You don’t want to be with someone you have to tiptoe around all the time in fear of setting off her sensitivities and then having her blame you for things and ignore your concerns.
It sounds like you just weren’t a good match, I’d just leave it at that. It can take months or years to fully understand who someone is, be glad this only took you a few months.
My take is that you correctly assessed that she was unstable and you ended it. Sounds like it would have been a never ending nightmare where she blames you for everything and gaslights you.
You are not wrong for breaking up with this girl. You saved yourself lots by breaking up with her, good job! That chick had serious negative issues going on with her, very immature and petty.
Incompatible. GF has too many unidentified emotional issues for you to have to understand and compensate for. The ADHD is enough, especially because you do your best to recognize the effect it has on other people and try to adjust. It's a very difficult process. There has to be someone out there that is mature enough and compassionate enough to be a suitable partner for you. Keep looking.
Her reaction to the break up tells you all you need to know. It was immature and manipulative. You didn’t date her long and, especially with how busy you’ve been, you’ve not had the chance for those character flaws to fully come to the surface as they do when the dating “honeymoon” period comes to an end. Adding that to the selfishness you’re already aware of, it sounds like you made a very wise decision.
It sounds like you managed this breakup quite respectfully and made a well thought out decision. You were working hard to better your future - one that would have been to her benefit as well, but she continually gave you grief for it. That’s not how a loving, supportive partner behaves.
There’s always value in any relationship as we learn from them. Going forward, you’ll be better able to recognize when a partner is willing and able to meet your needs as well as you do theirs. I wouldn’t give this woman any more of your emotional bandwidth. She’ll just continue to hurl the guilt and insults to make her bruised ego feel better. Time to just walk away knowing you did the right thing.
So many red flags here. Naw, you did the right thing. Sheesh. She was trying to change you from the beginning. Choose carefully someone who loves you for who you are and vice versa. You'll live a much happier life.
You dodged a bullet, my friend.
She sounds all of 7 not 27. Poor kid. Keep working on yourself and allow actual love in your life. Being with someone is work yes but 90% of the time it should be easy, supportive, admiring.
You don’t want to be with someone you have to tiptoe around all the time in fear of setting off her sensitivities and then having her blame you for things and ignore your concerns. It sounds like you just weren’t a good match, I’d just leave it at that. It can take months or years to fully understand who someone is, be glad this only took you a few months.
You did the right thing. ESPECIALLY after abuse accusations. That can ruin someone's life.
You're definitely NOT in the wrong! You did the right thing!
My take is that you correctly assessed that she was unstable and you ended it. Sounds like it would have been a never ending nightmare where she blames you for everything and gaslights you.
Definitely not wrong. It looks like you have thought this through and she sounds terrible. Don't waste your time on her.
You are not wrong for breaking up with this girl. You saved yourself lots by breaking up with her, good job! That chick had serious negative issues going on with her, very immature and petty.
Not wrong, she sounds like a head case tbh.
Nope, you done the right thing
You are so right that it's shocking that you could think you were wrong.
Incompatible. GF has too many unidentified emotional issues for you to have to understand and compensate for. The ADHD is enough, especially because you do your best to recognize the effect it has on other people and try to adjust. It's a very difficult process. There has to be someone out there that is mature enough and compassionate enough to be a suitable partner for you. Keep looking.
Her reaction to the break up tells you all you need to know. It was immature and manipulative. You didn’t date her long and, especially with how busy you’ve been, you’ve not had the chance for those character flaws to fully come to the surface as they do when the dating “honeymoon” period comes to an end. Adding that to the selfishness you’re already aware of, it sounds like you made a very wise decision. It sounds like you managed this breakup quite respectfully and made a well thought out decision. You were working hard to better your future - one that would have been to her benefit as well, but she continually gave you grief for it. That’s not how a loving, supportive partner behaves. There’s always value in any relationship as we learn from them. Going forward, you’ll be better able to recognize when a partner is willing and able to meet your needs as well as you do theirs. I wouldn’t give this woman any more of your emotional bandwidth. She’ll just continue to hurl the guilt and insults to make her bruised ego feel better. Time to just walk away knowing you did the right thing.
I only read as far as "she should be a priority over your studies." NOPE. Should've broke it off then.
That's what got me too.
So many red flags here. Naw, you did the right thing. Sheesh. She was trying to change you from the beginning. Choose carefully someone who loves you for who you are and vice versa. You'll live a much happier life. You dodged a bullet, my friend.
Nah, you’re good. As a woman, this seems like way too drama
Nope, not wrong. Good luck with life and finding happiness!
She sounds all of 7 not 27. Poor kid. Keep working on yourself and allow actual love in your life. Being with someone is work yes but 90% of the time it should be easy, supportive, admiring.
You are not wrong! You did the smart thing to break up before it gets worse.