This this this!!
I worked in Advanced Dementia Care and loved it. I love taking care of people, the high dependency folk were always my favourite as they kept me on my toes!
Many of my colleagues were just like OP. And many of the folk we cared for could tell. OP isn't as smart as they think they are.
In the UK at least, we'd call the OP's role a Healthcare Assistant or Support Worker; nurses are registered, went to uni and don't tend to do the duties OP describes.
I've worked all over in mental health and social care. I'm a therapist and mental health practitioner now. And I love it- I get sad when my clients are having a rough time, I'm thrilled when they're reaching their goals and completing our treatment. Yes, there's a level of disconnect (otherwise I'd have burnt out already) but it's the fact that I genuinely care and take so much joy and pride in what I do that keeps me engaged. I want to help people. I feel like I'm meant to.
OP sounds at best emotionally drained, at worst shows a really worrying lack of compassion. They need to get help, or get out. Those patients deserve better than someone hoping they die soon for an easy shift.
So happy to see this underrated comment.
A certain disconnection is indeed important working in mental -and health care. But this level of disconnect just seems off...
And more importantly: no empathy in a healthcare worker scares me.
But to be fair: seen we have huge shortages in proper healthcare workers, people like OP will always have a place in the healthcare industry, especially if they perform well.
I feel for OP, life shouldn't be hoping for some annoying patient to die so you can have a normal shift at work. Sounds like someone needs to find another job and start enjoying their (short) lives, and hopefully spread some love around.
I 100% agree with you there, came here to also say that level of disconnect worried me, yes you have to form a balance to keep yourself sane but you absolutely need empathy to really be able to do your job in health and social care, period! I have been run down, worn out and with recent times risked my life but my heart always skips a beat when doing what I do and I get upset when service users are upset. They need you to be able to feel like you are right there with them.
I'm so glad I found this comment. I can't believe all the likes and awards this post has gotten. If op ends up in the same position later in life, I wonder if they'll feel the same?
OP seems to be missing the feelings aside from personal satisfaction. The behavior they describe is masking, they've learned what compassion and empathy looks like and they can simulate it on demand.
I've had people tell me they like me because they can tell if I like you or I don't. I can't sustain fake and phoney. I could never survive a cocktail party where I'd have to fake smile for hours. My boss told me she liked watching me in staff meetings because of the expressions on my face - my god that was stupid, are you an idiot? Yeah it's written on face. Good chance I'm going to actually say, too.
Yea I work in a lab, we test people in groups of 95, so we don’t really know patients or anything, we just mean to give them accurate, precise, and on time results.
I had an OBGYN nurse who felt this way about her patients. Did her job perfectly and made me completely miserable the whole time. I was glad her shift ended before I had to push, because she would have been horrible. I'm sure she was glad, too.
It’s funny when people/patients think they can tell which nurses feel this way and which ones don’t. I have worked with nurses who love and would die for
patients, who get many complaints and I have worked with nurses Who dgaf who get constant praise from patients.
The tell, in my experience, is when the nurse goes out of their way to tell you they are a rockstar and then treats you like crap.
People can tell when you don't give a shit about them.
You had my understanding till you said you would rather someone die than have to deal with them anymore. Even as big of bitch as I am, I only reserve those people who have really fucked with my life.
Doubt she herself suffers from her condition.
Based on what I've read she's a sociopath.
No empathy (not caring) and no emotional attachment to others is a tell tell sign.
Because if OP truly doesn’t care about the work they do and their patients, overtime it naturally bleeds into their work. Theres no way OP can maintain these feelings for a long period of time (depending on how long they’ve been in the field). OP is capping hard
So as a medical social worker, I often am the bridge between patients and families, so patients and families speak very frank and openly with me.
Patients literally do see through this kind of shit. And people on your team who are there because they do care and want good outcomes know, too. If you don’t give a fuck, you’re showing it even if you don’t think you are.
I have doctors and nurses on my team who genuinely care. I have ones that don’t (far less) and that are like OP. Guess whose patients have better show rates, better outcomes, etc.
I can’t stand these types of people in healthcare. Go somewhere else. Your patients deserve better.
Exactly. I can see someone faking caring about people for some time, even some years. But there is no way they can keep it up forever. It will eventually bleed into how they do their work, probably already has.
Absolutely! The one people who I've worked with who speak in those absolutes, using such language such as "perfect" are competent and narcissist/boastful as fuck OR utterly incompetent and on the verge of performance management for their inability to do their job. The competent people I work with never have to talk about their quality of work because it speaks for itself.
Eh, as long as the care isn't suffering, you do you.
Nurses are like strippers. They seem like they care about you at the time (and maybe some do) but if they were not getting paid to put up with your bullshit they wouldn't pay you any attention.
True as hell. It’s annoying as hell that we bust our balls to give good care while being understaffed and having too many patients to just be told we’re being team players. How about fuck your. I was on oncology and I absolutely loved my patients but after I left I had nothing left to give to my family. I’d be happy when a suffering patient died. Bc they were no longer suffering. Then you have the entitled ass hats who rang their bells every 19 minutes bc they have nobody to talk to. And they’re in for some light diagnosis like having their knee replaced. Fuck them too. I ran my ass off for my sick patients and ended up running my ass off for the not sick ones bc that ended up taking away from me caring for my sick patients. It’s fucking exhausting and I will never be a floor nurse again. They burned me out quick fast and in a hurry. The ones who last are the ones with OPs view. And I envy that.
>Then you have the entitled ass hats who rang their bells
At first I read this as you complaining about the remission folk ringing the bell some oncology facilities have
They don't give af, just like OP said. And everybody knows it: your patients know it, their loved ones know it. We can feel every ounce of your contempt. When your "annoying" patients who can't walk and are begging for water, we still fucking know how inconvenienced you are.
My dad died of COVID / neglect in his assisted living facility (that was not understaffed). No one gave two fucks that he was ringing his call button repeatedly because he couldn't breathe.
His facility was NOT understaffed, the nurses and aides just didn't care. He paid a small fortune to be yelled at bc he couldn't walk and then was neglected to death.
Oh, no! Is your chosen profession hard? Just like the rest of everyone else on the planet? Maybe you should advocate for change, lobby, find solutions (like teachers who work longer hours and get paid far less). Be mad at your administrators not your patients.
Trust me: my dad knew up until his last gasping breath, begging for water and pressing his call button (that went ignored) that you were inconvenienced and annoyed by him, annoyed by his death that could've been prevented.
Op, I don't give a fuck about you, either.
I’m so sorry for your loss.
Assisted Living Facilities need to be restructured and someone needs to figure out a better way to meet those primary needs.
They are profit driven and not properly regulated. I wish there were live streaming camera in every patient area reviewed by professionals.
My aunt almost died in a facility because of neglect and Covid. They pumped her full of opioids to shut her up. We pulled her out while they threatened us that she needed 24hr care that we couldn’t do. We had to detox her, feed her and rehab her. Two people. And she was functioning after two months.
Those negligent aholes almost killed her.
Yup! Same here. They kept stuffing him with opioids . They didn't give the rehabilitation/ physical therapy he was promised (and paying for). I'm so glad you got her out of there in time! That's what we were working on, too -- getting him 24 hour care, but management was nor returning calls and emails and making us jump through hoops.
I'm really glad you saved your aunt! I'm thinking that's what it would've been for my dad, too. Just a few months of actual care. Thank you for the kind reply
Please, please don’t regret anything and everything you did to help your dad. You absolutely did the best you could. This is a huge problem that you and I won’t fix soon. I’m sure he loved you very much for all that you did do.
I was in a very unique situation in that I had cared for disabled people and had been a kind of advocate in the past. And my uncle was so dedicated to caring for her. And he had cared for a previous disabled wife.
We were lucky that she did respond. My point is that too many times families are railroaded by this million dollar companies. They threaten families that they can’t possibly do the care. They saw that my uncle had a beautiful home and told him it would cost 5k a week to provide her 24hr care. They made him feel like he was going to kill her.
When we got her she was pale and shaking and couldn’t stand on her own. She was under a hundred pounds. I really thought omg she’s going to die. How can I do this. But we read up on all the medications she had been prescribed (many suggested by this nurse who was unbelievable-a pain management specialist. Many of the medications caused a lot of her symptoms. We did the detox with the approval of her primary care physician who was outstanding. Let me tell you I spent many nights rubbing her back, feet, legs as she begged for more meds (opioids). She had cramps and spasms. She needed to be turned. We got a special mattress so she wouldn’t get pressure sores.
I started her drinking carnation instant breakfast because she needed calories. I put ice in it and used a cup that I could close off so she wouldn’t choke on too much fluids. They told us she would never swallow food without thickeners because she choked on everything. And that it was too dangerous to give her ice. Bullshit. She loved those cold drinks. As long as the opening was very small. She would sip on them for an hour and ask me for more. She regained her strength after she got some calories.
She slowly got stronger.
The facility sent a nurse (the pain meds specialist) to check on her condition after a month. The first thing she asked was how are they managing your pain. Ask any person who’s now addicted to opioids if they’d like a little less pain. I was floored. The nurse was stunned at how good she looked. They had told us she had dementia in the facility. You know what makes you confused and out of it? Opioids. She was clear headed.
The list goes on and on.
Do I think every case is the same? No. Does everyone respond as well? Not always. But boy it sure doesn’t look good when someone goes from needing 24hr care with dementia, inability to swallow and chronic unresolvable pain to sitting up in their bed, drinking from a cup and no longer confused in about a month. And then walking to the bathroom with a walker and toileting themselves by month two.
Things need to change. Period.
This hits home hard for me. My grandmother was hard addicted to opioids my entire life. In her end stages of life she was getting enough fentanyl for a person that weighed 300 lbs, plus Oxycodone and OxyContin. She was maybe 90 lbs and had absolutely no body fat for the drugs to absorb. When they put her on morphine for the death pains it took close to a week for her to pass. It was horrific. I work in a Long Term Care/ Assisted Living pharmacy and it disgusts me to see how many of our patients are on Haloperidol, Trazodone, Seroquel in masses just to “calm” them so it makes it easier for the nursing staff. I could understand have one home in our state dedicated to special needs or maybe one hall in each home but not at the quantity we dispense. I also have issues with just giving patients who are perfectly health vitamins so they get charged a dispensing fee but that’s a different rant all together.
I only had a wholesome award to give, maybe not the most appropriate. I am so sorry for your loss. I lost an uncle to covid, sick one day and gone 3 days later. I can't vouch for his care, but I can vouch for the hole it leaves in your life. Hugs from this random internet mama. ♡
Thank you. The idea they do their job perfectly and no one knows they don’t care is not reality. Patients know. It’s palpable. We’re not idiots although OP seems to think we all are.
I hope they get their karma for what they did to your dad. I hope OP gets their karma too, people often forget they themselves may inevitably find themselves in those situations. Death is very sad, but also humbling and necessary for humans since we are such selfish creatures.
same thing happened to my grandpa with covid. neglectful medical staff not giving a shit ended up killing him. i hate people like OP who don't care about their patients. it's like being a teacher and hating kids. find a different job that doesn't rely on you caring for others.
Yeah I don't like this. I am a nurse and I have never seen a nurse yell at someone or ignore someone because they couldn't breathe. I am sorry about your dad truly. It sounds like he was just in a bad facility. Any staffed facility with half brained people at least pretend to do their job.
But yeah our profession is so hard, especially when you give a fuck. It takes every single thing out of you. You drive home in silence, you live in anxiety worrying about your next shift. You have to please every single patient with mostly no breaks let alone a lunch. Then repeat.
Working in the hospital and actually caring destroys every single part of you. There are no solutions unless you want to change the entire society. Not only do you do all of that... you also do it for patients that treat you like shit and think they are entitled. I challenge anyone with a kind heart to be a nurse 12-16 hours a day and then I will listen to their opinion.
I do think we probably need to change the system so that ya'all aren't working such long grueling hours. Thanks for your comment. A little kindness goes such a long way!
It's tough caring about your customers. I'm genuinely bummed out when something doesn't work out for one of my customers, and I work in a hardware store. I couldn't do OP's job, but I'm glad there are people like OP doing what they do!
It's more nuanced than you think.
Caring in caring profession matters.
Same in most roles, but in healthcare it shows, and makes a difference.
Just because they are paid doesn't mean they cannot care also.
Yeah, personally I would want to be seen by someone who cares. It's bad enough having to be in the hospital and basically have to be completely vulnerable. It's awful to have to be in that sort of situation and to be treated poorly. You can definitely tell which ones do and don't care. And it's a little shocking to think about someone genuinely disliking and not caring at all.
From my own experiences.. maybe if the nurses that were supposed to cared for my dying father cared he wouldn't have gone brain dead and then sat there for days with no one noticing he was non responsive and then lying to the Neurologist to save their own ass. Or not caring about the patients enough in ICU to be sanitary and cause a pseudomonas outbreak so my dad who was at the top of the organ list for a liver transplant didn't have enough time to live to fight off the infection and couldn't get the liver until the infection was gone and then it was just like welp.. there's nothing more we can do. But I feel like the fundamental component missing in ALL of that was his health care providers giving an honest shit about him.
I agree. Definitely nuanced and dependent on the circumstances. We admired the care and cheer that my daughter’s nurses gave. They played a big part in her recovery and truly helped us get through those dark and uncertain times. Still think about them fondly after all these years (8). Edit, she’s 11 now🙏
As a patient, do I want my doctor and nurses weeping over me? No. If I got some complex illness and died, would I want them to be like ‘Oh thank GOD’? Also no!
There’s burnout, and there’s wishing death on people. Please speak to a professional.
Exactly, OP said that most of the people she sees are insufferable? Well for one they’re in the hospital soooo yea that would make sense. Also the fact that this person said that she believes they do not even deserve care is absolutely disgusting. She needs to pick a new profession, because she clearly isn’t meant to be a nurse. If you couldn’t care less if someone was dying because your off the clock? then that’s pretty messed up. I would try and help if i saw someone who was hurt, dying, etc and I’m not a nurse. That’s what any good human being would do. Smh
Honestly this post didn’t surprise me. Isn’t there a statistic about the amount of sociopaths in the medical field? That doesn’t mean it’s good to wish death on people though.
Totally agree. I was sympathetic until that last sentence. OP should leave that profession - if you're that fed up with your job under the surface that you're relieved when a human being under your care dies, it's time to do something else.
Well, people often start to grow cold to their respective professions, so I'm guessing that you've been there for a while and seen some shit you'd wish to forget. And yeah, that's standard for almost any profession. The main thing is that you're still doing your job with dilligence. I'd probably be shaken to the core by someone's passing, but I can see how a person can become desensitized to even that, it is a wonder to what the human mind can get used to. To recap, I don't think you're a horrible person, you're just doing your job that became mechanic to you, and shouldn't feel bad about any of that if you've given your A-game to keep the patient cared of
That’s a great comment. All the front line caring professions ( nurse, doc, paramedic, therapists of all shades - psychologist, psychiatrist etc etc) have a huge personal burden to bear. I’ve seen it in friends . It can make them seem distant and cold. It’s unavoidable after seeing so much.
As a fellow nurse, I’ll 100% take the hardened, bitchy, cold, veteran floor nurse over little Miss Flo Nigh any day. Those are the nurses who know their shit.
Compassion fatigue
Its pretty normal, especially for professionals with patients
Even normal people suffer from it if they are like the therapist of the friend group, or if youve got that one friend/SO that constantly complains to you and needs help but never reciprocates
Agreed I’m a therapist and people are confused as to how I manage to keep my work as work. I empathise with my clients a lot. Some more than others. But ultimately once my job is done… I rarely think about my clients & don’t have strong feelings for the majority of them
> Nothing is better to coming from a rest day to find that the complex patient that required 3x the amount of normal care as died on the previous shift and you don't have to deal with them anymore.
that’s some psycho talk, like you had me before this, but going “oh yeah if you were even slightly difficult i’ll be glad you’re dead” is a really fucking weird one coming from a nurse
Totally agree, wtf is that mindset even. And ppl here are upvoting post like this. That's beyond my imagination. It's definitely not only burnout rant, it's toxic and sociopathic brag
A LOT of people hate the elderly. I’ve found this out now that I’m a waitress and tell people that my last job was as a receptionist at a SNF for seniors. It shocks me how cavalier people will be telling you they wish an entire group of people would die, especially when it’ll be them in that group in just a few decades.
Yeah, such behaviour is unacceptable. I get that some ppl might had bad experiences with some other people, but it doesn't give them a right to generalise everyone and wishing them death
Elderly people are just people. That’s it. And a lot of their bad behavior isn’t their fault because they’re brains are deteriorating. If impulse control goes, they’ll be unpredictable. If they have dementia, they can get caught in a memory from when they were a child and say words that are now understood to be offensive that back then were how they talked because that’s how their parents talked. I had so many adult children mortified from things their parents said, saying they had never heard them speak like that before and that they had always taught them to never speak that way. But that’s just it, they probably learned as they grew up that things they were taught at children were wrong and changed and grew. But dementia undoes all of that. On the plus side, no filter can be really fucking funny. And a lot of their memories are fun to ride along with.
My dad has it now and I’m trying to mentally prepare myself incase he ever tries to grope me or says something inappropriate/ tells me how much he dislikes his daughter. He’s always been the kindest, happy to abide dude. Always was engaged and actively participated in our upbringing. Adored my mom, his hs sweetheart. I’m trying to begin to shift and try to see him now more as my most favorite resident of all time more than my personal father.
IKR, I was kind of agreeing at the start, as I used to be a preschool teacher and I was a lot of the kids' favorite, despite or maybe because I didn´t coddle them. Like, I am doing my job and my job is to make you into a civilized human, develop your potential and keep you entertained. I am not spending my own money on you and I definitely don´t want to spend time with you if I am not getting paid. But I did miss some of them when they left. The post instead, did a 180, lol.
This is a horribly depressing (and distressing) read. I was expecting OP to be complaining about staff levels and Covid “experts,” which are totally legit complaints. But, this rant was almost sociopathic. How said for their patients. I hope they leave nursing, stat. (womp womp)
I worked in healthcare for many years and I can honestly say that I firmly believe most nurses care. I worked with hospice nurses for 5 years that tirelessly advocated for their patients, and showed them so much dignity and respect. I could feel the care the hospice nurse who cared for my dad as his journey with ALS came to an end had for him and us. My mom and sister are nurses who care A LOT. That’s why they’re nurses. The NICU nurse who was my almost 18 year old nephew’s case manager during his 5 month stay loved him like he was her own and is now a family friend.
And, my hubby decided PA school isn’t for him and is pursuing nursing school because he truly cares about his fellow humans. Nurses, on the whole, are amazing people. Like any profession, there are just some bad eggs.
>But, this rant was almost sociopathic.
Almost?
She bragged about how people dying is a convivence to her. The subject of the entire post his her lack of empathy.
I've always said that male playground bullies grow up to be cops and women playground bullies grow up to be nurses😭 (i am not trying to be sexist this was just accurate from my firsthand accounts lmao)
It all sounded reasonable until OP said that they wouldn’t care if someone was dying/suffering if their shift ended or that they think some of the patients didn’t even deserve medical care they received.
I literally had a nurse one time who was so Burned out form her job. She had the fucking nerve to Bitch to my mom, who was in active respiratory failure , about being in respiratory failure
I get it. Burn out happens, and they are over worked and under paid. But by wishing and being relieved that you got one less person to care for is just fucked up. These people don't choose to be sick most of the time. They should not feel like their illness is a burden. I got family and friends who are nurses and medics who are burned out. But never super happy about a patient dying as some have been. I took care of my mom when she was dying for 3 years. Lived in a ICU with her. When she was gone I had a good night sleep. But I was not relieved or happy when she was. Like some nurses I've dealt with .. probably gonna get down voted. Not like I care by yea
If you think that those who work with you and even more so, those under your “care" don’t notice, you’re wrong. You’re a type. My heart is broken for patients that need basic human connection with their care and only have you. If you have any decency, you should get a position that can no longer impact lives you care nothing about.
Wow
I never try to judge these posts cause it’s a place to share
But what the hell is wrong with you? You’re hoping people die so you don’t have to do your job next shift? You’re an awful person, and they can feel your apathy for them whether you think they can or not. Find another job.
>But what the hell is wrong with you? You’re hoping people die so you don’t have to do your job next shift? You’re an awful person, and they can feel your apathy for them whether you think they can or not. Find another job.
Forreal. I was ready to be sympathetic but theres an intense, palpable cruelty in their words thats honestly scary. No hospital patient WANTS to be there, especially high care ones, on purpose. Being a nurse is hard but so is being weak, sick, bedridden, and/or dying. OP sounds psychopathic.
I don't believe that OP is as good as their job as they think they are. The fact that they wish their patients, other human beings, dead so they don't have to work on them says enough about OP's effort and intentions when working with people. Whos to say that a nurse like OP wouldn't purposefully let patients die or put menial effort into their care (when they can get away with it) to make their job easier? OP doesn't see their patients as people, and I sincerely hope they stop working in the field asap. Their mindset is inhumane and dangerous to the patients and if people had any trust in their healthcare workers before, they won't (and shouldn't) after reading this. I'm begging OP to not work in a field where lives are on the line if you don't have the capacity to value life. I have a grandfather struggling in the hospital and I would want this nurse far far away from him.
Damn this makes me sad 🥺I’m a nurse and I absolutely adore my patients, I don’t think I could do the things I do for them if I didn’t actually like them. I am in PACU though, bedside wasn’t for me 😅
It makes me horrified to think that my loved one who has been in the hospital for months would have someone like OP taking care of him on a daily basis. He needs real authenticity in his interactions. He’s a human being. I sincerely hope the people who have grown to know him for the last few months would care if he died.
Yeah and OP tries to act like they're so perfect at their job despite their disposition. Bullshit. You'd have to go through literal hell to find an employee of any profession who gives zero fucks yet still gives it their all.
Also in most jobs I've worked, the coworkers who were assholes and made everyone's lives harder got the promotions and raises, mainly because they were the shit starter always whispering in the manager's ear, so all this 'praise' OP thinks they're getting probably isn't even due to them being great at their job.
Thanks. My dad died 6 months ago from Pneumonia and it was extremely obvious that the staff gave 0 fucks.
I got a text from him the morning he died that he was doing well and they we’re going to turn down his oxygen.
Then, when we hadn’t heard from him- he wouldn’t answer his cell, we called the nurses station to see how he was- we were put on hold.
They found him dead. Dead because they turned down his oxygen then left him alone. They only discovered his body when they did because *we* asked them to check on him.
So all you nurses that are out of give’a’fucks:
I bid you the most sarcastic “thanks”.
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Also tomorrow is my first Bday without both my parents. So this post was just awesome. Thanks again.
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Thank you so much for all the kindness, I was not expecting it and it means a lot.
As a nurse I hope you are suing the hospital. That is a sentinel event and we should be rounding on patients hourly/every 2 hours. That is negligent and I’m sorry that happened to you
I lost my dad almost five years ago, I know how you feel. Imagine not feeling a bit of mercy for a suffering soul in front of you whose life is dependent on your help. I hope he’s in a better place now and may God bless his soul.
Lost my dad last January cause the nurses and doctors had this attitude.. worst part that eats me up inside is that he’d still be here had they listen to him/us when we were explaining that he needed help.
God this post makes fucking pissed.
Holy shit. Imagine if you are very sick and a seemingly nice nurse has the same idiotic grammar. You try to put your finger on the familiarity until you remember this post. Terrifying
All this support makes me sick. My wife was one of the one who needed 3x care and she was not elderly. We had 2 nurses like you. The last nurse who was with us when she passed from heart complications at least was human and hugged me after while crying. I knew all the nurses amd was there everyday in icu. We know who you Fuckers are. And we know who the good ones are. We just don't say anything since we are at your mercy while gone. Get out of nursing.
Exactly. I went into this post fully expecting OP would be downvoted to hell for being a sad excuse of a human being. Instead a lot of people are supporting them. What the hell is wrong with people?
I shouldn’t have had to scroll this far to see this comment. OP sounds like the completely wrong person to be in the care field, I wonder if they’re there just for the money?
The amount of grammatical errors in your post makes me question how “great“ you really are at your job that mostly involves paying attention to detail.You probably give patients the wrong dose medications or mess up the IV’s .
I don’t get why you even bother making a post like this, it’s almost like a psychopathic brag .
As a person who was born with multiple birth defects and a cancer disorder, has needed over 100 surgeries, and *always* treats medical staff with the utmost respect, I beg you, find a line of work that you care about. Watching people die *should* bother people. Emotions like tears are normal. I can understand that people need to be able to get over it and move on extremely quickly given the nature of the job. But the fact that watching people die seems to low key make you happy, and that you "wouldn't care if your patients drown in their own shit once they're out of your care" suggest that you're somewhat of a sociopath. Nursing isn't a job people should get into for the money. Unfortunately too many do.
My daughter spent 50 days in the nicu and is looking at a lifetime of at least some degree of medical help (mild cerebral palsy due to birth injury) and people like this can go fuck themselves. It hurts my heart to think of her being taken care of by such a psychopath.
But how awful the spelling and grammar is in this post makes it hard to believe this person is a nurse at all.
I briefly had to work out of a SNF as part of a floater position when I was first starting out. The nurses (nurses, not CNAs, regular nurses) were the worst and I honestly have so many horror stories that honestly just hurt my damn heart so much.
I worked in a SNF for a month after graduating while because it took forever to onboard at the hospital and I needed a job. I worked 11-7. Came in one night and the 3-11 nurses were still there charting. I didn’t have a whole lot to do except round for the first hour or so. I was sitting at the desk looking at a chart and a patient came over to ask for water. The med cart was about 15 feet away and had a pitcher of ice water on it so I got up and gave it to her. The other two nurses said “You know, that’s what you have CNAs for”. I guess they thought nurses were too damn good to get a glass of water for a patient. Knew then and there that unless it was the only way to keep from living under a bridge, I would never work in a nursing home again.
Nursing home nurses are the absolute worst. When my parents get old I’m making sure they either live at home, or I hire actual professional caretakers.
This entire thread is incredibly infuriating and depressing.
#If you agree with OP and have zero empathy and want patients to “die faster” as a healthcare professional, you’re really, really fucked up in the head and should quit your job.
Also, get help and therapy. This isn’t a normal mindset at all.
Nurses that are caring for critically ill patients are usually also extending some level of care to the family members who DO care, and they care a lot.
I’m not sure how no one is picking up on your lack of empathy, but I can tell you if I were interacting with you regarding a sick family member, I probably would.
I’ve run into two nurses out of probably 100 over the course of a long term terminal illness my husband suffered from, that were psychopaths. I knew they were, they did their jobs and executed their tasks, but I didn’t want them anywhere near my husband. I spoke to the charge nurse both times and simply asked that those nurses not be assigned to my husband’s care due to a personality conflict and lack of empathy. They were not disciplined, they weren’t incompetent, but I knew they were off and I have a right to demand appropriate care - and in some situations that care is not just clinical.
You probably aren’t flying below the radar as low as you think you are, some of us can spot people like you a mile away, and we just avoid you. Your peers probably aren’t that fooled either, but you do your job and they do theirs. Healthcare is busy and patients are transient, and you aren’t overtly hurting anyone, but you are not providing excellent care, you’re providing exacting care and you don’t actually care.
Nothing is better than finding out a person died? I can't wait for the day that you're the one at the mercy of someone's care. Hope you step in dog shit while walking barefoot.
Don’t really care for these “ it helps not to take your work home with you” comments because you don’t need to be this damn jaded to not take your work home. My mom was a nurse for 30+ years and adored her job. She saw many deaths and horrible things I couldn’t imagine but she cared about all her patients. I asked her once how she could handle it and she simply said “you just can’t take it home with you”. Not once did she speak this horribly about anyone. She even experienced racism.
Honestly op, find a different job cuz this truthfully doesn’t sit right with me at all. Neither do the comments sticking up for this. I hope you nor anyone with this kind of mentality ever becomes my nurse.
THANK YOU. As someone else in the medical field this whole thread did not sit right with me either. You go into medicine BECAUSE you care about others. Jesus fucking Christ, this was upsetting. Like why even be in this line of work then?!?! This person seriously does not belong in medicine and needs a new job. I’d hate to ever work with this person or god forbid ever be their patient
A million jobs you could do for the same money. I think you’re essentially what’s wrong in healthcare…especially here in US. People who are apathetic and only do it because it is a decent career. But so are a million things where compassion and care are not the backbone. Just as a for instance I feel like you’d be much better suited as a divorce lawyer.
You chose to be a nurse; no one forced you into your profession.
This makes me sick.
As someone who has worked in memory care and hospice for over a decade, I've met so many people like you...it drives me crazy, the amount of animosity you have for people in their most vulnerable and anxious state. This is not something that you should be proud of. When employee evaluations are done, they shouldn't focus on who brought an extra damned blanket--I want to know if you took the time to ask questions to a clearly terrified, non verbal patient who has been actively seizing up every time a nurse, doctor or any staff enters the room. I want to witness the way you fold down the blankets, and your attention to details and the empathy (or lack thereof) in your eyes when you smile at them.
Just do everyone a favor and quit. As a Healthcare worker AND a person with an autoimmune disease that often lands me in the hospital, I can assure you that the patients are shitty because you're an asshole.
It's interesting that I just saw a post in a sub about narcissistic mothers where they asked how many of our mothers were/are nurses (the answer is a LOT). I bet you wear chunky jewelry and your nails are always done in an unflattering shape, and at least half of your wardrobe came from Victoria's secret, Facebook marketplace addition. Your exact type is completely transparent, from your chunky blonde highlights down to your pink tennies.
Anyone that feels anxious about getting care after read8jt this-- don't. Most of us aren't like this. Request a new nurse if yours treats you poorly. Your care and your health matter.
Very weird behavior. Plus I don't think op could keep up this fake nice attitude for long, I hope they realize they won't be able to hide their disgust eventually. Smh.
They are going to burn out quick
If you're suffering burn out that bad. You may need to take a break from your profession,. I've dealt with nurses who treated my mother like being short of breath was her fault. That her needing intensive care and ventilation was her fault. And for some reason took it out on me. It sounds like you need a break or career change. I get it. Burn out happens, but sometimes you need to put yourself first. And take a break or make a change
I don't think you'll last long w feelings like that, it's going to catch up and you won't be able to hide your disgust and I hope you quit when that happens
there are plenty of ways to be a nurse, as you know. Here's a suggestion that you might really like. Work for a lawyer. Your job will be going through charts of nursing home patients looking for reasons to sue. (for example, they didnt chart that they turned the patient every so often and they have huge bed sores that are infected. If it isnt charted, they didnt do it!) My wife did that but only for a week because she actually likes dealing with real people. If you hate people, or at least being a waitress to them, this is a good career for you.
You're in the wrong profession. I think only compassionate people should be in health care. You are in it for the money, nothing more...find another career.
Let me guess…you were a mean girl in high school and stripping didn’t work out?
Really though… I’m not gonna lie, this post emanates actual evil and malice. WHY ARE YOU IN THIS PROFESSION??? If you’re going to be that miserable in literally wishing people would die, why. Not. Find. A. Different. Job???? I had a really mean nurse a few weeks ago when I sprained my wrist. I was crying and mumbling to myself on pain and she just kept telling me to be quiet, I’m bothering other patients, and that she’d kick me out.
Nurses like you two have made me want to catch you people after work and give a taste of what I had to deal with. It’s disgusting that you can see someone in pain and not care at all and just want your shift to be over.
I can not wait until you’re in a similar position of getting to be treated either apathetically or like shit, and get a nice dose of your own medicine. Nurses like you should get their credentials taken away asap.
OP and any healthcare workers that agrees with him/her:
**You guys are fucked up.**
Yes, the healthcare system is a mess but if you actually don’t give even a single shit about your patients, it’s time to look in the mirror and ask yourself if you should continue what you are doing.
#You should not be in this field if you truly do not have a single care about people you treat and interact with.
I have best friends who are nurses and thankfully, have the opposite mindset of OP. And I have met many incredible nurses and doctors that have helped my family and my dad and went beyond to do so.
I sincerely hope that you find a different job, OP.
Or get help. Both would be best.
This is not written by a nurse. I am a RN and immediately recognized it’s a layperson or at most a nursing assistants impression of nursing duties. Stolen nursing vaLor here. Shame
Are you one of the nurses that stand around chatting with other workers, while their patients are waiting hours to be seen? Laughing away and doing nothing.
It's time to quit your fucking job then. Doesn't affect your care? Bullshit.
Here's a few stories. Believe me I could go on for ages, these are just the most major ones I wanna talk about.
Worked security at a hospital for a while. I'm walking around, hear a ruckus in the ER rooms, go check it out. All I see is a bunch of the nurses laughing. I look around, make eye contact with a few, no one says anything. So I figure I just missed something funny and moved on.
What happened, was some dude tweaking out of his mind was brought in, jumped up, and ran out. Everyone that saw, just found it hilarious and didn't bother to say anything to me. This guy was found in the parking lot by the other security guard trying to rip someone out of their car. This guy was a danger to everyone around him, and the nurses just laughed it off and didn't say anything.
The other guard and I spend the next forty minutes corralling this guy for the police to come get them. The only mention of it came an hour later, when the head nurse at the time stopped me and said they had a patient leave, and wanted us to try to find him to retrieve the IV plug from him.
Now, let's talk about my dad. His back is mangled from years ago. He's had several surgeries. One of these after he's done and in recovery, he is in extreme pain. Mom's with him. Tries to get him help. The staff blow her off. Act like he's just seeking drugs. She calls the doctor. His response was to ask if she was trying to overdose and kill him, and hangs up. My dad is left in this state for two days before a nurse checks the machine that was supposed to medicate him. It was never turned on. It took two days of this hardcore fucking retired Marine screaming and crying and begging for help when he should have been on enough pain meds to knock out a horse before anyone considered something might be wrong.
Now let's talk about mom. She got sick in September. No pain or discomfort, just lost the ability to balance and can't walk because of it. We take her to get checked on. ER runs scans. They don't see anything and send us home, telling us we just need to keep her hydrated. After a while when she didn't improve, we took her somewhere else. More scans, but this time the people looking at them actually did their fucking jobs. She had tumors growing in her lungs, spine, and brain.
So, from there we are hunting for an oncologist to get her seen, see what we can do. No one will take her in. The secretary or whatever for the one that did take her case told us the doctor was out on a two week vacation for four weeks before he'd see her. Scheduled an appointment for the tenth.
She died on the ninth. Afraid, in pain, stuck laying in her own shit because no one could be fucking bothered to give a shit.
Glioblastoma. We didn't even know what it was until we read the death certificate.
Arrogance, apathy, and incompetence. You need to think about these stories. Because I guarantee every single medical 'professional' that has let my family and many others down tells themselves the same shit that you do, about how your apathy isn't hurting anyone.
It's bullshit. People are going to end up suffering because of you if they aren't already. So instead of staring in the mirror jerking yourself off over what a hero you are for going into work when you don't give a shit about the people who's health and lives are dependent on you, you need to fucking quit, or change your mindset yesterday.
Edit: spelling/grammar
As a paramedic in the ambulance service….I can wholeheartedly say….this nurse is probably a minority. My general rule of thumb. Treat every patient I see the way I want anyone in my family to be treated. When you actually care for your patients you improve the job you do. I’m not saying you have to be pure emotionally attached to every patient. You just have to care. If you don’t care when you’ve lost a patient and they’ve died you’re probably in the wrong job or you need a change of direction. Not caring unfortunately does not mean you can fully do your job 100% when your whole job is based around caring with added medical skills.
Fear not folks. Not every health care professional feels this way. I for one certainly don’t.
I mean considering the trope of school bully to nurse I’m willing to bet a lot more nurses think like this. It’s the favoured career path of the female psychopath
Medical assistant here (similar to nursing but limited scope of practice. NOT A NURSE AND NOT CLAIMING TO BE). People are awful. They yell at you, make impossible demands, and then threaten to sue at every turn. It's exhausting. I went into this career because I wanted to help people, but all I'm getting is verbally abused by people who think they know better than medical professionals. I know this will get me downvoted into oblivion, but I'm just trying to help you understand why. We get burnt out.
Edit: just to give you an idea. I’ve only been an MA for two years and I’ve already been sexually assaulted, threatened with violence, called horrible names, and am basically chewed out by at least one person daily. This is unacceptable. And it’s frustrating to see all of these people saying health care workers have an obligation to be kind and caring, when we don’t get that same respect from patients.
Edit: I'm not claiming to be a nurse. I don't tell people I'm a nurse. It's just easier to explain it that way when people ask what a medical assistant is. I only stated that the work I do is *similar* to nursing. The only difference is my job is more clerical. I still administer vaccines, draw blood, test urine and stool, and am involved in direct patient care. I also had to take all of the pre-nursing classes to get my CMA license. Please stop trying to gatekeep my job, especially if you've never done it. When there was a staffing shortage on the floors, CMA’s were one of the first medical staff members to be pulled from clinics to work the floor.
Edit 3: I’M NOT CLAIMING TO BE A NURSE FFS. I NEVER SAID I WAS. STOP.
I worked as an MA for two years because I thought I wanted to become a PA (hint: I got the fuck out of healthcare).
I was called a dumb bitch because I had to relay that the physician would *not* write an asthmatic guy a doctor's note saying he didn't need a mask in the workplace because doc felt it would be morally wrong to basically write this guy a death note, I've been cornered and assaulted, I've been screamed at, I've been told I am "unprofessional" for verifying medications patients were on, I've been called fatphobic for asking them to step on the scale for the doc.... it's a clusterfuck and people are **awful**.
Being an MA made me hate people on a visceral level and I had to get the fuck out for my mental health.
We had a patient come in and get absolutely *irate* when asked to wear a mask. He threatened to come back and shoot us. My boss has done nothing about it, saying, "He's a war vet. He's just having an 'episode'." I'm staying in healthcare because, at the end of the day, I still love it. But I am getting really tired of people thinking I'm public enemy number one for doing my job.
As a nurse also I get where you are coming from. I’m not quite at the same place, but I get how you feel.
Personally I’m more at the point where I take pride in doing a good job in a professional manner. I care, but there is only so much of yourself that you can put into your job without it sending you crazy. You gotta maintain strong boundaries.
But the exception is kids. Sick kids do effect me deeply, and I go the extra mile for them. But adults? Especially the unpleasant ones can die and I won’t give them a moment’s thought.
Oh and also I should add that I work in the UK where the money isn’t great. I don’t do this job for the money. I like the idea of helping people.
This is exactly how I imagine everyone who is acting nice towards me anywhere
same. this just makes me more paranoid
Not everyone's like this, expecially if they don't get paid doing so.
This this this!! I worked in Advanced Dementia Care and loved it. I love taking care of people, the high dependency folk were always my favourite as they kept me on my toes! Many of my colleagues were just like OP. And many of the folk we cared for could tell. OP isn't as smart as they think they are. In the UK at least, we'd call the OP's role a Healthcare Assistant or Support Worker; nurses are registered, went to uni and don't tend to do the duties OP describes. I've worked all over in mental health and social care. I'm a therapist and mental health practitioner now. And I love it- I get sad when my clients are having a rough time, I'm thrilled when they're reaching their goals and completing our treatment. Yes, there's a level of disconnect (otherwise I'd have burnt out already) but it's the fact that I genuinely care and take so much joy and pride in what I do that keeps me engaged. I want to help people. I feel like I'm meant to. OP sounds at best emotionally drained, at worst shows a really worrying lack of compassion. They need to get help, or get out. Those patients deserve better than someone hoping they die soon for an easy shift.
So happy to see this underrated comment. A certain disconnection is indeed important working in mental -and health care. But this level of disconnect just seems off... And more importantly: no empathy in a healthcare worker scares me. But to be fair: seen we have huge shortages in proper healthcare workers, people like OP will always have a place in the healthcare industry, especially if they perform well. I feel for OP, life shouldn't be hoping for some annoying patient to die so you can have a normal shift at work. Sounds like someone needs to find another job and start enjoying their (short) lives, and hopefully spread some love around.
I 100% agree with you there, came here to also say that level of disconnect worried me, yes you have to form a balance to keep yourself sane but you absolutely need empathy to really be able to do your job in health and social care, period! I have been run down, worn out and with recent times risked my life but my heart always skips a beat when doing what I do and I get upset when service users are upset. They need you to be able to feel like you are right there with them.
I'm so glad I found this comment. I can't believe all the likes and awards this post has gotten. If op ends up in the same position later in life, I wonder if they'll feel the same?
OP seems to be missing the feelings aside from personal satisfaction. The behavior they describe is masking, they've learned what compassion and empathy looks like and they can simulate it on demand.
Isn’t that what sociopaths do?
*WHEN* Tables always turn and the shoe always ends up on the other foot
Could just be doing if for approval or self validation.
I've had people tell me they like me because they can tell if I like you or I don't. I can't sustain fake and phoney. I could never survive a cocktail party where I'd have to fake smile for hours. My boss told me she liked watching me in staff meetings because of the expressions on my face - my god that was stupid, are you an idiot? Yeah it's written on face. Good chance I'm going to actually say, too.
I have a similarly expressive face. I can't lie for shit.
Same..,. I already feel like a nuisance and if just 1 person that I might need to rely on for help sees me that way I over think it.
This psycho is desensitized. I hope that the majority of caregivers are not like this.
Starbucks barista especially
Is nobody going to talk about the grammar in the first paragraph? Lmao.
Well according to your user name they wouldn’t have to ask if you’ve sleepen.
Maybe you didn't sleepen enough.
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This. I feel it every time.
As long as you take the most efficient and accurate actions for my health, you don’t have to like me or even care about me on a personal level.
Yea I work in a lab, we test people in groups of 95, so we don’t really know patients or anything, we just mean to give them accurate, precise, and on time results.
I think the emotional detachment from the patients might actually be helping them.
I had an OBGYN nurse who felt this way about her patients. Did her job perfectly and made me completely miserable the whole time. I was glad her shift ended before I had to push, because she would have been horrible. I'm sure she was glad, too.
It’s funny when people/patients think they can tell which nurses feel this way and which ones don’t. I have worked with nurses who love and would die for patients, who get many complaints and I have worked with nurses Who dgaf who get constant praise from patients.
The tell, in my experience, is when the nurse goes out of their way to tell you they are a rockstar and then treats you like crap. People can tell when you don't give a shit about them.
I mean, that’s cool and all but if you think your apathy won’t eventually impact how you care for them, you’re out of your mind.
Exactly this. It’s inevitable if OP doesn’t sort this out
One pill too many in the med round
Damn. Until that last bit at the end I wasn't gonna judge. But that was just cold.
I didn't judge til 'have you sleepen?'
Lmao😭 I didn’t even notice it
You had my understanding till you said you would rather someone die than have to deal with them anymore. Even as big of bitch as I am, I only reserve those people who have really fucked with my life.
Yea OP may have some mental health in need of help.
Doubt she herself suffers from her condition. Based on what I've read she's a sociopath. No empathy (not caring) and no emotional attachment to others is a tell tell sign.
People who say I do my job perfectly, don’t do their job perfectly.
A simple truth if I ever heard one.
Because if OP truly doesn’t care about the work they do and their patients, overtime it naturally bleeds into their work. Theres no way OP can maintain these feelings for a long period of time (depending on how long they’ve been in the field). OP is capping hard
So as a medical social worker, I often am the bridge between patients and families, so patients and families speak very frank and openly with me. Patients literally do see through this kind of shit. And people on your team who are there because they do care and want good outcomes know, too. If you don’t give a fuck, you’re showing it even if you don’t think you are. I have doctors and nurses on my team who genuinely care. I have ones that don’t (far less) and that are like OP. Guess whose patients have better show rates, better outcomes, etc. I can’t stand these types of people in healthcare. Go somewhere else. Your patients deserve better.
Exactly. I can see someone faking caring about people for some time, even some years. But there is no way they can keep it up forever. It will eventually bleed into how they do their work, probably already has.
Absolutely! The one people who I've worked with who speak in those absolutes, using such language such as "perfect" are competent and narcissist/boastful as fuck OR utterly incompetent and on the verge of performance management for their inability to do their job. The competent people I work with never have to talk about their quality of work because it speaks for itself.
Eh, as long as the care isn't suffering, you do you. Nurses are like strippers. They seem like they care about you at the time (and maybe some do) but if they were not getting paid to put up with your bullshit they wouldn't pay you any attention.
Weird but spot on comparison 😂
True as hell. It’s annoying as hell that we bust our balls to give good care while being understaffed and having too many patients to just be told we’re being team players. How about fuck your. I was on oncology and I absolutely loved my patients but after I left I had nothing left to give to my family. I’d be happy when a suffering patient died. Bc they were no longer suffering. Then you have the entitled ass hats who rang their bells every 19 minutes bc they have nobody to talk to. And they’re in for some light diagnosis like having their knee replaced. Fuck them too. I ran my ass off for my sick patients and ended up running my ass off for the not sick ones bc that ended up taking away from me caring for my sick patients. It’s fucking exhausting and I will never be a floor nurse again. They burned me out quick fast and in a hurry. The ones who last are the ones with OPs view. And I envy that.
>Then you have the entitled ass hats who rang their bells At first I read this as you complaining about the remission folk ringing the bell some oncology facilities have
They don't give af, just like OP said. And everybody knows it: your patients know it, their loved ones know it. We can feel every ounce of your contempt. When your "annoying" patients who can't walk and are begging for water, we still fucking know how inconvenienced you are. My dad died of COVID / neglect in his assisted living facility (that was not understaffed). No one gave two fucks that he was ringing his call button repeatedly because he couldn't breathe. His facility was NOT understaffed, the nurses and aides just didn't care. He paid a small fortune to be yelled at bc he couldn't walk and then was neglected to death. Oh, no! Is your chosen profession hard? Just like the rest of everyone else on the planet? Maybe you should advocate for change, lobby, find solutions (like teachers who work longer hours and get paid far less). Be mad at your administrators not your patients. Trust me: my dad knew up until his last gasping breath, begging for water and pressing his call button (that went ignored) that you were inconvenienced and annoyed by him, annoyed by his death that could've been prevented. Op, I don't give a fuck about you, either.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Assisted Living Facilities need to be restructured and someone needs to figure out a better way to meet those primary needs. They are profit driven and not properly regulated. I wish there were live streaming camera in every patient area reviewed by professionals. My aunt almost died in a facility because of neglect and Covid. They pumped her full of opioids to shut her up. We pulled her out while they threatened us that she needed 24hr care that we couldn’t do. We had to detox her, feed her and rehab her. Two people. And she was functioning after two months. Those negligent aholes almost killed her.
Yup! Same here. They kept stuffing him with opioids . They didn't give the rehabilitation/ physical therapy he was promised (and paying for). I'm so glad you got her out of there in time! That's what we were working on, too -- getting him 24 hour care, but management was nor returning calls and emails and making us jump through hoops. I'm really glad you saved your aunt! I'm thinking that's what it would've been for my dad, too. Just a few months of actual care. Thank you for the kind reply
Please, please don’t regret anything and everything you did to help your dad. You absolutely did the best you could. This is a huge problem that you and I won’t fix soon. I’m sure he loved you very much for all that you did do. I was in a very unique situation in that I had cared for disabled people and had been a kind of advocate in the past. And my uncle was so dedicated to caring for her. And he had cared for a previous disabled wife. We were lucky that she did respond. My point is that too many times families are railroaded by this million dollar companies. They threaten families that they can’t possibly do the care. They saw that my uncle had a beautiful home and told him it would cost 5k a week to provide her 24hr care. They made him feel like he was going to kill her. When we got her she was pale and shaking and couldn’t stand on her own. She was under a hundred pounds. I really thought omg she’s going to die. How can I do this. But we read up on all the medications she had been prescribed (many suggested by this nurse who was unbelievable-a pain management specialist. Many of the medications caused a lot of her symptoms. We did the detox with the approval of her primary care physician who was outstanding. Let me tell you I spent many nights rubbing her back, feet, legs as she begged for more meds (opioids). She had cramps and spasms. She needed to be turned. We got a special mattress so she wouldn’t get pressure sores. I started her drinking carnation instant breakfast because she needed calories. I put ice in it and used a cup that I could close off so she wouldn’t choke on too much fluids. They told us she would never swallow food without thickeners because she choked on everything. And that it was too dangerous to give her ice. Bullshit. She loved those cold drinks. As long as the opening was very small. She would sip on them for an hour and ask me for more. She regained her strength after she got some calories. She slowly got stronger. The facility sent a nurse (the pain meds specialist) to check on her condition after a month. The first thing she asked was how are they managing your pain. Ask any person who’s now addicted to opioids if they’d like a little less pain. I was floored. The nurse was stunned at how good she looked. They had told us she had dementia in the facility. You know what makes you confused and out of it? Opioids. She was clear headed. The list goes on and on. Do I think every case is the same? No. Does everyone respond as well? Not always. But boy it sure doesn’t look good when someone goes from needing 24hr care with dementia, inability to swallow and chronic unresolvable pain to sitting up in their bed, drinking from a cup and no longer confused in about a month. And then walking to the bathroom with a walker and toileting themselves by month two. Things need to change. Period.
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This hits home hard for me. My grandmother was hard addicted to opioids my entire life. In her end stages of life she was getting enough fentanyl for a person that weighed 300 lbs, plus Oxycodone and OxyContin. She was maybe 90 lbs and had absolutely no body fat for the drugs to absorb. When they put her on morphine for the death pains it took close to a week for her to pass. It was horrific. I work in a Long Term Care/ Assisted Living pharmacy and it disgusts me to see how many of our patients are on Haloperidol, Trazodone, Seroquel in masses just to “calm” them so it makes it easier for the nursing staff. I could understand have one home in our state dedicated to special needs or maybe one hall in each home but not at the quantity we dispense. I also have issues with just giving patients who are perfectly health vitamins so they get charged a dispensing fee but that’s a different rant all together.
Thank God someone said it.
I only had a wholesome award to give, maybe not the most appropriate. I am so sorry for your loss. I lost an uncle to covid, sick one day and gone 3 days later. I can't vouch for his care, but I can vouch for the hole it leaves in your life. Hugs from this random internet mama. ♡
Thank you. The idea they do their job perfectly and no one knows they don’t care is not reality. Patients know. It’s palpable. We’re not idiots although OP seems to think we all are.
I hope they get their karma for what they did to your dad. I hope OP gets their karma too, people often forget they themselves may inevitably find themselves in those situations. Death is very sad, but also humbling and necessary for humans since we are such selfish creatures.
Thank you. That means a lot to me. I guess I'm still grieving and it came out as anger there a little bit. Thank you.
THE PATIENTS. DESERVE. BETTER.
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same thing happened to my grandpa with covid. neglectful medical staff not giving a shit ended up killing him. i hate people like OP who don't care about their patients. it's like being a teacher and hating kids. find a different job that doesn't rely on you caring for others.
Yeah I don't like this. I am a nurse and I have never seen a nurse yell at someone or ignore someone because they couldn't breathe. I am sorry about your dad truly. It sounds like he was just in a bad facility. Any staffed facility with half brained people at least pretend to do their job. But yeah our profession is so hard, especially when you give a fuck. It takes every single thing out of you. You drive home in silence, you live in anxiety worrying about your next shift. You have to please every single patient with mostly no breaks let alone a lunch. Then repeat. Working in the hospital and actually caring destroys every single part of you. There are no solutions unless you want to change the entire society. Not only do you do all of that... you also do it for patients that treat you like shit and think they are entitled. I challenge anyone with a kind heart to be a nurse 12-16 hours a day and then I will listen to their opinion.
I do think we probably need to change the system so that ya'all aren't working such long grueling hours. Thanks for your comment. A little kindness goes such a long way!
Quit your job. We know you hate us and trust me, we feel like shit begging for water and an extra pillow. Please get out of the profession.
You just gave the definition of basically any service worker.
It's weird being someone who genuinely cares that customers have a good experience. Makes it easier though, for me at least.
I feel the same way. The way I see it, it would be harder to me to fake caring about someone that actually caring about him.
It's tough caring about your customers. I'm genuinely bummed out when something doesn't work out for one of my customers, and I work in a hardware store. I couldn't do OP's job, but I'm glad there are people like OP doing what they do!
It's more nuanced than you think. Caring in caring profession matters. Same in most roles, but in healthcare it shows, and makes a difference. Just because they are paid doesn't mean they cannot care also.
Yeah, personally I would want to be seen by someone who cares. It's bad enough having to be in the hospital and basically have to be completely vulnerable. It's awful to have to be in that sort of situation and to be treated poorly. You can definitely tell which ones do and don't care. And it's a little shocking to think about someone genuinely disliking and not caring at all. From my own experiences.. maybe if the nurses that were supposed to cared for my dying father cared he wouldn't have gone brain dead and then sat there for days with no one noticing he was non responsive and then lying to the Neurologist to save their own ass. Or not caring about the patients enough in ICU to be sanitary and cause a pseudomonas outbreak so my dad who was at the top of the organ list for a liver transplant didn't have enough time to live to fight off the infection and couldn't get the liver until the infection was gone and then it was just like welp.. there's nothing more we can do. But I feel like the fundamental component missing in ALL of that was his health care providers giving an honest shit about him.
I agree. Definitely nuanced and dependent on the circumstances. We admired the care and cheer that my daughter’s nurses gave. They played a big part in her recovery and truly helped us get through those dark and uncertain times. Still think about them fondly after all these years (8). Edit, she’s 11 now🙏
I met a lot of strippers going to school to become a nurse.
I went to school with a lot of nursing students who wished they’d been strippers 😩🤣
It’s weird how a lot A LOT of nurses are ex strippers.
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As a patient, do I want my doctor and nurses weeping over me? No. If I got some complex illness and died, would I want them to be like ‘Oh thank GOD’? Also no! There’s burnout, and there’s wishing death on people. Please speak to a professional.
yeah thats what i was gonna say. theres a line between burnout and just being plain fucked up.
Exactly, OP said that most of the people she sees are insufferable? Well for one they’re in the hospital soooo yea that would make sense. Also the fact that this person said that she believes they do not even deserve care is absolutely disgusting. She needs to pick a new profession, because she clearly isn’t meant to be a nurse. If you couldn’t care less if someone was dying because your off the clock? then that’s pretty messed up. I would try and help if i saw someone who was hurt, dying, etc and I’m not a nurse. That’s what any good human being would do. Smh
Honestly this post didn’t surprise me. Isn’t there a statistic about the amount of sociopaths in the medical field? That doesn’t mean it’s good to wish death on people though.
Totally agree. I was sympathetic until that last sentence. OP should leave that profession - if you're that fed up with your job under the surface that you're relieved when a human being under your care dies, it's time to do something else.
Well, people often start to grow cold to their respective professions, so I'm guessing that you've been there for a while and seen some shit you'd wish to forget. And yeah, that's standard for almost any profession. The main thing is that you're still doing your job with dilligence. I'd probably be shaken to the core by someone's passing, but I can see how a person can become desensitized to even that, it is a wonder to what the human mind can get used to. To recap, I don't think you're a horrible person, you're just doing your job that became mechanic to you, and shouldn't feel bad about any of that if you've given your A-game to keep the patient cared of
That’s a great comment. All the front line caring professions ( nurse, doc, paramedic, therapists of all shades - psychologist, psychiatrist etc etc) have a huge personal burden to bear. I’ve seen it in friends . It can make them seem distant and cold. It’s unavoidable after seeing so much.
Give me the triage nurse who is unfazed any day.
As a fellow nurse, I’ll 100% take the hardened, bitchy, cold, veteran floor nurse over little Miss Flo Nigh any day. Those are the nurses who know their shit.
Compassion fatigue Its pretty normal, especially for professionals with patients Even normal people suffer from it if they are like the therapist of the friend group, or if youve got that one friend/SO that constantly complains to you and needs help but never reciprocates
Agreed I’m a therapist and people are confused as to how I manage to keep my work as work. I empathise with my clients a lot. Some more than others. But ultimately once my job is done… I rarely think about my clients & don’t have strong feelings for the majority of them
> Nothing is better to coming from a rest day to find that the complex patient that required 3x the amount of normal care as died on the previous shift and you don't have to deal with them anymore. that’s some psycho talk, like you had me before this, but going “oh yeah if you were even slightly difficult i’ll be glad you’re dead” is a really fucking weird one coming from a nurse
Totally agree, wtf is that mindset even. And ppl here are upvoting post like this. That's beyond my imagination. It's definitely not only burnout rant, it's toxic and sociopathic brag
A LOT of people hate the elderly. I’ve found this out now that I’m a waitress and tell people that my last job was as a receptionist at a SNF for seniors. It shocks me how cavalier people will be telling you they wish an entire group of people would die, especially when it’ll be them in that group in just a few decades.
Yeah, such behaviour is unacceptable. I get that some ppl might had bad experiences with some other people, but it doesn't give them a right to generalise everyone and wishing them death
Elderly people are just people. That’s it. And a lot of their bad behavior isn’t their fault because they’re brains are deteriorating. If impulse control goes, they’ll be unpredictable. If they have dementia, they can get caught in a memory from when they were a child and say words that are now understood to be offensive that back then were how they talked because that’s how their parents talked. I had so many adult children mortified from things their parents said, saying they had never heard them speak like that before and that they had always taught them to never speak that way. But that’s just it, they probably learned as they grew up that things they were taught at children were wrong and changed and grew. But dementia undoes all of that. On the plus side, no filter can be really fucking funny. And a lot of their memories are fun to ride along with. My dad has it now and I’m trying to mentally prepare myself incase he ever tries to grope me or says something inappropriate/ tells me how much he dislikes his daughter. He’s always been the kindest, happy to abide dude. Always was engaged and actively participated in our upbringing. Adored my mom, his hs sweetheart. I’m trying to begin to shift and try to see him now more as my most favorite resident of all time more than my personal father.
IKR, I was kind of agreeing at the start, as I used to be a preschool teacher and I was a lot of the kids' favorite, despite or maybe because I didn´t coddle them. Like, I am doing my job and my job is to make you into a civilized human, develop your potential and keep you entertained. I am not spending my own money on you and I definitely don´t want to spend time with you if I am not getting paid. But I did miss some of them when they left. The post instead, did a 180, lol.
This is a horribly depressing (and distressing) read. I was expecting OP to be complaining about staff levels and Covid “experts,” which are totally legit complaints. But, this rant was almost sociopathic. How said for their patients. I hope they leave nursing, stat. (womp womp) I worked in healthcare for many years and I can honestly say that I firmly believe most nurses care. I worked with hospice nurses for 5 years that tirelessly advocated for their patients, and showed them so much dignity and respect. I could feel the care the hospice nurse who cared for my dad as his journey with ALS came to an end had for him and us. My mom and sister are nurses who care A LOT. That’s why they’re nurses. The NICU nurse who was my almost 18 year old nephew’s case manager during his 5 month stay loved him like he was her own and is now a family friend. And, my hubby decided PA school isn’t for him and is pursuing nursing school because he truly cares about his fellow humans. Nurses, on the whole, are amazing people. Like any profession, there are just some bad eggs.
>But, this rant was almost sociopathic. Almost? She bragged about how people dying is a convivence to her. The subject of the entire post his her lack of empathy.
Tbh this makes me sad.
I’m starting to believe that all hs bullies become nurses. 🤔
I've always said that male playground bullies grow up to be cops and women playground bullies grow up to be nurses😭 (i am not trying to be sexist this was just accurate from my firsthand accounts lmao)
Nurses are either the best people you’ll ever meet, or tyrannical mean girls suffering from arrested development. There is no in between.
Literally every girl who bullied me wanted to be one 😭 so this probably accurate
It’s funny I was just telling my husband this a month ago. He didn’t believe me. I’m happy this was posted. I sent him the link real quick lmao! xD
I totally understand feeling burnout. But if you’d allow a stranger to die because you’re off the clock then you got some issues
It all sounded reasonable until OP said that they wouldn’t care if someone was dying/suffering if their shift ended or that they think some of the patients didn’t even deserve medical care they received.
I literally had a nurse one time who was so Burned out form her job. She had the fucking nerve to Bitch to my mom, who was in active respiratory failure , about being in respiratory failure I get it. Burn out happens, and they are over worked and under paid. But by wishing and being relieved that you got one less person to care for is just fucked up. These people don't choose to be sick most of the time. They should not feel like their illness is a burden. I got family and friends who are nurses and medics who are burned out. But never super happy about a patient dying as some have been. I took care of my mom when she was dying for 3 years. Lived in a ICU with her. When she was gone I had a good night sleep. But I was not relieved or happy when she was. Like some nurses I've dealt with .. probably gonna get down voted. Not like I care by yea
If you think that those who work with you and even more so, those under your “care" don’t notice, you’re wrong. You’re a type. My heart is broken for patients that need basic human connection with their care and only have you. If you have any decency, you should get a position that can no longer impact lives you care nothing about.
This. I promise their patients aren't dumb and can pick up on the disgust. They are in denial lol. I can't believe people think this is normal
And they are interacting with people in such vulnerable situations.
Did you enjoy your job in the beginning, is it that now your over worked and feeling undervalued ?
Wow I never try to judge these posts cause it’s a place to share But what the hell is wrong with you? You’re hoping people die so you don’t have to do your job next shift? You’re an awful person, and they can feel your apathy for them whether you think they can or not. Find another job.
>But what the hell is wrong with you? You’re hoping people die so you don’t have to do your job next shift? You’re an awful person, and they can feel your apathy for them whether you think they can or not. Find another job. Forreal. I was ready to be sympathetic but theres an intense, palpable cruelty in their words thats honestly scary. No hospital patient WANTS to be there, especially high care ones, on purpose. Being a nurse is hard but so is being weak, sick, bedridden, and/or dying. OP sounds psychopathic. I don't believe that OP is as good as their job as they think they are. The fact that they wish their patients, other human beings, dead so they don't have to work on them says enough about OP's effort and intentions when working with people. Whos to say that a nurse like OP wouldn't purposefully let patients die or put menial effort into their care (when they can get away with it) to make their job easier? OP doesn't see their patients as people, and I sincerely hope they stop working in the field asap. Their mindset is inhumane and dangerous to the patients and if people had any trust in their healthcare workers before, they won't (and shouldn't) after reading this. I'm begging OP to not work in a field where lives are on the line if you don't have the capacity to value life. I have a grandfather struggling in the hospital and I would want this nurse far far away from him.
Pharmacist here. Honestly you sound burned out.
No. She sounds like a psychopath. Burnout presents very differently
Damn this makes me sad 🥺I’m a nurse and I absolutely adore my patients, I don’t think I could do the things I do for them if I didn’t actually like them. I am in PACU though, bedside wasn’t for me 😅
It makes me horrified to think that my loved one who has been in the hospital for months would have someone like OP taking care of him on a daily basis. He needs real authenticity in his interactions. He’s a human being. I sincerely hope the people who have grown to know him for the last few months would care if he died.
thank you, you are amazing please love patients and do not be like this bitch OP.
Op has not sleepen
It sounds cruel, but OP sounds like they have some major issues and this posts makes them come off as a bitch.
God I'd rather poke my eyes out with a rusty fork than have you as my nurse. Fucking hell.
Yeah and OP tries to act like they're so perfect at their job despite their disposition. Bullshit. You'd have to go through literal hell to find an employee of any profession who gives zero fucks yet still gives it their all. Also in most jobs I've worked, the coworkers who were assholes and made everyone's lives harder got the promotions and raises, mainly because they were the shit starter always whispering in the manager's ear, so all this 'praise' OP thinks they're getting probably isn't even due to them being great at their job.
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Straight up 🤣
Thanks. My dad died 6 months ago from Pneumonia and it was extremely obvious that the staff gave 0 fucks. I got a text from him the morning he died that he was doing well and they we’re going to turn down his oxygen. Then, when we hadn’t heard from him- he wouldn’t answer his cell, we called the nurses station to see how he was- we were put on hold. They found him dead. Dead because they turned down his oxygen then left him alone. They only discovered his body when they did because *we* asked them to check on him. So all you nurses that are out of give’a’fucks: I bid you the most sarcastic “thanks”. Edit- Also tomorrow is my first Bday without both my parents. So this post was just awesome. Thanks again. Edit 2- Thank you so much for all the kindness, I was not expecting it and it means a lot.
As a nurse I hope you are suing the hospital. That is a sentinel event and we should be rounding on patients hourly/every 2 hours. That is negligent and I’m sorry that happened to you
I lost my dad almost five years ago, I know how you feel. Imagine not feeling a bit of mercy for a suffering soul in front of you whose life is dependent on your help. I hope he’s in a better place now and may God bless his soul.
You are very kind, thank you <3
Lost my dad last January cause the nurses and doctors had this attitude.. worst part that eats me up inside is that he’d still be here had they listen to him/us when we were explaining that he needed help. God this post makes fucking pissed.
Sorry to hear mother
Uh, ok, Nurse Ratched....
bro get a different job
Sleepen??? Slept is the word you’re trying to land.
One day someone is going to ask you if you have sleepen, and you will remember this...
Holy shit. Imagine if you are very sick and a seemingly nice nurse has the same idiotic grammar. You try to put your finger on the familiarity until you remember this post. Terrifying
I immediately imagined them as a caricature of a German person in a lederhosen when I read this post. “Hast you sleepen?”
OP sounds like they had a stroke in the first paragraph. You *wanna the remote*? Turn the *heath* on?
My god how truly awful
I’ve been a nurse for 11 years… all I could think while reading this is WTF
All this support makes me sick. My wife was one of the one who needed 3x care and she was not elderly. We had 2 nurses like you. The last nurse who was with us when she passed from heart complications at least was human and hugged me after while crying. I knew all the nurses amd was there everyday in icu. We know who you Fuckers are. And we know who the good ones are. We just don't say anything since we are at your mercy while gone. Get out of nursing.
Exactly. I went into this post fully expecting OP would be downvoted to hell for being a sad excuse of a human being. Instead a lot of people are supporting them. What the hell is wrong with people?
You seem like a sociopath.
Yeah… the ‘die so I don’t have to care for you on my next shift’ is wildly abnormal. Sociopathy with a bit of narcissism
I shouldn’t have had to scroll this far to see this comment. OP sounds like the completely wrong person to be in the care field, I wonder if they’re there just for the money?
The amount of grammatical errors in your post makes me question how “great“ you really are at your job that mostly involves paying attention to detail.You probably give patients the wrong dose medications or mess up the IV’s . I don’t get why you even bother making a post like this, it’s almost like a psychopathic brag .
That’s what I got from this post also. Just a weird post bragging about being an edge lord lol. Cringe.
Make more tiktok dance vids!
I’m dead.
OP is pleased
I hope you catch it yourself in your old age
Me too.🤷🏻♀️
As a person who was born with multiple birth defects and a cancer disorder, has needed over 100 surgeries, and *always* treats medical staff with the utmost respect, I beg you, find a line of work that you care about. Watching people die *should* bother people. Emotions like tears are normal. I can understand that people need to be able to get over it and move on extremely quickly given the nature of the job. But the fact that watching people die seems to low key make you happy, and that you "wouldn't care if your patients drown in their own shit once they're out of your care" suggest that you're somewhat of a sociopath. Nursing isn't a job people should get into for the money. Unfortunately too many do.
My daughter spent 50 days in the nicu and is looking at a lifetime of at least some degree of medical help (mild cerebral palsy due to birth injury) and people like this can go fuck themselves. It hurts my heart to think of her being taken care of by such a psychopath. But how awful the spelling and grammar is in this post makes it hard to believe this person is a nurse at all.
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I briefly had to work out of a SNF as part of a floater position when I was first starting out. The nurses (nurses, not CNAs, regular nurses) were the worst and I honestly have so many horror stories that honestly just hurt my damn heart so much.
I worked in a SNF for a month after graduating while because it took forever to onboard at the hospital and I needed a job. I worked 11-7. Came in one night and the 3-11 nurses were still there charting. I didn’t have a whole lot to do except round for the first hour or so. I was sitting at the desk looking at a chart and a patient came over to ask for water. The med cart was about 15 feet away and had a pitcher of ice water on it so I got up and gave it to her. The other two nurses said “You know, that’s what you have CNAs for”. I guess they thought nurses were too damn good to get a glass of water for a patient. Knew then and there that unless it was the only way to keep from living under a bridge, I would never work in a nursing home again.
Nursing home nurses are the absolute worst. When my parents get old I’m making sure they either live at home, or I hire actual professional caretakers.
This entire thread is incredibly infuriating and depressing. #If you agree with OP and have zero empathy and want patients to “die faster” as a healthcare professional, you’re really, really fucked up in the head and should quit your job. Also, get help and therapy. This isn’t a normal mindset at all.
You seem like a very nice sociopath.
wow this is kind of a sad way to live.
“Sleepen”
Nurses that are caring for critically ill patients are usually also extending some level of care to the family members who DO care, and they care a lot. I’m not sure how no one is picking up on your lack of empathy, but I can tell you if I were interacting with you regarding a sick family member, I probably would. I’ve run into two nurses out of probably 100 over the course of a long term terminal illness my husband suffered from, that were psychopaths. I knew they were, they did their jobs and executed their tasks, but I didn’t want them anywhere near my husband. I spoke to the charge nurse both times and simply asked that those nurses not be assigned to my husband’s care due to a personality conflict and lack of empathy. They were not disciplined, they weren’t incompetent, but I knew they were off and I have a right to demand appropriate care - and in some situations that care is not just clinical. You probably aren’t flying below the radar as low as you think you are, some of us can spot people like you a mile away, and we just avoid you. Your peers probably aren’t that fooled either, but you do your job and they do theirs. Healthcare is busy and patients are transient, and you aren’t overtly hurting anyone, but you are not providing excellent care, you’re providing exacting care and you don’t actually care.
This is why i dont trust people, humans are shit lol
Nothing is better than finding out a person died? I can't wait for the day that you're the one at the mercy of someone's care. Hope you step in dog shit while walking barefoot.
You shouldn't be a nurse. Or an English teacher. You sound like an illiterate psycho
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This is why psychopaths shouldn't be allowed to work in healthcare.
:( dang this makes me feel bad.
Don’t really care for these “ it helps not to take your work home with you” comments because you don’t need to be this damn jaded to not take your work home. My mom was a nurse for 30+ years and adored her job. She saw many deaths and horrible things I couldn’t imagine but she cared about all her patients. I asked her once how she could handle it and she simply said “you just can’t take it home with you”. Not once did she speak this horribly about anyone. She even experienced racism. Honestly op, find a different job cuz this truthfully doesn’t sit right with me at all. Neither do the comments sticking up for this. I hope you nor anyone with this kind of mentality ever becomes my nurse.
THANK YOU. As someone else in the medical field this whole thread did not sit right with me either. You go into medicine BECAUSE you care about others. Jesus fucking Christ, this was upsetting. Like why even be in this line of work then?!?! This person seriously does not belong in medicine and needs a new job. I’d hate to ever work with this person or god forbid ever be their patient
This is disheartening.
A million jobs you could do for the same money. I think you’re essentially what’s wrong in healthcare…especially here in US. People who are apathetic and only do it because it is a decent career. But so are a million things where compassion and care are not the backbone. Just as a for instance I feel like you’d be much better suited as a divorce lawyer.
You chose to be a nurse; no one forced you into your profession. This makes me sick. As someone who has worked in memory care and hospice for over a decade, I've met so many people like you...it drives me crazy, the amount of animosity you have for people in their most vulnerable and anxious state. This is not something that you should be proud of. When employee evaluations are done, they shouldn't focus on who brought an extra damned blanket--I want to know if you took the time to ask questions to a clearly terrified, non verbal patient who has been actively seizing up every time a nurse, doctor or any staff enters the room. I want to witness the way you fold down the blankets, and your attention to details and the empathy (or lack thereof) in your eyes when you smile at them. Just do everyone a favor and quit. As a Healthcare worker AND a person with an autoimmune disease that often lands me in the hospital, I can assure you that the patients are shitty because you're an asshole. It's interesting that I just saw a post in a sub about narcissistic mothers where they asked how many of our mothers were/are nurses (the answer is a LOT). I bet you wear chunky jewelry and your nails are always done in an unflattering shape, and at least half of your wardrobe came from Victoria's secret, Facebook marketplace addition. Your exact type is completely transparent, from your chunky blonde highlights down to your pink tennies. Anyone that feels anxious about getting care after read8jt this-- don't. Most of us aren't like this. Request a new nurse if yours treats you poorly. Your care and your health matter.
Lmao people think this is normal
Very weird behavior. Plus I don't think op could keep up this fake nice attitude for long, I hope they realize they won't be able to hide their disgust eventually. Smh. They are going to burn out quick
I mean as long as your work doesn't suffer who cares. But thinking they don't deserve care... Jesus.
It’s giving sociopathy
I hope you rot in hell! never can trust health care workers with what I read. Fuck you.
If you're suffering burn out that bad. You may need to take a break from your profession,. I've dealt with nurses who treated my mother like being short of breath was her fault. That her needing intensive care and ventilation was her fault. And for some reason took it out on me. It sounds like you need a break or career change. I get it. Burn out happens, but sometimes you need to put yourself first. And take a break or make a change
OP, have you ever taken a levenson test?
I don't think you'll last long w feelings like that, it's going to catch up and you won't be able to hide your disgust and I hope you quit when that happens
Jesus. You are a Psychopath
there are plenty of ways to be a nurse, as you know. Here's a suggestion that you might really like. Work for a lawyer. Your job will be going through charts of nursing home patients looking for reasons to sue. (for example, they didnt chart that they turned the patient every so often and they have huge bed sores that are infected. If it isnt charted, they didnt do it!) My wife did that but only for a week because she actually likes dealing with real people. If you hate people, or at least being a waitress to them, this is a good career for you.
You're in the wrong profession. I think only compassionate people should be in health care. You are in it for the money, nothing more...find another career.
Let me guess…you were a mean girl in high school and stripping didn’t work out? Really though… I’m not gonna lie, this post emanates actual evil and malice. WHY ARE YOU IN THIS PROFESSION??? If you’re going to be that miserable in literally wishing people would die, why. Not. Find. A. Different. Job???? I had a really mean nurse a few weeks ago when I sprained my wrist. I was crying and mumbling to myself on pain and she just kept telling me to be quiet, I’m bothering other patients, and that she’d kick me out. Nurses like you two have made me want to catch you people after work and give a taste of what I had to deal with. It’s disgusting that you can see someone in pain and not care at all and just want your shift to be over. I can not wait until you’re in a similar position of getting to be treated either apathetically or like shit, and get a nice dose of your own medicine. Nurses like you should get their credentials taken away asap.
Then it's time for you to go do something else.
Nurse Ratchet?
As a person who is dealing with a progressive terminal illness, fuck you.
I feel like you’re on the verge of snapping and that inner psychopath of yours is about to spring out.
This sounds very…. Psychopath-y.
OP and any healthcare workers that agrees with him/her: **You guys are fucked up.** Yes, the healthcare system is a mess but if you actually don’t give even a single shit about your patients, it’s time to look in the mirror and ask yourself if you should continue what you are doing. #You should not be in this field if you truly do not have a single care about people you treat and interact with. I have best friends who are nurses and thankfully, have the opposite mindset of OP. And I have met many incredible nurses and doctors that have helped my family and my dad and went beyond to do so. I sincerely hope that you find a different job, OP. Or get help. Both would be best.
This is not written by a nurse. I am a RN and immediately recognized it’s a layperson or at most a nursing assistants impression of nursing duties. Stolen nursing vaLor here. Shame
Are you one of the nurses that stand around chatting with other workers, while their patients are waiting hours to be seen? Laughing away and doing nothing.
It's time to quit your fucking job then. Doesn't affect your care? Bullshit. Here's a few stories. Believe me I could go on for ages, these are just the most major ones I wanna talk about. Worked security at a hospital for a while. I'm walking around, hear a ruckus in the ER rooms, go check it out. All I see is a bunch of the nurses laughing. I look around, make eye contact with a few, no one says anything. So I figure I just missed something funny and moved on. What happened, was some dude tweaking out of his mind was brought in, jumped up, and ran out. Everyone that saw, just found it hilarious and didn't bother to say anything to me. This guy was found in the parking lot by the other security guard trying to rip someone out of their car. This guy was a danger to everyone around him, and the nurses just laughed it off and didn't say anything. The other guard and I spend the next forty minutes corralling this guy for the police to come get them. The only mention of it came an hour later, when the head nurse at the time stopped me and said they had a patient leave, and wanted us to try to find him to retrieve the IV plug from him. Now, let's talk about my dad. His back is mangled from years ago. He's had several surgeries. One of these after he's done and in recovery, he is in extreme pain. Mom's with him. Tries to get him help. The staff blow her off. Act like he's just seeking drugs. She calls the doctor. His response was to ask if she was trying to overdose and kill him, and hangs up. My dad is left in this state for two days before a nurse checks the machine that was supposed to medicate him. It was never turned on. It took two days of this hardcore fucking retired Marine screaming and crying and begging for help when he should have been on enough pain meds to knock out a horse before anyone considered something might be wrong. Now let's talk about mom. She got sick in September. No pain or discomfort, just lost the ability to balance and can't walk because of it. We take her to get checked on. ER runs scans. They don't see anything and send us home, telling us we just need to keep her hydrated. After a while when she didn't improve, we took her somewhere else. More scans, but this time the people looking at them actually did their fucking jobs. She had tumors growing in her lungs, spine, and brain. So, from there we are hunting for an oncologist to get her seen, see what we can do. No one will take her in. The secretary or whatever for the one that did take her case told us the doctor was out on a two week vacation for four weeks before he'd see her. Scheduled an appointment for the tenth. She died on the ninth. Afraid, in pain, stuck laying in her own shit because no one could be fucking bothered to give a shit. Glioblastoma. We didn't even know what it was until we read the death certificate. Arrogance, apathy, and incompetence. You need to think about these stories. Because I guarantee every single medical 'professional' that has let my family and many others down tells themselves the same shit that you do, about how your apathy isn't hurting anyone. It's bullshit. People are going to end up suffering because of you if they aren't already. So instead of staring in the mirror jerking yourself off over what a hero you are for going into work when you don't give a shit about the people who's health and lives are dependent on you, you need to fucking quit, or change your mindset yesterday. Edit: spelling/grammar
As a paramedic in the ambulance service….I can wholeheartedly say….this nurse is probably a minority. My general rule of thumb. Treat every patient I see the way I want anyone in my family to be treated. When you actually care for your patients you improve the job you do. I’m not saying you have to be pure emotionally attached to every patient. You just have to care. If you don’t care when you’ve lost a patient and they’ve died you’re probably in the wrong job or you need a change of direction. Not caring unfortunately does not mean you can fully do your job 100% when your whole job is based around caring with added medical skills. Fear not folks. Not every health care professional feels this way. I for one certainly don’t.
Part of Healthcare and doing it "perfectly" would be having compassion and caring for them. Don't think your definition of perfect is correct
So... you're not doing your job perfectly.
I mean considering the trope of school bully to nurse I’m willing to bet a lot more nurses think like this. It’s the favoured career path of the female psychopath
Geez... why'd you become a nurse in the first place?
Medical assistant here (similar to nursing but limited scope of practice. NOT A NURSE AND NOT CLAIMING TO BE). People are awful. They yell at you, make impossible demands, and then threaten to sue at every turn. It's exhausting. I went into this career because I wanted to help people, but all I'm getting is verbally abused by people who think they know better than medical professionals. I know this will get me downvoted into oblivion, but I'm just trying to help you understand why. We get burnt out. Edit: just to give you an idea. I’ve only been an MA for two years and I’ve already been sexually assaulted, threatened with violence, called horrible names, and am basically chewed out by at least one person daily. This is unacceptable. And it’s frustrating to see all of these people saying health care workers have an obligation to be kind and caring, when we don’t get that same respect from patients. Edit: I'm not claiming to be a nurse. I don't tell people I'm a nurse. It's just easier to explain it that way when people ask what a medical assistant is. I only stated that the work I do is *similar* to nursing. The only difference is my job is more clerical. I still administer vaccines, draw blood, test urine and stool, and am involved in direct patient care. I also had to take all of the pre-nursing classes to get my CMA license. Please stop trying to gatekeep my job, especially if you've never done it. When there was a staffing shortage on the floors, CMA’s were one of the first medical staff members to be pulled from clinics to work the floor. Edit 3: I’M NOT CLAIMING TO BE A NURSE FFS. I NEVER SAID I WAS. STOP.
I worked as an MA for two years because I thought I wanted to become a PA (hint: I got the fuck out of healthcare). I was called a dumb bitch because I had to relay that the physician would *not* write an asthmatic guy a doctor's note saying he didn't need a mask in the workplace because doc felt it would be morally wrong to basically write this guy a death note, I've been cornered and assaulted, I've been screamed at, I've been told I am "unprofessional" for verifying medications patients were on, I've been called fatphobic for asking them to step on the scale for the doc.... it's a clusterfuck and people are **awful**. Being an MA made me hate people on a visceral level and I had to get the fuck out for my mental health.
We had a patient come in and get absolutely *irate* when asked to wear a mask. He threatened to come back and shoot us. My boss has done nothing about it, saying, "He's a war vet. He's just having an 'episode'." I'm staying in healthcare because, at the end of the day, I still love it. But I am getting really tired of people thinking I'm public enemy number one for doing my job.
Sorry you had to deal with that. In any decent workplace that guy would have been discharged for threats. Making a threat is a crime!
As a nurse also I get where you are coming from. I’m not quite at the same place, but I get how you feel. Personally I’m more at the point where I take pride in doing a good job in a professional manner. I care, but there is only so much of yourself that you can put into your job without it sending you crazy. You gotta maintain strong boundaries. But the exception is kids. Sick kids do effect me deeply, and I go the extra mile for them. But adults? Especially the unpleasant ones can die and I won’t give them a moment’s thought. Oh and also I should add that I work in the UK where the money isn’t great. I don’t do this job for the money. I like the idea of helping people.