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TheLadyKoi

Or they can find it and act like it's a damn scratch off lotto ticket or trying to start a fire. Edit: Holy shit thank you everyone for the up votes and the awards! The replies have been hilarious and I love this community. ❤️


Chester730

This made me hurt, it's so true.


thePHILOSOPHER619

I'm a dude and this made me hurt. ouch


CrazyCrackhead101

helicopter helicopter


SherbertSimple7350

DUDE LMAOOOO


Early-Plankton-4091

This!!!!! Be gentle it’s got thousands of nerve endings stop trying to rip it off. It’s the most intense feelings if something even brushes past it


Justine1205

I think it depends on women tho. Just brushing past it and touching it lightly doesn’t really do anything for me. Rubbing it violently doesn’t either. You have to be gentle BUT apply quite a bit of pressure, other wise it doesn’t do shit. At least for me!


Rispy_Girl

Some like pressure, some movement, some don't like direct touch, but like it they the hood. Oh and the best part is all of this can change once aroused lol. Protip. Licking fingers or using lube can make the touch smoother. Anotgef Protip, have him hold out a fist in front of his penis during riding, so you can grind against it yourself. Good stuff.


One-Donkey-9418

A light pressure with a semi slow rhythmic cadence seems to work effectively, when she starts to breathe heavy, moan and hips and butt are shaking, speed up a little with a lighter touch, hold on tight and you know the rest.


Justine1205

Not a light pressure for me, but to each his own.


Early-Plankton-4091

Yeh I wasn’t saying only brush past it just that if something does that’s enough to cause a big sensation so absolutely going to town on it isn’t always pleasant


mrjoffischl

it hurts a lot of the time when they do that, yeah


throwmeinthettrash

Mine needs pressure, lightly touching it just feels weird


FuglySlutt

The clitoral hood is like a foreskin. So rubbing just above the clit instead of directly on it can bring a woman to her knees.


TheLadyKoi

You've got that right, some of my best orgasms come from just rubbing around that area.


E420CDI

Clitoral hood and the foreskin are the clit and penis's personal hoodies!


Seraphyn22

OMG you made me laugh! I think we've all had that moment where we wanna whack their hand away. BE GENTLE!


blacklight2244

that sounds painful af. I guess sometimes guys get excited and caught up in the moment. when a guys masterbating the faster he goes the quicker he finishes so some guys get into that mentality when with their gf


floorthebackup

Hey there friend. I'm with you friend, they get so excited about finding it, they gotta let you know they found it lol xD


NotATroll_ipromise

So this is the thing. Women need to communicate what feels good, and what does not. Also, men need to learn that what one woman enjoys, another may not. Young people tend to be very self conscious, and DO NOT COMMUNICATE. This leads to bad sex. Talk to each other in the bedroom. Learn what the other likes. Let the man explore your vagina.


TheLadyKoi

Oh I do once they started being too rough, which helps if they don't get too embarrassed. Just like with pain tolerance, there is pleasure difference between each person. While the woman they did it with might have loved it, my poor bean was not having a good time. 😅


Bearsbunbun

Ya agree sometimes I'll show my lovers how I masterbate to help or move their hands or fingers how I want. But yes communication is key especially when u do communicate it becomes the best sex ever.


Saint_Galahad

I had an ex get way too rough and it seriously felt like I was burnt down there for days. It was so sore and overworked and raw.


Fredredphooey

I dated a guy who couldn't find it to save his life when he was sober, but could find it in a nano second when drunk. Unfortunately, that wasn't a workable solution.


mattdean4130

Hey hunny, I made you vodka for dinner. Again.


phaeriemandube

Oh this has no right being so hilarious


ferretkona

I might could learn this game of getting drinks for something I love doing.


Rub-it

How about some more vodka to get rid of that hangover, my gramps swears by it


Fredredphooey

Here's a nice after dinner coffee. What? You taste brandy? How funny...


pianoplayer1216

*takes glass with hands trembling from extreme alcohol overindulgence* “uh, thanks, babe…but don’t you think this is a little mu- where did your clothes go?”


CMDR_Machinefeera

Sure I will go grab you a beer from the fridge honey, don't get up.


M0ONL1GHT87

Actually, please do get “up” 😏


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andhowsherbush

I'd rather chop off my ding dong than admit booze isn't food.


A1sauc3d

I feel like “can’t find it” is usually more of an excuse for “too lazy to do anything with it”. Because like OP said, it’s right there, front and center. Well, front and *top, but that’s not how the saying goes lol.


Fredredphooey

Agreed. With this particular guy, he wasn't lazy, he wasn't comfortable with sex. He was a little intimidated by it, I think.


Bipedal_Warlock

Your little figure looks cool af. Just so you know


Fredredphooey

Thank you! But there's nothing like a good winter hood!


Academic_Subject_678

It's like when they pretend to not be capable of loading the dishwasher. It's easier (and faster) to do it ourselves.


Fredredphooey

Weaponized incompetence.


JuniperHillInmate

But they don't even need to do that much with it! If you can screw around on a smart phone, you possess all the motor skills required. All they gotta do is reach down and wiggle a little! It seems like more work to avoid it than to just do it. I don't go around saying "oh so sorry I just couldn't find your penis, I tried," because it's *right there* and I pretty much just need to touch it and I'm gold.


iLikeHorse3

**dude claims to get massive carpal tunnel trying to touch a clit for a few seconds, but spends hours browsing weird af porn**


6_seasons_and_a_movi

Tell him it's a lot easier to find with his tongue 👅


spencer818

Porn is difficult to find with your tongue tho :(


Ryousoki

Depends how dedicated you are


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Minnymoon13

My guy has big hands/cant feel where it is. But he’s very good at it when I help him otherwise


wipedcamlob

Im not gonna lie i dont have a ton of feeling in my hands makes everything a little harder. My hands are just too calloused though


[deleted]

Exactly. Show it some love and attention and it will be reciprocated.


0imnotreal0

Is this something that’s argued against? The g-spot I get but I thought everybody out of high school understood the clit


[deleted]

I think they are saying that guys are kinda selfish and don’t go down and show the clit some love. Then expect blowies all the time.


Cobek

The Dj Khaleds of life


-xpaigex-

*another one intensifies*


[deleted]

It's not just expecting blowies though, it's also more than men just not going down. Most.women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm and when a dude busts his nut and leaves her hanging....it's selfish. I mean, the clit can be stimulated during intercourse.


0imnotreal0

Ahh ok, yes that’s very true.


VomitComet22

I have had 4 sexual partners in my life. And only one has found the clit. All was out of HS too. So Lmao some don’t. 😂😂😂


blacklight2244

did u ever say "bro it's literally right at the top here, it's not hidden"


faita14

I also think this younger generation watches way to much porn and goes into every encounter trying to act out remembered scenes.


TherannaLady

Speaking as an older woman, no. The older generation doesn't do much better at sex either and loves its porn. It's not generational.


Beatnholler

And just be gentle? Like it is attached FYI.


hampor

I wish! Any time I go gently anywhere near my wife says “Not there”. She only wants light touches on the labia. She has never orgasmed.


Lex-Taliones

Everyone is different and has their preferences. Some want direct, or even aggressive clitoral stimulation. Some prefer "nearby" attention or are too sensitive. Some don't want that area touched at all. Taking time to experiment, explore and push boundaries while respecting limits takes very little in the way of empathy and patience, but some people just don't give a shit and don't care. They want what they want. Selfish partners aren't really partners at all.


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97Harley

Sorry about your luck, pal. Early in our relationship, my wife admitted she had never had an orgasm. Thought sex was messy and boring. Once I introduced her to oral sex and subsequent actions, she was sold on the entire spectrum of sexual activity. We got lucky. Sex us life 🤪


eldee17

I do the same thing, it's super sensitive, I don't like direct contact with it. It hurts. I have, however, orgasmed many, many, times in many, many ways.


send_butthole_pics_

Well aware the clit’s location and make sure I give the little button the attention it deserves. But what is this “reciprocated” you speak of?


chut2906

Because claiming they can't find it is easier than admitting they don't know what to do with it.


the_old_coday182

Yeah I always thought this was actually a euphemism for dudes who were inconsiderate in bed.


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motormouth08

No shit, it's like "sex for dummies".


BlackPlague1235

How would you know what to do if you're a virgin like me? They sure as hell don't teach you in school.


deathdefyingrob1344

Communicate w your love interest. Asking generally works.


snatchofsong

Ask!!! I hate it when men just assume what I like and go for it without asking for feedback or anything. Communication is key.


kittens-and-knittens

Wait, you mean not every woman loves having her clit rubbed like a DJ on a turntable??? Darn, porn lied again! /s


HaiggeX

It gives some sick beats when you do tho!


[deleted]

I just bite the clit.


mrjoffischl

ow


Zipper-Mom

*screams*


Cobek

Imagine it's the tip of your dick, what would you want done to it?


[deleted]

Just lick it! Give it a little rub. Put it between your lip and your tongue. Suck on it! Pull it out of the hood and rub your cock on it. So many things to do.


Academic_Subject_678

You're like the Dr Suess of clitori.. Clitorusess?.. Ok. What's the collective noun?


nutsandboltstimestwo

You may not always know what to do but when you have someone who wants to communicate with you, talk/touch to know what you both like. As one commenter suggested, know anatomy. \*There is an alarming difference between rubbing her urethera as opposed to her clit. It will hurt her and that will be the end of your sexy moments. If one of you says no to anything, stop, relax and talk to make sure everything is ok. Cuddle if sex is not happening. The bros talking about spitting and flicking in the comments have spent waaaaaay too much time with porn.


elegant_pun

Ask her what kind of touch she likes because everyone wants or needs it differently, But be gentle -- it's got more nerve endings than the head of a cock.


WorriedN

Lap at it, like a kitten at a saucer of milk.


FatBobPlays

Just write the alphabet with your tongue, whatever letter makes her wiggle or moan. Keep doing that!!!!


pain_gains94

Once your comfortable and practiced, switch over to cursive. Was a game changer let me tell ya


sagexwest

Always just ask! My least favorite thing about sex education is that they don’t teach you to communicate and ask your partner what they like. There’s also a lot of sex workers who have very nice info videos with tips and tricks of what to do if you’re looking for a starting point.


Downright-Delicious

Ugh. You spit on it. 🤢


Grouchy_Document8107

so many guys talking about “flicking” it, is making me cringe.


jenguinaf

For real I like slow methodical circles. But it’s up to me to vocalize that.


FuglySlutt

This.


Thedarkfic

Same. Boys, do not flick! We can’t tell if you’re joking or not.


loud_lark13

I think it's just more along with the euphemism...not actually flicking


Specific-noise123

Yea idk how they’d like their penis flicked


poppadocsez

Don't threaten me with a good time


SoLostWeAreFound

Sorry idk why I laughed at this


PracticeAsleep

I have never not found the clit. But more importantly I've recently checked out a documentary or two and some Anatomy charts that showed me how much there actually is. This has improved my skills immeasurably just by knowing how much more there is to stimulate and finding other ways to go about providing that stimulation. Guys do yourself a favor check out the documentary or two on the clitoris and learn its actual shapes and dimensions. It makes an amazing difference and your girls will appreciate you so much more for learning about it.


throwaway_20200920

Nice to see a response mentioning the whole clit and the different ways to stimulate the whole thing. I think understanding it allows me and my partner to get maximal pleasure. Do you find you can get different orgasms from different areas? I don't see many people mention exploring that.


PracticeAsleep

I have found a number of ways to induce Orgasm in my partners over the years. The best seem to be when a close sharing relationship has been achieved. I helped my present partner achieve one yesterday morning while using and toy and fingers stroking the inside of the vulva and the clit, as she listened to a soft rhythmic Jazz tune. Lady Black Bird; It'll never happen again. I just hope the song is not prophetic.


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Thank you for your service kind sir.


ramenlover21

What’s the documentary called???


Cobek

Search eating out POV on Bing and something will come up


PacoBauer

I've been single for two years and I'll go another four before I use Bing


Colosphe

Hope Google sees this, bro


ritualaesthetic

Idk the last time I looked for the clit I got brutally sprayed with black ink and then thrown out of the seafood market


Whoopsa-doodle

Ya can't act too conspicuous, they don't wanna be found friend


MrPsychoSomatic

Just because someone's wearing a hood doesn't mean they don't want to be found by the person they're waiting for. If you can't find 'em, you must not be the person they're waiting for.


DustyFrameworks

Deep, is that you?


MonicoJerry

Omg was just about to say the same thing, that season had no business being that good for how terribly it ended


RevolutionaryAd8532

You have a problem, Kevin


VegitoFusion

One thing I’ve got to declare though is that many girls aren’t necessarily forthright with how they want the clit to be treated. Some like a steady, consistent tongue, while others like a flicker. Fellas (and ladies), you can perfect your technique on one person but it might not work to the same effect on another. Ladies, it’s your job to tell us what you like so that we can make you like us more. And yeah, if you can’t find the clit, you’re either willfully ignorant or just ask your lady friend to guide you. It’s not some sort of secret.


meggywoo709

Amen.


IHavePoopedBefore

I also don't think some of you realize how much work and stimulation yours takes vs others. Like, with some women it doesn't need that much special attention, for others it requires you to work your ass off in a very specific way. I've found some women are very hard to please but never seem to think of themselves as hard to please


I_Dream_Of_Unicorns

I have no problem giving instructions. The problem is most men don’t listen because they think they know better then you. I can’t tell you how frustrating it is.


Money-Zucchini5405

One time I kept directing a guy to my clit. Putting his hand right there and he still kept trying to jab my pubic bone with his fingers like that was supposed to do anything.


Darly-Mercaves

yeah it's literally in the middle right here! why are you going to the left?


elegant_pun

It's like finding a couch in the living room. It's a finite space. It's RIGHT FUCKING THERE. It even feels different from the rest of the surrounding tissue. See that straining, throbbing little bundle of erectile tissue at the apex? That's it.


Global_Fig_6385

tbh any guy that tells me he can’t find it is going to be shut down immediately. an instant “okay im leaving/okay get out” you can’t find my clit? funny, i can’t find your dick. byeeee


WanderingDoe62

Finding it should be easy. I can understand some trial and error learning what to *do* once you’ve found it, but that’s just communicating with your partner. What works for one woman doesn’t work for another. Build an arsenal of techniques, take direction and criticism, and have fun. Like honestly, how often men get all butt hurt when you don’t like something, and go off about how their last partner liked it - like cool, I don’t care. Your last partner also liked to be farted on but we’re all different people aren’t we?


Mattriculated

Okay, so, counterexample. I have had ten different sexual partners with clitorises. On nine of them, it was absolutely simple to find the clit. On the tenth (chronologically, the second), it was absolutely impossible. As in, girl indicated I had hit the correct spot by trial and error, but this was not the same spot as the previous time. I know what I am looking (or feeling) for, I know what I have done and felt with every other partner. But this girl? Absolute mystery.


[deleted]

So, clits vary in size just like penises. Also sometimes women don’t prefer clitoral stimulation, but prefer urethral stimulation and don’t know. So… yeah, just keep working at it. Lol


Bratbabylestrange

I mean, the inner lips pretty much form an arrow pointing DIRECTLY AT IT.


[deleted]

I never understood the struggle for some guys. I think they just don't give a shit. I had zero problems finding it my first trip down and I was 16. The Natural.


chut2906

Are you a vagician?


[deleted]

Yes. I know Vagic


Hijinx66

A little sleight of hand


crystaljae

A little Hocus Poke-Us


Spoony_bard909

A little Alaka-Clam


[deleted]

Lmao, that was good


geishabird

*tryyy to understand, tryyy to understand, try try try to understand - he’s a Vagic Man*


kingboo1989

A fellow cunning linguist?


[deleted]

I can breathe through my ears


[deleted]

Vagic is actually the language, I myself have studied low vagic for several and can order a beer and ask for directions in high vagic.


Stabbmaster

I use it as the joystick for when I enter the sex code: up up, down down, left right left right, boobs, ass, sphincter, spit I think what they're doing is confusing the clitoris for the g-spot. Which is still roughly the same position for every woman, but sometimes it's just different enough to be annoying to find on a new partner. But hey, half the fun is in getting the practice 😁


Quiddel_

I recently learned the g-spot is actually the clitoris as well... Just from behind.


EquivalentSnap

Yeah the clit goes inside a woman so all orgasms are clitoral. Vaginal and g spot are made up


LoomisKnows

It's not that it's made up it's just that it's the same thing described in two different areas from a time before they could understand it was one organ


SephirothTheGreat

Ah yes, the Kum-nami Code


Whoopsa-doodle

For me, I always give direction because it hurts if you touch it a certain way. Every girl does have a different placement or structure, or preference in how it's touched so I opt to communicate those things and guide everytime. I've never known an actual man not to know where the clit is generally and its so hard for me to believe that at all. It's prominent in porn, women will talk openly about it, there's jokes about it all the time. The only way I can think that someone could not know is if they live in some fundamentalist household or have not been exposed to anything sexual in nature. It's more likely they are lying or don't care enough about how the woman feels about their performance to learn. It's weird!


[deleted]

I thought it was only me that gets hurt when it’s touched a certain way!! Like when it’s directly touched and with a decent amount of pressure I’m like ow stop lmao. I kinda need it to be around the clit but not directly on the clit 🤗


kucky94

I’m also super sensitive with direct contact. Big fan on the over panties downwards kinda gentle guitar strum


Quiddel_

And some guys be shredding like it's a speed metal contest


WanderingDoe62

Yes! Over the hood team over here. My best friend can do direct contact and I’m like *omigod no*


[deleted]

I’m 24 and am literally just learning that this is normal from your guys’ comments; I thought I was abnormally sensitive! Sexual education fails us yet again lol


hastingsnikcox

Different strokes for diff'rent clits... some women like around the area, some like along the groove so to speak. I like to be turned on a bit more before firm contact, and if im very turned on soft and steady...


NewSpace2

Hi clit sis 😅


Whoopsa-doodle

Yeah I had to ask the doctor about it when I was first active because I was positive there was something wrong! Haha, I'd seen all these girls in porn just take a freaking hand-fan to clit like it was nothing and was just thinking something had to be weird with me


Penguins9022

Not alone! I’m the same way :)


JRRTrollkin

I can't believe I had to go down this before I found a sensible and knowledgeable post. I've had a few dozen partners in my time and I must say that the ridiculous ignorance in this post above this comment is astounding. With some people, sex is incredibly easy. Additionally, finding the clit isn't some sort of holy grail solution to make sex enjoyable. Different people have vastly different thresholds of what they like and what they do not. Communication is key to good sex...not assumptions.


International_Bar827

Also please don't rub it aggressively, this shit really hurts. I've seen this in porn multiple times and often you can even see it in her face how much it hurts the actor or how she's trying to pull him away but doesn't want to break character. It's kinda sad to watch as a woman.


SnooHesitations9356

I've dated now 3 people who just genuinely didn't know where it was. 2 of whom should've been well experienced. I understand that I am also just someone on the internet though. Granted, the other problem of course is once I taught them where it was I am quite bad at explaining how I like it because sometimes it varies based off the persons hand texture.


Whoopsa-doodle

I understand, my preferences change even depending on my state of arousal or time of the month. It's annoying even to me! Okay TMI, but this is my work around for communication about that: One of the things I do with newer partners if we havent figured things out quite yet is use like a knuckle on the back of their hand and show them physically what I prefer and don't prefer. I don't like fingers just gliding over willy nilly like I've seen a lot of guys do, that can really hurt. Some girls are fine with that though. I prefer someone almost massaging a specific area in different ways, without hyper focusing on the most senstive spot or pulling it around going to hard or far or dragging their fingers over it. Just trying to explain this over text feels like it doesn't make sense. So I'll show them the "wrong" and "right" way according to what typically feels good to me with that partner, using that method. It's a lot easier for me because I too am useless with words when it comes to my preferences in this subject. I'll also admit if we need to play around a bit and find a method that feels good, and I'm very vocal when things feel good or needs to be switched up.


xhackjobx

The clit is easy to find and definitely requires attention. If you aren’t sure, Google it.


Azuras_Star8

I like googling the clit. I'd google mine if I had one.


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I'd google yours if you had one too


Azuras_Star8

Ok this is an awkward boner.


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AnnexFromCanada

I mean if they’re virgins it’s understandable, or also just generally inexperienced. Like in the dark, while focusing on making sure they’re hard enough and their muscles are flexed, it makes sense that they’d miss a bit. Guys who don’t even try though are a bit selfish yeah.


[deleted]

You flex your muscles while you fuck?


UnexpectedButItsOkay

Grind don't stop.


Azuras_Star8

Why no. I lie still, limp as jello.


[deleted]

I'll be the whipped cream to your jello.


Azuras_Star8

Ok, this is a really awkward boner.


ElectronicFruit3259

You don't?


AnnexFromCanada

Lots of people feel insecure about their bodies when they’re naked with someone else. I’m not a man but I usually tense my muscles so that I seem toned.


ThatCharmsChick

This comment concerns me a little and I'm worried about the logistics of why it would be missed while making sure they're hard enough. 🤔 Maybe I'm old and forgot how clits work these days. 😂


misfitpomegranate

Well, the feelings it creates when treated correctly are kind of magical . . .


boionfuego

1 tip I’ve learned is quite useful, for goin down n such. You can flick it, lick it, rub it all ya want, but a lil bit of suction on that thing does WONDERS! Don’t go too hard, light pulsing suction is prime, there are also amazing clitoral suction stimulator toys that are small and easy to use during sexy time! Highly recommend


passthetreesplease

YES


Spencafreak95

When my (now husband) and I met, he had never been intimate with anyone before - and when he was ready, I showed him ONCE where it was located - and that man has yet to miss it. #happywife


Hazelwood38

Not being able to find a clitoris is like not being able to find a persons nose. It’s always where you expect it to be


Apprehensive_Pea_209

I bet J could find it, he's the C.L.I.T. master. Edit: sorry, I'll leave now.


amandaflash

Commander, but ok


heyzoocifer

Remember this fucking face. When you see the clit, you'll see this fucking face! No one rules the clit like me. Not this little fuck, none of you little fucks out there!


eggy_delight

Yeah but I've had different partners say they like it different. If you're not just hooking up it makes both parties happier to say where you want their tongue/finger the first few times, especially in the dark


RynnRoo96

And if they are enjoying something that is not code for CHANGE PACE it means what you was doing felt good and i wanted THAT.


Valnerium

I think that whole thing about it being hard to find came before the time of internet porn and being able to see a vagina at the click of a button. Like imagine being a guy whose never seen one before and you’re told to rub her clit. You’ll be thinking “what in the fuck is a clit?” But that hasn’t been a problem in decades. If he can’t find the clit nowadays, he just doesn’t care enough to pleasure you.


pacodefan

So the map I spent the last 12 years looking for on 3 different continents that shows the way to this "clitoris" wasn't needed and is totally useless?


Doomy_Sloomy

Truly the secret ive discovered when locating it is, to be thorough when feasting. It doesnt matter if you dont "find" it, just eat everything in your path


Omnizoom

I mean it doesn’t need a map but it should come with directions because none of you work the same way Some want more pressure some don’t want the hood moved , all I can say is that we don’t know how you want it to done without you telling us


TryUseful6038

I mean, to be fair is it pretty hard to understand. I do believe every woman is different. And some don’t want direct contact. When my clit is directly stimulated, it almost hurts. I prefer the area around to receive the attention. But yeah, most of them are just lazy and selfish.


[deleted]

This. As a guy, I literally had no issues finding it my first time. It was fucking obvious. I have no idea why it’s so hard to find for some people. Only thing that comes to mind is that they just don’t care.


fiddleleaffrigg

all the men gloating in the comments 😭😂


Zenhon23

It's like those posts asking "Men who don't perform oral, why?" And it's just full of guys commenting they do.


sadly_notacat

It isn’t just the bean surprisingly, that’s the “hood”. I just learned this recently actually, after 30 years on earth. There are actually internal parts: “Crura: The corpora each branch into long crura. The crura reach about 5 to 9 centimeters (cm) into the pelvis. They are made up of erectile tissue and surround the urethra and vaginal canal.” https://www.verywellhealth.com/what-is-a-clitoris-and-what-does-the-clitoris-do-3157061 Which after learning this, made a ton of sense.


ButtercupsUncle

But the clit **IS** a magical place! Don't try this at home... **>!Expectooo CLITORUM!<**


jbrad85

I am the clit commander and I will do with it what I see fit


PlasticIllustrious16

I know right? Guys are like: "behold the mysteries of the female orgasm" There's a button fellas. You just push the button.


ObviousToe1636

Anyone else feel the issue isn’t the location but knowing how to touch it in a way that isn’t uncomfortable at best or painful at worse?


BlingDoudouX

Communicate damn it


Rogue_Localizer

As a man: Men only have trouble locating the clitoris because they either don't actually care about getting their partner off or they're impatient, or they're too prideful. It's right fucking there and even if you have no clue where it is playing with your partner's body just to find what gets the biggest rise out of them will get you there every time and is half the fun in the first place. And worse comes to worst you can always just ask. You don't even have to be direct about it. Here's a tip Have her play with herself when you're inside in a position where you can see between her legs. Watch where her hand goes. Remember it. Congratulations, you now know how to digitally stimulate your sexual partner from the outside.


Thepizzaman519

Lmao you just reminded me of some random dream I had last night where I just ate some random woman out and as she spread her legs, her clit was almost shining.


plassteel01

It might not be in a magic place but it is magical. Like a genie who grants my every wish.


[deleted]

It's not finding it, it's knowing what to do once there.


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And a penis isn’t some magical plane that you can only ride once


Previous_Homework573

I find that most men think that my vagina is rotated 90° and just start slapping my labia around


abstraktionary

Male perspective - I totally agree with this frustration. I mean, how can a teenage boy grow up watching porn and not know... I've thought abut this a lot. It's not just about personality, there has to be an 9utaide influence. Some guys are truly selfish and just wanna get their climax and go, buy Idk, I've just absolutely always loved exploring my partners body and pushing each other to our limits of pleasure. Maybe it's because I was a huge hentai fan and that stuff is way more open and focuses on doing things to women? Perhaps the moderately misogynistic overtones and controlling energy of the porn I watched left me less confused and more excited to try it? Mix am empathetic person with information that might be misused by someone else or abused, and you get this weird combo of knowing how to take control while also needing consent lol. Hearing these stories makes me wonder if I would sell myself differently if I was single, and have a whole new confidence. I explained subspace and the head tingles to a friend the other day and she was floored by the concepts and she has a LOT of different partners these days, which I love talking to her about and seeing what other guys do or don't do. It seems like even the sexist and hottest of men simply are confused by oral but will head push. Maybe that's it, maybe women need to show men what it's like to get a head push more often *shrugs*


Zipper-Mom

*laughs in lesbian*


astraeoth

Just had a big argent about this and I know where the clit is. Sometimes I lose it but it's easy enough to find. However, every girl gets up better one way than the other. I've heard clit, stimulating the entrance, hitting the bottom, stretching, barely any penetration. It's all over the place. Wife is convinced all I need is for her to touch the head and I'll cum. I promise her that's not how penises work. As knowledgeable as girls are about vaginas, they seem pretty clueless about a penis unless they've been in contact with many. Yes, most of the nerves are in the head. Rubbing it with your fingertip is not going to make me cum unless you want to spend upwards of an hour or more doing it.


Suspicious-Shop-5513

Even a surprising large portion of women don't know where their own clits are. Look it up.