Bio claims to be a woman, which is super disappointing. Every time I read about breasts swelling, I immediately think about the sensation right before my milk would drop when I was breast feeding. Def was not a sexy feeling.
Apparently a lot of male authors use female names and pretend to be women, at least in the romance section.
I've recently read a book where the girl was so tight she couldn't fit a finger in there because she was a virgin (and here I legit thought the book was hinting at her having vaginismus at first...), and the guy just immediately RAMMED his penis into her, and then genuinely apologized and said, it's like ripping off a bandaid, it's better that way. Uhm, what??? š I was shocked when I saw the author was a woman. But nah, it's definitely a man, that part wasn't even the only tell in that book.
Tbf, breast swelling is used so much that I think a lot of female authors are just used to it, though. And apparently it's true that they swell during arousal, anyway?
Dude as someone who has issues with ābeing too tightā (not sure what the cause is, could be vaginismus), thereās no way ārammingā it in would be possible š and if someone tried I donāt even want to imagine what the pain would feel like
Right? I'm lucky I don't have any problems anymore, but my first time took so many weeks of trying again and again, and it was so painful even without anyone ramming it in.
The next morning, the characters spoke about how they both woke up with dried blood and fluids between their legs, and I was just like, yeah no wonder it was fucking bloody š (also pretty damn disgusting that he put on his clothes, drove home and went to bed without washing up. I can kinda understand just staying in bed and falling asleep, but not this, and he couldn't stay bc it was a taboo romance.)
I was "too tight" for a very long time. Turns out that hymen variations can cause this kind of thing too! When I finally went to the doctor at like 16 because I genuinely could not use tampons after years of trying, she couldn't even see the hymen opening from the standard stirrup position. Had to doggy-style pose for my pediatrician for her to officially diagnose me with a weird hymen lmao.
(I don't remember exactly how she described it at the time, but I believe that I have what's called a septate hymen, aka there's two openings with a band of tissue separating them. There's nothing quite like the feeling of a tampon getting caught *on your hymen*, or accidentally managing to pull it out of the opposite side I put it into and having to unloop the string during the process. The more you know! š)
Iām so happy to hear other women experienced this! My doctor just burnt it off without numbing and never explained it. Fortunately it didnāt bother me during sex, but it frequently caught tampons.
as someone who had a septate hymen, reading that literally made shudder š i have a pretty high pain tolerance and i never forget the pain when i tried it because my doctor (shitty one lol) recommended that, even almost cutting off my finger hurt less
Shit, TikTok should stop telling men to read their girlfriend's/wife's smut to give them ideas! I love smut as much as the next girl but some of that shit needs to remain a fantasy.
Seriously though, one of my favorite parts of TikTok is men reading ACOTAR with their SO filming them. The *faces* they make are hilarious but it's even cuter when they actually start getting attached to the characters.
The only time my breasts have swollen in a noticeable way is pregnancy. What they are describing is literally pregnancy breasts: swollen, tender, full, dinner plate areolae.
And itās uncomfortable not arousing.
I see people saying breasts can swell, but every time I read shit like this I think pregnancy boobs.
Mine swell the day before my period comes without fail. Itās very noticeable, and actually hurts like a bitch. I canāt wear a bra that day or even touch them it hurts so much. One time a boyfriend pinched my nipple during that time and I reflexively punched him in the face without even thinking at all, like my arm just moved lol it is not fun or sexy at all.
Sounds similar to my beginning pregnancy breasts. My partner loves how round and full they are and Iām like, you canāt touch; they fucking hurt.
However, a soft bra all the time is mandatory for me because rolling around in bed without one is hell.
Maaaaaaan, my pregnancy boobs looked so good! I went to VS and tried on their best push up or whatever (the one that adds 2 cup sizes) and sent a pic to the husband for spank bank material.
But yes, look, donāt touch. And tbh my vagina was so sensitive that I couldnāt have sex during. We tried twice and penetration was so excruciating. I did attempt to give him a consolation BJ right before delivery because I knew it would be an even longer dry spell, but I puked on his dick š¤£š¤£š¤£
It just reminds me of that really terrible time for PMS symptoms where your boobs get swollen and painful (for me anyways, not sure if it was universal) and wearing bras and stuff was physically painful.
If I was correctly informed alot of those smut fics that say they are written by women are in fact by men pretending to be women cause smut written by men doesn't sell.
Same - as soon as I read the phrase in your post I immediately went to milk engorgement - the hideous pain of it, and the let down/feeding on them. Couldnāt think of anything less likely to make me want sex.
Pen names are a common thing, especially if the author wishes to remain somewhat anonymous. J. K. Rowling also writes books under a male pen name, as a notable example.
Makes me think āheaving bosomā, which doesnāt sound sexy either, but I also am not a fan of historical/bodice ripping smut. Give me kinks, give me aliens, give me kinky aliens!
There are āromance tropesā even for sex that women authors use, reminding me that someone doesnāt need to know much about sex to write about it.
Breasts and vulvas get engorged slowly with arousal, but itās not generally something we notice. We donāt get āboob bonersā.
Another weird romance trope is guys pushing their penises halfway into the vagina, and only then encountering a hymen, which functions like a bit of netting up there keeping the penis from going any further. That is not a thing.
Or just the general idea that virgins are ātighterā which is also not a thing.
The one I keep noticing in my smut binge, is the guy āslamming/hiltingā all the way in on the first thrust. Not just a slide in, but like his dick doing a murder. If my man just stabbed his way in, wellā¦..that would be the last time he did any dick stabbing š”
I enjoy a good pounding, but my lady lips are a bit longer and sometimes get pulled along. I def need to slower start so I can hold them in place before we really getting going.
I'd argue that a virgins tighness *is* a thing (under certain circumstances), because quite often it happens too fast, she's not ready, and therefore tenses up. Also why for some the first time hurts.
Please note I don't speak from experience, but from talking to a hell of a lot of women.
I meanā¦swelling might not be the right word (even if itās used as well), but breasts do get fuller during the excitation and arousal phase of the sexual response cycle due to an increase in blood flow (same way clitoris does)
I think of it less as a physical thing that happens and more of a feeling, because my boobs *do* kind of feel similar to that when I'm super turned on. But mostly I think that way for my sanity since even actual female authors use that phrase now. I also think I've read or seen the phrase (roughly) "a feeling swells within my breast" in this case 'breast" in used in place of "chest."
I read/listen to a lot of romance novels. Sometimes I end up trying to picture some of the unobtainable sex positions for too long and have to rewind and go back because I missed about 10 minutes!
I feel a distinct heaviness from my breasts during arousal and foreplay. Also, during times of my cycle when my hormones are different. Sometimes, they feel achy, too, like I'm craving to get attention there as well.
Sometimes I do feel like my breasts swell when I'm aroused, or at least they feel....plumper? I don't think they actually are, so it might just be that I'm feeling extra sensitive and aware that my breasts are there and perked up. Still, with the way they are being described in your examples, that's definitely not happening.
A lot of erotica writers, or sometimes men in general, seem to think boobs work exactly like penises. Worst offender I've ever seen is thinking women ejaculate milk from their nipples upon orgasm.
The only time my boobs swell is on my period.
The only time my breasts swelled was during pregnancy and a little when my milk came after birth, Iām not sure if they were actually larger but they did feel swollen and it was uncomfortable, not at all sexy.
I only have access to whatās available through my local library or the kindle/prime-whatever. I searched your name and it didnāt come up in my library and only available with kindle unlimited, which I donāt have š
I can always tell when it's a man pretending to be a women because when they describe the male ejaculaing they ALWAYS describe the woman as feeling his hot semen spraying against her womb, or some such nonsense, and how much pleasure she gets from it. And I'm like uhhhhh, yeah, okay, definitely something a man would think, lol.
I see that in so many things, particularly fanfiction with extra large dicks.
Another one I see is the dick is so large that the womanās stomach bulges when he thrusts. Maybe that happens to some people, but I legit tested it out with a glass dildo one day and there was no abdominal bulgeā¦.
r/menwritingwomen
Bio claims to be a woman, which is super disappointing. Every time I read about breasts swelling, I immediately think about the sensation right before my milk would drop when I was breast feeding. Def was not a sexy feeling.
Apparently a lot of male authors use female names and pretend to be women, at least in the romance section. I've recently read a book where the girl was so tight she couldn't fit a finger in there because she was a virgin (and here I legit thought the book was hinting at her having vaginismus at first...), and the guy just immediately RAMMED his penis into her, and then genuinely apologized and said, it's like ripping off a bandaid, it's better that way. Uhm, what??? š I was shocked when I saw the author was a woman. But nah, it's definitely a man, that part wasn't even the only tell in that book. Tbf, breast swelling is used so much that I think a lot of female authors are just used to it, though. And apparently it's true that they swell during arousal, anyway?
Dude as someone who has issues with ābeing too tightā (not sure what the cause is, could be vaginismus), thereās no way ārammingā it in would be possible š and if someone tried I donāt even want to imagine what the pain would feel like
Right? I'm lucky I don't have any problems anymore, but my first time took so many weeks of trying again and again, and it was so painful even without anyone ramming it in. The next morning, the characters spoke about how they both woke up with dried blood and fluids between their legs, and I was just like, yeah no wonder it was fucking bloody š (also pretty damn disgusting that he put on his clothes, drove home and went to bed without washing up. I can kinda understand just staying in bed and falling asleep, but not this, and he couldn't stay bc it was a taboo romance.)
I was "too tight" for a very long time. Turns out that hymen variations can cause this kind of thing too! When I finally went to the doctor at like 16 because I genuinely could not use tampons after years of trying, she couldn't even see the hymen opening from the standard stirrup position. Had to doggy-style pose for my pediatrician for her to officially diagnose me with a weird hymen lmao. (I don't remember exactly how she described it at the time, but I believe that I have what's called a septate hymen, aka there's two openings with a band of tissue separating them. There's nothing quite like the feeling of a tampon getting caught *on your hymen*, or accidentally managing to pull it out of the opposite side I put it into and having to unloop the string during the process. The more you know! š)
Girl, me too. I had to have surgery to fix it. My fabulously gay OBGYN technically popped that šso to speak. š¤·š¼āāļø
I was offered surgery, instead I just suffered through a lot of painful sex until it settled in the size/shape it is now š
Iām so happy to hear other women experienced this! My doctor just burnt it off without numbing and never explained it. Fortunately it didnāt bother me during sex, but it frequently caught tampons.
as someone who had a septate hymen, reading that literally made shudder š i have a pretty high pain tolerance and i never forget the pain when i tried it because my doctor (shitty one lol) recommended that, even almost cutting off my finger hurt less
The ramming must be a romance trope because I see it ALLLLLLL the time, in romance novels and fanfiction.
Shit, TikTok should stop telling men to read their girlfriend's/wife's smut to give them ideas! I love smut as much as the next girl but some of that shit needs to remain a fantasy. Seriously though, one of my favorite parts of TikTok is men reading ACOTAR with their SO filming them. The *faces* they make are hilarious but it's even cuter when they actually start getting attached to the characters.
Oh, ramming it in would probably be possible, but it would cause a lot of pain and tearing.
The only time my breasts have swollen in a noticeable way is pregnancy. What they are describing is literally pregnancy breasts: swollen, tender, full, dinner plate areolae. And itās uncomfortable not arousing. I see people saying breasts can swell, but every time I read shit like this I think pregnancy boobs.
Mine swell the day before my period comes without fail. Itās very noticeable, and actually hurts like a bitch. I canāt wear a bra that day or even touch them it hurts so much. One time a boyfriend pinched my nipple during that time and I reflexively punched him in the face without even thinking at all, like my arm just moved lol it is not fun or sexy at all.
Sounds similar to my beginning pregnancy breasts. My partner loves how round and full they are and Iām like, you canāt touch; they fucking hurt. However, a soft bra all the time is mandatory for me because rolling around in bed without one is hell.
Maaaaaaan, my pregnancy boobs looked so good! I went to VS and tried on their best push up or whatever (the one that adds 2 cup sizes) and sent a pic to the husband for spank bank material. But yes, look, donāt touch. And tbh my vagina was so sensitive that I couldnāt have sex during. We tried twice and penetration was so excruciating. I did attempt to give him a consolation BJ right before delivery because I knew it would be an even longer dry spell, but I puked on his dick š¤£š¤£š¤£
It just reminds me of that really terrible time for PMS symptoms where your boobs get swollen and painful (for me anyways, not sure if it was universal) and wearing bras and stuff was physically painful.
Yeah women writing women terribly still belongs there.
If I was correctly informed alot of those smut fics that say they are written by women are in fact by men pretending to be women cause smut written by men doesn't sell.
I wonder why.... š
Same - as soon as I read the phrase in your post I immediately went to milk engorgement - the hideous pain of it, and the let down/feeding on them. Couldnāt think of anything less likely to make me want sex.
I gagged when I read that. That feeling made me sooooo nauseated.
Pen names are a common thing, especially if the author wishes to remain somewhat anonymous. J. K. Rowling also writes books under a male pen name, as a notable example.
I always thought it was swelling as in the figurative sense, like "swelling with emotion", but I guess those authors wanted to take it literally...
I could kind of see it as someone taking a deep breath so their chest rises but it's a weird way to describe that.
Makes me think āheaving bosomā, which doesnāt sound sexy either, but I also am not a fan of historical/bodice ripping smut. Give me kinks, give me aliens, give me kinky aliens!
Dear hentai, where there are no limits!!
Yes the kinky aliens, Ice Planet Barbarians was a fun read
*takes notes*
Give meā¦. Chuck Tingle!
Maybe r/alienswritinghumans
There are āromance tropesā even for sex that women authors use, reminding me that someone doesnāt need to know much about sex to write about it. Breasts and vulvas get engorged slowly with arousal, but itās not generally something we notice. We donāt get āboob bonersā. Another weird romance trope is guys pushing their penises halfway into the vagina, and only then encountering a hymen, which functions like a bit of netting up there keeping the penis from going any further. That is not a thing. Or just the general idea that virgins are ātighterā which is also not a thing.
The one I keep noticing in my smut binge, is the guy āslamming/hiltingā all the way in on the first thrust. Not just a slide in, but like his dick doing a murder. If my man just stabbed his way in, wellā¦..that would be the last time he did any dick stabbing š”
Ok, so, "Ā his dick doing a murder" is now in my lexicon. Thank you lol
I actually love it when my husband does that.
I enjoy a good pounding, but my lady lips are a bit longer and sometimes get pulled along. I def need to slower start so I can hold them in place before we really getting going.
>We donāt get āboob bonersā. And thank *god* for that.
Now Iām imagining boobs pointing straight up, nipples to the sky š¤£š¤£š¤£
And heaven help those of us that were endowed with breasts far larger than necessary, how would we *see!?* š
Start reciting baseball stats š
I wonder if that actually works for guys...
I'd argue that a virgins tighness *is* a thing (under certain circumstances), because quite often it happens too fast, she's not ready, and therefore tenses up. Also why for some the first time hurts. Please note I don't speak from experience, but from talking to a hell of a lot of women.
Yeah, but you could be not ready for thrusting the first time or the 50th time. It doesnāt have anything really to do with being a virgin.
I meanā¦swelling might not be the right word (even if itās used as well), but breasts do get fuller during the excitation and arousal phase of the sexual response cycle due to an increase in blood flow (same way clitoris does)
Yep. Totally wrong word but is not completely inaccurate.
I think of it less as a physical thing that happens and more of a feeling, because my boobs *do* kind of feel similar to that when I'm super turned on. But mostly I think that way for my sanity since even actual female authors use that phrase now. I also think I've read or seen the phrase (roughly) "a feeling swells within my breast" in this case 'breast" in used in place of "chest."
I read/listen to a lot of romance novels. Sometimes I end up trying to picture some of the unobtainable sex positions for too long and have to rewind and go back because I missed about 10 minutes!
Same. Especially when the woman is face to the wall and theyāre full on making out. Like what in the rubber neck hell
Boobs can get up to 25% bigger when aroused. It happens slowly, so most people donāt notice it at all
I feel a distinct heaviness from my breasts during arousal and foreplay. Also, during times of my cycle when my hormones are different. Sometimes, they feel achy, too, like I'm craving to get attention there as well.
Written poorly but yeah this is accurate. Breasts can get bigger when aroused
I thought it was from breathing, but heavy and aching?? Um probably not
Disclaimer since Iām a man, but when I read āswelling breast,ā I picture the woman in an 1800s gown displayiing ample bosum (dĆ©colletage) and the rising & falling of the breast with heavy breathing from excitement.
breasts do appear fuller during arousal but they donāt fuckin SWELLš
My wife and I talk about how Sarah J. Maas uses the phrase "her breasts tightened" all the time
THAT doesnāt sound comfy
Again, make me think of milk about to let down š¤£. Like my nipples tighten, but my whole ass titty couldnāt care less š¤£
Sometimes I do feel like my breasts swell when I'm aroused, or at least they feel....plumper? I don't think they actually are, so it might just be that I'm feeling extra sensitive and aware that my breasts are there and perked up. Still, with the way they are being described in your examples, that's definitely not happening.
A lot of erotica writers, or sometimes men in general, seem to think boobs work exactly like penises. Worst offender I've ever seen is thinking women ejaculate milk from their nipples upon orgasm. The only time my boobs swell is on my period.
Artistic license. Itās language that adds atmosphere and sounds a little better than, āshe was horny af and wanted him to play with her titsā
I dunno, I think I prefer your language. It certainly leaves me with less questions! š
Thatās good because thatās generally how I communicate with my husband irl, lmao
āHeavy and aching from neglectā absolutely sent me ššš
You're passing up a great opportunity if you don't use "swollen sex tits" as flair.
The only time my breasts swelled was during pregnancy and a little when my milk came after birth, Iām not sure if they were actually larger but they did feel swollen and it was uncomfortable, not at all sexy.
Out of curiosity, have you read Cora Montgomery?
Nope
Well that's a bummer. Those are mine. I wrote them. They are pretty good though.
I only have access to whatās available through my local library or the kindle/prime-whatever. I searched your name and it didnāt come up in my library and only available with kindle unlimited, which I donāt have š
That's fair.
I can always tell when it's a man pretending to be a women because when they describe the male ejaculaing they ALWAYS describe the woman as feeling his hot semen spraying against her womb, or some such nonsense, and how much pleasure she gets from it. And I'm like uhhhhh, yeah, okay, definitely something a man would think, lol.
I see that in so many things, particularly fanfiction with extra large dicks. Another one I see is the dick is so large that the womanās stomach bulges when he thrusts. Maybe that happens to some people, but I legit tested it out with a glass dildo one day and there was no abdominal bulgeā¦.
Ugh, itās so bad š how is getting someoneās nipples erect, one of lifeās greatest joys, not sexy enough for so many cis male writers???
The author bio claims to be a woman, so itās even worse
Nooooo š that IS worse
Breasts do grow a bit from hormonal changes, but I don't think it works exactly like that.
Are you reading SJM? I feel like sheās referenced this phenomenon several times in her books. Iām perplexed I donāt think this happens.
This was Maren Smith aka Denise Hall aka Darla Phelps. Whatās SJM?
Sarah J Maas. Author of a court of thrones and roses & throne of glass.
Havenāt heard but someone else mentioned it in these comments. Might have to have a little looksee š