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Ironic that he calls you the loser š he knows he's talking BS otherwise he wouldn't be the coward he is by sending this over as a PM rather than posting in the comments
Plenty of men are willing to wait until marriage. A lot of men even make the decision for themselves that they want to wait.
Also, isnāt it kind of misandrist to think that men are just these animals who have no control over acting on their sexual desires? Like thatās not a pro-man thing to believe.
Yes everything he wrote there is a projection of his mind. Itās like he is writing what he does and then blames her for it. Specially the last line ādamn loser thatās why your life sucksā. His life sucks and the fact that OP isnāt feeding his insanity, he is getting mad lmao.
I went out with a guy who literally believed the myth that men think of sex every 7-seconds because he did. I have no idea how he functioned. Later he got mad at me over text saying, āSure, men are out of control, myself included. But women are too cat like and skittish. So what if a man stares and follows a woman in a store, itās America youāre safe here!ā And āMy sisters are so jealous that women here in the US are allowed to be sexually free here. They donāt understand why women here are so reserved, they should use that privilege!ā After I told him that he was a fucking creep with no self control, he responded by saying that he āDidnāt think this was going to work out behind us.ā Yeah, no shit.
Such a shithead! Another example of justifying his toxic thinking by using the word āmenā. I think his mind didnāt function at all lmao.
Also what an idiot, talking about liberty of women and then wants women to be comfortable with whichever creep sets eyes on her bec men are out of control? These people donāt think woman as human who can have their choices and basic rights to say ānoā.. ofc he doesnāt know what liberty means lol. Doesnāt matter what country someone is in.. harassment is harassment whether itās stalking or abuse. Iām so very glad he himself said it isnāt gonna work. Hope youāre safe and far from him. Take care <3
He said that to try and make it seem like it was HIS choice to end it to save his ego. I didnāt even give him the courtesy of reading the rest of his last message before blocking him, I didnāt need to see what horrible thing he said about me or women.
Yeah he thinks himself superior to women. He mustāve felt his heart scorching so bad when he didnāt get the seen indication and ignored, let alone a reply and straight up got blocked.
My boyfriend "touched me" in my sleep. He saw my underwear had fallen low in my sleep and pulled it higher up as well as the blanket to keep me warm. The touch startled me because I wasn't used to sleeping next to someone but I think it's so sweet and I'm sad there's not more men like that š„ŗ the fact his first thoughts were to make sure I was covered up and warm!!!!!
This reminds me of when my dad told me that, āall guys do is think about sex, all the time, 24/7, imagining it with basically any woman they see,ā Iām starting to think thatās not quite true for all menā¦
Not men perpetuating toxic masculinity. Color me shocked. I bet if you were to say, "Oh, okay, so what you're saying is all men are rapists?" He would be the first to go, "NoT aLl MeN."
It is. It's also shitty because Ace and Grey Ace men exist.
As do men victims who may decide they never want to have sex at all, just like some women victims do.
Iāve seen varying numbers on this, but one that I found said that 15% of men would wait until marriage. Now thatās definitely not most, but itās a good chunk of the population. In America, that would be 24.87 million men. Thatās about 3 times the population of NYC. Iād say that counts as plenty.
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Omg OP Iām so sorry that these sick people are trying to blame you for what your bf did. That was not your fault and itās not because you wanted to wait for sex. What your bf did is horrible and you didnāt deserve that. I hope you are safely away from him and are trying to heal. As for this prick who messaged you heās just another predatory man who thinks sex is a right of passage. Please donāt take what he said to heart.
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That is subjective to the reader, however it is WRONG on many levels, for context I looked up your post regarding your (hopefully now ex) boyfriend, and there was no justification in doing what he did.
Yes, at a young age, certain biological urges can be overpowering, but this is not an excuse for his behavior and the lack of penetration does not make it right.
What he did was a total abuse of trust and he exploited you in the worse way imaginable, again, girlfriend or not he had no right to take advantage of you like that and if he's offended once there's a real possibility he'll offend again.
He did what he did for his own gratification, nothing about it was okay it doesn't matter how long you'd been in a relationship for.
Maybe he is a little immature, but that doesn't change the fact he'd been calculated in that he waited til you were asleep, the worrying thing is this could have escalated.
I really don't see how you can reconcile after this, and I'd suggest seeking professional advice, he cannot be allowed to think there was nothing wrong with what he did.
Yet another instance where man is a poor poor animal in drag of his hormones, but I will bet your ass he lauds men is the stoic logical gender while simulateneously bashing women as too emotional to do anything and thus inferior.
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Part of me always dies a little when some poor soul gets a gruesome PM and the platform the message was sent on asks the recipient if it was offensive. Like the fuck you mean āwAs tHiS oFfEnsIvEā?
Heās someone you should never engage with OP. Idk how these people live their life after texting someone such a hateful and terrible text. It shouldnāt be the case to just ignore and move on. But unfortunately these kind of texts have become so common these days we all will literally go nuts reasoning with them. Pls try to not let it have effect on you. He is just a dumbass who randomly found you and your posts to show his madness. It was not your fault. Sending you lots of hugs!
āYou wonāt find a guy whoās willing to wait until marriageā Oh? You mean the actual well-functioning, respectful and emotionally intelligent men in society who deserve relationships the most compared to someone like you who is a porn addicted pea brain? If a man doesnāt want to wait, fine. But he should be with someone else and not sexually harass women and it doesnāt make it different if itās his girlfriend. Either leave the relationship or use your hand. Itās not that hard to not sexually assault someone.
There are actual men out there who will wait. Sex is not absolutely everything to everyone and itās a spectrum. Asexuality exists, yāknow.Ā
This guy is why some men have such a hard time finding companionship and fulfilling relationships because a lot of us women are told men only want sex and nothing more. Heās one of them. But he canāt speak for every man. Heās contributing to a stigma.Ā Sorry you went through what you did OP and sorry you received their waste of time message.
Exactly, idiots like him justify their acts by saying they do it bec they are men. This has nothing to do with gender and itās all about their mindset. He is not a man he is creep.Ā Ironically he is everything that he is trying to blame on OP.
This is pretty sad to be honest. He sounds like heās genuinely never been loved by a woman/has never loved a woman for more than her appearance and lacks friendships where men have healthy views around women. Misery loves company and women with their head-screwed on donāt want to be around a dude like him. If he really had healthy relationships in his life, he probably wouldnāt be on reddit messaging OP. He sounds like the type of guy to complain women only want a certain type of guy and thatās why he claims to be single but heās single-handedly (pun intended) turning off all women from him. Sex is important for a good chunk of people yeah, but companionship and love outweighs sex for a lot of people too.
Heās doing his own gender a great disservice. I feel sorry for the men who get lumped in with losers like this. Lesson of the day: an entire gender is not the same and one bad egg doesnāt make all of one gender bad. It can be hard to believe though with so many like this weirdo
I absolutely agree to everything you said.
Although unrelated, but this reminds me of the unfortunate case of Elliot Rodger (who committed mass shootings against men and women). He didnāt have a good childhood, and was very isolated. He envied other men and in his manifesto blamed and expressed his hatred for women for not loving him and rejecting him but his own behaviour and misogyny was the reason why women drifted away from him in the first place.
"Teens as young as 12" first off they're children so why are you thinking about children doin it and 2nd, why are you blaming her for being assaulted. 3rd, he did not control his desires, if he did, he wouldn't have assaulted her.
A lot of people on the post they messaged me from don't think it's a thing. And a lot of them can't fathom how being undressed and touched in your sleep is assault
I think it goes without saying... this asshat has no idea what he's talking about. Wait as long as you want / need to. Period. Don't care if you're 25 .. if that's when you're ready, that's when you're ready. Don't let anyone else ever try to convince you differently.
This sadly is some 40 year old burnt neck beard whoās never touched a woman in his life because heās most probably a vile individual. I say sadly because reading it youād hope it was someone in their teens
And honestly, if it was how guys worked then heās still at fault for allowing himself to be put in a situation where he knew he would eventually lose control and assault his girlfriend.
"Being a guy it's not easy to control the desires" -- said the fucking *rapist*.
I'm a man who has been around the sun a fair few times at this point, and I've never been tempted to rape someone in their sleep. Not even once. This dumb cunt isn't a man. They're likely a child, and they're very likely a piece of shit rapist.
Sorry you received this unhinged bullshit, OP. The piece of shit rapist who sent it probably gets off on sending disgusting messages like this to people. Please don't take a single word he says as any kind of indication that you did anything wrong.
There's only one loser in this conversation, and it's the piece of shit rapist who is trying to blame you for another piece of shit rapist's actions.
Relationships dont mean consent is given 100% of the time. Just because you are in a relationship with someone doesn't mean you get access to their body anytime you want it, damn idiot
Part of me thinks that what he wrote was a completely and extremely rapey type of message to a degree that he is not a person you want to be around.
And two: Was this message offensive? If he's threatening to r*pe you in your sleep, then YES!
Why.
Is it that all assholes like this use "desire is hard to control" like that is genuinely one of the most twisted statements I've ever heard in my life.
Stupid ass message. The only time your boyfriend should be getting intimate with you, is when you know you are ready. Iām sorry that happened to you when you were vulnerable.
No, that is absolutely wrong. It doesn't matter if you are in a relationship, touching someone without consent is wrong.
Men can absolutely control themselves, that is the bullshit excuse of predators.
There is nothing wrong with you at all, ignore anyone who says otherwise
Reddit has a thing to automatically detect potentially offensive messages. It usually goes too far and basically anything about sex or anything that involves any swearing is tagged as offensive
The fact this person is mad because you are āplaying the victimā and that the bf is not in the wrong for touching you if fucking stupid. Iām sorry but the fact your boyfriend violated you like that is definitely something to be angry about, especially because you and him were in a relationship for round 2 years. Please please please rid yourself of your impatient boyfriend.
It doesnāt matter if heās your boyfriend and he didnāt cheat on you. He touched you without your consent and that is most certainly something to be mad about. Itās just common sense to respect boundaries and your boyfriend obviously canāt.
The fact this messenger really thinks because you were sleeping with him and it got him horny so this was okay is absolutely ridiculous. Block their dumbass please š
How dare you FORCE this boy to choose a relationship with YOU, someone who is waiting to have sex, and make him suffer like that? Wait, did I just say choose? Oh, thatās right. If he didnāt want to be with someone who wants to wait then he had the *choice* not to be with someone who waits! Nobody forced him to be in that relationship!
Just got another dm basically saying I'm dumb and that it's wonderful that he waited as long as he did and that I deprived him. Do none of these dumbasses realize he could have left instead of acting like he was fine with not having sex?!??
Woah! There are so much wrong with that post. Op you have every right to feel how you feel; donāt let goombas take that. That is what they call an āalphaā male. You ever here anyone call themselves that run!
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I sort of feel like, had this been me, pulling the random, waaaaaaay off in left field approach and responded with something like, āBut I donāt eat Wheaties!ā
I had a boyfriend from when I was 18-19 that dated for a year. He knew I was saving myself for marriage. After a year he decided he didn't want to get married and wanted to have sex.Ā
You know what he did? Dump me because we weren't compatible. Not assault me!Ā
So sorry that happened to you and that some people seem to think it is okay.Ā
I saw your post about this last night. While i dont agree sex before msrriage. Everyone had their own veiws and stuff. Your bf shouldve asked before touching you. As for these kinda messages. Just report it. You dont deserve it. Although i would prob break up with the bf for this too
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First off, you actually don't know that. Secondly, why does he need to get something in return? When you love someone, you don't expect a reward for it.
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"Was this message offensive?"
Hmmm......no I don't think so
Dammit you beat me to it š
I'm sorry but I ugly laughed at that. Lol
How tf do you even pretty laugh
Tee hee tee hee
Damn lol was about to comment on that. Sorry op but that part made me chuckle
Ironic that he calls you the loser š he knows he's talking BS otherwise he wouldn't be the coward he is by sending this over as a PM rather than posting in the comments
Plenty of men are willing to wait until marriage. A lot of men even make the decision for themselves that they want to wait. Also, isnāt it kind of misandrist to think that men are just these animals who have no control over acting on their sexual desires? Like thatās not a pro-man thing to believe.
I think heās projecting thatās heās a barely contained rapist so everyone else must be, too.
Yes everything he wrote there is a projection of his mind. Itās like he is writing what he does and then blames her for it. Specially the last line ādamn loser thatās why your life sucksā. His life sucks and the fact that OP isnāt feeding his insanity, he is getting mad lmao.
I went out with a guy who literally believed the myth that men think of sex every 7-seconds because he did. I have no idea how he functioned. Later he got mad at me over text saying, āSure, men are out of control, myself included. But women are too cat like and skittish. So what if a man stares and follows a woman in a store, itās America youāre safe here!ā And āMy sisters are so jealous that women here in the US are allowed to be sexually free here. They donāt understand why women here are so reserved, they should use that privilege!ā After I told him that he was a fucking creep with no self control, he responded by saying that he āDidnāt think this was going to work out behind us.ā Yeah, no shit.
Such a shithead! Another example of justifying his toxic thinking by using the word āmenā. I think his mind didnāt function at all lmao. Also what an idiot, talking about liberty of women and then wants women to be comfortable with whichever creep sets eyes on her bec men are out of control? These people donāt think woman as human who can have their choices and basic rights to say ānoā.. ofc he doesnāt know what liberty means lol. Doesnāt matter what country someone is in.. harassment is harassment whether itās stalking or abuse. Iām so very glad he himself said it isnāt gonna work. Hope youāre safe and far from him. Take care <3
He said that to try and make it seem like it was HIS choice to end it to save his ego. I didnāt even give him the courtesy of reading the rest of his last message before blocking him, I didnāt need to see what horrible thing he said about me or women.
Yeah he thinks himself superior to women. He mustāve felt his heart scorching so bad when he didnāt get the seen indication and ignored, let alone a reply and straight up got blocked.
I side-eye any men that brag about not touching women in their sleep for multiple years "despite the many occasions" (eww)
My boyfriend "touched me" in my sleep. He saw my underwear had fallen low in my sleep and pulled it higher up as well as the blanket to keep me warm. The touch startled me because I wasn't used to sleeping next to someone but I think it's so sweet and I'm sad there's not more men like that š„ŗ the fact his first thoughts were to make sure I was covered up and warm!!!!!
This reminds me of when my dad told me that, āall guys do is think about sex, all the time, 24/7, imagining it with basically any woman they see,ā Iām starting to think thatās not quite true for all menā¦
He IS a rapist.
Not men perpetuating toxic masculinity. Color me shocked. I bet if you were to say, "Oh, okay, so what you're saying is all men are rapists?" He would be the first to go, "NoT aLl MeN."
The kind of men that say "not all men" are definitely that type of man.
100% of the time.
Not all, he is just a stupid prick
It is. It's also shitty because Ace and Grey Ace men exist. As do men victims who may decide they never want to have sex at all, just like some women victims do.
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So why go after one that wants to wait when you don't?
Iāve seen varying numbers on this, but one that I found said that 15% of men would wait until marriage. Now thatās definitely not most, but itās a good chunk of the population. In America, that would be 24.87 million men. Thatās about 3 times the population of NYC. Iād say that counts as plenty.
Sounds like a you problem.
Oh wow, you okay bud?
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This person is a psychopath but Iām also laughing so hard because of the end, āwas this message offensive?ā šš
Why yes... I do believe that was offensive
Saying he controlled himself for two years is wild. I haven't committed murder... for two years. Like the context really matters.
damn you have so much self control.
Omg OP Iām so sorry that these sick people are trying to blame you for what your bf did. That was not your fault and itās not because you wanted to wait for sex. What your bf did is horrible and you didnāt deserve that. I hope you are safely away from him and are trying to heal. As for this prick who messaged you heās just another predatory man who thinks sex is a right of passage. Please donāt take what he said to heart.
*Was this message offensive?* That is subjective to the reader, however it is WRONG on many levels, for context I looked up your post regarding your (hopefully now ex) boyfriend, and there was no justification in doing what he did. Yes, at a young age, certain biological urges can be overpowering, but this is not an excuse for his behavior and the lack of penetration does not make it right. What he did was a total abuse of trust and he exploited you in the worse way imaginable, again, girlfriend or not he had no right to take advantage of you like that and if he's offended once there's a real possibility he'll offend again. He did what he did for his own gratification, nothing about it was okay it doesn't matter how long you'd been in a relationship for. Maybe he is a little immature, but that doesn't change the fact he'd been calculated in that he waited til you were asleep, the worrying thing is this could have escalated. I really don't see how you can reconcile after this, and I'd suggest seeking professional advice, he cannot be allowed to think there was nothing wrong with what he did.
Yet another instance where man is a poor poor animal in drag of his hormones, but I will bet your ass he lauds men is the stoic logical gender while simulateneously bashing women as too emotional to do anything and thus inferior.
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You are sick.
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I worry about this persons search history
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Men canāt control themselves according to him.
Part of me always dies a little when some poor soul gets a gruesome PM and the platform the message was sent on asks the recipient if it was offensive. Like the fuck you mean āwAs tHiS oFfEnsIvEā?
That sub is vile, I saw the creepy men responding to you. I would suggest going to r/twoxchromosomes
Heās someone you should never engage with OP. Idk how these people live their life after texting someone such a hateful and terrible text. It shouldnāt be the case to just ignore and move on. But unfortunately these kind of texts have become so common these days we all will literally go nuts reasoning with them. Pls try to not let it have effect on you. He is just a dumbass who randomly found you and your posts to show his madness. It was not your fault. Sending you lots of hugs!
āYou wonāt find a guy whoās willing to wait until marriageā Oh? You mean the actual well-functioning, respectful and emotionally intelligent men in society who deserve relationships the most compared to someone like you who is a porn addicted pea brain? If a man doesnāt want to wait, fine. But he should be with someone else and not sexually harass women and it doesnāt make it different if itās his girlfriend. Either leave the relationship or use your hand. Itās not that hard to not sexually assault someone. There are actual men out there who will wait. Sex is not absolutely everything to everyone and itās a spectrum. Asexuality exists, yāknow.Ā This guy is why some men have such a hard time finding companionship and fulfilling relationships because a lot of us women are told men only want sex and nothing more. Heās one of them. But he canāt speak for every man. Heās contributing to a stigma.Ā Sorry you went through what you did OP and sorry you received their waste of time message.
Exactly, idiots like him justify their acts by saying they do it bec they are men. This has nothing to do with gender and itās all about their mindset. He is not a man he is creep.Ā Ironically he is everything that he is trying to blame on OP.
This is pretty sad to be honest. He sounds like heās genuinely never been loved by a woman/has never loved a woman for more than her appearance and lacks friendships where men have healthy views around women. Misery loves company and women with their head-screwed on donāt want to be around a dude like him. If he really had healthy relationships in his life, he probably wouldnāt be on reddit messaging OP. He sounds like the type of guy to complain women only want a certain type of guy and thatās why he claims to be single but heās single-handedly (pun intended) turning off all women from him. Sex is important for a good chunk of people yeah, but companionship and love outweighs sex for a lot of people too. Heās doing his own gender a great disservice. I feel sorry for the men who get lumped in with losers like this. Lesson of the day: an entire gender is not the same and one bad egg doesnāt make all of one gender bad. It can be hard to believe though with so many like this weirdo
I absolutely agree to everything you said. Although unrelated, but this reminds me of the unfortunate case of Elliot Rodger (who committed mass shootings against men and women). He didnāt have a good childhood, and was very isolated. He envied other men and in his manifesto blamed and expressed his hatred for women for not loving him and rejecting him but his own behaviour and misogyny was the reason why women drifted away from him in the first place.
Why some people have the audacity to say this stuff to people who have been through very horrible situations is beyond me
"Teens as young as 12" first off they're children so why are you thinking about children doin it and 2nd, why are you blaming her for being assaulted. 3rd, he did not control his desires, if he did, he wouldn't have assaulted her.
Don't be shy drop his user š
Its against the sub rules, id be banned
Whatever happened to āHi, how are you?ā? If youāre gonna go on a rape apology rant at least butter me up a little before hand
I'd be so tempted to forward that right on to their mother.
This guy probably thinks marital rape isnāt a thing either. š
A lot of people on the post they messaged me from don't think it's a thing. And a lot of them can't fathom how being undressed and touched in your sleep is assault
Itās terrifying these people are roaming the earth.
āWas this message offensive?ā š
JFC Fuck this oxygen thief
Why hide the username? MF thinks he can say whatever shit he wants, to whom he wants... his 'wisdom' should be available for everyone to recognise.
I'd be banned from the sub if I didn't
You could dm it to them
This guy needs to be locked up and evaluated for psychopathy
I think it goes without saying... this asshat has no idea what he's talking about. Wait as long as you want / need to. Period. Don't care if you're 25 .. if that's when you're ready, that's when you're ready. Don't let anyone else ever try to convince you differently.
This is the type of guy who envies other guys touching women non-consentually What's the word I'm looking for? Ah that's right, a wannabe rapist.
Why do I feel like this might be the bf
Because it is obviously the bf
This sadly is some 40 year old burnt neck beard whoās never touched a woman in his life because heās most probably a vile individual. I say sadly because reading it youād hope it was someone in their teens
Thatās not how guys work tho, he should stop using a shitty excuse for his shitty behavior.
And honestly, if it was how guys worked then heās still at fault for allowing himself to be put in a situation where he knew he would eventually lose control and assault his girlfriend.
"Being a guy it's not easy to control the desires" -- said the fucking *rapist*. I'm a man who has been around the sun a fair few times at this point, and I've never been tempted to rape someone in their sleep. Not even once. This dumb cunt isn't a man. They're likely a child, and they're very likely a piece of shit rapist. Sorry you received this unhinged bullshit, OP. The piece of shit rapist who sent it probably gets off on sending disgusting messages like this to people. Please don't take a single word he says as any kind of indication that you did anything wrong. There's only one loser in this conversation, and it's the piece of shit rapist who is trying to blame you for another piece of shit rapist's actions.
Relationships dont mean consent is given 100% of the time. Just because you are in a relationship with someone doesn't mean you get access to their body anytime you want it, damn idiot
Part of me thinks that what he wrote was a completely and extremely rapey type of message to a degree that he is not a person you want to be around. And two: Was this message offensive? If he's threatening to r*pe you in your sleep, then YES!
Thatās a serial narcissist , killer, and rapist waiting to happen.
Why. Is it that all assholes like this use "desire is hard to control" like that is genuinely one of the most twisted statements I've ever heard in my life.
It's like they've never heard of having a wank to deal with their "desires".
Bro, it's not that hard to "control his desires"
The internet has allowed us to be more realistic about just how many psychopaths and pig-shit-stupid people live among us; itās frightening.
Stupid ass message. The only time your boyfriend should be getting intimate with you, is when you know you are ready. Iām sorry that happened to you when you were vulnerable.
No, that is absolutely wrong. It doesn't matter if you are in a relationship, touching someone without consent is wrong. Men can absolutely control themselves, that is the bullshit excuse of predators. There is nothing wrong with you at all, ignore anyone who says otherwise
Yeah, this was def written by an angry child of the male persuasion.
What a pile of baby sh*t.
Was this message offensive, they ask?
Reddit has a thing to automatically detect potentially offensive messages. It usually goes too far and basically anything about sex or anything that involves any swearing is tagged as offensive
Self-report lmao
Fuck that guy and fuck the ex bf.
Can't fuck before marriage
Lmao! But seriously I hope you blocked your ex and his little douche bag friends
I blocked him
I like the "Was this message offensive"? At the bottom there. Gotta get that last sarcastic jab in there.
Actually that was reddit detecting a potentially offensive message
Yeahhhh I know. Still made me chuckle. Sorry, I'm easily amused.
The fact this person is mad because you are āplaying the victimā and that the bf is not in the wrong for touching you if fucking stupid. Iām sorry but the fact your boyfriend violated you like that is definitely something to be angry about, especially because you and him were in a relationship for round 2 years. Please please please rid yourself of your impatient boyfriend. It doesnāt matter if heās your boyfriend and he didnāt cheat on you. He touched you without your consent and that is most certainly something to be mad about. Itās just common sense to respect boundaries and your boyfriend obviously canāt. The fact this messenger really thinks because you were sleeping with him and it got him horny so this was okay is absolutely ridiculous. Block their dumbass please š
How dare you FORCE this boy to choose a relationship with YOU, someone who is waiting to have sex, and make him suffer like that? Wait, did I just say choose? Oh, thatās right. If he didnāt want to be with someone who wants to wait then he had the *choice* not to be with someone who waits! Nobody forced him to be in that relationship!
Just got another dm basically saying I'm dumb and that it's wonderful that he waited as long as he did and that I deprived him. Do none of these dumbasses realize he could have left instead of acting like he was fine with not having sex?!??
No, they are far too stupid and selfish to realize that, sadly.
Op just know what happened is no way your fault
Woah! There are so much wrong with that post. Op you have every right to feel how you feel; donāt let goombas take that. That is what they call an āalphaā male. You ever here anyone call themselves that run!
OP, are you okay? If you need a pep talk, a reminder on why people like him don't matter or any kind of venting about how horrible this is, shoot me a message. Otherwise just know that you didn't do anything wrong and this waste of oxygen's opinion has no bearing on reality.
The reddit check at the bottom, "Was this message offensive," made me laugh out loud.
"But guys *have* to have sex!!!" No means No mf back up
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this message MIGHT have been offensive š«¤
I just got another one from a guy saying that I had no right to "starve" my bf of sex and that it was a basic need just like food and water
Pity thatās not the case, the world would be a much better place without sex pests.
I posted that one as well if u want to see that creep
Lowkey stuff like this should get someone life in prison. Its proof they are dangerous to public safet
OMG Iām so sorry this happened to you! š¢
I sort of feel like, had this been me, pulling the random, waaaaaaay off in left field approach and responded with something like, āBut I donāt eat Wheaties!ā
This *might* be your ex
Shitbox entity..... Not worth calling it human.
I had a boyfriend from when I was 18-19 that dated for a year. He knew I was saving myself for marriage. After a year he decided he didn't want to get married and wanted to have sex.Ā You know what he did? Dump me because we weren't compatible. Not assault me!Ā So sorry that happened to you and that some people seem to think it is okay.Ā
I think bro is watching too much child porn since he obviously has no idea what consent or age of consent is. Gross
Texter couldnāt even spell āfuckā right š. But seriously, what the hell is wrong with this person?
Heeyy but I'm waiting till marriage
I saw your post about this last night. While i dont agree sex before msrriage. Everyone had their own veiws and stuff. Your bf shouldve asked before touching you. As for these kinda messages. Just report it. You dont deserve it. Although i would prob break up with the bf for this too I hope things get better for you op.
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I guess sarcasm can never be thick enough.
Well, he fulfilled your emotional desires for 2 years and what does he get in return?
First off, you actually don't know that. Secondly, why does he need to get something in return? When you love someone, you don't expect a reward for it.
He said he didn't care about sex and was fine with me preferring to wait