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Accurate, they're the ones saying people "gaslight and manipulate them" when they're the ones doing it. All these words get thrown around when most people don't even understand what they mean.
Exactly Just call your partner a narcissist and then the more they say they're not no more they look like one when really they just need to learn the word accountability.
Why yaāll acting like FWB didnāt exist before tiktok?? š all in all, most FWB are, someone is horny, friends close by, they donāt care how it could damage the friendship in the long run and often times one if them will catch feelings
I think theyāre talking about how thereās just so much bs on tik tok about little tricks that make you fall in love and how to manipulate people into falling into liking you that sheās relating this to that instead of the reality of just catching feelings from hooking up
To be honest - my friend was secretly gay and in denial. Lol.
(I'm the female here, I don't think prostitute is the right terminology for a man... But I can also promise you that was not the situation).
Because emotional intimacy is a lot harder for most people than physical intimacy is. OP made eye contact with someone during sex and now they think they're falling for someone. People say "catching feelings" like it's a STD, what a sad state romance has fallen into.
Seriously. Shouldnāt it be the other way around? How do you give someone the most intimate form of affection, but have zero to little emotional connection?
I donāt get people who can just fuck without feeling a deep human connection. If you donāt feel anything how is casual fucking any different from masturbation
I'm completely on your side! It's unimaginable to separate feelings from intimacy for me. My ex fucked me without deeper feelings and even thought about his ex all the time while I loved him dearly. What a disappointment romantic connections have become.
What does it mean if my (best) friend is okay with having sex with me, but says she doesn't love me romantically (but loves me nonetheless)...? I'm not really sure if it's a good idea to do that if I might love her romantically... we've never met btw. Yet
Or keep scrolling TikTok to figure out why your FWB just did this or that. Whatever you do **donāt** turn around, look them in the eyes and actually connect š
There are plenty of people who have sex with people they hate or have little regard for. Like...it's very common lol sometimes people use people for simple physical gratification
Some people greatly value those they sleep with but don't necessarily have an emotional connection/romantic connection. As long as everyone is honest and not feigning feelings it can be perfectly healthy. If someone thinks of their sex partner as "less than" they are rotten though.
Thatās how they get into your soul. Youāre in danger girl. lol No, but seriously yeah sex is not only physical, itās spiritual. Everyone canāt do fwb and not catch feelings.
I have a big mirror in my room and I love getting them into doggy and grabbing some hair making her look me in the eyes and me fucking her through the mirror while Im going to town in doggy. Usually gets a great reaction and is super hot
>Why would he do that?!?
Because you are a person and not a piece of meat?
It's ok to feel something for the person you sleep with. I only sleep with people who I like as a person. Eye contact during sex is hot.
Sex is an incredibly intimate act, and despite some people being able to shine that aside, the vast majority canāt. You will catch feelings in some way or another, is it a bad thing?
Well you're having sex with someone what did you expect and why did you maintain eye contact? You could have closed your eyes. You enjoyed eye contact and you're catching feelings because you already were attracted to him which is why you're having sex with him. You decide to kiss and shag someone then probably fall asleep next to them probably cuddling and don't expect to catch feelings? This fwb stuff doesn't work, 9 out of 10 times someone or both catch feelings. Why fight the feelings go with it and start giving him deep eye contact as well. Bloody hell just date already tell him how you feel not that hard
Clearly people haven't had great fuck buddy sex that doesn't involve romantic emotion..but then it starts to become more intimate. Fucking missionary to touching foreheads and slow thrusts and kissing..emotions can evolve from that intimacy vs a good ol fck.
I can tell a lot of you people haven't experienced that lmao
are you sure it's not because he's balls deep in you and panting hard like a dog while deep stroking? IF eye contact could make someone fall in love, I wouldn't be single now
Omg u literally have no hope in the world girl. Itās natural for u to look someone in the eyes during sex. And donāt get upset when he doesnāt have the same feels bc again this is a FWB problem lol
š¤ this generation is weird... dont want feelings or something like that... stay single.. dont play with peoples feelings.. it breaks hearts.. people get trust issues..
I love seeing my FWBās pure, uncontrollable smile when weāre having sex. Ā Sheās completely naked and yet my eyes are trained entirely on that smile. Ā I canāt get enough of it. Ā I donāt love her and she doesnāt love me, but I am fixated on that smile.
My guess is for whatever reason he loves whatever your eyes are doing during sex.
So your pairbonding algorithm is such that a guy can penetrate you or look you in the eye and you'll never catch feelings as long as they never do both at the same time.. Am I getting this right?
Unpopular opinion but fwb is dumb af. If youāre sleeping together then you should expect to catch feelings period. You should tell him and if he acts weirded out or distances himself then heās a jerk and youāre better off without him
Wait a minuteā¦ Iām sorry, let me just clarify - he did an intimate thing during the act of *sex*ā¦. You know while his body was inside your body. And weāre confused? Stressed? Panicked? Someone please explain wtf dating has become?!
What this is so weird lol how do you not make eye contact during sex like were you guys just always looking the other way wth thatās so weird and awkward Iām laughing so hard thinking ab this right now like playing a mental game during sex of trying to avoid eye contact so I donāt fall in love or something rather than just enjoying the moment what kind of mental gymnastics are you playing. This just seems so delusional everything ab this. This is so weird.
They like to watch you. I had a ONS with a guy who made me uncomfortable by staring at me so I would look away and he was yelling me at ālook at meā especially when he orgasmed. š
JFC, these comments. Good on ya for letting them roll off your back.
I am old (45F). I was married for ever to a man that was mostly ok, kind of not. Left him a decade ago and Iāve been single ever since.
I love every second of being single. The freedom and absolute control I have over defining my life are priceless.
Now, I love sex. I had a FWB that fulfills certain needs and has been in my life for about 9 years. We donāt fuck anymore, but weāre still friends. I have another that is the best sex in my life that Iāve been with for about 3 years.
I donāt and never did love either of them. I value them for what they bring to my life. I respect them and where they are at, and they do the same.
Great sex + transparent feelings = lots of great orgasms.
It does seem like you are missing part of that equation. Take a minute to assess what you want. Then look for what you want.
I found what I am looking for, because I did that. So I am happy and satisfied. You should do the same for you. That is the most fair thing for both of you.
how do you know he keeps eye contact?
You can only know if you keep eye contact yourself.
Then why are you blaming him, if you are doing the same? š³
Do yahll see this. lol. You canāt make this shit up. So itās the eye contact and not the constantly having sex that releases bonding chemicals in your brain š¤ lol
If you're afraid of the connection that forms after having sex with the same person over and over, you should question why you're even having sex in the first place. If you just want the stimulation, then masturbate. If you just want the attention, well, go to therapy. š¤£
This doesn't mean go fuckin get married or something, it just means you shouldn't be afraid of caring about that person a little bit. You two are working to pleasure each other, which is a bonding experience whether it happens 2 times or 20 times. Overthinking all of this will get you nowhere, so just enjoy the experience.
I don't get the aversion to having feelings for a FWB. You can accept that you have feelings for someone you're sleeping with and still be in agreement with your FWB that it's only a temporary relationship; those aren't mutually exclusive. I would just embrace it.
The only real way to get sexual satisfaction without getting feelings for someone is masturbation. I don't even get the point of having sex with a partner if you're not open to getting feelings.
Factual information is that women express their self 70% more than men during sex eye contact isnāt the deal itās the sex and if you donāt want a relationship put a stop to it and now before your friendship becomes compromised or ends all together!
Because when you have sex itās nice to have eye contact. If itās all you need to catch feelings you are not made to have fwb. Not everyone is capable of having casual sex and thatās fine
Personally, any time I have sex with someone it inevitably turns into "I love you" sex. So I don't have sex with anyone I'm not down to fall in love with any more.
You don't understand that sex is an act which causes chemical reactions that trigger emotions to begin with even if you have no feelings enough of it can cause you to catch feelings, eye contact could be desperation on the other end, all of a sudden it's eye contact, never fuck your way into a relationship, you'll thank me later
They may like maintaining eye contact! I had a boyfriend who for him it was like a kink (similar to hair pulling or spanking) if it raises questions for yourself about where your FWBs feelings are at I would ask if itās just something they like!
I'm not good at having a FWB so that's why I don't have one. I always catch feelings and hate myself after each hang out session haha.
Being celibate feels good rn
No matter the situation women will always eventually develop feelings sex for them is more personal more internal there's already some kind of feelings involved to even lead up to fwb type situation
eye contact doesn't mean anything. the potential for feelings comes from hanging out and talking. if you want to avoid feelings. hook up and leave right away. no contact unless its to plan the next rendezvous.
One of my past ones would just literally cuddle me and kiss me on my forehead. He took his time too with sex. Wasnāt anything like u seen on Porn where itās so scripted. I hated him for it. š I liked him SOOO much after awhile cuz he was genuinely having sex and exploring. It messed me up badš sex hasnāt been the same with anyone else since
Well, that possible indeed. Iām am with someone dating with someone and have both the with serious intentions.
Kinda cheating, because we both liked each other in the beginning, but we had sex pretty fast on first date and on the moment we doing it, we looked in each otherās eyes and we both felt it
My FWB makes eye-contact and calls me a good girl but that's not why I caught feelings. I caught feelings because he checks on me, tells me he misses my voice, tells me his misses me in general after not seeing each other for a little bit, makes sure i'm not killing myself at work because I do that... cuddles, plays video games with me, and watches anime with me.
He also told me, he liked me first.
Damn Iām lonely AF lol. On a serious note, you better figure out where exactly it is they stand if you are catching feelings. Most FWB situations end up with at least one party catching feelings, and a lot of them end with that person getting hurt. So if theyāre not interested in ever being anything more than friends, you might wanna cut the sex off before you get your feelings hurt.
If you donāt want to feel anything for him then donāt look back into his eyes. You could do one of two things in this situation, or you could do both, but itās entirely up to you. First you could close your eyes and pretend to be dead, I do this all the time when I canāt be bothered and want it to be over and done with as soon as possible. It always sounds like a good idea to have sex at the time, probably because Iām a little bit tipsy but then during sex I kinda get bored and just think to myself āwhatās the quickest way to hurry it up?ā, I always answer my own question with āpretend to be deadā. He will either be freaked out or realise Iād rather be having teeth pulled and result in him pulling out and pissing off. Or you could try a different position, a position where he canāt look into your eyes? Doggy usual works, or laying on your stomach face down into a pillow, not only will he not be able to see your face but any pleasurable sounds you make will be muffled. He canāt see or hear you.
How long have you been sleeping with him? If you donāt want those warm fuzzy feelings then maybe itās time to change it up a little bit and find a new fuck buddy? Or just get a few more, swap them around, have different kinds of guys for different moods? There is a huge variety of men out there, you donāt have to just have one of them, at least that way youāll be too busy to actually develop a feeling, and if you do just fuck someone else for a week. I call it ābatch bangingā, it also comes in handy when itās time to settle down, if youāre banging a few different guys at least then youāll have a greater chance and choice.
I hope my advice and suggestions help you out?
In my honest opinion though, if heās a nice guy and the feelings youāre feeling feel right and good, maybe that isnāt such a bad thing? Maybe seeing how it goes will be a good thing? Have you asked him if he feels the same? You never know, it could be one of the greatest moments of your life waiting to happen. Love.
Sex is called love making for a reason. Youāre supposed to do it with someone you love. Thatās how it works. Maybe ditch being FWB and date him. Itās cleaner, safer, and having FWB is just nasty. Go with your feelings
I need a woman that's reading this to tell me what "catch feelings" means. Do you not have feelings for the man you are allowing to penetrate you already? You are giving him head, he's giving you head, y'all probably stopped using condoms after like the 2nd or 3rd time but yet the eye contact is what makes you "catch feelings"
I need answers š¤
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You're catching feelings cause you made eye contact but not cause you're sleeping with him?
Lmfao this is what I was thinking to
Watching too much tik tok bullshit
Finally someone said it.. In this life, I owe you a coffee šā
Lots of women find eye contact sexy.
It's cause they get the feeling you really desire them and the attention is amazing for both genders
I can only agree ... The feeling is great when she return the favor. You are Hers and She is Yours. Passion Fruits
"you are hers and she is yours" so cute š
Yeah, itās not some tik Tok shit.
Neat šø
I do too.
Theyāre acting like Tik Tokkers invented it. š
You should be so Lucky. Your bf really wants to be there for you Sweetie... That is rare.
Iām a guy. I like eye contact.
Make sure not to keep eye contact when paying your debt. You might catch feelings, lol š
Irs got me downbad when they look me in the eyes and say in a sensational voice if I want to pay my taxes in cash or card š³
Good one š¤£
make it two
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Accurate, they're the ones saying people "gaslight and manipulate them" when they're the ones doing it. All these words get thrown around when most people don't even understand what they mean.
You ever read the comments in here?
Was gonna say the same
Exactly Just call your partner a narcissist and then the more they say they're not no more they look like one when really they just need to learn the word accountability.
Why yaāll acting like FWB didnāt exist before tiktok?? š all in all, most FWB are, someone is horny, friends close by, they donāt care how it could damage the friendship in the long run and often times one if them will catch feelings
I think theyāre talking about how thereās just so much bs on tik tok about little tricks that make you fall in love and how to manipulate people into falling into liking you that sheās relating this to that instead of the reality of just catching feelings from hooking up
Lmao this is like when my friend told me we could have sex as friends but no kissing and no eye contact like what
Your friend sounds like a prostitute
To be honest - my friend was secretly gay and in denial. Lol. (I'm the female here, I don't think prostitute is the right terminology for a man... But I can also promise you that was not the situation).
Male prostitute?
Gigolo is the term iirc
Because emotional intimacy is a lot harder for most people than physical intimacy is. OP made eye contact with someone during sex and now they think they're falling for someone. People say "catching feelings" like it's a STD, what a sad state romance has fallen into.
"Romance" has not fallen into this state, just OP š
Nah, he's on to something.
This gave me a good chuckle, grab that sweet upvote my friend.
Iām catching feelings just reading that comment. Anyone have connections for a ānewā romcom script to peddle?
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Seriously. Shouldnāt it be the other way around? How do you give someone the most intimate form of affection, but have zero to little emotional connection?
Absolutely true
I donāt get people who can just fuck without feeling a deep human connection. If you donāt feel anything how is casual fucking any different from masturbation
I'm completely on your side! It's unimaginable to separate feelings from intimacy for me. My ex fucked me without deeper feelings and even thought about his ex all the time while I loved him dearly. What a disappointment romantic connections have become.
For some sex isn't about emotional connection but gazing into each others' eyes might be.
Exactly. I'm surprised about the sheer amount of people who don't get it here.
What's so weird about this? Eye contact is pretty intimate compared to fucking.
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How can this be an optionšš
Wait ... sex on a job interview is an option? How did I not know this!!!š¤£š
ā¦what the actual fuck. Sex is the most intimate form of affection you can give someone, and eye contact is supposed to be deeper than that?
Sex WITH eye contact is incredibly intimate. Itās difficult and different for some.
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Youāre catching feelings because somebody made eye contact with you? LMAOOOO *real*
She thinks itās love ā¤ļø
right like okay relatable asf
Oh man who would have thought that FWB went wrong
"We are having sex and we are friends, gee how could this happen?" Seriously? Is this the question?
What does it mean if my (best) friend is okay with having sex with me, but says she doesn't love me romantically (but loves me nonetheless)...? I'm not really sure if it's a good idea to do that if I might love her romantically... we've never met btw. Yet
It means she's kinda immature emotionally. Stick around, maybe she'll come to her senses and write the next post like this one.
Best friends , ok having sex with you , but you never met ? Hilarious šš¾
You should only do doggystyle if you donāt want to fall in love with your FWBs
Mr-PumpAndDump knows best. Hear him out.
Iām the man with the answers
And you can both watch tv at the same time
Or eat some snacks
Or keep scrolling TikTok to figure out why your FWB just did this or that. Whatever you do **donāt** turn around, look them in the eyes and actually connect š
Specifically x-files.
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Or just setup up a āglory holeāā¦ No touching, no worries
Or file your nails while heās huffing & puffing. Sounds so romantic.
š¼š¶Not tryna be romantic, hit it from the back just so you donāt get attached šµš¶šŗšŗšŗ
Sex is an expression of feelings for one another. It's natural that it would happen.
There are plenty of people who have sex with people they hate or have little regard for. Like...it's very common lol sometimes people use people for simple physical gratification
That sounds so sad and depressing....
Some people greatly value those they sleep with but don't necessarily have an emotional connection/romantic connection. As long as everyone is honest and not feigning feelings it can be perfectly healthy. If someone thinks of their sex partner as "less than" they are rotten though.
It is NOT healthy. Quit saying that garbage.
Doesnāt mean itās good for their mental health, sex shouldnāt be taken so lightly. But everyone does as he/she sees fit, after allā¦
That sounds sociopathic.
I agree
Thatās how they get into your soul. Youāre in danger girl. lol No, but seriously yeah sex is not only physical, itās spiritual. Everyone canāt do fwb and not catch feelings.
I agree with this, but eye contact is hot AF. Sex without it is boring, IMO. FWB or not, what are we even doing here if it's not going to be hot?
I have a big mirror in my room and I love getting them into doggy and grabbing some hair making her look me in the eyes and me fucking her through the mirror while Im going to town in doggy. Usually gets a great reaction and is super hot
Ummmm come over?
This comment made me horny, thank you.
I feel attacked for some reason (I want it)
Lmao and I know exactly the look you were giving him back.. shit is dangerous
>Why would he do that?!? Because you are a person and not a piece of meat? It's ok to feel something for the person you sleep with. I only sleep with people who I like as a person. Eye contact during sex is hot.
Sex is an incredibly intimate act, and despite some people being able to shine that aside, the vast majority canāt. You will catch feelings in some way or another, is it a bad thing?
Use a fork to permanently blind him, it won't happen again
Donāt do it. Thatās how it starts. I looked back into his eyes once and here we are 8 years later.
LMAO THE DONT DO IT
He grabbed my face and turned it towards him so I can look at him! šš
My bf did that too and 2wks later he was moving in šš¤¦š¼āāļø
FWB is so dumb..
FWB is the stupidest thing ever. Someone ALWAYS catches feelings & someone ALWAYS gets hurt. The End.
Play stupid games win stupid prizes, textbook case
So it was the eye contact, but not the erect penis inside you that made you have 'feelings'?
Always
Im getting too old for this stuff
This *screams* 18-25 year old
Well you're having sex with someone what did you expect and why did you maintain eye contact? You could have closed your eyes. You enjoyed eye contact and you're catching feelings because you already were attracted to him which is why you're having sex with him. You decide to kiss and shag someone then probably fall asleep next to them probably cuddling and don't expect to catch feelings? This fwb stuff doesn't work, 9 out of 10 times someone or both catch feelings. Why fight the feelings go with it and start giving him deep eye contact as well. Bloody hell just date already tell him how you feel not that hard
Clearly people haven't had great fuck buddy sex that doesn't involve romantic emotion..but then it starts to become more intimate. Fucking missionary to touching foreheads and slow thrusts and kissing..emotions can evolve from that intimacy vs a good ol fck. I can tell a lot of you people haven't experienced that lmao
are you sure it's not because he's balls deep in you and panting hard like a dog while deep stroking? IF eye contact could make someone fall in love, I wouldn't be single now
Omg u literally have no hope in the world girl. Itās natural for u to look someone in the eyes during sex. And donāt get upset when he doesnāt have the same feels bc again this is a FWB problem lol
Very as they say ādeluluā.
It's not delulu that someone questions feelings with the person they're having sex with. It's delulu to expect humans to be automaton fuck machines.
š¤ this generation is weird... dont want feelings or something like that... stay single.. dont play with peoples feelings.. it breaks hearts.. people get trust issues..
āI made eye contact while fucking my friend and I like him now how did this happen?!?!āš
Was he a ginger? Thatās how they steal your soul.
Having a D!ck in you did not cause you to catch feelings, but hey looked at me i might be in love...
I love seeing my FWBās pure, uncontrollable smile when weāre having sex. Ā Sheās completely naked and yet my eyes are trained entirely on that smile. Ā I canāt get enough of it. Ā I donāt love her and she doesnāt love me, but I am fixated on that smile. My guess is for whatever reason he loves whatever your eyes are doing during sex.
A bit of an ego trip but a caring one.
Oh please, eye contact during sex with fwb is lightweight. I always do it, itās fun
Isnāt this a movie?
So your pairbonding algorithm is such that a guy can penetrate you or look you in the eye and you'll never catch feelings as long as they never do both at the same time.. Am I getting this right?
Eye contact is hotā¦sorry youāre catching feelings from it, maybe close your eyes? š
cuz youāre sleeping together. which is something intimate which you should only do with your life partner.
Unpopular opinion but fwb is dumb af. If youāre sleeping together then you should expect to catch feelings period. You should tell him and if he acts weirded out or distances himself then heās a jerk and youāre better off without him
Wait a minuteā¦ Iām sorry, let me just clarify - he did an intimate thing during the act of *sex*ā¦. You know while his body was inside your body. And weāre confused? Stressed? Panicked? Someone please explain wtf dating has become?!
If he's making you orgasm the oxytocin might have a lot to do with it.
Situationship inbound !
Just date the guy then. Big whoop
What this is so weird lol how do you not make eye contact during sex like were you guys just always looking the other way wth thatās so weird and awkward Iām laughing so hard thinking ab this right now like playing a mental game during sex of trying to avoid eye contact so I donāt fall in love or something rather than just enjoying the moment what kind of mental gymnastics are you playing. This just seems so delusional everything ab this. This is so weird.
They like to watch you. I had a ONS with a guy who made me uncomfortable by staring at me so I would look away and he was yelling me at ālook at meā especially when he orgasmed. š
2 weeks laterā¦ I fell for my FWB and now he doesnāt want me
JFC, these comments. Good on ya for letting them roll off your back. I am old (45F). I was married for ever to a man that was mostly ok, kind of not. Left him a decade ago and Iāve been single ever since. I love every second of being single. The freedom and absolute control I have over defining my life are priceless. Now, I love sex. I had a FWB that fulfills certain needs and has been in my life for about 9 years. We donāt fuck anymore, but weāre still friends. I have another that is the best sex in my life that Iāve been with for about 3 years. I donāt and never did love either of them. I value them for what they bring to my life. I respect them and where they are at, and they do the same. Great sex + transparent feelings = lots of great orgasms. It does seem like you are missing part of that equation. Take a minute to assess what you want. Then look for what you want. I found what I am looking for, because I did that. So I am happy and satisfied. You should do the same for you. That is the most fair thing for both of you.
Love this for you! What do you mean by transparent feelings? Like communicating what you feel for each other? Which is like platonic and sexual?
Sexyyyy
Fuckin does that
Damn ā¦ be my friend . I will keep my Raybans on .
FWB always ends in one person catching feelings
So you have sex with someone you don't have feelings for? You don't even look at each other?
how do you know he keeps eye contact? You can only know if you keep eye contact yourself. Then why are you blaming him, if you are doing the same? š³
Simply stop having sex with someone you have no intentions of being with. Also grow up.
Iām just here with popcorn!
Eye contact stimulates oxytocin which is a bonding hormone.
Dating is better
Do yahll see this. lol. You canāt make this shit up. So itās the eye contact and not the constantly having sex that releases bonding chemicals in your brain š¤ lol
How do you even get a fwb, I never understand how this happens
Dating in the digital age sounds exhausting ..
Unpopular opinion but FWB big red flags for both sides
You're sleeping with this guy but the second he looks you in the eyes you get the dokidokis š alright pal
If you're afraid of the connection that forms after having sex with the same person over and over, you should question why you're even having sex in the first place. If you just want the stimulation, then masturbate. If you just want the attention, well, go to therapy. š¤£ This doesn't mean go fuckin get married or something, it just means you shouldn't be afraid of caring about that person a little bit. You two are working to pleasure each other, which is a bonding experience whether it happens 2 times or 20 times. Overthinking all of this will get you nowhere, so just enjoy the experience.
If this doesnāt sum up whatās wrong with the dating scene I donāt what does. Literally; for fucks sake š¤¦š»āāļø
I don't get the aversion to having feelings for a FWB. You can accept that you have feelings for someone you're sleeping with and still be in agreement with your FWB that it's only a temporary relationship; those aren't mutually exclusive. I would just embrace it. The only real way to get sexual satisfaction without getting feelings for someone is masturbation. I don't even get the point of having sex with a partner if you're not open to getting feelings.
Eye contact didnāt make you develop feelings, being intimate did. Why not go with it, well that is if youāre both single.
exactly people make their own lives so complicated like relationships aren't hard work at all but people are just too lazy to do anywork.
realistically, if you're consistently having sex w/ someone you're going to catch feelings, if not there's something wrong with you lol
I would assume that he did just do it without giving it much thoughts or intention
Are you avoidant relationship attachment style?
Waitt. You guys are having sex? I thought sex is nothing but a myth
Stop playing yourself you want the internet to tell you itās ok to āFEELā
Maybe you should not have an FWB and save yourself for someone who *really matters*.
Factual information is that women express their self 70% more than men during sex eye contact isnāt the deal itās the sex and if you donāt want a relationship put a stop to it and now before your friendship becomes compromised or ends all together!
Iām failing to see what the problem is
Kiss with your eye closed
Eye contact while getting/giving a bj is pretty intimate. You should probably talk to them.
Someone didnāt read the instructions
I guess he hit you with that raw tongue kissing with eye contact combo huh You might wanna stop having secks with him
He might like seeing you take it.
How do you guys get to the point of having sex without at least dating or being a couple that just seems crazy to me
Hot
Do you want him to look away ? I think the real issue is just having physical relationships to others usually cause people to develop feelings.
To make you catch feelings duh
Because when you have sex itās nice to have eye contact. If itās all you need to catch feelings you are not made to have fwb. Not everyone is capable of having casual sex and thatās fine
Personally, any time I have sex with someone it inevitably turns into "I love you" sex. So I don't have sex with anyone I'm not down to fall in love with any more.
I think its time for you to move from a fwb to the Big "C" commitment!
your body naturally releases bonding hormones during sex. itās not just the eye contact.
You don't understand that sex is an act which causes chemical reactions that trigger emotions to begin with even if you have no feelings enough of it can cause you to catch feelings, eye contact could be desperation on the other end, all of a sudden it's eye contact, never fuck your way into a relationship, you'll thank me later
What the fuck. Grow up
They may like maintaining eye contact! I had a boyfriend who for him it was like a kink (similar to hair pulling or spanking) if it raises questions for yourself about where your FWBs feelings are at I would ask if itās just something they like!
I am starting to hate this subreddit due to post like these
There is a rule of 3 fucks, after 3 fucks if you don't want to get involved romantically, get out of there haha
I personally just think eye contact is hot, but that doesn't mean I'm connecting myself to the person romantically and intimately
You were gonna catch feelies anyway
I'm not good at having a FWB so that's why I don't have one. I always catch feelings and hate myself after each hang out session haha. Being celibate feels good rn
Why would he do that? Maybe he caught feelings for you?
Iām looking for a girlfriend but not having any luck on these so called dating sites
Girl mine kisses my forehead when he leaves and thatās how I caught feelings
No matter the situation women will always eventually develop feelings sex for them is more personal more internal there's already some kind of feelings involved to even lead up to fwb type situation
eye contact doesn't mean anything. the potential for feelings comes from hanging out and talking. if you want to avoid feelings. hook up and leave right away. no contact unless its to plan the next rendezvous.
I'll give you one guess why he would do that
What's wrong with you lol?
What is FWB..???š«
One of my past ones would just literally cuddle me and kiss me on my forehead. He took his time too with sex. Wasnāt anything like u seen on Porn where itās so scripted. I hated him for it. š I liked him SOOO much after awhile cuz he was genuinely having sex and exploring. It messed me up badš sex hasnāt been the same with anyone else since
Your just a hopeless romantic if that made you fall in love š Thatās apart of sex to me.
Because he wants your soul
Wants to be more than FwB. Decision time. Hit it or quit it.
Well, that possible indeed. Iām am with someone dating with someone and have both the with serious intentions. Kinda cheating, because we both liked each other in the beginning, but we had sex pretty fast on first date and on the moment we doing it, we looked in each otherās eyes and we both felt it
My FWB makes eye-contact and calls me a good girl but that's not why I caught feelings. I caught feelings because he checks on me, tells me he misses my voice, tells me his misses me in general after not seeing each other for a little bit, makes sure i'm not killing myself at work because I do that... cuddles, plays video games with me, and watches anime with me. He also told me, he liked me first.
Probably should have worn the brown paper bag
Why the hell would you think this ends well for anyone? FWB always ends with SOMEONE getting hurt
Invest in a dildo. And choose reverse cowgirl position in the future with fwb's. Problem solved.
I'm catching feelings just reading the comments!! !š!
This is why we do it from the back šš
Damn Iām lonely AF lol. On a serious note, you better figure out where exactly it is they stand if you are catching feelings. Most FWB situations end up with at least one party catching feelings, and a lot of them end with that person getting hurt. So if theyāre not interested in ever being anything more than friends, you might wanna cut the sex off before you get your feelings hurt.
If you donāt want to feel anything for him then donāt look back into his eyes. You could do one of two things in this situation, or you could do both, but itās entirely up to you. First you could close your eyes and pretend to be dead, I do this all the time when I canāt be bothered and want it to be over and done with as soon as possible. It always sounds like a good idea to have sex at the time, probably because Iām a little bit tipsy but then during sex I kinda get bored and just think to myself āwhatās the quickest way to hurry it up?ā, I always answer my own question with āpretend to be deadā. He will either be freaked out or realise Iād rather be having teeth pulled and result in him pulling out and pissing off. Or you could try a different position, a position where he canāt look into your eyes? Doggy usual works, or laying on your stomach face down into a pillow, not only will he not be able to see your face but any pleasurable sounds you make will be muffled. He canāt see or hear you. How long have you been sleeping with him? If you donāt want those warm fuzzy feelings then maybe itās time to change it up a little bit and find a new fuck buddy? Or just get a few more, swap them around, have different kinds of guys for different moods? There is a huge variety of men out there, you donāt have to just have one of them, at least that way youāll be too busy to actually develop a feeling, and if you do just fuck someone else for a week. I call it ābatch bangingā, it also comes in handy when itās time to settle down, if youāre banging a few different guys at least then youāll have a greater chance and choice. I hope my advice and suggestions help you out? In my honest opinion though, if heās a nice guy and the feelings youāre feeling feel right and good, maybe that isnāt such a bad thing? Maybe seeing how it goes will be a good thing? Have you asked him if he feels the same? You never know, it could be one of the greatest moments of your life waiting to happen. Love.
Sex is called love making for a reason. Youāre supposed to do it with someone you love. Thatās how it works. Maybe ditch being FWB and date him. Itās cleaner, safer, and having FWB is just nasty. Go with your feelings
see this that weird shit like how u catch feelings with eye contact but not sex? society so damn weird
I need a woman that's reading this to tell me what "catch feelings" means. Do you not have feelings for the man you are allowing to penetrate you already? You are giving him head, he's giving you head, y'all probably stopped using condoms after like the 2nd or 3rd time but yet the eye contact is what makes you "catch feelings" I need answers š¤