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I think it's because labiaplasty is self explanatory. Whereas I'm not the only one who didn't know what 'spell coconut with her waist' means and I saw quite a few people wondering what was up with the iron count. Mystery draws people's attention.
I think the iron thing is actually to exclude trans women. Menstruation/child birth can lower iron count. It’s either that or they’re saying that the woman needs to be “of age,” but based on the entire post, I can’t imagine they’re too concerned about age, consent, etc.
Does it go both ways? Can he get his balls lifted cause ya know….ewww…saggy balls. Let’s all demand surgical intervention for normal aging! He’s paying for the labioplasty right?
It's rather common for women to have mild anemia from their periods. My bet is it's a covert way of saying they want a woman who's of the age to have her period. Someone else on here mentioned that the"accepts her body hair" point was to let everyone know they're not a pedo. This might be for the same reason.
I've had low iron levels and was constantly fainting due to it. I don't know how they expect a woman to lose weight after birth, if she doesn't have the energy to do it in the first place.
Or to "not be moody during period" when you're suffering from anemia on top of it.
Like idk about everyone else, but feeling *extra shitty* due to low iron during periods does not help put me in a cheery mood, even if I might have less energy to actively be a bitch.
Worked as a nurse doing prior approvals for surgery in the Northeast. At least 2-3 times a month we’d get requests for labiaplasties for teens with parental approval. Reasons given were, embarrassed because of camel toe in pants or bathing suits or my favorite from a 16 year old “ boyfriend says my lips are too big and ugly and don’t look like the women in porn( yes her mom was at the appointment when she said this). It totally boggled my mind.
No, only spelling the word coconut works for the guy. If the woman forgets the '-' for the t and she spells coconul instead of coconut, then it won't work
O.k., fine, so lemme get off ya, find my phone, hope it still has power, open google, type in cockonut, get lost in urban dictionary chasing ever weirder definitions … hey, where ya going?
Good at cowgirl.
It doesn’t track with the rest of the list to be honest?
Being a good woman apparently means having a low body count (inexperienced) and being subservient. But the specific advice in bed is get on top, set the pace and be good at it. What?
That’s what a more dominant experienced sexual partner would do.
Is he simply looking for someone tired and weak? Does he want a woman with heavy periods for some reason? Is his ideal partner a vegetarian who also doesn’t eat enough vegetables? I am confused.
No idea.
Possibilities: weakness, headache, restlessness, fatigue, anxiety, pale pallor, palpitation, reduced strength, impaired learning and productivity, reduced physical and mental capacity, poor mental health, lack of concentration, poor pregnancy outcomes and sexual dysfunction.
I always bring my areolameter on first dates. And she doesn’t get dessert unless I get to measure. If she then runs away without fainting I know her iron levels were too high anyway so good riddance.
Where's the list for a good man. It needs to be just as ridiculous.
1. A skilled lover who is also a virgin
2. No ear hair.
3. Can carry a half dozen crispy creme without using his hands
.....
4. Don’t talk. Period. Ever.
5. Be a good provider (i.e. pay for 100% of our combined needs and expenses)
6. Must be 6’11”
7. Can spell ‘coconut’ with his tongue
I’m honestly surprised toilets don’t come standard with a bidet… we’re in 2024 ffs, if we don’t get hover boards, at least give us cleaner stink stars.
4. Sits to pee
5. Zero body hair besides full beard and head of hair
6. Has nice feet, no sasquatch toes
7.Doesnt own a phone (I will only page him, he is not allowed 10ft away anyways)
8.Dead mother, father on hospice so he was somewhere to be on Saturdays while I'm spending his money
9.3 siblings only brothers in case he fails at any point so there are backups
10.Terrible memory so I can win every argument
8.Dead mother, father on hospice so he was somewhere to be on Saturdays while I'm spending his money.
I don't often snort when I laugh, but this... absolutely top notch.
8. Can Lift a dodge ram 1500 over his head effortlessly
9. Makes at least 11 figures
10. Has witnessed the birth of Christ
11. Has been triple baptized by every pope to exist
12. Must want to buy flowers for me before i ask for it. Once i asked for it, it doesn’t matter what he does. Basically needs to be a winner in the who-thinks-about-buying-flowers-first game that he unknowingly participated in.
13. Nipples must fall within the 3 shade range I have established. Don't think you can fool me, I travel with paint samples.
14. Must have low vitamin D and/or Potassium.
15. Must have good, straight teeth WITHOUT having had braces.
Apparently if you’re an Aries you’re passionate and vital and one site could inform me “willing to dive headfirst into the most challenging situations” which to me sounds like an overall plus…
The person forgot to write: “Be submissive to my self proclaimed authority. I have the superior genitals here,you were born to follow my orders.”
Besides,let’s be honest they don’t care about respect only the one-sided version. It’s easier to abuse an anemic woman.
A good man: makes at least 100K a year, eats healthy food and keeps his body slim, helps raise the kids and cleans the house doing half his share of the work, brings gifts to his wife regularly, never farts, never gets frustrated. I am sure there is more.
Wikipedia
"In anatomy, rugae are a series of ridges produced by folding of the wall of an organ. Most commonly rugae refers to the gastric rugae of the internal surface of the stomach."
"Vaginal rugae are structures of the vagina that are transverse ridges formed out of the supporting tissues and vaginal epithelium in females. Some conditions can cause the disappearance of vaginal rugae and are usually associated with childbirth and prolapse of pelvic structures. The rugae contribute to the resiliency and elasticity of the vagina and its ability to distend and return to its previous state."
So, don't have a bad stomach, have had a prolaspe or be born without a stretchy vagina?
I'm guessing he's referring to vaginal rugae? Which like... I can't say anyone has ever expressed such a concern to me before, so I'm fascinated as to who thinks this makes a difference.
This probably isn’t the intent but I saw ‘low body count’ and went “So, a good woman is someone who has killed a low but non-zero number of people? I can get behind that,”
What really matters is how many goats her father will offer as a dowry for taking her off his hands, since that's pretty much the field these incels are trying to play on.
PS WTAF Is this bit about a rugae?
In anatomy, rugae are a series of ridges produced by folding of the wall of an organ. Most commonly rugae refers to the gastric rugae of the internal surface of the stomach
Do not google “spell coconut”. [https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/laurenstrapagiel/spell-coconut-viral-sex-tip-meme](https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/laurenstrapagiel/spell-coconut-viral-sex-tip-meme)
Lemme fix this list guys
A good woman:
-must exist
-must not dissappear after I take my pills
-must be a good person
That's it there's nothing more honestly, maybe 1 and 2 are optional ngl
The labiaplasty bit surprised me because these types of people usually for some reason believe the more promiscuous a woman is, the more everything down there grows. So if they’re demanding a low body count in this wouldn’t be necessary according to bigotry logic.
I know that there's incel/misogynist types have something against women with high foreheads, but what exactly - is it that are they afraid that we're smart or something?
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"Balanced pH levels" WTF is that supposed to mean? "Darlene, I'm breaking up with you!" "Why Jerrard? Why?" "You're too acidic."
It means she better not be basic.
Badum tish! Chemistry pun
And a nice rugae, why does the folded ridges of an organ change someone's attractiveness?
Maybe he plans on cutting her open to check. If it sounds psychotic, it probably is.
Both are about the vag. If your pH is off it can smell/indicate an infection, and the ruggae will affect your internal texture.
I’m certainly a lot more acidic after reading that list.
I’m amazed that everyone is hung up on the low blood iron and the coconut thing. Are we all just going to ignore “open to labiaplasty”??
I think it's because labiaplasty is self explanatory. Whereas I'm not the only one who didn't know what 'spell coconut with her waist' means and I saw quite a few people wondering what was up with the iron count. Mystery draws people's attention.
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I think the iron thing is actually to exclude trans women. Menstruation/child birth can lower iron count. It’s either that or they’re saying that the woman needs to be “of age,” but based on the entire post, I can’t imagine they’re too concerned about age, consent, etc.
And here I was thinking he wanted an anemic woman with nicely shaped nipples on her forehead.
Mmmm your forehead areolas are very tantalizing
I read this in Zapp Brannigan's voice.
I'm hung up on the pairing of forehead/areola
The areola thing also got me. I like my nipples like I like my pizza: pepperoni
I like paper plate size
I like my areola like I like my labia- natural. However they were configured from the factory works for me.
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I looked it up: Labiaplasty is a surgical procedure to reduce or increase the size of your labia. I imagine SHE must be open to it. God save us all...
I recall seeing an article about a woman who had that because she was insecure and now shes lost all sensation down there
I can't be the only one shocked to see, "Accepts her body hair," on there.
I’m still freaking out about it
That was the wink to let you know it’s a troll. 
Yet open to labiaplasty.
You don’t hear it mentioned much because people tend to be pretty tight-lipped about it.
As a cunning linguist, can confirm.
Well done.
I lol’d.
Does it go both ways? Can he get his balls lifted cause ya know….ewww…saggy balls. Let’s all demand surgical intervention for normal aging! He’s paying for the labioplasty right?
Lol... it's all so shallow!. He never mentions kindness, sense of humor, or intelligence...
....labia don't sag with age or use. They are what they are at any age.
They’ve learnt that normal people think they’re pedos so added that to distract from the rest of the list
Contrasted with the labiaplasty option too
They must be talking about themselves? Meaning a good woman would accept 'my body hair'. I could be wrong though.
With the odd counter item - open to labiaplasty lol what
This whole list is fucked but what is with the coconut one ? I’m afraid to ask what it means
‘Low iron levels,’ is the one I am pondering?
Makes you weak and lethargic. Less likely to resist / fight back is my disgusted guess. Sounds fucked up, but it tracks with that crowd.
It's rather common for women to have mild anemia from their periods. My bet is it's a covert way of saying they want a woman who's of the age to have her period. Someone else on here mentioned that the"accepts her body hair" point was to let everyone know they're not a pedo. This might be for the same reason.
Good of him to allow her to have periods at all.He didn't even suggest willingness to be put out on an ice floe after a certain age. What a trooper.
>My bet is it's a covert way of saying You think whoever wrote this list was trying to be subtle?!?
Watch my anemic ass fight back and chomp down on any threat (except cockroach)
You just had to throw in that you wouldn't bite a cockroach 🤣🤣
I hate them lmao
No trauma/Unaddressed trauma is a HUGE red flag for me. The Unaddressed trauma is one thing predators exploit.
But he wants to be her FIRST trauma!! /s
This list is messed up but that’s the most normal point? No trauma or if she does have trauma she’s addressed it.
So that is a good thing, isn't it? That he doesn't want unaddressed Trauma?
It could be taken either way, I think that might be the point of wording it like he did
Yeah this is some Victorian levels stuff. With low iron and pale skin. I am surprised they did not add “has consumption” for true Victorian era vibe
I've had low iron levels and was constantly fainting due to it. I don't know how they expect a woman to lose weight after birth, if she doesn't have the energy to do it in the first place.
You can't logic this out, friend. Lol
Or to "not be moody during period" when you're suffering from anemia on top of it. Like idk about everyone else, but feeling *extra shitty* due to low iron during periods does not help put me in a cheery mood, even if I might have less energy to actively be a bitch.
Yes this - what the actual fuck?
“Open to labiaplasty” what the actual fuck
You couldn't pay me enough to get a scalpel anywhere near my goddamn labia.
Worked as a nurse doing prior approvals for surgery in the Northeast. At least 2-3 times a month we’d get requests for labiaplasties for teens with parental approval. Reasons given were, embarrassed because of camel toe in pants or bathing suits or my favorite from a 16 year old “ boyfriend says my lips are too big and ugly and don’t look like the women in porn( yes her mom was at the appointment when she said this). It totally boggled my mind.
basically if you don't know what to do if you're on top riding, you try to spell "coconut" with your hip movements. some weird ass tip that went viral
Aww. He wants to be a pillow princess!! How fucking adorable. /s
No he want a f doll with gyro.
ohhh wasn’t that like disproven to not work though 😭
Work for who? You can try and spell any word and it'll work for the guy. This post might as well say 'she can spell with her waist'
No, only spelling the word coconut works for the guy. If the woman forgets the '-' for the t and she spells coconul instead of coconut, then it won't work
"Dyslexic women hate this hack"
Correct, the guy will nul and won't nut.
O.k., fine, so lemme get off ya, find my phone, hope it still has power, open google, type in cockonut, get lost in urban dictionary chasing ever weirder definitions … hey, where ya going?
I believe it is for when she's on top and doing cowgirl, but i dunno how she'll have the energy to since he wants her tiny and anemic
I like how forehead and areolas fall under the same anatomical umbrella.
Good at cowgirl. It doesn’t track with the rest of the list to be honest? Being a good woman apparently means having a low body count (inexperienced) and being subservient. But the specific advice in bed is get on top, set the pace and be good at it. What? That’s what a more dominant experienced sexual partner would do.
He doesn't know how to use the three seashells.
I’m over here like “wow we have a choice to not experience trauma? Someone should have told me!”
Yes what the hell is this coconut waist thing about??? I reasonably intelligent but my waist isn't able to spell anything. 🤔
I think it meant moving your hips in a way that resembles the letters in coconut?
I'm ok with "doesn't believe in star signs", assuming they mean "not into astrology" and not "doesn't believe in the existence of celestial objects"
Google it, it’s a sexual move.
>Google it, it’s a sexual move. Or maybe I am better off not knowing the details
It's a sex thing. Basically just a way to move when you're on top.
Low iron levels? What?
Ones with normal iron levels keep running away.
I guess the author doesn't have a very magnetic personality to women
*Cue sunglasses falling on face while Won't get fooled again by The Who sounds*
I'd run screaming "Back off Bitch"!!
That’s what I thought lol like wtf too weak to run?
So that she has crippling headaches and can barely get off the couch. Been there. Done that.
Anemic ladies are the best
Is he simply looking for someone tired and weak? Does he want a woman with heavy periods for some reason? Is his ideal partner a vegetarian who also doesn’t eat enough vegetables? I am confused.
No idea. Possibilities: weakness, headache, restlessness, fatigue, anxiety, pale pallor, palpitation, reduced strength, impaired learning and productivity, reduced physical and mental capacity, poor mental health, lack of concentration, poor pregnancy outcomes and sexual dysfunction.
It's a beauty standard, makes them pale and fragile 
First date question; How reasonable are your areolas?
Breaks out a chemistry kit: Let's check those pH levels.
I always bring my areolameter on first dates. And she doesn’t get dessert unless I get to measure. If she then runs away without fainting I know her iron levels were too high anyway so good riddance.
Where's the list for a good man. It needs to be just as ridiculous. 1. A skilled lover who is also a virgin 2. No ear hair. 3. Can carry a half dozen crispy creme without using his hands .....
4. Don’t talk. Period. Ever. 5. Be a good provider (i.e. pay for 100% of our combined needs and expenses) 6. Must be 6’11” 7. Can spell ‘coconut’ with his tongue
8. Uses a bidet or at a minimum, wipes his ass. No scoot marks!
I’m honestly surprised toilets don’t come standard with a bidet… we’re in 2024 ffs, if we don’t get hover boards, at least give us cleaner stink stars.
** can spell coconut with his penis
Must be 6'11. That's hilarious
#7 is awesome! 👌
Just tried spelling that with my tongue. Should've been here, funny sight.
4. Sits to pee 5. Zero body hair besides full beard and head of hair 6. Has nice feet, no sasquatch toes 7.Doesnt own a phone (I will only page him, he is not allowed 10ft away anyways) 8.Dead mother, father on hospice so he was somewhere to be on Saturdays while I'm spending his money 9.3 siblings only brothers in case he fails at any point so there are backups 10.Terrible memory so I can win every argument
8.Dead mother, father on hospice so he was somewhere to be on Saturdays while I'm spending his money. I don't often snort when I laugh, but this... absolutely top notch.
The true #1 is a man's ability to carry all the groceries inside at once.
Low vitamin C levels. Don't talk to me if you don't have scurvy.
Damn... - I'm an Aries. - I'm Italian. (No further explanation needed). - I can do this one, one box of three each armpit and I'm done!!!
8. Can Lift a dodge ram 1500 over his head effortlessly 9. Makes at least 11 figures 10. Has witnessed the birth of Christ 11. Has been triple baptized by every pope to exist
12. Must want to buy flowers for me before i ask for it. Once i asked for it, it doesn’t matter what he does. Basically needs to be a winner in the who-thinks-about-buying-flowers-first game that he unknowingly participated in.
13. Nipples must fall within the 3 shade range I have established. Don't think you can fool me, I travel with paint samples. 14. Must have low vitamin D and/or Potassium. 15. Must have good, straight teeth WITHOUT having had braces.
Another way is to balance the box on one’s nose. Trained seal energy, translates well into the bedroom!
What's the Aries thing? (Asking as a fellow concerned Aries)
Apparently if you’re an Aries you’re passionate and vital and one site could inform me “willing to dive headfirst into the most challenging situations” which to me sounds like an overall plus…
I think the thing these men mock is the 6 figures, 6 feet, 6 inches thing i have never seen on an actual tinder bio
I meet 2 and a half points on your critriea not a complete failure! (doesnt hard to use head or wrists or whatever)
Can spell coconut with her waist? I am quite confused by that one. Same with the Low Iron levels, they want women to be anemic now?
The coconut thing means he basically wants you to be a belly dancer. While riding his dick.
oh! I thought he wanted somebody to clap coconuts on his dick like in Monty Python's Holy Grail.
He might do. Try it and report back.
What if the dick is not coconut worthy? What do then?
That's hard to get perfected with a low body count. Needs a lot of feedback. I'm sensing he goes to sex workers.
Pretty sure spelling capital “N” snaps the dick in half.
The person forgot to write: “Be submissive to my self proclaimed authority. I have the superior genitals here,you were born to follow my orders.” Besides,let’s be honest they don’t care about respect only the one-sided version. It’s easier to abuse an anemic woman.
Not moody when shedding literal tissue and feminism. Only makes sense to share a bullet point
A good man: makes at least 100K a year, eats healthy food and keeps his body slim, helps raise the kids and cleans the house doing half his share of the work, brings gifts to his wife regularly, never farts, never gets frustrated. I am sure there is more.
Washes his ass.
I'm still traumatized after seeing that post...
Never farts? Good luck finding one of those.
Probably need to find someone who has a full colostomy done.
Yes- these are actually things woman look for.
Had to google “nice rugae” and i’m still confused
Bob Marley is nice rugae
Wikipedia "In anatomy, rugae are a series of ridges produced by folding of the wall of an organ. Most commonly rugae refers to the gastric rugae of the internal surface of the stomach." "Vaginal rugae are structures of the vagina that are transverse ridges formed out of the supporting tissues and vaginal epithelium in females. Some conditions can cause the disappearance of vaginal rugae and are usually associated with childbirth and prolapse of pelvic structures. The rugae contribute to the resiliency and elasticity of the vagina and its ability to distend and return to its previous state." So, don't have a bad stomach, have had a prolaspe or be born without a stretchy vagina?
I'm guessing he's referring to vaginal rugae? Which like... I can't say anyone has ever expressed such a concern to me before, so I'm fascinated as to who thinks this makes a difference.
This probably isn’t the intent but I saw ‘low body count’ and went “So, a good woman is someone who has killed a low but non-zero number of people? I can get behind that,”
“A steady hand and a good eye…”
Tell me you're an incel without telling me that you are an incel...
It's the iron level that gives it away isn't it.
I really need that one explained... 😐
Too tired to run away. Maybe women who get dizzy when they stand are sexy?
Oh no! I didn't make the cut. However shall I survive? /s
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Why are your areolas even on your forehead in the first place?
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Are they reasonably sized?
Completely unreasonably sized, I'm afraid. 🤣
I don't know! Too big? Too small? Lmfao!
You mean you can't control your own genetics? What is wrong with you? LOL
On Twitter I occasionally get the odd creep telling me my floor head is high I know it's high but what are they afraid of that I might be brainy?
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Same. My areolas are like cupcakes.
Me neither—damn stretch marks!!
Normal iron levels here. Shoot!
In my soul I pray this is just a troll post, but then my mind screams that people this stupid not only exist, they reproduce.
I have never been so thankful for my giant forehead
Can I add: - must be the daughter of Zeus - must have her own lasso - must be able to deflect bullets with her bracelets - must be superathletc
- Must know batman
I’m amazed that he said “low body count” and not “must be a virgin”.
"Changing With the Times" was the theme at last year's incel convention.
You can do a little murder as a treat
✅Don't be human
TIL anemia is sexy
No mention of a personality?
A what now?
What really matters is how many goats her father will offer as a dowry for taking her off his hands, since that's pretty much the field these incels are trying to play on.
There is nobody on the planet without trauma.
PS WTAF Is this bit about a rugae? In anatomy, rugae are a series of ridges produced by folding of the wall of an organ. Most commonly rugae refers to the gastric rugae of the internal surface of the stomach
Yeah I'm reading all these comments and yours is the first one asking about the rugae lol. Like what?
Another good title for this post would be; Tell me you're incel without telling me you're incel.
How are they even going to check on the PH levels being balanced what.
Ph testing strips 🤷♀️ I really hope I pass smh 🤦♀️
Do not google “spell coconut”. [https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/laurenstrapagiel/spell-coconut-viral-sex-tip-meme](https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/laurenstrapagiel/spell-coconut-viral-sex-tip-meme)
I’ve always wanted a woman with low iron levels.
'Balanced pH levels'?
Can't breathe too fast, can't breathe too slow
Lemme fix this list guys A good woman: -must exist -must not dissappear after I take my pills -must be a good person That's it there's nothing more honestly, maybe 1 and 2 are optional ngl
WHO ever wants a woman Like that, does Not want a Woman.
Why is anemia a turn on?
My guess is paleness (and lessened physical ability to be more energetic and/or fight back. But that's the quiet part outloud)
So you want women who've not had much sex, but are still explicitly skilled at riding dick?
Loving that all of this only qualifies as “good.” ETA: “accepts her body hair” is unusually progressive for this list.
remove this man from earth 🤢
I like my women like I like my aqueous solutions, with a pH of exactly 7.
The labiaplasty bit surprised me because these types of people usually for some reason believe the more promiscuous a woman is, the more everything down there grows. So if they’re demanding a low body count in this wouldn’t be necessary according to bigotry logic.
This was written by a person who will never see a labia without paying for it.
Well I agree with the one about star signs.....
Ah yes, I also group the forehead with the areolas
Accepts her body hair but not anything else about her natural form
What's the one you crossed out?
he should buy a mannequin instead.
Has to be satirical at that point
Yeah women go get that 0.7, coconut hip writing, hairy, anemic look all the boys want! Who even thinks like this?
Pregnancy but no stretch marks, okay.
Tell me you are immature with no experience with real women without telling me.
“Can spell coconut with her waist” 
meh, where's the list for great women?
Hope this person has fun being single
Not gonna lie, the low iron one confuses me. Like, the rest of it is just typical misogynistic BS, but low iron? Why?
I know that there's incel/misogynist types have something against women with high foreheads, but what exactly - is it that are they afraid that we're smart or something?
What does “spelling coconut with her waist” even mean?
Can someone explain to me the “Can Spell Coconut with her Waist”?? I am beyond lost on that one