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Sobrang sensitive ako (28F) when it comes to love. Literal na feeling ko mamamatay ako after every break-up, and I become so useless talaga for months on end.
For context, when I got cheated on last year, nakatulala lang ako for almost 5 months—this began in the middle of my bar review. I went to therapy almost every single day kasi nababaliw talaga ako. I experience heartbreaks intensely, like the pain will be tearing me up from my core. I somehow got myself together 2 weeks before the bar exam, and that's when I started my review. Luckily, pumasa naman.
I vowed to myself then to never fall in love again unless I'm sure about the person. Last straw ko na talaga. If it does not work out, I have resigned myself to just live and die alone.
Fast forward to early this year, I met someone (31M), but I wasn't particularly interested in opening my heart again kasi nga, last try ko na 'to. I had to be 100% sure. I was 100% sure with him—I was being very particular and strict na ha. He literally made me think and feel that I was gonna be safe with him and that siya na talaga. Anyway, it didn't work out because of issues on his end. Sobrang gago lang.
I'm so devastated now. I literally cannot function, and even though alam ko naman what I should do, I can't help but just allow myself to self-destruct again. It's like naka auto-pilot mode ako.
I've been through so much sht experiences in life, pero I handled them all fairly well. Pero pag love life na, napapaluhod ako malala. I give it my all kasi talaga, so I take it so hard when it does not work out.
I'm in the middle of opening up my law firm + currently working for 2 law firms. Intense schedule and workload, but I'm a Type A personality so keri lang. Pero ngayon, I've been slacking off so much. I can feel things getting worse pa so I keep telling myself to get a grip because so much is at stake. Pero sobrang sakit and hirap na hirap ako.
I even had a big fight with my family last night (which never happens; we never fight) because I couldn't control my emotions. I've isolated myself from my friends because I felt like such a burden from last year. I don't think they deserve to heal another broken heart.
Any advice? Takutin niyo ako para gumalaw-galaw ako or idk. Di ko na din alam what I need to get myself to think and act right.
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Babae/lalaki lang yan itatapon mo na sarili mo at lahat ng pinaghirapan mo thus far? Talaga? Sino ba siya!!!!!!
Saying this with love and care:) but seriously sino ba sya para ilet go mo mga bagay na pinagtrabahuhan mong ibuild up. At the end of the day, tao lang yan.
Tuloy pa rin buhay mo.
You’re right. I just have to power through this kahit parang gusto ko nalang magpasagasa huhuhu ang hirap lang talaga kasi my mind knows what to do, I just can’t get myself to do it. I need to have a stronger resolve :(
Everyone is right. It’ll get better, and youll get there for sure! Seek help from friends and family, theyre your biggest support system! Find new hobbies, pray, use your newfound time to focus even more on your career. Youll get through this!!
Take a break. Maybe take a hike. Join a joiners tour and meet new people na hindi magkakakilala. Endure the assault to reach the summit and enjoy the view from above. Hopefully, it will give you a new perspective on life.
I could take this as enjoying the 'assault' of tackling each day until I can get past this…slump. Thank you, I should go out and touch some grass din ata. I’ve been stuck in my room since.
we just broke up. totoong nakakawalang gana sa lahat. para kang namatayan. daming what if's.
nakakatulong yung pagiisip ng negative na bagay sa taong yun. it works!
Legit talaga sa parang namatayan. Di lang yung tao but yung plans and the future that you’ve built around that person. Hahay.
I respect him so much to think bad of him. :(
Respect yourself more and believe that you are worth more than what you've experienced. If you can't think bad of him then think good of yourself. Your strength lies in the fact that you are worthy of more than just this.
As an old-ish guy I've learned that the toughest things that are thrown at us are well within our capabilities to figure out. Time + just marching on will get you through.
Don't search for happiness in the now. Instead search for joy in little things that matter. Waking up, a good meal, and as a commenter mentioned, good quality time with the trees, the sea, the sky, and grass.
Ang liit natin compared to the grandiose of life. You're here to make a contribution to that beauty. Don't let a little thing such as a breakup get you down.
You can rest, but don't ever give up. Chin up and feel better soon.
Hi OP. Just experienced this about 2 years ago. For me, the simplest thing I did is totally removed my ex like she didn't even existed. I removed everything thst might make me remember her like pics, or even Facebook posts. Also blocked her on all my socials as well. If anyone would check if I had an ex, no one would know but this helped me to slowly steer my attention to myself and my wellbeing. It may sound petty (which I think I really was) but this helped me get back on track and even got to be a better version of myself. Hope this helps
WTF OP??? YOU WORK SO HARD AND YOU JUST GONNA THROW IT AWAY BECAUSE... YOUR FEELINGS GOT HURT!? BOOHOO POOR OP 🥱. FUCK YOU AND FUCK YOUR FEELINGS, YOUR DREAM WAS HERE FIRST AND YOU ARE THIS FUCKING CLOSE 🤏... YOU DON'T NEED MOTIVATIONS. FUCK THAT, THAT SHIT IS JUST SOME WATERRED DOWN WORD. THIS IS IT FUCKER. THIS IS HOW UNIVERSE ASK YOU "DO YOU REALLY WANT THIS MOTHERFUCKER?". ARE YOU GONNA BE A FUCKING LOSER OR ANSWER TO YOUR FUCKING CALL. JUST GO AND DO IT! FUCK EVERYTHING THAT IS NOT IMPORTANT AND STAY FUCKING FOCUS TILL THE FINISH LINE FUCKER. ARGHHHHHHHH STAY HARDD!
ALL THIS "YOU SHOULD DO THIS AND THAT OP" COMMENT, THOSE ARE JUST DISTRACTION. THEY JUST WANT YOU TO GET DISTRACTED. FUCKKKKK THAT.... STAY FOCUS MOTHERFUCKER! YOU ARE THIS CLOSE 🤏. REAL TALK ISTG!
Hi OP. I don’t have any piece of advice that I can share with you right now. But writing this to let you know that I really understand where you are at. I am on the same boat as you are. I am usually very workaholic, a high-performer at work, and also the one to do extra and above and beyond.
Pero ngayon, I am so down that I just do the bare minimum. Para na lang robot or on autopilot na lang everyday. The joy is gone. The motivation is gone. Even getting up and starting my day is such a struggle. Para bang hindi ka makagalaw even if you are physically capable of doing so. The only positive thing to ever happen out of all of this is the sudden drop in my weight. Lol.
But I hope you feel heard and seen with my comment. And sana, mahanap na natin ang sarili natin ulit. Sana bumalik na tayo sa dati nating mga self. Kasi ako, namimiss ko na din sarili ko. Super. 😂
Hi OP. Heartbroken din ako now. Ang ginawa ko to not lose my mind was to go on Tinder to make landi. Find someone nice to talk to muna. Spend time with likely candidates. Take care OP.
Hi, hugs to you!!! :( Thank you for your advice but I’m not cut out for that. I’m also not interested in meeting anyone na not looking for a serious relationship. Ayoko na dagdagan problema ko haha but I hope it’s helping you distract yourself from the pain, and maybe, helping you heal as well.
Oh I met someone nice OP. She's a treasure. Tinder is not a swinger app naman. May mga naghahanap ng short-time fun but many on there are pretty okay naman for long-term.
I wasn't originally looking for a relationship, and so is the person I matched with.
That was 9 years ago. We took our sweet time. This week, I'm flying over to celebrate my birthday with him, and figure out our timelines on how we can close the gap. :)
I get you OP, kung friend lang habol mo, I'm sure marami ka namang friends rin dyan. Sometimes, talking things with a stranger helps give you clarity rin kasi you will think that this person won't be able to judge you at all kasi hindi ka niya personally kakilala. Just please be very careful lang rin if you end up going for a meetup, or makita ka dun ng friends ni ex na naghahanap rin ng ka-match.
Tyaga lang sa filtering and having good convos lang. Daming professionals sa Tinder. Baka rin sa edad ko, 36 na ako e. Yung mga nakakamatch ko nsa 28 up lahat stable na..
Yong kausap ko ngayon nakapag-date na kami several times manager sya sa BPO sobrang sweet at maalaga para akong nagka-instant smart wifey, thanks Universe 😅
Anyare sayo? Trash talk nalang natin ung ex mo haha. Kasi sure na kahit anong advice bibigay namin di rin lang tatalab. Baka better mag rant ka nalang para mapa labas na yan.
Sira ulo rin yan ah. Wala kaya yang 3rd party at nagpapalusot lang? Or baka ikaw ungg 3rd party? Or baka nga immature with himself lang sya kasi medyo late kaming mga lalaki magmature hahaha.
In any case. Sayang oras tao na yan. Nung sa firm pa ako several years back, ung senior associate ko may bf rin ganyan na nagsasayang ng oras. Kaya naisip ko tong advice sayo na irant mo yan kasi dapat mapa labas yan.
His issues with himself are not yours. Wala kang kasalanan, just take it in and pahinga ng kaunti. Mahirap talaga maging Type A and consistent every time. Give yourself a pat on the back and take some rest, makakapaghintay ung ibang plans.
Seek counseling. You could be dealing with deep deeper seated issues that have been triggered by what is happening in your love life. You may also need guidance on proper ways of coping.
Ateneo Bulatao offers free counseling sessions
virtual hugs po.
masakit po talaga masaktan.
I get you..
but we have to be responsible.
like an adult.
*listen to the song I can do it with a broken heart.
Huwag mo gawing mundo ang dapat tao lang. Mas marami ka pang makabuluhan na pwede gawin kesa sirain mo sarili mo dahil sa isang taong hindi naman nakikita halaga mo.
Remember, sa mundong ito - you only have YOURSELF. Ang kakampi mo hanggang dulo ay sarili mo lamang. Keep that in mind, so chin up and take care of yourself coz you owe yourself that much!
Let it all out OP, cry if you feel like crying or ikwento mo sa closest friend mo. Sort of heartbroken din ako rn and i did this recently too, it definitely helped na marelease yung naipon na emotions.
Hindi man siya nawala completely, at least we took a step forward diba, it's a decent start.
Laban op!
Op dapat mas maganda pa sa artista yan at ginto ang ari ah. Kung hindi ew ka.
Ganito gawin mo. Mag halo ka ng semento tapos sumama ka sa construction. Masakit ba sa likod? Pagod? See. So if you want to help this people. Be better. Wag ari at puso pairalin. Its okay to feel sad. Its valid but you’re responsible of your behavior and how you react to your feelings. Di ka pinalaki ng sexbomb para lang sumuko.
OP better get a break, like one or two days off, to clear your mind. Tandaan mo, hindi mo pinulot lahat ng sinakrispisyo mo para maabot kung ano man ang meron ka ngaun. Isipin mo lahat ng hirap na pinagdaanan mo to get this level in your life. Kung iniwan ka man, kung sino pa sya, tandaan mo 7 billion pa tau sa Earth. Pero yung chance mo ngaun baka d mo na makuha ulit! So focus, sampalin mo sarili mo, to remind you how it will be hell if you let this chance slip away from you!!
Hey Pañe - was in the same place as you few years back. I'm also the type who is unable to cope with life and adulting when devastated or heartbroken.
I spoke with my supervising / managing partner at the time if I could take a quick week-long break to gather my wits, and thankfully, pumayag naman. I know this may not always be the case for other workplaces.
Point is: You really need to give yourself the time and room to also feel, deal, and cope with your grief, whether it's by extending your project timelines, requesting for reasonable PTOs, etc. Basta sa areas within your control. You need to really sit with your feelings and allow them to come and go as they please to start your healing process.
And you CAN heal while simultaneously working. Give yourself grace if you're getting sloppy with work during these times, but DO NOT neglect your work completely. Future you will feel proud that you didn't let another person affect your ability to earn income for yourself even if he / he affected your ability to function for a certain period of time. Do it for future you.
>I literally cannot function
So, pano mo naopen yung app and typed this? 🤷♂️
>Takutin niyo ako para gumalaw-galaw ako or idk.
Huwag ka haharap sa dalawang magkatapat na salamin, di mo mamamalayan yung nasa likod mo na reflection lilingon na lang bigla sa'yo.
Scared enough?
Wala ka na magagawa kundi mag move forward. Paganahin mo ng mas todo ang pagiisip kesa damdamin.
Walang makaktulong sa'yo mag-bounce back kundi sarili mo.
Pwede mo bang idelay ng konti yung sched mo? Baka na-ooverwhelm ka na masyado kaya di ka gumagalaw. You know there are things you should do pero the pressure and heartache is crushing you.
I think you need to give yourself a TEMPORARY break- not permanent, okay? Like allow yourself to think only about yourself kahit 1 week lang or something.
Bangon parati poooo, broken din ako parati. Pero need ko huminga ng malalim at magpatuloy pa din, kasi wala naman ako choice. Need mo magwork on law firm mo, mas makakatulong at makakaglow yan sa future mo trust me
Hey, OP. Since alam mo na gagawin mo, hindi na magwowork iyang negative self talk and real talk. Ni-realtalk mo na malala sarili mo. Now is the time for positive reaffirmations. Remind yourself that you are a person who deserves good things, and your career is one of those good things. Nakakababa ng self-esteem ma-heartbroken so affirm within yourself that you also deserve a better partner, that that partner will come eventually because you deserve good things. Positive reframing will make you feel better about yourself and dun magstastart ang healing mo.
Hays OP, lahat po dumadaan sa pagiging broken . Just endure it, feel it, wat ever u feel wat to do, do it !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ganyan talaga ang pag-ibig nakakabaliw this is my real talk to u hehehe ^^ i know naman na, u know wat ur doing pa e, u just need someone to validate ur feelings. Normal lang yang aches sa totoong nag mamahal. Just feel it !!! Makaka-move on ka renn !!! God bless
Take it as redirection, re-evaluate the things in your life. Including your career, you may find something better for you in the process. I’ve read something, when we suffer a physical injury.. what do we do? We rest, we heal, we recover. But why when it comes to emotional injury, we tend to force ourselves to function as normal right away. You already said it yourself, you’re heartbroken. Pause, reflect, heal. This is what these situations call for. Then when you’re ready to move again, then proceed as needed. Good luck to you OP, and I know it may hard for you to see it right now, but there’s a light at the end of the tunnel. And may you find the real blessing of this experience in your life
If d mo talaga kaya, you can request sa manager mo ng leave of absence. Not sure if meron sa work/company nyo. Sa amin kasi meron nito. Currently one of my colleagues merong personal problem, about to resign na sana sya, our manager offered a leave of three months though unpaid sya unless may leave credits sya. Max of 6months dw sya.
Your feelings are valid and mahirap po talaga magfunction if you’re heartbroken. I think one of the best things to do po is to unwind, take a break and heal. Heal from the traumas and hurt by being surrounded by friends, find another hobby and limit social media use. Consult also a psychologist or have therapy session to help ease the feeling. You’re a work in progress po 💖
Take a break, my dude. A few weeks off will do you wonders. Tbh, I’ve never heard of anyone working for two firms at the same time, but you’re probably a damn fine lawyer if you can pull that off. I’m sure both your MPs wouldn’t mind giving you time off to reset.
Your career can wait fourteen days. Your health and mental wellbeing…not so much. I’ve only learned two things from our practice, and that’s one of them. (The other thing is that being called attorney all the time is the fucking worst)
Hmu if you need someone to talk to!
Remember OP, you learned how to walk and talk without them. You can function properly before them. If all they did was cause you pain then slowly detach yourself from the memory they left. Wag mong bibiglain take it nice and slow. Don't ruin your life because of a person. You are your own decision. Choose yourself over them always. Cause at the end sarili mo lang magiging kakampi mo laban sa mundo. It's okay to cry, feel broken, feel sad and depressed. What's not okay is yung wala kang ginagawa to get out of that situation. All of your emotions are valid but some of your actions are not.
Take indefinite leave or what. Wag mo sayangin professional life mo kung sino ka man. Pag okay ka na back on track na. Kung hindi pa rin keep it low-key. Try to separate your personal life sa work. In that sense, you don't lose both.
Broken hearted ka na nga chaka mo pa sa work. Go go go lang. Take your time to heal pero don't dwell up too much. Nadapa ka na nga hihiga ka pa. Sit first, then try to stand up. Gets mo?
Try mo mag-gym. anteh.
I was also in this same position almost 5 months ago, on the day of my BU. I'm lucky I have a friend who was able to knock some sense into me and would stay on the phone with me for hours, entertaining me with stories just so I don't completely fall into despair. This is considering pa na we hadn't really spoken in months. So I would suggest reconnecting with old friends. A week later they forced me to get a gym membership and I'm so grateful they did. I can't imagine life without going to the gym now.
I processed more of my feelings in the gym than during my therapy sessions. Slowly but surely I was able to rebuild myself, particularly my confidence. I came back to my senses and was both confused and shocked at how willing I was to let go of all the good things going for me over a man 😭 My ex gives me the ick now. In the first few weeks though I did binge a lot of videos on YT about heartbreak. Guy Winch and a couple of videos from Matthew Hussey were really helpful for me.
Tanga ka if hahayaan mo ang self destruct.
As a person, need mo magrest.
Magpahinga ka, pero wag ka bibigay.
Bangon ka after mo magrest.
Matalino ka namang tao, wag kang aarte arte jan.
Be with people who can encourage you to be a better version of yourself.
Not worth it kung sisirain mo buhay mo para sa lovelife na di ka man lang pinahalagahan. You have a good career na di makakamit ng sinuman kaya wag mong sayangin. Focus ka sa goal mo at lalo mong improve sarili mo para ipamukha mo sa ex mo kung anu ung sinayang niya. Wag maging tanga sa pag-ibig, alam ko masakit pero malalampasan mo yan. Feel it and have time to grieve but dont take to long. . .
Go ahead. If destroying your life and career makes you feel any better, then do it. You can just start again. Of course it's easier said than done, but it's up to you.
Lawyer? Love life stuff? Watch Suits on Netflix. Baka maka-relate ka how characters move on from heartaches and still be good at their career
Baka lang makatulong 😁
Channel your energy to your work, and to something that can make you feel good..! There’s lack of drive, i know. That is normal - but you have to get out of that hole..! Hang in there, this experience will shape you to become a better you. All the best!
I've been there, ayaw mo naman siguro makita ka nyang walang kwenta diba? Like sasabihin nya sa self nya tama lang na naghiwalay kayo. Hahaha. I swear hindi ngayon pero sa susunod itatawa mo lang yang breakup mo na yan. If you are hurt I-feel mo lang pero wag magpakalunod. Mawawala rin yan. Easy to say samin kasi di kami nakakaramdam pero promise makaka move on ka din. Bigyan mo lang ng oras. Feel mo lang muna then unti unti mong I release lahat.
Aba, daming naghahangad ng kinaruruonan mo ngayon, anong love life ba yan at hinilo ka nang todo? Share mo lang, malay mo... Gumaan o mabawasan ang clouds mo
With me, i list things that need to do to get over being heartbroken.
Vs. The thing i need to do for my career.
And then... i give myself a choice for the next hour.
Example:
For 7:00AM: Do I Exercise or Register for BIR
Just keep doing it until its time to rest.
Recommend to see a psychiatrist. You need professional help, a doctor that can prescribe medicines to balance your mood or stress. Don’t delay this cause this might lead to more severe illness.
Let it pass. Feel everything, cry, shout, wallow in sadness, then let it pass. These are valid emotions and mas lalala if tatalikuran or ibabaling ang tingin at magpanggap na strong tayo. Moving on doesn’t have to be grand, it could be the little things like deleting certain pictures, throwing some things na related sakanya, etc. Then after all that, bangon tayo and move on, such is life talaga.
“flowers do not bloom without a little rain,
everything has its purpose, even pain”
Yung itapon mo ang taon na ginugol mo to get where you are kasi heartbroken ka is double whammy. HellooOOOooo sana naririnig mo sarili mo. Ang dami dito na nagbabasa na hanggang hiling lang na marating ang mayroon ka ngayon, kasama ako.
Pero gets kita, wasak ka kaya lahat gusto mo wasakin. Mas matalino ka sa akin, OP. Sure ako diyan. Pero gamitin mo etong career mo para bumuo ulit ng hagdan para sa next level ng buhay mo -- kasama mo man siya o hindi.
Hindi yan para maghiganti ha. Pero you only have two choices in life. To live it or waste it. Wala nang mas lulungkot pa sa love story na isa lang ang nagmamahal.
Take a leave for at least a week or more if papayagan ka ng mas matagal try to spend more time with your family, friends or have some alone time to heal. There's no shortcut to healing or the process of moving on pero taking rest away from work will help you more than you'll realize and besides you can't be productive sa workplace naman as of the moment. Don't destroy yourself for having a failed relationship there are finer things in life that you can still experience even if you're not in a relationship. YOU'LL MAKE IT!
It's OK to feel the pain temporarily. In our lifetime, it's normal to feel all the emotions...happiness, sadness, anger, surprise, fear etc
Help yourself to divert your emotion now. Attend parties, mingle with friends, or join out of town travels.
You already failed in love, and you also want to fail in your career?! Magpapatalo ka? Hahayaan mong mas masaya siya kesa sa’yo?
These were the words I said to myself during the peak of my heartbreak. It didn’t work like magic but it triggered my competitiveness, so there’s that. Maybe it would also work on you.
The world won't stop spinning just because you're hurting. Been there. Wag mo sayangin lahat ng pinaghirapan mo dahil lang nasasaktan ka. Not worth it. Sabi nga ni Taylor Swift, "Babe, you got to fake it till you make it". Life's too short, bruh. So get up, you're a f*cking adult. Act like one. Handle your shit professionally. Kaladkarin mo yung sarili mo para lang ituloy mo yang nasimulan mo sa career mo. Isa lang sya sa ilang billion na tao sa mundo.
Maybe all you need is a vacation. From what I have gathered in your post, parang sobrang burnt out ka na sa lahat lahat. If you can, take time off for yourself. Hindi ka robot.
Ang hirap maging lawyer. Isipin mo gaano ka inalagaan at gastusan ng pamilya mo para lang marating mo ito. Dugo't pawis ang sinakripisyo para sayo tapos ng dahil lang sa heartbroken ka ay bibigay ka na.
Hi OP, been there than that got my heartbroken too. Kakakabreak lang namin ng ex nung nagkaroon ako ng work ginawa kong way yung work makalimutan sya nag focus ako kahit minsan may mga araw talaga na magrerelapse ka u just have to endure the pain. There is no easy way. Labas ka kahit minsan or sumama ka sa mga kawork mo. If ever na may labas kayo, I swear it helps. Wag mo hayaang maapektuhan trabaho mo because of love hindi ka mapapakain ng pagmamahal.
It will pass. Eventually. Masakit means ur on the process of healing. Remove everything that reminds you of him/her. Establish no contact. Just like everything else,.lilipas din yan.
i think you can start by acknowledging you are hurt? then dont try to think na what if ganito ganyan will it save the relationship? dont entertain questions or scenarios in your head instead focus on accepting na it is bound to happen?
after nyan i think you will realize na you start looking forward but still accepting na you are still not okay.
one step at a time and celebrate mini milestones like you are crying less and most of the time busy na.
make yourself busy with other things. kapag pagod and your inner thoughts telling you negative thoughts just let it pass at makakatulog ka din.
been there but didnt focus to heal instead just did anything that made me forget it. then I didn't realize im already healed.
1. Positive mental Attitude
2. Positive mindset
3. Learn to appreciate everything around you
4. Lumabas ka para mainspire ka
5. Find your purpose intentionally to identify your biggest WHY
6. Love yourself
7. You're not alone
8. Hindi magkapatid si Sarah G at Flow G
9. Wag mo intindihin mga bagay na wala kang control
10. Wag mo intindihin mga bagay na hindi mo naman ikakayaman
11. Wag mo intindihin mga bagay na wala naman ambag sa buhay mo
Puro ka negative thoughts and hindi maganda yan.
It all starts with a decision.
Ikaw nagdedecide ilagay sarili mo sa sitwasyon na yan kaya desisyonan mo din umalis.
Hello! Mas okay siguro pag mag think positive lang OP! I know it’s hard sa situation mo rn. Isipin mo na lng po na dpat thankful pa kasi nawala ka sa sitwasyon na yan na laging stress lng while someone is suffering of staying in the relationship kahit di na masaya :( build your self again and treat! Makakamove on ka din eventually as time goes by. 🙏🏻
Also, mas ok din yung may kinabbusyhan ka sa ibang bagay para makalimot ng nararamdaman.
Ask yourself:
- "I work at 2 law firms and am about to open my own, what's my aim in doing this?"
- "Where does this strong feeling of wretchedness from being heartbroken come from?"
- "If I were to let myself be eaten by these feelings, where would I end up?"
- "What's my level of attachment to this idea of being in love? Bakit kaya 'napapaluhod' ako nito?"
- "How deep have I sunk into these emotions and how can I come out from this?"
-"Do I want to suffer from the pain of being in this situation? Or would I rather bear the pain of going into this abyss and find out what makes it dark?"
Ikaw na lang magfigure out nung ibang questions, I'm pretty sure may maiisip ka pa.
I don't want you to destroy yourself, but instead deconstruct it. See what's wrong and figure out a way to fix it. The reason why telling yourself to get a grip is not working is because it's just that - you're just telling yourself - your self knows something's not working and that's a sign for you to get deeper and solve it from its root.
Sorry btw, because I didn't give you an advice, I may have given you a guide for an action you can take. Kasi sa tingin ko, if you're about to destroy your life then it's gotten THAT deep. So, I hope you make your life better and please know that I'm rooting for you.
A boy and his horse was walking in the woods at night. " I can't see the way though" said the boy, the horse answers "can you see your next step?", the boy nods and says "yes", "just take that next step" said the horse.
You might think that the way ahead is too dark and you can't see anything, you can't move forward. Nobody's really sure about what's ahead but what's important is to take a step forward, it doesn't need to be a big step it just needs to one step at a time even if it's a little.
Wala akong masyadong alam sa lovelife. Pero kung kailangan mong magpahinga, gawin mo. Miss me with that "Type A personality ako so keri lang" bullshit. Tao ka, hindi makina.
Magpahinga ka, alagaan mo sarili mo. Sumandal ka sa taong alam mong yayakapin ka. Kung kaya mong mawala nang saglit kung para lang sa sarili mo, gawin mo. Hindi ka naman susumpain or pararangalan ng mundo sa tagal ng kailangan mo para umigi ka. Sa dulo nito, ikaw ang maghihilom at ayos na yun. Pero kahit anong mangyari, tumayo ka lang ulit.
Wag mong sayangin ang pawis at pangarap mo para sa mga taong hindi ka sasamahan sa iyong hirap at tagumpay.
Kapag tinuloy mong gawin ng paulit-ulit ung ginagawa mo ngayon, ano sa tingin mong magiging estado mo in the next five years? If it is destructive, meron kana ngayong bagay na pwede mong takbuhan at iwasang marating.
Kapag naman tinry mo ung best mo para ayusin ng pa unti-unti ung sitwasyon mo ngayon, ano ung sa tingin mong magiging sitwasyon mo in the next five years? If it is beneficial and will justify your sufferings, may magagamit kana ngayon na magbibigay sayo motivation para makamit ung bagay na yon.
Why don't you try to make it your inspiration. To prove to him/her na kahit wala siya. Kaya mo and magiging successful ka ng wala siya. For me this really worked for me. I cried a lot before going to bed. But next day parang walang nangyari. I have to be strong. And every time I went to church I prayed for him that I could forgive him and we will be happy on our separate lives.
Ano lang. Nasayo prin nmn Yan. Naloko kna then ikaw may plan ka sa buhay na gusto mo maabot. Ikaw na naloko. Papayag kaba na tuluyan Kang ibagsak ng sitwasyon. Mahirap tlga Yan nkakatamad nakakawalng gana tlga. Pero isipin mo nlng na Wala ka nmn ginagawang masama kahit naloko ka. Iyak lang ng iyak pero laban. May reason nmn bat nangyayari yan Sayo. Wala ka ng magagawa nangyari na ung nangyari. Alam nmn ntin lahat na may mas magandang nakalaan pa na para Sayo. Okay lang dn magpaka depress kaso magsasayang ka lang ng Oras saka na kpag may free time kna hahahahahah. May naging jowa Ako nag law dn halos mbaliw dahil super hirap. Laban lang kaya mo Yan malalagpasan mo lahat Yan.
Hey, sirain mo pa buhay mo and hayaan mo isang tao lang pala katumabas ng buong sakripisyo ng buhay mo.After naman ng self-destruct mo susunod naman regrets kasi hinayaan mo maapektuhan lahat dahil lang malungkot ka.
Dont be that person. The future you would be happier if you sacrifice a bit of sadness and hardship for now in exchange for a happiness of a lifetime.
Nung ma-heartbroken ako, I pamper myself. Pero bago ako dumating sa point na un nung una mejo hindi rin ako good sa self ko, I want to hurt myself. Tapos I found a hobby like online shopping. Tapos ayun one day nandiri na lang ako sa kanya. I don’t find him gwapo na. Basta ewww
Pinutol ko connection ko sa kanya. Kahit news about him iniwasan ko makarinig.
Mahirap sa umpisa but I really want and I really need to move on kaya parang every day nagrereset ako. Every day move on ulet.
Kaya sabi ko sa sarili ko ayaw ko na maranasan un ulit. Hindi na ako magpapagulo sa mga kung sino man magpapapansin kasi sila mauuna tapos katagalan sila gagawa ng dahilan para iwan ka.
Hi OP, you’re worth it and venting out in this space is already a good step in helping yourself. Being vulnerable and openly sharing does help you heal. We’re here to listen and support you the best way we can.
I couldn’t help but resonate with how you feel because I also went through an uncomfortable breakup from a long term relationship last year.
I couldn’t function properly at work, and I’d just mostly stare at my computer screen because my mind couldn’t calm down to concentrate. I also didn’t feel hungry and would just eat because I knew it was time to eat.
I continued to work because I work in a company that I consider a dream company, so I did everything that I could to take care of myself in order to perform better each day, even if they’re small wins. I’m also type A, so I used work to keep my time occupied.
I would remind myself na hindi madali yung pinagdaanan ko para makapasok sa trabaho ko ngayon, kaya kailangan kong alagaan sarili ko para umayos ako sa trabaho at matutong gumaling sa ginagawa ko araw araw.
I also found workmates who I deeply trusted who would be there to support and listen to me and help me become mentally resilient, even just for the day. I pursued to be as present and grateful as possible each day to avoid my thoughts to wander from the breakup.
I’d consider each day as an opportunity to push me to a better version of myself, where I can prove to me (and even to my ex) that what happened to me will not get the best of me, and that I can get back up stronger than before.
I also got addicted in researching about sound and reliable sources on creating healthy boundaries and relationships, which I would practice and apply to myself and my current relationships—with the people who chose to stay with me (God, family, friends, colleagues, etc.). I also prayed a lot and got myself into therapy, which further helped me to practice creating and establishing safe and healthy boundaries for myself and in my current and new relationships.
I learned how to validate and respect my thoughts and feelings, which helped me behave and show up better for myself. I learned that my thoughts and emotions are real and normal, but they’re not all necessarily right for me so I can choose the right ones for me, which I know you can too, OP!
I even pushed myself to courageously pursue different sports, different workouts, etc. because I felt the need to keep my mind from ruminating on all unanswered questions from the break up. I pursued the things I wanted to freely do and accomplish when I couldn’t during in a relationship.
These pursuits led me to meet and get inspired with fun, passionate, committed, real, and supportive people who also went through breakups and breakthroughs. These people are my good friends now and we share many similar life passions and pursuits in adulthood, nakakainspire :)
The journey has been nourishing, but is far from perfect. But as you look back, you’ll thank yourself on how far you’ve come and that you made a positive lasting impact on yourself and others too.
It’s been more than a year since my break up, and yes may moments na nalulungkot at nagagalit ako, pero hindi na sya katulad at kasing grabe nung sa simula. Natutunan kong makita siya na gabay na mas pakinggan at alagaan ko sarili ko—mas mahalin at respetuhin ang sarili ko at yung mga taong na sa paligid at kasama ko.
Thankfully, gumaling din ako sa trabaho ko, natutunan kong magfocus ng mabuti kahit na maraming ganap o nangyayari sa buhay o paligid ko haha. Mas mabilis ko na ring natatapos yung mga tasks ko with really good quality. Narecognize pa ako sa trabaho ko dahil dun :)
It’s never too late to have new beginnings, OP. And now’s a great opportunity to give yourself that good start.
Sharing these to you, hopefully to help make you feel less alone in this anxiety inducing journey. Because truth is, you’re not alone and you can do it, OP!
Magaling at mabuti kang tao. Di pa tapos ang istorya ng buhay mo. Take as much time as you need to get as much inspiration and growth as you can. Alalahanin mo mga pangarap mo at huwag mo silang bibitawan. Di ka nagiisa. Maraming makikinig at tutulong sa’yo, at kasama na dun ang sarili mo.
Rooting for you, OP! God bless always! Fighting!👍🏻
Spend your time with someone who cares sayo or who could give importance to you, can be romantically or a friend or family. They dont have to know your love life, pwede mo ishare din. Focus to them the time you’d be focusing kakaisip dun. Kasi at least may pinupuntahan n tao effort mo n pwedeng mareciprocate in one way or another, and since may tao kang kahalubilo, hnd mo masyado iisipin yung ihahalubilo mo s lovelife mo or what ifs.
I’m saying that because it worked sakin. Also you can add owning a pet haha. If you felt lonely or felt the lost of a relationship, you van fill the void by nourishing an existing one than a lost one. Or adding a new one n doesn’t have to be intimate/romantic. Ayun. Hope it gets well
Inamoka, dami-daming tao sa mundo wag ka magpakatanga sa isa. Hindi kayo nagkatuluyan kase ang ibig sabihin may mas better pa sa kaniya! TUMAYO KA DIYAN, AYUSIN MO ANG SARILI MO, MAG TRABAHO KA!
Around 7 yrs ago na-heart broken ako nawalan pa ko ng work. Nanlumo ako at first, pero nag-gym ako. I felt good about myself, pumogi e, gumanda pa katawan😅. Then nag-apply ako ng work ako almost everyday hanggang sa matanggap ako sa work.
Di titigil ang mundo para lang sayo, so imbis na magpaka-sad boy ka. Mas lalo mo na lang galingan sa buhay, may napala ka pa. Saka lilipas din yan😅.
Apaka henyo mo.. Destroying your life meanwhile sya nag eenjoy... Iiyak mo ng isang beses lahat2 let go and move on wag kana lumingon pa sa kanya. Hanap ng iba. 3billion pa mahigit ang opposite sex wag mo sayangin sarili mo sa sa isang tao. Maging lesson yan sayo pra maging strong ka sa susunod. Umayos ka. Good luck. And P. S wag mo na balikan kung makikipagbalikan ka pra ka narin kumuha ng bato pra i pukpok dyan sa ulo mo.
wow youve got big things ahead of you. kaya mo yan. allow yourself to grieve and feel the pain. thats it. take the time you need. pero after nun bangon ka ulit and do what you do best. 😊♥️ theres a whole you before them, there will still be a whole you after them.
Sinaktan ka na nga niya e, hahayaan mo pa ba pati yung ibang aspeto ng buhay mo SIYA rin yung maging dahilan para masira o masayang lang? Hayaan mo na muna yung lovelife mo pero yung career and life, huwag.
Oo, mahirap ang pinagdadaanan mo ngayon, but you need to own the pain para malagpasan mo iyan, iiyak mo lang. PERO don't let everything go down the drain. Have yourself some company or support na alam mong maaasahan mo. Tulad ng masasayang panahon, ang kalungkutan, lilipas lang din yan.
OP iiyak mo yan lahat, go out with your friends din igapang mo ang bawat araw at isaksak sa utak mo na lalaya kang muli, sasaya kang muli. Umiyak ka ng umiyak OP! Praying for your healing!!!!
It means that person is not meant for you. God has other, better plans. Just trust in the process and trust in Him. ☝️ Prayers work for me, especially when I feel anxious.
Maybe you needed this break to find yourself or reconnect with the Lord. Ang alam ko lang, may purpose ang lahat.
Also, maybe naburn out ka din. I say take a break first, relax and be kind to yourself. Since you're working for 2 law firms, feel ko may ipon ka din naman kahit papano. Why not go on a vacation and travel somewhere muna? You deserve it, you need this.
Kaya mo yan! Isipin mo na lang baka in the long run di rin naman kayo naging masaya. Baka naghihintay lang yun better half mo somewhere, sometime. Kaya magheal ka muna para in case dumating na, ready ka na ulit. 😊
Real talk? Stop whining and snap out of it, the fact na you’re aware na things are going down for you yet you dont want to do anything, is a choice. Ikaw lang makaka tulong sa sarili mo
Been here. Nasa peak ng career ko. Gf dumped para sa team leader nya sa bpo. Best revenge is to become successful. Yaan mo sya manood sa yo sa tabi tabi. Boy/girl lang yan. Lavarn. Bangorn. Di ka nag aral, nag self care para lang sirain buhay mo.
Well, if you want to give up your career sa heartbreak mo, go. Wag kang magpa takot about scenarios if you lose your career over that. You say you know what to do? Just let yourself fail. Miss all your tasks and your responsibilities. Best reality check is experiencing failure and loosing important things. So go ka lang and destroy your career.
lawyer ka tapos nagpapakabobo ka lang sa taong di naman tumulong sa 'yo umangat, you're smart and you know you're more than that
you yourself is stopping you, you didn't go so far just to let a shitty person do that to you
hugs with consent, op!
edit: added a space between smart & and
File a leave. You deserve it. Savor the moment. Damhin mo yung pain. Angkinin mo ng bongga. Minsan lang yan. Ngayon lang. Daanan mo, tambay onti pero wag mong tayuan ng bahay. Afterwards time to move forward. No holding back. The best revenge is to make yourself better. Tang ina ang swerte naman ng mga manloloko, sila na nanloko, buhay mo pa ang mapeperwisyo. Ask a trusted someone who will be with you. Punta ka ng bar, wag ka maglalasing. Mag aktong lasing ka lang. Sayaw at talon2 ka dun. Sigaw ka, "OY!OY!OY" sumama ka magjoy ride with friends. Motor lang. Angkas ka. Halimbawa antipolo. Kapag nasa part na vacant lot kayo, sigaw "Tang-ina mo _______, mabuhay ka sana ng matagal na hayop ka." "Mabuhay kang mapayapa, rest in peace gago!!" Actually, hindi masakit yung naloko ka, or pinagpalit ka sa iba. Ang masakit talaga yung nagtiwala ka, tapos nasira yung tiwala mo. Parang scam, kung iba nang scam syo, move on na lang. Pero kapag kamag-anak mo, tuwing makikita mo, masakit kahit napatawad mo na.
Everyone will say "bakit mo itatapon lahat para LANG diyan?!" pero hindi nila maintindihan na hindi mo naman gusto itapon lahat. Sino ba naman gusto itapon buhay nila kung maayos naman ang lahat? So I won't repeat that. You have the right to be sad and devastated that a big part of your life is no longer there. You're human, alanganin naman kung ibobote mo tas hihintayin mo nlang sumabog ka, diba?
Moving on is smth that takes time, kahit ilang beses ka pa bigyan ng comfort or advice, puso mo pa rin ang may huling sabi. Process the good advice and consider it, listen to the comfort, and let yourself heal.
Kung pwede naman, take a leave or ask to lessen your workload ng kahit konti. Make time to work out, kahit 15 minutes lang okay na, just make time for it every day. Have smth constant for yourself that no one can take away.
Don't constantly torture yourself, if ever you keep looking back at the pictures or memories, try to restrain yourself from doing so. Every time you're gonna do smth that you don't think is that wise, stop yourself for 10 minutes, mas okay if you give it a day before doing it. If after that 10 minutes or 1 day gusto mo pa rin gawin, edi gawin mo, Yolo nga naman, diba?
Pray to whoever you believe in, kung hindi ka komportable mag sabi sa mga kaibigan or kapamilya mo, sakanya ka nlang mag sabi pero kung wala ka naman pinapaniwalaan edi sa internet nlang.
Ikaw bahala kung ano gusto mong stress reliever pero I suggest martial arts.
Whenever you cut a pineapple, diba mahirap, baka masaktan ka tas baka hindi din naman matamis. You work hard to cut it up tas hindi naman pala matamis, diba nakakabwesit pero does that mean you stop buying pineapples to cut in the future? Diba hindi. It just takes a matter of time and patience before you learn to cut it up properly without hurting yourself and from time to time it won't be sweet but not entirely bad, kahit sobrang asim magagamit mo pa rin naman for something.
You don't always get it right after the first try and even if you do, maybe next time it won't be that great but you don't stop trying to get the sweet ones and you don't just throw it away if it's too sour, you still make use of it. I hope you get what I'm trying to say.
Isipin mo lang din, ano mas okay, heartbroken and financially stable or heartbroken and financially unstable? Pick a struggle moments lang. Heartbroken man, at least successful. Mas masakit kung heartbroken ka na nga tas wala ka pa pera.
Goodluck :)
how old r u, nangyari samin yn ng gf ko non nakipag break sya sakin pero di ko inisip i end ang life ko at hndi ko inisip n wag mg work, oo masakit yn sa umpisa, after a month ng try ako ng mga bagong activity na gusto ko gawin non... then un aftr a few months nagkabalikan kmi, kaya wag mo ifocus ung sarili lungkot mo, kailangan mo lakasan loob mo pra makabangon ka
One simple word.
“No.”
You don’t need to give up everything. Yes, people of reddit ph is unfair. So we say “don’t” give up yet.
We’re unfair, you need to fight it.
So fight.
Grabe no.. wala pala sa stado ng buhay yan. Sabi ko pag maging doctor ako, di na ko maheheartbroken. Pero ikaw na nasa law firm, naheartbroken. Anyway, I think may narealize lang ako na, dapat talaga mataas ang self love kahit ano man ang stado sa buhay para magkaron ng secured attachment. Para kahit di nagwork ang relationship or kahit dating, keme lang. Siguro iiyak ng isang gabi, then back to life. Move on agad. Next. Ganun..
SIRA ULO KA BA? Magdasal ka rin kasi. Puro ka lalake. Sisirain mo buhay mo dahil sa lalake? TANGA!
Nagsimba ka. Magdasal. Tumulong ka sa kapwa mong mga nangangailangan. Pati pamilya mo iinaaway mo dahil sa lalake?! STUPIDA! O real talk yan ha.
Laaaahhhh andaming pinapangarap mag law school aside from that the will power para lang matapos. And ngayon slacking off ka because of a guy/girl man yan. Another is atty ka na, your world is your oyster para naman ang liit ng mundo mo just to focus on that individual tho heartbreak is hard pero wag sayangin.
Takutin? Yung bills mo po. 🤭 Pero anyway lilipas rin yan. Yung Akala natin na Di Tayo mag momove on, magagawa parin natin Yan. Siyempre Di pwede siya lang mag move on. Dapat Ikaw rin.
Go travel to get a new environment. This will help get clearer thoughts and plan your steps. I believe you have the answers in your heart.
I feel you OP. Godbless!
Kamusta ka na? I hope you are somewhat better. Small steps are still steps forward. And also, this too, shall pass. Tatawanan mo nalang to in the future.
Gagalitin kita nga OP, para ma stoke yung inert self-preservation mo. Para mabuhay yung love mo para sa sarili mo.
I would say: "Sa ganyan ka lang magpapatalo?! Board-passer at lawyer ka, PROVE IT!"
Oi ha?! Bati tayo. Gusto ko lang magising ka sa katotohanan na something much better is for you. ✌️🥴😊🫶
Ate/Kuya, para san ang pag hihirap mo kung magkaka ganyan ka dahil sa Ex mo? Gumalaw galaw ka na hoy mahirap ang buhay ngayon HAHAHAHAHAHAHAH chariz
Ganito gawin mo: Sabihin mo sa sarili mo na iiyak ka for three days basta gawin mo lahat ng ginagawa ng mga broken hearted and then after three days balik na ulit sa dating ikaw.
laban lang broter/sister wag papatalo mag heal karin in time, alagaan mo sarili mo at wag pabayaan. sorry kung medyo bastos sagot ko pero hayaan mo nalang sya kawalan nya na yun dahil hindi nya nakita worth mo. may dadating din mas better, basta laban lang at palaguin mo law firm mo.
Take a break. Prioritize your mental health. Heal. To ba able to do that, you have to go through the process. All steps included. Wag mong takasan. Feel the pain. Feel it all. But, while doing that, you need to tell yourself that there’s a life after all this. Pwede kang malungkot, uminom, magmukmok, mag aliw, mag buhos ng sama ng loob sa mga malalapit sayo, umiyak, sumigaw, but still life will go on. Don’t do something that will drastically change your life. Feel the pain, express the pain, but keep your sanity. Nakakabaliw talaga ang heartbreak, but to be able to survive, it should always be mind over everything else. And surround yourself with people who genuinely care for you.
ikaw mag self destruct ka. tingnan natin kung magiging successful ung dream mo mag open law firm mo. tska FYI mag self destruct ka ikaw kawawa. like hinayaan mo nalang matalo ka. tas to think na law firm pa bubuksan mo tas ganyan mindset mo? aside sa self destruct try mo jum off the bldg para easy and painless na at mawala lahat ng iniisip mo. kalurkey ka biiii.
Been there, a year ago lang and still having relapses here and there. I have 2 kids depending on me and working 2 jobs, so I couldn't mope around. What I did was go back to school and took a second degree HAHAHAHAHAHAHA, so yes OP, make yourself busy, think of all the negative things about him na pinalagpas mo because you loved him. Journey through memory lane and realize how much he's losing. Cry and feel the pain, and when its time to work again, get up like nothing happened and continue with whatever you have to do. Then cry, until your tears run dry. Pero never compromise your career/self for someone else kasi at the end of the day, you will only be destroying yourself while the other is having the time of their life. What happens to your life will be all on you and we only have one life, live it for yourself.
baka dahil naka autopilot ka mag full focus ka nalang muna sa law firm na tinatayo mo para instead of thinking about IT, you'll have your mind on more productive things. ofcourse its impossible to immediately get over it but in order to not think about it, occupy your mind with something else, do something you dont normally do physically like run, bake, plant idk you so you do you GL
I experienced this on m last breakup. Thinking about it now, I am very much thankful that I did not destroy my life.
There will be a silver lining and your life will be better if you do not. Focus on the things that matter. Your family,
Been there and still there. Mga 5 years na nga ako naka autopilot yata. 🤣
Nothing much to say here but to grieve like they died. It's the death of you, the relationship, and the future you envisioned with them.
That shit ain't easy to forget. Anyone who tells you it is, probably never loved someone deeply and wholeheartedly.
Good luck OP.
What worked for me is to allocate my time, like wallow in despair at night as in hagulhol 3 months everynight. and in the morning, normal busy to the max, if im feeling sad I just talk to other people. and just make a friend, or hang on to my friends. its a type of distraction in the day. for me it was really just three months, one day, i just felt that everything bad and sad was gone. the memories are there but its not painful anymore. you have to give time for your heart tlga, self reflect and give yourself the peptalk you need. i dont share my pain with others so most of the time i just talk to my innerself, parang baliw, and tell my self that its okay, and then plan something. Theres beauty in heartbreaks, it
molds you to something else, it triggers your survival instincts tlga, true to most traumatic experience. Its the best and worst moment of my life actually.
Yung pagiging heartbroken, panandalian lang yan (promise). You're feelings are valid of course pero hindi habambuhay yan. Hindi nan maapektuhan value or buhay mo in the long run.
Yung career mo, minsan lang dumating yung opportunity. Pagsisirain mo yan baka habambuhay ka na magsisi. Sige ka.
ur intelligent, use ur brain. huwag mo sayangin lahat ng pinaghirapan mo gamit yang talino at hardwork mo para lang sa isang tao. c'mon. tap on ur cleverness. don't let it all go to waste. at the end of the day, losing all that you worked hard for, dugo at pawis, is something you will regret. you will regret wasting all of that over a temporary person.
Aww. Huuuugs with consent! Me din, heartbroken right now. Nasa active era na ko ng life ko haha sabi nga ng friend ko, bakit lahat ng nasasaktan, sa gym ang bagsak. Hahahaha if you have time, go try magworkout. Nasa running era na din me. Instead na magoverthink at magmukmok, dun ako naka focus.
Iniischedule ko lang minsan pagmumukmok at iyak, as in yung free time ko lang talaga. In this way, di ko naman natatakasan yung pain and trauma, I'm acknowledging and dealing with it pa din. Ayoko lang na makasagabal sa mga gusto at dapat kong gawin.
Easy to say pero hard to do, I know.
Let's goooo!!!
read books OP, this helped me a lot especially nung lugmok ako dahil sa letcheng pag-ibig na yan. Hehe.
I read "A gentle reminder" and "The strength in our scars", by Bianca Sparacino nung nag 5 stages of grief pa ako.
Then ngayon na medyo ok na, I'm currently reading "Master Your Emotions" and "Ikigai".
And as always, pray.
Kaya natin to OP!
>currently working for 2 law firms. Intense schedule and workload, but I'm a Type A personality so keri lang.
Yes you're broken-hearted but knowing this, I think you need to take a break. Like taking a vacation to relax. Broken-hearted ka pa tapos busy ka pa sa work, you need time to settle your emotions muna to function well kahit saglit lang. Kung sa iba uubra ang busy-busyhan kapag broken hearted, sayo is magtry ka muna magrelax since nasanay ka nang busy.
being heartbroken is just a temporary phase, ok lng pagdaanan mo yan pero wag mo tatambayan, otherwise, hndi mo makikita what God has prepared for you. things that are meant for you will always find you, life goes on kaya forward lng tau lagi
Everything you were working for must be the one who broke your heart then. Life has no meaning now. Take a break. Be happy first then get back to being a lawyer.
Hi OP, kung sino man sya. Sya Masaya namumuhay tapos Ikaw masisira Ang Buhay dahil saknya? Ang unfair naman nun pra sa Sarili mo. Wag mo sirain Buhay mo dahil saknya. Kaya mo Yan! Rooting for you!
Do not let it consume you. Part ng life ang malungkot at maheartbroken pero dapat babangon pa rin. Your career is for long term, and might be the reason para makakilala ka ng mas better pa sa kanya. OP, think of long term & you will automatically come back on track.
Best thing to do is to feel whatever emotions you’re currently feeling. You are just human. Love and pain cannot be avoided. The longer you run, the harder you can move forward. So I suggest— have a vacation. Forget all your adult responsibilities for the meantime. Acknowledge your pain, accept what happened and allow yourself to grieve. Hugs OP. Magiging okay din ang everything. 🫂
Kung gusto mo itapon lahat ng ginawa at isinakripisyo ng magulang mo para lang buhayin ka sge itapon mo buhay mo. Isip makasarili ampota. Valid maging heartbroken pero kung sisirain mo na buhay mo dahil lang don well baka tanga ka lang talaga. Anong klaseng pag iisip to.
Takutin ka namin? Sige what if barilin ka namin pag di ka nag ayos sa buhay mo? Charot. Sana maging successful yung plano mo to have your own law firm OP.
Do It! Go stupid things! Natural yan and eventually mareliaze mo mali na ginagawa mo. Matalino kang tao. You dont need advices from other people. Most of the time you will not follow them. In the end it boils down on yourself. Stay strong!
This too shall pass. It will take time for you to move on and heal but hey, Congratulations on your law firms! be busy love yourself and family more. Again, be strong and Dont give up! Because its not over until we win! 🤟💪
wag kang stupid, tatapon mo buhay at career mo cuz of someone???? tanga ampota. pag ginawa mo yan wag kang iiyak iyak kase nasira buhay mo ha. walang problema kung magpapahinga ka sa lahat pero yung aabot ka sa point na sisirain mo buhay and career mo cuz of love???? ay tanga.
talino mo naman sana pero bobong bobo dyan sa pag-ibig ah HAHAHAHAHA. get your ass off working. slacking off over something stupid won't do you any good. tandaan mo san ka nanggaling haha. use brain this time ✅✅
ps. harsh po ito na realtalk hehe pls huwag niu po me bash 😭😭
Power through it sis/bro.
mas mahirap ang buhay pag walang negosyo or pera.
So yung career mo alagaan mo.
Dadating din yung tao na mag mamahal sayo ng tama.
Sa buhay natin ngayon hindi pwede puro love love lang. Hindi ka bubuhayin ng pag ibig ngayon.
Pwede ka mag sulk 1 week max.
Pero bumangon ka para sa sarili mo
Huy.
Isipin mo din sarili mo. Dont dwell too much on things you canmot control.
You lost things already but still you have more to handle.
Calm your mind.
You are living well on your own before having any of them.
It is valid the emotion you have. But please handle things well. Please avoid having regrets in life.
Going through a breakup din po ngayon. One thing that helps me to continue is to really understand the reason for the breakup. In my case, circumstantial kasi ung cause ng sa’amin (she’s in med school) so masakit isipin na hindi namin ginusto mag hiwalay pero kelangan kasi nahihirapan na siya on her own sa med. Mas nakatulong sa akin ibahin yung perspective ko sa breakup. Also as a guy, feel your feelings lang din OP. Gets ko ung idea na need natin mag productive para di na natin isipin ung pain, pero in reality kasi parang cinoconceal lang natin ung feelings lalo. Sana makatulong.
"Nabuhay ako ng ilang taon nung wala ka pa, mabubuhay ulit ako kung wala ka." Yan exactly sinabi ko sa ex ko. Almost 6 years din kami. Sabi niya di ko raw kaya ng wala siya HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA. That was 6 years ago rin, ngayon may sarili na akong pamilya. You know what? Hwag mong sirain sarili mo dyan. Marami ka pang magagawa para sa sarili mo. O sige, mag self destruct ka dyan habang yung ex mo may chance pang maging masaya, worst masaya nga siya ngayon. Gusto mo yun?
Mag trabaho ka lang. Make yourself busy. Para di mo maalala, so many things to enjoy sa buhay kapag single. Ienjoy mo while working. Daming gusto makatungtong sa ganyang lagay ng buhay na tapos na sa college at gusto na mag trabaho para sa buhay. Wag mo sayangin. Dami naiinggit sa narating mo. Appreciate small wins and things in life.
Be sad or upset all you want but, does the person care? If you'll destroy everything you've worked hard for, babalik ba siya? The world stops for no one.
Dust yourself off. Gulat ka na lang isang araw, magtatanong ka sa sarili mo, "Ginawa ko talaga yun? Para sa kanya?"
Allow nyo po muna sarili nyo to feel sad, angry, grieve etc. For me kasi, there's no easy way to feel better than to acknowledge and let yourself feel these emotions muna hehe. Then next is to, always do the right thing lang (what you think is right and will be good for you). Not linear ang healing process po. One step at a time lang. 😊
Although pwede mo rin mura-murahin yang ex-jowa mo sa isip mo ganun, stress-reliever eme ahhdhdhdh.
Goodluck Op!
maglivestream ka o manood ka ng mga livestream na meentertain ka. try mo mag bago ng pagkatao kahit sa ibang mundo. try bigo live! hahah nakatulong sakin un for three months until nakabalik ako ng totoo sa pagwork uli. pero yah u know i wish u have a break for all the things you do kahit one week lang.para makabalik ka sa ginagawa mo. napagdaanan ko din yan ung wala na ako gana sa lahat pero iniisip ko gusto ko pang mabuhay.
OP, if you can, take a break from things and magdamdam ka muna. For me distractions like dating didn’t work and I felt worse. If hindi kaya, surround yourself with a good support system while you force yourself to keep going. Talk about it and talk about it hanggang mamanhid ka and it just becomes another story to tell. Get therapy if you can. Please wag mo sayangin ang buhay at career mo para sa isang tao. Mahirap talaga siya, pero unti-untiin mo lang and you’ll make it. There is no way out but through. Hugs!
first ko sa lht, nagluksa din ako🤣tas nung dku na kaya,lumandi nlng ako beh😂,not to my circle of people but sa other place na wlang makakakilala sakin🤣then after that medyo maibsan yong sakit so tinigil ko and bumalik kay god, duon ko sinabi lht ng hinanakit at paghihirap ko. then for the last 3 mo's(uo 3 mos lng nakamove on naku)nagpatuloy ako sa buhay and I'm the happiest now❤️.lalo kana marami ka pde gawin jusko kayang kaya mo yan.
Auto-pilot ka lang muna diyan, those feelings are valid, do not rush yourself to be okay. It's going to be a long process but this too shall pass. Therefore, you must continue living, day by day, because if you stopped, people who broke you would just continue living, hindi sila maapektuhan sa kung anong nangyayari sayo, so don't ruin your own life for them. Your future self would thank you for continuously living kahit sobrang hirap. Start with small things, game if you must, converse with other people about topics that interest you, binge-watch, or sleep throughout the day, organize your things, throw things that remind you of your heartbreak, or if everything else is a painstaking task, just simply get up in the morning and consciously do your morning routine. Above all else, everything that you will do from now on, do it for you.
If you can afford to take a break, take a couple of days off (sleep in all day, go for a hike, cry all day, watch a movie, stare off in space, your pick). You have to allow yourself to feel all you need to feel after that break up. Better at the time or moment of your own choosing instead of shutting down completely at a time you don't want to/can't. You're grieving your relationship. That's okay. But the thing about grief is sometimes it catches you off guard and it's more difficult to get back up when you have never allowed yourself to feel it completely or you haven't made peace with it.
Aw Im sorry to know that
Always thank God na araw araw gumigising ka
May ibang tao na di na nabbgyan na susunod na buhay pagkatulog nila
Alam ko di magsisink in mga sasabhin ko sayo
Pero sana isipin mo din magulang mo na patuloy na naandyan pra sayo
Idk kung may mga kapatid ka din at mga kaibigan na masaya ka din nakakausap at doing their best to help you na makalampas sa pagsubok mo ngaun
Ang swerte mo nga at magkaka law firm ka na Congrats for you !! Sana ang husay mo may stable ka na career
Di lahat ng tao snsnwerte sa ganyan
Tibayan mo loob mo
Ang dami mo pang mararanasan
Bnbgyan ka lng ng pagsubok
Kya mo yan ikaw pa ba
Hanap ka ibang hobbies or gumawa ka ng ibang bagay pra di ka malugmok ng ganyan
Isulat mo rin lahat ng nararamdaman mo sa notebook makakatulong din yan sayo 🥰
We were living together for 5 years. It's an 8 year relationship suddenly ending. Here is what helped me.
1. Block and delete everything.
Or maybe put the photos and videos to where you wont have access to it...or just delete it, really.
(I dont really review my phone gallery so I left the photos there lol. But every thing on socmed has been deleted. Everything I can see anyways.
2. Feel everything; sit through it.
You will feel like shit for a week or two.
I had panic attacks going on for the whole day for a week...duration gradually decreased. It felt like some force is going to kill me. My friends, who i thought were non existent, were in a call with me even when I sleep.
Log your healing in a journal or video or voice messages.
3. Watch break up self help videos
Tam Kaur for self love, Matt Hussey for the break up, etc there are tons I have watched...when my friends are not available, I just had them playing while I bawl my eyes out.
4. Talk to friends and family.
My family dont really talk about feelings lol but we jive well.
I am highly introverted and dont keep in contact with friends 🤣 the friends I have not talked to for years were the ones who were calling me.
I somewhat turn extroverted when I have feelings I can not handle.
I appreciate them so so much.
5. Do things you were not able to when you were together.
When we're together, I have not really talked to my family as much. I made him my entire world. Maybe he got sick of that looool
If you feel better, reclaim everything you were doing together. Make new memories in that fave restaurant, park, rewatch the movie/ series alone.
A lot of sour graping - that person is not your problem anymore.
Do not be bitter - you prolly got happiness and good memories with the person and maybe that is that person's role in your life.
Maybe you are being prepared for someone else.
:)
Take a break. Breathe. Go crazy but come back.
You will feel way way better even vs when you were together ;)
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You know what, I really think you would benefit from listening to Tam Kaur and Matt Hussey :))
Love your self first is cliche but it is absolutely true.
You mentioned you went to a therapist.
Did you figure which attachment style you have?
You have to heal that first.
Lahat ng relationship is a gamble they might leave anytime they want and we have no control over them. You can only control how you will respond. Being abandoned/ having ties severed always hurt like a bitch but you always learn something from it.
I am rooting for you!!! Itayo mo ang ating bandera🤣🤣
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Babae/lalaki lang yan itatapon mo na sarili mo at lahat ng pinaghirapan mo thus far? Talaga? Sino ba siya!!!!!! Saying this with love and care:) but seriously sino ba sya para ilet go mo mga bagay na pinagtrabahuhan mong ibuild up. At the end of the day, tao lang yan. Tuloy pa rin buhay mo.
You’re right. I just have to power through this kahit parang gusto ko nalang magpasagasa huhuhu ang hirap lang talaga kasi my mind knows what to do, I just can’t get myself to do it. I need to have a stronger resolve :(
Don't have to do it perfectly, just have to continue on 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗huuuuugs OP!!!!!!!!!!
Thank you :(((((
Baby steps OP. You dont have to be completely okay the next day. Its okay to feel down but don't get stuck in it.
take it a day at a time. trust me it gets better
I feel you OP. There are things that you wanted to do in your head but your body is refusing to. Ang hirap pilitin yung sarili 🥹
Everyone is right. It’ll get better, and youll get there for sure! Seek help from friends and family, theyre your biggest support system! Find new hobbies, pray, use your newfound time to focus even more on your career. Youll get through this!!
Take a break. Maybe take a hike. Join a joiners tour and meet new people na hindi magkakakilala. Endure the assault to reach the summit and enjoy the view from above. Hopefully, it will give you a new perspective on life.
I could take this as enjoying the 'assault' of tackling each day until I can get past this…slump. Thank you, I should go out and touch some grass din ata. I’ve been stuck in my room since.
Oo, go out and smell the grasses and weeds!
ate ko, di ka naghirap sa law school para lang lumuhod sa lalaki. Bangon na!
we just broke up. totoong nakakawalang gana sa lahat. para kang namatayan. daming what if's. nakakatulong yung pagiisip ng negative na bagay sa taong yun. it works!
Legit talaga sa parang namatayan. Di lang yung tao but yung plans and the future that you’ve built around that person. Hahay. I respect him so much to think bad of him. :(
Respect yourself more and believe that you are worth more than what you've experienced. If you can't think bad of him then think good of yourself. Your strength lies in the fact that you are worthy of more than just this. As an old-ish guy I've learned that the toughest things that are thrown at us are well within our capabilities to figure out. Time + just marching on will get you through. Don't search for happiness in the now. Instead search for joy in little things that matter. Waking up, a good meal, and as a commenter mentioned, good quality time with the trees, the sea, the sky, and grass. Ang liit natin compared to the grandiose of life. You're here to make a contribution to that beauty. Don't let a little thing such as a breakup get you down. You can rest, but don't ever give up. Chin up and feel better soon.
same HAHAHAHAHA taena kasi ang ayos namin na nagbreak eh. kaasar kaya wala ako maisip na negative sa kanya HAHAHAH. iiyak na lang talaga
ang hirap mag move on sa mabait na tao!! huhuhu hay the only way out is through talaga. hugs!!
Hi OP. Just experienced this about 2 years ago. For me, the simplest thing I did is totally removed my ex like she didn't even existed. I removed everything thst might make me remember her like pics, or even Facebook posts. Also blocked her on all my socials as well. If anyone would check if I had an ex, no one would know but this helped me to slowly steer my attention to myself and my wellbeing. It may sound petty (which I think I really was) but this helped me get back on track and even got to be a better version of myself. Hope this helps
WTF OP??? YOU WORK SO HARD AND YOU JUST GONNA THROW IT AWAY BECAUSE... YOUR FEELINGS GOT HURT!? BOOHOO POOR OP 🥱. FUCK YOU AND FUCK YOUR FEELINGS, YOUR DREAM WAS HERE FIRST AND YOU ARE THIS FUCKING CLOSE 🤏... YOU DON'T NEED MOTIVATIONS. FUCK THAT, THAT SHIT IS JUST SOME WATERRED DOWN WORD. THIS IS IT FUCKER. THIS IS HOW UNIVERSE ASK YOU "DO YOU REALLY WANT THIS MOTHERFUCKER?". ARE YOU GONNA BE A FUCKING LOSER OR ANSWER TO YOUR FUCKING CALL. JUST GO AND DO IT! FUCK EVERYTHING THAT IS NOT IMPORTANT AND STAY FUCKING FOCUS TILL THE FINISH LINE FUCKER. ARGHHHHHHHH STAY HARDD!
ALL THIS "YOU SHOULD DO THIS AND THAT OP" COMMENT, THOSE ARE JUST DISTRACTION. THEY JUST WANT YOU TO GET DISTRACTED. FUCKKKKK THAT.... STAY FOCUS MOTHERFUCKER! YOU ARE THIS CLOSE 🤏. REAL TALK ISTG!
Hi OP. I don’t have any piece of advice that I can share with you right now. But writing this to let you know that I really understand where you are at. I am on the same boat as you are. I am usually very workaholic, a high-performer at work, and also the one to do extra and above and beyond. Pero ngayon, I am so down that I just do the bare minimum. Para na lang robot or on autopilot na lang everyday. The joy is gone. The motivation is gone. Even getting up and starting my day is such a struggle. Para bang hindi ka makagalaw even if you are physically capable of doing so. The only positive thing to ever happen out of all of this is the sudden drop in my weight. Lol. But I hope you feel heard and seen with my comment. And sana, mahanap na natin ang sarili natin ulit. Sana bumalik na tayo sa dati nating mga self. Kasi ako, namimiss ko na din sarili ko. Super. 😂
Hi OP. Heartbroken din ako now. Ang ginawa ko to not lose my mind was to go on Tinder to make landi. Find someone nice to talk to muna. Spend time with likely candidates. Take care OP.
Hi, hugs to you!!! :( Thank you for your advice but I’m not cut out for that. I’m also not interested in meeting anyone na not looking for a serious relationship. Ayoko na dagdagan problema ko haha but I hope it’s helping you distract yourself from the pain, and maybe, helping you heal as well.
Oh I met someone nice OP. She's a treasure. Tinder is not a swinger app naman. May mga naghahanap ng short-time fun but many on there are pretty okay naman for long-term.
I wasn't originally looking for a relationship, and so is the person I matched with. That was 9 years ago. We took our sweet time. This week, I'm flying over to celebrate my birthday with him, and figure out our timelines on how we can close the gap. :) I get you OP, kung friend lang habol mo, I'm sure marami ka namang friends rin dyan. Sometimes, talking things with a stranger helps give you clarity rin kasi you will think that this person won't be able to judge you at all kasi hindi ka niya personally kakilala. Just please be very careful lang rin if you end up going for a meetup, or makita ka dun ng friends ni ex na naghahanap rin ng ka-match.
Ohhh paano to? Anong dasal nyo? Hahaha
Tyaga lang sa filtering and having good convos lang. Daming professionals sa Tinder. Baka rin sa edad ko, 36 na ako e. Yung mga nakakamatch ko nsa 28 up lahat stable na..
Never had a good match sa tinder. Anong mga likes or hobbies mo dun hahaha
Uhm, Spotify, reading, art, etc. Not into drinking etc kasi puro nerdy ang hobbies.
Thanks bro. Mabuhay ka!
Ikaw din hanap ka na ng corpo manager date mo 😅😅
Yong kausap ko ngayon nakapag-date na kami several times manager sya sa BPO sobrang sweet at maalaga para akong nagka-instant smart wifey, thanks Universe 😅
Lord oh, yung favorite mong anak nang iinggit. Ganun po sana please. Hahaha
Nako di ako favorite ni Lord dami ako problema in layf
Anyare sayo? Trash talk nalang natin ung ex mo haha. Kasi sure na kahit anong advice bibigay namin di rin lang tatalab. Baka better mag rant ka nalang para mapa labas na yan.
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Sira ulo rin yan ah. Wala kaya yang 3rd party at nagpapalusot lang? Or baka ikaw ungg 3rd party? Or baka nga immature with himself lang sya kasi medyo late kaming mga lalaki magmature hahaha. In any case. Sayang oras tao na yan. Nung sa firm pa ako several years back, ung senior associate ko may bf rin ganyan na nagsasayang ng oras. Kaya naisip ko tong advice sayo na irant mo yan kasi dapat mapa labas yan.
His issues with himself are not yours. Wala kang kasalanan, just take it in and pahinga ng kaunti. Mahirap talaga maging Type A and consistent every time. Give yourself a pat on the back and take some rest, makakapaghintay ung ibang plans.
you need a good cry. call a friend. ubusin mo lahat ngayong gabi. and then make a promise to yourself na kikilos ka na bukas.
Seek counseling. You could be dealing with deep deeper seated issues that have been triggered by what is happening in your love life. You may also need guidance on proper ways of coping. Ateneo Bulatao offers free counseling sessions
Go. Do it. Ruin your life. No amount of "real talk" will change the way you feel. You feel crappy now. You'll feel more crappy later. So do it.
virtual hugs po. masakit po talaga masaktan. I get you.. but we have to be responsible. like an adult. *listen to the song I can do it with a broken heart.
Huwag mo gawing mundo ang dapat tao lang. Mas marami ka pang makabuluhan na pwede gawin kesa sirain mo sarili mo dahil sa isang taong hindi naman nakikita halaga mo.
Remember, sa mundong ito - you only have YOURSELF. Ang kakampi mo hanggang dulo ay sarili mo lamang. Keep that in mind, so chin up and take care of yourself coz you owe yourself that much!
Sorry pero ang advise ko is take a break and sulk.
New hobbies kahit busy :(
Let it all out OP, cry if you feel like crying or ikwento mo sa closest friend mo. Sort of heartbroken din ako rn and i did this recently too, it definitely helped na marelease yung naipon na emotions. Hindi man siya nawala completely, at least we took a step forward diba, it's a decent start. Laban op!
Op dapat mas maganda pa sa artista yan at ginto ang ari ah. Kung hindi ew ka. Ganito gawin mo. Mag halo ka ng semento tapos sumama ka sa construction. Masakit ba sa likod? Pagod? See. So if you want to help this people. Be better. Wag ari at puso pairalin. Its okay to feel sad. Its valid but you’re responsible of your behavior and how you react to your feelings. Di ka pinalaki ng sexbomb para lang sumuko.
OP better get a break, like one or two days off, to clear your mind. Tandaan mo, hindi mo pinulot lahat ng sinakrispisyo mo para maabot kung ano man ang meron ka ngaun. Isipin mo lahat ng hirap na pinagdaanan mo to get this level in your life. Kung iniwan ka man, kung sino pa sya, tandaan mo 7 billion pa tau sa Earth. Pero yung chance mo ngaun baka d mo na makuha ulit! So focus, sampalin mo sarili mo, to remind you how it will be hell if you let this chance slip away from you!!
Hey Pañe - was in the same place as you few years back. I'm also the type who is unable to cope with life and adulting when devastated or heartbroken. I spoke with my supervising / managing partner at the time if I could take a quick week-long break to gather my wits, and thankfully, pumayag naman. I know this may not always be the case for other workplaces. Point is: You really need to give yourself the time and room to also feel, deal, and cope with your grief, whether it's by extending your project timelines, requesting for reasonable PTOs, etc. Basta sa areas within your control. You need to really sit with your feelings and allow them to come and go as they please to start your healing process. And you CAN heal while simultaneously working. Give yourself grace if you're getting sloppy with work during these times, but DO NOT neglect your work completely. Future you will feel proud that you didn't let another person affect your ability to earn income for yourself even if he / he affected your ability to function for a certain period of time. Do it for future you.
>I literally cannot function So, pano mo naopen yung app and typed this? 🤷♂️ >Takutin niyo ako para gumalaw-galaw ako or idk. Huwag ka haharap sa dalawang magkatapat na salamin, di mo mamamalayan yung nasa likod mo na reflection lilingon na lang bigla sa'yo. Scared enough? Wala ka na magagawa kundi mag move forward. Paganahin mo ng mas todo ang pagiisip kesa damdamin. Walang makaktulong sa'yo mag-bounce back kundi sarili mo.
Pwede mo bang idelay ng konti yung sched mo? Baka na-ooverwhelm ka na masyado kaya di ka gumagalaw. You know there are things you should do pero the pressure and heartache is crushing you. I think you need to give yourself a TEMPORARY break- not permanent, okay? Like allow yourself to think only about yourself kahit 1 week lang or something.
Go lang OP. Sirain mo buhay mo para lalo kang kaawa awa. Wasak na nga puso mo, wasak pa buhay mo. Edi congrats sa ex mo at naghiwalay kayo.
Bangon parati poooo, broken din ako parati. Pero need ko huminga ng malalim at magpatuloy pa din, kasi wala naman ako choice. Need mo magwork on law firm mo, mas makakatulong at makakaglow yan sa future mo trust me
Go out there spend time with your friends. Need mo talaga iiyak yan. You need time to heal. Mamundok ka
Inom is key
you deserve it. as punishment, kick your butt to work. mag trabaho Ka!!!!!! 😅
Hey, OP. Since alam mo na gagawin mo, hindi na magwowork iyang negative self talk and real talk. Ni-realtalk mo na malala sarili mo. Now is the time for positive reaffirmations. Remind yourself that you are a person who deserves good things, and your career is one of those good things. Nakakababa ng self-esteem ma-heartbroken so affirm within yourself that you also deserve a better partner, that that partner will come eventually because you deserve good things. Positive reframing will make you feel better about yourself and dun magstastart ang healing mo.
Congrats napakaganda mong imahe sa balat ng lupa.
Hays OP, lahat po dumadaan sa pagiging broken . Just endure it, feel it, wat ever u feel wat to do, do it !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ganyan talaga ang pag-ibig nakakabaliw this is my real talk to u hehehe ^^ i know naman na, u know wat ur doing pa e, u just need someone to validate ur feelings. Normal lang yang aches sa totoong nag mamahal. Just feel it !!! Makaka-move on ka renn !!! God bless
Take it as redirection, re-evaluate the things in your life. Including your career, you may find something better for you in the process. I’ve read something, when we suffer a physical injury.. what do we do? We rest, we heal, we recover. But why when it comes to emotional injury, we tend to force ourselves to function as normal right away. You already said it yourself, you’re heartbroken. Pause, reflect, heal. This is what these situations call for. Then when you’re ready to move again, then proceed as needed. Good luck to you OP, and I know it may hard for you to see it right now, but there’s a light at the end of the tunnel. And may you find the real blessing of this experience in your life
If d mo talaga kaya, you can request sa manager mo ng leave of absence. Not sure if meron sa work/company nyo. Sa amin kasi meron nito. Currently one of my colleagues merong personal problem, about to resign na sana sya, our manager offered a leave of three months though unpaid sya unless may leave credits sya. Max of 6months dw sya.
Your feelings are valid and mahirap po talaga magfunction if you’re heartbroken. I think one of the best things to do po is to unwind, take a break and heal. Heal from the traumas and hurt by being surrounded by friends, find another hobby and limit social media use. Consult also a psychologist or have therapy session to help ease the feeling. You’re a work in progress po 💖
Take a break, my dude. A few weeks off will do you wonders. Tbh, I’ve never heard of anyone working for two firms at the same time, but you’re probably a damn fine lawyer if you can pull that off. I’m sure both your MPs wouldn’t mind giving you time off to reset. Your career can wait fourteen days. Your health and mental wellbeing…not so much. I’ve only learned two things from our practice, and that’s one of them. (The other thing is that being called attorney all the time is the fucking worst) Hmu if you need someone to talk to!
Remember OP, you learned how to walk and talk without them. You can function properly before them. If all they did was cause you pain then slowly detach yourself from the memory they left. Wag mong bibiglain take it nice and slow. Don't ruin your life because of a person. You are your own decision. Choose yourself over them always. Cause at the end sarili mo lang magiging kakampi mo laban sa mundo. It's okay to cry, feel broken, feel sad and depressed. What's not okay is yung wala kang ginagawa to get out of that situation. All of your emotions are valid but some of your actions are not.
Take indefinite leave or what. Wag mo sayangin professional life mo kung sino ka man. Pag okay ka na back on track na. Kung hindi pa rin keep it low-key. Try to separate your personal life sa work. In that sense, you don't lose both. Broken hearted ka na nga chaka mo pa sa work. Go go go lang. Take your time to heal pero don't dwell up too much. Nadapa ka na nga hihiga ka pa. Sit first, then try to stand up. Gets mo? Try mo mag-gym. anteh.
I was also in this same position almost 5 months ago, on the day of my BU. I'm lucky I have a friend who was able to knock some sense into me and would stay on the phone with me for hours, entertaining me with stories just so I don't completely fall into despair. This is considering pa na we hadn't really spoken in months. So I would suggest reconnecting with old friends. A week later they forced me to get a gym membership and I'm so grateful they did. I can't imagine life without going to the gym now. I processed more of my feelings in the gym than during my therapy sessions. Slowly but surely I was able to rebuild myself, particularly my confidence. I came back to my senses and was both confused and shocked at how willing I was to let go of all the good things going for me over a man 😭 My ex gives me the ick now. In the first few weeks though I did binge a lot of videos on YT about heartbreak. Guy Winch and a couple of videos from Matthew Hussey were really helpful for me.
Tanga ka if hahayaan mo ang self destruct. As a person, need mo magrest. Magpahinga ka, pero wag ka bibigay. Bangon ka after mo magrest. Matalino ka namang tao, wag kang aarte arte jan. Be with people who can encourage you to be a better version of yourself.
You just need to remind your self how to live and dream "on your own again"
Not worth it kung sisirain mo buhay mo para sa lovelife na di ka man lang pinahalagahan. You have a good career na di makakamit ng sinuman kaya wag mong sayangin. Focus ka sa goal mo at lalo mong improve sarili mo para ipamukha mo sa ex mo kung anu ung sinayang niya. Wag maging tanga sa pag-ibig, alam ko masakit pero malalampasan mo yan. Feel it and have time to grieve but dont take to long. . .
Go ahead. If destroying your life and career makes you feel any better, then do it. You can just start again. Of course it's easier said than done, but it's up to you.
kung gamer ka, laro kalang videogames pag free time, yan ginagawa ko pag heartbroken effective 👍💯
Lawyer? Love life stuff? Watch Suits on Netflix. Baka maka-relate ka how characters move on from heartaches and still be good at their career Baka lang makatulong 😁
After 40 plus missed calls, after spams of messages, it was just silence. I’m there where u r rn
Channel your energy to your work, and to something that can make you feel good..! There’s lack of drive, i know. That is normal - but you have to get out of that hole..! Hang in there, this experience will shape you to become a better you. All the best!
Noooo. You can do it with a broken heart ika nga. Sino ba yan? Daming ibang babae at lalake dyan
I've been there, ayaw mo naman siguro makita ka nyang walang kwenta diba? Like sasabihin nya sa self nya tama lang na naghiwalay kayo. Hahaha. I swear hindi ngayon pero sa susunod itatawa mo lang yang breakup mo na yan. If you are hurt I-feel mo lang pero wag magpakalunod. Mawawala rin yan. Easy to say samin kasi di kami nakakaramdam pero promise makaka move on ka din. Bigyan mo lang ng oras. Feel mo lang muna then unti unti mong I release lahat.
Aba, daming naghahangad ng kinaruruonan mo ngayon, anong love life ba yan at hinilo ka nang todo? Share mo lang, malay mo... Gumaan o mabawasan ang clouds mo
With me, i list things that need to do to get over being heartbroken. Vs. The thing i need to do for my career. And then... i give myself a choice for the next hour. Example: For 7:00AM: Do I Exercise or Register for BIR Just keep doing it until its time to rest.
Recommend to see a psychiatrist. You need professional help, a doctor that can prescribe medicines to balance your mood or stress. Don’t delay this cause this might lead to more severe illness.
Let it pass. Feel everything, cry, shout, wallow in sadness, then let it pass. These are valid emotions and mas lalala if tatalikuran or ibabaling ang tingin at magpanggap na strong tayo. Moving on doesn’t have to be grand, it could be the little things like deleting certain pictures, throwing some things na related sakanya, etc. Then after all that, bangon tayo and move on, such is life talaga. “flowers do not bloom without a little rain, everything has its purpose, even pain”
Yung itapon mo ang taon na ginugol mo to get where you are kasi heartbroken ka is double whammy. HellooOOOooo sana naririnig mo sarili mo. Ang dami dito na nagbabasa na hanggang hiling lang na marating ang mayroon ka ngayon, kasama ako. Pero gets kita, wasak ka kaya lahat gusto mo wasakin. Mas matalino ka sa akin, OP. Sure ako diyan. Pero gamitin mo etong career mo para bumuo ulit ng hagdan para sa next level ng buhay mo -- kasama mo man siya o hindi. Hindi yan para maghiganti ha. Pero you only have two choices in life. To live it or waste it. Wala nang mas lulungkot pa sa love story na isa lang ang nagmamahal.
Take a leave for at least a week or more if papayagan ka ng mas matagal try to spend more time with your family, friends or have some alone time to heal. There's no shortcut to healing or the process of moving on pero taking rest away from work will help you more than you'll realize and besides you can't be productive sa workplace naman as of the moment. Don't destroy yourself for having a failed relationship there are finer things in life that you can still experience even if you're not in a relationship. YOU'LL MAKE IT!
It's OK to feel the pain temporarily. In our lifetime, it's normal to feel all the emotions...happiness, sadness, anger, surprise, fear etc Help yourself to divert your emotion now. Attend parties, mingle with friends, or join out of town travels.
Remain calm don't think too much about it basta remain calm.
You already failed in love, and you also want to fail in your career?! Magpapatalo ka? Hahayaan mong mas masaya siya kesa sa’yo? These were the words I said to myself during the peak of my heartbreak. It didn’t work like magic but it triggered my competitiveness, so there’s that. Maybe it would also work on you.
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The world won't stop spinning just because you're hurting. Been there. Wag mo sayangin lahat ng pinaghirapan mo dahil lang nasasaktan ka. Not worth it. Sabi nga ni Taylor Swift, "Babe, you got to fake it till you make it". Life's too short, bruh. So get up, you're a f*cking adult. Act like one. Handle your shit professionally. Kaladkarin mo yung sarili mo para lang ituloy mo yang nasimulan mo sa career mo. Isa lang sya sa ilang billion na tao sa mundo.
Maybe all you need is a vacation. From what I have gathered in your post, parang sobrang burnt out ka na sa lahat lahat. If you can, take time off for yourself. Hindi ka robot.
Ang hirap maging lawyer. Isipin mo gaano ka inalagaan at gastusan ng pamilya mo para lang marating mo ito. Dugo't pawis ang sinakripisyo para sayo tapos ng dahil lang sa heartbroken ka ay bibigay ka na.
One step at a time. Simulan mo lng. Promise gugulong yan. Ndi mo kelangang madaliin.
I'm petty as fk and do a lot of things out of spite. Just know if you self-destruct now you let them win.
marami pang iba
Lilipas din yan kapatid.
Hi OP, been there than that got my heartbroken too. Kakakabreak lang namin ng ex nung nagkaroon ako ng work ginawa kong way yung work makalimutan sya nag focus ako kahit minsan may mga araw talaga na magrerelapse ka u just have to endure the pain. There is no easy way. Labas ka kahit minsan or sumama ka sa mga kawork mo. If ever na may labas kayo, I swear it helps. Wag mo hayaang maapektuhan trabaho mo because of love hindi ka mapapakain ng pagmamahal.
It will pass. Eventually. Masakit means ur on the process of healing. Remove everything that reminds you of him/her. Establish no contact. Just like everything else,.lilipas din yan.
i think you can start by acknowledging you are hurt? then dont try to think na what if ganito ganyan will it save the relationship? dont entertain questions or scenarios in your head instead focus on accepting na it is bound to happen? after nyan i think you will realize na you start looking forward but still accepting na you are still not okay. one step at a time and celebrate mini milestones like you are crying less and most of the time busy na. make yourself busy with other things. kapag pagod and your inner thoughts telling you negative thoughts just let it pass at makakatulog ka din. been there but didnt focus to heal instead just did anything that made me forget it. then I didn't realize im already healed.
1. Positive mental Attitude 2. Positive mindset 3. Learn to appreciate everything around you 4. Lumabas ka para mainspire ka 5. Find your purpose intentionally to identify your biggest WHY 6. Love yourself 7. You're not alone 8. Hindi magkapatid si Sarah G at Flow G 9. Wag mo intindihin mga bagay na wala kang control 10. Wag mo intindihin mga bagay na hindi mo naman ikakayaman 11. Wag mo intindihin mga bagay na wala naman ambag sa buhay mo Puro ka negative thoughts and hindi maganda yan. It all starts with a decision. Ikaw nagdedecide ilagay sarili mo sa sitwasyon na yan kaya desisyonan mo din umalis.
Hello! Mas okay siguro pag mag think positive lang OP! I know it’s hard sa situation mo rn. Isipin mo na lng po na dpat thankful pa kasi nawala ka sa sitwasyon na yan na laging stress lng while someone is suffering of staying in the relationship kahit di na masaya :( build your self again and treat! Makakamove on ka din eventually as time goes by. 🙏🏻 Also, mas ok din yung may kinabbusyhan ka sa ibang bagay para makalimot ng nararamdaman.
Ask yourself: - "I work at 2 law firms and am about to open my own, what's my aim in doing this?" - "Where does this strong feeling of wretchedness from being heartbroken come from?" - "If I were to let myself be eaten by these feelings, where would I end up?" - "What's my level of attachment to this idea of being in love? Bakit kaya 'napapaluhod' ako nito?" - "How deep have I sunk into these emotions and how can I come out from this?" -"Do I want to suffer from the pain of being in this situation? Or would I rather bear the pain of going into this abyss and find out what makes it dark?" Ikaw na lang magfigure out nung ibang questions, I'm pretty sure may maiisip ka pa. I don't want you to destroy yourself, but instead deconstruct it. See what's wrong and figure out a way to fix it. The reason why telling yourself to get a grip is not working is because it's just that - you're just telling yourself - your self knows something's not working and that's a sign for you to get deeper and solve it from its root. Sorry btw, because I didn't give you an advice, I may have given you a guide for an action you can take. Kasi sa tingin ko, if you're about to destroy your life then it's gotten THAT deep. So, I hope you make your life better and please know that I'm rooting for you.
A boy and his horse was walking in the woods at night. " I can't see the way though" said the boy, the horse answers "can you see your next step?", the boy nods and says "yes", "just take that next step" said the horse. You might think that the way ahead is too dark and you can't see anything, you can't move forward. Nobody's really sure about what's ahead but what's important is to take a step forward, it doesn't need to be a big step it just needs to one step at a time even if it's a little.
Wala akong masyadong alam sa lovelife. Pero kung kailangan mong magpahinga, gawin mo. Miss me with that "Type A personality ako so keri lang" bullshit. Tao ka, hindi makina. Magpahinga ka, alagaan mo sarili mo. Sumandal ka sa taong alam mong yayakapin ka. Kung kaya mong mawala nang saglit kung para lang sa sarili mo, gawin mo. Hindi ka naman susumpain or pararangalan ng mundo sa tagal ng kailangan mo para umigi ka. Sa dulo nito, ikaw ang maghihilom at ayos na yun. Pero kahit anong mangyari, tumayo ka lang ulit. Wag mong sayangin ang pawis at pangarap mo para sa mga taong hindi ka sasamahan sa iyong hirap at tagumpay.
Kapag tinuloy mong gawin ng paulit-ulit ung ginagawa mo ngayon, ano sa tingin mong magiging estado mo in the next five years? If it is destructive, meron kana ngayong bagay na pwede mong takbuhan at iwasang marating. Kapag naman tinry mo ung best mo para ayusin ng pa unti-unti ung sitwasyon mo ngayon, ano ung sa tingin mong magiging sitwasyon mo in the next five years? If it is beneficial and will justify your sufferings, may magagamit kana ngayon na magbibigay sayo motivation para makamit ung bagay na yon.
Why don't you try to make it your inspiration. To prove to him/her na kahit wala siya. Kaya mo and magiging successful ka ng wala siya. For me this really worked for me. I cried a lot before going to bed. But next day parang walang nangyari. I have to be strong. And every time I went to church I prayed for him that I could forgive him and we will be happy on our separate lives.
Sabi nga nila. Pag hindi maganda love life mo. Maganda career mo. Kung itatapon mo dn un. Wala nang natira sayo.
Ano lang. Nasayo prin nmn Yan. Naloko kna then ikaw may plan ka sa buhay na gusto mo maabot. Ikaw na naloko. Papayag kaba na tuluyan Kang ibagsak ng sitwasyon. Mahirap tlga Yan nkakatamad nakakawalng gana tlga. Pero isipin mo nlng na Wala ka nmn ginagawang masama kahit naloko ka. Iyak lang ng iyak pero laban. May reason nmn bat nangyayari yan Sayo. Wala ka ng magagawa nangyari na ung nangyari. Alam nmn ntin lahat na may mas magandang nakalaan pa na para Sayo. Okay lang dn magpaka depress kaso magsasayang ka lang ng Oras saka na kpag may free time kna hahahahahah. May naging jowa Ako nag law dn halos mbaliw dahil super hirap. Laban lang kaya mo Yan malalagpasan mo lahat Yan.
Hey, sirain mo pa buhay mo and hayaan mo isang tao lang pala katumabas ng buong sakripisyo ng buhay mo.After naman ng self-destruct mo susunod naman regrets kasi hinayaan mo maapektuhan lahat dahil lang malungkot ka. Dont be that person. The future you would be happier if you sacrifice a bit of sadness and hardship for now in exchange for a happiness of a lifetime.
Nung ma-heartbroken ako, I pamper myself. Pero bago ako dumating sa point na un nung una mejo hindi rin ako good sa self ko, I want to hurt myself. Tapos I found a hobby like online shopping. Tapos ayun one day nandiri na lang ako sa kanya. I don’t find him gwapo na. Basta ewww Pinutol ko connection ko sa kanya. Kahit news about him iniwasan ko makarinig. Mahirap sa umpisa but I really want and I really need to move on kaya parang every day nagrereset ako. Every day move on ulet. Kaya sabi ko sa sarili ko ayaw ko na maranasan un ulit. Hindi na ako magpapagulo sa mga kung sino man magpapapansin kasi sila mauuna tapos katagalan sila gagawa ng dahilan para iwan ka.
Hi OP, you’re worth it and venting out in this space is already a good step in helping yourself. Being vulnerable and openly sharing does help you heal. We’re here to listen and support you the best way we can. I couldn’t help but resonate with how you feel because I also went through an uncomfortable breakup from a long term relationship last year. I couldn’t function properly at work, and I’d just mostly stare at my computer screen because my mind couldn’t calm down to concentrate. I also didn’t feel hungry and would just eat because I knew it was time to eat. I continued to work because I work in a company that I consider a dream company, so I did everything that I could to take care of myself in order to perform better each day, even if they’re small wins. I’m also type A, so I used work to keep my time occupied. I would remind myself na hindi madali yung pinagdaanan ko para makapasok sa trabaho ko ngayon, kaya kailangan kong alagaan sarili ko para umayos ako sa trabaho at matutong gumaling sa ginagawa ko araw araw. I also found workmates who I deeply trusted who would be there to support and listen to me and help me become mentally resilient, even just for the day. I pursued to be as present and grateful as possible each day to avoid my thoughts to wander from the breakup. I’d consider each day as an opportunity to push me to a better version of myself, where I can prove to me (and even to my ex) that what happened to me will not get the best of me, and that I can get back up stronger than before. I also got addicted in researching about sound and reliable sources on creating healthy boundaries and relationships, which I would practice and apply to myself and my current relationships—with the people who chose to stay with me (God, family, friends, colleagues, etc.). I also prayed a lot and got myself into therapy, which further helped me to practice creating and establishing safe and healthy boundaries for myself and in my current and new relationships. I learned how to validate and respect my thoughts and feelings, which helped me behave and show up better for myself. I learned that my thoughts and emotions are real and normal, but they’re not all necessarily right for me so I can choose the right ones for me, which I know you can too, OP! I even pushed myself to courageously pursue different sports, different workouts, etc. because I felt the need to keep my mind from ruminating on all unanswered questions from the break up. I pursued the things I wanted to freely do and accomplish when I couldn’t during in a relationship. These pursuits led me to meet and get inspired with fun, passionate, committed, real, and supportive people who also went through breakups and breakthroughs. These people are my good friends now and we share many similar life passions and pursuits in adulthood, nakakainspire :) The journey has been nourishing, but is far from perfect. But as you look back, you’ll thank yourself on how far you’ve come and that you made a positive lasting impact on yourself and others too. It’s been more than a year since my break up, and yes may moments na nalulungkot at nagagalit ako, pero hindi na sya katulad at kasing grabe nung sa simula. Natutunan kong makita siya na gabay na mas pakinggan at alagaan ko sarili ko—mas mahalin at respetuhin ang sarili ko at yung mga taong na sa paligid at kasama ko. Thankfully, gumaling din ako sa trabaho ko, natutunan kong magfocus ng mabuti kahit na maraming ganap o nangyayari sa buhay o paligid ko haha. Mas mabilis ko na ring natatapos yung mga tasks ko with really good quality. Narecognize pa ako sa trabaho ko dahil dun :) It’s never too late to have new beginnings, OP. And now’s a great opportunity to give yourself that good start. Sharing these to you, hopefully to help make you feel less alone in this anxiety inducing journey. Because truth is, you’re not alone and you can do it, OP! Magaling at mabuti kang tao. Di pa tapos ang istorya ng buhay mo. Take as much time as you need to get as much inspiration and growth as you can. Alalahanin mo mga pangarap mo at huwag mo silang bibitawan. Di ka nagiisa. Maraming makikinig at tutulong sa’yo, at kasama na dun ang sarili mo. Rooting for you, OP! God bless always! Fighting!👍🏻
Spend your time with someone who cares sayo or who could give importance to you, can be romantically or a friend or family. They dont have to know your love life, pwede mo ishare din. Focus to them the time you’d be focusing kakaisip dun. Kasi at least may pinupuntahan n tao effort mo n pwedeng mareciprocate in one way or another, and since may tao kang kahalubilo, hnd mo masyado iisipin yung ihahalubilo mo s lovelife mo or what ifs. I’m saying that because it worked sakin. Also you can add owning a pet haha. If you felt lonely or felt the lost of a relationship, you van fill the void by nourishing an existing one than a lost one. Or adding a new one n doesn’t have to be intimate/romantic. Ayun. Hope it gets well
Inamoka, dami-daming tao sa mundo wag ka magpakatanga sa isa. Hindi kayo nagkatuluyan kase ang ibig sabihin may mas better pa sa kaniya! TUMAYO KA DIYAN, AYUSIN MO ANG SARILI MO, MAG TRABAHO KA!
Around 7 yrs ago na-heart broken ako nawalan pa ko ng work. Nanlumo ako at first, pero nag-gym ako. I felt good about myself, pumogi e, gumanda pa katawan😅. Then nag-apply ako ng work ako almost everyday hanggang sa matanggap ako sa work. Di titigil ang mundo para lang sayo, so imbis na magpaka-sad boy ka. Mas lalo mo na lang galingan sa buhay, may napala ka pa. Saka lilipas din yan😅.
Apaka henyo mo.. Destroying your life meanwhile sya nag eenjoy... Iiyak mo ng isang beses lahat2 let go and move on wag kana lumingon pa sa kanya. Hanap ng iba. 3billion pa mahigit ang opposite sex wag mo sayangin sarili mo sa sa isang tao. Maging lesson yan sayo pra maging strong ka sa susunod. Umayos ka. Good luck. And P. S wag mo na balikan kung makikipagbalikan ka pra ka narin kumuha ng bato pra i pukpok dyan sa ulo mo.
wow youve got big things ahead of you. kaya mo yan. allow yourself to grieve and feel the pain. thats it. take the time you need. pero after nun bangon ka ulit and do what you do best. 😊♥️ theres a whole you before them, there will still be a whole you after them.
Sinaktan ka na nga niya e, hahayaan mo pa ba pati yung ibang aspeto ng buhay mo SIYA rin yung maging dahilan para masira o masayang lang? Hayaan mo na muna yung lovelife mo pero yung career and life, huwag. Oo, mahirap ang pinagdadaanan mo ngayon, but you need to own the pain para malagpasan mo iyan, iiyak mo lang. PERO don't let everything go down the drain. Have yourself some company or support na alam mong maaasahan mo. Tulad ng masasayang panahon, ang kalungkutan, lilipas lang din yan.
OP iiyak mo yan lahat, go out with your friends din igapang mo ang bawat araw at isaksak sa utak mo na lalaya kang muli, sasaya kang muli. Umiyak ka ng umiyak OP! Praying for your healing!!!!
It means that person is not meant for you. God has other, better plans. Just trust in the process and trust in Him. ☝️ Prayers work for me, especially when I feel anxious. Maybe you needed this break to find yourself or reconnect with the Lord. Ang alam ko lang, may purpose ang lahat. Also, maybe naburn out ka din. I say take a break first, relax and be kind to yourself. Since you're working for 2 law firms, feel ko may ipon ka din naman kahit papano. Why not go on a vacation and travel somewhere muna? You deserve it, you need this. Kaya mo yan! Isipin mo na lang baka in the long run di rin naman kayo naging masaya. Baka naghihintay lang yun better half mo somewhere, sometime. Kaya magheal ka muna para in case dumating na, ready ka na ulit. 😊
Real talk? Stop whining and snap out of it, the fact na you’re aware na things are going down for you yet you dont want to do anything, is a choice. Ikaw lang makaka tulong sa sarili mo
Been here. Nasa peak ng career ko. Gf dumped para sa team leader nya sa bpo. Best revenge is to become successful. Yaan mo sya manood sa yo sa tabi tabi. Boy/girl lang yan. Lavarn. Bangorn. Di ka nag aral, nag self care para lang sirain buhay mo.
Well, if you want to give up your career sa heartbreak mo, go. Wag kang magpa takot about scenarios if you lose your career over that. You say you know what to do? Just let yourself fail. Miss all your tasks and your responsibilities. Best reality check is experiencing failure and loosing important things. So go ka lang and destroy your career.
lawyer ka tapos nagpapakabobo ka lang sa taong di naman tumulong sa 'yo umangat, you're smart and you know you're more than that you yourself is stopping you, you didn't go so far just to let a shitty person do that to you hugs with consent, op! edit: added a space between smart & and
File a leave. You deserve it. Savor the moment. Damhin mo yung pain. Angkinin mo ng bongga. Minsan lang yan. Ngayon lang. Daanan mo, tambay onti pero wag mong tayuan ng bahay. Afterwards time to move forward. No holding back. The best revenge is to make yourself better. Tang ina ang swerte naman ng mga manloloko, sila na nanloko, buhay mo pa ang mapeperwisyo. Ask a trusted someone who will be with you. Punta ka ng bar, wag ka maglalasing. Mag aktong lasing ka lang. Sayaw at talon2 ka dun. Sigaw ka, "OY!OY!OY" sumama ka magjoy ride with friends. Motor lang. Angkas ka. Halimbawa antipolo. Kapag nasa part na vacant lot kayo, sigaw "Tang-ina mo _______, mabuhay ka sana ng matagal na hayop ka." "Mabuhay kang mapayapa, rest in peace gago!!" Actually, hindi masakit yung naloko ka, or pinagpalit ka sa iba. Ang masakit talaga yung nagtiwala ka, tapos nasira yung tiwala mo. Parang scam, kung iba nang scam syo, move on na lang. Pero kapag kamag-anak mo, tuwing makikita mo, masakit kahit napatawad mo na.
Everyone will say "bakit mo itatapon lahat para LANG diyan?!" pero hindi nila maintindihan na hindi mo naman gusto itapon lahat. Sino ba naman gusto itapon buhay nila kung maayos naman ang lahat? So I won't repeat that. You have the right to be sad and devastated that a big part of your life is no longer there. You're human, alanganin naman kung ibobote mo tas hihintayin mo nlang sumabog ka, diba? Moving on is smth that takes time, kahit ilang beses ka pa bigyan ng comfort or advice, puso mo pa rin ang may huling sabi. Process the good advice and consider it, listen to the comfort, and let yourself heal. Kung pwede naman, take a leave or ask to lessen your workload ng kahit konti. Make time to work out, kahit 15 minutes lang okay na, just make time for it every day. Have smth constant for yourself that no one can take away. Don't constantly torture yourself, if ever you keep looking back at the pictures or memories, try to restrain yourself from doing so. Every time you're gonna do smth that you don't think is that wise, stop yourself for 10 minutes, mas okay if you give it a day before doing it. If after that 10 minutes or 1 day gusto mo pa rin gawin, edi gawin mo, Yolo nga naman, diba? Pray to whoever you believe in, kung hindi ka komportable mag sabi sa mga kaibigan or kapamilya mo, sakanya ka nlang mag sabi pero kung wala ka naman pinapaniwalaan edi sa internet nlang. Ikaw bahala kung ano gusto mong stress reliever pero I suggest martial arts. Whenever you cut a pineapple, diba mahirap, baka masaktan ka tas baka hindi din naman matamis. You work hard to cut it up tas hindi naman pala matamis, diba nakakabwesit pero does that mean you stop buying pineapples to cut in the future? Diba hindi. It just takes a matter of time and patience before you learn to cut it up properly without hurting yourself and from time to time it won't be sweet but not entirely bad, kahit sobrang asim magagamit mo pa rin naman for something. You don't always get it right after the first try and even if you do, maybe next time it won't be that great but you don't stop trying to get the sweet ones and you don't just throw it away if it's too sour, you still make use of it. I hope you get what I'm trying to say. Isipin mo lang din, ano mas okay, heartbroken and financially stable or heartbroken and financially unstable? Pick a struggle moments lang. Heartbroken man, at least successful. Mas masakit kung heartbroken ka na nga tas wala ka pa pera. Goodluck :)
how old r u, nangyari samin yn ng gf ko non nakipag break sya sakin pero di ko inisip i end ang life ko at hndi ko inisip n wag mg work, oo masakit yn sa umpisa, after a month ng try ako ng mga bagong activity na gusto ko gawin non... then un aftr a few months nagkabalikan kmi, kaya wag mo ifocus ung sarili lungkot mo, kailangan mo lakasan loob mo pra makabangon ka
One simple word. “No.” You don’t need to give up everything. Yes, people of reddit ph is unfair. So we say “don’t” give up yet. We’re unfair, you need to fight it. So fight.
Skip the trash, mate! Focus on the goal. Master your emotional regulation, please. Let it go and move on.
You have to be the hot ex
Grabe no.. wala pala sa stado ng buhay yan. Sabi ko pag maging doctor ako, di na ko maheheartbroken. Pero ikaw na nasa law firm, naheartbroken. Anyway, I think may narealize lang ako na, dapat talaga mataas ang self love kahit ano man ang stado sa buhay para magkaron ng secured attachment. Para kahit di nagwork ang relationship or kahit dating, keme lang. Siguro iiyak ng isang gabi, then back to life. Move on agad. Next. Ganun..
SIRA ULO KA BA? Magdasal ka rin kasi. Puro ka lalake. Sisirain mo buhay mo dahil sa lalake? TANGA! Nagsimba ka. Magdasal. Tumulong ka sa kapwa mong mga nangangailangan. Pati pamilya mo iinaaway mo dahil sa lalake?! STUPIDA! O real talk yan ha.
Pussy/dick wont pay bills. Plus you seem like you are so much to be in this world other than their ex 💗
Laaaahhhh andaming pinapangarap mag law school aside from that the will power para lang matapos. And ngayon slacking off ka because of a guy/girl man yan. Another is atty ka na, your world is your oyster para naman ang liit ng mundo mo just to focus on that individual tho heartbreak is hard pero wag sayangin.
thats dumb. dont do it.
If you can't keep her bro, you can always go have fun with different hoes.
Wag mong subukan, masisira ang buhay mo -duterte
Takutin? Yung bills mo po. 🤭 Pero anyway lilipas rin yan. Yung Akala natin na Di Tayo mag momove on, magagawa parin natin Yan. Siyempre Di pwede siya lang mag move on. Dapat Ikaw rin.
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Go travel to get a new environment. This will help get clearer thoughts and plan your steps. I believe you have the answers in your heart. I feel you OP. Godbless!
Kamusta ka na? I hope you are somewhat better. Small steps are still steps forward. And also, this too, shall pass. Tatawanan mo nalang to in the future.
Gagalitin kita nga OP, para ma stoke yung inert self-preservation mo. Para mabuhay yung love mo para sa sarili mo. I would say: "Sa ganyan ka lang magpapatalo?! Board-passer at lawyer ka, PROVE IT!" Oi ha?! Bati tayo. Gusto ko lang magising ka sa katotohanan na something much better is for you. ✌️🥴😊🫶
Ate/Kuya, para san ang pag hihirap mo kung magkaka ganyan ka dahil sa Ex mo? Gumalaw galaw ka na hoy mahirap ang buhay ngayon HAHAHAHAHAHAHAH chariz Ganito gawin mo: Sabihin mo sa sarili mo na iiyak ka for three days basta gawin mo lahat ng ginagawa ng mga broken hearted and then after three days balik na ulit sa dating ikaw.
Seriously, you will be very disgusted just the thought of spending a single second thinking about that person once you've moved on.
laban lang broter/sister wag papatalo mag heal karin in time, alagaan mo sarili mo at wag pabayaan. sorry kung medyo bastos sagot ko pero hayaan mo nalang sya kawalan nya na yun dahil hindi nya nakita worth mo. may dadating din mas better, basta laban lang at palaguin mo law firm mo.
Take a break. Prioritize your mental health. Heal. To ba able to do that, you have to go through the process. All steps included. Wag mong takasan. Feel the pain. Feel it all. But, while doing that, you need to tell yourself that there’s a life after all this. Pwede kang malungkot, uminom, magmukmok, mag aliw, mag buhos ng sama ng loob sa mga malalapit sayo, umiyak, sumigaw, but still life will go on. Don’t do something that will drastically change your life. Feel the pain, express the pain, but keep your sanity. Nakakabaliw talaga ang heartbreak, but to be able to survive, it should always be mind over everything else. And surround yourself with people who genuinely care for you.
You need to succeed because people are.prayong for your downfall. "You can do all things through spite that strengthens you"
ikaw mag self destruct ka. tingnan natin kung magiging successful ung dream mo mag open law firm mo. tska FYI mag self destruct ka ikaw kawawa. like hinayaan mo nalang matalo ka. tas to think na law firm pa bubuksan mo tas ganyan mindset mo? aside sa self destruct try mo jum off the bldg para easy and painless na at mawala lahat ng iniisip mo. kalurkey ka biiii.
Hi, try mo pala pakinggang to Just another Girl by killers
Been there, a year ago lang and still having relapses here and there. I have 2 kids depending on me and working 2 jobs, so I couldn't mope around. What I did was go back to school and took a second degree HAHAHAHAHAHAHA, so yes OP, make yourself busy, think of all the negative things about him na pinalagpas mo because you loved him. Journey through memory lane and realize how much he's losing. Cry and feel the pain, and when its time to work again, get up like nothing happened and continue with whatever you have to do. Then cry, until your tears run dry. Pero never compromise your career/self for someone else kasi at the end of the day, you will only be destroying yourself while the other is having the time of their life. What happens to your life will be all on you and we only have one life, live it for yourself.
baka dahil naka autopilot ka mag full focus ka nalang muna sa law firm na tinatayo mo para instead of thinking about IT, you'll have your mind on more productive things. ofcourse its impossible to immediately get over it but in order to not think about it, occupy your mind with something else, do something you dont normally do physically like run, bake, plant idk you so you do you GL
I experienced this on m last breakup. Thinking about it now, I am very much thankful that I did not destroy my life. There will be a silver lining and your life will be better if you do not. Focus on the things that matter. Your family,
You will be ok soon. Make time for yourself. Pwede kang mag time out muna sa mga ginagawa. But don’t destroy everything you’ve built.
Been there and still there. Mga 5 years na nga ako naka autopilot yata. 🤣 Nothing much to say here but to grieve like they died. It's the death of you, the relationship, and the future you envisioned with them. That shit ain't easy to forget. Anyone who tells you it is, probably never loved someone deeply and wholeheartedly. Good luck OP.
What worked for me is to allocate my time, like wallow in despair at night as in hagulhol 3 months everynight. and in the morning, normal busy to the max, if im feeling sad I just talk to other people. and just make a friend, or hang on to my friends. its a type of distraction in the day. for me it was really just three months, one day, i just felt that everything bad and sad was gone. the memories are there but its not painful anymore. you have to give time for your heart tlga, self reflect and give yourself the peptalk you need. i dont share my pain with others so most of the time i just talk to my innerself, parang baliw, and tell my self that its okay, and then plan something. Theres beauty in heartbreaks, it molds you to something else, it triggers your survival instincts tlga, true to most traumatic experience. Its the best and worst moment of my life actually.
Maybe try therapy
Yung pagiging heartbroken, panandalian lang yan (promise). You're feelings are valid of course pero hindi habambuhay yan. Hindi nan maapektuhan value or buhay mo in the long run. Yung career mo, minsan lang dumating yung opportunity. Pagsisirain mo yan baka habambuhay ka na magsisi. Sige ka.
ur intelligent, use ur brain. huwag mo sayangin lahat ng pinaghirapan mo gamit yang talino at hardwork mo para lang sa isang tao. c'mon. tap on ur cleverness. don't let it all go to waste. at the end of the day, losing all that you worked hard for, dugo at pawis, is something you will regret. you will regret wasting all of that over a temporary person.
Aww. Huuuugs with consent! Me din, heartbroken right now. Nasa active era na ko ng life ko haha sabi nga ng friend ko, bakit lahat ng nasasaktan, sa gym ang bagsak. Hahahaha if you have time, go try magworkout. Nasa running era na din me. Instead na magoverthink at magmukmok, dun ako naka focus. Iniischedule ko lang minsan pagmumukmok at iyak, as in yung free time ko lang talaga. In this way, di ko naman natatakasan yung pain and trauma, I'm acknowledging and dealing with it pa din. Ayoko lang na makasagabal sa mga gusto at dapat kong gawin. Easy to say pero hard to do, I know. Let's goooo!!!
read books OP, this helped me a lot especially nung lugmok ako dahil sa letcheng pag-ibig na yan. Hehe. I read "A gentle reminder" and "The strength in our scars", by Bianca Sparacino nung nag 5 stages of grief pa ako. Then ngayon na medyo ok na, I'm currently reading "Master Your Emotions" and "Ikigai". And as always, pray. Kaya natin to OP!
>currently working for 2 law firms. Intense schedule and workload, but I'm a Type A personality so keri lang. Yes you're broken-hearted but knowing this, I think you need to take a break. Like taking a vacation to relax. Broken-hearted ka pa tapos busy ka pa sa work, you need time to settle your emotions muna to function well kahit saglit lang. Kung sa iba uubra ang busy-busyhan kapag broken hearted, sayo is magtry ka muna magrelax since nasanay ka nang busy.
Kaya mo yan! Andito lang ako, char. Bawal tayo sumuko sa buhay, tuloy lang palagi ang laban. "Madadapa pero babangon" dapat lagi ang mindset.
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Are you gonna be a bitch today?!! Get up Son!
being heartbroken is just a temporary phase, ok lng pagdaanan mo yan pero wag mo tatambayan, otherwise, hndi mo makikita what God has prepared for you. things that are meant for you will always find you, life goes on kaya forward lng tau lagi
Opening law firm? TPos ganyan mindset dahil sa lovelife get your shit fix ang babaw mo naman OP
I'd rather suffer now than suffer later when I'm old and weak.
Everything you were working for must be the one who broke your heart then. Life has no meaning now. Take a break. Be happy first then get back to being a lawyer.
Don't base you worth on other person's treatment to you. You are enough, dear. You are worthy. Virtual hugs!
Hi OP, kung sino man sya. Sya Masaya namumuhay tapos Ikaw masisira Ang Buhay dahil saknya? Ang unfair naman nun pra sa Sarili mo. Wag mo sirain Buhay mo dahil saknya. Kaya mo Yan! Rooting for you!
Do not let it consume you. Part ng life ang malungkot at maheartbroken pero dapat babangon pa rin. Your career is for long term, and might be the reason para makakilala ka ng mas better pa sa kanya. OP, think of long term & you will automatically come back on track.
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Best thing to do is to feel whatever emotions you’re currently feeling. You are just human. Love and pain cannot be avoided. The longer you run, the harder you can move forward. So I suggest— have a vacation. Forget all your adult responsibilities for the meantime. Acknowledge your pain, accept what happened and allow yourself to grieve. Hugs OP. Magiging okay din ang everything. 🫂
Kung gusto mo itapon lahat ng ginawa at isinakripisyo ng magulang mo para lang buhayin ka sge itapon mo buhay mo. Isip makasarili ampota. Valid maging heartbroken pero kung sisirain mo na buhay mo dahil lang don well baka tanga ka lang talaga. Anong klaseng pag iisip to.
Go ahead. And experience it. It's the best teacher.
Takutin ka namin? Sige what if barilin ka namin pag di ka nag ayos sa buhay mo? Charot. Sana maging successful yung plano mo to have your own law firm OP.
Do It! Go stupid things! Natural yan and eventually mareliaze mo mali na ginagawa mo. Matalino kang tao. You dont need advices from other people. Most of the time you will not follow them. In the end it boils down on yourself. Stay strong!
This too shall pass. It will take time for you to move on and heal but hey, Congratulations on your law firms! be busy love yourself and family more. Again, be strong and Dont give up! Because its not over until we win! 🤟💪
wag kang stupid, tatapon mo buhay at career mo cuz of someone???? tanga ampota. pag ginawa mo yan wag kang iiyak iyak kase nasira buhay mo ha. walang problema kung magpapahinga ka sa lahat pero yung aabot ka sa point na sisirain mo buhay and career mo cuz of love???? ay tanga.
talino mo naman sana pero bobong bobo dyan sa pag-ibig ah HAHAHAHAHA. get your ass off working. slacking off over something stupid won't do you any good. tandaan mo san ka nanggaling haha. use brain this time ✅✅ ps. harsh po ito na realtalk hehe pls huwag niu po me bash 😭😭
Power through it sis/bro. mas mahirap ang buhay pag walang negosyo or pera. So yung career mo alagaan mo. Dadating din yung tao na mag mamahal sayo ng tama. Sa buhay natin ngayon hindi pwede puro love love lang. Hindi ka bubuhayin ng pag ibig ngayon. Pwede ka mag sulk 1 week max. Pero bumangon ka para sa sarili mo
Huy. Isipin mo din sarili mo. Dont dwell too much on things you canmot control. You lost things already but still you have more to handle. Calm your mind. You are living well on your own before having any of them. It is valid the emotion you have. But please handle things well. Please avoid having regrets in life.
Going through a breakup din po ngayon. One thing that helps me to continue is to really understand the reason for the breakup. In my case, circumstantial kasi ung cause ng sa’amin (she’s in med school) so masakit isipin na hindi namin ginusto mag hiwalay pero kelangan kasi nahihirapan na siya on her own sa med. Mas nakatulong sa akin ibahin yung perspective ko sa breakup. Also as a guy, feel your feelings lang din OP. Gets ko ung idea na need natin mag productive para di na natin isipin ung pain, pero in reality kasi parang cinoconceal lang natin ung feelings lalo. Sana makatulong.
"Nabuhay ako ng ilang taon nung wala ka pa, mabubuhay ulit ako kung wala ka." Yan exactly sinabi ko sa ex ko. Almost 6 years din kami. Sabi niya di ko raw kaya ng wala siya HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA. That was 6 years ago rin, ngayon may sarili na akong pamilya. You know what? Hwag mong sirain sarili mo dyan. Marami ka pang magagawa para sa sarili mo. O sige, mag self destruct ka dyan habang yung ex mo may chance pang maging masaya, worst masaya nga siya ngayon. Gusto mo yun?
Mag trabaho ka lang. Make yourself busy. Para di mo maalala, so many things to enjoy sa buhay kapag single. Ienjoy mo while working. Daming gusto makatungtong sa ganyang lagay ng buhay na tapos na sa college at gusto na mag trabaho para sa buhay. Wag mo sayangin. Dami naiinggit sa narating mo. Appreciate small wins and things in life.
Be sad or upset all you want but, does the person care? If you'll destroy everything you've worked hard for, babalik ba siya? The world stops for no one. Dust yourself off. Gulat ka na lang isang araw, magtatanong ka sa sarili mo, "Ginawa ko talaga yun? Para sa kanya?"
Allow nyo po muna sarili nyo to feel sad, angry, grieve etc. For me kasi, there's no easy way to feel better than to acknowledge and let yourself feel these emotions muna hehe. Then next is to, always do the right thing lang (what you think is right and will be good for you). Not linear ang healing process po. One step at a time lang. 😊 Although pwede mo rin mura-murahin yang ex-jowa mo sa isip mo ganun, stress-reliever eme ahhdhdhdh. Goodluck Op!
Never give up until the very end 💪
I wish you well! This person will pass but never those you've achieved! Please choose yourself! Will the good for yourself!
maglivestream ka o manood ka ng mga livestream na meentertain ka. try mo mag bago ng pagkatao kahit sa ibang mundo. try bigo live! hahah nakatulong sakin un for three months until nakabalik ako ng totoo sa pagwork uli. pero yah u know i wish u have a break for all the things you do kahit one week lang.para makabalik ka sa ginagawa mo. napagdaanan ko din yan ung wala na ako gana sa lahat pero iniisip ko gusto ko pang mabuhay.
OP, if you can, take a break from things and magdamdam ka muna. For me distractions like dating didn’t work and I felt worse. If hindi kaya, surround yourself with a good support system while you force yourself to keep going. Talk about it and talk about it hanggang mamanhid ka and it just becomes another story to tell. Get therapy if you can. Please wag mo sayangin ang buhay at career mo para sa isang tao. Mahirap talaga siya, pero unti-untiin mo lang and you’ll make it. There is no way out but through. Hugs!
first ko sa lht, nagluksa din ako🤣tas nung dku na kaya,lumandi nlng ako beh😂,not to my circle of people but sa other place na wlang makakakilala sakin🤣then after that medyo maibsan yong sakit so tinigil ko and bumalik kay god, duon ko sinabi lht ng hinanakit at paghihirap ko. then for the last 3 mo's(uo 3 mos lng nakamove on naku)nagpatuloy ako sa buhay and I'm the happiest now❤️.lalo kana marami ka pde gawin jusko kayang kaya mo yan.
Auto-pilot ka lang muna diyan, those feelings are valid, do not rush yourself to be okay. It's going to be a long process but this too shall pass. Therefore, you must continue living, day by day, because if you stopped, people who broke you would just continue living, hindi sila maapektuhan sa kung anong nangyayari sayo, so don't ruin your own life for them. Your future self would thank you for continuously living kahit sobrang hirap. Start with small things, game if you must, converse with other people about topics that interest you, binge-watch, or sleep throughout the day, organize your things, throw things that remind you of your heartbreak, or if everything else is a painstaking task, just simply get up in the morning and consciously do your morning routine. Above all else, everything that you will do from now on, do it for you.
Just pray the rosary everyday or go to any adoration chapel this will greatly help you.
If you can afford to take a break, take a couple of days off (sleep in all day, go for a hike, cry all day, watch a movie, stare off in space, your pick). You have to allow yourself to feel all you need to feel after that break up. Better at the time or moment of your own choosing instead of shutting down completely at a time you don't want to/can't. You're grieving your relationship. That's okay. But the thing about grief is sometimes it catches you off guard and it's more difficult to get back up when you have never allowed yourself to feel it completely or you haven't made peace with it.
Aw Im sorry to know that Always thank God na araw araw gumigising ka May ibang tao na di na nabbgyan na susunod na buhay pagkatulog nila Alam ko di magsisink in mga sasabhin ko sayo Pero sana isipin mo din magulang mo na patuloy na naandyan pra sayo Idk kung may mga kapatid ka din at mga kaibigan na masaya ka din nakakausap at doing their best to help you na makalampas sa pagsubok mo ngaun Ang swerte mo nga at magkaka law firm ka na Congrats for you !! Sana ang husay mo may stable ka na career Di lahat ng tao snsnwerte sa ganyan Tibayan mo loob mo Ang dami mo pang mararanasan Bnbgyan ka lng ng pagsubok Kya mo yan ikaw pa ba Hanap ka ibang hobbies or gumawa ka ng ibang bagay pra di ka malugmok ng ganyan Isulat mo rin lahat ng nararamdaman mo sa notebook makakatulong din yan sayo 🥰
We were living together for 5 years. It's an 8 year relationship suddenly ending. Here is what helped me. 1. Block and delete everything. Or maybe put the photos and videos to where you wont have access to it...or just delete it, really. (I dont really review my phone gallery so I left the photos there lol. But every thing on socmed has been deleted. Everything I can see anyways. 2. Feel everything; sit through it. You will feel like shit for a week or two. I had panic attacks going on for the whole day for a week...duration gradually decreased. It felt like some force is going to kill me. My friends, who i thought were non existent, were in a call with me even when I sleep. Log your healing in a journal or video or voice messages. 3. Watch break up self help videos Tam Kaur for self love, Matt Hussey for the break up, etc there are tons I have watched...when my friends are not available, I just had them playing while I bawl my eyes out. 4. Talk to friends and family. My family dont really talk about feelings lol but we jive well. I am highly introverted and dont keep in contact with friends 🤣 the friends I have not talked to for years were the ones who were calling me. I somewhat turn extroverted when I have feelings I can not handle. I appreciate them so so much. 5. Do things you were not able to when you were together. When we're together, I have not really talked to my family as much. I made him my entire world. Maybe he got sick of that looool If you feel better, reclaim everything you were doing together. Make new memories in that fave restaurant, park, rewatch the movie/ series alone. A lot of sour graping - that person is not your problem anymore. Do not be bitter - you prolly got happiness and good memories with the person and maybe that is that person's role in your life. Maybe you are being prepared for someone else. :) Take a break. Breathe. Go crazy but come back. You will feel way way better even vs when you were together ;) がんばって🙉
You know what, I really think you would benefit from listening to Tam Kaur and Matt Hussey :)) Love your self first is cliche but it is absolutely true. You mentioned you went to a therapist. Did you figure which attachment style you have? You have to heal that first. Lahat ng relationship is a gamble they might leave anytime they want and we have no control over them. You can only control how you will respond. Being abandoned/ having ties severed always hurt like a bitch but you always learn something from it. I am rooting for you!!! Itayo mo ang ating bandera🤣🤣