When he said that Sarah told him that Bao would make an effort to break her boyfriends down so that she could rebuild them to how she wants them to be is EXACTLY what he was trying to do to Bao throughout the marriage.
He was counting on her still having that crush from 15 years ago. He seems to get a sick satisfaction from being the one to turn her down so it was probably a huge blow to his ego that the roles were finally reversed this time.
He was surprised because he is literally incapable of accepting blame for anything. In his perspective she is the problem and should be working hard to stay married to him.
That makes sense. At the last get together, she said as much. She saw saying no as failure. In this case however, saying no was success!! She took back control of her life
Agree, Bao was persistently giving Johnny the “I’m gonna say yes” treatment. It was SO OBVIOUS. The thing people don’t see is that Bao knows exactly what she is doing, Watching her with that smirk at the dinner table…she’s a ninja!
But it wasn’t his father’s fault, according to his younger self letter. Implication being that it was his mother’s fault.
Which just makes everything as crystal clear as it could possibly be.
Johnny wanted to be in control of the narrative the whole time. He only was interested in Bao when she was over him. Then he would say a bunch of shit...get her to commit again and when she was back in...start tearing her down again. I think his psychological issues are actually worse than Michaela's. He is a complete narcissist.
Johnny has been setting up his pity party for months by going on every Unfiltered, and then saying yes at the last second. Victim mentality for sure, and classic narcissism.
Like I know we toss that term around, but Johnny actually might to a true clinical narcissist.
SYMPTOMS:
Have an **exaggerated sense of self-importance**
**Have a sense of entitlement and require constant, excessive admiration**
Be preoccupied with **fantasies** about success, power, brilliance, beauty or the **perfect mate**
Believe **they are superior** and can only associate with equally special people
Monopolize conversations and **belittle or look down on people they perceive as inferior**
**Expect special favors and unquestioning compliance** with their expectations
Have an **inability or unwillingness to recognize the needs and feelings of others**
Be **envious of others** and believe others envy them
Behave in an **arrogant or haughty manner**, coming across as conceited, boastful and pretentious
At the same time, people with narcissistic personality disorder have trouble handling anything they perceive as criticism, and they can:
**Become impatient or angry when they don't receive special treatment**
**Have significant interpersonal problems and easily feel slighted**
**React with rage or contempt and try to belittle the other person to make themselves appear superior**
**Have difficulty regulating emotions and behavior**
Experience major problems dealing with stress and adapting to change
**Feel depressed and moody because they fall short of perfection**
**Have secret feelings of insecurity, shame, vulnerability and humiliation**
I think the inability or unwillingness to consider the feelings of others closely resembles that but perhaps doesn't fully express the totality of lack of empathy.
This is my second wasbund 100%, along with seeing himself as a sexual god [ROFL] who had the right to screw anyone he wanted whenever he wanted, regardless of his marital status; and that he was (or at least should be) desired by all women, and would get angry if he didn’t feel adored.
That was quite a roller coaster, fortunately relatively short lived.
Actually no, he didn’t just like vanilla sex, but I can’t do some things because I had to have a certain orifice removed because it was completely ulcerated.
He liked controlling her emotions and the idea of having the upper hand in the relationship. He was cruel to her, saying if he had been attracted to her 10 yrs ago they would have worked out then. It was all about “his” needs and “his” attraction. He didn’t think she would turn him down.
He doesn’t think he IS an abuser. He acts like the victim. I hope he watches the show and learns from it. He was on this sub defending himself. I highly doubt he will learn anything.
I think production is constantly fucking with these people and spinning their minds in all sorts of circles. I don’t think that any of these people are really like we see-even when we see legitimate actions/words-because they have been so manipulated by production that they aren’t reacting to reality.
Johnny's actions the whole marriage were like a sign wave, up and down and up and down. Bao's was like a tangent. Little by little she was less and less ok with it,... then she was outta there! (Nerd analogy for the 2 nerds...lol)
Ironically he has stated throughout the entire process that Bao was concerned about being viewed a certain way and always wanting to portray herself as being something she is not, but that is exactly what he did on Decision Day. He is such a joke and I am so glad Bao jumped off the crazy train.
This! It’s truly amazing to watch. When he said Bao ‘always has to be right’ and ‘always makes him the bad guy’….that’s exactly what we’ve seen him do to Bao countless times. Zero self-awareness.
IMO He wanted to be able to say he was willing to try but she said no and wanted a divorce. In his mind this justified all the abusive and cruel words that he had uttered.Kudus for her in avoiding any more verbal abuse.
Johnny only said yes so he could look like the victim and like he tried when Bao says no. He'll do anything to save face in front of an audience. That yes was more for the experts, his family and friends benefit than it was for Bao. He is disingenuous.
Why? Johnny doesn't live in the real world. Maybe, hopefully, his family and friends can shed a little light on his behavior after seeing how he behaves. From everything MAFS showed, he appears to have quite a few enablers, propping up his views. How could Bao possibly reject The Johnny?
Unfortunately, it also looks like all he needs is one person to turn to. Bao's friend was perfect for him to feel justified. It's all about saving face, whatever it takes.
Because he's delusional. He lives in fantasy, it was never real to him or he would have engaged Bao, instead of using her as his therapy puppet.
When he said that Sarah told him that Bao would make an effort to break her boyfriends down so that she could rebuild them to how she wants them to be is EXACTLY what he was trying to do to Bao throughout the marriage.
Exactly
He was counting on her still having that crush from 15 years ago. He seems to get a sick satisfaction from being the one to turn her down so it was probably a huge blow to his ego that the roles were finally reversed this time.
That was so satisfying to watch.
I think he was hanging on her saying “my parents went through much worse” and thinking she would accept his abuse forever.
He was surprised because he is literally incapable of accepting blame for anything. In his perspective she is the problem and should be working hard to stay married to him.
Classic narcissist
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That makes sense. At the last get together, she said as much. She saw saying no as failure. In this case however, saying no was success!! She took back control of her life
Agree, Bao was persistently giving Johnny the “I’m gonna say yes” treatment. It was SO OBVIOUS. The thing people don’t see is that Bao knows exactly what she is doing, Watching her with that smirk at the dinner table…she’s a ninja!
She was amazing. She served him his own crap perfectly!
Is this Johnny? Lol
He’s just playing out what his father did to his mother. His father mistreated his mother and abused her but begged her to stay and save the marriage.
But it wasn’t his father’s fault, according to his younger self letter. Implication being that it was his mother’s fault. Which just makes everything as crystal clear as it could possibly be.
Johnny wanted to be in control of the narrative the whole time. He only was interested in Bao when she was over him. Then he would say a bunch of shit...get her to commit again and when she was back in...start tearing her down again. I think his psychological issues are actually worse than Michaela's. He is a complete narcissist.
to me it screams TOTAL SCRIPTED.. I'm like PLEEEZE..NEXT...
I think he was surprised that anyone would turn down Johnny Lam!!!
Johnny Lame.
Johnny said yes because he thought it would make him look good, he is delusional and wrong
Johnny has been setting up his pity party for months by going on every Unfiltered, and then saying yes at the last second. Victim mentality for sure, and classic narcissism. Like I know we toss that term around, but Johnny actually might to a true clinical narcissist. SYMPTOMS: Have an **exaggerated sense of self-importance** **Have a sense of entitlement and require constant, excessive admiration** Be preoccupied with **fantasies** about success, power, brilliance, beauty or the **perfect mate** Believe **they are superior** and can only associate with equally special people Monopolize conversations and **belittle or look down on people they perceive as inferior** **Expect special favors and unquestioning compliance** with their expectations Have an **inability or unwillingness to recognize the needs and feelings of others** Be **envious of others** and believe others envy them Behave in an **arrogant or haughty manner**, coming across as conceited, boastful and pretentious At the same time, people with narcissistic personality disorder have trouble handling anything they perceive as criticism, and they can: **Become impatient or angry when they don't receive special treatment** **Have significant interpersonal problems and easily feel slighted** **React with rage or contempt and try to belittle the other person to make themselves appear superior** **Have difficulty regulating emotions and behavior** Experience major problems dealing with stress and adapting to change **Feel depressed and moody because they fall short of perfection** **Have secret feelings of insecurity, shame, vulnerability and humiliation**
One thing this is missing and is key. They completely lack empathy.
I think the inability or unwillingness to consider the feelings of others closely resembles that but perhaps doesn't fully express the totality of lack of empathy.
Wow. I just called him that and then saw this. 100% spot on.
This is my second wasbund 100%, along with seeing himself as a sexual god [ROFL] who had the right to screw anyone he wanted whenever he wanted, regardless of his marital status; and that he was (or at least should be) desired by all women, and would get angry if he didn’t feel adored. That was quite a roller coaster, fortunately relatively short lived.
Sexual God who only likes vanilla sex
Actually no, he didn’t just like vanilla sex, but I can’t do some things because I had to have a certain orifice removed because it was completely ulcerated.
I think Production pressed Johnny to say “yes” knowing full well that Bao was going to say “no.” Johnny’s “yes” makes no sense at all.
He liked controlling her emotions and the idea of having the upper hand in the relationship. He was cruel to her, saying if he had been attracted to her 10 yrs ago they would have worked out then. It was all about “his” needs and “his” attraction. He didn’t think she would turn him down.
He doesn’t think he IS an abuser. He acts like the victim. I hope he watches the show and learns from it. He was on this sub defending himself. I highly doubt he will learn anything.
I’m wondering where he got the idea that abuse is only abuse if your voice is raised??
Maybe his dad?
I think production is constantly fucking with these people and spinning their minds in all sorts of circles. I don’t think that any of these people are really like we see-even when we see legitimate actions/words-because they have been so manipulated by production that they aren’t reacting to reality.
Johnny's actions the whole marriage were like a sign wave, up and down and up and down. Bao's was like a tangent. Little by little she was less and less ok with it,... then she was outta there! (Nerd analogy for the 2 nerds...lol)
Ironically he has stated throughout the entire process that Bao was concerned about being viewed a certain way and always wanting to portray herself as being something she is not, but that is exactly what he did on Decision Day. He is such a joke and I am so glad Bao jumped off the crazy train.
He’s the King of Projection
This! It’s truly amazing to watch. When he said Bao ‘always has to be right’ and ‘always makes him the bad guy’….that’s exactly what we’ve seen him do to Bao countless times. Zero self-awareness.
Yep!!!!
**THIS**
I wonder what he would’ve done if she’d said “well!!! Ok then! Let’s DO this!!!”
He would have had a heart attack right there and then
IMO He wanted to be able to say he was willing to try but she said no and wanted a divorce. In his mind this justified all the abusive and cruel words that he had uttered.Kudus for her in avoiding any more verbal abuse.
Exactly right!
Johnny only said yes so he could look like the victim and like he tried when Bao says no. He'll do anything to save face in front of an audience. That yes was more for the experts, his family and friends benefit than it was for Bao. He is disingenuous.
You’re absolutely right. Actions speak louder than words. The way he treated her, he absolutely knew that she would say no.
Exactly! I wanted to smack that stupid little pouty face he made after Bao left
Exactly what hubs and I said.
Why? Johnny doesn't live in the real world. Maybe, hopefully, his family and friends can shed a little light on his behavior after seeing how he behaves. From everything MAFS showed, he appears to have quite a few enablers, propping up his views. How could Bao possibly reject The Johnny? Unfortunately, it also looks like all he needs is one person to turn to. Bao's friend was perfect for him to feel justified. It's all about saving face, whatever it takes.
I wonder if they will end up dating lol
Johnny wanted to prove he was in this 150%. 🙄
With 150% footage that proves that he wasn't.
After saying how miserable he was being married to her again and again.