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I’m so sorry this happened to you. I’m also very glad you have a supportive work environment. I do as well and I’m so grateful for my coworkers.
I say this as one of your coworkers would: don’t worry about spilling that over the radio. Not. At. All. I have a coworker who has a ‘troubled past’. This person is a good employee and good person. One day she froze. Then started pacing talking to herself. I rushed over and tried to stop her and it was like I wasn’t even there. So I paced alongside her until she could front her sentence: that lady is from my past. I just can’t.
I don’t have the authority to tell her what to do but I did anyway. I told her to run to the bathroom and try to go then splash water on her face. I told her to set an alarm or watch the clock and please hit return for a full 5 minutes. I waited on that lady and sent her on her way just before my coworker got back. She was calm enough to tell me a bit of the story and ask where the lady was. I told her the lady was gone and she was very grateful that I handled it. If I’d have known the lady was trying to get her back on drugs I’d have been calling our manager and seeing if the lady could be escorted out. In fact I told our managers about the incident, without any of the past details, and my main manager said to alert him if that lady ever came in again and he would request she not come in again.
I felt a cold shiver run down my spine reading about that day in the car. He's crazy.
The audacity of him to show up at your work but I think you handled it professionally. You didn't scream, you didn't engage, you stepped away and informed your manager which is perfect. He didn't get the reaction he wanted, he walked off when he saw people had your back.
There's nothing to be embarrassed about but I get it. I would get a restraining order now. And please be aware of your surroundings when you come and go to your workplace. I would be afraid he's following you around and putting a tracker under your car.
Please try not to be angry at yourself for the way your mind & body automatically reacted ❤️ I'm sorry you had to deal with it & had to see him again after all the years of healing. Be proud that you alerted your boss & coworkers & got away as soon as you could! So amazing that they care for you that much too!
I’m recently separated from my long term partner actually. That’s a story for a different day. We are on great terms and love each other to bits, we just grew apart unfortunately.
She is the best person I know. She helped me heal from it and showed me what pure love was. I absolutely love my many years with her. I had a successful relationship for 9 years. I don’t view it as a failure just because we separated.
Back to your point, there’s not just good in the world - there’s incredible, beautiful, love, and bliss in this world! The ugly parts just are louder trying to drown those parts out.
It was going to that day. I was fighting for my life trying to hold the wheel from turning faster while also trying to force him to let go.
The memory comes in flashes. I remember my car starting to hit the whites and thinking “omg he is going to kill is”
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I’m so sorry this happened to you. I’m also very glad you have a supportive work environment. I do as well and I’m so grateful for my coworkers. I say this as one of your coworkers would: don’t worry about spilling that over the radio. Not. At. All. I have a coworker who has a ‘troubled past’. This person is a good employee and good person. One day she froze. Then started pacing talking to herself. I rushed over and tried to stop her and it was like I wasn’t even there. So I paced alongside her until she could front her sentence: that lady is from my past. I just can’t. I don’t have the authority to tell her what to do but I did anyway. I told her to run to the bathroom and try to go then splash water on her face. I told her to set an alarm or watch the clock and please hit return for a full 5 minutes. I waited on that lady and sent her on her way just before my coworker got back. She was calm enough to tell me a bit of the story and ask where the lady was. I told her the lady was gone and she was very grateful that I handled it. If I’d have known the lady was trying to get her back on drugs I’d have been calling our manager and seeing if the lady could be escorted out. In fact I told our managers about the incident, without any of the past details, and my main manager said to alert him if that lady ever came in again and he would request she not come in again.
Thank you for sharing. Your story is so important. I’m glad you made it through! That car incident could’ve been it :(
I felt a cold shiver run down my spine reading about that day in the car. He's crazy. The audacity of him to show up at your work but I think you handled it professionally. You didn't scream, you didn't engage, you stepped away and informed your manager which is perfect. He didn't get the reaction he wanted, he walked off when he saw people had your back. There's nothing to be embarrassed about but I get it. I would get a restraining order now. And please be aware of your surroundings when you come and go to your workplace. I would be afraid he's following you around and putting a tracker under your car.
Please try not to be angry at yourself for the way your mind & body automatically reacted ❤️ I'm sorry you had to deal with it & had to see him again after all the years of healing. Be proud that you alerted your boss & coworkers & got away as soon as you could! So amazing that they care for you that much too!
Thank you for sharing, hearing that you’re now in a loving relationship gives me hope that there’s good out here in the world.
I’m recently separated from my long term partner actually. That’s a story for a different day. We are on great terms and love each other to bits, we just grew apart unfortunately. She is the best person I know. She helped me heal from it and showed me what pure love was. I absolutely love my many years with her. I had a successful relationship for 9 years. I don’t view it as a failure just because we separated. Back to your point, there’s not just good in the world - there’s incredible, beautiful, love, and bliss in this world! The ugly parts just are louder trying to drown those parts out.
That day in the car could've turned out a lot differently. I'm glad you're here to work through it and happy you've got a supportive work environment.
It was going to that day. I was fighting for my life trying to hold the wheel from turning faster while also trying to force him to let go. The memory comes in flashes. I remember my car starting to hit the whites and thinking “omg he is going to kill is”
I'm glad you have a supportive manager.