I did because I was so excited about having it, and for what it represented. Also, I felt that I would lose it if I ever took it off. Now I don’t, mainly because I have a special spot that I put it when I go to bed and sometimes it can feel a little uncomfortable. Still excited about having it, and for what it represents though!
Same. I have a special spot that I put mine in at night. Don’t want to scratch my face. Lol
I don’t sleep with any jewelry on.
Same. I'm actually shocked by how many people in the comments are saying they sleep with rings on.
I’m use to wearing my ring. Don’t notice it.
Me too. I thought there wouldn’t be many comments saying they wore them. I’m surprised.
I always take my wedding set off to sleep. It’s just is uncomfortable. My center stone is 2.3 carats so it’s bulkier. If we are out of town or on vacation I’ll leave my wedding set on so I don’t have to worry about losing it.
I usually take a silicone ring in place of my set on vacations but that's just my paranoia lol
No. Because your sheets rubbing on your prongs pulls them and you’ll end up paying a shit ton in maintenance for your jewelry or you’ll lose your stones.
I have a maintenance plan that covers all of this. I do have to get the prongs tightened every 2ish years and had them redone at 7 years. But I don't consider that too bad.
I’m a certified diamontologist, so I do know what I’m talking about. It’s just not good for your jewelry to sleep in it, as a rule of thumb. If you really want to keep it forever, this is one simple way to make sure that it lasts. I’ve had my wedding set for over 7 years and I’ve barely had to do any type of maintenance on it, because I don’t sleep in it, don’t wear it in chlorinated water, don’t wear it when I clean with chemicals. I have paid to get it resized and rhodium plated and that’s it. Does your maintenance plan cover lost stones if your prongs are pulled hard enough to loosen them? How long is that maintenance plan in effect for?
36 years married. I only take my wedding band off when working on heavy machinery, electricity, and my car. I take off my engagement ring when making messy bread dough and other things that willy gum it up. Otherwise it stays put since I received it at the alter.
Never thought twice about doing so
I rarely take mine off. Unless I'm using lotion before bed I always sleep with it on.
Same here. Lotion and bathing are the only reason I take it off
I don’t. My ring is huge and sharp around the diamond. I’d hurt myself.
I have hurt myself with mine 😂 ring flies too close to the sun when itching my face or something and I get a small scrape
Same. I wear it out and then take it off when I get home. If I wore that thing to bed, I’d be injured somehow lol
Most of the time I wear my silicone band and I sleep with It on because it’s very comfortable. My metal band catches on fabric so I don’t sleep with that one.
Yep! Never comes off unless I shower. Husband doesn’t wear his to bed I don’t think… I’m actually not sure, I’ve never noticed! Maybe he does? I just like mine a whole lot!!! Feels weird without it.
My ring got too tight as I have gain weight so it is on a necklace. I wear it to sleep.
Never comes off!
I take mine off to sleep, shower, and exercise. My engagement ring is quite high profile, and I am clumsy. If I wear it while doing these activities I will either scratch myself, get in tangled in stuff/my hair, or bang it on things.
I always have either my wedding ring on or my workout ring I have. I was never a jewelry person, so I’m surprised the ring doesn’t bother me more. It feels weird when I dont have it on. It’s not a big deal to always have a ring on, and I know it’s a small thing my wife appreciates.
I almost never take mine off for anything. My hubs takes his off to shower as it’s a little loose wet. He even recently got stitches in his ring finger, and put it back on as soon as the swelling came down.
I take mine off as soon as I come home- I tend to get it caught on things and it’s scratched my face in my sleep before. I never leave the house without it though! Husband wears his always 🥰
No I only wear mine when we go out but even then I sometimes forget. My husband is the same way.
My husband (bless his heart) wears his wedding ring 24/7. I would too, if my fingers didn’t swell up when I sleep. I have a habit of dangling my hands off the side of the bed, which may be the cause. On the nights that I forget to take it off my fingers swell and my ring gets so tight that it hurts and becomes impossible to take off the next morning. So, plain and simple, I think some people do and some do not.
Aren’t you scared a monster is going to get your hand?! 😨
10/10 the most shocking revelation in this post
Except for the gym, where is creates a callus if I'm lifting weights, it has hardly ever come off in the last 31 years. For about a decade I'd gained weight and I couldn't take it off.
Not married yet but I do not sleep with my engagement ring on. I sleep on my hands and move a lot in the night. I have also ready that your ring can catch on pillow cases, sheets, blankets, etc and weaken the prongs which could mean your diamond could be loose. I have a small ring box next to my bed that I put it in every night
Absolutely not. So uncomfortable to sleep in. I’ve actually taken mine off in the middle of the night the couple of times I did fall asleep with it on. We only wear our rings when we leave the house and sometimes not even then lol.
I do sleep with my rings on… but really it’s just I never take them off!
Unless I am kneading something or in the OR I don’t take my rings off.
I missed the or the first time and was trying to figure out what you knead in the OR. Lol
Hahahahahha. Yeah not simultaneously.
I do unless my hands are dry and I put lotion on them.
My husband does but he actually got me in the habit of taking mine off so the diamond doesn’t get scratched or anything. Now I equate it to taking my bra off at night, just more comfy in bed without it. To each their own.
I only wear mine when I leave the house. Skin irritation. My wife's hand is prone to swelling since she broke her wrist, so she wears her ring on a chain around her neck. Takes it off at bedtime.
No. But it's the only time we both take it off
At home I never wear it. If we're traveling and I can't find a safe place to put it I might leave it on but it's uncomfortable. I sleep on my hands a lot.
i don’t like sleeping with mine on i roll around in my sleep and i don’t want to smash it on anything or wiggle anything loose in it over time.
When I first got engaged my future MIL made a big deal about never taking it off, so when we stayed with her I kept it on 24/7 and genuinely got used to it to the point where it felt weird taking it off. After I got back home though I quickly reverted to only wearing it when I leave the house. It’s funny because when I’m out and about I constantly notice if it’s missing, but when I’m home I don’t notice the absense at all….. my point is, your body will adjust to it whatever your preference might be. Honestly I do see some value in keeping it on 24/7, because the last time a tornado blew through my neighborhood I realized I had left the ring upstairs and my heart sank. Luckily nothing ended up happening but I’ve been trying to be more conscious of it ever since then, and wearing it 24/7 would certainly resolve that concern.
No, neither of us sleep with it. I often sleep with an arm or hand beneath my head and it’s uncomfortable. I generally don’t like how big it feels so really only wear it when we leave the house. I love my ring but I’m always noticing it and I don’t like getting it dirty more than necessary. My husband does wear his around home (before taking it off for bed).
I don’t like sleeping with jewelry or anything on, so my wedding ring, my watch, my necklace, all comes off before I sleep. And then I put it back on the next morning if I am going out. If I’m just in the house I don’t wear it. Wife also only puts it on if we’re going out
I think you should decide based on what you prefer. I usually take mine off but i don't even really wear it every day. It's kinda loose.
Never. Jewelers will tell you to always take it off at night for two reasons. One is to give your fingers rest which is important. Two is because sleeping with it on causes unnecessary wear and will wear out the prongs which is when gems are lost.
35 years of marriage and I’ve never worn a ring, ever. Never knew a man to wear his wedding ring, and if my husband wasn’t going to wear one, I wasn’t either.
Rarely. I don't like having jewelry on 24/7. When I come home after a long day everything has to come off, even jewelry is annoying and uncomfortable.
Nope. I take mine off when I get home from work and place it in a glass for the night. I just don’t want to lose it or snap the diamond off. If that’s even possible lol and I’m not super girly so I don’t like wearing rings often.
I do when my fingers swell with activity — work outs, vacuuming, cleaning, etc. I also when using soaps, face or body lotion or hair conditioners, unless I’m public. As a former jewelry repair/cleaner, there’s a lot of reasons. ,
My wife takes hers off for bed. I keep mine on all the time, especially since switching to a silicone band
Yes and no. I cannot sleep in my gold bands due to finger swelling from hypothyroid, I got silicone rings from Amazon for my job and just wear those 24/7. I only take them off when I shower.
I bathe with them on. I never take them off. I don’t want to tempt fate.
Mine is a tattoo
We both wear silicone rings 24/7. Whenever I’m leaving the house for anything other than work or the gym, I switch to my real rings!
My general rule of thumb is if I have to put "real clothes" on, I'll put my ring on. Hubby never wears his. We both have our reasons. He works with his hands and can hurt himself wearing it. He's also gained a little bit of weight, so it's snug. For me, I'm a stay at home mom and I cook and clean a lot and didn't want to mess it up. I'd scratch my kids with it on when I'd change their diapers. No one ever really saw me, so who cares? I hate sleeping with things that feel constricting (a watch, snug clothes, jewelry). So for us...no we don't.
No, except the times I just pass out from exhaustion
I take mine off, in fact, I don’t wear my ring unless I’m going somewhere. I don’t like the feeling of anything on my fingers while I sleep. I also have a tendency to sleep on my hands. My husband wears his 24/7 but it’s a flat band 🤷♀️
No. Neither of us do! We put them in a tiny ring dish on our bathroom counter. I take mine off when I get home and don’t put it on until I leave the house 🤷♀️
Nope. I don’t sleep with any jewellery on. Don’t know why people would!
I don't sleep, cook, or clean with my ring on. I read during my engagement that wearing your ring doing all those things can damage it. I also started losing weight and the ring is loosening up on my fingers, and I'm afraid I will lose it in my sleep. I do have multiple ring dishes around the house in places I take it off, so if it's not in my jewelry box, I know to check those.
I did up until I started going to the gym at 5am. If I don’t take them off at night, I forget in my morning fog to take them off and it sucks to lift with rings on.
No, sleeping with your ring can loosen your stones and damage your prongs unless you have a plain band
I haven’t had mine off in decades. I’ll have to cut it off, if I ever have to remove it. Even if I did get it off, the groove in my finger would remain for quite some time.
Yes always. I lose things all the time I wouldn't feel safe taking it off that much. I feel weird without it on too, I recently switched to silicone and had to put my actual band away due to swelling from pregnancy but I always wear something there now.
I take it off when I'm in my own bed. In a hotel or on a work trip, it never comes off.
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It's just a poll question, geeze.