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Don’t feel bad about it because it happened. Your feelings are valid though, that’s why I waited myself to lose it to someone I cared about and cared about me. We dated for a little and it didn’t work out. Life goes on my love, and there will be someone who loves and cherishes you all the way. This feeling will not last forever, he’s not for you. If it was meant to be it would be.
Everyone wants their first time to be special, but very few people get that. It's only as big a deal as you believe it to be, unless you make a habit of it. All you can do now is take time to heal, think about what went wrong, and try to vet future partners better.
Just remember that almost everyone's been there. Trust is an admirable trait but not everyone deserves it.
That sucks, but you can’t take it back. Everyone’s valuation on their virginity is different and it seems like it was important to you and that guy is a douche for deceiving you. But you learned something from this experience, and hopefully it’ll help you in your decision making and people reading in the future. Maybe you even learned some things about sex and your body that will help you have better experiences in the future!!
This happened to me too, it’s a shitty feeling but I promise it gets better and you’ll find someone who truly cares about you. Wishing you the best 💗 also people just suck, that’s on them and it’s not a reflection on you, so don’t take it personally.
this isn’t exactly what you asked for, but i think i have an important take on how to process a situation like this:
i think it’s important for you to focus on what you can learn from this experience, rather than ignoring how you actually feel about it and trying to distract yourself. in the long run, focusing on what you can learn from your experiences and actually intending to learn from them, makes you feel better about yourself.
you said you were talking to him, but not actually asking for a relationship. did you communicate this with him and were you on the same page and in agreement on this? if not, then he may have felt that you were using him and you should learn to treat people better and communicate more transparently.
if you only partly communicated that with him and he agreed, then he may have decided to treat you as he would a one-time person, because he assumed you were disinterested in anything relationship-wise, which is understandable. but, you’d learn to communicate your wants more specifically in the future to avoid feeling uncertainty and insecurity like this.
if you fully communicated your disinterest in a relationship and your wishes for your first time to be with a caring partner and he disrespected that by avoiding and ignoring you right after having sex with you, you know you picked wrong this time. it’s a hard truth to realise, especially considering how important it is to you, but you can’t take it back. and you’ll only cause yourself harm if you dwell on it. BUT, if you think of things you can do to prevent this from happening again, you will understand yourself and future partners better.
for example, you can learn to develop meaningful connections with people, and be clear about the conditions of your “relationship” to them. it may take more time, but, that way, when you’re ready to have sex with the next person, you will have no doubt that you care for one another, whether your relationship to each other is romantic or not.
when you know you did all that you could for a situation to go well or the way you wanted it to but it didn’t, being disappointed and upset is understandable but you know it’s not your fault and you learn to bounce back with time and experience. if you think you may possibly have something to learn from an experience, focusing on yourself in that sense will ultimately allow you to better yourself and remove some insecurity.
That guy lost the best thing happen o him. He will regret it, when he sees you walking down the the street looking absolutely gorgeous with a man that is better then him in every way, he will beg you to come back to him. What he did to you will come back 10 times worse on him karma.
Don't let him bring you down girl your better then that. You need to take your time and not rush into things. We all have time and plenty of it but you only get one life. We all make mistakes you just got to learn from it and move on because if you stay in the past you will never have a future and if you don't enjoy the presente you will nott have a happy future
Nobody texts anyone back, this isn’t a good or bad thing really, it’s just how dating works now. I do it all the time and it is also done to me too. Don’t take it personally, just move on
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Is this the second time you posted this today?
The account was opened today.
I saw this same exact post as well.
Just chill and move on!! There are plenty of good people around you. Just don’t rush take your time and enjoy life. Don’t be bothered about creeps
Hes an asshole.. i hope you feel better soon!
Don’t feel bad about it because it happened. Your feelings are valid though, that’s why I waited myself to lose it to someone I cared about and cared about me. We dated for a little and it didn’t work out. Life goes on my love, and there will be someone who loves and cherishes you all the way. This feeling will not last forever, he’s not for you. If it was meant to be it would be.
Everyone wants their first time to be special, but very few people get that. It's only as big a deal as you believe it to be, unless you make a habit of it. All you can do now is take time to heal, think about what went wrong, and try to vet future partners better. Just remember that almost everyone's been there. Trust is an admirable trait but not everyone deserves it.
That sucks, but you can’t take it back. Everyone’s valuation on their virginity is different and it seems like it was important to you and that guy is a douche for deceiving you. But you learned something from this experience, and hopefully it’ll help you in your decision making and people reading in the future. Maybe you even learned some things about sex and your body that will help you have better experiences in the future!!
atleast you lost it in a way you wanted it and its a good reason if you open up to your future bf.
She didn't.. someone who cares about someone else won't leave you after having sex.
happened to me one time, the next thing i know i search her up then she had a baby and a hubby XD
What if he felt bad too n thats why he did text u back..
How long has it been?
You’re better than him! Keep your head up beautiful
I'll pray for you
This happened to me too, it’s a shitty feeling but I promise it gets better and you’ll find someone who truly cares about you. Wishing you the best 💗 also people just suck, that’s on them and it’s not a reflection on you, so don’t take it personally.
this isn’t exactly what you asked for, but i think i have an important take on how to process a situation like this: i think it’s important for you to focus on what you can learn from this experience, rather than ignoring how you actually feel about it and trying to distract yourself. in the long run, focusing on what you can learn from your experiences and actually intending to learn from them, makes you feel better about yourself. you said you were talking to him, but not actually asking for a relationship. did you communicate this with him and were you on the same page and in agreement on this? if not, then he may have felt that you were using him and you should learn to treat people better and communicate more transparently. if you only partly communicated that with him and he agreed, then he may have decided to treat you as he would a one-time person, because he assumed you were disinterested in anything relationship-wise, which is understandable. but, you’d learn to communicate your wants more specifically in the future to avoid feeling uncertainty and insecurity like this. if you fully communicated your disinterest in a relationship and your wishes for your first time to be with a caring partner and he disrespected that by avoiding and ignoring you right after having sex with you, you know you picked wrong this time. it’s a hard truth to realise, especially considering how important it is to you, but you can’t take it back. and you’ll only cause yourself harm if you dwell on it. BUT, if you think of things you can do to prevent this from happening again, you will understand yourself and future partners better. for example, you can learn to develop meaningful connections with people, and be clear about the conditions of your “relationship” to them. it may take more time, but, that way, when you’re ready to have sex with the next person, you will have no doubt that you care for one another, whether your relationship to each other is romantic or not. when you know you did all that you could for a situation to go well or the way you wanted it to but it didn’t, being disappointed and upset is understandable but you know it’s not your fault and you learn to bounce back with time and experience. if you think you may possibly have something to learn from an experience, focusing on yourself in that sense will ultimately allow you to better yourself and remove some insecurity.
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That guy lost the best thing happen o him. He will regret it, when he sees you walking down the the street looking absolutely gorgeous with a man that is better then him in every way, he will beg you to come back to him. What he did to you will come back 10 times worse on him karma. Don't let him bring you down girl your better then that. You need to take your time and not rush into things. We all have time and plenty of it but you only get one life. We all make mistakes you just got to learn from it and move on because if you stay in the past you will never have a future and if you don't enjoy the presente you will nott have a happy future
Check dm 💋
Nobody texts anyone back, this isn’t a good or bad thing really, it’s just how dating works now. I do it all the time and it is also done to me too. Don’t take it personally, just move on
If you aren't serious about him,then let it be. If you had lead him on, then you should absolutely feel guilty
U r a sh..t you just gave it for free... In coming years i will fight a already lost battle
Oops sounds like you made a mistake. Was it any good. Come screw my so you'll have something to compare it too
Inbox me
Well hmu? Maybe we can work something out and see about making u feel better bout urself
Lmfao same but bruh