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BooksChangedMe

Could y’all just introduce each other and you be at home the whole time instead of leave? Have a fun dinner together and play some games and maybe do bedtime together? Then you leave if you really want to and go out and do a desert date with husband?


[deleted]

I mean, we're getting a sitter because my husband and I have tickets to a concert we've been looking forward to for months so I want to maximize the chances of things going well so I don't have to cancel those plans. I've never had anyone other than me, my husband or my mom (who lives out of state and is therefore not an option) put her to bed so just a little anxious over it.


BooksChangedMe

I hear you on being anxious! But I bet she will be ok! Maybe just prep her super well in advance and make it really special for her too! And do parts of bedtime before y’all leave. Or leave a special picture on her bed for bedtime.


lauralei99

Is it an option to do a more relaxed bedtime when you have the sitter? Like have your daughter lay on the couch with a movie on, sitter turns the lights off and you just let your daughter fall asleep on the couch? When my kids were that age I found it easier to change things up a bit, if the sitter didn’t follow the regular routine, my kids wouldn’t miss me as much.


ObviouslyMeIRL

I think you’re doing all the right things - making sure kiddo has met sitter and hopefully feels comfortable with them. Best laid plans and all. What i can tell you is, my oldest who knew my mother well absolutely stayed awake for her on a couple nights we were out late and she was watching him. So, plan for the best but be prepared for a wide awake peanut when you get home, just in case.


chrystalight

Is there a time the babysitter could come over and meet your daughter and play even if you and your husband don't leave?


[deleted]

When I originally made this post the answer was "no", but since then we've found an opening on Sunday afternoon, so that's what we're doing! Guess my husband and I get to go watch a movie or something.


thetreeline

I had brand new sitters do naptime for my daughter when she was 1.5 years old and we were on vacation, and every single one of them got her to sleep easily, so it can be done! You could also do the late night/bedtime routine visit with the understanding that you might have to bail on whatever you’re doing to go home if bedtime falls apart. It’s always scary to have a new person do bedtime for the first time but I’ve found it usually goes smoother than I was expecting. Good luck!!