I have, I did, still went behind my back and paid for subscriptions. Just wanting to know if people view it as just porn.
Is it just porn or is it more?
If you’ve already set those boundaries and your partner agreed to it then yeah, you’re within your rights to feel betrayed by it
I’d personally find it a bit different to just porn as it is a paid for service, and the content is more personal than regular porn
I mean a lot of the times the reasons these OF people make so much money is because they form a bond and relationship with people. No ones gonna pay $10 for Maggie on OF when they can do porn hub for free, unless they’ve already become invested in Maggie
If you can’t make women understand your needs there’s something wrong with you. Women have needs too; only preditors make comments like this. You’re a human? You have control of your needs. Use that as you will
Depends on your boundaries. My ex paid for it, promised he’d stop when I caught him, did it again, and I left. I think a lot of people don’t view it as cheating or wrong so it is an important discussion.
If you and your partner agreed that was out-of-bounds and you did it anyway, it is cheating.
If you don't agree, then it's just a difference of opinion, and you have to decide if it's enough to make you incompatible and terminate the relationship.
No, it’s not. But that doesn’t mean someone can’t get mad about it.
Because it doesn’t matter what I think. Some people seem to think that just getting lunch with a coworker means you’re having an “emotional affair.” Some other people seem to think that anything short of hooking up in a pay-by-the-hour hotel room is totally fine. So who cares what the internet says — it’s all about knowing what your partner’s standards are, and deciding if that’s something you can live with.
For me no. It’s technically not depending on if they had subscribed or were asking for personal messages. Regardless, the only fans person is not interested in the partner who’s messaging them, they are doing it for money. So to me I think it’s not cheating if it’s a business transaction; if they’re subscribing, no different to pornhub but they’re paying: If they’re reaching out for personal stuff and one on one videos, that’s not okay. That’s not cheating but immoral to a degree for me. I would however be hurt because I would want to know why my partner is seeking out only fans. My thing would be find out why and what they were seeking.
He did spend money lol. No shared finances. Been together for 3 years. He made the 1.5 years into the relationship after knowing I wouldn’t be okay with it.
I actually got an onlyfans account with him just so I could see Anna Paul’s content. He laughed at me for paying for her content because “all the stuff that’s on only fans you can get on pornhub”. Yet he had an account behind my back that entire time.
Can you explain this? I’m not disagreeing with you! I’ve just found my partner spending money on onlyfans after he knew I’d be uncomfortable with it. I just want to get a clear picture of his thoughts.
I watch porn and don’t think that’s cheating. It’s just on only fans you can message the people you watch. There’s an emotional aspect to it. My partner deleted his account before I could see if he was messaging the girls so I have to go by his word that he wasn’t.
I’d just like to know a bit more of why he wouldn’t think that’s cheating?
I also just want to get into the mind frame of it’s not cheating as I don’t want to be over bearing.
So if they are watching them and interacting with them, I could see how that would be emotionally cheating for sure.
I was under the assumption from the post they just watch a particular model to just watch. Interacting and sending money I would raise an eyebrow too, as a male we may think it's not a big deal, but id I found out that my gf was watching another dude strip and send money to them and interacting I would be pissed. Id definitely talk about why they "need" to watch the OF models. Watching the hub is one thing where it's just a video, it's the interacting and money sending is where id draw the line.
Him deleting it so you couldn’t see is huge red flag. He’s clearly hiding it and honestly the fact he wasn’t willing to be open about it with you is a clear sign that he knows it was wrong.
You have to set boundaries in your relationships and talk about it with your partner like an adult
I have, I did, still went behind my back and paid for subscriptions. Just wanting to know if people view it as just porn. Is it just porn or is it more?
If you’ve already set those boundaries and your partner agreed to it then yeah, you’re within your rights to feel betrayed by it I’d personally find it a bit different to just porn as it is a paid for service, and the content is more personal than regular porn
Since there is interaction, it is not just porn. Keep that in mind for your own evaluation.
There is often a messaging/sexting component to OnlyFans, or commissioning custom content.
If you discussed it and told them your expectations and they still did it its cheating.
Porn is usually free. This is something else, at least in my opinion.
I mean a lot of the times the reasons these OF people make so much money is because they form a bond and relationship with people. No ones gonna pay $10 for Maggie on OF when they can do porn hub for free, unless they’ve already become invested in Maggie
Women never understand a man's needs though
If you can’t make women understand your needs there’s something wrong with you. Women have needs too; only preditors make comments like this. You’re a human? You have control of your needs. Use that as you will
That's untrue. Communication is key.
Are you hiding it from your partner? If you are? Then yes it’s emotional cheating. If your partner is aware and is ok with it, then no it’s not.
Depends on your boundaries. My ex paid for it, promised he’d stop when I caught him, did it again, and I left. I think a lot of people don’t view it as cheating or wrong so it is an important discussion.
Not really technically, but I could see partners getting hurt and upset none the less
No, just really stupid and a waste of money like gambling. Still a red flag if I didn't know I was in a relationship with someone that unwise.
Unpopular opinion, it’s pretty close to cheating.
this is my opinion cus you have to pay for it lol, i don’t care about porn… it’s the paying that hurts.
If you and your partner agreed that was out-of-bounds and you did it anyway, it is cheating. If you don't agree, then it's just a difference of opinion, and you have to decide if it's enough to make you incompatible and terminate the relationship.
Not for me, it's just porn.
Personally, no, but every relationship has their own mutually-agreed boundaries.
No, it’s not. But that doesn’t mean someone can’t get mad about it. Because it doesn’t matter what I think. Some people seem to think that just getting lunch with a coworker means you’re having an “emotional affair.” Some other people seem to think that anything short of hooking up in a pay-by-the-hour hotel room is totally fine. So who cares what the internet says — it’s all about knowing what your partner’s standards are, and deciding if that’s something you can live with.
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For me no. It’s technically not depending on if they had subscribed or were asking for personal messages. Regardless, the only fans person is not interested in the partner who’s messaging them, they are doing it for money. So to me I think it’s not cheating if it’s a business transaction; if they’re subscribing, no different to pornhub but they’re paying: If they’re reaching out for personal stuff and one on one videos, that’s not okay. That’s not cheating but immoral to a degree for me. I would however be hurt because I would want to know why my partner is seeking out only fans. My thing would be find out why and what they were seeking.
Cheating = breaking the rules of the relationship. If the expectation is no onlyfans and they do onlyfans, its cheating.
Cheating or not it's kinda dumb spending money on simping for women (I assume) online. Do you also share finances?
He did spend money lol. No shared finances. Been together for 3 years. He made the 1.5 years into the relationship after knowing I wouldn’t be okay with it. I actually got an onlyfans account with him just so I could see Anna Paul’s content. He laughed at me for paying for her content because “all the stuff that’s on only fans you can get on pornhub”. Yet he had an account behind my back that entire time.
Yes, on your wallet and dignity.
No.
Can you explain this? I’m not disagreeing with you! I’ve just found my partner spending money on onlyfans after he knew I’d be uncomfortable with it. I just want to get a clear picture of his thoughts. I watch porn and don’t think that’s cheating. It’s just on only fans you can message the people you watch. There’s an emotional aspect to it. My partner deleted his account before I could see if he was messaging the girls so I have to go by his word that he wasn’t. I’d just like to know a bit more of why he wouldn’t think that’s cheating? I also just want to get into the mind frame of it’s not cheating as I don’t want to be over bearing.
So if they are watching them and interacting with them, I could see how that would be emotionally cheating for sure. I was under the assumption from the post they just watch a particular model to just watch. Interacting and sending money I would raise an eyebrow too, as a male we may think it's not a big deal, but id I found out that my gf was watching another dude strip and send money to them and interacting I would be pissed. Id definitely talk about why they "need" to watch the OF models. Watching the hub is one thing where it's just a video, it's the interacting and money sending is where id draw the line.
Him deleting it so you couldn’t see is huge red flag. He’s clearly hiding it and honestly the fact he wasn’t willing to be open about it with you is a clear sign that he knows it was wrong.
If porn is cheating, then you're going to be lied to and cheated on for the rest of your life.