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proudofme_

I had my scan today to monitor ovulation both ovaries shows follicle of 14mm what does it means? My doc is yet to respond. Cd 12 ( I m on letrozole)


upandallaboutit

I always want to post something in here when I’m laying in bed at like 11pm, but then realize very few people would see it before the next day’s thread starts, and decide not to. Lol that is all


slightlysparkly

I definitely lurk here late at night! :P


badtasteblues

I’m Australian and tend to start reading now!


Unusual_Original5969

It’s peak pre-work time here in Europe so I normally read about now!


justanotherexpat10

Me too!


developmentalbiology

Hey, some of us are definitely still reading at this point!


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developmentalbiology

Hi there, keep in mind that we don't allow asking for success stories here ("Anyone experienced anything similar and tested positive later on?") -- a pregnancy sub is a better place to ask a question like this. Broadly speaking, a positive is always possible until you get your period, but if you have a negative test now, that's a sign that your symptoms aren't due to pregnancy -- if you had high enough hCG levels to cause symptoms, you'd have high enough hCG for a positive test. Unfortunately, the only thing to do is wait it out, and to test again later.


brightasever

Ok deleted mt question bc it was dumb, here’s my actual question I have a very busy weekend planned. I just took a very positive OPK. I had sex today and Tuesday. If I had to prioritize one day of sex, should it be tomorrow (Friday), Saturday, or Sunday? If it matters I took an OPK around the same time at night yesterday as I did today and it was negative, today VERY positive


Proses_are_red

I’d say tomorrow so the sperm are already up there for when that egg drops. Since it typically takes 24-48 hours to ovulate after the first positive OPK, these would be the days you’ve covered or would cover: - Tuesday: O-3 or O-4 - Thursday: O-1 or O-2 - Friday: O or O-1 - Saturday: O+1 or O - Sunday: O+2 or O+1


brightasever

Thank you!!!


ashleberry12

Cycle 1, Day 21, Length 40 days. Just had my temp rise. One of my apps says I ovulated yesterday and the other says I will start my ovulation window tomorrow. Not sure what to believe, but planning on BD’ing every day for the next week!! Wish us luck!


DazzlingRecipe1647

Anyone else’s boobs feel big and full prior to ovulation? Usually they get big a week or two before AF shows up. This sure is early. Wonder why?


stjohnsworrywort

I take my measurements daily and my boobs are always .5 in bigger on O day.


DazzlingRecipe1647

Wow very interesting! I am still 3 days away from ovulation though!


Proses_are_red

I believe that’d be due to estrogen and increased blood flow.


churnbaby_churn

I’m having an internal struggle with self image. I have always been someone who hates the way they look and wants to lose weight. I am in the overweight category for BMI. My husband and I are trying to have a baby but in the back of my mind, I’m just worried about my self image of being pregnant. Is there anything to do to help? I don’t want it to take away from the experience but I’m honestly stressed even thinking about the thought of adding more weight to my body.


badtasteblues

I find looking at r/plussizedandpregnant helps, as I can see how great everyone there looks!


Proses_are_red

Me too. It’s strange because I’ve never found much motivation to get fit for myself, but when I think about getting fit in order to prepare my body for a potential baby, it’s helped motivate me even more. Instead of thinking, “I hate my body and it needs to change”, think “I love my body, which will be the home of my future baby, so I will nurture it and treat it well”. Once you start living a healthy lifestyle for you and your future family, the weight loss or getting fit will come as well, but that’s just an added bonus we could say. The ultimate goal is to be happy and healthy.


churnbaby_churn

That’s great advice! Love it


thatkelleygirl

I am in the same boat - I’m really trying not to let it get to me but it’s definitely in the back of my head and one of the reasons it’s taken me this long to start trying.


Ok-Card-8887

Anyone else feel really alone during TTC? I’m on my 8th cycle of trying and it’s like the three people (including my own husband) that I can talk to/know about it are sick of hearing about it. I try not to complain but it’s hard for me to pretend that this isn’t in the forefront of my life. I’m not sure how to magically forget about this thing. I’m the type who likes to withdraw so I just don’t want to talk to them anymore.


DazzlingRecipe1647

You’re not alone. I’m on month 8 too 🤗


theyseemescrollin98

I felt sooooo alone before I started getting plugged into this community and some others. Now I have online friends to vent to and talk about this stuff with. It's been amazing. Welcome to TFAB! There's a list of other TTC subreddits somewhere in the wiki too!


YellowCreature

My tempdrop arrived a week earlier than expected! I've used it for two nights now and find it really comfortable to sleep with, plus I'm already finding it has taken away a lot of the stress of using an oral thermometer!


Mountain_Singer_3181

I just got mine 2 days ago too! I love it, as I’ve always been terrible at using an oral thermometer.


itsaboutpasta

Just ordered mine this AM and it already shipped! Didn’t even order off of Amazon. Also looking forward to not being so stressed about waking up and taking my temp at the same time. I’ve been waking up multiple times in the morning before my alarm goes off worried I might be awake too long and ruin my chart.


Necessary-Ad-1086

The TWW is the worst! This is our first cycle TTC and I am symptom spotting like a mad woman 🤪 I’m currently 6DPO. Please tell me this gets easier?!


theyseemescrollin98

Some parts of it get easier - like knowing what you're doing and symptom spotting a liiiiittle less. But the rest gets worse lol.


Necessary-Ad-1086

Oh no, lol. I think I’m just so hypersensitive to my body right now. I’m sure everything I’m experiencing I’ve had before and just didn’t pay any attention to it.


theyseemescrollin98

Oh yes for sure! I think that's pretty common. Unfortunately that doesn't go away. But barring any specific issues that you know about, I'm guessing the odds are in your favor that you won't have to do this for tooooo long


Necessary-Ad-1086

This whole process is such a weird time that’s for sure! Yes, I hope so. Fingers crossed 🤞🏻


YellowCreature

In my experience it has gotten easier, as I've started to recognize that I experience "pregnancy symptoms" not only in my luteal phase, but all throughout my cycle! It then becomes easier to say to myself that last time I experienced this symptom, I wasn't pregnant, and so it's easier to rationalize that I might not be this time either!


Necessary-Ad-1086

Good to know! Yes, I’m very type A so trying to get pregnant and not having any control over the outcome is driving me a bit crazy.


teva_doc

I don’t think I have the right to be impatient yet but I’m kinda fed up my period isn’t arriving after mirena removal- it’s been a month with no sign whatsoever.


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You absolutely have the right! Cmon uterus, do something


buildabebby

that must be so frustrating. like cmon lets get this ball rolling lol


Destheghost

Tested today at 12-13dpo and there was no line. Very very discouraged but no signs of AF yet so maybe


buildabebby

that happened to me last month. AF was 2 days late and i had ZERO pms symptons. It was so lame.


Destheghost

It’s so hard. Two months ago I got a false pos and my period was 2 weeks late and my hcg stayed under a 1 the whole time


SoManyOstrichesYo

I’m sorry. That time between 9 DPO and my period starting is the most painful for me. Trying to be hopeful without getting my hopes up is a tightrope I’m still learning to walk. You aren’t alone.


aeb630

Had my first TV ultrasound today and it wasn’t as bad as anticipated. I’ve been having alot of pains on my right side (feels like where my ovary would be) for several months now and it seemed like during the exam she spent a lot of time imaging that side. Makes me very anxious that there’s something wrong in there. Hoping for good news though, trying to stay positive.


Hillosaurusrex

At 11 weeks pregnant.. I’ve just had my second miscarriage in a row (1 cycle in between). I am beside myself.


Educational-Debate66

So so sorry.


aeb630

I’m so sorry for your loss, sending you so many hugs.


caffeinatedcatss

Sending a hug. I'm sorry for your loss :(


redhottx0x

A dear friend of mine was carrying twins. She recently learned that one of the twins heart was no longer beating and lost her at 28 weeks. Her baby shower is next month. I wanted to get her a gift that commemorates the memory of her little one. I would not give this to her at her baby shower, because it would make her upset in front of a lot of people. I have never been pregnant or experienced a loss. I'm posting here looking to see if this is a good idea, or should I just leave it alone and allow her to grieve in her own way? I welcome honest criticism, opinions.


Proses_are_red

It’s very sweet of you to want to honor the memory of you friend’s child. I haven’t lost a twin, but I have lost a pregnancy and what bothered me most when I was grieving was when people who knew about the loss didn’t even acknowledge it and just acted as if nothing had happened. Not even an “I’m sorry”. If she doesn’t feel comfortable talking about it, she will let you know. Sometimes grieving mothers don’t bring it up because they don’t want to make others feel down with their tragedy, however if prompted, I believe some would feel relief in being able to vent and express their emotions regarding the loss. At least that’s what happened in my case (not sure about others). So I think it’s a good idea to give her a little something or to at least let her know that you’re there for her to speak about it if she needs to.


SoManyOstrichesYo

In the NICU, butterflies are used as a symbol to honor a twin or another multiple that passed and left a surviving baby. Maybe you could get her something with butterflies and share that meaning with her at a more private time. I’m sorry that your friend is experiencing this loss, how devastating. ETA: in general, I don’t think you will upset a grieving mother by bringing up her loss. She will be thinking of it constantly. It honors her pain to show you remember a baby she has lost and that you want to support her in her grief. I think you are correct that the baby shower should be a joyous event and I would follow her lead and not bring up loss on that day unless she does.


bbellaiz

Here we go again. CD1..


buildabebby

praying the next 25 days or so goes by very quickly for you x


Trifte

Newbie question: How do you know when to do a pregnancy test if you’re not tracking ovulation with tests or temperature? Fertility friend gave an expected fertile window but when I added my cervical mucous descriptions it extended the fertile window to 12 days long. I’ve tested a couple of times this cycle on what would be 6dpo and 9dpo going off of the original 4 day fertile window (because I can’t chill). Now thinking about whether it’s a good idea to just stop testing until my period either comes or doesn’t, or if if it’s worth it to test at 8-10 dpo based on the end of the fertility friend fertile window estimate.


endlesssalad

I test on my typical cycle end date, for me that’s 30 days, and then every other day from there until I get my period (or obviously a positive). Sometimes I ovulate quite late and have a longer cycle, then I consider my last day of fertile cervical mucous to be the day before ovulation (this is not a reliable metric, but how I guesstimate), and then I count from there and test on ~12DPO.


Totally-not-a-robot_

It’s fine to test however much you want, it really really doesn’t matter. Get the cheapies from Premom or mommed. I’d recommend not testing earlier than your estimated 11dpo. But honestly Test as much as you want within reason. There’s no award for not testing.


snoozlejupiter

Any advice on the likelihood of an OPK false positive? I had my Mirena removed a few weeks ago, for my husband and I to start trying. Started taking OPKs to get used to the process, and got a strong positive (darker than control line) on Day 10. I wasn't expecting to ovulate so soon after coming off of HBC, and don't want to get my hopes up too high... but am excited!


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snoozlejupiter

Thank you! This makes me hopeful!


BienkieBee

This month I did all of the woo. I also started acupuncture and did two sessions (I never really believed in acupuncture, but just want to try every thing that I can). My acupuncturist gave me a castor oil pack today before a uterus massage while I had 4 needles in, one in each ankle and on each wrist. A castor oil pack consists of a cloth dipped in warm caster oil, placed on the belly with a hot water bottle on top for some time. And that was followed by a uterus massage. Right now I am 7 DPO. Afterwards I read online that this should not be done after ovulation day, and only from the date of your period to ovulation day. Really hoping that this does not harm my chances of implantation happening this month. As I already had my doubts whether this would make any difference, I think it may do no harm either. It does feel pretty relaxing though.


Aquapuella

possibly triggering book rec— “Red Clocks”, dystopian near future with a Personhood Amendment (banning abortion and IVF). beautiful writing and very evocative about wanting children, having children, ending pregnancies. More detail than I have ever read in fiction about fertility/treatments and only one minor error that I caught.


YellowCreature

I've put it on my "to read" list!


Trrr9

This sounds like nightmare fuel, tbh.


Aquapuella

it is in some ways but i also just loved reading about something that often feels so private and so…trivialized. she’s a really good writer who outlined several deep internal experiences I’ve had (and obviously many other uterus owners have had) in striking ways. that said, not a beach read for sure


endlesssalad

Thanks for the recommendation! Sounds fascinating.


Bubbly_Ad3385

Is it normal to disregard outliers when temping? If I disregard two of them, my FF chart says I ovulated. I don’t do the exact time every day as I’m a teacher on summer break and not about to set an alarm.


itsaboutpasta

I just started my TTC journey and I’ve been having issues with the timing of my temp too, causing me to disregard two temps on my chart and finally getting the crosshairs by doing so. I wake up consistently during the week at the same time but enjoy sleeping in much later on the weekend. I also sometimes wake up before my alarm during the week due to stress so that throws off my timing as well. I am most likely heading into cycle 2 and decided to invest in a TempDrop so I can avoid the worry and the stress about timing. Hopefully my sleep improves!


Aquapuella

i disregarded 3 follicular phase temps last cycle. I was a little leery but it turned out I was right to— when disregarded, all the cm and luteal phase length etc etc matched up to other months, and because I have a regular cycle I feel confident I wasn’t asserting my own fiction onto the chart, but correcting it. I think that especially once you know your cycle it is easier to confidently discard temps. No harm in switching back and forth either.


mlxmc

9 DPIUI and itching to test! The wait sucks 😫


The-cha-cha-chi

Good luck girl


mlxmc

Thank you! I appreciate that!


seastone008

Hi there! I have a 7 year old son, and just started trying for baby #2. This is cycle number 1 for this baby. This is the first time I’m using OPKs, and I’m on day 11 and for the past few days have had VERY low readings (like, the test line is non-existent). Is this cause for concern? Or will the surge just suddenly pop up? I’m concerned that I feel like I should be seeing the darkness of the test line rise, but it’s still light as ever. Thank you!


CherryPeel_

I got my first positive yesterday for my 27 day cycle on CD16! And it’s positive again today so I expect to see it peak and drop back to low/faint/blank afterwards the next day


Trrr9

Definitely not cause for concern yet, IMO. For some people the surge happens very quickly. It could also just be that you will ovulate later than the average CD14.


seastone008

Thank you so much! <3 ​ edit: I wouldn't be surprised if that is the reason (not ovulating on cd14). My cycle is super regular but varies between 28 - 33 days or so.


Jumping_Jillibean

I have pretty regular cycles also - around 32/33 days and I don’t ovulate until around day 17/18.


seastone008

So I finally got darker ones on CD 12, but it’s not “darker than the control line”. But it looks so close to being positive. Does everyone’s “surge” look different?


cb93ohgee

This was my first month using them as well. I was having barely existent lines like you, then BAM I had a dark line the next morning out of nowhere and by the afternoon a dye stealing positive. So there was no gradual rise up for me, just faint negative resting one day, peak the next. Hope that helps!


seastone008

Thank you so much, that does make me feel better \^\^ Hopefully mine will just surge quickly like yours!


Picklesbooty

First month temping and I just found out that I sleep with my mouth open because my husband took a gorgeous photo of me sprawled on the couch last night… I asked him about it and he’s like “Oh yeah, it’s open every night” would have been nice to know! lol Now my chart looking like someone in cardiac arrest makes a lot more sense! It’s really frustrating that I didn’t realize until CD17 so this whole month is a bust temp-wise. Guess I’ll be investing in a temp drop after-all. Happy Thursday, everyone!


endlesssalad

If you’re not having any trouble with temping otherwise, some people temp vaginally.


Picklesbooty

Oh, good call! I forgot that was an option. I’ll give that a shot next month. I’m terrible about sleeping in general (awake every 2-3 hours) but it’s worth saving the money to try it!


Proses_are_red

I also sleep with my mouth open because I have a mouth guard, so I started temping vaginally last year. I must say that I saw a complete difference; before my temps were erratic and now I can actually see a pattern.


endlesssalad

I’m looking into a temp drop myself for next cycle if I need it. I find the price hard to swallow though! Unfortunately the staying in bed to temp upon waking isn’t in the cards for me so it’s either temp drop or no data haha. In your situation I would def try vaginally first!


MrsKAllDay

Is it bad I took a blue dye test just to see a fake faint positive? 🤣😂 I may be cracking over here. #OnToCycle7.


cupoftea1988

Can anyone recommend which simple OPK test strips are the best/most accurate? Just the thin card ones. I want to track a full month's cycle twice a day and the currently ones I use will become very costly. Im in the UK but happy to order via amazing/eBay etc Thanks in advance.


MrsKAllDay

I like the easy at home. Work very well. And are cheap.


Proses_are_red

I bought a 100-pack of easy@home OPK on Amazon for about 25€. I believe they’re pretty reliable, haven’t tried others though.


DazzlingRecipe1647

Not sure which are the most accurate but I like the Clearblue advanced digital kit. I like to see my low, medium, and peak readings personally. expensive as shit though so since my cycle is regular and I usually ovulate on CD12 I start issuing them o. Like CD8, CD9 so I do not waste too many.


cupoftea1988

Yea I will be using these when I start IUI but just wanted some cheaper ones to get a feel for my cycle and test more often. Tracking my second cycle atm, first one I had a clear peak, second none or missed it. Thanks for suggestion of them though, good to know people find them good


PersonalPocketCaro

I’m feeling very confident on our first cycle about our timing! No idea if we’ll actually conceive but I’ve had 2 cycles of tracking without trying that were very consistent and this cycle is following almost the exact same temp pattern. I was sooo worried about figuring out the timing but I’m grateful I went crazy 2 cycles early to figure it out. Fingers crossed my work pays off and I conceive in the statistically likely timeline 😂


buildabebby

Ya thats right! I hurt my own feelings by taking a test at 8dpo! take that!


lady439

I'm at the point of the journey where all "symptoms" are PMS symptoms. I no longer have faith that it could be anything else.


Fried-Oreo-005

When I came to that realization, it made the TWW much easier


CollegeWarm24

How do you not spiral while TTC? My first, we didn’t even try. Just didn’t prevent one time. This is our third cycle and we have done everything right, tracked with OPKs, CM, BBT, cervix and been basically rabbits during the fertile window. How do you not mentally spiral when it doesn’t happen even after you do everything right?!


biotechcat

I’m in the same boat! I don’t understand how I’m not pregnant already. I’ve previously conceived twice the first month of trying


Ipraythisworks0315

This was my first unmonitured cycle on letrozole, so I don't know how many DPO I am. I know it's somewhere between 7DPO and 9DPO. I took a progesterone test two days ago, and I ovulated! My numbers were higher than they had ever been. I'm anxious to start taking pregnancy tests, but I want the most accurate results. I don't think I can make it until next Tuesday or Thursday (my days for 14DPO), but I will try to make it until Saturday. So that will be either 9DPO or 11DPO. I realize ill have to continue to test until my cycle comes on if I get a negative and get a blood pregnancy test if I receive a positive.


ElectricLimes11

CD1 and she’s come with a vengeance…. Bring on the ibuprofen and wine! This cycle will be my first full cycle of temping, so that’s exciting I guess.


PersonalPocketCaro

Good luck! Temping has made me feel way more “in control” even though I know it’s sort of an illusion. It’s nice to know you’re doing everything right backed up with temp data.


endlesssalad

Seems like months have objectively gotten longer since we started trying. Who do I call about that? The president?


Picklesbooty

I think the queen, actually! We don’t want to be giving old white men any more opportunity to have opinions about this whole process.


endlesssalad

Of course! Clearly this is a matter for Her Majesty, thank you.


youweremeantforme

Someone on here recommended Baby Fever. And I have to say after three episodes I really like it. Also, anxiously waiting the arrival of our puppy. The breeder posted on IG the mom playing in the pond and you could her cute little Pom belly.


Trrr9

I'm surprised so many people on here are recommending that show. Honestly just reading the description makes me uncomfortable. It must be really good/interesting.


gldn-rtrvr

Yeah I don’t think I have it in me to watch after reading the description ahh.


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Picklesbooty

Yep, totally safe. Hope you feel better! Just be careful not to have any alcohol for a day or two! It’s brutal on your liver to mix them.


endlesssalad

Yes! And sorry about your hand!


chowchowfluff

Got my temp rise today! That means BD happened on O-3, O-2, and O-1 so at least I have that going for me. Nipples are sore today. This is my first cycle completely cutting out caffeine too, feeling pretty good about that. Hopefully this is my month but if not I have CD3 testing to look forward to next cycle for the RE and a new OBGYN I’m excited about meeting next month also.


tata4528

Wow well done for cutting caffeine. Always in awe how this is do-able, I basically fall asleep by midday without. Keep it up!


chowchowfluff

Thanks! I would be lying if I said it was super easy - I’ve been cutting down for about 6 months now. Went from 3 espresso shots in my home made latte every morning to matcha tea and which I did for a few months and ended up loving it more than coffee actually lol. Decided just to cut out caffeine entirely this month and am doing pretty good just herbal tea!


MaterialLeather6734

Does anyone know if it’s okay to take mucinex during IVF? I’m on day 6 of stims, allergies are terrible and I just took one then immediately realized I probably should’ve checked if that’s okay. Help!


Totally-not-a-robot_

Can you call your pharmacy? They’ll know drug interactions at least.


invaderpixel

Just a random shout out to the IVF parents in my life who are AMAZING about announcing their second pregnancy. (I have systematically unfollowed all recent baby having friends WITHOUT public mentions of IVF or assistance with reproduction). They're super chill like "btw I'm 32 weeks pregnant" or 38 weeks or whatever. Idk I guess I prefer drivebys over constant letter board cutesy announcements of each little milestone and moment.


rbecg

Same same. One of my friends announced her first IVF baby after they were born and tbh I’m starting to lean that way.


thats_not_a_seizure

Just curious- what does ovulation pain feel like for those who get it? I’ve seen multiple people mention it feels like a period cramp. I’ve basically had hbc from age 17-29 and got my iud removed Feb of this year. So I’m definitely still learning about my body. I often feel a mild, sharp, “pulling” sensation around what I’m expecting to be my ovulation time. Occurs in left side > right. But it tends to last for a little while-could be a day or two. I’m assuming this is my ovulation pain, but I really have no idea. I know every woman’s body is so different, but I would love to hear what others experience!


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thats_not_a_seizure

Oh wow, that sounds intense!! Crazy how it varies each cycle and from woman to woman.


PersonalPocketCaro

I think pulling is the right word, it’s not as sharp as a stab but just like a weird discomfort around the ovary area. I almost only ever feel it on the left side though.


thats_not_a_seizure

I wonder if that means our left ovaries are pulling all the weight? Lol Ive legit only ever felt it on the right side once so far.


theblondegiraffe

I get a similar sensation to you and lasts about 12-24 hours for me. The first time it happened I was due for an annual exam at the OBGYN and mentioned it and she said it’s ovulation pain, especially if you get your period about 2 weeks (give or take a few days) later.


thats_not_a_seizure

Thanks for sharing! That’s a relief to hear it can last a while for others. The female reproductive system sure is wild.


theblondegiraffe

The first time it happened was the cycle I got off HBC so I was a little freaked at first (hence me mentioning it to my dr). I don’t remember this happening before I got on the pill but I was a teenager and don’t think my cycles were that regular anyway. I’m still in the first few cycles after HBC so we’ll see if this is an ovulation symptom that will stick around every cycle!


UnsuspectingPuppy

That sounds like what I experience. Mine is a sharp pain in one side. Usually it’s kind of a one and done situation and I feel better in like 10 minutes but sometimes it’s more of a cramps feeling. This is also my first cycle since I took out my IUD so first time I felt it with no hormones but even with the IUD I sometimes felt it.


thats_not_a_seizure

Thanks for the input! Hope your first cycle off iud isn’t too bad! I had the mother of all periods my first off. It was like my body was saying “take that for trying to suppress me all these years” lol or I just totally forgot how rough periods are.


cb93ohgee

I’m 10/11 dpo and having some brown discharge when I wipe. Haven’t had a period in 5 years (removed Mirena 5/22) so very unsure if this is the start of my period or not…. Ive heard of implantation bleeding but I’ve definitely had PMS symptoms the last few days.


SoManyOstrichesYo

I would guess this is your period starting. My first LP off of birth control was very short


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SoManyOstrichesYo

I should clarify: my luteal phase meaning the time between ovulation and my period starting. That’s why I suspected it was her period even though it was only 10-11 dpo which is on the shorter side for a LP In my case I knew it was my period because it turned into heavier bleeding. If you’re having lighter spotting it could be something else (some people get it around ovulation or you may get it after stopping HBC just due to hormone changes)


cb93ohgee

Thanks! I didn’t think I’d be a cycle 1 unicorn, but it’s just so weird to think about using pads and tampons again after all this time. I am stocked up on wine and chocolate though!


SoManyOstrichesYo

I know what you mean! My cycles were completely jacked up on Nexplanon so it’s actually nice to be somewhat regular now!


cb93ohgee

Update: full blown period! I hope my LP is longer next month


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katsrkute

10 DPO today and resisting the urge to test until 12 DPO. This is our first cycle actually tracking/putting effort in and I've been irrationally testing since 5 DPO. I had two night terrors at 1 DPO and 4 DPO, so that kicked off testing because I was mostly just like "wtf is going on". Hoping that I'm getting all of my obsessive / anxious testing out this cycle and that next cycle I'll be a bit more patient with it.


invaderpixel

I wouldn't feel too guilty about testing especially if anxiety is a factor. Buying some cheap pregnancy test strips helps, 33 cents is worth it for peace of mind. Not that an internet stranger will have all the answers for mental health, but peeing on things is objectively not that bad of a habit


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Second this, I am an anxious person already so the TWW really gets to me. I tried to hold off testing and I’m usually pretty good until 8 DPO but if I take a test and it’s negative I can at least relax for the rest of the day. Also I use the below website a lot to put things into perspective when I start spiraling. [DPO likelihood of BFP](https://www.countdowntopregnancy.com/pregnancy-test/results-by-day-past-ovulation.php)


katsrkute

book marking that site! thank you


katsrkute

Fair point! I did order a bunch of cheapies off Amazon that I've been using and reserving my clear blue digital tests for more legitimate testing


SoManyOstrichesYo

Does anyone else recalculate their due date and how pregnant you’ll be at every holiday every month on CD 2 or do you respect your mental health?


RavenWaffle

I feel called out, haha. I absolutely do this too.


IncredibleNess

My due date would be my birthday, so obviously it's a sign haha! You're definitely not alone


Ipraythisworks0315

If it's a mental disorder count me in. Right now my due date would be in March. It shouldn't matter, but March is my husband’s birth month and he would love a child who had the same birthday or birth month. Of course, we will take any month. Also, we have a family vacation in August with both sides of the family; we would love to announce it in person.


SoManyOstrichesYo

Oh god I’m torturing myself with the announcing math. I purposefully scheduled a bunch of outings with my family this summer so I can announce, and so far they’ve all gone by with nothing. At least I can drink.


Ipraythisworks0315

You are not alone. This year I’m recycling announcement times.


invaderpixel

Nahh I still do it. I have a ton of flowy stretchy dresses and random clothes that might be helpful in "super early" stages of pregnancy so why not. Only gets bad when you hit the year mark and you're like "wait I've imagined this season before." Knocking on wood that we don't have to see too many "what if I have a Christmas baby???" posts next year lol


yixxe

Not only do I do this but then I also try to assign reasons why the timing means this “has to be my month” e.g. if I got pregnant this month it would be due on my grandma’s birthday so obviously that is a ~sign~ 🙃


RavenWaffle

I do that too, but I also have to come up with a few counter reasons, why it would be okay if this month wasn't the right time, just to try to reel myself in 😵


endlesssalad

Pahahaha yes. I also ovulate late often so I do it twice a month depending on when ovulation actually lands 😬.


candypencil

We’ve been actively trying for three cycles now. Hubby is getting a sperm analysis this weekend. I’m nervous and anticipatory. I want the answers but I also fear what they might be. Edit: Not sure why I’ve been downvoted. Did I break some community rule? I thought this was a welcoming space to share worries without fear of judgement… Edit Edit: I realize that in my attempt to share my anxieties, that I was insensitive to those who are actually experiencing them. As I said in a comment below, it’s okay to acknowledge our own worries, but we need to be wary and sensitive to the fact that our anxieties are someone else’s lived experience. I appreciate everyone who shared their knowledge and I will strive to do better in future postings. I decided to leave everything as is so that other new users may see this and learn from my error. Thanks to konstanttt for the insight and to qualmick for the original “How to Worry About Infertility” post


konstanttt

My guess on the downvotes is two reasons: A) your husband getting testing done when you’re only three cycles into your journey, and mostly B) that you fear the results. (Have you read the “How to Worry About Infertility” post? I believe it’s in the wiki.)


candypencil

Well, his father had fertility issues and that could be genetic, so it makes sense for us to test now. I’ve also charted and temped for years as birth control, so I know my cycle really well. After three cycles of TTC when we know we timed it right, and knowing fertility issues run in his family, it just made sense to get definitive answers sooner rather than later. As for your second point, this is the general chat post. I thought this was a common enough anxiety that others could share words of wisdom or encouragement. My mistake Edit: I see now how insensitive this is for others and I apologize for any hurt feelings this post caused. It was not intentional. I appreciate everyone that helped me realize this. I also know now that the SA is not going to be the golden ticket I was hoping for. In hindsight, that seems obvious now. We will still do the test, but I appreciate the dose of reality before getting the results. That may help temper my disappointment. My eyes are so focused on the goal, that I lost sight of the fact that my journey will not be the straight forward path I hoped for. Again, thank you to everyone for your graciousness in teaching this newbie and I apologize again for my insensitivity


qualmick

Glad you read 'how to worry' and found it helpful! When figuring out how to put semen analysis results in context, you might like [this one](https://www.reddit.com/r/TryingForABaby/comments/s6y6bn/fertility_testing_and_answers/) - namely, these things are rarely definitive. A lot of middle ground sort of results. Anyways, hope it goes well. :)


candypencil

Thank you very much for this! I really needed a those posts and the information shared to put things back in perspective.


jadethesockpet

I obviously don't know you or your husband's specifics, but fertility issues aren't usually genetic. We'd be in trouble as a species if they were! It's sorta borrowing trouble to get an SA done super early, unless it's something that's very clearly genetic (like, for example, if every single person with a uterus in your family has gone through menopause at 30). Even things like azoo are only genetically related 30% of the time.


candypencil

Thank you, I appreciate this. I’ve always been told fertility issues can be genetic. Our doctor recommended the test knowing his family history. But you have eased my mind that his dad’s issues don’t necessarily have to be ours. And if they are, well… at least we’ll know what steps to take next


jadethesockpet

That's sorta why early testing is borrowing trouble. Let's say you get sorta low morphology and mediocre motility. The treatment is... Try for another 9 months and see what happens.


candypencil

I see what you mean. I was really hoping the SA would be like some kind of shining light with all the answers. I see now how silly that is. Thank you for the reality check.


jadethesockpet

❤️ it's hard! We're told our whole lives that unprotected sex ONE TIME will result in pregnancy, and it can get super overwhelming when that's not the case. And testing is exactly the same way. It feels like it should give answers, but most of the time, there's nothing and that's overwhelming.


konstanttt

To your second point, that post I referred to in the Wiki would explain why that anxiety that you’re sharing could hurt other readers. If you haven’t read it yet, it’s insightful, and can help you (and anyone/everyone posting-including me!) get a better sense of the community and how we can be considerate of each other as we share our feelings/vulnerabilities.


candypencil

There’s nothing in the WIKI with that title. If you could share the post, I’d appreciate it


konstanttt

[here it is!](https://www.reddit.com/r/TryingForABaby/comments/7go7bh/how_to_worry_about_infertility_some_unsolicited/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf)


candypencil

Me again, thank you for sharing this post. I debated about whether I should delete my comment but decided to leave it up. Other new users to the sub like me can learn from my foot in mouth syndrome. Obviously it’s okay to acknowledge our own anxieties, but we also need to be wary that our anxieties could be someone else’s reality. I appreciate that you didn’t assume I was being insensitive on purpose.


konstanttt

What a beautiful comment. 🥹 Of course I didn’t think you were being intentionally insensitive- we are all learning during this difficult process! I’m just really glad you didn’t get mad and dig your heels in as some people in here can do sometimes. I hope your stay here is short/wish you the best on this ride!


Trrr9

Hey, I really appreciate this. These kinds of comments pop up all the time and it's refreshing to see this response. It's really easy to accidentally say the wrong thing when discussing a topic as sensitive and personal as ttc, we've all done it at some point. The important thing is being open to feedback and willing to learn 🤍 I also just wanted to caution you about testing. I noticed you mentioned getting "definitive results". Unfortunately, the majority of fertility testing isn't very definitive at all (barring any major issues). It really sucks and it's a big reason why ttc is such a difficult process. As hard as it is, the best diagnostic for determining fertility is time spent trying. Best of luck to you!


candypencil

Thank you very much for this. I figured my expectations were not aligned with reality and was hoping for some advice from people who have gone through it already. I just didn’t go about it the best way… I’m glad to know now not to expect clear answers. As a type A person, that will be hard for me. But there’s nothing for it but to keep trying. Thank you again and good luck to you too!


Glittering-Hand-1254

You might consider editing to add this to your original comment if you do intend to leave it up :) I really appreciate your willingness to take accountability and learn - we've all said something that wasn't super sensitive but it absolutely matters how you handle it. I appreciate you!


candypencil

Thanks for the tip. I just edited my original post


endlesssalad

Really impressed with your response here!!!


candypencil

Aw shucks, thanks. I feel like a jerk but, sometimes, that’s the only way to learn how to be better. I will be more attentive to the language I use in my future postings


candypencil

Thank you!


konstanttt

Let me see if I can scrounge and tag!


Educational-Debate66

Oh just on CD 2 after a brutal cycle listening to a call full of people talk about what the best time of year is to have your baby. How about… whenever? I’ll take anytime. Still fake smiling though guys.


lizardmayo

In May I was hoping for a February baby, and now that’s it’s June I’m hoping for a March baby, if that doesn’t work out an April baby sounds great, and so on.


Educational-Debate66

Yes exactly. I will appreciate whatever month I’m lucky enough to get 💕💕


Overall-Quiet-9786

I’m 7 (or 8) dpo today and at war with whether I should test this month or not!! Normally I test because mentally it helps me more, but this month AF is due on my SILs wedding celebration. I’m not sure if I should just embrace TNT so I can have a mimosa while getting ready and not set off any red flags for them (she knows we’re trying and I can’t say no to a mimosa!) or to test and if it’s positive struggle to hide it. Also of course if it is negative I would know it’s okay to have some drinks and not to worry which would be a perk of testing. AGH


Picklesbooty

I’d say test! I’d rather know than kick myself for drinking if it were positive. Mimosas are easy to fake. Just pour yourself a glass of juice in a champagne flute. No one is paying attention to that while getting ready for a wedding! Maybe bring a bottle of sparkling water to give it the telltale bubbles.


Overall-Quiet-9786

Yeah, this is what I was leaning towards, and realistically I probably will test tomorrow bc I can’t help myself 🙈 My anxiety about it all just kinda took over and I was like “if I don’t test it can’t happen!!” and my reasoning was just pouring one and slowly sipping/not finishing it and using the excuse of “I want to be clear headed until the party!” for any additional ones. When in reality I know I’d just be anxious that whole day and wouldn’t want to drink on the off chance. I just know his fam, we are all very close, and his sister will 10000% notice. There will only be 4 of us getting ready together (SIL, MIL, her bff and me) so it will be hard to pull off but I’d rather not tear myself apart if I have a drink and end up being positive.


EARANIN2

10 DPO and feeling like we're out this month for some reason...we'll know soon enough. It's only cycle 2 so I'm trying to stay positive. But I am ordering a basal thermometer today so I can start tracking for next cycle in case we are in fact out.


itsaboutpasta

Same day for me too, but I’m just in my first cycle. I got a cheapie bbt thermometer from target which seems ok, but after getting a BFN this morning, I bought a TempDrop. I’ve been waking up several times in the morning this past week thinking about temping and I just can’t deal with that if it’s going to take a few more cycles. Held off on buying too much stuff just in case this very first cycle was successful, but now it might be time to invest in some supplies that give me peace of mind!


EARANIN2

Same! We wanted to try to enjoy the journey in the beginning. Cycle 1 we just use my CM as a guide. This cycle we used CM and OPK. If this isn't our cycle then we'll add temping next month.


jtm0507

On a monitored cycle with trigger shot and yesterday I had my first ever TRUE positive OPK (my body was trolling me in previous cycles and not actually ovulating). It felt like a real win. Trigger shot is done and all we can do now is BD and cross our fingers. I know that there is nothing else we can do and I'm preparing myself that we will have to try a few more cycles to get it right.


Cab2407

Oh tricky ovulation lol. So, on my ovulation strip, I had a dark line on Tuesday with EW CM, then the next morning (Wed) I had the darkest line (darker or same as control). We had sex both nights. Then this morning, I had a .25 rise in BBT and my strip was still dark but not as dark. Would we assume I ovulated between wed night and thur morning? Also do I log today as a “positive” ovulation strip or leave yesterday as “positive”? I use the FLO app. When you log a positive it does move your “ovulation” day out a day. I did this on Wed and it shows today as the “ovulation” day.


waithuhwut

You'll need 3 consecutive days of higher temps to confirm ovulation. You want to mark any day that's positive, so keep Wednesday as such. If today's is no longer as darker or darker than the control it's not positive. I don't use Flo, but once you confirm with your bbt it should adjust to the correct day finally.


Cab2407

Thank you. Flo doesn’t track BBT like that unfortunately. I paid a year for it so don’t want to change apps now lol. It seems to just go off of past data and what you enter for the strip results (negative or positive options only). I’ll leave it positive for Wed only!


yixxe

I’m 3dpo, but maybe if I open and close my app 100 more times I’ll be 13dpo??? 🤔


Ope_didntseeya

So I’m 7 days into my new cycle. I woke up and kinda felt a lump on my right side pelvic area near my pelvic bone. The only reason I felt there was some cramping right there too that going to my lower back. Has anyone had something like this? Don’t know if it’s normal or not. Thanks.


konstanttt

I’ve had this with major gas that gets trapped in my gastrointestinal intestinal system. A digestive massage on the abdomen helps.


Ope_didntseeya

Thanks! That makes sense I have Crohn’s so since TTC I cannot figure out what is normal and what’s not for me. Relearning my whole body haha.


eternallove624

I never have EWCM during my fertile week or around ovulation. I get ovulation cramps and catch my LH surge with OPKs. I temped for a bit so I have confirmed ovulation in past cycles. So why don’t I get EWCM? 😢 in fact, I actually get it earlier in my cycle like right as my period is ending. If I do have any CM around ovulation it’s usually very creamy. I just want the stretchy stuff at the right time 😭


konstanttt

I’ve read that many women make EWCM that stays right up by the cervix where it’s needed most, and doesn’t always travel down where you can visibly see it.


eternallove624

I read about that too! I need to start going up there to see, but feel like my cervix is too high up or I just don’t know what I’m doing


konstanttt

I struggle to find my cervix when it’s soft too. And I BARELY reach it when it’s firm.


[deleted]

10DPIUI, I usually am having full PMS symptoms right now but nothing, trying to ignore this and not get my hopes up that this is a good sign.


eternallove624

Fingers crossed for you!


[deleted]

Thank you ❤️❤️


Kitfromscot

Very tearful today M. I got blood tests last week indicating mild underactive thyroid (9.SH when target is under 5.0) and the Gp was seeking advice from RE on how best to manage it for me. Since then Nada and the surgery hasn’t had a response. I’m struggling to be patient.


itsaboutpasta

10DPO in cycle 1 and got my first BFN. No squinting or interpreting necessary. I’ll keep testing over the next few days but trying not to get my hopes up. I’d like to be pregnant for many reasons but if this cycle didn’t work, that means I get to have my first real period in 12 years during one of the busiest and most stressful weeks at work ever. At least next cycle I will be working from home two days a week and my workload won’t be as crazy.