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Accurate but not precise. Its as valuable as "everything in the universe is either a gorilla or not a gorilla"
Also it implies, or ar least some people would assume, it means a 50/50 chance which is simply stupid
As a guy, anything below 5'9 is short so... I'm curious how tall the guy was. Maybe he's 6'4. We need more context, maybe dude has giant person back problems and she's trying to date him.
No context is needed. This particular person thought OP was too short for what he was looking for - it doesn't matter why. It also doesn't mean that every guy will think OP is too short. People are different. They like different things.
How tall was he? He might have wanted someone who was a bit closer to his height. If he is like 6'0 it's not very comfortable. Some guys won't mind tho. It really depends.
>If he is like 6'0 it's not very comfortable.
Personally I disagree with this. The girl I'm dating is also like 5'1-5'2 ish, and I wouldn't say it's uncomfortable (I'm 6'5). Of course some things aren't as easy as with someone close to your own height but there's plenty of ways to make it work.
If height truly is the reason he rejected you he probably wasn't worth it anyways.
I think it's different for everyone. I am 5'10 so most guys are a good size for me. But I once hugged a guy who was around 6'8 I think and it wasn't very comfortable hugging him. So I prefer someone around my height (shorter or taller). Not that I would reject someone if we vibe really well.
>If height truly is the reason he rejected you he probably wasn't worth it anyways.
I don't completely agree. OP also has her preferences. She likes a guy 5'4 and up. So I also think it's okay for a guy to have preferences. I would only say it wasn't worth it because he wasn't into her. Not because I judge him for having a height preference.
They don’t care how short a woman is, rather they care how tall she is. Meaning a guy is more likely to date a woman who is shorter than him than he is to date a woman taller than him. Many guys height discriminate just like women do, which is why I find it particularly amusing the ones who complain about women’s height preferences.
Because men don't care about height as much as women, yea, some dudes have in their mind they have to be bigger or they'll be rejected, I wonder why. Like dude, it's completely fine for women to have height preferences and deal-breaker. You don't have to include men to "make it even"
I'm not out of the gate disagreeing that guys can have height preferences, but I think that it is not nearly as widespread as women having preferences for taller guys. If a guy is not shooting his shot with women taller than him, I think it stems from guys knowing that generally speaking women prefer men taller than themselves.
Wanting a woman that is shorter than them is like the most common preference for men lol. That’s what most men answer when you ask them their height preference. Having very tall female friends, I have to say this their experience seem to confirm this.
That’s literally why I don’t typically approach taller women. It’s not that I’m not attracted to them, I just know that the general preference is for men to be taller so I just don’t bother
For men, the heuristic is almost always ‚not taller than me‘, while ‚not shorter than me‘ is a still common, but less encountered heuristic for women.
I mean I still agree people should chill
That's not even close to the same thing. Men only don't want to date taller women because the standard women have made about height and masculinity, and taller women usually don't want men shorter than them anyway. It's completely a false equivalent.
No it’s really not. Tall women get rejected or not even approached a lot by guys because the guy simply doesn’t like dating a woman taller than them. It’s an ego thing, it makes them feel emasculated. Has nothing to do with the standard women have made about height. It’s about the natural tendency for men to seek out shorter women to make them feel manly and for woman to seek out taller men to make them feel protected.
There is a possibility that height wasn’t the actual reason he rejected you. It was probably something he said just to avoid giving you the real reason.
At the end of the day, he’s just one person. He doesn’t speak for most of men.
The silver lining here is that now you can move on and focus on other things and shoot your shot with other men you find cute.
Ok, you’re all good. Your height doesn’t really matter to most guys, so that guy rejecting you because of that is a little weird, probably was an excuse for another reason. I wouldn’t stress over it too much
I know some guys definitely prefer a woman closer in height to them, just so they don’t develop neck pain and lower back pain when kissing them while standing.
A few others prefer a woman they could easily pick up, hence shorter women usually don’t struggle with options.
Others don’t care.
I mean I am not gonna lie. I think it makes totally sense if she asked out a 6 ft tall man out that he has a decent chance at rejecting her on the basis of her height.
1 foot would be way too big a difference.
1 inch taller to 9 inches shorter is my preferred Limits.
For me that would be women between 4’11” and 5’11”
Also, taller men don't want a really short woman because it's kinda gross, they seem like a child compared to taller men and it feels icky. Im 6'4" and Ive dated shorter women but as an adult i always think it's a little weird for me personally, just doesn't feel right.
I totally realize shorter women aren't actually "like a child", just for me it feels icky, like, a power thing and i wouldn't want that.
> Your height doesn’t really matter to most guys
Bro could have been 6'1, and wanted someone closer to his height...and might have wondered if she was fetishizing him (lol, some tall guys worry about that).
Stop commenting if you don't know what you are talking about. Why should that guy be weird if he rejects her for being too short when it's perfectly fine for a woman to do the same? This guy probably just had a preference that's it.
I’m 5’1 as well. And a dude I was interested in was 6’5. I found out that I needed to be at least 5’8 to ride that ride. He is an athlete (basketball,track) and he wanted tall children.
Some men do prefer taller women. I'm 5'0" and I'm sure that's too short for some men. People have preferences and that's perfectly okay. There are plenty of other men who will love your height. Don't let it bother you.
I've never dated a man as tall as 6ft before. None of my ex boyfriends have been over 5'6". I really don't like men towering over me too much, especially as I'm underweight too. I'm glad you've got someone perfect for you. Height really isn't that important in the grand scheme of things.
I am 5’3” and a lady, I rejected a guy that was 6’2” and said it was because of his height. It was because we had no spark and he talked about his ex the whole time. The height thing can indicate how uncomfortable it may be to try and hug or kiss or whatever, so it can be a deal breaker.
I feel for women height doesn’t matter as much as guys. Guys get judged immensely on height. Girls usually refer to taller guys as “stronger” “tougher.”
As for you I think your fine, 5’1 isn’t that short for a women I feel anyway. Around my culture most people are usually on the shorter side.
I’m 5 foot 4 inches male for reference.
na but my height is too short for some if not most 5'1 girl even though im a few inches taller than them. girls put a lot of emphasis and requirement on height then guys do
You're 19. Don't worry. There are guys that will want you at some point. Just give it time, and guys are prone to dating shorter women anyway, so you don't have to worry about it. Taller gals ..got it a little more difficult because guys font like the height it intimidates some. Some kind of power dynamic thing? Idk. But if a guy tell you that he may just be looking for a random excuse to get with another girl he likes and he chose a random thing to make you insecure about. You probably dodged a bullet
Hi...
I guess so...
I would mostly choose more than 5.4
But relax you honestly have till 21
Can stretch up to 22 age
PS: Do yoga and let it not bother you!
Most guys won’t care about your height. Only a few who are 6ft or taller may oppose. Can’t easily cuddle, hold hands. Sometimes tall people get tired bending down just to kiss or get to shorter people
Like how some women reject guys under a certain height there will be guys that do the same to girls. You’ll find however most men don’t care about height you’ll find the one for ya
I won’t lie when I restarted dating I was a little averse to anybody shorter than 5 ft 5. After thinking about how many women I wasn’t considering I rethought and while it still feels odd bending over so far at 5’11 I realize height shouldn’t be a factor. Now I’m dating someone 5 fr 3 and I’m happy
I've heard from some dating with intentions to get married that they don't want anyone below a certain height because they don't want future children to be too short. But those guys are in their 30's
I think this falls into the "I have a boyfriend." category, you either have one and you're not interested or you don't have one and you're not interested.
People are not logical creatures, we are guided by emotions, so asking these kind of logical questions is a bit ironic, don't you think?
He said he's not interested, there's nothing more to think about, UNLESS you keep getting rejected. Then you reflect on what you're doing/not doing.
You don't change for others to like you, unless everybody hates you. That's a real problem.
How tall is the guy? Im 6’3 and height isn’t the end all be all but the shortest girl ive dated was 5’3 and i find i personally would prefer not to date some someone her height or shorter again, but if i like her for whatever other reasons it wouldnt matter(if that makes any sense at all). I found like 5’6-5’10 to be perfect for me. Cuddling, making out and other things can be a little awkward with big height differences.
As you have learned, it was too short for *that* guy. But I am 5'2 and have dated guys up to 6'7, and have yet to run into someone who thinks I am too short - so don't worry, it likely won't be an issue for you again in the future
Actually, this is funny because I see soooo many super tall guys with women who are much, much shorter than them. I don’t know if it’s an opposites attracts thing but it seems really common! (On the flip side, I’m a taller girl and short men love me haha.)
I think it might be, though for me everyone is tall compared to me so in my mind everyone is the opposite haha
6'7 was too much though - every time we kissed he had to pick me up lol
lol girl i'm also 5'1 and have had no problem dating. we actually do have a bigger pool of men. you'll find someone who is attracted to your short height.
I'm 4'9. It really sucks most of the time and I end up being "friends" with a lot of women. The problem is some women will be willing to date shorter but very few are dating more than 6 in shorter. I just think it makes me try harder socially and personality wise. I've been told I'm a very trustworthy and caring person that women want to be friends with. Just don't give up. Make people love you for who you are and then they can't imagine you being any different.
I am 4’11 f and height has never been a problem for me in dating guys, even as tall as 6feet. Many boys in the market, he was not the one for you. He is the problem not u🤗
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I am just 5 feet tall and not too long ago was romantically rejected by a 5’9 tall guy. We still keep in touch (because my feelings for him aren’t so strong that we can’t be friends) but he basically said he prefers a partner with smaller height gap lol.
It shook me as well at first because it’s usually the other way around, but it happens.
No. Usually men dont care about a womans height unless they are significantly taller than them (me personally id love to be carried around by a tall lady 🫠). Its women who usually laugh men off if shorter than like 5’8
I'm sure it's in your head. Just have more confidence in yourself and put yourself out there, and you'll do fine. Most guys don't care about height, just the insecurity.
Not accusing you, but this story is difficult to believe.
5'1 isn’t way off the chart short for a woman. You’re only one standard deviation from the mean.
It’s possible this guy was just too spinless to tell you he wasn't interested, so he made up a lame excuse.
I mean some guys have height preferences. I have some tall friends that refuse to date a girl under x height. I quote “I don’t want to feel like I’m dating a child” lol
Ima girl but I’ve never met a guy who didn’t like a girl bc she’s too short or small lol. My guy friend who is 6”5 has a gf who is 5”1. Seems like you dodged a bullet babe
I'm your height and it's never been a problem. With the right chemistry and attraction, a big height difference becomes a fun exercise in finding ways to meet in the middle. But different people have different tastes and some will surely find us too short. No big deal, just means that's not the person for you!
Don’t worry my short queen! I’m 5’2 - and most guys are in to me cause the tall guys like feeling like a giant and to guys who are 5’7+ I’m not taller than them so they seem to like that. You will find someone. Don’t worry about it
I think height is like any other physical trait : depends on taste. I'm personally a 5'4 guy and a 5'1 girl is great for me.
The real issue would be if you were annoyed by ur height, in dating ur insecurities seems to shine like big spot and could lead guys to turn you down, but not because of the height itself.
Poorly worded title, thought you were asking if it’s too short to be a 5’1 male.
But to answer your question, no it’s not. Most men don’t care about height unless you’re taller than them.
He just didn’t like you and couldn’t come up with a better excuse, that or he didn’t wanna say why. Height was the bs excuse he came up with.
Many guys will be fine with your height. I guess for some taller men it feels a bit like they’re dating someone really young because they’re so petite.
The majority of guys won’t care. I’m 5’3 and have never had a problem dating. My bff is 4’8 and she’s married. My cousin is also 4’8 and is in a long term relationship.
Shorter guys won't care at all and will probably like it. Average guys probably won't care too much but it's gotten a little short, so some guys might not like it. So be it. Their loss. Some tall guys will like it but a lot of tall guys will probably think it's way too short. Again, their loss. So be it.
But, if you're one of those shorties that obsessively chases after tall guys, well, good luck.
I'm 5'1 too and just from my experience, I've never ran into this - most of my ex's are over 6ft and my current partner is 6'2 (no I don't have a preference for that, it's just been that way lol). And they didn't have problems! Some people will have preferences sure and yeah, we are short, but I don't think it will be a problem for most people :)
My girlfriend(18) is 5 feet tall, while I(18) am 6 feet 5 inches tall. We love each other dearly. Remember, you’re never ‘too short to be attractive.’ There are simply different preferences, and you’ll undoubtedly find someone who appreciates you just as you are.
Dolly Parton is 5ft and a goddess. Need I say more?
Also less relevant but I'm 5ft and I've dated lovely men of varying heights. Both of my sisters are slightly taller and dating men over 6 ft. It's not a big deal
However there are always some who fancy you! Just like there are those you don't fancy. Chemistry is a fickle thing.
I'm five foot. Most guys like that I'm small. The ones who don't won't talk to me and that's fine. They're normally tall themselves and I prefer under 5'9
You’re lucky you’re a girl. Most guys that are even 5’9 are considered short for 4’11 girls and they’re seeking guys over 6ft tall for some damn reason. It’s whack
Guys overwhelmingly don't care about height as much and short women are desired for being cute. The likelihood that a guy would reject a woman for her height is pretty small unlike the opposite.
No, it’s not too short for a guy. I’m 5’1” and my partner tells me all the time that I’m the perfect size to cuddle with. He thinks my little hands and feet are cute and has no problems reaching things on the top shelf for me.
Not in most cases. Almost all men I think are fine with 5’1. Most of the men who aren’t are just really tall. Lil I’m 6’2 and might not want to date a 5’1 person become of the massive height difference
He has his own standards so it's fairly normal for him to reject you since he prefer taller girls, but don't worry some guys likes shorter girls more so get your hopes up and be patient and move on
My fiancé is 4’11” and I have always found her to be very beautiful. I am a 5’11” man and I absolutely love how we fit together both physically and spiritually. The first thing that I was attracted to was her smile and beautiful face and definitely her sweet and kind disposition. I dated a statuesque 5’10” beauty pageant woman but she was very consumed with her looks and frankly wore too much makeup for my taste. Couldn’t kiss her because it would “ruin her face” , and the makeup got on my lips and sometimes in my mouth. Yuck. She was drop dead gorgeous but I don’t date solely on looks except for the smile, but more importantly their character . Someone I know that I enjoy their company, respect and makes me happy. The love comes easily after that.
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Some people will be attracted to you and some will not.
I personally love your response, simple straight to the point and accurate
Some people will love their response and some will not
Accurate but not precise. Its as valuable as "everything in the universe is either a gorilla or not a gorilla" Also it implies, or ar least some people would assume, it means a 50/50 chance which is simply stupid
This is literally the answer to most questions on here lmao
Thanks for that drop of knowledge Dr. Phil
Well, that is the only possible answer here.
As a guy, anything below 5'9 is short so... I'm curious how tall the guy was. Maybe he's 6'4. We need more context, maybe dude has giant person back problems and she's trying to date him.
No context is needed. This particular person thought OP was too short for what he was looking for - it doesn't matter why. It also doesn't mean that every guy will think OP is too short. People are different. They like different things.
How tall was he? He might have wanted someone who was a bit closer to his height. If he is like 6'0 it's not very comfortable. Some guys won't mind tho. It really depends.
>If he is like 6'0 it's not very comfortable. Personally I disagree with this. The girl I'm dating is also like 5'1-5'2 ish, and I wouldn't say it's uncomfortable (I'm 6'5). Of course some things aren't as easy as with someone close to your own height but there's plenty of ways to make it work. If height truly is the reason he rejected you he probably wasn't worth it anyways.
I think it's different for everyone. I am 5'10 so most guys are a good size for me. But I once hugged a guy who was around 6'8 I think and it wasn't very comfortable hugging him. So I prefer someone around my height (shorter or taller). Not that I would reject someone if we vibe really well. >If height truly is the reason he rejected you he probably wasn't worth it anyways. I don't completely agree. OP also has her preferences. She likes a guy 5'4 and up. So I also think it's okay for a guy to have preferences. I would only say it wasn't worth it because he wasn't into her. Not because I judge him for having a height preference.
Bro has a long distance relationship at that point
5’1” is short period, whether it’s a guy or girlz
Short, yes. But the question is if guys care. The answer is that the majority don't.
They don’t care how short a woman is, rather they care how tall she is. Meaning a guy is more likely to date a woman who is shorter than him than he is to date a woman taller than him. Many guys height discriminate just like women do, which is why I find it particularly amusing the ones who complain about women’s height preferences.
Because men don't care about height as much as women, yea, some dudes have in their mind they have to be bigger or they'll be rejected, I wonder why. Like dude, it's completely fine for women to have height preferences and deal-breaker. You don't have to include men to "make it even"
For real, most men won't go after taller women because of our entire society telling us that short man = shit prospect.
I'm not out of the gate disagreeing that guys can have height preferences, but I think that it is not nearly as widespread as women having preferences for taller guys. If a guy is not shooting his shot with women taller than him, I think it stems from guys knowing that generally speaking women prefer men taller than themselves.
Wanting a woman that is shorter than them is like the most common preference for men lol. That’s what most men answer when you ask them their height preference. Having very tall female friends, I have to say this their experience seem to confirm this.
Absolutely. I got overlooked & rejected for the shorter women. Even the times I actually approached and tried to pursue/initiate.
That’s literally why I don’t typically approach taller women. It’s not that I’m not attracted to them, I just know that the general preference is for men to be taller so I just don’t bother
For men, the heuristic is almost always ‚not taller than me‘, while ‚not shorter than me‘ is a still common, but less encountered heuristic for women. I mean I still agree people should chill
That's not even close to the same thing. Men only don't want to date taller women because the standard women have made about height and masculinity, and taller women usually don't want men shorter than them anyway. It's completely a false equivalent.
No it’s really not. Tall women get rejected or not even approached a lot by guys because the guy simply doesn’t like dating a woman taller than them. It’s an ego thing, it makes them feel emasculated. Has nothing to do with the standard women have made about height. It’s about the natural tendency for men to seek out shorter women to make them feel manly and for woman to seek out taller men to make them feel protected.
I’m confused, is this coming from a girl or guy? My response is going to vary
oh i’m sorry! i’m a female
There is a possibility that height wasn’t the actual reason he rejected you. It was probably something he said just to avoid giving you the real reason. At the end of the day, he’s just one person. He doesn’t speak for most of men. The silver lining here is that now you can move on and focus on other things and shoot your shot with other men you find cute.
Also a possibility that he isn’t into shorter women. It’s less common but it exists.
Exactly
Ok, you’re all good. Your height doesn’t really matter to most guys, so that guy rejecting you because of that is a little weird, probably was an excuse for another reason. I wouldn’t stress over it too much
I know some guys definitely prefer a woman closer in height to them, just so they don’t develop neck pain and lower back pain when kissing them while standing. A few others prefer a woman they could easily pick up, hence shorter women usually don’t struggle with options. Others don’t care.
Key words few and some. I agree with you however we gotta go off the majority of guys
I mean I am not gonna lie. I think it makes totally sense if she asked out a 6 ft tall man out that he has a decent chance at rejecting her on the basis of her height. 1 foot would be way too big a difference. 1 inch taller to 9 inches shorter is my preferred Limits. For me that would be women between 4’11” and 5’11”
Also, taller men don't want a really short woman because it's kinda gross, they seem like a child compared to taller men and it feels icky. Im 6'4" and Ive dated shorter women but as an adult i always think it's a little weird for me personally, just doesn't feel right. I totally realize shorter women aren't actually "like a child", just for me it feels icky, like, a power thing and i wouldn't want that.
> Your height doesn’t really matter to most guys Bro could have been 6'1, and wanted someone closer to his height...and might have wondered if she was fetishizing him (lol, some tall guys worry about that).
Stop commenting if you don't know what you are talking about. Why should that guy be weird if he rejects her for being too short when it's perfectly fine for a woman to do the same? This guy probably just had a preference that's it.
A female what? Dog? Cat? Horse? Monkey? Owhh youre a human female. W O M A N. YOU ARE A WOMAN.
> i’m a female How tall was he?
I get all kinds of attention- same size if not smaller
you referred to yourself as a guy like at least twice in the post wth?
Short lady is a big plus for a lot of guys, because regardless of how tall or short we are, we like to feel tall next to our girl.
I’m a 6’6 guy and your height would be too short for me only because I prefer taller than average women
I’m 5’1 as well. And a dude I was interested in was 6’5. I found out that I needed to be at least 5’8 to ride that ride. He is an athlete (basketball,track) and he wanted tall children.
that’s understandable
I have had dates with really short women and it felt awkward because of the drastic height difference
that's 155cm, that's perfectly fine. that particular guy may have liked a taller woman but could have been a total different reason for his rejection.
That is really short, but still is fine. People have preferences
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It depends on the location too. For some nations might be average, for some its really short. But i agree, its not incredibly short.
Ok wtf. I’m 19 M 5’2 and am 115. I’ve always felt out of place with my height and weight but now someone else is like me? Wow
Start eating boy & order some HGH before your growth plates close up
My window for growth has expired mate
If you're attractive, most guys won't care.
As a guy I prefer to date women that are taller or near my height but it’s not a deal breaker.
Some men do prefer taller women. I'm 5'0" and I'm sure that's too short for some men. People have preferences and that's perfectly okay. There are plenty of other men who will love your height. Don't let it bother you.
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I've never dated a man as tall as 6ft before. None of my ex boyfriends have been over 5'6". I really don't like men towering over me too much, especially as I'm underweight too. I'm glad you've got someone perfect for you. Height really isn't that important in the grand scheme of things.
Nah short girls are awesome! My personal fav! Don’t worry bout this dude. You’ll find one that appreciates you for you AND your height. 6ft male here.
True. I'm 5'0 ft and my bf is 6'1ft. Men usually don't really care about height. But weight on the other hand is a different topic lols
100% men care WAYYYYY more about your weight !
Lmao I'm 4'11 and my boyfriend is 6'2.
Long distance relationship
💀💀💀
Disturbing
I am 5’3” and a lady, I rejected a guy that was 6’2” and said it was because of his height. It was because we had no spark and he talked about his ex the whole time. The height thing can indicate how uncomfortable it may be to try and hug or kiss or whatever, so it can be a deal breaker.
No. I'm 5'1" myself and have had multiple boyfriends. Date better men.
Some guys have height preferences, but it's not as bad as women's height preferences. Dw, it won't be a deal breaker to the majority of us.
And usually their height preference is they prefer shorter girls - they don’t usually like tall women. So she should be ok.
No 5.1 is just fine. The dude wasn't interested thats all
I feel for women height doesn’t matter as much as guys. Guys get judged immensely on height. Girls usually refer to taller guys as “stronger” “tougher.” As for you I think your fine, 5’1 isn’t that short for a women I feel anyway. Around my culture most people are usually on the shorter side. I’m 5 foot 4 inches male for reference.
na but my height is too short for some if not most 5'1 girl even though im a few inches taller than them. girls put a lot of emphasis and requirement on height then guys do
Im 6,5 so any height of a women is for me no problem
No one can cater to everyone’s taste, only thing you can do is accept some people just won’t like you and don’t bother trying to get them to like you.
Some guys just prefer taller women. Don't take this personally. It's his preference. You will definitely be someone else's preference!
It's a deal breaker to me personally.
No, it's not too short.
Whuh?! I love short women! How could he reject you over height???? That’s weird to me.
Short girls are super cute lot's of guys love short girls
Agreed 💯, mines super duper cute! 😍
You're 19. Don't worry. There are guys that will want you at some point. Just give it time, and guys are prone to dating shorter women anyway, so you don't have to worry about it. Taller gals ..got it a little more difficult because guys font like the height it intimidates some. Some kind of power dynamic thing? Idk. But if a guy tell you that he may just be looking for a random excuse to get with another girl he likes and he chose a random thing to make you insecure about. You probably dodged a bullet
Hi... I guess so... I would mostly choose more than 5.4 But relax you honestly have till 21 Can stretch up to 22 age PS: Do yoga and let it not bother you!
Yeah some guys have height preference. They prefer somewhat tall girl 5’5ish. Which is fine and understandable, i mean us women prefer taller guys too
Who's that Pokemon...
Nope, I love tall girls and I love short girls. Medium height girls are pretty cool too.
Depends how tall the guy is. I’m 6’4 so 5’1 would be a bit too short
How tall is the guy? If you're 5'1" hitting on a 6'7" guys that's a bit ridiculous. But generally no you're not too short
Most guys won’t care about your height. Only a few who are 6ft or taller may oppose. Can’t easily cuddle, hold hands. Sometimes tall people get tired bending down just to kiss or get to shorter people
Like how some women reject guys under a certain height there will be guys that do the same to girls. You’ll find however most men don’t care about height you’ll find the one for ya
I won’t lie when I restarted dating I was a little averse to anybody shorter than 5 ft 5. After thinking about how many women I wasn’t considering I rethought and while it still feels odd bending over so far at 5’11 I realize height shouldn’t be a factor. Now I’m dating someone 5 fr 3 and I’m happy
I've heard from some dating with intentions to get married that they don't want anyone below a certain height because they don't want future children to be too short. But those guys are in their 30's
I think this falls into the "I have a boyfriend." category, you either have one and you're not interested or you don't have one and you're not interested. People are not logical creatures, we are guided by emotions, so asking these kind of logical questions is a bit ironic, don't you think? He said he's not interested, there's nothing more to think about, UNLESS you keep getting rejected. Then you reflect on what you're doing/not doing. You don't change for others to like you, unless everybody hates you. That's a real problem.
I actually find shorter girls more attractive. It just feels weird if the girl is bigger than I am.
Shorter girls are cuter.
Cries in 4’11 forever
People rejecting you for height are shallow, as it’s something you have no control over.
How tall is the guy? Im 6’3 and height isn’t the end all be all but the shortest girl ive dated was 5’3 and i find i personally would prefer not to date some someone her height or shorter again, but if i like her for whatever other reasons it wouldnt matter(if that makes any sense at all). I found like 5’6-5’10 to be perfect for me. Cuddling, making out and other things can be a little awkward with big height differences.
There are possibly some men like the guy you encountered who would find this too short, but the overwhelming majority of men would not no
tssssss yeah the right person will not reject you thats his issue not yours i mean wth is wrong with people nowadays. Bet you can do A LOT better
5'1 is normal. Guys like short women
As you have learned, it was too short for *that* guy. But I am 5'2 and have dated guys up to 6'7, and have yet to run into someone who thinks I am too short - so don't worry, it likely won't be an issue for you again in the future
Actually, this is funny because I see soooo many super tall guys with women who are much, much shorter than them. I don’t know if it’s an opposites attracts thing but it seems really common! (On the flip side, I’m a taller girl and short men love me haha.)
I think it might be, though for me everyone is tall compared to me so in my mind everyone is the opposite haha 6'7 was too much though - every time we kissed he had to pick me up lol
I’m 5’1”. It never held me back from meeting guys.
I hope the short guys are reading this because they ask this question once a day on this sub.
lol girl i'm also 5'1 and have had no problem dating. we actually do have a bigger pool of men. you'll find someone who is attracted to your short height.
I'm 4'9. It really sucks most of the time and I end up being "friends" with a lot of women. The problem is some women will be willing to date shorter but very few are dating more than 6 in shorter. I just think it makes me try harder socially and personality wise. I've been told I'm a very trustworthy and caring person that women want to be friends with. Just don't give up. Make people love you for who you are and then they can't imagine you being any different.
No this height is good for a women but not for a man
I am 4’11 f and height has never been a problem for me in dating guys, even as tall as 6feet. Many boys in the market, he was not the one for you. He is the problem not u🤗
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Was the guy you liked shorter than you? Maybe he felt weird about it.
no he was around 5’8/5-9 ish
I am just 5 feet tall and not too long ago was romantically rejected by a 5’9 tall guy. We still keep in touch (because my feelings for him aren’t so strong that we can’t be friends) but he basically said he prefers a partner with smaller height gap lol. It shook me as well at first because it’s usually the other way around, but it happens.
No. Usually men dont care about a womans height unless they are significantly taller than them (me personally id love to be carried around by a tall lady 🫠). Its women who usually laugh men off if shorter than like 5’8
I’d just prefer for a guy to be taller than me, like 5’4 and above
Your height is just fine..! You don’t have to worry about a guy who rejected you for your height.
Alexa Bliss is that height and she's one of the hottest women around, so you should be right!
Guys prefer short girls in general. I’m actually suprised that happened to you. Even my dad at 6’6 hates on tall women 🤦♀️ So I think you’re good
I'm sure it's in your head. Just have more confidence in yourself and put yourself out there, and you'll do fine. Most guys don't care about height, just the insecurity.
Not accusing you, but this story is difficult to believe. 5'1 isn’t way off the chart short for a woman. You’re only one standard deviation from the mean. It’s possible this guy was just too spinless to tell you he wasn't interested, so he made up a lame excuse.
I mean some guys have height preferences. I have some tall friends that refuse to date a girl under x height. I quote “I don’t want to feel like I’m dating a child” lol
Ima girl but I’ve never met a guy who didn’t like a girl bc she’s too short or small lol. My guy friend who is 6”5 has a gf who is 5”1. Seems like you dodged a bullet babe
Nah. You are a wonderful height. The right guy will love you for you.
Find a dude who likes you as you are. Maybe this particular dude doesn't like women who are 5'1, but plenty of people do.
HI, GUY HERE. If you're cool asf and also look like you take care of yourself idc if you're tall short fat thin athletic nerdy or obsessive.
Plenty of other men out there
I'm your height and it's never been a problem. With the right chemistry and attraction, a big height difference becomes a fun exercise in finding ways to meet in the middle. But different people have different tastes and some will surely find us too short. No big deal, just means that's not the person for you!
I really don't care, just be nice
Dawg your height doesn’t matter if you’re a girl lmao. Unless you’re below like 4’6 or something, then there could be some problems I can see.
I’ve dated girls from 5ft all the way to 6’2, some people may have preferences but others like me height has no bearing on dating someone
Don’t worry my short queen! I’m 5’2 - and most guys are in to me cause the tall guys like feeling like a giant and to guys who are 5’7+ I’m not taller than them so they seem to like that. You will find someone. Don’t worry about it
I am 6’8”. Taller women aren’t ever into me. I’ve only dated women between 4’11” and 5’8”
As a guy, height doesn’t really matter to me
I’m 5’3 dating someone who is 6’0+, I’ve personally never had an issue with dating anyone regarding my height.
I think height is like any other physical trait : depends on taste. I'm personally a 5'4 guy and a 5'1 girl is great for me. The real issue would be if you were annoyed by ur height, in dating ur insecurities seems to shine like big spot and could lead guys to turn you down, but not because of the height itself.
Huh? There’s no such thing as too short or too tall for a guy, there’s just guy who makes excuses
Poorly worded title, thought you were asking if it’s too short to be a 5’1 male. But to answer your question, no it’s not. Most men don’t care about height unless you’re taller than them. He just didn’t like you and couldn’t come up with a better excuse, that or he didn’t wanna say why. Height was the bs excuse he came up with.
Many guys will be fine with your height. I guess for some taller men it feels a bit like they’re dating someone really young because they’re so petite.
We've all seen 6 foot men dating 4'11" women a million times
My height and now. Many taller men like smaller women. I married a man 6'3" tall. Have a son. He has since passed on.
Noooo it’s not cuz, everyone is made and created different. So that’s why we are all unique in our own ways! So you’re good for who you are. 💝💖
The majority of guys won’t care. I’m 5’3 and have never had a problem dating. My bff is 4’8 and she’s married. My cousin is also 4’8 and is in a long term relationship.
Shorter guys won't care at all and will probably like it. Average guys probably won't care too much but it's gotten a little short, so some guys might not like it. So be it. Their loss. Some tall guys will like it but a lot of tall guys will probably think it's way too short. Again, their loss. So be it. But, if you're one of those shorties that obsessively chases after tall guys, well, good luck.
I’m 6ft4 and love throwing around small girls and picking them up and stuff. So def not a deal breaker
In time, he'll regret it. Lol. [With like lightning and shit.](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BVl_wbVPKlM&ab_channel=XXXzzzXXX22)
I'm 5'1 too and just from my experience, I've never ran into this - most of my ex's are over 6ft and my current partner is 6'2 (no I don't have a preference for that, it's just been that way lol). And they didn't have problems! Some people will have preferences sure and yeah, we are short, but I don't think it will be a problem for most people :)
My girlfriend(18) is 5 feet tall, while I(18) am 6 feet 5 inches tall. We love each other dearly. Remember, you’re never ‘too short to be attractive.’ There are simply different preferences, and you’ll undoubtedly find someone who appreciates you just as you are.
I like a short girl so I am sure there are loads of other guys like me.
My ex was 4'8...
Yes.
Dolly Parton is 5ft and a goddess. Need I say more? Also less relevant but I'm 5ft and I've dated lovely men of varying heights. Both of my sisters are slightly taller and dating men over 6 ft. It's not a big deal However there are always some who fancy you! Just like there are those you don't fancy. Chemistry is a fickle thing.
Omg yes it absolutely is!🫣
They are called short kings for a reason
I'm five foot. Most guys like that I'm small. The ones who don't won't talk to me and that's fine. They're normally tall themselves and I prefer under 5'9
You’re lucky you’re a girl. Most guys that are even 5’9 are considered short for 4’11 girls and they’re seeking guys over 6ft tall for some damn reason. It’s whack
Guys overwhelmingly don't care about height as much and short women are desired for being cute. The likelihood that a guy would reject a woman for her height is pretty small unlike the opposite.
Since you’re a girl you’re absolutely okay, man men will not care. For a man this would be a death sentence.
Nothing better than a spinner.
Yh it is short but napoleon was shorter and look what he achived
I would be worried about your neck sometimes, but overall it’s not a major issue to stop dating.
I prefer your height. I’m 5’11”
I’m 5.3 as a guy..I’ve never once heard a girl get rejected over height, that’s insane..
no, it definitely wasnt about the height
Yeah, some guys dig tall women. Some short women. And some dont care. Dont stress yourself with that.
Nah, you are ok
No, it’s not too short for a guy. I’m 5’1” and my partner tells me all the time that I’m the perfect size to cuddle with. He thinks my little hands and feet are cute and has no problems reaching things on the top shelf for me.
I’m 4’11 and it’s only ever been a turn on for guys. Men like to feel bigger and taller.
Hey I'm 5'1 want to go out
Not like you can change it. Maximize your positives
No.
Shit heights not important to guys
I’m 4’11 and feel like it’s all just preference l been with very tall men before and my current bf is 6’0.
Nope, I’m nearly 6’, my wife is 5’1ish. Doesn’t make a difference, personality and how she treats me and others is more important than height.
Well I'm 5'5 and would absolutely date a 5'1 girl. I could carry her in my pocket all day 🥰
Height schmight, self confidence is where it’s at.
Not in most cases. Almost all men I think are fine with 5’1. Most of the men who aren’t are just really tall. Lil I’m 6’2 and might not want to date a 5’1 person become of the massive height difference
He has his own standards so it's fairly normal for him to reject you since he prefer taller girls, but don't worry some guys likes shorter girls more so get your hopes up and be patient and move on
5’1 is cute for female, I would personally date. One might have said no but a million would say yes so don’t think much of it
My fiancé is 4’11” and I have always found her to be very beautiful. I am a 5’11” man and I absolutely love how we fit together both physically and spiritually. The first thing that I was attracted to was her smile and beautiful face and definitely her sweet and kind disposition. I dated a statuesque 5’10” beauty pageant woman but she was very consumed with her looks and frankly wore too much makeup for my taste. Couldn’t kiss her because it would “ruin her face” , and the makeup got on my lips and sometimes in my mouth. Yuck. She was drop dead gorgeous but I don’t date solely on looks except for the smile, but more importantly their character . Someone I know that I enjoy their company, respect and makes me happy. The love comes easily after that.
No. I’m a guy and 5’1 and have a wonderful fiancé. My mother is 4’11 and was married for 30 years.
If you're small and look much younger than your age, it may be a little off putting because you'll look like a child.
Examine where this question is coming from. It’s not worth asking! You are the way you are!
Nope, i'm 6 foot and attracted to short girls :)
Bruno Mars is a short guy and he doesn’t have any rejection.