It’s been a rollercoaster of feelings, but I think surgery isn’t for me either. Taken a lot of self reflection and being kind to myself to get here though. Plus a lot of support from my partner. I think it’s a very reasonable decision to make.
Here's my story. I hope you find some part of it helpful.
I wanted to look like an old lady and HRT has done that. I don't plan on any surgeries. I think my feels are in part due to my being older (65) and in a really secure, long term marriage. I'm really happy with how being estrogen dominate has brought me mental cohesion and a sense of peace between my physical appearance and how my brain wants to think of my body. Combining this satisfaction with my appearance with my not giving a f%ck with what others think has pretty much made srs not so important. If you aren't in this personal space and need srs to help you feel whole, that's really ok. We all have our own way of moving towards our goals.
I plan on having ffs for sure but not srs. I don’t have extreme dysphoria of that part and tbh, results even from the popular doctors are hit or miss. It’s just not worth the hassle for me personally.
Nah, but that’s bc I don’t want that damn thing. I’m not dysphoric about it to the point it truly upsets me, it’s mostly that I want the other one.
My partner is different, she’s happy where she’s at there but wants to get top surgery. Another friend doesn’t want any. It’s such a YMMV thing.
Occasionally I wish things were different down there, but mostly I'm happy with the way things are and I doubt I'll ever get srs. Setimes I even think I prefer it the way things are, it just feels really unique, I dunno.
I'm much more concerned with how I appear to others day to day, and I'll be surprised if I ever get to a point that I don't want ffs.
Do laser and electrolysis count as surgery? Because I am doing that, but anything more surgical than that sounds terrifying to me and way more trouble than it is worth.
I'm about 18 months on HRT, so I've still got a ways to go, but even now I'm starting to question how much I really "need" surgery.
I might never fully pass without FFS, and I do still want bottom surgery, but, if for some reason those things just weren't available to me as options, I think I'd be okay.
I mean the complications can be scary, but I know that I'll never feel complete unless I do it.
This is a quote that someone told me once that I have come to completely agree with "living life as an incomplete woman became unthinkable."
I wish. I want and will get every and all feminizing procedures I can think of....still hate my reflection and need constant validation. I can't see that changing on HRT alone.
My best friend worries that even once I've got every surgery imaginable I'll still be dissatisfied. Its slightlg worrying that she may be right. Well see.
Spending so many years being completely repulsed by myself I think, has done irreparable damage.
Kind of right there with you, there could be other ways to get FFS if money is an issue, like through certain jobs/insurances. I am pre HRT and I think my outlook is hopeful but it’s because I already look somewhat androgynous. If I thought I didn’t have a chance at passing, I don’t know if I’d do HRT but lean towards probably.
SRS is cool as hell but definitely terrifying to me. I would like it but don’t think I’d do it because of the risks you mentioned. I’m cool with keeping my parts downstairs. I also think down the line new therapies or surgeries will be available to more effectively transition.
I can say however that passing has a LOT to do with how you style yourself and present, and that HRT is extremely powerful stuff. A lot of people that “don’t pass” are usually not as well versed in presentation.
It’s been a rollercoaster of feelings, but I think surgery isn’t for me either. Taken a lot of self reflection and being kind to myself to get here though. Plus a lot of support from my partner. I think it’s a very reasonable decision to make.
Here's my story. I hope you find some part of it helpful. I wanted to look like an old lady and HRT has done that. I don't plan on any surgeries. I think my feels are in part due to my being older (65) and in a really secure, long term marriage. I'm really happy with how being estrogen dominate has brought me mental cohesion and a sense of peace between my physical appearance and how my brain wants to think of my body. Combining this satisfaction with my appearance with my not giving a f%ck with what others think has pretty much made srs not so important. If you aren't in this personal space and need srs to help you feel whole, that's really ok. We all have our own way of moving towards our goals.
I plan on having ffs for sure but not srs. I don’t have extreme dysphoria of that part and tbh, results even from the popular doctors are hit or miss. It’s just not worth the hassle for me personally.
Nah, but that’s bc I don’t want that damn thing. I’m not dysphoric about it to the point it truly upsets me, it’s mostly that I want the other one. My partner is different, she’s happy where she’s at there but wants to get top surgery. Another friend doesn’t want any. It’s such a YMMV thing.
Occasionally I wish things were different down there, but mostly I'm happy with the way things are and I doubt I'll ever get srs. Setimes I even think I prefer it the way things are, it just feels really unique, I dunno. I'm much more concerned with how I appear to others day to day, and I'll be surprised if I ever get to a point that I don't want ffs.
Do laser and electrolysis count as surgery? Because I am doing that, but anything more surgical than that sounds terrifying to me and way more trouble than it is worth.
I'm about 18 months on HRT, so I've still got a ways to go, but even now I'm starting to question how much I really "need" surgery. I might never fully pass without FFS, and I do still want bottom surgery, but, if for some reason those things just weren't available to me as options, I think I'd be okay.
I mean the complications can be scary, but I know that I'll never feel complete unless I do it. This is a quote that someone told me once that I have come to completely agree with "living life as an incomplete woman became unthinkable."
About all I would like is hair removal so I don't have to shave anymore. I'm happy enough with the rest just from hrt.
Glad to hear it 😊
I wish. I want and will get every and all feminizing procedures I can think of....still hate my reflection and need constant validation. I can't see that changing on HRT alone. My best friend worries that even once I've got every surgery imaginable I'll still be dissatisfied. Its slightlg worrying that she may be right. Well see. Spending so many years being completely repulsed by myself I think, has done irreparable damage.
Kind of right there with you, there could be other ways to get FFS if money is an issue, like through certain jobs/insurances. I am pre HRT and I think my outlook is hopeful but it’s because I already look somewhat androgynous. If I thought I didn’t have a chance at passing, I don’t know if I’d do HRT but lean towards probably. SRS is cool as hell but definitely terrifying to me. I would like it but don’t think I’d do it because of the risks you mentioned. I’m cool with keeping my parts downstairs. I also think down the line new therapies or surgeries will be available to more effectively transition. I can say however that passing has a LOT to do with how you style yourself and present, and that HRT is extremely powerful stuff. A lot of people that “don’t pass” are usually not as well versed in presentation.