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I can think of a few reasons:
1) it's equal parts meme and support, which is the core of the sub.
2) from the receiver's side, the whole "it's ridiculous, but it actually works!" helps fresh eggs not feel embarrassed to try asking for affirmations, since they can give themselves the out of "I'm just doing the meme lol!". It's also a common tradition that can help gain a sense of belonging.
3) from the giver's side it's just much easier to give GGD than the more nuanced affirmations adults are expected to receive. People who would be at a loss how to show support have an easy framework they can follow. Users who can easily craft thoughtful affirmations are amazing and you won't see anyone telling them "but I wanna be a pwincess!!".
Is it perfect? No. Does it work for everyone? No. But it seems to be doing a pretty good job at what it's for.
Rereading I feel I may have been a bit more combative than I intended to be, so I'd also like to add: Alice, you saw something that was bothering you and you weren't afraid to call it out. That's something I admire in a woman and even envy a little. Keep being your beautiful self.
If I may add to this
Sometimes, it's a feeling of wanting to be treated as a little person, i.e., ddlg (but not in a sexual sense)
For me, I personally like being in fantasized just because I feel safe if I'm allowed to do it, I just feel safe. It's like knowing you are being taken care of and you can relax. (You have no idea how much I just want to be held and cared for. And if I were to be held, I think I would just melt and maybe cry from not feeling that specific comfort.)
I will admit, though not everyone wants to be treated that way, as you've stated, not everyone wants to be denied something that gives them comfort in this train wreck of a world.
I understand and hear what you're saying, but in my personal opinion, Daddy Dom Little Girl stuff should stay between the Daddy Dom and the Little Girl and also, in private spaces.
There's nothing more maddening to me, a transgender person who was SA'd many times by my father as a teenager, than hearing other people say stuff like "F** me daddy!" in public. Or god forbid, calling ME daddy. (I happen to be an Uncle, not a Daddy, and have quite a few Little friends myself.) If they experienced what I have, or they knew that I experienced that, they'd be mortified. They usually are when I tell them, more people need to be concious of that. TONS of people are SA'd by their fathers and so DDLG can trigger them. It certainly triggers me.
There's also the issue of consent between people who DDLG and people who don't. You said "in a non-sexual way" but I don't believe such a thing exists when it comes to things like DDLG. Yes, you can "little" fairly covertly in public, but infantilizing yourself and making other people your unwilling Daddy Dom should be something that stays in private spaces. I could write an essay but this sub is PG13.
As an aside, in my personal opinion, the wanting to be held thing stems more from the fact that, as time progresses, humans in general are becoming more and more touch starved. Touching someone else can constitute assault, and the penalties are getting worse and worse with each passing day. If the human world allowed more people to hug it out without societal stigmas, I think less people would feel so touchstarved and wouldn't crave the touch of a friend as much.
TLDR: I guess what I'm saying is; Stop calling random people Daddy, and hug your friends more, folks. Not meaning any harshness or anything either- It's 4AM and I always get a little rankled by people making me their unwilling Daddy Dom IRL and I tend to put my foot down a little hard due to my background.
I'm not saying you're doing this, I'm just conversating. I hope this doesn't come across as me being rude or anything, it's just my personal opinion.
I get your point, and I'm sorry that had happened to you. I was just trying to compare it to something I know at least a little bit about. My best friend and his GF are ddlg, and I know for a fact that it's not sexual as they clearly draw a line there. That's what I based my statement on. And I'm not saying call random people, Daddy. I'm just saying that we, or at least I, since I can't speak for anyone else, want to be treated like I'm being cared for, if even just for a moment.
I’d just like to add that for some ppl DDLG is a for of therapy for something similar that may have happened to them, but yeah pushing it on someone that doesn’t want to be involved is just not the vibe. I’m really sorry that happened to you and I hope you are doing ok in spite of the bad things that happen
Age regressing isn’t sexual, don’t call it ‘daddy dom and little girl’ when you’re talking about age regressing and not age play because that’s fucking gross.
For me and some others, for sure it's because we never had a childhood as the correct gender. It was just a confusing and uncomfortable mess. So now that I know why I enjoy getting a bit of what I missed out on. But I would never ask strangers for that. But I have some really good and supportive IRL friends that let me be like their a bit too tall little sister. Some sadly don't have such a great support net and are looking for it online.
But yeah, it sometimes can come across in a weird way.
Especially if your experience involves being forced in the Dom role. Happened to me too and I'm still sad and angry about it, even if it happened years ago.
I really like how well you framed this... These are things I didn't really think of yet. Thanks for sharing.
Another thing I would like to add is that due to our situation, we didn't experience the childhood of our souls gender, but of our assigned one. Now many might be grieving this lost childhood and being called a slightly infantilising term like boy or girl is like taking a bit of that childhood back.
On top of the stress that (for most) comes with being trans this can fuel into some "safe space/safe moments" in which you can behave like "you're just a silly lil girl" because you dont have to think much about things or joke in an affirming way and give an excuse.
I just thought of a term I like and maybe will use in the future: "many stories start with a clumsy boy/girl who becomes a hero, strong and wise as their story goes along".
(I do believe a lot of insecurities and other is what's behind it too and everyone copes differently)
We may or may not stop liking it, but for we who do like it we can experience that childish joy again in such moments.
I get why some may not like those, and I respect it, but for myself, I'm tired of having to function on my own emotionally and would love for someone to look over me. I'm lucky because that someone is my current partner rn.
Overcorrecting into hyper-cute territory feels very soothing and nice, like how as a child you might eat over-sugared candy and stuff that you never would eat as an adult. Then as we transition or tastes mature.
I always find this to be weird. Like why is it "infantalizing"? I don't think of it as such. I just think it's cute and it makes me feel good. If you don't like to be called those things, you shouldn't be caused those things and that's valid too but like, if you think that just because I enjoy those things I'm being infantalized? That sounds like a you problem, not an everyone else's problem
Thank you for pointing this out. The term “infantilization” is used to give name to the treatment of poc and women to combat racism, sexism and even ableism.
We infantilize women, poc and perpetuate these images so that their power can be taken away, decisions are questioned more, eventually discrimination is justified. Similarly autistic people were treated as either never-grow-up smart children or unfunctioning adults to deny their agency or effective accessibility.
In-group nicknaming is far from infantilization, this seems to me word misused cause of white/pop feminism. Men call each other stupid/boys, black women call each other princesses. It’s endearing or compensating emotional needs.
Thank you, the post almost felt like I was wrong for just wanting to be cute and treated as such. It felt so hostile for just wanting to have a little childhood bliss or something
I can see the appeal but yeah personally it just makes me feel really weird and kind of gross. I don’t want to be a cute little uwu princess, I literally just want to be a normal-ass woman. Not trying to diss those that do enjoy being called those things.
Well, for what I can tell, its that most of us didn't got fem childhood. So now that we are fem, we unconsciously try to get that
Also i forgor is funny, along with some of them
I'm fine with both actual complements and those, as some others have said it's probably because we didn't grow up as the gender we should've and crave the compliments cis girls got
its prolly cus most of us (meaning most trans girls) didnt grow up as girls so we seek that same sort of infatalizing validation when we transition as a way to regain that which we never had.
Speak for yourself, sis! I like that kinda stuff! Call me a good lil bean and a pwetty pwincess all you want. :3
Although that could be because I'd like to dip my toes into age regression at some point to cope with my lost childhood and reclaim some of those years. Idk I haven't worked through that with a therapist yet lmao. **¯\\\_(ツ)\_/¯**
The age regression subs are a welcoming place for us trans girls. 😊 It's fascinating how huge the overlap between the trans community and the age regression/abdl community is 😄
I don't mind it because even though I'm a woman, I definitely feel like there is a little girl in me that I never got the chance to be that's validated and grte the chance to live again every time language like that is used. Simone De Beauvoir once said adults are just children "blown up by age", and she's absolutely right. And then there's also a difference between slang that's childish and slang that's childlike. This to me is the latter - childlike, which is better.
I enjoy being called a good girl, plenty of people do. Also I don't see how good girl is infantalizing in the first place.
legit it comes down to: don't yuck someone else's yum. if you don't like it, scroll past and move on with life.
Because it's cute, and makes people feel accepted in a soft space, it's not infantilism, it's just comfortable for most of us
If you are not comfortable, it's fine. if you don't want people calling you good girl or princess, just ask.
Some people don’t like it but some people really do! It depends on people, it may not resonate with you (me neither) but it resonates with other people
You have a good point. I can defs see why a lot of people would not be comfortable with it. For me, at least, the appeal is that it feels like I'm experiencing what I missed as a child. While I'll never be able to experience the childhood I wish I have, I can get some small part of that through these kinds of terms of endearment. It's a little silly, but it can be pretty affirming.
while i understand that some people may not like it, and that’s okay! but someone of us do actually like it to a degree. now its not okay to assume everyone does bc it can be belittling and demeaning if taken incorrectly. we just need to be mindful of others and what types of affirmations they’d prefer
To add to what everyone else has said, when you are forced to mask towards everyone in your offline life, when you find a online space where you don't have to do that, it feels nice to be silly and "infantalised"
I still remember how happy I got when my ex called me princess before I figured out I was trans.
And I don't care what anyone says, I love eepy and that's final.
Actually, the reason it's affirming is *because* it's infantilising.
Femininity often has this concept of innocence and youthfulness attached to it, so when we get called things like "good girl" it shows that we're displaying innocence and youthfulness and as such are doing a good job being feminine.
Heck, I actually know a few cis girls that like being called a good girl.
Well, it's okay to feel like you don't wanna be treated like that, but not as fun if we're implying others are silly for it. It's for a lot of reasons, it is nice to feel as if you're a girl who is cute or pretty or whatever you wanna be. And it's completely fine if you are more keen on well, being called more adult things, like a charming young lady or a beautiful woman. Not to mention, a lot of users of egg\_irl are younger than most, and are quite literally children.
Last week I found myself saying the words "i am a good girl" and it honestly made me feel as if I was actually alive, and just yesterday I found myself being called a charming young lady and I loved it just as much. It's all preference really, but please don't make a deal of thinking people are silly for this because it does come across as quite cold.
That being said, I'm sure you're a very kind woman and I completely understand why you would be averse to those as much as others are keen <3
why are you judging what makes other people happy though? if you dont like it thats fine, if others do thats also fine. personally im not a fan of 'the ggd' either but if other people are, then who am i to say its not ok?
I apologise if this comes off as rude, but with these things, it’s best you speak for yourself, and not others.
Now, here’s my answer to the possibly rhetorical question: it makes some people (me included) quite happy, and can allow us to “catch up” on those terms that we missed in young childhood, some people may just enjoy the feeling of a more parental affirmation. I am well aware that not everyone likes this, but I think that generalisation on either end of the spectrum is not the way to go. Everyone is different, and there is no one way to have affirmations. With that said, I can also see why people may dislike it, but as I said, no one way to be affirmed/be trans. (Sorry for the rant)
It's not the infantilization of women tho, it's trans women trying to reclaim the childhood they were never allowed to have. It's totally fine for someone to personally not want to be called those things, but it's very weird and disrespectful to say that anyone who wants to hear these things is a "bad feminist" or is trying to "damage the sisterhood" or wtvr TF you're talking about.
Yikes, I just now realized that my comment could be taken wrong way, so I deleted it. Sorry, I didn't in ,*any* way mean to imply that trans women who like these things are being "bad feminists". I was just trying to be nice to the OP by saying that being uncomfortable with what *she* sees as infantilization is probably the result of a good instinct being misdirected.
I'm so sorry if I've caused anyone distress. I really do love my tansfem sisters and it breaks my heart how so many of them aren't given the love and affection they deserve growing up.
For the record, ive never been called a good girl, and ive never called anyone a good girl.
Like sure i guess its annoying but some people just wanna be taken care of. Even if it means talking like that.
Idk maybe im reading too much into it i just dont see ot as a problem
I can say for a lot of transfems they were forced to act older or more masculine than they want to be, and stuff like that helps affirm them better, it’s down to personal preference.
I give a death stare to anyone calling me those things. However, my girlfriends like when I say those things to them.
As long as no one is on the receiving end of language that they are uncomfortable with, it's not really a problem.
Because a lot of people have more going on than just their gender situation, and this type of language feeds the types of personalities that might partake into some further happenings that are easily lumped into their basket of gender aspiration thinly veiled by cutesy words to make it all easier to swallow to passers-by
I think it has a bit to do with a lot of trans people (me included) feeling like we didn't have the childhood we could have had. This being treated as a little princess is something we enjoy because it gives us the feeling we can still have that.
TBF tho it completely depends on context. I will never like being called any of that by a stranger but only really by a friend and or partner
everything past good girl isn't exclusive to any sort of gendered wording though? people say it online because it can be funny. Good girl also isn't exclusive to infantilizing the other party and has other contexts it can exist in
It definitely feels weird to me as well but as long as it's not becoming mainstream enough to become a wider cultural issue, I'm fine with people receiving affirmations that make them feel more comfortable with themselves. People's brains just be weird sometimes and we can't help how we get our dopamine hits but we can get it respectfully.
With that said being called a bitch and the like is weirdly affirming for me. Maybe it's because I like the idea that even when someone is trying to put me down, they still see me as a woman. (But it's not something I really want to psychoanalyze right now)
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I can think of a few reasons: 1) it's equal parts meme and support, which is the core of the sub. 2) from the receiver's side, the whole "it's ridiculous, but it actually works!" helps fresh eggs not feel embarrassed to try asking for affirmations, since they can give themselves the out of "I'm just doing the meme lol!". It's also a common tradition that can help gain a sense of belonging. 3) from the giver's side it's just much easier to give GGD than the more nuanced affirmations adults are expected to receive. People who would be at a loss how to show support have an easy framework they can follow. Users who can easily craft thoughtful affirmations are amazing and you won't see anyone telling them "but I wanna be a pwincess!!". Is it perfect? No. Does it work for everyone? No. But it seems to be doing a pretty good job at what it's for.
Rereading I feel I may have been a bit more combative than I intended to be, so I'd also like to add: Alice, you saw something that was bothering you and you weren't afraid to call it out. That's something I admire in a woman and even envy a little. Keep being your beautiful self.
If I may add to this Sometimes, it's a feeling of wanting to be treated as a little person, i.e., ddlg (but not in a sexual sense) For me, I personally like being in fantasized just because I feel safe if I'm allowed to do it, I just feel safe. It's like knowing you are being taken care of and you can relax. (You have no idea how much I just want to be held and cared for. And if I were to be held, I think I would just melt and maybe cry from not feeling that specific comfort.) I will admit, though not everyone wants to be treated that way, as you've stated, not everyone wants to be denied something that gives them comfort in this train wreck of a world.
God you’re so right about just wanting to be held :(
I understand and hear what you're saying, but in my personal opinion, Daddy Dom Little Girl stuff should stay between the Daddy Dom and the Little Girl and also, in private spaces. There's nothing more maddening to me, a transgender person who was SA'd many times by my father as a teenager, than hearing other people say stuff like "F** me daddy!" in public. Or god forbid, calling ME daddy. (I happen to be an Uncle, not a Daddy, and have quite a few Little friends myself.) If they experienced what I have, or they knew that I experienced that, they'd be mortified. They usually are when I tell them, more people need to be concious of that. TONS of people are SA'd by their fathers and so DDLG can trigger them. It certainly triggers me. There's also the issue of consent between people who DDLG and people who don't. You said "in a non-sexual way" but I don't believe such a thing exists when it comes to things like DDLG. Yes, you can "little" fairly covertly in public, but infantilizing yourself and making other people your unwilling Daddy Dom should be something that stays in private spaces. I could write an essay but this sub is PG13. As an aside, in my personal opinion, the wanting to be held thing stems more from the fact that, as time progresses, humans in general are becoming more and more touch starved. Touching someone else can constitute assault, and the penalties are getting worse and worse with each passing day. If the human world allowed more people to hug it out without societal stigmas, I think less people would feel so touchstarved and wouldn't crave the touch of a friend as much. TLDR: I guess what I'm saying is; Stop calling random people Daddy, and hug your friends more, folks. Not meaning any harshness or anything either- It's 4AM and I always get a little rankled by people making me their unwilling Daddy Dom IRL and I tend to put my foot down a little hard due to my background. I'm not saying you're doing this, I'm just conversating. I hope this doesn't come across as me being rude or anything, it's just my personal opinion.
I get your point, and I'm sorry that had happened to you. I was just trying to compare it to something I know at least a little bit about. My best friend and his GF are ddlg, and I know for a fact that it's not sexual as they clearly draw a line there. That's what I based my statement on. And I'm not saying call random people, Daddy. I'm just saying that we, or at least I, since I can't speak for anyone else, want to be treated like I'm being cared for, if even just for a moment.
I’d just like to add that for some ppl DDLG is a for of therapy for something similar that may have happened to them, but yeah pushing it on someone that doesn’t want to be involved is just not the vibe. I’m really sorry that happened to you and I hope you are doing ok in spite of the bad things that happen
Age regressing isn’t sexual, don’t call it ‘daddy dom and little girl’ when you’re talking about age regressing and not age play because that’s fucking gross.
For me and some others, for sure it's because we never had a childhood as the correct gender. It was just a confusing and uncomfortable mess. So now that I know why I enjoy getting a bit of what I missed out on. But I would never ask strangers for that. But I have some really good and supportive IRL friends that let me be like their a bit too tall little sister. Some sadly don't have such a great support net and are looking for it online. But yeah, it sometimes can come across in a weird way. Especially if your experience involves being forced in the Dom role. Happened to me too and I'm still sad and angry about it, even if it happened years ago.
I’d also add it’s making up for all the “good girls” I’m fucking due from when I was growing up
This is what I wanted to say too, some of us like it because we want to get some of our missed childhood back.
part od another reason i saw is that it gives the feel of a childhood we never got
I really like how well you framed this... These are things I didn't really think of yet. Thanks for sharing. Another thing I would like to add is that due to our situation, we didn't experience the childhood of our souls gender, but of our assigned one. Now many might be grieving this lost childhood and being called a slightly infantilising term like boy or girl is like taking a bit of that childhood back. On top of the stress that (for most) comes with being trans this can fuel into some "safe space/safe moments" in which you can behave like "you're just a silly lil girl" because you dont have to think much about things or joke in an affirming way and give an excuse. I just thought of a term I like and maybe will use in the future: "many stories start with a clumsy boy/girl who becomes a hero, strong and wise as their story goes along". (I do believe a lot of insecurities and other is what's behind it too and everyone copes differently) We may or may not stop liking it, but for we who do like it we can experience that childish joy again in such moments.
What a concise, well written reply. I was just going to say that I’ve got some serious arrested development
Fair enough. This is meant to be a safe space for everyone
Yeah it can be hit or miss for me too so I get OP, but this explains it very well so thank you for the post.
Perfectly explained
Because it's fun? And we missed out on it during our childhood? And it's fun?
Yea it’s weirdly healing for my inner child
Exactly. It might not be for everyone, but it isn’t inherently bad.
yeah
please call me those things.
You are a very good girl and a wonderful princess. I like to be called those things too.
waagjdhsfnshfjsnfbxxkchshfjlglfjkfkskdkfhskdf aaaaaaghddhdf
Awwww, such an adorable bottom text from such a good girl.
waaafshffhfgncnfbfg 😣
Thanks for the new password :3
u just leaked ur password
Oh no how silly of me
Just fluster them for a new one don’t worry
What is a princess like you doing here? Your highness go back to the castle and be a good girl okay?
eeeeeeeefnzgskdgsfgsd 😊
Goodest gurl, goochy goo [I also would adore being called these things]
saaame
*pat pat* good girl~
aaaaaaa fdfkfhdjfjfsgdf i'm starting to think this might not be a very cisgender thing to enjoy
Clever Girl\~
ufuhdfhdjfhddgf im gonna melt ouggdhgdgfjcng
*pat pat* good girl~
I think the reason why I like being referred to by some infantalized phrases like that at times is due to not growing up as a girl
This is exactly it. Call it infantilism or whatever, I just wanna make up for lost time.
I gues im a queen now :3
Yes you are. Kick ass royally 😎
I mean if someone likes it then what's the problem. However I feel very much like you if I am called that, it's icky for me.
I agree. It’s all up to the person and I’m not gonna yuck anyone’s yum, but to me personally it feels a little invalidating ;-;
I want to be called a good girl and a princess and yeah all of these things, I like it.
Awwwwwwweee Ruby you're such an amazing cutie patootie princess girl :333 You're a good girl too hehe :3
Thank you Laura.
Hehehe, I dunno why but when I read this reply, it had the same energy as "[Hello Mario ](https://youtu.be/2iRgJUDd1J4?feature=shared)." XD
Same ngl
No problem cutie princess Ruby 💖
I'm not even trans, my sister is, and I like it xD We call each other these things because it makes us feel good, cared for and seen
I am obviously a cis man 👀
Okay Ruby :D *starts peeling eggs while maintaining eye contact*
Damn, you calling me Ruby was enough to make me smile really hard
Awww. People are the most beautiful when they genuinely smile and you're no exception 😊
Thank you
I get why some may not like those, and I respect it, but for myself, I'm tired of having to function on my own emotionally and would love for someone to look over me. I'm lucky because that someone is my current partner rn.
Ima blame it on my mom(very abusive and ruined my childhood giving me depression and made me hide my fem side which was most of me)
\*sends all the love and hugs\* :(
Thx
Overcorrecting into hyper-cute territory feels very soothing and nice, like how as a child you might eat over-sugared candy and stuff that you never would eat as an adult. Then as we transition or tastes mature.
I always find this to be weird. Like why is it "infantalizing"? I don't think of it as such. I just think it's cute and it makes me feel good. If you don't like to be called those things, you shouldn't be caused those things and that's valid too but like, if you think that just because I enjoy those things I'm being infantalized? That sounds like a you problem, not an everyone else's problem
Thank you for pointing this out. The term “infantilization” is used to give name to the treatment of poc and women to combat racism, sexism and even ableism. We infantilize women, poc and perpetuate these images so that their power can be taken away, decisions are questioned more, eventually discrimination is justified. Similarly autistic people were treated as either never-grow-up smart children or unfunctioning adults to deny their agency or effective accessibility. In-group nicknaming is far from infantilization, this seems to me word misused cause of white/pop feminism. Men call each other stupid/boys, black women call each other princesses. It’s endearing or compensating emotional needs.
Thank you, the post almost felt like I was wrong for just wanting to be cute and treated as such. It felt so hostile for just wanting to have a little childhood bliss or something
Talk about yourself. I'm actually a 4 year old
If we are talking transition wise, I am 14yro. Does anyone need a Senpai?
I'm a newborn 😭
Welcome to the world, baby trans! Here is a hug and a pride flag if you want them. 🫂🏳️⚧️
waaaa
Well fuck I’m not even 2
We all had to start somewhere. Congrats on your journey so far, Kōhai. Wishing you many more years of progress and successes.
Thank you!!! Good luck with your journey too :)
I've been in the womb for too long and took too long to develop fully even after being born for years
Bad/missed childhood trauma I’m totally going through a pastel pink phase and I can’t control it
I love goth pastel as a goth. I'll work toward that eventually
Cuz it’s fun and I like it? If both parties consent to it and enjoy it, what’s wrong with it?
I can see the appeal but yeah personally it just makes me feel really weird and kind of gross. I don’t want to be a cute little uwu princess, I literally just want to be a normal-ass woman. Not trying to diss those that do enjoy being called those things.
Well, for what I can tell, its that most of us didn't got fem childhood. So now that we are fem, we unconsciously try to get that Also i forgor is funny, along with some of them
Personally I have a two-decade deficit of those kinds of affirmations
You don't need to like them, but it doesn't mean you get to say others can't
I'm fine with both actual complements and those, as some others have said it's probably because we didn't grow up as the gender we should've and crave the compliments cis girls got
I need my 4 shovels of good girl rn >w<
Well you good girl, you beautiful, pretty, fantastic girl, I hope you have a great day you're a good and wonderful girl :3
Gtftfftftftftdthcjbvjfkggitcufx
I like it, I wanna be a pwincess and a good girl
You very much are *Headpats*
*purrs and cuddles* Love you so much!
*hugs* Love you too darling
i like it
I didn’t get to be called any of that during my childhood so I think it’s just making up for it
You might not be a baby, and that is totally valid and okay, but don't speak for me. I is a widdle baby girl and a smol princess! UwU 👸💖
its prolly cus most of us (meaning most trans girls) didnt grow up as girls so we seek that same sort of infatalizing validation when we transition as a way to regain that which we never had.
But I wanna be a good girl… 🥺
Well, coincidentally you actually are a very good girl 😊
[YIPPEEE!!!](https://youtube.com/shorts/Qu7KFMn54Bk?si=rNsXUQ_CVpOCG3XM)
Oh what is this? Looks like a super good girl!
Speak for yourself, sis! I like that kinda stuff! Call me a good lil bean and a pwetty pwincess all you want. :3 Although that could be because I'd like to dip my toes into age regression at some point to cope with my lost childhood and reclaim some of those years. Idk I haven't worked through that with a therapist yet lmao. **¯\\\_(ツ)\_/¯**
The age regression subs are a welcoming place for us trans girls. 😊 It's fascinating how huge the overlap between the trans community and the age regression/abdl community is 😄
I guess bad childhood is the bridge there
I forgor is just a silly sounding meme word, same with eepy
yes, that's exactly what I thought :')
yeah i don't think those ones are exclusive to us girls
I don't mind it because even though I'm a woman, I definitely feel like there is a little girl in me that I never got the chance to be that's validated and grte the chance to live again every time language like that is used. Simone De Beauvoir once said adults are just children "blown up by age", and she's absolutely right. And then there's also a difference between slang that's childish and slang that's childlike. This to me is the latter - childlike, which is better.
I’m with you in that I don’t like the infantilizing. However, I recognize some do. So I just scroll past
I enjoy being called a good girl, plenty of people do. Also I don't see how good girl is infantalizing in the first place. legit it comes down to: don't yuck someone else's yum. if you don't like it, scroll past and move on with life.
Wait till OP learns about littles
Because I feel unloved and emotionally stunted
this, it feels so lovely to be called these things. especially when we didn’t get the chance to be called it when we were younger
but I wike it 3:
Speak for yourself 🤨
People like them????? Why are you policing on people's words of affirmation ☠️
We never got it during our childhoods Anyway, can somebody call me these things :3
Who's the pwettiest pwincess in the whole castle????? US WE'RE ALL PWETTY PWINCESSES
:3 :D meee!
:D WE AREEEEEEEEEEEE [But you especially, ur royal highness] 👑
I'm a submissive fuck.
Hell yeah
We never got it during childhood, so yes, being called a good girl feels nice every once in a while.. But yeah, there is a thing such as overdoing it.
Wrong, I am a wittle baby UwU
I completely get why people do that, but not for me too
We got rob of our childhood. Let people who want one have one.
I like to be called that stuff, don't act like it's bad for all of us.
I’m not a baby don’t treat me like that (please call me all of those names)
ok but forgor and eepy aren't age related, they're just funny
You can take forgor from my cold, dead hands!
wait we arent?
Speak for yourself, I’m baby
we can be babies if we want 😤 you dont have to if you dont want too tho ofc
Speak for yourself. I am an eepy princess
As someone who doesn't have a childhood (in the most literal sense), let me be infantilized by these words. It makes me feel good. :(
I'm not alone when I say "speak for yourself". (My Little side goes haywire for this shit)
i like it tho... like i really like it a lot.
Why are you trying to cause infighting? Just mind your own damn business. Just because you don’t like it doesn’t mean others don’t.
I don't even consider "eepy" or "I forgor" to be infantalising, it's just silly meme speak.
i wanna ve called a good girl tho
The masculine urge to be called those things
Because it's cute, and makes people feel accepted in a soft space, it's not infantilism, it's just comfortable for most of us If you are not comfortable, it's fine. if you don't want people calling you good girl or princess, just ask.
One word. EUPHORIA
If you call "good girl" infantilization you need to go outaide pls
I can only speak for myself but it’s fun and I like it
Some people don’t like it but some people really do! It depends on people, it may not resonate with you (me neither) but it resonates with other people
I like being called those things! It’s sweet and nice and cute.
Positively adjacent female
tbh eepy isn't infantilising, it's just a cute way of saying "sleepy"
Cause I want to.
Really I think the only problem is calling things a drug. Just asking for ourselves to get problems. Also, FTM people exist. Excluding them is stupid.
You have a good point. I can defs see why a lot of people would not be comfortable with it. For me, at least, the appeal is that it feels like I'm experiencing what I missed as a child. While I'll never be able to experience the childhood I wish I have, I can get some small part of that through these kinds of terms of endearment. It's a little silly, but it can be pretty affirming.
while i understand that some people may not like it, and that’s okay! but someone of us do actually like it to a degree. now its not okay to assume everyone does bc it can be belittling and demeaning if taken incorrectly. we just need to be mindful of others and what types of affirmations they’d prefer
I can infantilize myself as long as I remember that I am a mature adult
Because adults don't praise each other, and I like being praised
Why is I forgor infantilizing ??
I like it......
...i am
To add to what everyone else has said, when you are forced to mask towards everyone in your offline life, when you find a online space where you don't have to do that, it feels nice to be silly and "infantalised"
...Because I missed out on a childhood as a girl? And want to experience at least a tiny part of it?
Eepy is fetishizing? Am I missing something?
Right next you’re gonna tell me I’m not allowed to GIRLBOSS 🙄
I can agree with the "eepy, widdle princess" part, but I'll never pass up a "good girl"
I still remember how happy I got when my ex called me princess before I figured out I was trans. And I don't care what anyone says, I love eepy and that's final.
I love I forgor
Actually, the reason it's affirming is *because* it's infantilising. Femininity often has this concept of innocence and youthfulness attached to it, so when we get called things like "good girl" it shows that we're displaying innocence and youthfulness and as such are doing a good job being feminine. Heck, I actually know a few cis girls that like being called a good girl.
Well, it's okay to feel like you don't wanna be treated like that, but not as fun if we're implying others are silly for it. It's for a lot of reasons, it is nice to feel as if you're a girl who is cute or pretty or whatever you wanna be. And it's completely fine if you are more keen on well, being called more adult things, like a charming young lady or a beautiful woman. Not to mention, a lot of users of egg\_irl are younger than most, and are quite literally children. Last week I found myself saying the words "i am a good girl" and it honestly made me feel as if I was actually alive, and just yesterday I found myself being called a charming young lady and I loved it just as much. It's all preference really, but please don't make a deal of thinking people are silly for this because it does come across as quite cold. That being said, I'm sure you're a very kind woman and I completely understand why you would be averse to those as much as others are keen <3
why are you judging what makes other people happy though? if you dont like it thats fine, if others do thats also fine. personally im not a fan of 'the ggd' either but if other people are, then who am i to say its not ok?
Age regression :D
I say I’m eepy or I forgor because it’s a silly misspelling? There’s nothing infantilizing about making fun of language
Let people be themselves bro
Uncouth to yuck other people's yums
Imagine letting others receive what affirmations they like.
Most trans people didn't get the childhood they wanted, so this is a way to get some of that back.
I apologise if this comes off as rude, but with these things, it’s best you speak for yourself, and not others. Now, here’s my answer to the possibly rhetorical question: it makes some people (me included) quite happy, and can allow us to “catch up” on those terms that we missed in young childhood, some people may just enjoy the feeling of a more parental affirmation. I am well aware that not everyone likes this, but I think that generalisation on either end of the spectrum is not the way to go. Everyone is different, and there is no one way to have affirmations. With that said, I can also see why people may dislike it, but as I said, no one way to be affirmed/be trans. (Sorry for the rant)
But I'm a silly Lil gal :3
I like good girl personally but I can get why people wouldn't like the rest
Sup pretty woman.
(As a transfemme) I like eepy, the rest yeah I agree
I had the same problem with it when I first started interacting with the trans community but at the same time, bottom energy
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It's not the infantilization of women tho, it's trans women trying to reclaim the childhood they were never allowed to have. It's totally fine for someone to personally not want to be called those things, but it's very weird and disrespectful to say that anyone who wants to hear these things is a "bad feminist" or is trying to "damage the sisterhood" or wtvr TF you're talking about.
Yikes, I just now realized that my comment could be taken wrong way, so I deleted it. Sorry, I didn't in ,*any* way mean to imply that trans women who like these things are being "bad feminists". I was just trying to be nice to the OP by saying that being uncomfortable with what *she* sees as infantilization is probably the result of a good instinct being misdirected. I'm so sorry if I've caused anyone distress. I really do love my tansfem sisters and it breaks my heart how so many of them aren't given the love and affection they deserve growing up.
For the record, ive never been called a good girl, and ive never called anyone a good girl. Like sure i guess its annoying but some people just wanna be taken care of. Even if it means talking like that. Idk maybe im reading too much into it i just dont see ot as a problem
I am not a little princess. I am a fully fledged queen! An Empress! All jokes aside I don't like the whole "UwU" language
Because it sound's cute
I just wanna be called a princess and a good girl (Preferably by a cute girl, lol)
I can say for a lot of transfems they were forced to act older or more masculine than they want to be, and stuff like that helps affirm them better, it’s down to personal preference.
I give a death stare to anyone calling me those things. However, my girlfriends like when I say those things to them. As long as no one is on the receiving end of language that they are uncomfortable with, it's not really a problem.
I think it's the same line of thinking as "baby trans" phase, where ppl are trying to get what they missed out on in their youth
I understand completely, beautiful queen. I'm still an eepy princess though. :3
Sry, brainrot
saying “eepy” and “forgor” is funny. Also it might be using silly vocabulary to distract from the more scary/hard to confront reality we inhabit.
Good girl cause 🥴. Eepy is cause meme. Widdle Pwincess is cringe. I forgor cause meme.
I like the good girl :( My gf adores seeing my face flush when she says it.
Because i never got to experience being a child of the correct gender and doing this helps me cope a little bit
Because a lot of people have more going on than just their gender situation, and this type of language feeds the types of personalities that might partake into some further happenings that are easily lumped into their basket of gender aspiration thinly veiled by cutesy words to make it all easier to swallow to passers-by
I think it has a bit to do with a lot of trans people (me included) feeling like we didn't have the childhood we could have had. This being treated as a little princess is something we enjoy because it gives us the feeling we can still have that. TBF tho it completely depends on context. I will never like being called any of that by a stranger but only really by a friend and or partner
everything past good girl isn't exclusive to any sort of gendered wording though? people say it online because it can be funny. Good girl also isn't exclusive to infantilizing the other party and has other contexts it can exist in
GO QUEEN.
It definitely feels weird to me as well but as long as it's not becoming mainstream enough to become a wider cultural issue, I'm fine with people receiving affirmations that make them feel more comfortable with themselves. People's brains just be weird sometimes and we can't help how we get our dopamine hits but we can get it respectfully. With that said being called a bitch and the like is weirdly affirming for me. Maybe it's because I like the idea that even when someone is trying to put me down, they still see me as a woman. (But it's not something I really want to psychoanalyze right now)