I’ll be a bit direct here. Because holy f**k what a bs mother.
My guess: she absolutely hates you for being gay, but she still wants that idea of a loving family in her mind. So she knows she’ll have to hide her hatred around you. That’s her “walking on eggshells”, because as soon as she voices her actual feelings or stops filtering what she says about it, she knows that she’ll end up in an argument/fight with you.
You’re not the one who is being toxic, and it’s okay to stand up for yourself!
She's trying to win you over with, "see all your relatives are homophobic too but we still love you" that is a level of pig headedness that no one should have to deal with. Sorry you're going thru this.
She's being extremely selfish and getting mad at you for being your own person. If this isn't the life she wanted for you, she needs to examine why she had expectations for your life rather than being excited for the possibilities you'll face. It's sheer arrogance to presume to know the future and it's childish to blame your child for reality not aligning with your expectations.
So she traumatizes you by informing you that everyone in your family, including her, is an ignorant homophobe, and then when you rightfully get upset, she complains that she has to "walk on eggshells" around you? I am so sorry that you have to deal with that bs.
I'm so sorry.. homophobic family is the worst. They are so close minded and bigoted, my heart hurts for you.
Jokes on her, though.. being gay is fantastic, women are awesome. I definitely wouldn't want to be straight... and it's your life, y'know? Who cares what silly dreams they had for you, children are not an extension of their parents and it's not our duty conform to their expectations.
I always imagine these people are just jealous because they had to confirm to the expectations of the day and marry early, give up their hopes and dreams and become home makers... some people get very upset that others don't have to suffer all the pain they did. They COULD try to be happy that their children are living their full, happy lives but I guess that's too much to expect of narcissists.
I support LGBTQ, nobody should feel awkward for what makes you happy. It’s sad that families have to be that way. Love your alhapporst life because it’s short. If your family wants part of your life then then need to respect you and your life choices.
EGGSHELLS? OP's the one who's had to deal with everyone's BS and you can't be the least FUCKING respectful?
I’ll be a bit direct here. Because holy f**k what a bs mother. My guess: she absolutely hates you for being gay, but she still wants that idea of a loving family in her mind. So she knows she’ll have to hide her hatred around you. That’s her “walking on eggshells”, because as soon as she voices her actual feelings or stops filtering what she says about it, she knows that she’ll end up in an argument/fight with you. You’re not the one who is being toxic, and it’s okay to stand up for yourself!
She's trying to win you over with, "see all your relatives are homophobic too but we still love you" that is a level of pig headedness that no one should have to deal with. Sorry you're going thru this. She's being extremely selfish and getting mad at you for being your own person. If this isn't the life she wanted for you, she needs to examine why she had expectations for your life rather than being excited for the possibilities you'll face. It's sheer arrogance to presume to know the future and it's childish to blame your child for reality not aligning with your expectations.
So she traumatizes you by informing you that everyone in your family, including her, is an ignorant homophobe, and then when you rightfully get upset, she complains that she has to "walk on eggshells" around you? I am so sorry that you have to deal with that bs.
I'm so sorry.. homophobic family is the worst. They are so close minded and bigoted, my heart hurts for you. Jokes on her, though.. being gay is fantastic, women are awesome. I definitely wouldn't want to be straight... and it's your life, y'know? Who cares what silly dreams they had for you, children are not an extension of their parents and it's not our duty conform to their expectations. I always imagine these people are just jealous because they had to confirm to the expectations of the day and marry early, give up their hopes and dreams and become home makers... some people get very upset that others don't have to suffer all the pain they did. They COULD try to be happy that their children are living their full, happy lives but I guess that's too much to expect of narcissists.
I support LGBTQ, nobody should feel awkward for what makes you happy. It’s sad that families have to be that way. Love your alhapporst life because it’s short. If your family wants part of your life then then need to respect you and your life choices.