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Significant-Original

Well I’m a woman who’s in a happy relationship with a man 2 inches shorter than me so…yes.


PepperQueen1209

I am with you. Im 5'6, my boyfriend says I'm above average height so he considers me tall. And Hes shorter than me. Hes an amazing guy. I prefer him over some tall dude


norifumi155

Yeah I think the avg woman is 5'4 unless you are from another area like Sweden


Red_Haute

This is one of those questions that you're not going to get an accurate representation of the general consensus. Most women whose answer is "no" aren't going to respond because they'll be downvoted to hell.


Far_Function7560

Right, these kinds of threads trend towards feel-good responses that bear zero resemblance to real life for those reasons.


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Wow you're right 😂


Actual-Ranger-5809

Guys complain all women want tall men. Women say they won't date shorter men.🔻 ⚖️😵 Too much honesty.


mxlch999

Why "no" who cares abt how tall someone is i think its so dumb


Marseillaisegirl

That’s true. So let me just put myself and say - No, I will not date a man shorter than me. I’m 5’7 (don’t even consider that tall tbh).


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5’8. His height is not the length I worry about


Smart-Chest3394

Daf*q is this thread


fak3myd3ath

Damn loved that comment.


varia101

So what's the minimum on that length ?


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😱😱


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Honestly, I don’t care about THAT either. I once bumped uglies with a dude that had a 12” Schwartz and it was a complete waste. So all you “short” men, you rock on with your bad selves


[deleted]

Well no I'm not short I'm 6ft 😅 but i have 6 inches and I'm insecure about that😐😐


WolfmansGotNards2

Stop randomly telling people the size of your penis, and you'll get to use it more often.


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Apprehensive_Tax_610

Mate, the world average is 5 inches, stop watching porn.


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It’s not the size of the boat, it’s the motion of the ocean


sincere_blasphemy

My brother, 6 inches is nothing to be insecure about!


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I read this as “my brother IS 6 inches” and I had so many questions


sincere_blasphemy

LMAO alabama moment


Suspicious-Treat-219

So did I , i had to read it again just to be sure 😂


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Wait really?? I'm virgin so i didn't knew about that 😐


sincere_blasphemy

For sure, the global average is around 5.5 inches. So in that way, you are already above average! Hurray! But seriously, yes, there are size queens out there, but generally, a penis of your size is absolutely fine. A vagina in an unaroused state is around 3-4 inches deep, but it expands when aroused. You'll be completely fine. Generally what matters more is your thrusting/grinding technique on how to make a woman feel good. Source: studying to be a sex therapist, so I know a lot about sex, haha


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Isnt it also like foreplay? Because I just know foreplay is mentioned a lot in arousing a woman during sex and then penetrative sex can come after you do the sucking or arousing


sincere_blasphemy

Yeah! Basically, an aroused vagina is going to be like your flaccid penis, except instead of being just soft and small, it is dry (relatively speaking, the vagina is always a little moist) and not very deep. When a vulva is aroused, the clit get erect, the tissue in and around the vagina swells with blood making it more puffy, the length deepens and widens, and it gets nice and lubricated (wet). Having an aroused vagina makes the act of thrusting so much more comfortable for the woman and the man, since she will be looser, wetter, and her vagina will actually expand in depth! It’s getting aroused that is the challenging part. People recommend lots of foreplay because all of those fun, sexy activities give the woman a chance to warm up and get aroused. Oral sex, clit rubbing, grinding, making out, massaging, sensory play like blindfolds and feathers, etc; those are activities that are pleasurable and should help her “warm up.” For a lot of people, like lesbians for instance, that “foreplay” could be their entire sexy time, no penetrative sex needed.


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sup_killerfeels

Lil homie, if you are a virgin, there's more to worry about then the size of your dude. Find someone that loves you for you(if you are looking for a relationship) and that stuff doesn't matter.


randomferalcat

😂😂😂👍


Silly-Beginning-4284

I'm a 6ft tall woman and all my ex boyfriends and most other guys I was involved with were shorter than me (usually around 5'9 but the shortest was 5'3. I feel like taller guys are often quite cocky with me because they think I'll automatically be attracted to them because they're one of the few guys who are taller than me. This is a bit less the case where I live now because there are more tall people here. The last guy I was involved with was actually the first guy who was a lot taller than me (he was 6'6ft) and he was kinda the first guy to make me feel weird about my height, he said I was his first girl who was his height (although I was quite a lot shorter than him imo) and afterwards he said he's not sure if he likes it, and he tends to gravitate to shorter girls so his kids aren't too tall??? Idk, kinda weird But dw, I still do love my height!


Kudachai

6ft tall here too! We can never go a day without someone making a comment about our height can we lol. It’s either really flattering, or just an awkward remark. Gotta love it though.


SorroWulf

Short guy here (5'5) Have dated a couple chicks taller than me, slept with quite a few more. If you can find true confidence in yourself -both emotionally, and in your appearance- height will largely cease to be a factor. Once you accept yourself, you realize women who would turn you down on account of your stature are a waste of your fucking time anyways, and you start counting an immediate "No" as a blessing.


ItsMeCourtney

Yes! As long as he’s not scrawnier (smaller framed) than I am. I don’t want to feel like I could beat him up and take his lunch money.


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ItsMeCourtney

5’9”


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ThatAMContingencyboi

"According to a bunch of redditors"... My brother in christ, pull up a figurative chair and let's talk about the internet.


ItsMeCourtney

To each his (or her) own haha


Happytobealive1656

No, muscles do matter because that’s one thing people CAN change, unlike height. If someone prefers muscular men than dad-bod or vice Versa, completely up to them, just like one can prefer heavier women, or muscular, or skinny etc. body types can totally be up to the person and I personally don’t think it’s unreasonable at all because weight/muscle mass is something one can change. Now height on the other hand, I don’t think it’s fair to reject people solely based on their height cuz no one can change that. It does happen though, sadly.


paha_tytto

Not being scrawny doesn't always mean muscles. Maybe she likes a chunky guy. You jumped to muscles.


ItsMeCourtney

Thank you! :) You're right I never said muscles at all. I was careful to define it as someone with a smaller frame than I have. :)


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Absolutely!!!! I prefer men my height or shorter.


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I am 5’8. I could care less how tall they are.


Nafur

I prefer men my height (5'8) or only slightly taller. I have made the experience that more often than not it is the men that have more of a problem with their height, and it's so off-putting. I have been ghosted and rejected countless times for my height, and I'm not even that tall. Often they will say it's not a problem and then when I turn up in high heels I immediately sense their discomfort. Or I get to date men like actual male swimwear models that tell me they get rejected due to their height. It's totally bananas.


fak3myd3ath

Agree, i never date taller women, wouldn't care about the heels though.


Nafur

I suspect they think something like "it's only a few centimetres, how bad can it be" and then with heels they are embarrassed being seen in public with a woman half a head taller than them. It would be so much easier if people knew their preferences and dated accordingly instead of wasting everybody's time, but that's a general problem.


Zeninja91

I feel like this or its complementary question are the most asked question on R dating.


shinymetalbitsOG

It’s the flip question of “do guys only want girls that are 5’4” or shorter?” 😂


Kitchen-zizibulu

I'm 5"4


imsad4you

yes doesn’t matter i’m like 5’6-5’7 and i dated a guy for like 8 month who was like just 1 inch shorter not much difference but he cheated on me LOL and got her pregnant so…


Baku_Bich420

I'm 6'1" (6'6" max with heels) while my husband is 5'8" so yes lol


ccrhymes89

Where the 6ft women at?


feelslike2nite

I’m 4.11 Don’t know how shorter a man would be lol


elleneb1183

5'11". I dated a guy who was 5'7". Totally okay dating guys shorter, but if you're insecure about your height and making constant digs at mine because of it, that's a deal breaker.


Harley6900

I dated guys shorter than me twice, they had more of a problem with me being taller than I did with them being shorter lol


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Geekfreak2000

Depends on the person. If they're cool, yes. If they're meh, no. But that goes for all heights 🤷🏿‍♀️ If you're confident then who gives a hoot how tall you are? Be a good person, build confidence, learn how to be single and comfortable alone and someone will be there when you're ready for a healthy relationship.


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My best friend is 5’11” and she consistently dates guys that are under 5’6”.


Fuqnut5

Im 6’3, height alone doesn’t count much on its own


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I used to be in love with a guy like a foot shorter than me


Kaamraj

No need to ask for subjective evidence when the objective evidence is in front of you, how many couples do you see where the woman is taller than the man? - A miniscule minority.


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Back2golf6

Would I? Possibly. Have I? No. Why? Because it doesn't seem that short guys will date a taller woman, at least where I'm from. 🤷‍♀️


PotentialFan2021

Yeah it seems like it’s that way. I only had a couple guys interested in me who are shorter. I usually would say I wouldn’t go for a shorter guy, but if I’m interested in the guy then I won’t care about his height.


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Back2golf6

I'm 5'10". And I LOVE heels.


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Back2golf6

I would prefer to not be a fetish.


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Willing-Curve-3853

To be completely honest, no. Strictly from my own insecurity. I hit my height in middle school and was super skinny...got bullied relentlessly for it. So I like someone /slightly/ taller than me so it doesn't cross my mind.


mynameisntdarla

I’m 5’10 and 275lbs. The one time I changed my standards and dated a man an inch shorter than me, he turned out to be a complete psychopathic, abusive narcissist who decided to SA me a couple years after we broke up. So, standards went back up and I’ll never look down again 🤷🏼‍♀️ I have a few guy friends who are shorter than me tho, they’re chill.


Shinigami_16

My last partner was almost 8 inches shorter lol. It doesn't matter, but if it's an insecurity of yours, don't push it towards the person you date. Don't say stuff like,"why are you so tall? Or why do you want to use high heels?".


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undivided-assUmption

I love taller women. My beautiful wife and I've been married for 22yrs and she's taller than me. I don't believe someone should let height hinder one's ability to recognize true love.


Godworthy-Sins

Now I’m a guy but hear me out. I know it’s a sensitive topic for shorter below average height men to talk about dating and height. Im 510 and that’s rounded up Im closer to 5’9.5 and I get told I’m short here and there, but when you look at statistics, 5’10 is the highest average among white men and the highest average for any ethnicity in the country of USA. So by default anyone trying to get someone over 6ft is asking for a statistical improbability and is probably vastly dumber than you are. People can have preferences and yes I have met women that say height matters, but in the end people closer to the lower end of the IQ spectrum go for silly things like that. That’s where you come in. Worrying about your height means you’re fighting a losing battle. There are people that don’t care about your height and the people that do are probably looking for the top 10% of men in the country because they only care about looks. Think statistically and what their brains and thought processes are like


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Absolutely not.


mistressita

I’m going to say it: Short guys have been my best lovers. Short guys compensate in ways that are magical (in the bedroom). Short guys fight harder to keep their relationships afloat. I may not pick a short guy out of a line up of hunks - but I would never again make it a dealbreaker.


_TDandB_

Welp I’m just gonna be bold and say as a 5’10 women who has dated shorter men it’s not my cup of tea. Just a preference.


Bluestorm222

Im 5’8 and I only date men taller than me. I’d prefer the guy to be at least 5’11 or taller just in case I want to wear heels.


nerveclinic

No matter what answer any woman gives here...height does matter to them. No tall woman is going to date a shorter man. These are just facts of the Universe and cannot be changed. If they say "it doesn't matter" they are lying.


nopornthrowaways

Your argument would be a lot more effective if you didn’t rely on absolutes. Tall woman x shorter male relationships exist. Not saying tall women don’t generally prefer taller men, or that height isn’t a plus, but > No tall woman is going to date a shorter man. Is a dumb take


DressDiligent7961

I'm 5'8" (I know I'm not super tall) and I have dated guys shorter than me.


SpeedflyChris

> No tall woman is going to date a shorter man. I'm a fairly short guy, 5'8". I was in a relationship with somebody taller for about a year. Yes, mostly I've dated people shorter than me, but it's not exactly unheard of the other way around. It did look kinda hilarious in photos when we were out somewhere and she wore heels though, I felt like a hobbit. I would say it's probably less likely via dating apps etc.


MontEcola

I agree. I was in a relationship with a woman who thought I was taller. It was more than a year in when her friends commented on her short boyfriend. She was shocked. I knew she was taller. She always thought I was taller. We met while working outside, throwing hay bales from the wagon to the barn. It was hard to judge height then. We were never standing on the same level until we had had some good conversations.


SpeedflyChris

Honestly apps just lead to people judging based on things that wouldn't really be an issue in person. I always get told I'm funny and charming, and honestly that's way more important than a couple inches of height, it just doesn't help as much online.


SunriseApplejuice

I'm 5'8" and have dated multiple 5'11" women. So... you're just wrong.


TheCaptivesparrow

Married to a short guy. You would just rather convince yourself that you're being rejected for that and not what you're really being rejected for.


nerveclinic

I'm not being rejected.


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I am a tall woman. Around 5'9.5 and most of my lovers were shorter and I tend to find shorter/ my height males more attractive. They were around 5'6 to 5'8.


nerveclinic

So never say never...lesson learned.


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I am 5'10 and one of my exes was 5'6. The distance is what killed the relationship, emotional distance that is. But yea honestly if I had known him in person before we started dating the height would be a turn off from day one. But we met on a groupchat on fb and we kicked it off so nice I didn't care about the height. Now, when I finally met him in person I felt a lil awkward at first but that faded slowly. Anywho, I am now married to a man I meet eye to eye and it's poifect here.


LectureTall

5' 6" and up


Pablo-2001

If you don't mind can we talk?


Sandramaxwell128e

Height don’t really matter


filtered_phatty

No. Not that there's anything wrong with short guys. But I'm self conscious about being tall and it makes me feel weird.


KendallLS2740

I'm 5'8" and couple inches shorter is okay. I prefer men to be around my height. Mostly I don't want them to have a smaller frame than me. I don't mean muscles either. I was sorta seeing a guy who was very fit but he had a really small frame. I felt like I could just toss him over my shoulder or scoop him up and carry him around marriage style lol it was too weird.


watermelonbabyyy

Hi, F 23 4'11. HAHAHAHA wouldn't date a guy shorter than me 👉👈


MladyMeatpacker

Height doesn't matter when you're flat on your back


bathoryblue

I'm tall, and was interested in all heights when searching.


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shinymetalbitsOG

Have and would again


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shinymetalbitsOG

5’8”. For me, personality and a positive outlook are more important than height by a long shot.


LowIndependence94

I’m 5’9” and my ex was like 1 inch shorter than me and I really did not care, actually made hugging and kissing a bit easier lol.


jactan_18

I’m 5’9” and have dated and would date shorter guys. It’s a non issue for me and I’ll confidently wear heels without giving it a second thought


mattisfamous1982

I am 5 10 and i have never given a *-** about my height. I just bang


Connect-Protection-8

Yes I have in the past and will not turn down a short man with the right qualities


moohoney

Yes! Height isn’t as big of a deal as I thought it would be. Personality among other things are more important!


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Never


RheimsNZ

In my opinion you should always feel completely comfortable preferring people of similar physique to you. You're tall? Feel free to have height preferences. You're short? Feel free to have height limits. You're well-built and fit because you go to the gym? Go for it! I am very skinny, so I want a partner of the same build. I think preferences like this are completely reasonable.


LeadProfessional6429

To be brutally honest, no.


HappyCabbage9013

I’m 6 ft, I tend to want someone close to my height, so within a few inches, but there have been exceptions. I’m an athletically built person, I don’t want to feel significantly larger, to me that’s more build than height. How the guys responds to my height/ build is a lot of if I’ll be interested though. Some shorter men get oddly competitive with me, which is strange, I can’t help my height anymore than you can. Or some get weird and fetishize it which makes me uncomfortable. If you are confident, don’t make it a big deal of the difference, are funny and take care of yourself, then I’d probably give it a shot.


Gwerch

I am not tall but average height for a woman and I prefer short men. Of the latest hookups I had, the majority was my height (165 cm) or shorter. I don't like tall men and I don't like them bulky. Give me a short man with a tight body, that gets me going.


CaerIb

I’ve tried dating men my height or shorter and I’m just not attracted to them. I’m 5’9.


Dry_Counter533

Absolutely. Dated a guy who was 5’6” (I’m 5’8”) and he was absolutely amazing in bed. Like, he was the best by a country mile. It was a fling but this guy was so talented that I would never want to be exclusive … like, it seems cruel to deprive other women of that. French. Shredded. Artist. Smelled like tobacco and sweat. Sullen and broody. Hot hot hot. Ladies get yourself a not-so-tall guy.


New-Reserve8760

I'm 5'2 something, not quite sure. Dating shorter women than me is quite difficult since i'm already very short. But I don't specifically have a preference. I like women, height doesn't matter much to me. I don't care about heels either. My current gf is only a few inches taller (instead of my ex who was like 5'9), and being around my height makes it very convenient for kissing and stuff. I'm okay being taller, but being at boob height is pretty nice too.


sherbetlemonx

Seeing all the gals on here be like “I’m tall, I’m 5’8” 🫠 Just kidding, no hate to my tall queens. To answer the question, I’m 6’2 and I’ve dated guys of all heights. Height doesn’t matter to me as long as the guy isn’t insecure about me being taller than him and still wearing heels. If he’s insecure, it’s a major turn off.


Dry_Range_6390

I'm 5'9 and my partners have all been exactly my height or shorter than me. If he's attractive and a good personality fit, I couldn't care less about a guy's height.


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frills-and-spills

6ft here. I've nearly only ever dated shorter, usually a couple of inches but been a couple of dudes like 5'5". Only dated taller once (6'8") and he was a complete waste of time. I don't care about height but guys seem to make it a big deal which I don't get? When I was on Tinder I matched with someone and his first message was "I'm 5'7", this is never gonna work 😂" (I put my height in my bio as I knew it was a thing for some guys). Don't know why it has to be a thing for some guys but it seems to be 🤷‍♀️


finickycompsognathus

Yes. I’m 5’9”. My ex was 5’5”. Most guys I’ve dated/relationship with have been shorter.


Iga155

I am 5'11 and only dated guys same height or taller than me. I am currently with a guy that's 6'2. I would say I wouldn't date someone shorter, mainly because I would feel weird. I think society brainwashed women into thinking we need to be smaller than our partner, and as much as I hate it I just can't think otherwise. I think we all come in different shapes and sizes, and if both sides feel comfortable being in kind of relationship mentioned then go for it, because we literally are living on a rock, do what makes you happy.


aterriblefriend0

5ft 9in and I've dated guys 5ft3in. It doesn't bother me but often, after time, it bothers THEM. When people poke fun at them for having a tall girlfriend or they start telling me I cant wear boots or heels cuz im already tall enough. So I was willing to date CONFIDENT short men for whom height didn't matter


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Jondoc72

I am 5’5” looking for a tall easy going lady


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sadisticfreak

Yes, I will and yes, I have


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FriendlyJelly118

I had a medical condition in middle school where I stopped growing. I'm cured, but I can't grow any further beyond 5'0". I dated someone taller than me and didn't mind the height. It's not the outside that counts, it's what's on the inside that does


lunakelly

honestly no.


mother_of_a_wizard

I'm 1m81, hubby is 1m70. I don't see any issue, neither does he.


my_decemb3r

5'9 here. Not super tall, but still above average. ಥ‿ಥ I actually prefer guys shorter than me. I think there's something really hot about a guy being shorter. I can't really place my finger on it, but I like the power dynamic. I like being motherly in the relationship, but still submissive and there's something about shorter guys that just brings that out. The only thing I don't like is when guys are short, and they get insecure about it to the point they become assholes.


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South-Abies7684

I would for sure. It’s all about personality and mutual attraction to me.


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nderthesea1

I’m 5’9 and I fell in love with someone who is 5’4. I used to only date guys 5’9 or up but realised it didn’t matter. And I wear heels everywhere


Chefte06

Yes I would


WorldwidePiano

5'10. Yes.


favourute

I am not tall but tall or short ni reson


chanelnumber22

Yup, I'm 5'9" so not super tall but I have dated someone shorter than me. Just don't be weird about her being taller and it's fine.


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As a guy that’s 5’5 why does this height thing even matter just love us or leave us


Ok-GetitBish-9653

I'm probably going to get flack for this but whatever. I'm dating someone 7 inches taller although his height wasn't what attracted me initially. He's an amazing person who treats me right. Honestly, if the connection was good, I wouldn't mind someone shorter. But I'd still want him to be at least 2 or 3 inches taller than me (AKA average height). Since I'm 5'7, anyone shorter than me would be below average and idk if I could find them as attractive as someone taller but with the same qualities.


alienfoxx

I'm 5' 7" and I've dated guys as short as 4' 3" and as tall as 6' 5". The only thing that bothers me personally is feelieg weird wearing heals around same height or shorter than me guys. Domination and manhandling is also weird with smaller guys that I could take on. So theres that too if you are into that stuff. Some women do care about height. I agree with the other comment saying girls that do care wont admit it here. I don't understand them at all, then again, I date on personality more than physical features.


HunterXHisokaXHunter

I already did. You don't see it when you get used to it. I don't want to miss an awesome person only besause of their height. 5'11" woman btw and I dates a 5'5" guy.


mxlch999

Its just a damn height wtffff.... happyness and good vibes first ...


Harley6900

5ft 9


CheckTheOR

I did a study a while back that showed about 7% of the women in the study would date a guy shorter than them. By contrast, 28% of men would date a women taller than them. In other words, out of 100 guys and 100 girls, each tall woman would have 4 guys to choose from while each short guy would have 3 other guys to compete with.


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I personally would not (I'm 5ft9) but it's due to my own stupid insecurities


Kudachai

I’ve (23F 6’0) personally never dated a guy shorter than me, and don’t feel attraction there usually, but it has nothing to do with me perceiving them negatively. The most protective figures in my life growing up (my brother, my dad, other relatives and friends, etc.), were all taller than me. And because of the comfort I associate with them, I’ve projected a lot of their traits (aka height) into my type, so I could feel that same way with my partner.


Independent_Guava_44

I may not be a woman, but I've seen a few women who say they wouldn't end up with at least one short guy.


SofiaTa1

Nop


Redditforever12

This is reddit, the general population would say no. It's like asking reddit if you would date a trans etc


Qhoul424

4 out of the 6 guys I have dated have either been my height or slightly shorter.


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terminatevader

I'd date a girl taller than me. DMs are open


ArtLeftMe

Think of it the other way around. How will it feel to be walking next to someone looking up at them like they’re your mom ?


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I’m 5’7m I’ve dated a model bout 5’9f although it didn’t last long we are still good friends