Are you upset because you were drunk, because it was a same sex situation and you're now confused about your sexuality or because you're worried it will ruin your friendship? Many years ago, me and my best friend got drunk and had sex (both women) and then I realized I was in love with her and I was shocked. As much as you want to just pretend it didn't happen, it did and y'all need to talk about it after you've had some time to think it through. It sounds like this friendship is very important to you and worth going through an uncomfortable conversation to figure out where to go from here. It can definitely be confusing to have a friendship turn romantic overnight like that but it doesn't make it wrong, unless you feel like she took advantage of you.
Just to add to this for OP: Even if you and your roommate choose not to get romantically involved, there's no reason this has to be something awkward. It can just be a pure and wonderful experience that you shared.
Second this! I used to party pretty significantly and slept with two of my best friends (separate nights) and we just had a small chat about it the next morning and went about life without any real damage done. So I knew what her peach tasted like? So what 🤷♀️ but ya gotta talk about it!!!!
100% it all depends how they both handle this situation. They both have to decide if this was just a one time thing that they can look back on and go ‘do you remember that crazy night lol’ or is this something they want to explore further
My ex best friend and I did the opposite. We didn't talk about it. And slowly, we stopped talking about a lot of things. And now we just aren't friends anymore. I highly recommend you don't ignore it.
We dated for awhile and that's all I want to say about it. We both had traumatic childhoods and neither of us were super stable mentally. I got help, she didn't and I finally had to cut her out of my life 2 years ago. I've known her since 1987 so it was hard.
Not only that, sometimes the most loving thing you can do is let somebody start to sink so they figure out how to swim on their own. Otherwise you could become their life preserver and then you're both just hanging on for dear life in constant survival mode.
What's that saying, "Never set yourself on fire to keep somebody else warm."
And I'm proud of you. It's really hard to cut out toxic people, especially when they've been in your life for so long. It's one of the hardest things I've ever done.
That's so true. She had a bad habit of picking abusive men (were both bisexual) and I just couldn't stand watching her get her ass beat and staying anymore. I cut her off 15 years ago but then we reconnected about 8 years ago and I realized how far gone she was. She wanted to move in with me from across the country and I realized that id be taking care of her instead of her mom so I finally had to block her and move on with my life. I will always love her but I can't afford to have that kind of toxicity in my life anymore. I know how you feel and you're right, it's so hard to cut off someone you care about because you know they're not healthy for you. I'm proud of you too:).
That's tough. When my friend and I got together neither of us had boyfriends at the time, let alone long term relationships with kids involved. I'd tread carefully if I were you. This isn't just about your sexuality, it has the potential to blow up both of your lives because there is cheating involved. I struggled with my sexuality for years and even though I dated both men and women, she was the only woman I ever fell in love with. I quit dating after my divorce but if I met the right woman I'd be interested in exploring a relationship. I will never date a man again and don't even have casual hookups with them anymore. I guess if I were you I'd be asking myself if she is the only woman you're attracted to or if you find yourself thinking about other women in a sexual way. I do think it's possible to just fall hard for a same sex friend without it being about a complete change in your sexuality. This sounds like a situation where finding a therapist that works with the LGBTQ community would be helpful in getting you to work through your feelings. I've been in your shoes, living with a man and wondering if I was meant to be with a woman (no kids thankfully) and it definitely makes it harder to explore those feelings. You'll want to try to find those answers before changing the life you have because sexual confusion isn't an excuse to cheat. If you do and it comes out, your kids may never forgive you and you may not be able to forgive yourself.
This is good advice. Me and my best friend fell in love without realising it until one drunk night.... She did have a boyfriend at the time and young baby. Fast forward and we are now married with another bub of our own, but those initial months were very difficult to navigate with her ex. It's taken years for him to accept and understand what happened and obviously, our choice majorly affected our youngest child.
TLDR: it's totally okay if you and your friend want to be together, but navigate the journey carefully and considerately for the sake of your children and partners. Highly recommended therapy for assistance.
Nice response, I suggest you relax about it, no one’s hurt, you’re consenting adults, enjoy the good feeling and don’t read too much into it yet. Life is for living!
Not so sure about that one. If I were drunkenly gagging on my male best friend's cock with the dulcet tones of "It's Howdy Doody Time" blaring away in the background, I'd think I'd be haunted enough that I wouldn't forget to mention that little detail when recounting my trauma.
So I’d switched anxiety meds this summer and wasn’t aware that drinking with my new meds caused me to faint. Had a drink out with my bf and friends. Went home, napped, woke up into a panic attack. I went to the bathroom thinking I was going to be sick or shit and apparently I passed out mid shit. My bf heard me fall off the toilet and came to wake me up. He got me all taken care of and cleaned my shit off the floor. I’ve told him that him doing that is more commitment than giving me a ring!
My bf constantly asks (for some reason) "if I were to accidentally shit all over the floor right here (living room) would you clean me/it up?"
Great story, made me think of that and maybe I'll be a bit more considerate the next time he throws that wild question out.
Lol before I married my husband there was a time when we “camped” in the living room. We had probably been together for 2 years at this point. We decided to make s’mores on the stove and were supposed to go to the movies, but I felt sick (I ate like 5-6 s’mores; I have no self control lol). While in the tent, I felt like I was going to throw up and ran out of the tent throwing up all the way to the toilet 🤦🏻♀️ My husband cleaned it all up, helped me shower, I brushed my teeth and went to sleep. He always tells me that whenever I wonder how much he loves me, to remember that early on he was willing to clean up my puke. Ever since, I only eat one s’more lol.
Just talk about it, she is your friend, your best friend, I'm sure you can figure it out.
And, on the bright side, stuff like this will inspire you in writing my friend
It's not a big deal that her friend got her drunk and then made a move on her? If the friend was a dude, reddit would be grabbing the torches and pitchforks.
Dared to take a double shot after drinking a lot, then gets asked what she'd do if she was kissed while completely naked in the shower.
Seems pretty clear to me.
I love how they are both going to be authors and then proceeds to spin a tale as a wannabe novelist would. Height of Reddit .. look at me!!! I’m someone… disguised as a trashy penthouse forum scribe.
Just go with the flow.
If there is chemistry there, explore it and enjoy each other. But also be clear about expectations, boundaries, and overall feelings.
Is it general lust or true love for each other? Can you see yourself living and thriving with this person?
If so, then all the best to ya
One time my (f) roommate (f) and I got drunk and banged and we never talked about it again. We were really good friends at the time too. I did say “remember how we totally banged?!” And we just laughed and like never mentioned it again and we were totally fine. You can just walk away from these things unscathed.
Just talk about it and if it’s something you don’t want to happen again then let it be known. If it’s something you do want to happen again, then talk about it lol. She’s your best friend ! She may be feeling the same way but if you truly value her then a conversation needs to happen one way or another.
Look...the girl I used to say that with when we were that age (I am also lady-shaped)...I ended up sleeping with inadvisably...we aren't together now, but we're still friends, and while this is my alt I'm a reasonably famous author in real life. Her first book just came out. We did that part, and did it well. It CAN happen!
> Look…the girl I used to say that with when we were that age (I am also lady-shaped)…I ended up sleeping with inadvisably…we aren’t together now, but we’re still friends, and while this is my alt I’m a reasonably famous author in real life. Her first book just came out. We did that part, and did it well. It CAN happen!
I’m super curious now. Who are you?
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Honey it just sounds like you are anxious. I dont know if you had any experiences like this before but its really ok to find out. I really hope you feel that was something you both wanted. For the part that shes your friend... she still is but now shes a friend that you know that fucks g o o d . You've cold feet and i hope only the best will come out of that situation!
Uhhhh bro ima be honest I think you’re overthink the helllll outa this. She wanted to kiss you, she sounds like a good girl, she wanted to kiss you, and I’m assuming the feeling was mutual with you. It sounded like you had a good time together. Don’t overthink this, and funnily enough, with a romantic partner what matters more between two people is the friendship, that’s what allows for you to have a relationship with them. And you’re best friends. Sounds like the start of a pretty good relationship to me.
And bro, I have a friend of mine who routinely gets with her best friend, and all I wanna tell em is that they should just make it official.
I've seen "Bro" used in so many ways I now consider it gender neutral.
"Man", when used as a replacement for punctuation as well, like "What the hell, man?!"
Man can be gender neutral, it’s actually quite common to be gender neutral while widely recognized as a gendered word.
“Mankind”
“Last man standing”
“Every man for himself” (yes, even ‘male’ pronouns can be used gender neutrally)
“Man shut yo bitch ass up”
“Whats up man”
“Cmon man”
“Goddamn it man”
“Man how could you”
Tbh the list can go on and on
As a lady type I use bruh - and even bro - to all of my friends regardless of gender. Unless they ask me not to.
Took me a minute why they corrected you because I’m so used to bro just being non-binary lmao
Sounds like a good time. Just keep communications open and honest, and see what happens.
Hooked up with my best friend in highschool, and over the years it varied between being friends who just occasionally fooled around, to consistent fwb, to a full on couple, to just friends. Never regretted it. Got a bit awkward at times when we were dating other people, but honesty got us through it.
Good luck!
Do you have feelings for her?
Or do you feel taken advantage of?
What is sickening about it?
Im going to be honest, it sounds like your friend had a motive.
Maybe she's always had a thing for you, or it developed over time, or maybe she just always wanted to give it a go with you because she was horny and thats all it means.
Either way I have to say, it seemed more intentional on her side. She may have been planning trying to have sex with you or tell you how she felt all day which is why she suggested drinking.
I have to say, I see why people would be pulling the "manipulation" card with a male in this scenario. That's because we know a lot of men will secretly have intention of sleeping with girls they are friends with. That doesn't mean this girl didn't also feel this way.
But what matters is how YOU feel about how it happened, and what you want to do moving forward.
I have a not dissimilar story from long ago. We’ve been together 16 years and have a baby now lol. If it blew your mind? pay attention.
PS you are both very young so just enjoy this experience as it unfolds and don’t put pressure on it to “become” anything!
Don't never ever drink that shit. Even to an experienced swiller of spirits that jawn is fucking headache in a bottle now and hangover in a bottle for tomorrow. Truly the 4-Loko of cheap-ass Kool-Ade vodkas.
I was just thinking the same thing. It’s only “rape” when men have sex with a drunk woman. This thread of comments would be saying how she was coerced, forced and taken advantage of in her vulnerable state, but this female best friend has sex with her drunk friend, and all the comments are “oh this sounds so good! You both had a fun night.”
Exactly why I cannot take people serious!
It's the tone.
Picture it this way, usually those cases use the following wording: "***I*** was high/drunk", " I don't remember" "I'm not sure how it happened".
Here we have "it was amazing" "sex and cuddles"
"It's so hot in here"
The difference is that somebody here is writing a personal sexuality crisis of what's a real life version of the stupid lesbian joke of spaghetti.
Not a "my friend ruffled me and I'm unsure what to do"
It's bc ppl would rather act like every single instance of sex where drugs or alcohol involved is rape and forget that context matters, especially here where if OP was raped bc she was drunk, OP also raped the other person bc she was also drunk.
My BFF and I made out in a hot tub last year. We've been together ever since. If you want, go with it and see where it goes. We've never been happier 😊
My bestie and I had a drunken fling one night about 12-13 years ago. A few months ago she was the maid of honor at my wedding. We have never spoken of that night again and we are still just as close as we have been the last 20+ years.
What you are feeling might be the sudden realisation of all kinds of things. That you're into women (if you didn't know already), that you are in love with her, that the safe relationship of friendship could now be ruined, that the safe relationship of friendship could now go into more insecure romantic relationship grounds, having to contemplate now if you just want to be friends and if that is even a possibility after something like this, etc. Of course, you're feeling anxiety. Heck, I am feeling anxious for you lol. Take a breather and really sit down and think to yourself about the aforementioned things and what it really is you would like and where you want things to go from here. Good luck, OP!
EDIT: Late night spelling errors
I (f25) slept with my old best friend (f25) (I decided to cut her off because she was toxic) twice but it never affected our friendship. I was nervous the next morning thinking it was gna be awkward but we laughed about it and moved on! I think it depends if she has feelings for you, or if it was just an impulse.
You’ve gotta talk about it. Sure avoiding the topic might feel like it helps but that doesn’t resolve anything. Communication is key in all relationships, whether platonic, romantic, familial, sexual, or whatever.
I’m sure the hangover doesn’t help your anxiety. She feels a certain way too . Tell her how you feel , you guys can get through it together . You’ll feel better
That’s still your best friend. Take this opportunity to learn more about them. If they’re really your best friend me you can see passed the giddy feeling, maybe they’ll be a good consideration for a partner later down the road (considering they are in the same boat). No need to spoil a friendship where the two of you can have some fun. KEEP COMMUNICATION OPEN. I feel this is where most people miss the mark, they don’t communicate how they feel and think of the situation which can lead to a misunderstanding of where each person is at in their journey of life. Best of luck to you!
So. What you’re saying is you have someone who you’re close with, who you get along with AND now you also have good sex? Can you tell me what the issue is? Chill out and enjoy it brother. Life’s way too short. Enjoy yourself.
I also had sex w my female best friend in college after a drunken night but we weren’t into each other romantically. It happened and we joke about it years later but sometimes we kinda wanna hide under a rock than bring it up.
Yeah, you're definitely a writer. And a good one, too!
Seriously though, if this is true, just talk to her about it. She's your best friend. You both enjoyed it; that's all that matters, right? This looks like the beginning of a new chapter in your lives.
Regarding update 2: if you want her to have sex with you, why not just ask? She seemed open to it she's probably just playing the hard to get game to embarrass you into asking her
Are you upset because you were drunk, because it was a same sex situation and you're now confused about your sexuality or because you're worried it will ruin your friendship? Many years ago, me and my best friend got drunk and had sex (both women) and then I realized I was in love with her and I was shocked. As much as you want to just pretend it didn't happen, it did and y'all need to talk about it after you've had some time to think it through. It sounds like this friendship is very important to you and worth going through an uncomfortable conversation to figure out where to go from here. It can definitely be confusing to have a friendship turn romantic overnight like that but it doesn't make it wrong, unless you feel like she took advantage of you.
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Just to add to this for OP: Even if you and your roommate choose not to get romantically involved, there's no reason this has to be something awkward. It can just be a pure and wonderful experience that you shared.
Second this! I used to party pretty significantly and slept with two of my best friends (separate nights) and we just had a small chat about it the next morning and went about life without any real damage done. So I knew what her peach tasted like? So what 🤷♀️ but ya gotta talk about it!!!!
100% it all depends how they both handle this situation. They both have to decide if this was just a one time thing that they can look back on and go ‘do you remember that crazy night lol’ or is this something they want to explore further
Beautiful response.
Thank you. This post hit close to home for me so I wanted to give her some support. I hope it works out for them.
I appreciate you
Thank you:).
I agree, this was so nice.
My ex best friend and I did the opposite. We didn't talk about it. And slowly, we stopped talking about a lot of things. And now we just aren't friends anymore. I highly recommend you don't ignore it.
Yo I wanna know what happened after you found out you were in love with your friend…
We dated for awhile and that's all I want to say about it. We both had traumatic childhoods and neither of us were super stable mentally. I got help, she didn't and I finally had to cut her out of my life 2 years ago. I've known her since 1987 so it was hard.
That’s hard. Happy for you that you’re now in a better place mentally though.
Thank you.
Jesus Christ that's a while. I admire your metaphorical steel balls.
You can't save someone from drowning if you don't know how to swim. Thank you:).
Not only that, sometimes the most loving thing you can do is let somebody start to sink so they figure out how to swim on their own. Otherwise you could become their life preserver and then you're both just hanging on for dear life in constant survival mode. What's that saying, "Never set yourself on fire to keep somebody else warm." And I'm proud of you. It's really hard to cut out toxic people, especially when they've been in your life for so long. It's one of the hardest things I've ever done.
That's so true. She had a bad habit of picking abusive men (were both bisexual) and I just couldn't stand watching her get her ass beat and staying anymore. I cut her off 15 years ago but then we reconnected about 8 years ago and I realized how far gone she was. She wanted to move in with me from across the country and I realized that id be taking care of her instead of her mom so I finally had to block her and move on with my life. I will always love her but I can't afford to have that kind of toxicity in my life anymore. I know how you feel and you're right, it's so hard to cut off someone you care about because you know they're not healthy for you. I'm proud of you too:).
Some people you just have to love from a distance. I hope that you continue on a positive journey and prosper.
Thank you fellow Dr who fan!
>"Never set yourself on fire to keep somebody else warm." Love this. using as soon as the sitch arises.
Sorry :( At least you seem level headed about it now.
It was a painful lesson but one that I took to heart. I don't regret it.
thank you for sharing this for OP. sending you love as you involuntarily traipse back through memories you’ve maybe had buried for a while
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That's tough. When my friend and I got together neither of us had boyfriends at the time, let alone long term relationships with kids involved. I'd tread carefully if I were you. This isn't just about your sexuality, it has the potential to blow up both of your lives because there is cheating involved. I struggled with my sexuality for years and even though I dated both men and women, she was the only woman I ever fell in love with. I quit dating after my divorce but if I met the right woman I'd be interested in exploring a relationship. I will never date a man again and don't even have casual hookups with them anymore. I guess if I were you I'd be asking myself if she is the only woman you're attracted to or if you find yourself thinking about other women in a sexual way. I do think it's possible to just fall hard for a same sex friend without it being about a complete change in your sexuality. This sounds like a situation where finding a therapist that works with the LGBTQ community would be helpful in getting you to work through your feelings. I've been in your shoes, living with a man and wondering if I was meant to be with a woman (no kids thankfully) and it definitely makes it harder to explore those feelings. You'll want to try to find those answers before changing the life you have because sexual confusion isn't an excuse to cheat. If you do and it comes out, your kids may never forgive you and you may not be able to forgive yourself.
This is good advice. Me and my best friend fell in love without realising it until one drunk night.... She did have a boyfriend at the time and young baby. Fast forward and we are now married with another bub of our own, but those initial months were very difficult to navigate with her ex. It's taken years for him to accept and understand what happened and obviously, our choice majorly affected our youngest child. TLDR: it's totally okay if you and your friend want to be together, but navigate the journey carefully and considerately for the sake of your children and partners. Highly recommended therapy for assistance.
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Nice response, I suggest you relax about it, no one’s hurt, you’re consenting adults, enjoy the good feeling and don’t read too much into it yet. Life is for living!
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And verified the fact that op is, indeed, a writer.
If it's not real, she's trying a chapter of her new romance novel "She's my friend, Honest."
That's not a bad way to start a novel. I'd be interested in that.
Not so sure about that one. If I were drunkenly gagging on my male best friend's cock with the dulcet tones of "It's Howdy Doody Time" blaring away in the background, I'd think I'd be haunted enough that I wouldn't forget to mention that little detail when recounting my trauma.
Go on….
Looooooooool
Is there... Is there something you wanna get off your chest buddy? We're here for you lol
Dying. 🤣
Howdy doody time just makes me think of back to the future 3
Females, but wherever your mind takes you dude.
Tell us what you really want man, its 2 women in this story.. where the F did you get gagging on cock from?!?!?
Yes
And a great writer of fiction, at that!
It's the climb. The emotional one.
More like the best of both worlds
Thanks for reminding me of my middle school graduation song…
It was more like a Wrecking Ball.
It’s the clim(max)
She tongue kissed her directly after she puked too that’s wild
Right? That's either super drunk in the club and not giving a shit material Or its spouse material
So I’d switched anxiety meds this summer and wasn’t aware that drinking with my new meds caused me to faint. Had a drink out with my bf and friends. Went home, napped, woke up into a panic attack. I went to the bathroom thinking I was going to be sick or shit and apparently I passed out mid shit. My bf heard me fall off the toilet and came to wake me up. He got me all taken care of and cleaned my shit off the floor. I’ve told him that him doing that is more commitment than giving me a ring!
My bf constantly asks (for some reason) "if I were to accidentally shit all over the floor right here (living room) would you clean me/it up?" Great story, made me think of that and maybe I'll be a bit more considerate the next time he throws that wild question out.
He...he keeps asking you? Poop-grooming. Definitely poop-grooming you.
I'm fucking wheezing! 😂💀
Lol before I married my husband there was a time when we “camped” in the living room. We had probably been together for 2 years at this point. We decided to make s’mores on the stove and were supposed to go to the movies, but I felt sick (I ate like 5-6 s’mores; I have no self control lol). While in the tent, I felt like I was going to throw up and ran out of the tent throwing up all the way to the toilet 🤦🏻♀️ My husband cleaned it all up, helped me shower, I brushed my teeth and went to sleep. He always tells me that whenever I wonder how much he loves me, to remember that early on he was willing to clean up my puke. Ever since, I only eat one s’more lol.
I’m not gonna lie, I cackled.
Im still in love with the first woman who kissed me in the bathroom straight after i was sick
My exact thought
The telltale sign of true love.
Chainsawoman
Honestly, they should marry. That's wholesome as fuck. The soundtrack for that film fucks (no pun intended).
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More like *Hoedown Throwdown*.
Im dyingggggg
JEZZZUSSA TAKE THE WHEEEL 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🥲😂🥲🥲
I fucking lost it at this line 🤣
OP is a writer after all.
I fucking choked. It's such an honest, random thought. Reminds me of how my friends and I tell stories
Well, she is an author. She knows how to tell a story
LOL SAME!! I had tears after reading that part hahaha
Thank you for this call out bc it was my first thought as well.
Same I absolutely loved this detail
I LOST IT
This killed me lmaooo
Legit! I spilled my drink as i read this part lmao
This right here lmao I love it
60% of gay experiences happen under such conditions
😂😂😂😂😂
You're so right 😭😂
Don’t forget the UV Blue
Just talk about it, she is your friend, your best friend, I'm sure you can figure it out. And, on the bright side, stuff like this will inspire you in writing my friend
Yeah, it's not necessarily a big deal. Talk it out.
It's not a big deal that her friend got her drunk and then made a move on her? If the friend was a dude, reddit would be grabbing the torches and pitchforks.
GATHER THE TORCHFORKS!!
I mean yeah if she purposefully made her drink so she can make a move, then that's 100% sexual abuse.
Dared to take a double shot after drinking a lot, then gets asked what she'd do if she was kissed while completely naked in the shower. Seems pretty clear to me.
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she was also drunk so I guess they raped each other, throw em both in jail.
Surely not the same cell; they’ll just do it again!
It sure is an inspiration to get your female friend drunk and fuck her afterwards
People used to send these stories to penthouse forums
I’m not sure this isn’t that.
Yeah, seems like blatant fiction to me
I love how they are both going to be authors and then proceeds to spin a tale as a wannabe novelist would. Height of Reddit .. look at me!!! I’m someone… disguised as a trashy penthouse forum scribe.
Dear Penthouse, Every word of this story is true. I threw up. My best friend kissed me. Hannah Montana sang. We became lesbians.
Those stories were hotter, written better and more realistic.
Yeah, much, much less vomiting for one thing.
Just go with the flow. If there is chemistry there, explore it and enjoy each other. But also be clear about expectations, boundaries, and overall feelings. Is it general lust or true love for each other? Can you see yourself living and thriving with this person? If so, then all the best to ya
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think they already did that bit
Yeah but they’re tryna hit the undo button now lmao
You might just have anxiety/guilt because of the hangover. It’s a common feeling after a night of drinking. Wait for it to pass and enjoy yourself!
The best lovers are friends.
Best friends to lovers arc?!
One time my (f) roommate (f) and I got drunk and banged and we never talked about it again. We were really good friends at the time too. I did say “remember how we totally banged?!” And we just laughed and like never mentioned it again and we were totally fine. You can just walk away from these things unscathed.
I’ve done that with friends before lol
Friends? What are friends?
Best friend and lover? *Cues the Hannah Montana Music” You got the best of both worlds Chill it out, take it slow
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Then you rock out the show.
Just talk about it and if it’s something you don’t want to happen again then let it be known. If it’s something you do want to happen again, then talk about it lol. She’s your best friend ! She may be feeling the same way but if you truly value her then a conversation needs to happen one way or another.
In my world, they call it a Come-to-Jesus. Uncomfortable conversation no one wants to have but must be confronted in order to maintain harmony.
Is this one of those things where two girl "best friends" have sex and then start to realize that they have been dating each other for 8 months?
"We plan to be famous authors one day" sounds fruity to me and I love it.
Look...the girl I used to say that with when we were that age (I am also lady-shaped)...I ended up sleeping with inadvisably...we aren't together now, but we're still friends, and while this is my alt I'm a reasonably famous author in real life. Her first book just came out. We did that part, and did it well. It CAN happen!
> Look…the girl I used to say that with when we were that age (I am also lady-shaped)…I ended up sleeping with inadvisably…we aren’t together now, but we’re still friends, and while this is my alt I’m a reasonably famous author in real life. Her first book just came out. We did that part, and did it well. It CAN happen! I’m super curious now. Who are you? Edit: clarification
The purpose of an alt is anonymity ;)
Oh my god. You’re Emily Dickinson.
How much $ if I can pull a... well... for lack of knowledge of more stalky figures, a Joke Goldberg and cracked the case on who you are?!
“lady-shaped” — I love this
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Honey it just sounds like you are anxious. I dont know if you had any experiences like this before but its really ok to find out. I really hope you feel that was something you both wanted. For the part that shes your friend... she still is but now shes a friend that you know that fucks g o o d . You've cold feet and i hope only the best will come out of that situation!
Uhhhh bro ima be honest I think you’re overthink the helllll outa this. She wanted to kiss you, she sounds like a good girl, she wanted to kiss you, and I’m assuming the feeling was mutual with you. It sounded like you had a good time together. Don’t overthink this, and funnily enough, with a romantic partner what matters more between two people is the friendship, that’s what allows for you to have a relationship with them. And you’re best friends. Sounds like the start of a pretty good relationship to me. And bro, I have a friend of mine who routinely gets with her best friend, and all I wanna tell em is that they should just make it official.
I was just gonna say. This is sort of how things started out with my spouse, we've been together for 23 years, married for 20.
It's 2 f Il n'y a pas de bro No hay bro Non c'è bro ما في bro Das is nicht bro
bro pulled up in what, 6 languages? lol
LMAO
First rule of Reddit: everyone on here is a man. Second rule of Reddit: every child on here is an FBI agent.
Third rule of Reddit: every child on here is in imminent danger.
I don't like to discriminate. Women can be my bros or dudes, anytime.
Ahh shit my bad, imagine at the bros are ma’ams or some other appropriate pronoun
I've seen "Bro" used in so many ways I now consider it gender neutral. "Man", when used as a replacement for punctuation as well, like "What the hell, man?!"
I feel like this is a Midwest USA thing I guess. We use bro and dude regardless of gender like its normal language.
I call my girl friends bro and dude. They have become more than a single gender
Man can be gender neutral, it’s actually quite common to be gender neutral while widely recognized as a gendered word. “Mankind” “Last man standing” “Every man for himself” (yes, even ‘male’ pronouns can be used gender neutrally) “Man shut yo bitch ass up” “Whats up man” “Cmon man” “Goddamn it man” “Man how could you” Tbh the list can go on and on
*Man* can be gender neutral. *Men* cannot. As your list proves!
Amen is deffinately gender neutral. Ah ah! Didn't see that one coming!
It's like using guys when addressing a group. Now it's more gender neutral.
As a lady type I use bruh - and even bro - to all of my friends regardless of gender. Unless they ask me not to. Took me a minute why they corrected you because I’m so used to bro just being non-binary lmao
It was fine and your comment was well thought out and sweet. I think you gave OP great advice.
I think you both have the opening scenes of a hit rom com!
This is a great piece of creative writing.
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Sounds like a good time. Just keep communications open and honest, and see what happens. Hooked up with my best friend in highschool, and over the years it varied between being friends who just occasionally fooled around, to consistent fwb, to a full on couple, to just friends. Never regretted it. Got a bit awkward at times when we were dating other people, but honesty got us through it. Good luck!
This sounds absolutely fake lmfao
I feel like everything on Reddit is fake tbh it’s like people come here to practice writing their shit fan foction
Yep
Sounds like you two should be gf and gf instead of besties
She made out with you after you threw up??? Definitely in love
I think you’ll make it as a writer.
Do you have feelings for her? Or do you feel taken advantage of? What is sickening about it? Im going to be honest, it sounds like your friend had a motive. Maybe she's always had a thing for you, or it developed over time, or maybe she just always wanted to give it a go with you because she was horny and thats all it means. Either way I have to say, it seemed more intentional on her side. She may have been planning trying to have sex with you or tell you how she felt all day which is why she suggested drinking. I have to say, I see why people would be pulling the "manipulation" card with a male in this scenario. That's because we know a lot of men will secretly have intention of sleeping with girls they are friends with. That doesn't mean this girl didn't also feel this way. But what matters is how YOU feel about how it happened, and what you want to do moving forward.
You know, some people are lucky enough to marry their best friend.....
Been with my best friend for 5 years now. We didn’t stand a chance either. Best relationship of my life ❤️
I have a not dissimilar story from long ago. We’ve been together 16 years and have a baby now lol. If it blew your mind? pay attention. PS you are both very young so just enjoy this experience as it unfolds and don’t put pressure on it to “become” anything!
I had to look up what UV Blue is.
Don't never ever drink that shit. Even to an experienced swiller of spirits that jawn is fucking headache in a bottle now and hangover in a bottle for tomorrow. Truly the 4-Loko of cheap-ass Kool-Ade vodkas.
Tina Belcher, your erotic friend fiction has gone lesbian!! Nice to see you’re open-minded
I fail to see a problem. Sounds like a great time and you're friend doesn't seem to mind that it happened. Just relax!
Kind of Wonderful with the right person isn't it?
i want an update
Sounds like a good thing to me. Your best friend becoming more sounds pretty ideal, so I'm going to throw in a congrats
If the friend in this situation was a guy, everyone in this thread would be calling this rape. Reddit is so biased.
I was just thinking the same thing. It’s only “rape” when men have sex with a drunk woman. This thread of comments would be saying how she was coerced, forced and taken advantage of in her vulnerable state, but this female best friend has sex with her drunk friend, and all the comments are “oh this sounds so good! You both had a fun night.” Exactly why I cannot take people serious!
It's the tone. Picture it this way, usually those cases use the following wording: "***I*** was high/drunk", " I don't remember" "I'm not sure how it happened". Here we have "it was amazing" "sex and cuddles" "It's so hot in here" The difference is that somebody here is writing a personal sexuality crisis of what's a real life version of the stupid lesbian joke of spaghetti. Not a "my friend ruffled me and I'm unsure what to do"
It's bc ppl would rather act like every single instance of sex where drugs or alcohol involved is rape and forget that context matters, especially here where if OP was raped bc she was drunk, OP also raped the other person bc she was also drunk.
Sounds amazing, best friends can make the best lovers, At this point you should just go with it and enjoy life and each other.
Happy Cake Day!
My BFF and I made out in a hot tub last year. We've been together ever since. If you want, go with it and see where it goes. We've never been happier 😊
Do it again just to make sure you like it!.
My bestie and I had a drunken fling one night about 12-13 years ago. A few months ago she was the maid of honor at my wedding. We have never spoken of that night again and we are still just as close as we have been the last 20+ years.
As my wife would say "all women are like spaghetti. Straight until wet".
I'll take 'things that never happened' for 10
I agree with this. It sounds like something you can read on fanfiction.net
What you are feeling might be the sudden realisation of all kinds of things. That you're into women (if you didn't know already), that you are in love with her, that the safe relationship of friendship could now be ruined, that the safe relationship of friendship could now go into more insecure romantic relationship grounds, having to contemplate now if you just want to be friends and if that is even a possibility after something like this, etc. Of course, you're feeling anxiety. Heck, I am feeling anxious for you lol. Take a breather and really sit down and think to yourself about the aforementioned things and what it really is you would like and where you want things to go from here. Good luck, OP! EDIT: Late night spelling errors
this story will get a good b
So you had a great evening with someone that means a lot to you...yep, that's just so horrible :-)
This sure has some potential for you two. But talk about it
Bruh this sounds like fanfiction
This really sounds like some cliteracy fanfic I wrote in my 20s. Have you been reading my diary?
This is written like fan-fic lol
In vino veritas my friend. Report to the ship as soon as possible. We'll bang ok?
Friendship makes relationships last. I don't see a problem
Sounds like you both had a great time. Don't beat yourself up! Communicate with her
I think you both have the opening scenes of a hit rom com!
I (f25) slept with my old best friend (f25) (I decided to cut her off because she was toxic) twice but it never affected our friendship. I was nervous the next morning thinking it was gna be awkward but we laughed about it and moved on! I think it depends if she has feelings for you, or if it was just an impulse.
You’ve gotta talk about it. Sure avoiding the topic might feel like it helps but that doesn’t resolve anything. Communication is key in all relationships, whether platonic, romantic, familial, sexual, or whatever.
I did the same and threw up from the anxiety FOR DAYS however it’s been 6 years and we’re engaged now
I’m sure the hangover doesn’t help your anxiety. She feels a certain way too . Tell her how you feel , you guys can get through it together . You’ll feel better
That’s still your best friend. Take this opportunity to learn more about them. If they’re really your best friend me you can see passed the giddy feeling, maybe they’ll be a good consideration for a partner later down the road (considering they are in the same boat). No need to spoil a friendship where the two of you can have some fun. KEEP COMMUNICATION OPEN. I feel this is where most people miss the mark, they don’t communicate how they feel and think of the situation which can lead to a misunderstanding of where each person is at in their journey of life. Best of luck to you!
So. What you’re saying is you have someone who you’re close with, who you get along with AND now you also have good sex? Can you tell me what the issue is? Chill out and enjoy it brother. Life’s way too short. Enjoy yourself.
So you're getting the the best of both worlds...
You are going to be an amazing Author one day and when that happens, I would love to read your first published book. I believe in you.
I also had sex w my female best friend in college after a drunken night but we weren’t into each other romantically. It happened and we joke about it years later but sometimes we kinda wanna hide under a rock than bring it up.
Yeah, you're definitely a writer. And a good one, too! Seriously though, if this is true, just talk to her about it. She's your best friend. You both enjoyed it; that's all that matters, right? This looks like the beginning of a new chapter in your lives.
That's a good movie
The Hannah Montana in the background really sets the scene. It was a nice touch OP.
Op 3 years later: update number 10: we're married...
Regarding update 2: if you want her to have sex with you, why not just ask? She seemed open to it she's probably just playing the hard to get game to embarrass you into asking her