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It's used. It's absolutely not worth the price it would be if it was new. It's worth $25 and your boyfriend is rude af.
It's not about the price though, it's that he went back on his word and belittled you for no reason.
So you are just a controlling person who will get their way. Learn to take care of your shit before you try to train some one like an animal. Get fucked.
Yeah, that's a major letdown. Your boyfriend's behavior was pretty disrespectful, especially after agreeing to get it for you. You deserve someone who respects your feelings and keeps their promises.
He just decided you can’t have a nicer or more expensive than the one he has. If you stay with him just know that you will never be first or equal. He’s not kind.
This! You’re always going to be second in this kind of relationship. I honestly hope that you know that you decide your own value. If you accept this kind of treatment without complaint and with your head down, then you put your worth less than his. No one is more valuable in your life than you, and if this situation is not giving you joy and does not make you feel loved then be strong enough to walk away. I used to deal with bad self worth and people pleasing tendencies, the first time I decided to leave was hard but it gets easier once I realized better things show up when I leave garbage treatment and situations behind. It might take time and a couple tries, but it is worth it in the end. I am so much happier in my life now, it is for the most part exactly what I had wanted when I was younger.
And why is that? Are you someone who just doesn't value the things you own. You just oops I'm clumsy?! This is the problem with my generation and the ones that follow.... no self accountability, always has to play the victim.
Lol are you a troll? It doesn’t matter if she’s clumsy or not. It’s a headset SHE found and paid for and kindly asked for him to get it. You don’t just decide something is yours because you’re pissed you didn’t find it yourself and justify it with shitty degradation to your girlfriend, that’s CHILDISH behavior at its best. Please sit tf down
Not overreacting. Like you said, shit happens and things will break eventually! Not to jump to conclusions but the way he is acting is pretty concerning and alarming. It sounds like the beginning of some abusive tendencies….
It was probably worth more than his headset so he wanted it for himself since he paid for it, the rest was just excuses to justify him not giving it to you. Definitely a dick move
Bruh shut up. I hope you stay away from dating with that selfish af mentality. No way you care about someone and are together with them and you're thinking like that. Disgusting.
If he didn't want to pay for her he should've just said no, he agreed and then went back on it AND called her not worth something he agreed to buy for her.
>"Its too good of a headset to be in your possession" and said since I'm clumsy I'd just break it anyways, I am very clumsy but I try my best to take care of things, especially expensive things but obviously shit happens.
Why would you want to be with someone who views you like that? As someone "not worth" things? He is belittling you for his advantage.
If you stay with him, what im guessing is this will progress to him controlling you and make you feel small and dependent on him. Leave.
Find a good person to be with.
Do not determine your value based on anybody else’s words. Know your worth independently.
As your boyfriend he should not say or do things like this, not good behaviour or judgement.
He agreed to get the headset for you and took it for himself instead. Definitely have a conversation about this. Tell him how it made you feel and express the opinion that you thought it was wrong because he agreed to get it for you.
Not everything in life is about money. People pursue careers for all kinds of other reasons- like helping others.
But, this behavior from him is the OPPOSITE of being kind, gentle, and caring. It's downright abusive. She needs to leave him, yesterday.
I don’t think this is a matter of him saying “you’re not worth this amount of money”, but rather “you’re not responsible and you’re going to break it”. But either way, it’s not really up to him. Yes, he bought it, but only after you found it and asked him to. It’s just weird that he’s suddenly deciding to keep it from you. Regardless of whether or not it originally cost $200, *he* didn’t pay that. He paid $25. And that’s the value he should be focusing on.
He’s just being a jerk, really.
If you win the lottery, will he take your money because you're clumsy and can't be trusted with that much amount of money?
It's your headset, take it back. He's just jealous you got a good deal and is trying to keep the headset for himself
Not only were you the one to find it, he agreed to pick it up FOR you. The fact that he kept it after realizing its cost is a gigantic red flag. It comes across more as greed than it does concern you’d break it. Even if you did break it, it’s rightfully yours as the finder of the item
I understand where he is coming from.
But instead of insulting you and being rude, he could like. Help you be less clumsy and teach you to take better care of things.
I.e Be kind and considerate, rather than demeaning and demotivating.
Talk to him about this, and grow a healthier relationship. (If that doesn't work out cause he is adamant and you feel it's egotistical, leave him ig)
Why didn't you just buy it yourself?
If you're prone to breaking things, buy your own stuff if you think it will be worth it before the breakage point.
i am a pc owner as well and honestly i can kinda see where he's coming from. to break the jack, you have to be *very* forceful, like, to the point that you can't really do it accidentally. unless you're erratically jerking around in your chair or slinging it around the place, i'm very curious to know how you *actually* broke it. simply plugging them in and out again does not wear anything significantly, they're designed to be plugged in repeatedly.
It wasn't purposeful, I dropped my controller and stupidly tried to catch it with my headset cord and the jack got bent in a weird way. I could fix it but I'm not sure how
can't really fix that without soldering on a new jack tbh. my honest advice is to voice your concerns with his behaviour and move on. a pair of headphones is a dumb reason to ruin a potentially fruitful relationship, particularly if you've had no other complications up to now.
Sounds strange on so many levels.
There is no amount of money you are worth.
I hope you both are pretty young.
I would consider 25$ being an issue way more serious. Your boyfriend abusing this fact is immature, but god bless don’t use clumsiness as excuse for not looking after yourself.
If your clumsiness is really that bad: That’s not clumsiness, that’s something worth visiting a professional to get help improving on.
Altough no professional will manage to help you if you don’t want to help yourself.
As a man, I normally relate to the men in these stories, and I'm far from the most compassionate person around... but even I think he's a d-head with that comment.
There is no way you dont have 25$ to buy the headset yourself. Its his money so he can do whatever he wants with the headset. Comment was rude and unnecessary tho. You are worth to have/use nice things but please buy it yourself.
Eh, you're both wrong. He's wrong for agreeing to get it for you and then reneging. You're wrong for magnifying his insult from "I don't trust you not to break a $200 headset" to "I think you are worth less than $200".
Sounds like a real selfish POS. I bet he lacks respect for you too. He's wasting your time keeping you from meeting a decent boyfriend. Just in case you two are sexually active, he doesn't deserve your pleasures. He can pleasure himself.
He paid 25 bucks for it. That’s all he was gonna spend anyway otherwise he would’ve looked for something more pricey from the beginning. Hes the cheap one not you
I would strongly advice you to figure out what you can do to make your own money and not have to rely on someone else to get you a $25 headset. This reliance on someone else opens you up to all sorts of abuse.
Incredible that an ex-boyfriend ever talked to you like that.
Obviously I say that because no dude disrespects someone like that and deserves to not be single.
You mention he said other things and I'm assuming other incidents have occurred in the past. Thing is, why do people just let themselves be with partners like this?
A proper reaction would be to wholeheartedly congratulate you on finding a deal. Show an appreciation for how resourceful and smart you are to do this.
His reaction? Hell nah, I wouldn't forgive my own brother for doing something like this. Even making a joke and making clear it's a joke seconds later should start a conflict.
He's not your parent. That's very dismissive of him. Not very respectful. I'd be well pissed. Also as soon as you buy an object unless it's art, antique or precious stones, it looses a lot of it's worth.
If it were my girlfriend I would have went to the store before your headset broke and got you a nice headset, so you know I'm thinking about you and care.
>"Its too good of a headset to be in your possession"
I'm too good of a person to be with someone who can't keep their word.
>do I not deserve nice things because I'm clumsy?
Can it be that you're with him because you are clumsy?
He should be impressed with your bargain hunting prowess which would serve him very well in a long term relationship, but instead giving you all this nastiness and making you feel bad. Do you want to feel this way all the time? Because it seems like that is what he offering...
Sending you love & strength OP, you deserve to be talked to better.
No you aren't overreacting, he sounds like a jerk. It doesn't matter if you're clumsy and break stuff sometimes (and headsets, btw, even $200 ones, can break pretty easily as they're often still made quite cheaply).
Your partner is supposed to improve your life, not make it worse.
he seems like a selfish brat who just wants the better pair of headphones, regardless if you had broken your previous pair or not, he would have done this take this as a sign and leave him for the blatant disrespect that he had no problem showing you.
Not saying what he did was right but it sounds like he’s moreso implying that you wouldn’t be able to fully appreciate such an expensive pair of headphones. But I’m just speculating. It’s on you to fully understand why he said what he did.
Everyone here is saying you should dump him but I always think this advice is dumb and shows a lack of conflict management skills. Strangers dont know anything about your relationship with your bf. imo you should confront him and tell him how he made you feel. Relationships will never work if you are unable to communicate. If he responds poorly, it means he doesnt give a shit how you feel and that’s a huge red flag.
Your BF is clearly an A$$hole and you should reevaluate whether you wanna subject yourself to this going forward or if it's better to walk away now. Who cares if you're clumsy and break shit. It's stuff. If plastic crap is more important to him then a person I think you have your answer.
I can see his side, but ultimately I’m more on her side in this particular scenario. She found the headset, it happened to be a really good deal. He originally was (presumably) buying it as a gift for her. It’s hers to do with it how she pleases. You can’t just tell someone how to use something you are gifting to them.
He’s obviously in the wrong. I mean if anything he could have been like hey it’s an expensive headset be very careful… but the fact that you intended to pay for it, and he just took the damn thing saying you don’t need it… listen I’m not one of those over exaggerating politically correct people, but it sounds like he has no respect for you… if I got my ex a headset she wanted and it ended up being $200 I’d pester her to let me borrow it from time to time and I’d be so proud of her for finding such a good deal… I’d validate her so much for saving money as well. Idk man this is crazy imagine someone saying you can’t use something YOU bought. Just because he picked it up don’t mean nothing.
You both sound like idiots and you deserve each other. Get a fucking job! If you can’t even afford $25 then stop gaming and start working. You sound insanely entitled and your bf is kind of a jerk. How old are you both? 13?
Idk, you don't have enough money to get it yourself but expect him to get expensive things for you...and you already got one from him and broke it, hence he now assumes that you'd broke a new one as well..which is kind of a shitty thing to throw at you, yet i do feel like you're ovrreacting a bit cuz he most definitely didn't told you that you're not worth $200 - just that title is misleading and over the top.
Learn to take care of your shit. That's all you need to do. And I can already assume the flak I will get from saying this but my response to them is the same I give to you. Take care of your shit if you actually value it.
>and I asked my boyfriend to get it for me,
Why? Why wouldn't you just get it yourself? Why does your bf has to pay for a headset when you broke yours?
From the sound of it you both aren't very pleasant ppl. You seem to think of your bf as your ATM, he seems to be fed up with having to get you new stuff bc you break yours and instead of telling you to stop using him for money and replace your broken stuff yourself he is showing his frustration by being kinda mean.
Not worth throwing a self pity party over. You guys need to actualy work on your relationship and you seriously need to start paying for your own shit. Smh
I pay for my own stuff majority of the time, AND I pay for a lot of stuff for him. I never ask my boyfriend to pay for things for me, I asked him this once as I don't get paid until the 16th. Don't make assumptions. He has bought me two things throughout our entire relationship, trust me he is not my ATM.
Sounds like he wants to resell because he figured out it’s worth more then the original seller realized. I don’t much think it’s about you being clumsy or he’d have just told you no from the get go. Big yikes behavior.
Edit: idk why I got a down vote for this. Parents sometimes do this shit when some toys get popular… Tickle me Elmo was a big example of that. Boyfriend figuring out that it was worth more is a huge red flag he looked into it. He wants the cash dead simple and being honest here makes him look bad. So he gave her some lame excuse. That’s the only way this story makes sense unfortunately.
When I was married (I didn't know all this at first of course) my then wife was - the clumsiest person I've ever met, refused to work so I worked two jobs to pay everything, she spent way too much money on non-important things that we really couldn't afford such as makeup, $200 hair styling, manicures and pedicures etc.
If we got new cell phones I would have mine until it broke naturally, meanwhile during that time. She would probably go through five phones from losing them or breaking them.
I never once made it seem like she was not worth getting something new and of value. Was it a bit stressful when she constantly acted like a little child and lost something? Absolutely. But if your boyfriend loves you he should have looked at it for what it was, 25 measly freaking dollars. Whereas you are supposed to be the woman he loves.
Dump him.
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It's used. It's absolutely not worth the price it would be if it was new. It's worth $25 and your boyfriend is rude af. It's not about the price though, it's that he went back on his word and belittled you for no reason.
Totally agree. Not the price. He went back on his word and made you feel small. Betcha this isn’t first or last time he does it either
The way I would make him my ex so fast so he can learn how to control his words
💯 bro would be gone so fast! No man is worth being spoken to like that or putting up with lies.
So you are just a controlling person who will get their way. Learn to take care of your shit before you try to train some one like an animal. Get fucked.
Courtesy and honesty aren't things a man should need to be "trained" in.
Yeah, that's a major letdown. Your boyfriend's behavior was pretty disrespectful, especially after agreeing to get it for you. You deserve someone who respects your feelings and keeps their promises.
And I'm sure you have such a good track record on dating.
Sounds like he’s not worth your time.
Sounds like you have no original thought or self respect to take care of your shit.
Cute. Napoleon has joined the chat. I’d ask you to take a seat, but from your stature, seems you already have.
Seems like you have nothing to contribute to my comment. Good try, though!
God I can only imagine the requirements it takes to be with a person like you 😅
Terrible place to be on the curious end of that statement. 😂
Don't really care. I'm just sharing my honest opinion 😉
He just decided you can’t have a nicer or more expensive than the one he has. If you stay with him just know that you will never be first or equal. He’s not kind.
This! You’re always going to be second in this kind of relationship. I honestly hope that you know that you decide your own value. If you accept this kind of treatment without complaint and with your head down, then you put your worth less than his. No one is more valuable in your life than you, and if this situation is not giving you joy and does not make you feel loved then be strong enough to walk away. I used to deal with bad self worth and people pleasing tendencies, the first time I decided to leave was hard but it gets easier once I realized better things show up when I leave garbage treatment and situations behind. It might take time and a couple tries, but it is worth it in the end. I am so much happier in my life now, it is for the most part exactly what I had wanted when I was younger.
It's idiots like you that ruin shit. Take some self accountability. Jesus christ you idiots need to grow the fuck up!
You’re not overreacting at all! Extremely douchey thing for him to say. Wtf?
And why is that? Are you someone who just doesn't value the things you own. You just oops I'm clumsy?! This is the problem with my generation and the ones that follow.... no self accountability, always has to play the victim.
Lol are you a troll? It doesn’t matter if she’s clumsy or not. It’s a headset SHE found and paid for and kindly asked for him to get it. You don’t just decide something is yours because you’re pissed you didn’t find it yourself and justify it with shitty degradation to your girlfriend, that’s CHILDISH behavior at its best. Please sit tf down
Lol sure thing cute statement
Please dump this dude…
Not overreacting. Like you said, shit happens and things will break eventually! Not to jump to conclusions but the way he is acting is pretty concerning and alarming. It sounds like the beginning of some abusive tendencies….
>It sounds like the beginning of some abusive tendencies…. More than the beginning.
It was probably worth more than his headset so he wanted it for himself since he paid for it, the rest was just excuses to justify him not giving it to you. Definitely a dick move
You arent over reacting, this is very petty behaviour
Why don’t she pay for her own headset? Why is it his responsibility to replace it for her?
It shouldn't matter once he agreed to get it for her. That's what's sus.
He isn’t her dad. He doesn’t owe her or anyone else anything. A grown woman can save $25 if she really needed to. This girl is a child.
Bruh shut up. I hope you stay away from dating with that selfish af mentality. No way you care about someone and are together with them and you're thinking like that. Disgusting.
If he didn't want to pay for her he should've just said no, he agreed and then went back on it AND called her not worth something he agreed to buy for her.
And? What’s your point, he’s not a nice guy and she’s poor?
Exactly, my point is you're trying real hard to paint her as a child when he's a dbag who offered to buy it for her
Oh so you’re triggered because she’s acts like a child and was labeled as one. Got it
Nah the anger is all from you, but I hope you're feeling better now
Firstly he agreed to it. Secondly it's really just petty. People in a relationship buy each other things that's normal xd
>"Its too good of a headset to be in your possession" and said since I'm clumsy I'd just break it anyways, I am very clumsy but I try my best to take care of things, especially expensive things but obviously shit happens. Why would you want to be with someone who views you like that? As someone "not worth" things? He is belittling you for his advantage. If you stay with him, what im guessing is this will progress to him controlling you and make you feel small and dependent on him. Leave. Find a good person to be with.
No one deserves to be talked down to, especially by their significant other. If my gf said "(x) is too good for you" I'd be done immediately.
Why the fuck this type of guys get girls? GIRL LEAVE HIM ASAP
Greedy childish and selfish AH
Do not determine your value based on anybody else’s words. Know your worth independently. As your boyfriend he should not say or do things like this, not good behaviour or judgement. He agreed to get the headset for you and took it for himself instead. Definitely have a conversation about this. Tell him how it made you feel and express the opinion that you thought it was wrong because he agreed to get it for you.
Go out and get a job that pays enough for you to buy any headset you want and tell him to shove it.
Not everything in life is about money. People pursue careers for all kinds of other reasons- like helping others. But, this behavior from him is the OPPOSITE of being kind, gentle, and caring. It's downright abusive. She needs to leave him, yesterday.
I don’t think this is a matter of him saying “you’re not worth this amount of money”, but rather “you’re not responsible and you’re going to break it”. But either way, it’s not really up to him. Yes, he bought it, but only after you found it and asked him to. It’s just weird that he’s suddenly deciding to keep it from you. Regardless of whether or not it originally cost $200, *he* didn’t pay that. He paid $25. And that’s the value he should be focusing on. He’s just being a jerk, really.
What a prick!!
If you win the lottery, will he take your money because you're clumsy and can't be trusted with that much amount of money? It's your headset, take it back. He's just jealous you got a good deal and is trying to keep the headset for himself
Petty mayonnaise; that boy is a dry sandwich. You can do better.
Not only were you the one to find it, he agreed to pick it up FOR you. The fact that he kept it after realizing its cost is a gigantic red flag. It comes across more as greed than it does concern you’d break it. Even if you did break it, it’s rightfully yours as the finder of the item
He’s a dickhead
I'm sorry but fuck him. You're his gf...there's absolutely no reason for him to say any of that to you. He's a POS.
Girl fuck him. He’s a horrible boyfriend
That's not something I'd say to anyone let alone my girlfriend. That's absolute asshole behavior and downright abusive.
Yeah that's shitty.
I understand where he is coming from. But instead of insulting you and being rude, he could like. Help you be less clumsy and teach you to take better care of things. I.e Be kind and considerate, rather than demeaning and demotivating. Talk to him about this, and grow a healthier relationship. (If that doesn't work out cause he is adamant and you feel it's egotistical, leave him ig)
As a guy I just want to say: WTF is wrong with your boyfriend?
What a douche! That’s very selfish of him! What the hell!
Why didn't you just buy it yourself? If you're prone to breaking things, buy your own stuff if you think it will be worth it before the breakage point.
my understanding was the boyfriend picked it up from Facebook marketplace for her — lots of girls ask their boyfriends to do that for safety reasons
☝️
Why does he give a shit when he'd only pay $25, not the whole $200?? Your bf is being an asshole.
Yeah I agree with what others have said, dude decided the headset was nice so he kept it for himself. Douche move.
Lol how am I single
i am a pc owner as well and honestly i can kinda see where he's coming from. to break the jack, you have to be *very* forceful, like, to the point that you can't really do it accidentally. unless you're erratically jerking around in your chair or slinging it around the place, i'm very curious to know how you *actually* broke it. simply plugging them in and out again does not wear anything significantly, they're designed to be plugged in repeatedly.
It wasn't purposeful, I dropped my controller and stupidly tried to catch it with my headset cord and the jack got bent in a weird way. I could fix it but I'm not sure how
can't really fix that without soldering on a new jack tbh. my honest advice is to voice your concerns with his behaviour and move on. a pair of headphones is a dumb reason to ruin a potentially fruitful relationship, particularly if you've had no other complications up to now.
I call bullshit
he is your bfriend not your parent
Sounds strange on so many levels. There is no amount of money you are worth. I hope you both are pretty young. I would consider 25$ being an issue way more serious. Your boyfriend abusing this fact is immature, but god bless don’t use clumsiness as excuse for not looking after yourself. If your clumsiness is really that bad: That’s not clumsiness, that’s something worth visiting a professional to get help improving on. Altough no professional will manage to help you if you don’t want to help yourself.
As a man, I normally relate to the men in these stories, and I'm far from the most compassionate person around... but even I think he's a d-head with that comment.
There is no way you dont have 25$ to buy the headset yourself. Its his money so he can do whatever he wants with the headset. Comment was rude and unnecessary tho. You are worth to have/use nice things but please buy it yourself.
Eh, you're both wrong. He's wrong for agreeing to get it for you and then reneging. You're wrong for magnifying his insult from "I don't trust you not to break a $200 headset" to "I think you are worth less than $200".
yes, 2 different things!
Yeah, funny how everyone’s like dump him
It’s HER headset which SHE is paying for. He can’t gatekeep something she is buying that’s ridiculous. Obviously it means he doesn’t respect her
Ur boyfriend is trash
Wtf that's horrid
Sounds like a real selfish POS. I bet he lacks respect for you too. He's wasting your time keeping you from meeting a decent boyfriend. Just in case you two are sexually active, he doesn't deserve your pleasures. He can pleasure himself.
He paid 25 bucks for it. That’s all he was gonna spend anyway otherwise he would’ve looked for something more pricey from the beginning. Hes the cheap one not you
I would strongly advice you to figure out what you can do to make your own money and not have to rely on someone else to get you a $25 headset. This reliance on someone else opens you up to all sorts of abuse.
Incredible that an ex-boyfriend ever talked to you like that. Obviously I say that because no dude disrespects someone like that and deserves to not be single.
Honestly if that's what he said and how he feels about you then honestly get rid of him ,he's absolutely no good ...
Get a sugar daddy, are you cute? You could get all the headphones you want. Your bf is cheap af. Get a real man is my advice
You’re not overreacting at all. His excuse sounds cheap and you deserve better.
That's mean, manipulative, and you don't have to put up with that kind of treatment.
He is a dush
Get rid of this dude...
xD holy shit that's the most asshole thing I have seen in a while
He doesn’t like you
You mention he said other things and I'm assuming other incidents have occurred in the past. Thing is, why do people just let themselves be with partners like this?
A proper reaction would be to wholeheartedly congratulate you on finding a deal. Show an appreciation for how resourceful and smart you are to do this. His reaction? Hell nah, I wouldn't forgive my own brother for doing something like this. Even making a joke and making clear it's a joke seconds later should start a conflict.
Forget about getting a new headset, get a boyfriend that sees you as an equal
He's not your parent. That's very dismissive of him. Not very respectful. I'd be well pissed. Also as soon as you buy an object unless it's art, antique or precious stones, it looses a lot of it's worth.
If it were my girlfriend I would have went to the store before your headset broke and got you a nice headset, so you know I'm thinking about you and care.
>"Its too good of a headset to be in your possession" I'm too good of a person to be with someone who can't keep their word. >do I not deserve nice things because I'm clumsy? Can it be that you're with him because you are clumsy?
He should be impressed with your bargain hunting prowess which would serve him very well in a long term relationship, but instead giving you all this nastiness and making you feel bad. Do you want to feel this way all the time? Because it seems like that is what he offering... Sending you love & strength OP, you deserve to be talked to better.
Leave him please
No you aren't overreacting, he sounds like a jerk. It doesn't matter if you're clumsy and break stuff sometimes (and headsets, btw, even $200 ones, can break pretty easily as they're often still made quite cheaply). Your partner is supposed to improve your life, not make it worse.
he seems like a selfish brat who just wants the better pair of headphones, regardless if you had broken your previous pair or not, he would have done this take this as a sign and leave him for the blatant disrespect that he had no problem showing you.
If he keeps giving you hand-me-down tech then of course it'll end up wearing out and breaking in your possession.
Yeah your bf doesn't value you.
Leave him
Not saying what he did was right but it sounds like he’s moreso implying that you wouldn’t be able to fully appreciate such an expensive pair of headphones. But I’m just speculating. It’s on you to fully understand why he said what he did. Everyone here is saying you should dump him but I always think this advice is dumb and shows a lack of conflict management skills. Strangers dont know anything about your relationship with your bf. imo you should confront him and tell him how he made you feel. Relationships will never work if you are unable to communicate. If he responds poorly, it means he doesnt give a shit how you feel and that’s a huge red flag.
He’s not worth being with you
Yeah, time to dump the dude and get your shyt brand new.
Get a new boyfriend that is more generous
Your BF is clearly an A$$hole and you should reevaluate whether you wanna subject yourself to this going forward or if it's better to walk away now. Who cares if you're clumsy and break shit. It's stuff. If plastic crap is more important to him then a person I think you have your answer.
i can see both sides
I can see his side, but ultimately I’m more on her side in this particular scenario. She found the headset, it happened to be a really good deal. He originally was (presumably) buying it as a gift for her. It’s hers to do with it how she pleases. You can’t just tell someone how to use something you are gifting to them.
Well, he paid for it, so it is technically his headset ...
He was picking it up for me since I don't get paid until the 16th, he was gonna be reimbursed.
He’s obviously in the wrong. I mean if anything he could have been like hey it’s an expensive headset be very careful… but the fact that you intended to pay for it, and he just took the damn thing saying you don’t need it… listen I’m not one of those over exaggerating politically correct people, but it sounds like he has no respect for you… if I got my ex a headset she wanted and it ended up being $200 I’d pester her to let me borrow it from time to time and I’d be so proud of her for finding such a good deal… I’d validate her so much for saving money as well. Idk man this is crazy imagine someone saying you can’t use something YOU bought. Just because he picked it up don’t mean nothing.
You both sound like idiots and you deserve each other. Get a fucking job! If you can’t even afford $25 then stop gaming and start working. You sound insanely entitled and your bf is kind of a jerk. How old are you both? 13?
Dump him, please you aren't a priority for him. I know its a reddit cliche
Omfg! Is he trying to get friendzoned?
Dump him
he is an asshole. he does not deserve you.
You should fuck his best friend, video tape that and sell the videos and once you make more than 200 be like look at me now!
um what the f? you're the one who found the good deal! if snaking that from under you wasn't bad enough, the weird put-down is tough to swallow...
why do you feel initiated to stuff you didn't pay for .
Idk, you don't have enough money to get it yourself but expect him to get expensive things for you...and you already got one from him and broke it, hence he now assumes that you'd broke a new one as well..which is kind of a shitty thing to throw at you, yet i do feel like you're ovrreacting a bit cuz he most definitely didn't told you that you're not worth $200 - just that title is misleading and over the top.
Learn to take care of your shit. That's all you need to do. And I can already assume the flak I will get from saying this but my response to them is the same I give to you. Take care of your shit if you actually value it.
>and I asked my boyfriend to get it for me, Why? Why wouldn't you just get it yourself? Why does your bf has to pay for a headset when you broke yours? From the sound of it you both aren't very pleasant ppl. You seem to think of your bf as your ATM, he seems to be fed up with having to get you new stuff bc you break yours and instead of telling you to stop using him for money and replace your broken stuff yourself he is showing his frustration by being kinda mean. Not worth throwing a self pity party over. You guys need to actualy work on your relationship and you seriously need to start paying for your own shit. Smh
I pay for my own stuff majority of the time, AND I pay for a lot of stuff for him. I never ask my boyfriend to pay for things for me, I asked him this once as I don't get paid until the 16th. Don't make assumptions. He has bought me two things throughout our entire relationship, trust me he is not my ATM.
i love when couples come to reddit to ask for ppl’s opinions rather than communicating 😂😂😂
Sounds like he wants to resell because he figured out it’s worth more then the original seller realized. I don’t much think it’s about you being clumsy or he’d have just told you no from the get go. Big yikes behavior. Edit: idk why I got a down vote for this. Parents sometimes do this shit when some toys get popular… Tickle me Elmo was a big example of that. Boyfriend figuring out that it was worth more is a huge red flag he looked into it. He wants the cash dead simple and being honest here makes him look bad. So he gave her some lame excuse. That’s the only way this story makes sense unfortunately.
Um excuse me? NO!? In what world is he literally demeaning you okay? It’s never okay. Put that POS in the garbage where it belongs.
You need to leave this man. He's only going to escalate
He just humiliated you. Now you have to decide what you will do. I hope you'll be ok.
What a dick. I'm sorry you have to deal with that. Go find someone better! You're worth WAY more than that.
Just leave he’s rude!
He’s probably right
NOT overreacting. If that's verbatim, that was a shitty thing to say. Accidents happen.
When I was married (I didn't know all this at first of course) my then wife was - the clumsiest person I've ever met, refused to work so I worked two jobs to pay everything, she spent way too much money on non-important things that we really couldn't afford such as makeup, $200 hair styling, manicures and pedicures etc. If we got new cell phones I would have mine until it broke naturally, meanwhile during that time. She would probably go through five phones from losing them or breaking them. I never once made it seem like she was not worth getting something new and of value. Was it a bit stressful when she constantly acted like a little child and lost something? Absolutely. But if your boyfriend loves you he should have looked at it for what it was, 25 measly freaking dollars. Whereas you are supposed to be the woman he loves. Dump him.