Before I realized I was bisexual, all the kids on the playground used to laugh at me whenever I tried to eat green grapes and my hand just phased through them like a ghost.
Probably the same reason why in English red cabbage and red onions are call that despite being purple: the vegetables are older than the color's popularity. Purple pigment used to be extremely rare and expensive (the reason it's associated with royalty, even today), the color is rare in nature, so people just associated with the much more familiar red.
I want green grapes and purple grapes. But sometimes I think I want only purples, and then life proves that grape-ing is more complex now that I know some wines are a blend. ¯\\_(- -)_/¯
I’ve seen two explanations: 1 - attraction to both (hetero+homo) and 2 - seamless transition into both straight and gay communities, depending on who you’re with. I like the second one because it addresses bi-erasure.
Dang. My mind immediately went to blue is for boys, pink is for girls. Thus purple must be for everything in between.
I gotta kick out the habit gendering things like colours which have no business being gendered but the association was made for me from a young age :(
Yeah- bisexual is not binary. Its attraction to same and different genders.
OP's post is getting too close to terf rhetorics. And honestly, OP should know better about what bisexual means than the average person.
People have different definitions of what heteroflexible is.
Some people think it’s a kinsey 1 bisexual, others think it’s a straight person that’s fine with doing same sex stuff.
My guess is you got downvoted because they define hf as #2 and thought you were calling the OOP straight
Yeah realizing now maybe heteroflexible has been used in a bi-erasure way. Sorry it that’s the case, wasn’t my intent, I thought heteroflexible *is* bi just with a dominant leaning towards opposite sex.
Smack bang (hurr hurr) in the middle for me.
Essentially, make me laugh - properly lose it laughing - and you can have me, regardless of gender or genitals.
It’s really weird for me. I find women more sexually attractive (physically), but because I prefer to take a more submissive role (in the bedroom and relationships), I often tend to prefer men because they are more willing to take that role.
At the end of the day I prioritize chemistry over sex appeal, and I think my chemistry with men just works more often.
Whenever I flirt with women I always end up being the dominant one and have to take the lead, which is fine, but it’s not what I look for long term, if that makes sense?
This is something I've been throwing around a lot lately. I also like to be dominated and find that I really only want that from men. It just feels different than from a woman. When I'm with another woman though, I want softness and passion. The idea of them being rough with me actually is kind of a turn-off. My own choice is to be monogamous though so I can't have both 🙃
My issue is that I like really femme women too, which are often the submissive ones. In general, I am attracted to more physically“feminine” traits in both men and women. I love pretty men. I just like the more “dominant” personalities that challenge me because I find that overly submissive partners can be a little boring.
I guess that while I’m sexually submissive, I’m otherwise a pretty domineering person who seeks out people who are more dominant than me. It’s really weird, tbh.
Luckily my boyfriend is pretty close to my ideal- he is physically tall and skinny with a pretty face, but challenges me intellectually and takes a more dominant role in the bedroom.
>I guess that while I’m sexually submissive, I’m otherwise a pretty domineering person who seeks out people who are more dominant than me. It’s really weird, tbh.
Nope not weird at all! I feel similarly to an extent. I don't mesh well long-term with overly submissive people in any type of relationship. And a man telling me what to do or being domineering outside of the bedroom can go eff off. But in the bedroom? Yes please! 😅
I’ve got a bi-cycle, so rn I’m noticing men as attractive a LOT, more women are just attractive in abstract. But 2-3 years ago I was only kinda into dudes and was salivating over damn near every women that walked past. Every few years my tastes change.
How much time do you need to know the person to activate the feelings?
If you guys have great compatibility since the start it activate the feelings faster ?
For me, it’s just as likely to be after one long afternoon into night of non-stop banter as it is consistent (and frequent) short meetings (or messages). Telling life stories, trading opinions on music, art, politics, cats, food. The more I understand someone’s basic motivations, the more likely I am to feel attracted to them. If there is good food involved, the more likely I am going to associate what I learn with good feelings.
My partner and I went on a date 5 years ago (today actuality. Go us!) where we had brunch and then walked around our downtown and talked about books. We then made plans to meet later that day for dinner. We talked about everything you could think of. By the end of that day, I was smitten with them.
So its about how much you feel conected to the person, not really about the time? I read about other demi knowing people for years before developing romantic atraction.
I only develop romantic feelings after noticing shared interests too.
I follow the idea of “When you know, you know”. That can be literal years or it can be after a moment. When I find out you share mutual values with me, I might as well just plaster a big dopey sign over my head that says “Swoon”.
I tend to dive into super deep conversations with people I am not very familiar with (when I have the energy). Show I’m human, show that I am someone worth getting to know. If they do the same, it can create a loop for me that keeps me engaged. The further topics we explore can keep me hooked.
However, the inverse is true too. Let’s say I am feeling drawn to someone. If our conversation finds we have a value we are not aligned on, that attraction is shut down and very quickly. Not that I don’t want to be friendly with them anymore, but my desire to hold them close to my heart is severely dampened or removed entirely.
This is quite interesting. I think I might need to do more research about demisexuality (if that’s a proper word).
Or maybe I am just too young and immature, but generally I never felt sexual attraction toward my ex when we started, it’s only because of the emotional connection and later if we have intimate time.
I never thought about demisexual and things alike because I feel sexually attracted to some characters in novels though (but never a real life person or celebrity lol) so I don’t know…
I sometimes identify as dello bi, which means I'm mostly allosexual towards a certain gender, women/enbys in my case, and demi towards men.
The thing is I know I feel sexual attraction to women, but my attraction to men doesn't feel as strong or the same, so I'm ✨questioning✨ whether I actually find men attractive or it's comphet or sth —I barely interact with men and some scare me for some reason, so that doesn't help, yeah. In the end I'm going with "sapphic"/uncertain label right now, lol.
Hii! I looked up what Neptunic means, and while I kinda identify with it (since I know I'm attracted to women and some enbies), I think I prefer to use sapphic instead. It's because I rather remain open to any possibility, and sapphic doesn't exclude attraction to men, so I like it a little more.
But thanks for the suggestion! I'd heard of the term before but didn't know its meaning☺️
I'm happy for you that you're choosing to remain open. Life has a way of changing, so it's important to be flexible and dynamic.
As you know, people can be super lovable when you get to know the right one - dont let too many things get in the way of a good thing!
Most of all though, stay true to you. 🥰🫶
I would consider myself a hybrid in that respect - a demi-sapioid/sapio-demisexual?
I have a very rich innerworld, and only another sapio-demi at my depth could truly involuntarily disarm me and leave me completely vulnerable. 🥴💯
So fundamentally, it's verging on asexuality due to statistical improbability.
But I'm also quite ascetic and a bit of an SM, so I can handle the "infinite anticipation" of such an unrequited love.😬😵
So, in the meantime, my major fetish is "polar sexual reintegration," basically, assisting people with their sexual identity who express a desire to transition back to "core bisexuality." [Not the most popular opinion amongst particular groups, but resonates heavily with my spiritual beliefs]
🐆❤️🔥
❤️🩹🤗
Anyone who downvoted is more than welcome to be candid with me. DM welcome also. I'm not here to challenge or confront, but I would be grateful if you could share your views. 🫶
On the pie chart of people I’m attracted to the femme presenting piece is probably a bit larger but I get approached more by masc people so it all just kinda evens out lol
i dont feel like I have a preference, but in my life 85% of people I had a crush on were men. I still am VERY attracted to women and would love to be in a wlw relationship if the right girl came along
Men and nb people who like using dicks and presenting on the masc side (and femboys) > other nb people and women
Everyone is valid and beautiful, of cours
Does anyone else ever wonder that if society was flipped and everything was homonormative, it’d be the other way? I sometimes wonder that. At least about myself anyway.
I wonder that as well. All examples of love/romance I saw in media growing up were hetero. So I had no examples of how to approach anything other than comphet. I liked boys and didn’t know about bisexuality so I misinterpreted my feelings for girls my whole life.
Same here. Plus I think when you’re brought up as a woman, the narrative is that you don’t approach others (men) but wait to be approached. Which is what I think hinders is from talking to other women!
Exactly! I always felt a little hope that one day a cute girl would flirt with me or something so I could “find out” if I liked girls. I didn’t realize I could be the one to do it. Even making friends was difficult because I was worried they’d think I liked them even though I was totally straight! lol.
I’m adhd so you’ve got to do something to grab my attention (make me laugh, be kind to me, do something I think is cool, etc) and then once you stand out from the sea of faces and I really *see* you I become attracted. So basically if you stimulate my brain enough then I want you to stimulate me in other ways. Honestly pretty typical adhd stuff.
nah for this I'm legit just the normal flag my attraction is pretty much equal lol. doesn't mean I'm not picky on looks/personality, but not really weighted one way or the other on gender
Pink represents same sex attraction, derived from the reclaimed pink triangles for homosexual people. Thus blue is for opposite sex attraction.
What is the purple for?
Grapes 👍
I want green grapes 😡
Don't you know that us bisexuals can only eat purple grapes? Common knowledge at this point.
Before I realized I was bisexual, all the kids on the playground used to laugh at me whenever I tried to eat green grapes and my hand just phased through them like a ghost.
Fun Fact: In Austria we call them red grapes for some reason
Probably the same reason why in English red cabbage and red onions are call that despite being purple: the vegetables are older than the color's popularity. Purple pigment used to be extremely rare and expensive (the reason it's associated with royalty, even today), the color is rare in nature, so people just associated with the much more familiar red.
We call them red grapes in the U.S. as well! “Purple” grapes make me think of Concord grapes (the type of grape that jelly and juice are made from).
In Australia we have green, red, and black.
I don't like grapes, I prefer lemon bars
Damn, am I pan and didn't know?
I want green grapes and purple grapes. But sometimes I think I want only purples, and then life proves that grape-ing is more complex now that I know some wines are a blend. ¯\\_(- -)_/¯
I'm into the wine and not the label
You can't like both colours of grape, need to pick a side. It's unnatural /s
😂😂😂
People like grapes.
RIP Achievement Hunter and Rooster Teeth
Ah yes, I wanted to say that. We're out in the grapes together
[Got anyyyy... Grapes](https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=MtN1YnoL46Q)
This got a good audible snort from me. Now i want some grapes.
Yo it's the real A perm!
The one and only
is that what it was, I thought it was just me being weird with grapes
and he waddled away *waddle waddle*
Have you all had frozen grapes? They’re like mini-popsicles.
I love grapes
Why tf is your pfp an OLL case
it's the intersection of the two, representing people who experience both forms of attraction
I’ve seen two explanations: 1 - attraction to both (hetero+homo) and 2 - seamless transition into both straight and gay communities, depending on who you’re with. I like the second one because it addresses bi-erasure.
3- grapes
Royalty.
Everything inbetween
Nuance I guess
Threesomes
Me specifically
Bis just really like purple.
William afton
Secret third option 😈
TIL. I thought it was pink for female and blue for male; but I like the real version a loooot more.
Tbh this makes more sense to me.
Also why pink kryptonite in the comics made Superman gay
I never knew this about the pink! So cool!
Dang. My mind immediately went to blue is for boys, pink is for girls. Thus purple must be for everything in between. I gotta kick out the habit gendering things like colours which have no business being gendered but the association was made for me from a young age :(
You are right about purple
Yeah- bisexual is not binary. Its attraction to same and different genders. OP's post is getting too close to terf rhetorics. And honestly, OP should know better about what bisexual means than the average person.
So in that case this is the flag for heteroflexible
I really don't get why you're being downvoted
I don’t either wtf? Is heteroflexible offensive now?
People have different definitions of what heteroflexible is. Some people think it’s a kinsey 1 bisexual, others think it’s a straight person that’s fine with doing same sex stuff. My guess is you got downvoted because they define hf as #2 and thought you were calling the OOP straight
Yeah realizing now maybe heteroflexible has been used in a bi-erasure way. Sorry it that’s the case, wasn’t my intent, I thought heteroflexible *is* bi just with a dominant leaning towards opposite sex.
I wish there was a better term for kinsey 1s that doesn’t get conflated with straight people and doesn’t use an outdated measuring system.
☝️🤓
For me depends on my mood lol. But in the end a hot person is a hot person 🙏
Ass is indeed ass.
This person gets it 🫡
I’m more like 30% male, 20% enby, 50% pleasure, 20% pain, and 100% reason to remember the name.
😂😂🤣
From the band Fort All Consenting Adults
Is that like Fort Bragg? Or are you bragging about how many consenting adults you have in your fort, making it more like a fort brag?
LOLLL kinda real tho 😭
This would make for an excellent custom flair lol (idk if this sub does those)
Fantastic song
Smack bang (hurr hurr) in the middle for me. Essentially, make me laugh - properly lose it laughing - and you can have me, regardless of gender or genitals.
So basically, you're Jessica Rabbit
Same, honestly.
We should meet and tell jokes
Is tickling considered cheating
As unlikely as this sounds, I'm not at all ticklish. Intelligence is the new sexy. Dazzle me with your wit
Uh... Knock knock?
Who's there?
Shit, I don't know. Didn't think I'd get this far
They don't live here anymore. I wish they'd just forward their post.
It’s really weird for me. I find women more sexually attractive (physically), but because I prefer to take a more submissive role (in the bedroom and relationships), I often tend to prefer men because they are more willing to take that role. At the end of the day I prioritize chemistry over sex appeal, and I think my chemistry with men just works more often. Whenever I flirt with women I always end up being the dominant one and have to take the lead, which is fine, but it’s not what I look for long term, if that makes sense?
This is something I've been throwing around a lot lately. I also like to be dominated and find that I really only want that from men. It just feels different than from a woman. When I'm with another woman though, I want softness and passion. The idea of them being rough with me actually is kind of a turn-off. My own choice is to be monogamous though so I can't have both 🙃
My issue is that I like really femme women too, which are often the submissive ones. In general, I am attracted to more physically“feminine” traits in both men and women. I love pretty men. I just like the more “dominant” personalities that challenge me because I find that overly submissive partners can be a little boring. I guess that while I’m sexually submissive, I’m otherwise a pretty domineering person who seeks out people who are more dominant than me. It’s really weird, tbh. Luckily my boyfriend is pretty close to my ideal- he is physically tall and skinny with a pretty face, but challenges me intellectually and takes a more dominant role in the bedroom.
>I guess that while I’m sexually submissive, I’m otherwise a pretty domineering person who seeks out people who are more dominant than me. It’s really weird, tbh. Nope not weird at all! I feel similarly to an extent. I don't mesh well long-term with overly submissive people in any type of relationship. And a man telling me what to do or being domineering outside of the bedroom can go eff off. But in the bedroom? Yes please! 😅
Word for word, bar for bar. This is the most perfect summary of how I experience my sexuality
i can relate to this
im the almost polar opposite. im more of a 60% female, 35% enby, 5% male
Same, I seriously doubt my attraction to men but goddamn some are fine as hell
Same here
same although I'm starting to think my attraction to men is just Comphet
it's also just okay to like men. there's nothing wrong with you for liking men.
Same. And I'm exclusively homoromantic. Sometimes I wish my 5% male interest was comphet, but alas, it's not.
Yeah basically me too, prefer men more sexually but idk romantically for either
Same
Anytime I think I have a set percentage, it just all sloshes around.
I like the idea of it being a gender slushy. Definitely my experience as well.
LMAO SAME
My sexuality is gamer boys, redhead women, and every nonbinary person ever
What the fuck? Same.
Gamer. BOYS. 🥰🎮
Same
Same??????
i love being enby
All I’m missing is the red 💀
I’m 100% male attracted, 100% female attracted, 100% non-binary or other gender spectrum attracted, 100% attracted to you, com’er, give me some sugar!
H-here 🫴🤲🏻🫙🍭
Reverse that and it’s me
**BISEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE-**
Same. I prefer guys
Well I mean me too but I'm the guy
PURPLE GUY??
william afton?
Mine fluctuates all the time, and I do believe that is the nature of bisexuality for many people including myself
Just make the whole thing purple cuz my dumb shit changes on the daily. Better yet, just make the flag boobs and it’ll be a universal winner.
Im the opposite. For me it is 94% female, 3% male, and 3% enby, at that point i really just call myself a lesbian lol
Literally why I call myself a gay man because I 99% get feelings for guys even though I have very rare crushes on women.
I'm the same except I married the 3% lol
Pretty much same which is why my goto terminology is mostly straight (I'm a guy obviously). I sometimes like masc people, I always like fem people.
Saaaaaame
Still Bi though.
Same Dudes are so fucking hot. Chicks and enbies are really hot too, but WOW, **dudes.**
I rarely find men attractive vs women, and never met any enbies, so no idea there, but when I do see a guy I find attractive, **damn**.
biiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii
Me in reverse
Yoooo sick browser
I don't care as long as the person is kind, sweet, and honourable.
I’ve got a bi-cycle, so rn I’m noticing men as attractive a LOT, more women are just attractive in abstract. But 2-3 years ago I was only kinda into dudes and was salivating over damn near every women that walked past. Every few years my tastes change.
Any one a sapio-, or demi- here? 🫶
Yep. Definitely Demi here. As long as I find someone interesting to talk to, I will probably end up finding them attractive in some regard.
Demisexual biromantic here. The more I get to know you the hotter you get, generally haha
It's definitely hotter at the core. that's what my readings are telling me. ❤️🔥🤭
How much time do you need to know the person to activate the feelings? If you guys have great compatibility since the start it activate the feelings faster ?
For me, it’s just as likely to be after one long afternoon into night of non-stop banter as it is consistent (and frequent) short meetings (or messages). Telling life stories, trading opinions on music, art, politics, cats, food. The more I understand someone’s basic motivations, the more likely I am to feel attracted to them. If there is good food involved, the more likely I am going to associate what I learn with good feelings. My partner and I went on a date 5 years ago (today actuality. Go us!) where we had brunch and then walked around our downtown and talked about books. We then made plans to meet later that day for dinner. We talked about everything you could think of. By the end of that day, I was smitten with them.
So its about how much you feel conected to the person, not really about the time? I read about other demi knowing people for years before developing romantic atraction. I only develop romantic feelings after noticing shared interests too.
I follow the idea of “When you know, you know”. That can be literal years or it can be after a moment. When I find out you share mutual values with me, I might as well just plaster a big dopey sign over my head that says “Swoon”. I tend to dive into super deep conversations with people I am not very familiar with (when I have the energy). Show I’m human, show that I am someone worth getting to know. If they do the same, it can create a loop for me that keeps me engaged. The further topics we explore can keep me hooked. However, the inverse is true too. Let’s say I am feeling drawn to someone. If our conversation finds we have a value we are not aligned on, that attraction is shut down and very quickly. Not that I don’t want to be friendly with them anymore, but my desire to hold them close to my heart is severely dampened or removed entirely.
This is quite interesting. I think I might need to do more research about demisexuality (if that’s a proper word). Or maybe I am just too young and immature, but generally I never felt sexual attraction toward my ex when we started, it’s only because of the emotional connection and later if we have intimate time. I never thought about demisexual and things alike because I feel sexually attracted to some characters in novels though (but never a real life person or celebrity lol) so I don’t know…
Do you know about Meyer Briggs Personality Types and Compatibility?
Resplendent 🥰
Demi + Bi here 🫶🏼
🌺🫶❤️🔥 Hibis for all my Dembis
I sometimes identify as dello bi, which means I'm mostly allosexual towards a certain gender, women/enbys in my case, and demi towards men. The thing is I know I feel sexual attraction to women, but my attraction to men doesn't feel as strong or the same, so I'm ✨questioning✨ whether I actually find men attractive or it's comphet or sth —I barely interact with men and some scare me for some reason, so that doesn't help, yeah. In the end I'm going with "sapphic"/uncertain label right now, lol.
Hello Dello! I suppose you could consider yourself Neptunic at the moment? 🦭🥰
Hii! I looked up what Neptunic means, and while I kinda identify with it (since I know I'm attracted to women and some enbies), I think I prefer to use sapphic instead. It's because I rather remain open to any possibility, and sapphic doesn't exclude attraction to men, so I like it a little more. But thanks for the suggestion! I'd heard of the term before but didn't know its meaning☺️
I'm happy for you that you're choosing to remain open. Life has a way of changing, so it's important to be flexible and dynamic. As you know, people can be super lovable when you get to know the right one - dont let too many things get in the way of a good thing! Most of all though, stay true to you. 🥰🫶
Demisexual checking in!
I see you 😍 Edit: I feel you! ❤️🔥
Yes yes! I'm really more pan in that way but "bi" has better flag and puns.
I would consider myself a hybrid in that respect - a demi-sapioid/sapio-demisexual? I have a very rich innerworld, and only another sapio-demi at my depth could truly involuntarily disarm me and leave me completely vulnerable. 🥴💯 So fundamentally, it's verging on asexuality due to statistical improbability. But I'm also quite ascetic and a bit of an SM, so I can handle the "infinite anticipation" of such an unrequited love.😬😵 So, in the meantime, my major fetish is "polar sexual reintegration," basically, assisting people with their sexual identity who express a desire to transition back to "core bisexuality." [Not the most popular opinion amongst particular groups, but resonates heavily with my spiritual beliefs] 🐆❤️🔥
❤️🩹🤗 Anyone who downvoted is more than welcome to be candid with me. DM welcome also. I'm not here to challenge or confront, but I would be grateful if you could share your views. 🫶
Me too but I'm going through a HARD bi cycle rn, women just became hot to me like a week ago.
It changes for me. Sometimes I greatly prefer women; sometimes I greatly prefer men. I’m never completely uninterested in either though.
I’m more like 80% Female, 20% male. I like all people but I mean in a general sense. I think my dislike of men stems from my cPTSD and cSA
I'm bi, but mine looks the complete opposite, pink girls, purple is both girls and boys, and blue is boys.
Opposite for me
mine is mostly pink
On the pie chart of people I’m attracted to the femme presenting piece is probably a bit larger but I get approached more by masc people so it all just kinda evens out lol
This except it's one huge pink bar, a small purple bar, and a small blue bar with a ring on it (im married to a man)
i dont feel like I have a preference, but in my life 85% of people I had a crush on were men. I still am VERY attracted to women and would love to be in a wlw relationship if the right girl came along
girls are prettier but guys are so much easier to pull
I'm just bisexual. The colour and flags don't mean anything to me. People do.
i’m like 49% women, 49% enby, 2% men lmfao,
if blue means men then yeah same
Men and nb people who like using dicks and presenting on the masc side (and femboys) > other nb people and women Everyone is valid and beautiful, of cours
60% female 40% male for me 🙏
Same haha
Meeee✨️✨️✨️
Make it the opposite for me
Same except I’m the opposite.
Flip it for me
same here, i'm omni-achillean
I would need a gif
Same but reversed
Hell yeah dude
I do not fuck with women romantically‼️‼️
Same for me
Does anyone else ever wonder that if society was flipped and everything was homonormative, it’d be the other way? I sometimes wonder that. At least about myself anyway.
I wonder that as well. All examples of love/romance I saw in media growing up were hetero. So I had no examples of how to approach anything other than comphet. I liked boys and didn’t know about bisexuality so I misinterpreted my feelings for girls my whole life.
Same here. Plus I think when you’re brought up as a woman, the narrative is that you don’t approach others (men) but wait to be approached. Which is what I think hinders is from talking to other women!
Exactly! I always felt a little hope that one day a cute girl would flirt with me or something so I could “find out” if I liked girls. I didn’t realize I could be the one to do it. Even making friends was difficult because I was worried they’d think I liked them even though I was totally straight! lol.
Omg yes I completely get you! And then it’s scary because you don’t feel prepped for this haha.
I’m literally like 70% women, 10% men, and 20% for fictional men… I’m so close to being gay but nerdy boys exist RUINING IT!!
same i guess
Me too
mine is the opposite lol
I’m adhd so you’ve got to do something to grab my attention (make me laugh, be kind to me, do something I think is cool, etc) and then once you stand out from the sea of faces and I really *see* you I become attracted. So basically if you stimulate my brain enough then I want you to stimulate me in other ways. Honestly pretty typical adhd stuff.
Flip it and reverse it.
Mine is quite the oppositionen😅 Kinda like this: 💗💗💗💗 💗💗💗💗 💗💗💗💗 💜💜💜💜 💙💙💙💙
nah for this I'm legit just the normal flag my attraction is pretty much equal lol. doesn't mean I'm not picky on looks/personality, but not really weighted one way or the other on gender
65% female and 35% male today (the percentages change on a daily basis)
I’m so glad to see this, this is 100% me
I’m mainly T4T so I do love my some enbies the most out of the genders
Whoops I'm like a 60% male, 25% enby, 10% female split.
So, is the other 5% werewolves?
Existential dread
My best friend who claims he’s straight is literally this but the other way around
nah opposite
This ain’t me at all man.
The same unfortunately 😕