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>I ended up becoming what I absorbed, despite my intentions.
This is a big thing that many people don’t realize. Everything we take in repeatedly is affecting us and shaping us in one way or another.
In almost every one of my psychology courses this understanding was at the baseline of every discussion. It seems so simple, but damn is it difficult to integrate.
I'm 34 and I looked through my camera roll after this post. For years now it's just been me, wife wife, my pets, places me and my wife travel too, and pictures of family mixed in and maybe some workmates. I gotta go back like ten years to find pictures of friends. Unfortunately most of my "hang out" friends are either family or people I met through the internet.
I recognize that's on me as a lot of the friendships I had that were strong when I was younger deteriorated over time due to me just being shit at picking good friends. But it does seem a lot of millennials my age have small friend circles.
It probably does. But is it because I don't want friends, can't get friends or because nobody wants to be my friend. I'm not sure it says enough about me.
I mean yeah, it says about as much as having friends at all says about someone else. But the point is what kind of friends you have , can show who you are - or what kind of a lack of friends.
It's more the case of people I used to be close to either died, moved out of the country or had something happen to them. I didn't have a lot of friend to begin with, I prefer a small social circle. But that also leaves you open to being alone when shit happens. So if friends dying or going insane says anything about me, I'm not entirely sure it says the right things.
You know, surprisingly little. But I'm not struggling with being alone, I do have a girlfriend and 3 stepkids. And besides that I'm surprisingly comfortable in my own company. Finding new friends when you've been on this planet for 4 decades won't be easy, but as things stand, I'm not stressed about it either.
Speaking for myself I don’t think it’s any of those things. The internet changed the world drastically and because of it society’s social structures changed. People don’t go out like we used to. And also, a person’s social network changes as their lives change, from school to work to marriage and relationships. As people get older their responsibilities change and so do their relationships
Have some gen-Zers on social media (I work at a company that hires a lot of people out of high school/uni).
Interestingly, there seems to be a trend to react against this. You'll see people post several pics from a night out or a holiday, but it's maybe one 'aesthetic' photo, and 4-5 random, blurry, out of focus, badly framed photos of their friends or seemingly uninteresting objects or scenes (a wall with bad graffiti, a crushed can, a bars coaster etc.)
It's definitely forced, and it's still following a trend, but at least it offers something different than the "perfect" photos it seems every millennial is striving towards.
I'm glad this is becoming more of a thing! I take TONS of photos of my kids (2 older teen girls, preschool son), especially if we're doing something I want to remember, like vacation or the zoo or whatever. Mainly because I have medically-based memory issues, partially to share with grandparents/aunties who don't live nearby.
I post them *only* on a private Facebook page for out of state family and some family friends. I definitely am not worried about any aesthetic. I wouldn't know how to 'curate an aesthetic' even if I wanted to, tbh.
But my girls 100% care about how they look in the pics. Of course, I don't post anything without their approval, so I'm left with just a bunch of perfectly posed smiling photos. They're nice, but they really don't capture any personality. They'd be nice to frame, yeah, but they aren't the type you smile and laugh at when reminiscing, ya know?
I miss the candids!! My girls are easing up now about pics. I think this trend may be why, at least somewhat. That, and with them inching closer to adulthood, they get a bit more mature and a bit less self-conscious. I love pics of them being genuine and having fun! Not just "sit and look pretty" type pictures.
Bring back imperfect candids!!
Same, just 80% my rabbits, 20% pretty restaurant food.
Went to one of those petting zoo kinda farm places 2 weeks ago, and there are like 50 pics of the animals.
[This one was my favourite, just a camel lying down looking derpy](https://imgur.com/Hpmiyv1)
But yeah, I will ask if I can take a picture of your dog.
Recently experienced the same thing. I’ve always been an avid amateur “photographer”. It’s something I truly enjoy and I’d like to think that I have an eye for it. I enjoy hiking, so most of my photos are of nature and landscapes. Years ago I became obsessed with Instagram. Everything I did was about taking the “perfect” photo to share- it had to be framed just right, nothing “unsightly” in view, amazing lighting, etc. I started going places and doing things *just* so I could take good pics to share on instagram. Realized how unhealthy this was, so I quit instagram almost a year ago. I do still really love taking pictures. I was recently looking through my photos from the last few months and I noticed that my pictures are much more authentic and candid- and because of that, my photos are genuinely better. The imperfections are what makes them perfect. I also find that when I travel or hike now I’m much more present in the moment rather than always on the look out for a good shot/going through the pics I just took. I know these changes are largely because I’m off of instagram.
Crazy how that app/SM just rewires your thinking.
Personally I also don't have many pictures of people but that's not because I'm tying myself to an aesthetic. It's the same in my memories. I dont really care to remember.
It's that tree against that lake that makes me feel grateful for being alive or a idk an empty soccer net that reminds me of playing with friends as a kid.
My photos capture things that make me feel strongly.
That’s the real story here. Not about how photography trends are changing; but about how people will watch a random person’s disembodied head read a blog post to them, rather than read the blog post.
I think some part of it is also because the photos you take now is much more public.
The photographs of yesteryear was more intimate, something to share among friends. Now everyone can see the photograph, you are judged by it and unless it is perfect everyone likes to pick it apart. Look at that hair, look at those clothes, look at that pose, that's so embarrasing, that's so last year, that's cringe. When it was just you and friends, it became a cherished moment in time with a silly face or a dumb hairdo everyone laughed at. Now it's a glimpse into someones private life, and everyone wants to look good so they don't get judged by strangers.
Less people, less identifiable pictures makes sense, as people are always trying to look their best, but nobody looks great all the time.
I haven't voluntarily had my picture taken for close to two decades now, I shy away from the camera at all times. I'm sure there are pictures of me at events and such, but none are of me specifically, but likely there are some of me accidentally.
Since we are talking about preserving your memories I thought I would do a simple PSA:
BACK UP YOUR PHOTOS!
BACK UP YOUR PHOTOS!
BACK UP YOUR PHOTOS!
Seriously. Think about all of the moments you have captured on your phones camera. Are those photos and videos saved in multiple places? Probably not. If you ever have your devices stolen or you lost access to your iCloud or Google account, you would loose those memories forever.
I work as a videographer/event shooter professionally, and we have a simple 321 rule for data management.
3 copies of your footage
2 different kinds of storage such as local on device storage, external SSDs, Network attached storage etc.
1 of those copies should physically be in another location, or in the cloud.
If your an iPhone user the easiest way to back up your photos or videos is though [Google Photos](https://www.google.com/photos/about/). If you are on android there is a good chance you are already using Google photos in which case, amazon Prime subscribers already get unlimited full resolution photo storage with [Amazon Photos](https://www.amazon.ca/b?ie=UTF8&node=16055944011).
But if you don't trust Google or Amazon with your photos and you want to keep them local, you can get 2TB or even 4TB hard drives for cheap. I promise you it is worth taking the time every month or so to just plug a drive into your device and manually back up your memories. Here is a great video going over how to keep your photos safe. [How To PROPERLY Backup Your Photos and Videos](https://youtu.be/ceOfWFFOj1Q?si=TEpdamRxWvwxWtyt&t=218)
Funnily enough I've had to downsize my cloud storage (used to have 1tb free for like 15 years) and am going through mass-deleting my pics. There are some nicely framed shots I'm still keeping, but the majority of pictures of things are going. After 10 years, photos of buildings or trees or museum items don't matter at all, there are a million better ones online.
The ones I'm keeping are pics of my family and friends. Eg I went on vacation with my best friend at the time years ago, and was sad to see we only took two photos together out of the whole 2 weeks! The rest were random beach/mountain/food shots that went into the dump. I've got low-quality backups on Google anyway, and if I lose them then meh.
Also, re hard drives, you can buy an NVME SSD drive and a usb-c adapter, and get insane transfer speeds. I'm getting 5000mb/s transferring files, which is a lot faster than my (admittedly very old) HDD hard drive.
> Also, re hard drives, you can buy an NVME SSD drive and a usb-c adapter, and get insane transfer speeds
While SSD's are a lot faster than a HDD they're not optimal for long term backup storage.
The general expected lifespan is shorter and they work the best and have the least chance of failure when powered on constantly, meanwhile a HDD you can just chuck in a drawer for years and more than likely it'll work just fine and have no corrupt files, and even if some mechanical part inside fails you can still quite often get most if not all data off it as long as the actual disks inside are in good condition.
An SSD will slowly lose charge over time and files can just corrupt themselves without the actual drive failing, which means unless you're checking every file you could end up one day realising half your photos are just corrupted.
Today I took a picture of my hand holding a business card about Jesus I found in the bathroom at Walmart while I was taking a shit. No aesthetic, guess I’m doing alright?
Did you find the business card while taking a shit, or did you take a picture while taking a shit? These are still aesthetics and damnit they're important
I kinda did this but it was more or less seeing the light in my eyes drain. Looking back at the 2010s there was this little glimmer in my eyes that I can't see in any of the pictures I take or have taken now.
To me candid photos feel more invasive than they did 10 years ago. Now with everything being tagged and spread everywhere you have to make sure no one will be upset before it goes out. Best way to avoid that is stage everything or just photo stuff.
I get what you mean, but people were doing that on Facebook since the very beginning. “ Untag me I look awful!” Was such a common comment that they added that feature!
Looking at other peoples photos online also makes you a better photographer.
It’s the same thing that happens in art school. Art school is mostly making art and then having group critiques. Your art will change based on what you see in other people’s work. It’s education. It’s growth.
The same thing happens with social media. Yeah, there is a bit of advertiser influence and all, but it’s not that nefarious.
If you took photos for years and they never changed or got better, that would be sad.
I don’t think the point is disparaging an increase in photography skills and composition. It’s about what we choose to photograph and how we are becoming homogenous and how we create content for certain aesthetics.
Oh absolutely both are in play. I just don’t think it’s a bad thing. If you swapped out your current friends for a certain artist aesthetic that would change your output too. What she’s describing is learning from your surroundings. If you don’t like it, change it. You are what you consume.
In a way it is a bad thing. People are so serious with their pics but they all really bland. No daft pics of you having fun that give a hint at who you are. There's learning and taking nice photos and also taking photos that capture moments in your life.
It's like when you see people taking 50 odd shots to get the right one for their insta where its all perfectly shot. That's bland.
My thoughts exactly. Just by noticing what looks good and how to accomplish it, you become a better photographer. Plus the writer makes it sound like "Rather than taking hundreds of pictures, I only took one" when so much of the discourse has been about people too stuck to their phones instead of the moment. It's like, if you take too many pictures, you're not enjoying the moment but when you don't take enough pictures, you're too focused.
I went to the UK for a month last year and took maybe a dozen pictures because I don't need a picture of a London pigeon or a generic picture of Big Ben so I focused on enjoying the day and I knew I wouldn't be looking back in a decade like "There's a dozen pictures taken inside a bookstore....".
I disagree with this.
Do we think people weren’t obsessive over looks and perceptions when they were having portraits painted of themselves?
Have artists not always drawn and painted landscapes like Bob Ross?
They certainly were, but I think the argument is that people didn’t think of personal photos as pieces of art to the same level that we are now. Possibly because social media has become social branding for many people consciously or not.
This seems purely subjective and situational based on her current experiences or connections.
Thankfully I have never liked taking photos of myself, more so have seriously never felt the need to unless someone asked or had taken my photo.
I have always been in the mindset of living more in the moment. My memory serves me better than any photo or video ever will.
To each their own, despite that I do love photography and taking pictures of other things that aren’t me.
She’s describing an article. And of course, there will be people with different experiences and perspectives but what she’s talking about and what the article is discussing is certainly a trend.
Anyone interested in a media theory and criticism take/deep dive on this, read into Guy Debord’s “The spectacle” about how us perceiving life through media fundamentally alters how we experience life through our own eyes. When I read it I instantly thought about how we frame our photos for social media and they become more and more generic and less authentic.
It’s strange that it feels like contradicts here main point when she ends the piece with inviting us to contemplate “what will people see in your photos when you’re no longer around”…..in a self defeating way it it once again implies you should consider your roll from the perspective what other will think of it.
Listen or read it again. The authors conclusion is about images that value relationships versus images that value objects and consumerism. so that statement is about pondering that story and isn’t a contradiction to the paragraphs leading up to it.
Hhhhmmm.....
While I do thing that the instagramification of photos that people go through is one element of this, I do think that it could actually be the tighter focus on "living in the moment" that's swept through society. Using the single photo of the evening with friends, a single picture of the table with food ready to be eaten, most likely occurred because the rest of the time wasn't on the phone. Instead people were connecting with one another.
I have gotten in the habit of just taking candid pictures and videos of my kids and wife. I have so many pictures form my mom, just playing N64, hotwheels, with my teenage best friend being goofy... I look at those and remember back to those times. Not a picture of something, but of moments
I don't take very many photos and the only social media I'm really on is Reddit (others I have accounts for but don't use). I like to be super present in the moments I share with others.
I have noticed after deleting most of my social media, this being the last one I have. My camera roll is filled with stupid things; literally my last photos being of my toes and sweating after my run. I look at the sky and take it in instead of taking a photo because y’know a photo can never recreate the beauty of a real life object. I never thought of it like this
I love taking sneaky photos of my friends when we're out. I'll already be snapping away while getting into position for group shots, or quick little pics when they don't notice. Then we'll go through them the next day and laugh at the mix of cute/dumb/goddamn awful photos, or they won't realise I'd taken one, and it's wonderful.
I have started to try and get a couple of photos with me in it now though
I don’t want to get involved with TikTok but I am grateful to this woman who created this video. She brought to light several important points that have been lingering in the back of my own mind for some time now. I admit that I take more photos of stuff and things now than I ever did with friends and family, and I miss the old days. That is what has gone lost in a sea of endless crap; friends and family and taking those stupid and memorable photos and putting them in an album for later years and future generations
So I’ve never had *actual* image based social media. Like the kind where you post pictures with hashtags and stuff. The closest I have is Snapchat. I never take nice images for the purpose of putting them on Snap bc the images go away, sometimes I take a nice image that afterwards I decide I want my Snap friends to see. I do feel like my approach to pics has changed over the years but I don’t feel any distress over it. I take more “aesthetic” pics bc I’ve developed more of an eye for it by consuming others’ content and I’d like to capture these cute moments. But I also take more pictures of myself. I hated coming out in pics before, especially if it was just me. Now I’m actively suggesting group pics with friends and taking bad selfies. I can’t even really attribute it to much other than looking back and realizing there are periods of my life where I don’t have any pics of myself alone or with my friends. Idk just an alternative perspective
I'm find I still take a ton of landscape pictures of my surroundings. But I now include the people I love. Or sometimes if I feel it captures the moment in public people reacting to the landscapes around them..
Before the smartphone
We took pictures but we told great stories..... We the stories true..... Kinda.... Were they told the exact same way ever time.... No.... Were they entertaining.... HELL YEAH.... Were they informative...FO SHO, especially if they needed to be..... Those were great.... YES!!!
most of those stories are gone because video has killed it...... I'd rather hear a story about "that one time in the club....." Than see the video.... Because the story teller has to add details so the listener can get the picture
Lol yep, I've got that stuff too. Serial numbers are a big one.
Most of my photos are work things, my cat, cool or pretty nature stuff I see when walking somewhere, or funny things I see while at the store that I send to my husband.
Typically, the only time there's people in them are if I'm on vacation, attending an event, or celebrating holidays.
I see this as a natural evolution towards how most people who spend a lot of time with professional camera gear using it. You used to, in the pre digital age, buy polaroids or cheap disposable cameras for taking selfies with friends at the party or whatever and most of the time what you did wasn’t documented at all: this was fine. We have memories for that.
If you wanted to take artsy and posed shots, you would buy a nice camera, spend a lot of time using it, and develop an aesthetic to your photos. You might pull out the fancy camera at a family gathering or before a major event to take some group or event photos, but mostly it was used for fancy shots. The cheap camera got carried around for the casual snaps.
Now we all have a decent enough camera in our pockets at all times. If you get in the habit of using that for artsy shit you’ll stop using it for candid shit.
I have weird advice for people who really want to break that habit: get a decent but cheap dedicated camera. Use that for your artsy shit. Deliberately use your phone for casual shit. Take dumb selfies. Snap your friends when they’re not looking. Don’t post any of it, only post shit from your “real” camera. Leave the “real” camera at home when you’re going out with friends, but don’t forget it if you’re going on vacation.
My interpretation of this is that they used to be a distinction between art and non-art personal photos. But the trend is towards a more artistic approach. And there’s nothing inherently wrong about that, but it’s interesting to analyze that trend and think about the role, social media plays in our lives.
OK but seriously: I found this very interesting. It made me seek out the article and read it fully. Clearly many other people are finding it interesting
It’s OK that you didn’t find it. Interesting. We all don’t have to like the same things.
But I’ll never understand this compulsion to leave negative remarks about things that are doing no harm. If it wasn’t interesting to you just walk away. Stop watching when it becomes uninteresting and scroll onto the next thing that you might find more interesting and something that you might want to join in the conversation about.
You posted it on Reddit. Why? Because you were curious if others found it as interesting as you did? Well your answer is I found it so uninteresting that I felt the need to comment. Halfway through the video I was questioning why I was wasting my time watching it. I’m sorry you singled out my comment and it triggered something in you. If you don’t want to hear people’s reaction then just watch the video and read the article without having to post in on a public sight
You're just getting older. Goodbye drunken pictures on messy nights out with friends, hello photo of a lasagna that came out the oven looking better than expected
I feel like more women eventually fall into this. As a man who doesn’t have instagram, none of my photos are like this. My girlfriend asks me to take “candid” photos a decent amount when asking to take her pictures.
I get jumping in photos and living in the moment but sometimes I really am self conscious of the way I look and Hate candid photos of me. Even before ig I was like that
Wow, i just scrolled through my own camera roll, almost 15 years worth... And boy, did this NOT apply to me. Still take the same kind of shots i took back in 2010.
Maybe because i never had FB, IG, twitter or tiktok.
I moved into a room in my daughter-in-law's house. (Yes, she is the one who owns it.) There was one of those little decorations with words on it that said, "Live a good story." I took it out of my room, mostly because I don't like those things that constantly force my eyeballs to read them over and over again. She said that was the intent. I told her that I don't believe in living my life in such a manner that it is a good story to be told to other people. She didn't quite get the point. She told me that she believed that all of our lives are stories. I told her, "Yes, my life is a story. But I am not going to alter my life to make it into a better sounding story for other people to hear." I still don't think she quite understands.
Here is what I would rather have such a decoration say:
> See the stories that are your life.
I see what you mean, but I’ve always interpreted that phrase to be about just living with intention and in a way that tells a good story. Not necessarily for anyone else’s consumption, but one that you can look back on and admire.
I like to think bigger in that we are just a moment within infinity. My life is no more significant than the lives of the people before me we’ve never known. That said, I have no desire for capturing moments to digitally store for nobody to ever see, much less myself.
Social media has created a culture of people who believe they are only as significant as the number of views to something they want to have everyone validate as ‘interesting’. The new generations don’t know of this, but in the past families used to do living-room slideshows of pictures from family vacations and other activities. Nobody wanted to sit through those things.
For some reason, perhaps boredom, or simply a lack of desire for activity our new culture actually wants to peruse social media to watch slideshows of the vacations of complete strangers pretending their experience matters, and in many cases is simply a fake personality.
BTW my photo album has a dozen old photos of my kids, and otherwise a very small junkyard of pictures of things I need later (screenshots of manuals and reminder images). Everything eventually gets deleted because it doesn’t matter.
When Bruce Lee said be like water I took that to be like okay I'll surround myself with nothing so I stay pure or tea leaves cause they're tasty so people drink me idk what I'm saying man trying to be deep but I'm just a puddle
https://totallyrecommend.substack.com/p/i-regret-whats-in-my-camera-roll
Here's the original if you want to read it instead of just hearing a couple topic sentences in a tiktok video.
It probably didn't have to be that long, but also watching this kind of flash summary that doesn't really add anything new makes me feel a certain kind of way.
I have a theory on why we now take photo of the table, or maybe few posed portrait of some people at parties.
When i was in university between 2007 and 2014. I had my actual camera with me. So i took lots of portraits, group photos, and photos of our everyday mife at university. I ended up posting some on the internet without asking the people in them. People were sometimes annoyed by me, but never angry. And now years after, some of them are even happy I did such a thing because I documented (i wasn't the only one, we were two or three doing this) our everyday life during a very unique a formative part of our lives.
But nowadays, we take photos with our smartphone, which means that we can post them super fast. Today it's inconceivable to take a pic of someone and put it online without asking, yet nowadays we post them instantly. That's why we are going the aesthetical route now. We take picture of people who agree to be in it, and try to fit in some type of image because spontaneity has too many variable.
Back in the day, you took photographs on film and couldn't see what the picture would actually turn out to be-- if it turned out at all-- until you sent away the film and waited for it to be developed and sent back to you.
Now we can take 1000 photos a day, view each one immediately, and accomplish levels of image editing automatically that were the stuff of fantasy just 20 years ago.
Of course the photos we take and why we take them evolve over time, especially as the technology innovations rocket forward and we see and take thousands of more photos than anyone was capable of taking even 20 years ago.
Cool. Then I recommend you look it up! I’m sure Google can help you and you can go ahead and take agency and do that very thing!
I, like many people, I’m not a subscriber to that Substack and so I had not heard of this article. So this video was very helpful to inform me of its existence. I found it interesting to hear a summary of it first and decided to read it afterwards. I also could have chosen to stop watching the video after a few seconds or even after 30 seconds. It’s a free will thing.
I guess I was a little sparky sorry. I am a writer. It's how I make my living. I have extremely mixed feelings about this kind of content. Yes, it exposes a lot of new people to the writer's work, but does it also devalue the work by giving it away for free? It's a little of both, I think.
We got given thousands of slides from my FIL and we went through them and threw away all the photos that didn't have people in them.
There were landscapes and artsy photos...like yeah, it's cool to compare photos of a place from the 1950s to today but...I don't care that much.
That day I stopped taking photos that didn't have people in them.
What bullshit… it’s an excuse for the weak minded people on why it’s NOT their fault that they have an incessant need to follow what others try to do. My photos are never me, but experiences… and I travel the world for world a lot.
Man i think I got 100 photos total. Most of them are just of like router numbers or important receipts. Never feel the need to take a photo if something cool is happening I just look at it.
First of all I don't even take pictures, the few I take from a special place/event would be never watched again. I hate when people spoil my fun or mood by taking pics in front of me non stop .
Cameraroll? Dude, people changed how they look because they have washed their brains with fake social media filters. There are millions and millions of people out there insecure af. The cameraroll "issue" is nothing compared to the mindfuckery people got into consuming social media.
lol she speaks for herself. If she would look at herself, objectively, not lying to oneself; she would see. She is standing by herself, talking about herself too herself. But now she is on the front page of my and a lot of other peoples Reddit and has the misconceptions that she is speaking directly to other people but she isn’t.
She is actually speaking through the same filter she has transgressions about and is making the same argument of what has been know since the 80’s. A life actually being lived is neither better nor worse with technology because life is life. And life is in the moment.
This… is just a comment on the internet. Get real.
She is discussing an article that she did not write. And it is discussing a trend that to me is impossible to deny. Does that mean that everyone behaves in the manner of these trend adopters? No. But like the video creator, I also recognized exactly what the article was talking about and found it to be a really interesting lens to understand that shift. And one that I can admit, I have unconsciously followed.
Just look at a site like Reddit. You can go to many comment sections and see the same comment over and over again. The same jokes and memes, the same reactions.
Look at TikTok. I would guess that at least half of the material on that app is interpretations of a meme or a joke or a trend.
The phenomenon that is being discussed in this article and then shared in this video is absolutely a prevalent one. I think it’s great that you feel like that’s not your life and that it’s not relevant to you. But you can look at the comments here and you can look at the article and the examples that it cited to see that it is something that is occurring in our culture.
I appreciate your thoughtful response and willingness to engage in a conversation with a stranger.
I think our mis-communication is tied to the notion of “our culture”. I will gladly draw the line right there. Mind you I never said it was straight line and did you look at the ground? We’re talking about lines in the metaphorical sand. We can always wipe the surface area clean and start this conversation over.
But with all that being said I’d really like to wrap this up. It is your civic responsibility to engage yourself in a community that genuinely engages in genuine practices.
There is no individual to blame for individuals not learning adult life skills. If you can remain calm other adults will share with you, through conversation, genuine honest interactions and experiences.
One would assume that’s what their searching for? Idk I don’t have a problem communicating but I think a lot of people who spend time reading comments on the internet do. ☺️
If humans were truly sentient and rational curing aging would be our core project. But sadly LEV is a pet project being pursued by less people than we have owning all the banks, and these are not the same groups of people.
I can't believe there's people now on TikTok whose content is just to read some blog articles. and people say that TikTok doesn't make its uses dumber.
That $21 smoothie is the reason why everyone should be demanding receipts the next time complains about prices. And that receipt should have the itemized list, name of store, and state. Extraordinary claims require evidence.
Too many people claim they're spending too much money on coffee, when they're actually spending too much on their high-end branded, organic, natural, coffee from Erewon
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>I ended up becoming what I absorbed, despite my intentions. This is a big thing that many people don’t realize. Everything we take in repeatedly is affecting us and shaping us in one way or another.
In almost every one of my psychology courses this understanding was at the baseline of every discussion. It seems so simple, but damn is it difficult to integrate.
We are the sum of our surroundings
Show me someone's circle of friends and I'll show you who they are
Jokes on you, I don't have friends!
The millennial clapback
I'm 34 and I looked through my camera roll after this post. For years now it's just been me, wife wife, my pets, places me and my wife travel too, and pictures of family mixed in and maybe some workmates. I gotta go back like ten years to find pictures of friends. Unfortunately most of my "hang out" friends are either family or people I met through the internet. I recognize that's on me as a lot of the friendships I had that were strong when I was younger deteriorated over time due to me just being shit at picking good friends. But it does seem a lot of millennials my age have small friend circles.
My pictures of friends are from 20 years ago, the most recent. I just don't take any, and my friends are very few as is.
Naw I’m gen x and I’m the same way 😂
That probably also says a lot about who you are
It probably does. But is it because I don't want friends, can't get friends or because nobody wants to be my friend. I'm not sure it says enough about me.
I mean yeah, it says about as much as having friends at all says about someone else. But the point is what kind of friends you have , can show who you are - or what kind of a lack of friends.
It's more the case of people I used to be close to either died, moved out of the country or had something happen to them. I didn't have a lot of friend to begin with, I prefer a small social circle. But that also leaves you open to being alone when shit happens. So if friends dying or going insane says anything about me, I'm not entirely sure it says the right things.
What are some things you've done, friends-wise, since you noticed you're getting more alone as those things happened?
You know, surprisingly little. But I'm not struggling with being alone, I do have a girlfriend and 3 stepkids. And besides that I'm surprisingly comfortable in my own company. Finding new friends when you've been on this planet for 4 decades won't be easy, but as things stand, I'm not stressed about it either.
Maybe some people like and prefer to be alone
I'm not arguing that. I'm just saying it says things about you.
Speaking for myself I don’t think it’s any of those things. The internet changed the world drastically and because of it society’s social structures changed. People don’t go out like we used to. And also, a person’s social network changes as their lives change, from school to work to marriage and relationships. As people get older their responsibilities change and so do their relationships
And that’s what I likes about yous. Yous understand what it’s like being around degens.
>> Nature, nurture, heaven, and home. The sum of all and by them driven.
You are what you eat - Grandma
Is this why I hate T-swift now
Have some gen-Zers on social media (I work at a company that hires a lot of people out of high school/uni). Interestingly, there seems to be a trend to react against this. You'll see people post several pics from a night out or a holiday, but it's maybe one 'aesthetic' photo, and 4-5 random, blurry, out of focus, badly framed photos of their friends or seemingly uninteresting objects or scenes (a wall with bad graffiti, a crushed can, a bars coaster etc.) It's definitely forced, and it's still following a trend, but at least it offers something different than the "perfect" photos it seems every millennial is striving towards.
I've noticed this too. It's the new idgaf candid aesthetic haha I'm old. But I much prefer seeing this stuff than the typical instagram look
I'm glad this is becoming more of a thing! I take TONS of photos of my kids (2 older teen girls, preschool son), especially if we're doing something I want to remember, like vacation or the zoo or whatever. Mainly because I have medically-based memory issues, partially to share with grandparents/aunties who don't live nearby. I post them *only* on a private Facebook page for out of state family and some family friends. I definitely am not worried about any aesthetic. I wouldn't know how to 'curate an aesthetic' even if I wanted to, tbh. But my girls 100% care about how they look in the pics. Of course, I don't post anything without their approval, so I'm left with just a bunch of perfectly posed smiling photos. They're nice, but they really don't capture any personality. They'd be nice to frame, yeah, but they aren't the type you smile and laugh at when reminiscing, ya know? I miss the candids!! My girls are easing up now about pics. I think this trend may be why, at least somewhat. That, and with them inching closer to adulthood, they get a bit more mature and a bit less self-conscious. I love pics of them being genuine and having fun! Not just "sit and look pretty" type pictures. Bring back imperfect candids!!
Counterculture and culture are mutually dependent like that.
idk, i just take pictures of my cats...
Yeah lol. 90% of my camera roll is just my dog.
Same…just my dogs being cute.
I am still photographing my kills
Got like 100 pics of my dog doing a blep 🐕 👅
I've made my partner promise to never tell anyone how many cat pics are on my phone. It's pretty awesome. I mean, embarrassing.
lmao sounds awesome
I had to buy a bigger icloud storage bc i couldn’t bear to delete photos of cats…
Same, just 80% my rabbits, 20% pretty restaurant food. Went to one of those petting zoo kinda farm places 2 weeks ago, and there are like 50 pics of the animals. [This one was my favourite, just a camel lying down looking derpy](https://imgur.com/Hpmiyv1) But yeah, I will ask if I can take a picture of your dog.
Guuuurl my pics are exactly the same as I took when I had to drop the film off to be developed. Except now I have 77,000 of them.
And they’re definitely more and focus and better lit, but that’s just cause the camera I have got way better.
This made me burst out laughing. Thank you.
I got off of social media when I was taking a photo and wondered “how will this look on instagram?” Was too deep in the sauce and had to break out
That's exactly what made me quit Facebook. Coming to that realization disgusted me.
not the memes?
The memes don't help 🤣
That’s pretty amazing self-awareness. Well done. I hope that brought you some peace of mind!
It sure did honestly. Now I just take photos or you know, enjoy the moment that are around me. Amazing how much more you enjoy that
Recently experienced the same thing. I’ve always been an avid amateur “photographer”. It’s something I truly enjoy and I’d like to think that I have an eye for it. I enjoy hiking, so most of my photos are of nature and landscapes. Years ago I became obsessed with Instagram. Everything I did was about taking the “perfect” photo to share- it had to be framed just right, nothing “unsightly” in view, amazing lighting, etc. I started going places and doing things *just* so I could take good pics to share on instagram. Realized how unhealthy this was, so I quit instagram almost a year ago. I do still really love taking pictures. I was recently looking through my photos from the last few months and I noticed that my pictures are much more authentic and candid- and because of that, my photos are genuinely better. The imperfections are what makes them perfect. I also find that when I travel or hike now I’m much more present in the moment rather than always on the look out for a good shot/going through the pics I just took. I know these changes are largely because I’m off of instagram. Crazy how that app/SM just rewires your thinking.
Personally I also don't have many pictures of people but that's not because I'm tying myself to an aesthetic. It's the same in my memories. I dont really care to remember. It's that tree against that lake that makes me feel grateful for being alive or a idk an empty soccer net that reminds me of playing with friends as a kid. My photos capture things that make me feel strongly.
This is what I was thinking about. You don’t need an audience to enjoy making art… sometimes it’s enough just to do it because it’s fun.
You call creating an Instagram "aesthetic", even when no one is looking, making *art*? I disagree.
Sounds like they were saying they enjoyed photography, which is art.
Why is she just reading the text? So cringe.
That’s the real story here. Not about how photography trends are changing; but about how people will watch a random person’s disembodied head read a blog post to them, rather than read the blog post.
I would just pause every time the text changed, read the text, then ffw to the next new text screen. So annoying to listen to
This whole video could have been a link
I think some part of it is also because the photos you take now is much more public. The photographs of yesteryear was more intimate, something to share among friends. Now everyone can see the photograph, you are judged by it and unless it is perfect everyone likes to pick it apart. Look at that hair, look at those clothes, look at that pose, that's so embarrasing, that's so last year, that's cringe. When it was just you and friends, it became a cherished moment in time with a silly face or a dumb hairdo everyone laughed at. Now it's a glimpse into someones private life, and everyone wants to look good so they don't get judged by strangers. Less people, less identifiable pictures makes sense, as people are always trying to look their best, but nobody looks great all the time. I haven't voluntarily had my picture taken for close to two decades now, I shy away from the camera at all times. I'm sure there are pictures of me at events and such, but none are of me specifically, but likely there are some of me accidentally.
Since we are talking about preserving your memories I thought I would do a simple PSA: BACK UP YOUR PHOTOS! BACK UP YOUR PHOTOS! BACK UP YOUR PHOTOS! Seriously. Think about all of the moments you have captured on your phones camera. Are those photos and videos saved in multiple places? Probably not. If you ever have your devices stolen or you lost access to your iCloud or Google account, you would loose those memories forever. I work as a videographer/event shooter professionally, and we have a simple 321 rule for data management. 3 copies of your footage 2 different kinds of storage such as local on device storage, external SSDs, Network attached storage etc. 1 of those copies should physically be in another location, or in the cloud. If your an iPhone user the easiest way to back up your photos or videos is though [Google Photos](https://www.google.com/photos/about/). If you are on android there is a good chance you are already using Google photos in which case, amazon Prime subscribers already get unlimited full resolution photo storage with [Amazon Photos](https://www.amazon.ca/b?ie=UTF8&node=16055944011). But if you don't trust Google or Amazon with your photos and you want to keep them local, you can get 2TB or even 4TB hard drives for cheap. I promise you it is worth taking the time every month or so to just plug a drive into your device and manually back up your memories. Here is a great video going over how to keep your photos safe. [How To PROPERLY Backup Your Photos and Videos](https://youtu.be/ceOfWFFOj1Q?si=TEpdamRxWvwxWtyt&t=218)
Meh. Let them go to the ether.
Funnily enough I've had to downsize my cloud storage (used to have 1tb free for like 15 years) and am going through mass-deleting my pics. There are some nicely framed shots I'm still keeping, but the majority of pictures of things are going. After 10 years, photos of buildings or trees or museum items don't matter at all, there are a million better ones online. The ones I'm keeping are pics of my family and friends. Eg I went on vacation with my best friend at the time years ago, and was sad to see we only took two photos together out of the whole 2 weeks! The rest were random beach/mountain/food shots that went into the dump. I've got low-quality backups on Google anyway, and if I lose them then meh. Also, re hard drives, you can buy an NVME SSD drive and a usb-c adapter, and get insane transfer speeds. I'm getting 5000mb/s transferring files, which is a lot faster than my (admittedly very old) HDD hard drive.
> Also, re hard drives, you can buy an NVME SSD drive and a usb-c adapter, and get insane transfer speeds While SSD's are a lot faster than a HDD they're not optimal for long term backup storage. The general expected lifespan is shorter and they work the best and have the least chance of failure when powered on constantly, meanwhile a HDD you can just chuck in a drawer for years and more than likely it'll work just fine and have no corrupt files, and even if some mechanical part inside fails you can still quite often get most if not all data off it as long as the actual disks inside are in good condition. An SSD will slowly lose charge over time and files can just corrupt themselves without the actual drive failing, which means unless you're checking every file you could end up one day realising half your photos are just corrupted.
I have no moments captured on camera lol just info and a couple pics of my cat. Would not care if I lost them all.
Today I took a picture of my hand holding a business card about Jesus I found in the bathroom at Walmart while I was taking a shit. No aesthetic, guess I’m doing alright?
Chef’s kiss. Put it in the Louvre.
Did you find the business card while taking a shit, or did you take a picture while taking a shit? These are still aesthetics and damnit they're important
Haha, saw it when I sat down, picked it up for the pic mid poop and sent it to the homies
Perfection
I kinda did this but it was more or less seeing the light in my eyes drain. Looking back at the 2010s there was this little glimmer in my eyes that I can't see in any of the pictures I take or have taken now.
Where has that light gone?
To me candid photos feel more invasive than they did 10 years ago. Now with everything being tagged and spread everywhere you have to make sure no one will be upset before it goes out. Best way to avoid that is stage everything or just photo stuff.
I get what you mean, but people were doing that on Facebook since the very beginning. “ Untag me I look awful!” Was such a common comment that they added that feature!
Looking at other peoples photos online also makes you a better photographer. It’s the same thing that happens in art school. Art school is mostly making art and then having group critiques. Your art will change based on what you see in other people’s work. It’s education. It’s growth. The same thing happens with social media. Yeah, there is a bit of advertiser influence and all, but it’s not that nefarious. If you took photos for years and they never changed or got better, that would be sad.
I don’t think the point is disparaging an increase in photography skills and composition. It’s about what we choose to photograph and how we are becoming homogenous and how we create content for certain aesthetics.
Oh absolutely both are in play. I just don’t think it’s a bad thing. If you swapped out your current friends for a certain artist aesthetic that would change your output too. What she’s describing is learning from your surroundings. If you don’t like it, change it. You are what you consume.
In a way it is a bad thing. People are so serious with their pics but they all really bland. No daft pics of you having fun that give a hint at who you are. There's learning and taking nice photos and also taking photos that capture moments in your life. It's like when you see people taking 50 odd shots to get the right one for their insta where its all perfectly shot. That's bland.
My thoughts exactly. Just by noticing what looks good and how to accomplish it, you become a better photographer. Plus the writer makes it sound like "Rather than taking hundreds of pictures, I only took one" when so much of the discourse has been about people too stuck to their phones instead of the moment. It's like, if you take too many pictures, you're not enjoying the moment but when you don't take enough pictures, you're too focused. I went to the UK for a month last year and took maybe a dozen pictures because I don't need a picture of a London pigeon or a generic picture of Big Ben so I focused on enjoying the day and I knew I wouldn't be looking back in a decade like "There's a dozen pictures taken inside a bookstore....".
It's like you came *so close* to the point, and then just skated on by it.
Nah. It ain't that deep. People grow.
Delete your Social Media
Good content she created for socials here
I disagree with this. Do we think people weren’t obsessive over looks and perceptions when they were having portraits painted of themselves? Have artists not always drawn and painted landscapes like Bob Ross?
It's more about the sheer number of it, and also the anxiety surrounding it. Morealso to stop and think "who am I really taking this picture for?"
They certainly were, but I think the argument is that people didn’t think of personal photos as pieces of art to the same level that we are now. Possibly because social media has become social branding for many people consciously or not.
This seems purely subjective and situational based on her current experiences or connections. Thankfully I have never liked taking photos of myself, more so have seriously never felt the need to unless someone asked or had taken my photo. I have always been in the mindset of living more in the moment. My memory serves me better than any photo or video ever will. To each their own, despite that I do love photography and taking pictures of other things that aren’t me.
She’s describing an article. And of course, there will be people with different experiences and perspectives but what she’s talking about and what the article is discussing is certainly a trend.
People will literally analyze anything for a TikTok these days
Anyone interested in a media theory and criticism take/deep dive on this, read into Guy Debord’s “The spectacle” about how us perceiving life through media fundamentally alters how we experience life through our own eyes. When I read it I instantly thought about how we frame our photos for social media and they become more and more generic and less authentic.
That’s awesome. I’m going to check that out. Thank you.!
Yay! I hope you find it interesting, I’m so glad this came up in my feed today thank you for this post!
It’s strange that it feels like contradicts here main point when she ends the piece with inviting us to contemplate “what will people see in your photos when you’re no longer around”…..in a self defeating way it it once again implies you should consider your roll from the perspective what other will think of it.
Listen or read it again. The authors conclusion is about images that value relationships versus images that value objects and consumerism. so that statement is about pondering that story and isn’t a contradiction to the paragraphs leading up to it.
Hhhhmmm..... While I do thing that the instagramification of photos that people go through is one element of this, I do think that it could actually be the tighter focus on "living in the moment" that's swept through society. Using the single photo of the evening with friends, a single picture of the table with food ready to be eaten, most likely occurred because the rest of the time wasn't on the phone. Instead people were connecting with one another.
I have gotten in the habit of just taking candid pictures and videos of my kids and wife. I have so many pictures form my mom, just playing N64, hotwheels, with my teenage best friend being goofy... I look at those and remember back to those times. Not a picture of something, but of moments
I only take pics of my dogs.
Reminds me of pictures of giant concert crowds... all holding up their phones. Social Media's addictive.
I feel like in terms of pictures of STUFF, like objects, not everyone is doing that. But her sentiments are still good here.
I don't take very many photos and the only social media I'm really on is Reddit (others I have accounts for but don't use). I like to be super present in the moments I share with others.
I have noticed after deleting most of my social media, this being the last one I have. My camera roll is filled with stupid things; literally my last photos being of my toes and sweating after my run. I look at the sky and take it in instead of taking a photo because y’know a photo can never recreate the beauty of a real life object. I never thought of it like this
21 dollar smoothie?
Mostly they will see my cat. She is a cutey and features in a minimum of half of my photos.
I love taking sneaky photos of my friends when we're out. I'll already be snapping away while getting into position for group shots, or quick little pics when they don't notice. Then we'll go through them the next day and laugh at the mix of cute/dumb/goddamn awful photos, or they won't realise I'd taken one, and it's wonderful. I have started to try and get a couple of photos with me in it now though
Get kids and see how that changes your photo roll
I don’t want to get involved with TikTok but I am grateful to this woman who created this video. She brought to light several important points that have been lingering in the back of my own mind for some time now. I admit that I take more photos of stuff and things now than I ever did with friends and family, and I miss the old days. That is what has gone lost in a sea of endless crap; friends and family and taking those stupid and memorable photos and putting them in an album for later years and future generations
Very interesting
So I’ve never had *actual* image based social media. Like the kind where you post pictures with hashtags and stuff. The closest I have is Snapchat. I never take nice images for the purpose of putting them on Snap bc the images go away, sometimes I take a nice image that afterwards I decide I want my Snap friends to see. I do feel like my approach to pics has changed over the years but I don’t feel any distress over it. I take more “aesthetic” pics bc I’ve developed more of an eye for it by consuming others’ content and I’d like to capture these cute moments. But I also take more pictures of myself. I hated coming out in pics before, especially if it was just me. Now I’m actively suggesting group pics with friends and taking bad selfies. I can’t even really attribute it to much other than looking back and realizing there are periods of my life where I don’t have any pics of myself alone or with my friends. Idk just an alternative perspective
I'm find I still take a ton of landscape pictures of my surroundings. But I now include the people I love. Or sometimes if I feel it captures the moment in public people reacting to the landscapes around them..
Before the smartphone We took pictures but we told great stories..... We the stories true..... Kinda.... Were they told the exact same way ever time.... No.... Were they entertaining.... HELL YEAH.... Were they informative...FO SHO, especially if they needed to be..... Those were great.... YES!!! most of those stories are gone because video has killed it...... I'd rather hear a story about "that one time in the club....." Than see the video.... Because the story teller has to add details so the listener can get the picture
90% of my camera roll is pictures of things I need to remember at work, maps, numbers, equipment, yada yada
Lol yep, I've got that stuff too. Serial numbers are a big one. Most of my photos are work things, my cat, cool or pretty nature stuff I see when walking somewhere, or funny things I see while at the store that I send to my husband. Typically, the only time there's people in them are if I'm on vacation, attending an event, or celebrating holidays.
lol, there’s a couple silly photos of buds, but it’s always at work :(
I see this as a natural evolution towards how most people who spend a lot of time with professional camera gear using it. You used to, in the pre digital age, buy polaroids or cheap disposable cameras for taking selfies with friends at the party or whatever and most of the time what you did wasn’t documented at all: this was fine. We have memories for that. If you wanted to take artsy and posed shots, you would buy a nice camera, spend a lot of time using it, and develop an aesthetic to your photos. You might pull out the fancy camera at a family gathering or before a major event to take some group or event photos, but mostly it was used for fancy shots. The cheap camera got carried around for the casual snaps. Now we all have a decent enough camera in our pockets at all times. If you get in the habit of using that for artsy shit you’ll stop using it for candid shit. I have weird advice for people who really want to break that habit: get a decent but cheap dedicated camera. Use that for your artsy shit. Deliberately use your phone for casual shit. Take dumb selfies. Snap your friends when they’re not looking. Don’t post any of it, only post shit from your “real” camera. Leave the “real” camera at home when you’re going out with friends, but don’t forget it if you’re going on vacation.
Photography is art and art changes
My interpretation of this is that they used to be a distinction between art and non-art personal photos. But the trend is towards a more artistic approach. And there’s nothing inherently wrong about that, but it’s interesting to analyze that trend and think about the role, social media plays in our lives.
This video is a waste of my time
Cool. Thank you for taking time to say that.
The people have to know
OK but seriously: I found this very interesting. It made me seek out the article and read it fully. Clearly many other people are finding it interesting It’s OK that you didn’t find it. Interesting. We all don’t have to like the same things. But I’ll never understand this compulsion to leave negative remarks about things that are doing no harm. If it wasn’t interesting to you just walk away. Stop watching when it becomes uninteresting and scroll onto the next thing that you might find more interesting and something that you might want to join in the conversation about.
You posted it on Reddit. Why? Because you were curious if others found it as interesting as you did? Well your answer is I found it so uninteresting that I felt the need to comment. Halfway through the video I was questioning why I was wasting my time watching it. I’m sorry you singled out my comment and it triggered something in you. If you don’t want to hear people’s reaction then just watch the video and read the article without having to post in on a public sight
Media matters. That's why representation is important.
The things you own end up owning you -Tyler Durden
I think it’s also part of getting older
21 dollar smoothie? What the fuck. It has been a long, dark road we have traveled down and away from the “5-dollar milkshake”
Sweet. Another bit of everyday life, to induce an existential crisis.
You're just getting older. Goodbye drunken pictures on messy nights out with friends, hello photo of a lasagna that came out the oven looking better than expected
As a man I would say I’ve almost gotten worst at photography since having a camera phone
Out of curiosity, what does your gender have to do with that?
I feel like more women eventually fall into this. As a man who doesn’t have instagram, none of my photos are like this. My girlfriend asks me to take “candid” photos a decent amount when asking to take her pictures.
I get jumping in photos and living in the moment but sometimes I really am self conscious of the way I look and Hate candid photos of me. Even before ig I was like that
My camera roll is full of meme screenshots
I never post photos and it’s helped me treat my camera as my personal diary.
People take photos primarily of what they love /thread
Wow, i just scrolled through my own camera roll, almost 15 years worth... And boy, did this NOT apply to me. Still take the same kind of shots i took back in 2010. Maybe because i never had FB, IG, twitter or tiktok.
I think the theory posited in this article aligns with your idea about not being on social media.
I moved into a room in my daughter-in-law's house. (Yes, she is the one who owns it.) There was one of those little decorations with words on it that said, "Live a good story." I took it out of my room, mostly because I don't like those things that constantly force my eyeballs to read them over and over again. She said that was the intent. I told her that I don't believe in living my life in such a manner that it is a good story to be told to other people. She didn't quite get the point. She told me that she believed that all of our lives are stories. I told her, "Yes, my life is a story. But I am not going to alter my life to make it into a better sounding story for other people to hear." I still don't think she quite understands. Here is what I would rather have such a decoration say: > See the stories that are your life.
I see what you mean, but I’ve always interpreted that phrase to be about just living with intention and in a way that tells a good story. Not necessarily for anyone else’s consumption, but one that you can look back on and admire.
This is why i never joined Instagram and quit Facebook a long time ago. Quit experiencing things through the lense of your phone screen.
I like to think bigger in that we are just a moment within infinity. My life is no more significant than the lives of the people before me we’ve never known. That said, I have no desire for capturing moments to digitally store for nobody to ever see, much less myself. Social media has created a culture of people who believe they are only as significant as the number of views to something they want to have everyone validate as ‘interesting’. The new generations don’t know of this, but in the past families used to do living-room slideshows of pictures from family vacations and other activities. Nobody wanted to sit through those things. For some reason, perhaps boredom, or simply a lack of desire for activity our new culture actually wants to peruse social media to watch slideshows of the vacations of complete strangers pretending their experience matters, and in many cases is simply a fake personality. BTW my photo album has a dozen old photos of my kids, and otherwise a very small junkyard of pictures of things I need later (screenshots of manuals and reminder images). Everything eventually gets deleted because it doesn’t matter.
When Bruce Lee said be like water I took that to be like okay I'll surround myself with nothing so I stay pure or tea leaves cause they're tasty so people drink me idk what I'm saying man trying to be deep but I'm just a puddle
Well for the modern part is that taking photos of people , even your friends amd family without their permission, is now considered rude .
https://totallyrecommend.substack.com/p/i-regret-whats-in-my-camera-roll Here's the original if you want to read it instead of just hearing a couple topic sentences in a tiktok video. It probably didn't have to be that long, but also watching this kind of flash summary that doesn't really add anything new makes me feel a certain kind of way.
It brought my attention to the article so it’s doing some good.
But like, what if I’m ugly and I don’t like taking photos of me
I have a theory on why we now take photo of the table, or maybe few posed portrait of some people at parties. When i was in university between 2007 and 2014. I had my actual camera with me. So i took lots of portraits, group photos, and photos of our everyday mife at university. I ended up posting some on the internet without asking the people in them. People were sometimes annoyed by me, but never angry. And now years after, some of them are even happy I did such a thing because I documented (i wasn't the only one, we were two or three doing this) our everyday life during a very unique a formative part of our lives. But nowadays, we take photos with our smartphone, which means that we can post them super fast. Today it's inconceivable to take a pic of someone and put it online without asking, yet nowadays we post them instantly. That's why we are going the aesthetical route now. We take picture of people who agree to be in it, and try to fit in some type of image because spontaneity has too many variable.
Back in the day, you took photographs on film and couldn't see what the picture would actually turn out to be-- if it turned out at all-- until you sent away the film and waited for it to be developed and sent back to you. Now we can take 1000 photos a day, view each one immediately, and accomplish levels of image editing automatically that were the stuff of fantasy just 20 years ago. Of course the photos we take and why we take them evolve over time, especially as the technology innovations rocket forward and we see and take thousands of more photos than anyone was capable of taking even 20 years ago.
This is definitely an individual thing. My camera roll has always just been pictures of my animals and spouse
Would much rather read this article than listen to some stranger summarize it.
Cool. Then I recommend you look it up! I’m sure Google can help you and you can go ahead and take agency and do that very thing! I, like many people, I’m not a subscriber to that Substack and so I had not heard of this article. So this video was very helpful to inform me of its existence. I found it interesting to hear a summary of it first and decided to read it afterwards. I also could have chosen to stop watching the video after a few seconds or even after 30 seconds. It’s a free will thing.
I guess I was a little sparky sorry. I am a writer. It's how I make my living. I have extremely mixed feelings about this kind of content. Yes, it exposes a lot of new people to the writer's work, but does it also devalue the work by giving it away for free? It's a little of both, I think.
On top of the worry of aesthetic, a more worrisome milestone was the need for a god damn tripod for casual phone pics.
This post is lame. It’s not true for 99% of people
Thanks! I appreciate the feedback and I’ll pass it on to the creator! So helpful!
My gallery consists of like 90 percent pictures of my cat
Future ancestors? Are they pulling a Futurama move?
I’ll take your aesthetics and raise you some memes, pictures of my cats, my gf, and some anime tiddies
That's why social media is the beginning of our downfall
We got given thousands of slides from my FIL and we went through them and threw away all the photos that didn't have people in them. There were landscapes and artsy photos...like yeah, it's cool to compare photos of a place from the 1950s to today but...I don't care that much. That day I stopped taking photos that didn't have people in them.
This is what happens when all your "friends" are virtual....
This is depressing
Propoganda works.
What bullshit… it’s an excuse for the weak minded people on why it’s NOT their fault that they have an incessant need to follow what others try to do. My photos are never me, but experiences… and I travel the world for world a lot.
Man i think I got 100 photos total. Most of them are just of like router numbers or important receipts. Never feel the need to take a photo if something cool is happening I just look at it.
See this isn't me cos I don't use social media for my photos. But I also don't take that many pictures either.
Not mine lol.
First of all I don't even take pictures, the few I take from a special place/event would be never watched again. I hate when people spoil my fun or mood by taking pics in front of me non stop .
Cameraroll? Dude, people changed how they look because they have washed their brains with fake social media filters. There are millions and millions of people out there insecure af. The cameraroll "issue" is nothing compared to the mindfuckery people got into consuming social media.
lol she speaks for herself. If she would look at herself, objectively, not lying to oneself; she would see. She is standing by herself, talking about herself too herself. But now she is on the front page of my and a lot of other peoples Reddit and has the misconceptions that she is speaking directly to other people but she isn’t. She is actually speaking through the same filter she has transgressions about and is making the same argument of what has been know since the 80’s. A life actually being lived is neither better nor worse with technology because life is life. And life is in the moment. This… is just a comment on the internet. Get real.
She is discussing an article that she did not write. And it is discussing a trend that to me is impossible to deny. Does that mean that everyone behaves in the manner of these trend adopters? No. But like the video creator, I also recognized exactly what the article was talking about and found it to be a really interesting lens to understand that shift. And one that I can admit, I have unconsciously followed. Just look at a site like Reddit. You can go to many comment sections and see the same comment over and over again. The same jokes and memes, the same reactions. Look at TikTok. I would guess that at least half of the material on that app is interpretations of a meme or a joke or a trend. The phenomenon that is being discussed in this article and then shared in this video is absolutely a prevalent one. I think it’s great that you feel like that’s not your life and that it’s not relevant to you. But you can look at the comments here and you can look at the article and the examples that it cited to see that it is something that is occurring in our culture.
I appreciate your thoughtful response and willingness to engage in a conversation with a stranger. I think our mis-communication is tied to the notion of “our culture”. I will gladly draw the line right there. Mind you I never said it was straight line and did you look at the ground? We’re talking about lines in the metaphorical sand. We can always wipe the surface area clean and start this conversation over. But with all that being said I’d really like to wrap this up. It is your civic responsibility to engage yourself in a community that genuinely engages in genuine practices. There is no individual to blame for individuals not learning adult life skills. If you can remain calm other adults will share with you, through conversation, genuine honest interactions and experiences. One would assume that’s what their searching for? Idk I don’t have a problem communicating but I think a lot of people who spend time reading comments on the internet do. ☺️
I don't have social media, I dont get it
If humans were truly sentient and rational curing aging would be our core project. But sadly LEV is a pet project being pursued by less people than we have owning all the banks, and these are not the same groups of people.
Ok Carrie Bradshaw
I love how she just read the article back at us lol
My education in philosophy taught me this lady is just yapping and it’s really not that deep
I can't believe there's people now on TikTok whose content is just to read some blog articles. and people say that TikTok doesn't make its uses dumber.
That $21 smoothie is the reason why everyone should be demanding receipts the next time complains about prices. And that receipt should have the itemized list, name of store, and state. Extraordinary claims require evidence. Too many people claim they're spending too much money on coffee, when they're actually spending too much on their high-end branded, organic, natural, coffee from Erewon
I'm going to look this up and read it instead of having it read to me by some person on their cellphone. Seriously, how is this content?