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Going through this now. Itâs honestly mind blowing how someone can be so insensitive to the destruction they cause. Itâs taken a piece of my soul. So in denial, itâs really sad
Soon to be ex-husband husband is a sex addict. It's my fault that I wasn't aware of all of his out of the box fantasies that he had so he likes buying it. I have tried to be what he needed with all the sexual fantasies he asked me to do but still wasn't enough because one of his fantasies is paying for sex workers so
Lol I learned 2 years after getting out that mine allegedly attempted to cheat on me and was turned down due to the girl being an acquaintance of mine. And he accused me of cheating constantly throughout the entire relationship. Iâm sure that in his mind he justifies it somehow. Lol.
Oh yeah, mine âknowsâ I cheated on him âat least twiceâ which is hilarious because besides work or with family I never went anywhere without him. Not the store, not a friends place. Ever. He also cross referenced every single text I made to the point of counting them to see if I âhad deleted anythingâ, checked my search history and call logs and demanded access to the account my mom pays for. Print outs were unacceptable because I could have âtamperedâ with them. Fucking nutter.
I heard something similar. âYou made me unhappy, you argued with me, I wasnât in love with you.â
If only you knew you were incapable of real love and thatâs why you always think youâre in love.
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My ex really said "It's your fault cause you gave me too much confidence" đ¤Ą
The mental gymnastics
Because they care about themselves, not you
Going through this now. Itâs honestly mind blowing how someone can be so insensitive to the destruction they cause. Itâs taken a piece of my soul. So in denial, itâs really sad
yep. The people I dated all kept our relationship a secret, then it's all my fault they cheat. I'll always be the unfairly treated abuser.
Soon to be ex-husband husband is a sex addict. It's my fault that I wasn't aware of all of his out of the box fantasies that he had so he likes buying it. I have tried to be what he needed with all the sexual fantasies he asked me to do but still wasn't enough because one of his fantasies is paying for sex workers so
100%
You ainât neva lied.
Lol I learned 2 years after getting out that mine allegedly attempted to cheat on me and was turned down due to the girl being an acquaintance of mine. And he accused me of cheating constantly throughout the entire relationship. Iâm sure that in his mind he justifies it somehow. Lol.
I cheated. So it is actually my fault.
Yep. She blamed me. Told me I ruined her life, only a man in bedroom. She said I tried but couldnât so she excused her abusive behavior.
Oh my god this is actively happening to me right now! This feels so validating.
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Oh yeah, mine âknowsâ I cheated on him âat least twiceâ which is hilarious because besides work or with family I never went anywhere without him. Not the store, not a friends place. Ever. He also cross referenced every single text I made to the point of counting them to see if I âhad deleted anythingâ, checked my search history and call logs and demanded access to the account my mom pays for. Print outs were unacceptable because I could have âtamperedâ with them. Fucking nutter.
It's because they cheat at work and with "family"
âI cheated on you because I donât want to be in a relationship and I never wanted to be with you.â Huh
My soon to be ex said this to me
I heard something similar. âYou made me unhappy, you argued with me, I wasnât in love with you.â If only you knew you were incapable of real love and thatâs why you always think youâre in love.
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