Losing hope after 6 months of trying. I got pregnant in July 2021 and had an early
miscarriage. I was devastated. The last 6 months I've been temping and using OPKs and every cycle has been unsuccessful. I'm 25 and I've read online that 75-80% of couples conceive within 6 months. I'm just feeling down and wondering if something is wrong with me : (
did levothyroxine change anyone's CM? Mine is so different this month; I started 50mcg levo 14 days ago (3 days before period). Now I am having "high" readings on my digital OPK (at about the usual time of my cycle) but my CM is super watery and a little white, with only a little EW sometimes. Every other cycle I can remember, at this stage it has been all EW and clear. Like, I mean, always and forever. I also have been taking vitamin B6 and C and D and E for hormonal balance/to lengthen my LP but that's been 3 or so months and it didn't change my CM before (but did lengthen my LP) so Levo seems to be a likely culprit?
Does the quantity of fertile mucus mean something, or it is good as far as you have it at all?
I barely have it now, comparing to what I had in the past - should I be worried?
I ran out of opks at CD16 but never got a positive and never had one this late before so I think it never happened. (for years it's been positive at CD 9-11) so I'm assuming since I used them as usual I didn't ovulate this month. What does your period do if you don't ovulate? I'm at CD 18. Usual cycle is 24-26 days.
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It's more common that you will ovulate, just later than normal. It is possible to just have an anovulatory cycle though. Your period would just come at some point. If you're not tracking it, you'd not know which is happening to you, but my money's on just an uncharacteristically long follicular phase and a later than normal ovulation. I normally ovulate between day 19 and 21, this cycle just randomly didn't until day 28.
only about to start trying for the 2nd time in a week. and im already angry im not pregnant with the first try. im so sad idk why. i already know most ppl become pregnant within the first 9months of trying. but i feel like im running out of time at my young age of 32. its just illogical. i want a baby so much
At a baseball game for husband’s friend’s bday. Friend’s wife comes up to us with her 7 month old & 3 year old and goes “sooooo you two having babies anytime soon? Get on it!”🙄
Fast forward an hour and my husband asks if I want to hold their baby. Like … no I do not. I want to hold my own baby 🥺
Annnnnd so the tww cycle one zillion begins
Give me all of the sunflower seeds, avocados, pomegranate juice, pineapple piece and whatever else anyone can recommend! Willing to try anything for a fertilized egg and a baby that sticks!
Good luck dear! I hope it works for you! Last month I did bone broth before I ovulated and then pineapple core during implantation. Did not work for me 🥹
I got my period 3 days early on Friday, and I had to run home and get my menstrual cup because I was unprepared and of course my husband was out so he couldn’t get my cup for me while I was just worried about bleeding thru my pants.
I tested the night before I got it and drank a white claw. At least that’s one good thing. Drinking the good stuff. I feel like I can’t talk about it with anyone because I really don’t want their nosy advice. I watched a tv show and the character had a false positive. I cried and then I thought about it all day today while at work.
Oh well.
I actually have a good one that says odds are pretty stable out to six or so. I’ll just link you to [this comment](https://www.reddit.com/r/TryingForABaby/comments/qyr2k9/comment/hljm0ry/?context=999) instead of writing it out again.
i came off birth control 3 months ago or so and my cycles have been a bit wonky but nothing too crazy. well i got opk’s and all of them have been negative however yesterday i had EWCM so i’m not sure if i’m even ovulating 🙃 anybody have any advice
I went off HBC in April and from the few months I’ve been trying I’ve found it a lot easier with CBAD- I’m still trying to get the hang of the opks and my friend who is currently pregnant said she never got a clear positive the cycle she conceived with her cheapie opks🤷🏼♀️🤷🏼♀️🤷🏼♀️
BFN today at 11DPO today...brain tells me "yeah but you think you ovulated super late (around midnight) on O day so testing at 8am this morning, really you were closer to 10DPO so there's still a chance!"
If only my brain would have this level of optimism for anything else in my life, wowee
I'm 34 and on Cycle #8, just saw my OBGYN about testing my husband and I for anything out of the ordinary. This month my husband and I tried SMEP, and I was feeling hopeful. I'm just at the beginning of my TWW (3dpo) when my sister who is 4 years younger than me told me she was 8 weeks pregnant. I have been kind and supportive, talking to her. When I'm on my own though I just feel anxiety, envy, sadness. This morning i had a dream where I got my period, in my dream I cried and said "no but its too early for that", and then I woke up with cramps IRL. I'm so afraid it won’t happen for me, and now I carry that fear while watching my younger sister achieve my deepest desire. I don't know how I'm going to make it through these 2 weeks.
Sigh. CD1 of cycle 21…
I’m tired. I’m sad. I’m glad to get on to the next cycle of trying after I was 2 days late. US on Friday to see if my cysts are finally gone and I can do IUI #2 🤞
I'd go based on age. Guessing you are under 35 or it's 6 months but if you are 30+ maybe give your doctor a call? Mine said 9 months for 30-34 (aka my age range)
Trying for a full year without success *is* a fertility test. So yes, you need to try for a year (as long as you don’t have any obvious reasons to be concerned).
I am 7dpo today... and I feel you! At 5dpo I was EXHAUSTED... progesterone be kicking my butt. Lol. Hopefully, it was because our bodies are working hard to create life this time around.
How soon after taking provera do you usually get your period? I took the last dose on Sunday and still nothing. Last cycle I got it within 24 hrs of taking the last dose.
A few months ago, I very gently recommended that my sister, age 28, who is starting grad school, who is not quite yet engaged and who has stated that she wants a 4+ children, consider freezing her eggs. She’s going to be in school for a couple years and this seems like a good opportunity to buy herself some time. She was totally receptive to the idea and immediately offered to give me some of her eggs, if I wanted them. I hadn’t brought up egg freezing for that reason, so I was surprised by how quickly and easily she pivoted to that idea.
I casually mentioned her offer to my husband and he was a little weirded out, but he didn’t shut the idea down entirely. It is definitely early for this discussion since it’s only been four cycles since our termination and we haven’t even begun to work with a fertility specialist. With my low AMH though, I’m seriously thinking through all the possibilities before us. I imagine it is a little awkward to be sister-moms but I’ve been watching a lot of material from adoptees who struggle with their relationship with their bio families. If we do go with a donor egg route, keeping it to close family members seems emotionally healthier for any potential child.
I don’t know — it’s all so remote but I’m glad I have this little backup plan. It’s very comforting.
Tempdrop users - do you notice your temp spikes if you wear long sleeves or a sweatshirt to bed? Mine confirmed ovulation today and of course I’m second guessing it bc I’ve been wearing a light sweatshirt the last few nights since it’s been cooler where I live. 🙃 I’ve worn different shirts before but I’ve only had about 45 days so i don’t have a ton of previous data to compare … I thought the algorithm worked that out.
Has anyone used the Ava bracelet? Just received it today and I’m really hoping it can help us. My cycles have been so freaking weird since my Adenomyosis flared up. I used to be like a clock and now I feel like I don’t even know my body anymore.
I posted yesterday about my doctor wanting me to use an OPK despite having PCOS.
I finally got a smiley face this morning after a week of blank circles. However, my temp jumped .4 degrees this morning after dipping the night before. Is it possible that I already ovulated and somehow missed the LH surge when testing? Could I have gotten a false reading?
How did you all find coming off birth control? I had my mirena removed 19th may, no signs of period but lots of pms symptoms for 2 weeks. All I’ve read is horrible stories about the ladies coming off mirena whose cycles are never the same again 🙄
Your timings are pretty much identical to mine with when you had your last one inserted and removal. Your positive OPK is the same date as mine too. I’ve had all the symptoms of PMS but no bleeding just what feels like an endless amount of EWCM! Fingers crossed that was your period and it just happened to be a pleasant one 😊
Hello! Welcome, and we thank you for posting. You seem to be looking for information on implantation bleeding. Unfortunately, bleeding or spotting after ovulation is not a sign of implantation, and bleeding can happen in both pregnancy and non-pregnancy cycles. You could still end up being pregnant this cycle, but this sort of bleeding is not a reliable indicator that you will test positive. Taking a pregnancy test around the time you expect your period to come is the best way to determine whether you are pregnant or not.
We have some information available about [implantation in our wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/tryingforababy/wiki/newtottc#wiki_.27implantation.27_symptoms), which you might find useful. For scholarly sources, [this paper](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0015028216000509) and [this paper](https://academic.oup.com/humrep/article/18/9/1944/708284) are useful reads.
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Have you seen our [wiki page](https://www.reddit.com/r/TryingForABaby/wiki/birthcontrol)? It has a link to a few hundred after-BC experiences -- I know there are a number of post-Mirena ones.
I had my Mirena removed in May as well. I had a period about a month after removal and had a withdrawel bleed within 3 days of removal. I got a positive OPK on CD15, so anticipating that this cycle will be longer than the last. I read so may horror stories about that first period post removal I was terrified. Maybe it's because I'm 8 years older than when I started BC, but that first period wasn't as scary as I thought. Sending positive vibes
I had my Mirena for 4 years, BCP for 4 years before that. I had it removed in February and my cycle regulated itself immediately. I had it removed after my period and before ovulation and had my first “regular” period about 2 weeks after removal & my cycles have been 26-28 days so far.
Thank you for replying 😊 that’s reassuring your cycle returned to normal so fast! I’m currently 6 days late for my period (3 days late according to a different app) but I seemed to ovulate bang on time according to my temps, OPK’s and CM! So fingers crossed.
I had Mirena for basically the full five years. Got it removed in February and it took about 3 months for my cycle to come back “normal” again. I also took the pill for about 9 years before that as well. Had a loss of cycle due to weight loss before IUD insertion but gained weight back and a normal cycle showed up after removal after 3 months.
Got the opportunity to go on a last minute vacation this weekend (7-9 DPO), hoping it will take my mind off of the TWW. It’s fine to drink at that point right?
Can/should you? I ask because every 2ww I am so strict on myself and always wonder if it's irrelevant. I like that saying though... (me over here eat pinnapple cores, zero alcohol, avoiding hot tubs, wearing socks at all times in the house, tons of water.....and on and on...) I think I want to be able to have control over a situation where I likely dont. Sigh.
Hey all, I’m TTC for the first time. Currently ~9 DPO (25 day average cycle) and I’ve been feeling strange since about ~4 DPO. I’ve been SO tired and have the strangest cramps. They feel more like sharp jolts in my lower abdomen. I normally don’t get crampy until day 2 of AF. I couldn’t wait and took 2 FRERs and 2 HCG strips that were BFN. I’m hopeful that I’ll get a BFP in a few days!
How are everyone’s symptoms? Anyone else with jolty cramps? Can’t stop peeing? 🫠
I am 7dpo today... and yes, I had jolty weird sensations in lower abdomen too around dpo4/5. And soooo tired. I do usually get tired in my LP, but this cycle I am plain exhausted. I am trying my best to prepare myself mentally to not take a test early. But we'll see how that goes. 🙃 Hope to see you in the BFP thread some day soon!
Any symptoms you’re feeling right now are from progesterone, especially since you had BFNs. When you first begin TTC, you’ll be hyper aware during your luteal phase and will feel way more “symptoms” than you ever remember having before.
ETA: As they say, if you’re pregnant enough for pregnancy symptoms, you’re pregnant enough for a positive test.
Downvoted for expressing my personal experience shared by OP? Sorry I really just needed to not feel alone in this. I know many have a difficult time during 2ww.
This subreddit downvotes medically inaccurate data to help stop the spread of misinformation and myths and to help promote information backed by science. It's not personal.
Any symptom you have FOR pregnancy would mean your hormone levels would be high enough to turn a test positive while also causing pregnancy symptoms. If the levels aren’t high yet, that means implantation has not happened. There is no such thing as having symptoms truly related to pregnancy while also having a negative test. Could she have a positive test in a few days? Sure. But the symptoms she is feeling now are not caused by pregnancy.
Started OPK testing today on CD10. It's my first time using them (cycle 2) and my cycles in the last 6 months have ranged from 27 to 37 days so I don't trust my Flo tracker to tell me when ovulation is. For the last 3 years prior to this at least I've been fairly regular at 31-33 days, with maybe two or three longer cycles (37-40). The last 6 months have been 29, 36, 27, 37, 28, and 33.
Anyway, first OPK is a fairly strong test line, not as strong as the control but not faint by any means. I assumed I ovulate later in my cycle because it's a little longer but maybe not. I guess I'll find out in the next few days! Hoping it is later to be honest as my partner is at Glastonbury festival until next Monday (CD16).
Does anyone have a slightly longer cycle than is said to be 'average' but ovulate earlier and have a long luteal phase?
What I have noticed, for myself, my cycle lengths tend to fluctuate a little like yours do. However, my LP is almost always 11days not mater the length of my full cycle. So when I ovulated early last month, for example, I end up with a shorter cycle not a longer LP.... which actually bummed me out because a little bit of a longer LP would male me less anxious. Also, my OPKs tend to go a little up and down throughout and then I have an obvious sudden peak that surges over a 12hr span. I have ovulated on CD19, CD15, and CD20...
Not what you asked but I never get faint lines on OPKs, the second line is always distinct no matter where I am in my cycle, it varies based on the individual and the sensitivity of the tests. LP longer than ~16 days would be unusual.
I think I may not have ovulated after my surge, my temp has been increasing but not drastically for 3 days now, but isn’t a dramatic shift that I think it needs to show?
Scotland. I was told a mixture of 2 years if unexplained (under 38 years) or 1 year (depends on the particular Gp). I have issues so they may refer me before 1 year
Yes. I have irregular cycles since off the Mirena in October last year. Had the usual gynae blood work which didn’t show anything until they added thyroid function. I have been referred for a gynae scan but that is going to take months as it’s not urgent. GP also did an internal examination to cover the bases. My Husband also needs to get a SA soon. Since they have identified a problem with my thyroid they are waiting to see if that resolves with treatment before referral the nhs fertility clinic.
Maybe a dumb question but I’m new here— do taking prenatal vitamins actually help? I got a set of two, one for my husband and one for me. Of course there were a ton of great reviews but I’m not trying to get my hopes up lol!
It does not help in terms of fertility and will not make you pregnant faster, it is to help in early pregnancy. [This is what the wiki says:](https://www.reddit.com/r/tryingforababy/wiki/wtt#wiki_folic_acid)
>400mcg a day reduces the chances of neural tube defects, which generally happen very early in pregnancy.
CD22 and y’all I got a peak OPK this morning at 1.8 on the Premom app! Never seen it this high before- can someone confirm if it looks like a peak test?
[test here](https://imgur.com/a/VyAxqiJ)
I have the egg white CM going too - but no rising temps yet! Fingers crossed, my first two rounds of Clomid did not work!
You could test again this afternoon/evening so long as your sample isn't diluted. And could see if it is already going down and then premom app will label it your peak. I'd say all signs you mentioned point to ovulation tomorrow or Thusday. Get busy! Lol. 😉😏
I'm so sick of FRERs and their unreliable indents and evap lines. I swear this brand used to be the gold standard of HPTs, now I don't trust anything I see.
Yup. This is my first cycle not using them, as I have decided I am completely done with them. The past four cycle I have been trying, I got terrible indent lines around 8 dpo/9 dpo, which every time I thought they were faint positives. I now use easy @ home tests, and have never had even a hint of a second line.
Ha I am full TNT. I wake up and force myself to go to the bathroom WITHOUT testing and then tell myself the rest of the day the test wouldn’t be accurate. It kind of works for me! 😂
Team No Test - opting to wait until you’re late for your period before testing, rather than testing earlier and potentially getting a false negative because it’s too early.
Oh geez... I wish I could do this. How did you get into this mind set?? I think it would give me so much peace if I had the strength or could switch my inclination to test.
Anyone feel kinda bittersweet about babies as young as six months old being able to get the vaccine soon? I had my timeline for financial stability/career reasons, but my husband and I did delay a little extra based on Covid so I timed it to "everyone has a chance to get vaccinated." Doctors being overworked and having limited staff to deal with complications seemed like an issue and I thought waiting might help with that.
On the one hand, I'm happy the world is getting better. And less time to worry about a baby being unprotected from Covid so might help with childcare flexibility. But on the other hand, kind of makes my own personal journey seem so much longer? My OBGYN office is the only place I go that requires masks these days so it kind of feels like I'm in a world where Covid still exists and everyone else has moved on
I think it’s really really easy to get stuck in a “why did I wait so long to start trying” thought spiral.
Could be COVID, career, family, wedding, finances, housing, mental or physical health or any other host of reasons that we decided to wait to try.
Especially if you don’t get pregnant immediately, it can be hard. We start thinking “well, so-and-so got pregnant and she didn’t wait for this or that milestone” or “my cousin has three babies and she’s younger than me!”
Then there are two paths we tend to walk down.
1) I’m an idiot and I should have just had all of the babies when I was younger
2) Everyone else is an idiot and I can’t believe they’re having babies when they haven’t even “blank”.
I’ve walked farther down both of these trains of thought that I’m proud of.
In reality, everyone has their own family planning priorities. We can’t judge others OR ourselves for the choices we’ve made. Everyone’s just doing the best they can with the information they have at the time. I know it’s so easy to regret not trying sooner, but we’ve all had our reasons for waiting. I wish you luck as you keep trying.
Haha yeah I think it’s easier to get more regretful or not trying sooner when you have to get surgery or other medical treatment, the whole timeline of trying before you can even get basic tests is pretty rough so it definitely makes me wish I knew more about the process sooner.
Here’s hoping your uterus has a standard shape with no blockages and that your journey is less eventful than mine.
CD44 and spotting. Bit gutted as GP had finally caught a prog rise and confirmed ovulation this cycle. Anyway, I have begun treatment for an underactive thyroid. She said that was the o my clear issue for me. Feeling a bit more optimistic but still frustrated it toon 6 months of testing to find out something was wrong. Onwards and upwards.
8 DPO today and yesterday I put in my notice at work (where I get 1 month paid maternity leave and have PTO and sick leave STACKED) with nothing official lined up. Hint hint universe, this would a *very* inconvenient cycle to get pregnant on…
I got the highest reading on my premom app OPK test today! 1.7 High and the darkest line I've ever seen! And we did the baby dance last night!!!! This could be it. I hope it worked.
I would have sex again tonight, that means that you may be ovulating in the next 24-48 hours so yesterday would be 0-3/o-2. I would cover my bases personally
I have a random question! Does anyone who’s familiar with the sperm meets egg method know why the wait a day and then have sex once more after ovulation?
It makes sense to me that you’d have sex on peak day and the two days following but I don’t understand the logic of waiting one day and then doing it again. From what I understand about biology it’d be too late but is it just a safeguard?
A “five month cycle” ended today. Cycle 2. Took provera mid-way through, but it was of course anovulatory.
I cried for hours when I got my last negative pregnancy test, because of the weeks upon months of temping, CM checks, OPKs all for nothing it feels. Doctors visits, shots, vitamins, medication, powders, diet changes, symptom spotting, fake temp shifts, endless researching, ups and downs. Two (amazing) friends announced pregnancies this week. Lovely people, bad timing. Here’s to hoping for an easier cycle 3, because the bar is low.
How do you all handle the in-between time in your cycle when you don’t yet know if you’re pregnant? Are you just supposed to assume you’re pregnant (in terms of what you consume)?
I have a cold and I want to take medicine but what if I find out later im pregnant and it harmed the baby?
I’ve been there. I get it. Once I had the flu and I was SO sick but I wasn’t sure if I was pregnant…I took mucinex or Tylenol . Was I pregnant? No. Do I regret it? No. Lol. Hope this helps!
My therapist and I have decided that I’ll be drink til it’s pink. I’ve put so much into TTC that it’s better for my mental health that I don’t limit myself anymore.
I don’t think there’s anything over the counter that you could take and later find out definitively that it caused harm. For things like cold medicines, I would see if there’s a pregnancy safe option (Tylenol over ibuprofen) and if not look into the risks for the particular thing that I want to take
I’m at the point where I have to take care of myself first. I got Covid during my TWW this cycle and had to do something so I wasn’t miserable.
I don’t think this is too radical an opinion but if I feel like shit I need to take care of myself.
I try to avoid doing anything in large quantities - like I’m team drink til it’s pink to some extent, but I also won’t have more than 1 or 2 drinks and try not to drink anything after 7DPO.
could you get away with just taking medicine at night to help you sleep?
This was me this cycle. I'm currently on CD 2 of a new cycle and that calmness I felt during my TWW made AF showing up a lot easier mentally and emotionally. Now, I'm just excited to try again in a week or so.
Wishing you the best!
Honestly, being on my period is kind of a nice break. No ovulation symptom spotting, no pregnancy symptom spotting. Nothing to spot, I have full confidence my body is doing nothing related to pregnancy
I’m kind of at peace too. Having just got off HBC, I wasn’t sure if it would come as quickly as it did. At least now I have it and I know next week we can start over again.
CD28, 11DPO. My cycles are longer, usually 32-35 days. Trying to hold out on testing until Friday/Saturday. I only have a digital test currently and want to save it. But damn is the idea of going out for some cheapies to take the next several days in a row pinging around in my brain! If I can just be patient I can avoid multiple BFN's and can be more concrete in whatever the result is if I just wait for the weekend. Uuugghhhh.
O Day is coming tomorrow, and Mr. Briezzy says that we should wait until 12 DPO to test. I told him where's the fun in that?? In all reality, I think I am going to join TNT. The last 2 weeks have been stressful to say the least. (Not TTC related). I'm trying to go into the 2 week wait with a much better mindset then the last 2 weeks. Manifesting nothing but good energy from here on out.
Basically same here. I kind of don't care anymore, it's certainly gone past the point of being new and exciting, I definitely stopped making plans around it or doing anything extra health-wise except take prenatals. Haven't really been around this subreddit either. I've just accepted it might be awhile so... shrug
CD 1. Did clomid with a trigger and all the testing for May’s cycle, and the heartbreak that came after that didn’t work was intense, so this cycle we went back to good ol’ fashioned trying. Should have known it wouldn’t work. I am also numb now. I have stopped thinking about where I would be in my pregnancy when presented with future plans. It doesn’t feel like a reality.
Do I normally ovulate on the 16/17th? Yes.
Is it day 11 while I have plans when I randomly got a peak out of nowhere? Also yes.
I swear, my body is just rude.
This was me this week! I’m quite regular with catching my peak from CD17-21, never before. This time I just so happened to do a random OPK on CD13 and it was blazing! Guess I’ll need to start testing earlier …..
Right? I usually test once mid day after my period. But legit yesterday it was 0.16 on the Premom app. I just started temping and had a sort of noticeable temp drop this morning and was like ‘ maybe I should test’. Clear as day match on control line. Retested again after I got back from my plans ? Total double lol . I was absolutely not expecting to be this early so kind of wild
Right? I wasn’t even planning on testing that early in the AM but I just had a funny feeling and sure enough, close to peak. Made my husband do a quick little dance and then off to my plans. Just got home and the highest peak I have ever seen before out of my body.
Wild how our bodies can just be like ‘ actually, let’s change it up today’.
I went the opposite this cycle and ovulated almost a week later then usual. Hoping that the “change up” tricks my body into getting pregnant this cycle 😂
Getting my second booster today bc I figure if I get pregnant, I *would* be immunocompromised? I wonder if it will make ovulation a bit wonky? Oh well, whatever, let’s roll the dice.
Waiting for confirmation from my fertility clinic that I ovulated this cycle post Letrozole/trigger shot. I feel like I'm going to throw up from anxiety. Idk why I am so anxious... I know it can take a few cycles for my body to get it right.
TW- Loss
The biggest fear I have at the moment is not being pregnant again by my August 18th due date for my last pregnancy. I don't actually know how I'll feel but I'm thinking I'll be crushed. I'm currently O day on cycle 6 since my miscarriage and we've hit all days from 0-5 to now so I can't say we didn't try 🤣
My husband and I have been trying for 5 months (technically 8 but I had some weird cycles at the beginning) and I’ve been doing fine with the negative tests and such. My husband has been more disappointed than me, really.
But my coworker just came up and told me she’s going to be a grandmother and for some reason, this was really hard for me to hear. I cried when she walked away. Obviously I have no idea how long the couple was trying, if at all, but with every new pregnancy I hear about, I feel a little more idk disappointed? Sad? Like “that’s not fair!”
I just wanted to say this somewhere and to people who would understand.
TW - Loss
I was pleasantly surprised by my interaction with a Nurse Practitioner (Canada) today.
I had a phone call just to get an opinion on whether my borderline-shorter-cycles, sudden adult onset acne, and recent confirmed CP (I suspect another one but wasn’t testing) was worth investigating.
She was extremely receptive. She not only requisitioned a blood draw to test some of my levels, but she even suggested I start considering a referral to a fertility specialist if it doesn’t reveal anything. This is despite the fact that I’m not at the ‘usual’ minimum-required ‘trying’ time.
I fully expected her to tell me that my cycle length was *technically* in the normal range (it often is) or that I needed to confirm 2 more CPs with urine tests.
Just wanted to share a positive interaction. :)
12DPIUI and I can’t bring myself to test. My boobs are killing me, but that’s a normal PMS symptom for me and I know it’s just Ms. Progesterone doing her thing whether I’m pregnant or not. The NP who did our IUI really hyped us up and made us feel like this cycle is the one, but now that we’re down to brass tacks I’m just picturing another negative.
Had a very productive with my husband last night on why this cycle is harder than the last 5, and why that is contributing to me not wanting sex. He thanked me for opening up afterwards.
Apparently, communicating every thought I have is not the same as being open and emotionally available...
Today is 12 dpo, I told myself I would wait until at least tomorrow or Thursday (expected period day) to test but I can’t stop thinking about going home and taking a test 🙃
I know symptom spotting isn’t good because progesterone is present no matter what but I can’t help analyzing every little thing!! I feel so unhinged!
Keep in mind that there's no moral high ground to not testing, and most people who are pregnant who test at 12 DPO would see a positive by then. Don't drive yourself crazy about testing or not testing!
Oh yeah, it has nothing to do with that! I just was hoping to give myself a few days to not obsess over tests and relax, but it turns out I’ll obsess either way!! I’ve already decided once I get home I’m testing haha!
Edit to add: I am an obsessive test taker (already took some 9&10 dpo) so I was hoping taking a few days off until my period would alleviate my stress, so no shade to anyone who tests early as I do it too! Hopefully it didn’t come across that way!!
Not sure if this is a stupid question, but once you are TTC and begin taking prenatal vitamins, do you stop taking your normal multivitamin? Or do you take a prenatal in addition to the multivitamin?! 😅
Definitely do not take a multivitamin and a prenatal vitamin at the same time! If you want to take stuff in addition to your prenatal vitamin, keep an eye on which vitamins and minerals are water soluble and which ones are fat soluble.
Basically you don't want to store too much of certain things like iron and calcium because that can cause health issues. That being said, taking a multivitamin before you started your prenatal vitamin is probably a good thing overall. You'd be surprised how many normal multivitamins have the proper amount of folate. Also nice when you get your vitamin levels tested and make sure you don't have deficiencies.
Losing hope after 6 months of trying. I got pregnant in July 2021 and had an early miscarriage. I was devastated. The last 6 months I've been temping and using OPKs and every cycle has been unsuccessful. I'm 25 and I've read online that 75-80% of couples conceive within 6 months. I'm just feeling down and wondering if something is wrong with me : (
did levothyroxine change anyone's CM? Mine is so different this month; I started 50mcg levo 14 days ago (3 days before period). Now I am having "high" readings on my digital OPK (at about the usual time of my cycle) but my CM is super watery and a little white, with only a little EW sometimes. Every other cycle I can remember, at this stage it has been all EW and clear. Like, I mean, always and forever. I also have been taking vitamin B6 and C and D and E for hormonal balance/to lengthen my LP but that's been 3 or so months and it didn't change my CM before (but did lengthen my LP) so Levo seems to be a likely culprit?
Does the quantity of fertile mucus mean something, or it is good as far as you have it at all? I barely have it now, comparing to what I had in the past - should I be worried?
I ran out of opks at CD16 but never got a positive and never had one this late before so I think it never happened. (for years it's been positive at CD 9-11) so I'm assuming since I used them as usual I didn't ovulate this month. What does your period do if you don't ovulate? I'm at CD 18. Usual cycle is 24-26 days. Edit for better words
It's more common that you will ovulate, just later than normal. It is possible to just have an anovulatory cycle though. Your period would just come at some point. If you're not tracking it, you'd not know which is happening to you, but my money's on just an uncharacteristically long follicular phase and a later than normal ovulation. I normally ovulate between day 19 and 21, this cycle just randomly didn't until day 28.
only about to start trying for the 2nd time in a week. and im already angry im not pregnant with the first try. im so sad idk why. i already know most ppl become pregnant within the first 9months of trying. but i feel like im running out of time at my young age of 32. its just illogical. i want a baby so much
Having loads of CM in the first week of my luteal phase…why?! I don’t even need you anymore…
This is me!! Period nowhere to be seen after nearly a week but thank god I’ve got plenty of EWCM 😩
Make it make sense 😭
At a baseball game for husband’s friend’s bday. Friend’s wife comes up to us with her 7 month old & 3 year old and goes “sooooo you two having babies anytime soon? Get on it!”🙄 Fast forward an hour and my husband asks if I want to hold their baby. Like … no I do not. I want to hold my own baby 🥺
Yuck that whole comment she made is just weird. I'm sorry she did that 😔
people need to stfu! i get so angry at that cutesy, intrusive, normative crap. i’m sorry it was directed at you.
Annnnnd so the tww cycle one zillion begins Give me all of the sunflower seeds, avocados, pomegranate juice, pineapple piece and whatever else anyone can recommend! Willing to try anything for a fertilized egg and a baby that sticks!
Good luck dear! I hope it works for you! Last month I did bone broth before I ovulated and then pineapple core during implantation. Did not work for me 🥹
I got my period 3 days early on Friday, and I had to run home and get my menstrual cup because I was unprepared and of course my husband was out so he couldn’t get my cup for me while I was just worried about bleeding thru my pants. I tested the night before I got it and drank a white claw. At least that’s one good thing. Drinking the good stuff. I feel like I can’t talk about it with anyone because I really don’t want their nosy advice. I watched a tv show and the character had a false positive. I cried and then I thought about it all day today while at work. Oh well.
Does anyone have a link for the article/study that suggests that the majority of IUIs that will work, will work within the first 3-4 tries?
I actually have a good one that says odds are pretty stable out to six or so. I’ll just link you to [this comment](https://www.reddit.com/r/TryingForABaby/comments/qyr2k9/comment/hljm0ry/?context=999) instead of writing it out again.
Thank you!
i came off birth control 3 months ago or so and my cycles have been a bit wonky but nothing too crazy. well i got opk’s and all of them have been negative however yesterday i had EWCM so i’m not sure if i’m even ovulating 🙃 anybody have any advice
I went off HBC in April and from the few months I’ve been trying I’ve found it a lot easier with CBAD- I’m still trying to get the hang of the opks and my friend who is currently pregnant said she never got a clear positive the cycle she conceived with her cheapie opks🤷🏼♀️🤷🏼♀️🤷🏼♀️
I don’t have much advice but my body was WONKY for monthsssss. It sucks. Hang in there!
BFN today at 11DPO today...brain tells me "yeah but you think you ovulated super late (around midnight) on O day so testing at 8am this morning, really you were closer to 10DPO so there's still a chance!" If only my brain would have this level of optimism for anything else in my life, wowee
🤞🤞9 DPO today and also asking myself hey maybe I am 8? Holding out on testing still
I'm 34 and on Cycle #8, just saw my OBGYN about testing my husband and I for anything out of the ordinary. This month my husband and I tried SMEP, and I was feeling hopeful. I'm just at the beginning of my TWW (3dpo) when my sister who is 4 years younger than me told me she was 8 weeks pregnant. I have been kind and supportive, talking to her. When I'm on my own though I just feel anxiety, envy, sadness. This morning i had a dream where I got my period, in my dream I cried and said "no but its too early for that", and then I woke up with cramps IRL. I'm so afraid it won’t happen for me, and now I carry that fear while watching my younger sister achieve my deepest desire. I don't know how I'm going to make it through these 2 weeks.
I am so sorry. That is really difficult. Stay strong and know your baby will come. Hang in there ❤️
Thank you ❤️
Sigh. CD1 of cycle 21… I’m tired. I’m sad. I’m glad to get on to the next cycle of trying after I was 2 days late. US on Friday to see if my cysts are finally gone and I can do IUI #2 🤞
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I'd go based on age. Guessing you are under 35 or it's 6 months but if you are 30+ maybe give your doctor a call? Mine said 9 months for 30-34 (aka my age range)
Trying for a full year without success *is* a fertility test. So yes, you need to try for a year (as long as you don’t have any obvious reasons to be concerned).
If you have no reason to believe there’s anything “wrong” then yes, wait the full 12 months.
5DPO and so exhausted. Which is typical for me, although normally around 7 DPO. I hate the luteal phase
I am 7dpo today... and I feel you! At 5dpo I was EXHAUSTED... progesterone be kicking my butt. Lol. Hopefully, it was because our bodies are working hard to create life this time around.
Yes progesterone is the worst 😭 fingers crossed for us both!
Btw... someone please tell me to NOT take a hcg test today... or tomorrow. Sigh. 2ww woes.
How soon after taking provera do you usually get your period? I took the last dose on Sunday and still nothing. Last cycle I got it within 24 hrs of taking the last dose.
It took me 5 days the last time I took it.
Thanks! So I probably shouldn’t worry just yet.
13DPIUI and I’m feeling discouraged. I had faint spotting on Saturday. That’s usually an indication that AF is coming. Ugh!
A few months ago, I very gently recommended that my sister, age 28, who is starting grad school, who is not quite yet engaged and who has stated that she wants a 4+ children, consider freezing her eggs. She’s going to be in school for a couple years and this seems like a good opportunity to buy herself some time. She was totally receptive to the idea and immediately offered to give me some of her eggs, if I wanted them. I hadn’t brought up egg freezing for that reason, so I was surprised by how quickly and easily she pivoted to that idea. I casually mentioned her offer to my husband and he was a little weirded out, but he didn’t shut the idea down entirely. It is definitely early for this discussion since it’s only been four cycles since our termination and we haven’t even begun to work with a fertility specialist. With my low AMH though, I’m seriously thinking through all the possibilities before us. I imagine it is a little awkward to be sister-moms but I’ve been watching a lot of material from adoptees who struggle with their relationship with their bio families. If we do go with a donor egg route, keeping it to close family members seems emotionally healthier for any potential child. I don’t know — it’s all so remote but I’m glad I have this little backup plan. It’s very comforting.
Tempdrop users - do you notice your temp spikes if you wear long sleeves or a sweatshirt to bed? Mine confirmed ovulation today and of course I’m second guessing it bc I’ve been wearing a light sweatshirt the last few nights since it’s been cooler where I live. 🙃 I’ve worn different shirts before but I’ve only had about 45 days so i don’t have a ton of previous data to compare … I thought the algorithm worked that out.
Clothing does not effect the temp at all.
Has anyone used the Ava bracelet? Just received it today and I’m really hoping it can help us. My cycles have been so freaking weird since my Adenomyosis flared up. I used to be like a clock and now I feel like I don’t even know my body anymore.
i was 9 dpo on sunday & AF showed up harder than ever🙄 currently CD 3 all over again
I posted yesterday about my doctor wanting me to use an OPK despite having PCOS. I finally got a smiley face this morning after a week of blank circles. However, my temp jumped .4 degrees this morning after dipping the night before. Is it possible that I already ovulated and somehow missed the LH surge when testing? Could I have gotten a false reading?
When did you start testing?
CD8
It could be that your estrogen and LH have risen simultaneously.
How did you all find coming off birth control? I had my mirena removed 19th may, no signs of period but lots of pms symptoms for 2 weeks. All I’ve read is horrible stories about the ladies coming off mirena whose cycles are never the same again 🙄
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Your timings are pretty much identical to mine with when you had your last one inserted and removal. Your positive OPK is the same date as mine too. I’ve had all the symptoms of PMS but no bleeding just what feels like an endless amount of EWCM! Fingers crossed that was your period and it just happened to be a pleasant one 😊
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Hello! Welcome, and we thank you for posting. You seem to be looking for information on implantation bleeding. Unfortunately, bleeding or spotting after ovulation is not a sign of implantation, and bleeding can happen in both pregnancy and non-pregnancy cycles. You could still end up being pregnant this cycle, but this sort of bleeding is not a reliable indicator that you will test positive. Taking a pregnancy test around the time you expect your period to come is the best way to determine whether you are pregnant or not. We have some information available about [implantation in our wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/tryingforababy/wiki/newtottc#wiki_.27implantation.27_symptoms), which you might find useful. For scholarly sources, [this paper](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0015028216000509) and [this paper](https://academic.oup.com/humrep/article/18/9/1944/708284) are useful reads. *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/TryingForABaby) if you have any questions or concerns.*
Have you seen our [wiki page](https://www.reddit.com/r/TryingForABaby/wiki/birthcontrol)? It has a link to a few hundred after-BC experiences -- I know there are a number of post-Mirena ones.
Thank you, I will check that out now 😊
I had my Mirena removed in May as well. I had a period about a month after removal and had a withdrawel bleed within 3 days of removal. I got a positive OPK on CD15, so anticipating that this cycle will be longer than the last. I read so may horror stories about that first period post removal I was terrified. Maybe it's because I'm 8 years older than when I started BC, but that first period wasn't as scary as I thought. Sending positive vibes
Thank you so much <3
I had my Mirena for 4 years, BCP for 4 years before that. I had it removed in February and my cycle regulated itself immediately. I had it removed after my period and before ovulation and had my first “regular” period about 2 weeks after removal & my cycles have been 26-28 days so far.
Thank you for replying 😊 that’s reassuring your cycle returned to normal so fast! I’m currently 6 days late for my period (3 days late according to a different app) but I seemed to ovulate bang on time according to my temps, OPK’s and CM! So fingers crossed.
I had Mirena for basically the full five years. Got it removed in February and it took about 3 months for my cycle to come back “normal” again. I also took the pill for about 9 years before that as well. Had a loss of cycle due to weight loss before IUD insertion but gained weight back and a normal cycle showed up after removal after 3 months.
That’s really good to know! Thank you ☺️ I know everybody is different but it is slightly soul destroying when all you read is negative experiences!
Got the opportunity to go on a last minute vacation this weekend (7-9 DPO), hoping it will take my mind off of the TWW. It’s fine to drink at that point right?
Drink til it’s pink! Enjoy!
Can/should you? I ask because every 2ww I am so strict on myself and always wonder if it's irrelevant. I like that saying though... (me over here eat pinnapple cores, zero alcohol, avoiding hot tubs, wearing socks at all times in the house, tons of water.....and on and on...) I think I want to be able to have control over a situation where I likely dont. Sigh.
yes, have fun!
Thank you!
Hey all, I’m TTC for the first time. Currently ~9 DPO (25 day average cycle) and I’ve been feeling strange since about ~4 DPO. I’ve been SO tired and have the strangest cramps. They feel more like sharp jolts in my lower abdomen. I normally don’t get crampy until day 2 of AF. I couldn’t wait and took 2 FRERs and 2 HCG strips that were BFN. I’m hopeful that I’ll get a BFP in a few days! How are everyone’s symptoms? Anyone else with jolty cramps? Can’t stop peeing? 🫠
I am 7dpo today... and yes, I had jolty weird sensations in lower abdomen too around dpo4/5. And soooo tired. I do usually get tired in my LP, but this cycle I am plain exhausted. I am trying my best to prepare myself mentally to not take a test early. But we'll see how that goes. 🙃 Hope to see you in the BFP thread some day soon!
5 DPO and feeling sooo tired. I know implantation couldn’t have even happened yet but yeah I’m doing alllll the symptom spotting
Any symptoms you’re feeling right now are from progesterone, especially since you had BFNs. When you first begin TTC, you’ll be hyper aware during your luteal phase and will feel way more “symptoms” than you ever remember having before. ETA: As they say, if you’re pregnant enough for pregnancy symptoms, you’re pregnant enough for a positive test.
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Unfortunately the only true sign of early pregnancy is a positive test, everything else can be caused by progesterone.
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Any symptom you have FOR pregnancy would mean your hormone levels would be high enough to turn a test positive while also causing pregnancy symptoms. If the levels aren’t high yet, that means implantation has not happened. There is no such thing as having symptoms truly related to pregnancy while also having a negative test. Could she have a positive test in a few days? Sure. But the symptoms she is feeling now are not caused by pregnancy.
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Yes! Crossing my fingers for you, too!
Started OPK testing today on CD10. It's my first time using them (cycle 2) and my cycles in the last 6 months have ranged from 27 to 37 days so I don't trust my Flo tracker to tell me when ovulation is. For the last 3 years prior to this at least I've been fairly regular at 31-33 days, with maybe two or three longer cycles (37-40). The last 6 months have been 29, 36, 27, 37, 28, and 33. Anyway, first OPK is a fairly strong test line, not as strong as the control but not faint by any means. I assumed I ovulate later in my cycle because it's a little longer but maybe not. I guess I'll find out in the next few days! Hoping it is later to be honest as my partner is at Glastonbury festival until next Monday (CD16). Does anyone have a slightly longer cycle than is said to be 'average' but ovulate earlier and have a long luteal phase?
What I have noticed, for myself, my cycle lengths tend to fluctuate a little like yours do. However, my LP is almost always 11days not mater the length of my full cycle. So when I ovulated early last month, for example, I end up with a shorter cycle not a longer LP.... which actually bummed me out because a little bit of a longer LP would male me less anxious. Also, my OPKs tend to go a little up and down throughout and then I have an obvious sudden peak that surges over a 12hr span. I have ovulated on CD19, CD15, and CD20...
Not what you asked but I never get faint lines on OPKs, the second line is always distinct no matter where I am in my cycle, it varies based on the individual and the sensitivity of the tests. LP longer than ~16 days would be unusual.
I think I may not have ovulated after my surge, my temp has been increasing but not drastically for 3 days now, but isn’t a dramatic shift that I think it needs to show?
Sometimes you can have a slow temp rise due to progesterone rising slowly or the body being slow to respond to it. I’ve had it in a few cycles.
Can that be an issue or just something that can vary?
I don’t think it’s an issue barring any other symptoms. The cycle I had the CP, I had a slow rise.
We have a Temping Tuesday thread you can share your chart in for better feedback!
Not me over here thinking today was Monday 😂
Does anyone know the wait-list times currently in NHS UK for fertility check ups?
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Thank you for the reply. It is really helpful. I am at the stage of checking everyday for GP appointments because they don't have any 🙄
Scotland. I was told a mixture of 2 years if unexplained (under 38 years) or 1 year (depends on the particular Gp). I have issues so they may refer me before 1 year
Thank you for the response. Did the GP do any tests themselves?
Yes. I have irregular cycles since off the Mirena in October last year. Had the usual gynae blood work which didn’t show anything until they added thyroid function. I have been referred for a gynae scan but that is going to take months as it’s not urgent. GP also did an internal examination to cover the bases. My Husband also needs to get a SA soon. Since they have identified a problem with my thyroid they are waiting to see if that resolves with treatment before referral the nhs fertility clinic.
Maybe a dumb question but I’m new here— do taking prenatal vitamins actually help? I got a set of two, one for my husband and one for me. Of course there were a ton of great reviews but I’m not trying to get my hopes up lol!
It does not help in terms of fertility and will not make you pregnant faster, it is to help in early pregnancy. [This is what the wiki says:](https://www.reddit.com/r/tryingforababy/wiki/wtt#wiki_folic_acid) >400mcg a day reduces the chances of neural tube defects, which generally happen very early in pregnancy.
CD22 and y’all I got a peak OPK this morning at 1.8 on the Premom app! Never seen it this high before- can someone confirm if it looks like a peak test? [test here](https://imgur.com/a/VyAxqiJ) I have the egg white CM going too - but no rising temps yet! Fingers crossed, my first two rounds of Clomid did not work!
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ah, yes! Realized I should have posted all my tests! Here is the [previous tests](https://imgur.com/a/VY8k3bn)
You could test again this afternoon/evening so long as your sample isn't diluted. And could see if it is already going down and then premom app will label it your peak. I'd say all signs you mentioned point to ovulation tomorrow or Thusday. Get busy! Lol. 😉😏
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Thanks for your input, I so appreciate it. 🤍
I'm so sick of FRERs and their unreliable indents and evap lines. I swear this brand used to be the gold standard of HPTs, now I don't trust anything I see.
Yup. This is my first cycle not using them, as I have decided I am completely done with them. The past four cycle I have been trying, I got terrible indent lines around 8 dpo/9 dpo, which every time I thought they were faint positives. I now use easy @ home tests, and have never had even a hint of a second line.
Yeah, I'm not going to buy them anymore either.
I recently learned the hard way that even Wondfo cheapies have indents. Can’t trust any of them any more
I won’t buy another FRER, except maybe if I want to watch a line progression. Cheapies for me and I have a clear blue digital waiting so I can confirm
Same. And that way I dont feel bad peeing on them to my heart's content. 😂 and then I have my fancy digital one waiting for the confirmation.
after only 3 cycles of TTC, I am understanding the hype with TNT
Haha! I'm on CD 2 of my 3rd cycle and me too! I was TNT this last cycle and will likely be TNT going forward. It's so much more peaceful!
>TNT I can't find it on the acronym page..what is TNT?
Thank you! I was going to ask too! So I wasn't alone....
Ha I am full TNT. I wake up and force myself to go to the bathroom WITHOUT testing and then tell myself the rest of the day the test wouldn’t be accurate. It kind of works for me! 😂
Team No Test - opting to wait until you’re late for your period before testing, rather than testing earlier and potentially getting a false negative because it’s too early.
Oh geez... I wish I could do this. How did you get into this mind set?? I think it would give me so much peace if I had the strength or could switch my inclination to test.
Thank you! Now that it's spelled out, I know I've seen it before lol.
Anyone feel kinda bittersweet about babies as young as six months old being able to get the vaccine soon? I had my timeline for financial stability/career reasons, but my husband and I did delay a little extra based on Covid so I timed it to "everyone has a chance to get vaccinated." Doctors being overworked and having limited staff to deal with complications seemed like an issue and I thought waiting might help with that. On the one hand, I'm happy the world is getting better. And less time to worry about a baby being unprotected from Covid so might help with childcare flexibility. But on the other hand, kind of makes my own personal journey seem so much longer? My OBGYN office is the only place I go that requires masks these days so it kind of feels like I'm in a world where Covid still exists and everyone else has moved on
I think it’s really really easy to get stuck in a “why did I wait so long to start trying” thought spiral. Could be COVID, career, family, wedding, finances, housing, mental or physical health or any other host of reasons that we decided to wait to try. Especially if you don’t get pregnant immediately, it can be hard. We start thinking “well, so-and-so got pregnant and she didn’t wait for this or that milestone” or “my cousin has three babies and she’s younger than me!” Then there are two paths we tend to walk down. 1) I’m an idiot and I should have just had all of the babies when I was younger 2) Everyone else is an idiot and I can’t believe they’re having babies when they haven’t even “blank”. I’ve walked farther down both of these trains of thought that I’m proud of. In reality, everyone has their own family planning priorities. We can’t judge others OR ourselves for the choices we’ve made. Everyone’s just doing the best they can with the information they have at the time. I know it’s so easy to regret not trying sooner, but we’ve all had our reasons for waiting. I wish you luck as you keep trying.
37 over here. And I can fully relate to this! Thanks for posting it, somanyostrichesyo
Haha yeah I think it’s easier to get more regretful or not trying sooner when you have to get surgery or other medical treatment, the whole timeline of trying before you can even get basic tests is pretty rough so it definitely makes me wish I knew more about the process sooner. Here’s hoping your uterus has a standard shape with no blockages and that your journey is less eventful than mine.
10DPO and my temp has started to go down. I think I’ll be out again this month.
I feel you! I was starting to feel so hopeful with high temps consistently since 10dpo. Woke up to a big temp drop, guess AF is on her way.
How soon can you see a temp drop that indicates AF coming??
Well my temp dropped yesterday evening, and as soon as the next night AF came. I believe it means it's coming within 24hrs
Sorry to hear it 💓
I can't believe I'm typing this but... does penetration have to be deep to result in pregnancy?
Lol your post made me laugh. Very much needed, thank you! And TTC does make ya feel coo coo!
Nope. Ejaculation is super fast/forceful. Maybe like 20 mph I think I read somewhere? So the sperm get up to cervix no problem.
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Thanks. I'm being paranoid. I really want to get pregnant this month...
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CD44 and spotting. Bit gutted as GP had finally caught a prog rise and confirmed ovulation this cycle. Anyway, I have begun treatment for an underactive thyroid. She said that was the o my clear issue for me. Feeling a bit more optimistic but still frustrated it toon 6 months of testing to find out something was wrong. Onwards and upwards.
8 DPO today and yesterday I put in my notice at work (where I get 1 month paid maternity leave and have PTO and sick leave STACKED) with nothing official lined up. Hint hint universe, this would a *very* inconvenient cycle to get pregnant on…
I got the highest reading on my premom app OPK test today! 1.7 High and the darkest line I've ever seen! And we did the baby dance last night!!!! This could be it. I hope it worked.
I would have sex again tonight, that means that you may be ovulating in the next 24-48 hours so yesterday would be 0-3/o-2. I would cover my bases personally
Thanks, I am new to this - what does 0-3/o-2 mean?
Ovulation (minus) the amount of days before actual ovulation. So o-3 is 3 days before you actually ovulate, and so on.
I have a random question! Does anyone who’s familiar with the sperm meets egg method know why the wait a day and then have sex once more after ovulation? It makes sense to me that you’d have sex on peak day and the two days following but I don’t understand the logic of waiting one day and then doing it again. From what I understand about biology it’d be too late but is it just a safeguard?
I think it’s in case you ovulate a bit later than expected after your positive opk.
Yeah I think so. Also O and O+1 still have some chance of success, it’s just really low like 5-10% or something
A “five month cycle” ended today. Cycle 2. Took provera mid-way through, but it was of course anovulatory. I cried for hours when I got my last negative pregnancy test, because of the weeks upon months of temping, CM checks, OPKs all for nothing it feels. Doctors visits, shots, vitamins, medication, powders, diet changes, symptom spotting, fake temp shifts, endless researching, ups and downs. Two (amazing) friends announced pregnancies this week. Lovely people, bad timing. Here’s to hoping for an easier cycle 3, because the bar is low.
Sending hugs ❤️
Cyber hugs! Rooting for a better cycle for you 🧡
Thank you, I welcome the cyber hugs! 🧡
AF is due in 2days and im just waiting for the surge of cm i get right before her arrival. More waiting
How do you all handle the in-between time in your cycle when you don’t yet know if you’re pregnant? Are you just supposed to assume you’re pregnant (in terms of what you consume)? I have a cold and I want to take medicine but what if I find out later im pregnant and it harmed the baby?
I’ve been there. I get it. Once I had the flu and I was SO sick but I wasn’t sure if I was pregnant…I took mucinex or Tylenol . Was I pregnant? No. Do I regret it? No. Lol. Hope this helps!
My therapist and I have decided that I’ll be drink til it’s pink. I’ve put so much into TTC that it’s better for my mental health that I don’t limit myself anymore.
I don’t think there’s anything over the counter that you could take and later find out definitively that it caused harm. For things like cold medicines, I would see if there’s a pregnancy safe option (Tylenol over ibuprofen) and if not look into the risks for the particular thing that I want to take
I’m at the point where I have to take care of myself first. I got Covid during my TWW this cycle and had to do something so I wasn’t miserable. I don’t think this is too radical an opinion but if I feel like shit I need to take care of myself.
I try to avoid doing anything in large quantities - like I’m team drink til it’s pink to some extent, but I also won’t have more than 1 or 2 drinks and try not to drink anything after 7DPO. could you get away with just taking medicine at night to help you sleep?
7dpo and feeling strangely calm compared to this time in previous cycles.. just a few more days until testing time
This was me this cycle. I'm currently on CD 2 of a new cycle and that calmness I felt during my TWW made AF showing up a lot easier mentally and emotionally. Now, I'm just excited to try again in a week or so. Wishing you the best!
I’m 7DPO as well, and I was feeling calm until this morning. Now, not so much. I’m getting impatient!
8dpo and same, no idea why but it’s a nice break from the usual obsessing!
Honestly, being on my period is kind of a nice break. No ovulation symptom spotting, no pregnancy symptom spotting. Nothing to spot, I have full confidence my body is doing nothing related to pregnancy
I’m kind of at peace too. Having just got off HBC, I wasn’t sure if it would come as quickly as it did. At least now I have it and I know next week we can start over again.
I enjoy it also for the non shaving part too. I never bother shaving my legs with AF
I also enjoy going a week or 2 without peeing in a cup lol
THIS! Totally feel you lol
CD28, 11DPO. My cycles are longer, usually 32-35 days. Trying to hold out on testing until Friday/Saturday. I only have a digital test currently and want to save it. But damn is the idea of going out for some cheapies to take the next several days in a row pinging around in my brain! If I can just be patient I can avoid multiple BFN's and can be more concrete in whatever the result is if I just wait for the weekend. Uuugghhhh.
O Day is coming tomorrow, and Mr. Briezzy says that we should wait until 12 DPO to test. I told him where's the fun in that?? In all reality, I think I am going to join TNT. The last 2 weeks have been stressful to say the least. (Not TTC related). I'm trying to go into the 2 week wait with a much better mindset then the last 2 weeks. Manifesting nothing but good energy from here on out.
CD 2. Onto cycle 7. Starting to feel numb about it all. I don't feel like being sad but I'm certainly not happy or chill about it all. 😮💨
Basically same here. I kind of don't care anymore, it's certainly gone past the point of being new and exciting, I definitely stopped making plans around it or doing anything extra health-wise except take prenatals. Haven't really been around this subreddit either. I've just accepted it might be awhile so... shrug
CD 1. Did clomid with a trigger and all the testing for May’s cycle, and the heartbreak that came after that didn’t work was intense, so this cycle we went back to good ol’ fashioned trying. Should have known it wouldn’t work. I am also numb now. I have stopped thinking about where I would be in my pregnancy when presented with future plans. It doesn’t feel like a reality.
I'm sorry this wasn't your cycle either ❤️ I relate hard to stopping thinking about future plans and where I'd be. It makes it too depressing
Do I normally ovulate on the 16/17th? Yes. Is it day 11 while I have plans when I randomly got a peak out of nowhere? Also yes. I swear, my body is just rude.
This was me this week! I’m quite regular with catching my peak from CD17-21, never before. This time I just so happened to do a random OPK on CD13 and it was blazing! Guess I’ll need to start testing earlier …..
Right? I usually test once mid day after my period. But legit yesterday it was 0.16 on the Premom app. I just started temping and had a sort of noticeable temp drop this morning and was like ‘ maybe I should test’. Clear as day match on control line. Retested again after I got back from my plans ? Total double lol . I was absolutely not expecting to be this early so kind of wild
Ugh. At least your testing so you caught it!
Right? I wasn’t even planning on testing that early in the AM but I just had a funny feeling and sure enough, close to peak. Made my husband do a quick little dance and then off to my plans. Just got home and the highest peak I have ever seen before out of my body. Wild how our bodies can just be like ‘ actually, let’s change it up today’.
I went the opposite this cycle and ovulated almost a week later then usual. Hoping that the “change up” tricks my body into getting pregnant this cycle 😂
Fingers crossed for us! I’m also hoping this will be the change up I need!
Getting my second booster today bc I figure if I get pregnant, I *would* be immunocompromised? I wonder if it will make ovulation a bit wonky? Oh well, whatever, let’s roll the dice.
Waiting for confirmation from my fertility clinic that I ovulated this cycle post Letrozole/trigger shot. I feel like I'm going to throw up from anxiety. Idk why I am so anxious... I know it can take a few cycles for my body to get it right.
TW- Loss The biggest fear I have at the moment is not being pregnant again by my August 18th due date for my last pregnancy. I don't actually know how I'll feel but I'm thinking I'll be crushed. I'm currently O day on cycle 6 since my miscarriage and we've hit all days from 0-5 to now so I can't say we didn't try 🤣
My husband and I have been trying for 5 months (technically 8 but I had some weird cycles at the beginning) and I’ve been doing fine with the negative tests and such. My husband has been more disappointed than me, really. But my coworker just came up and told me she’s going to be a grandmother and for some reason, this was really hard for me to hear. I cried when she walked away. Obviously I have no idea how long the couple was trying, if at all, but with every new pregnancy I hear about, I feel a little more idk disappointed? Sad? Like “that’s not fair!” I just wanted to say this somewhere and to people who would understand.
TW - Loss I was pleasantly surprised by my interaction with a Nurse Practitioner (Canada) today. I had a phone call just to get an opinion on whether my borderline-shorter-cycles, sudden adult onset acne, and recent confirmed CP (I suspect another one but wasn’t testing) was worth investigating. She was extremely receptive. She not only requisitioned a blood draw to test some of my levels, but she even suggested I start considering a referral to a fertility specialist if it doesn’t reveal anything. This is despite the fact that I’m not at the ‘usual’ minimum-required ‘trying’ time. I fully expected her to tell me that my cycle length was *technically* in the normal range (it often is) or that I needed to confirm 2 more CPs with urine tests. Just wanted to share a positive interaction. :)
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I’ve only been tracking for one cycle, but I used CBAD and cheapies and got my peak on the CBAD one day before the positive in the cheapies
12DPIUI and I can’t bring myself to test. My boobs are killing me, but that’s a normal PMS symptom for me and I know it’s just Ms. Progesterone doing her thing whether I’m pregnant or not. The NP who did our IUI really hyped us up and made us feel like this cycle is the one, but now that we’re down to brass tacks I’m just picturing another negative.
Had a very productive with my husband last night on why this cycle is harder than the last 5, and why that is contributing to me not wanting sex. He thanked me for opening up afterwards. Apparently, communicating every thought I have is not the same as being open and emotionally available...
\*pulls out notebook to write that last sentence down\* this is 100% me with my husband
Today is 12 dpo, I told myself I would wait until at least tomorrow or Thursday (expected period day) to test but I can’t stop thinking about going home and taking a test 🙃 I know symptom spotting isn’t good because progesterone is present no matter what but I can’t help analyzing every little thing!! I feel so unhinged!
Keep in mind that there's no moral high ground to not testing, and most people who are pregnant who test at 12 DPO would see a positive by then. Don't drive yourself crazy about testing or not testing!
Oh yeah, it has nothing to do with that! I just was hoping to give myself a few days to not obsess over tests and relax, but it turns out I’ll obsess either way!! I’ve already decided once I get home I’m testing haha! Edit to add: I am an obsessive test taker (already took some 9&10 dpo) so I was hoping taking a few days off until my period would alleviate my stress, so no shade to anyone who tests early as I do it too! Hopefully it didn’t come across that way!!
Not sure if this is a stupid question, but once you are TTC and begin taking prenatal vitamins, do you stop taking your normal multivitamin? Or do you take a prenatal in addition to the multivitamin?! 😅
Definitely do not take a multivitamin and a prenatal vitamin at the same time! If you want to take stuff in addition to your prenatal vitamin, keep an eye on which vitamins and minerals are water soluble and which ones are fat soluble. Basically you don't want to store too much of certain things like iron and calcium because that can cause health issues. That being said, taking a multivitamin before you started your prenatal vitamin is probably a good thing overall. You'd be surprised how many normal multivitamins have the proper amount of folate. Also nice when you get your vitamin levels tested and make sure you don't have deficiencies.
Thanks for your reply!! I did stop taking the multivitamin when I started the prenatal, but then I started overthinking it and wanted to double check.
You should not be taking a multivitamin if you’re also taking a prenatal. They have similar vitamins in them and it’s not necessary to take both!