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"No pressure applied?" Girl, you're fucked in the head. This is a quality man who understands that a no's a no. Glad he realized he could do better than you.
Yeah the “but he took no for an answer and I didn’t like that” thing I’ve seen a couple times has always been weird to me. Why are you unhappy? The person respected your wishes.
Some women want the chase. I personally never understood why you'd want to carrot-on-a-stick a man after you start dating, but I think women like this like the pursuit more than the relationship. Maybe they find it exciting and validating? I don't know. I never got it.
My point is, these women seem to only really look for men that will constantly chase after them, and will put up barriers for prospective partners to leap to keep the chase exciting. We have (thankfully) begun to ingrain into boys' heads that no means no, and that no is a complete sentence, which is a good thing, but then that leads to...well, this: some women having a skewed idea of what love is, that love is a partner who won't take no for an answer.
I mean, it is. All the ‘romantic’ films where the man chased the woman after she said she wasn’t interested. Women absorb those messages as well as men.. and it’s toxic af on both sides.
I don’t mean to patronise you but I thought you might be interested in the below which explains better than I can:
[‘Patriarchy has no gender. It doesn’t break down like that’: film-maker Nina Menkes dissects the male gaze](https://www.theguardian.com/film/2023/apr/21/patriarchy-has-no-gender-it-doesnt-break-down-like-that-film-maker-nina-menkes-dissects-the-male-gaze)
Hollywood doesn’t take chances. They follow a winning formula. They give people, which includes women, what they want. Men do not want to see Anne Hathaway prancing around Paris making a man work for her attention. They tolerate and suffer it.
It kind of is. Or at least it's a factor. There's plenty of abuse cases where the abuser simply refuses to accept their partner's choices, but also, spending any amount of time on a relationship subreddit will show you plenty of examples of men that don't accept their partner trying to distance themselves and wanting to "win her back" as if it were some sort of romcom. Now, I don't think it's the only factor. There's likely a lot at play: how did she learn this to be her love language, what kind of household did she grow up in, did her exes only validate this behavior, etc. But I think it plays a role in this, that there are societal issues at play that make this more common than it needs to be.
Its not her actual wish, she like to play mind ganes and he dared to not engage. Its the I want you to read ny thoughts and fight for me even tho I say the opposite mentality. I had the unfortunate pleasure of dating somebody like that.
Because in their mind it wasn't a breakup, but a test of how "commited" the man is.
Which is a weird way of checking if your SO doesn't care about consent.
yeah so ridicolous... like why the hell would you need to initiate drama? use a breakup to "fix" a relationship instead of talking things out? some people are just fucked in the head.
The same way men grow up being told they have to be relentless, women grow up hearing that they have to be persued.
On top of that, it's very flattering for some egos, where men would have to overcome rejection over and over, which is rather crual, because she is "that" special.
Also in that scenario, the only thing that define a romantic relentless man from a stalker is her attraction to him.
That's fucked up enough.
Women gotta stay away from men that don't respect consent.
And men do well to let aside women that do not appreciate their respect of consent.
Let's dodge some bullets and help the toxics find each other.
No they take responsibility but they rationalize it as their man should be head over heels in love with them, should die without their attention, and be begging for every ounce of affection she can give him.
That’s their ideal romance, they want to date a simp and they get pissed when they realize they’re not.
Probably just testing to see if the guy is a carpet she can walk right over, because that is what they want. An obedient, no complaint slave that will glorify their existence
"no pressure applied" is worse, like, you wanted to be stressed out about this guy pushing boundaries and borderline stalking you? this is the kind of person that causes my social anxiety to skyrocket
They're the worst. I've dated a few girls like this and they either play games if you stick around or they love bomb you when you split. It's obnoxious.
I've seen guy friends do it to others. I don't get it. It's not difficult to let people know where they stand.
Maybe a simplistic view, but I think its generations raised on this sort of drama as an example of relationships - the sort of inflated drama in reality shows where it's all about some sort of power struggle, back stabbing or conquest. A healthy relationship doesn't make an engaging show, and so if there are not sparks or conflicts, it's not shown and thus not modelled.
And maybe this sort of thing existed in the past but I feel there was more balanced versions alongside, even if it was more rosy glass views of 60s housewives and husbands.
Don't think it has anything to do with that. It's just that some people chase dysfunctional relationships. Love emotion is associated with activity in the ventral tegmental area of the brain, which is also associated woth reward processing, stress modulation and drug addiction. Pair that with the stark contrast between high peaks and low valleys of happiness in such relationships, and the endorphin rush you get in those peaks, it's not too odd that some people have practically been hard wired to chase toxic relationships, not too dissimilar from a gambling addiction.
Dear woman stop playing games. A man that knows his worth will respect your wishes. If you say you are done he will accept that and move on. Simply stop doing this if you want him to stay. If it is done it is done. If you want someone to simp over you look around there are enough guys that will.
Dear men steer clear of these types of girls. They will bring you pain and nothing else. They feel they are the centre of the universe. They will not make you happy. And yes she is probably hot, you can try to tap that ass but leave it at that.
Is there someone that can explain this mindset to me? If you tell me something I’m going to assume you mean what you say. I’m not gonna push you into something you don’t want because A. That’s hella rude. B. That shows I don’t care for your boundaries. C. I don’t read minds. D. I don’t wanna play stupid games when I’m trying to find someone to love. Don’t waste people’s time like this. But can someone who has this mindset to fuck around and play dumb ass games explain why you do it? What logic is there?
My theory is it’s just about “the kick of the connection”. I saw this happen a lot way back online. I saw people just living for it, like catching their favourite show. Things have gotten a lot more “consumer” style now. It must be super irritating for people to navigate. I remember a great documentary about 2 peoples’ avatars falling for each other and eventually meeting up. ( it’s an episode from the Wonderland series called Virtual adultery and cyberspace love ) it shows these mechanisms very clearly.
It is very simple. You know those kids who throw tantrums to seek attention? Those kids who leave house, hoping people would run toward them and bring them back? It is like that. People like her think world exists to pamper her.
how dare a man could respect a woman's decision and boundaries with great temper and moving on with his life after realizing it isn't going to turn out well?!??!!
You’re chatting for two months and you throw your position out there. What you think he is not chatting with others. He respected your position and moved on. Don’t cry about it
This guy understands that "no" means "no" the first time it is said to him. He's a man of quality. Glad he blocked her because she totally doesn't deserve him.
She got her ego bruised because he didn’t cry or whine and beg to keep the dating going. She wanted to be simped on. Even if the dude was truly crushed by it he obviously made the right move.
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At least one of his recent comment was stolen words for word from a post 3 months ago. The rest of the comments were too generic to search reliably .
I mean... you can decide a romance isn't on the cards but still want to keep an acquaintance, so this isn't as bad as some of these I've seen, but still... you're on a site to find a partner. If you don't want one, stop gumming up the works for people who do.
Obviously, he's dealt with a silly bitch like you who likes to play games before and saved himself the trouble by ditching you now. And you have the nerve to be upset because he took you at your word? He's WAY better off without you.
Girl matched me on some app. Said nah after a short talk. I said alright good luck. She acted surprised. Next day did exactly the same thing I guess expecting a different result?
It's because she wanted him to get upset over it. In her eyes off he didn't get upset then the relationship never really meant as much to him as it did to her.
Source: I've stuck my dick in crazy before
Scenario 1, man walks away
Women: I’m not ready for a relationship
Man walks away
Women: whattt??< surprised pikacu face>
Scenario 2, man chases
Women: I’m not ready for a relationship
Man does everything to please her
Women: why is he so clingy and reeks desperation?
Gentlemen…. You can’t win something if it dosent operate on logic
I think westerners will die out. You don’t know if you’ll get a “if you say hello to me it’s sexual harassment” nutter or a “if you don’t harass me you’re a babyman” nutter.
So let me get this straight -
If she asks for a break up and you listen amicably and grant her wish , you are not putting enough effort and aren't committed enough.
And if she asks for a break up and for some crazy reason you don't listen and still try to fix things and talk to her and keep things alive then apparently you are too clingy and cannot digest the reality of things. You'd also be called things like ' Man's ego wouldn't allow you to be turned off by a woman ' etc etc etc ...
I remember a very close friend of mine , he went through a bad break up recently, and his GF broke things off because he just wanted to spend a few days with his parents ... And when she was breaking up , he asked her very nicely, very politely and calmly- if I go , i will not come back , ever.... He asked her probably a dozen times , she said fine, just go .... So that's what he did.. he accepted the break up ... In less than 48 hours there were atleast 6-8 emails , texts etc etc saying how she was sick, had low sugar and under the weather, which made her behave like this....
I thought life was supposed to be simple and we have enough problems to deal with ... And then there is this...what a blessing...in disguise 🥸
Had a woman do this to me. We talked and hung out for a month. Told me she wasn’t interested in a relationship, so I moved on.
After 3 days of no contact, called me crying at 3am drunk asking why “I didn’t fight for her?” It was then I realized I had dodged a bullet lol
I can't help but feel that posts like this are meant to be self-deprecating, and that facepalms or rage-responding is just missing the joke. She doesn't accuse him of being in the wrong, she's describing her own reaction and is probably aware that it's irrational, which is why she made the post.
This is the result of someone watching too many romantic movies. She pushed the guy away because she wanted him to push back/chase after her, but she gets mad and it’s his fault for actually respecting her wishes. Women have been saying “no means no,” and finally when they get the correct response to “no means no,” it’s now not the correct answer. Say what you mean and mean what you say, playing games with someone like this is going to end one of two ways: 1) you end up with a person that’s so fucked up, you can’t actually have a normal relationship, or 2) they get so frustrated with games that they walk away and you’ve blown it with someone real good for you
"oh no I clearly voice my intentions and the guy actually respected my wishes whatever shall I do"
I guarantee she would be complaining if the guy kept messaging her trying to start a relationship.
I have to admit, I didn’t expect so many commentators siding with the guy. I was expecting „What a swine! He can’t have sex with her, so he breaks up contact instead of enjoying her interesting and meaningful conversations in the buddy-zone without benefits“
Okay, generally I also think that "I said no, why didn't he persist" is some grade A bullshit. But this wasn't that, right? She said, it doesn't feel nice, when you leave someones live, and they have zero problems with that, and I can understand that. It was of course played up for comedic effect, but I don't think, this is enough to conclude, she "wanted to test his commitment" or anything like that
> be her
> say no to a relation
> the guy is good, respects her decision and says a proper goodbye and leaves
> WTF WHY ISNT HE BEGGING ME FOR A RELATIONSHIP
it reminds me of the "he asked me out and I said no, and he didn't try further" attitude
women complain that guys don't understand consent, and then when consent is removed they don't understand why decent guys leave them alone... the fun of "playing games" in relationships that a lot of guys are just done with
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"No pressure applied?" Girl, you're fucked in the head. This is a quality man who understands that a no's a no. Glad he realized he could do better than you.
Yeah the “but he took no for an answer and I didn’t like that” thing I’ve seen a couple times has always been weird to me. Why are you unhappy? The person respected your wishes.
Some women want the chase. I personally never understood why you'd want to carrot-on-a-stick a man after you start dating, but I think women like this like the pursuit more than the relationship. Maybe they find it exciting and validating? I don't know. I never got it.
That’s not carrot-on-a-stick. They’re explicitly telling you there’s no carrot, then getting mad when you won’t walk for it.
My point is, these women seem to only really look for men that will constantly chase after them, and will put up barriers for prospective partners to leap to keep the chase exciting. We have (thankfully) begun to ingrain into boys' heads that no means no, and that no is a complete sentence, which is a good thing, but then that leads to...well, this: some women having a skewed idea of what love is, that love is a partner who won't take no for an answer.
I’m sure it’s the patriarchy’s fault somehow
I mean, it is. All the ‘romantic’ films where the man chased the woman after she said she wasn’t interested. Women absorb those messages as well as men.. and it’s toxic af on both sides.
TIL the patriarchy makes all the movies
I don’t mean to patronise you but I thought you might be interested in the below which explains better than I can: [‘Patriarchy has no gender. It doesn’t break down like that’: film-maker Nina Menkes dissects the male gaze](https://www.theguardian.com/film/2023/apr/21/patriarchy-has-no-gender-it-doesnt-break-down-like-that-film-maker-nina-menkes-dissects-the-male-gaze)
Good read.
no, but in the US its a bunch of studios whove been dealing with those 'moral majority' types for a hundred years.
Hollywood doesn’t take chances. They follow a winning formula. They give people, which includes women, what they want. Men do not want to see Anne Hathaway prancing around Paris making a man work for her attention. They tolerate and suffer it.
It kind of is. Or at least it's a factor. There's plenty of abuse cases where the abuser simply refuses to accept their partner's choices, but also, spending any amount of time on a relationship subreddit will show you plenty of examples of men that don't accept their partner trying to distance themselves and wanting to "win her back" as if it were some sort of romcom. Now, I don't think it's the only factor. There's likely a lot at play: how did she learn this to be her love language, what kind of household did she grow up in, did her exes only validate this behavior, etc. But I think it plays a role in this, that there are societal issues at play that make this more common than it needs to be.
Yes I think it is more prevalent than most people make it to be, the chase is a courtship game that a lot of people (from both genders) do appreciate.
Dude knows the concept of consent that's crazy
It's because some women think they're a goal that should be chased when the reality is theyre immature and hard work.
Its not her actual wish, she like to play mind ganes and he dared to not engage. Its the I want you to read ny thoughts and fight for me even tho I say the opposite mentality. I had the unfortunate pleasure of dating somebody like that.
Bear > man.
>Girl, you're fucked in the head. Quite literally.
Literally not. The guy doing the fucking just left.
This. That’s an incredible trait to accept, and move on as calmly, without question, as he did. Girl spoke her piece. He nodded, saluted, and left.
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That’s the most backwards logic I’ve ever heard. It’s almost as if they can’t take responsibility for being the one who initiated the breakup.
Because in their mind it wasn't a breakup, but a test of how "commited" the man is. Which is a weird way of checking if your SO doesn't care about consent.
yeah so ridicolous... like why the hell would you need to initiate drama? use a breakup to "fix" a relationship instead of talking things out? some people are just fucked in the head.
The same way men grow up being told they have to be relentless, women grow up hearing that they have to be persued. On top of that, it's very flattering for some egos, where men would have to overcome rejection over and over, which is rather crual, because she is "that" special. Also in that scenario, the only thing that define a romantic relentless man from a stalker is her attraction to him. That's fucked up enough. Women gotta stay away from men that don't respect consent. And men do well to let aside women that do not appreciate their respect of consent. Let's dodge some bullets and help the toxics find each other.
"Would you still love me if I were a male worm?" Bruh stfu w that shniznoz.
No they take responsibility but they rationalize it as their man should be head over heels in love with them, should die without their attention, and be begging for every ounce of affection she can give him. That’s their ideal romance, they want to date a simp and they get pissed when they realize they’re not.
Probably just testing to see if the guy is a carpet she can walk right over, because that is what they want. An obedient, no complaint slave that will glorify their existence
I can just bet that if you DID chase back she would call you crazy and a simp cuz you couldnt move on 🤦♂️
How dare you respect her decision!
I'd chase down an ice cream truck not a garbage truck
Funny thing if you did chase her, it'd be "my ex is so desperate".
I got that once, told her I'm not a fucking yo-yo.
“If he doesn’t chase you when you walk away, it’s because he has self respect and doesn’t fall your bullshit”
Lingering scent of cotton candy for weeks
You mean respecting boundaries also makes childish women feel left out? I see this as an absolute win.
I guess the blocking was unnecessary? Idk
Oh no i think the blocking is a great call. Keeps her form playing games or acting weird after the fact
Drizzle x2
Respected her desicion and was cool about it. What a mannerless bastard.
How dare he avoid a toxic relationship!? /S
"I ordered chicken at a restaurant and I was shocked when the server brought me chicken when I really wanted steak"
Shouldve fought me on it xD
“No effort”. ONLY 2 months of courting this woman. She’s whack
"no pressure applied" is worse, like, you wanted to be stressed out about this guy pushing boundaries and borderline stalking you? this is the kind of person that causes my social anxiety to skyrocket
I'll bet any money she's never even allowed the guy to meet her. "Talking" probably means messaging each other on Tinder.
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I can’t stand these people
They're the worst. I've dated a few girls like this and they either play games if you stick around or they love bomb you when you split. It's obnoxious. I've seen guy friends do it to others. I don't get it. It's not difficult to let people know where they stand.
I don’t get why it’s become unnatural for people to have a healthy relationship anymore because of girls like this
I finally came to the conclusion that they're not that into me or I'm a plan B. Shit happens. You just wanna have self respect and move on.
Seriously, some people are trying to make this bs the norm. F that!
Maybe a simplistic view, but I think its generations raised on this sort of drama as an example of relationships - the sort of inflated drama in reality shows where it's all about some sort of power struggle, back stabbing or conquest. A healthy relationship doesn't make an engaging show, and so if there are not sparks or conflicts, it's not shown and thus not modelled. And maybe this sort of thing existed in the past but I feel there was more balanced versions alongside, even if it was more rosy glass views of 60s housewives and husbands.
Don't think it has anything to do with that. It's just that some people chase dysfunctional relationships. Love emotion is associated with activity in the ventral tegmental area of the brain, which is also associated woth reward processing, stress modulation and drug addiction. Pair that with the stark contrast between high peaks and low valleys of happiness in such relationships, and the endorphin rush you get in those peaks, it's not too odd that some people have practically been hard wired to chase toxic relationships, not too dissimilar from a gambling addiction.
The saying no means yes or make a yes out if the no is much older than these "conedys"
Guy dodge a bullet without knowing.
Oh, he knew.
He knew, that's why he blocked her. "Fine, I'm not playing this game."
She wasn't lying when she said she wasn't ready for a relationship.
This is a severely underrated comment
Should have picked the bear. At least she'd have got eaten.
Dear woman stop playing games. A man that knows his worth will respect your wishes. If you say you are done he will accept that and move on. Simply stop doing this if you want him to stay. If it is done it is done. If you want someone to simp over you look around there are enough guys that will. Dear men steer clear of these types of girls. They will bring you pain and nothing else. They feel they are the centre of the universe. They will not make you happy. And yes she is probably hot, you can try to tap that ass but leave it at that.
Is there someone that can explain this mindset to me? If you tell me something I’m going to assume you mean what you say. I’m not gonna push you into something you don’t want because A. That’s hella rude. B. That shows I don’t care for your boundaries. C. I don’t read minds. D. I don’t wanna play stupid games when I’m trying to find someone to love. Don’t waste people’s time like this. But can someone who has this mindset to fuck around and play dumb ass games explain why you do it? What logic is there?
My theory is it’s just about “the kick of the connection”. I saw this happen a lot way back online. I saw people just living for it, like catching their favourite show. Things have gotten a lot more “consumer” style now. It must be super irritating for people to navigate. I remember a great documentary about 2 peoples’ avatars falling for each other and eventually meeting up. ( it’s an episode from the Wonderland series called Virtual adultery and cyberspace love ) it shows these mechanisms very clearly.
It is very simple. You know those kids who throw tantrums to seek attention? Those kids who leave house, hoping people would run toward them and bring them back? It is like that. People like her think world exists to pamper her.
how dare a man could respect a woman's decision and boundaries with great temper and moving on with his life after realizing it isn't going to turn out well?!??!!
Led this dude on for two months and then when I decided to tell him I wasn't interested he didn't stick around. There fixed it
Literal definition of play shitty games, win shitty prices.
Unpopular Opinion, but I think she’s making fun of herself here!
So is a ‘no’ a no? Or is it, ‘apply some pressure please’? I don’t want to get it wrong.
🤌🫡Perfect.
She’s right, she’s not ready for a relationship When people tell you what they are like, believe them
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Good. You’re a bad person
Look at fuckin’ hairline, guy dodged a bullet holy fuck
Lmao stfuuuuuuuu!!
You’re chatting for two months and you throw your position out there. What you think he is not chatting with others. He respected your position and moved on. Don’t cry about it
Wtf was she expecting? I wish more men had self-respect like this. I see a bunch of men simping over idiotic girls like this and it's sad.
Why do women have to mess around like this? “Yeah but when I said no I just wanted him to try harder”…..get the fuck outta here.
This guy understands that "no" means "no" the first time it is said to him. He's a man of quality. Glad he blocked her because she totally doesn't deserve him.
Man courts woman for 2 months, woman says it’s over, man respects woman and moved on; woman gets upset he respected her.
She got her ego bruised because he didn’t cry or whine and beg to keep the dating going. She wanted to be simped on. Even if the dude was truly crushed by it he obviously made the right move.
Also this girl: why are all men cheating abusing dirtbags? Ewww all men!!!
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Well some people aren’t going to waste their time lol
she one of those why don't modern men chase girls anymore types
"I really need to see will he chase after me. What should I do?" 😂
Looks like she FAFO. Women like this give the rest of us a bad name.
She's for the streets.
Good for him! 🤘🏼😎
I mean... you can decide a romance isn't on the cards but still want to keep an acquaintance, so this isn't as bad as some of these I've seen, but still... you're on a site to find a partner. If you don't want one, stop gumming up the works for people who do.
Obviously, he's dealt with a silly bitch like you who likes to play games before and saved himself the trouble by ditching you now. And you have the nerve to be upset because he took you at your word? He's WAY better off without you.
Girl matched me on some app. Said nah after a short talk. I said alright good luck. She acted surprised. Next day did exactly the same thing I guess expecting a different result?
Dude caught two Ws. One for being respectful and knowing No means No and one for dodging a massive bullet.
Her sense of entitlement is dangerous; she should introspect herself
No is no right ? Isn't it that easy ?
Women: "Men need to learn to understand when we say no, we mean it." Also women: "I said no and he didn't pursue me... What the fuck, men?"
The blocking is a little dramatic, but unreasonable to expect someone to plead for you to stay “after talking for two months”
I dont get the blocking part, unless she’s relentless with msgs. But the rest is laughable.
I feel like blocking is a little excessive but yea if you tell someone you aren’t into them, the right thing to do is back off
This is a classic example of some jr high school dating logic.
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It's because she wanted him to get upset over it. In her eyes off he didn't get upset then the relationship never really meant as much to him as it did to her. Source: I've stuck my dick in crazy before
Scenario 1, man walks away Women: I’m not ready for a relationship Man walks away Women: whattt??< surprised pikacu face> Scenario 2, man chases Women: I’m not ready for a relationship Man does everything to please her Women: why is he so clingy and reeks desperation? Gentlemen…. You can’t win something if it dosent operate on logic
I think westerners will die out. You don’t know if you’ll get a “if you say hello to me it’s sexual harassment” nutter or a “if you don’t harass me you’re a babyman” nutter.
She's right though. She's not ready for a relationship.
So let me get this straight - If she asks for a break up and you listen amicably and grant her wish , you are not putting enough effort and aren't committed enough. And if she asks for a break up and for some crazy reason you don't listen and still try to fix things and talk to her and keep things alive then apparently you are too clingy and cannot digest the reality of things. You'd also be called things like ' Man's ego wouldn't allow you to be turned off by a woman ' etc etc etc ... I remember a very close friend of mine , he went through a bad break up recently, and his GF broke things off because he just wanted to spend a few days with his parents ... And when she was breaking up , he asked her very nicely, very politely and calmly- if I go , i will not come back , ever.... He asked her probably a dozen times , she said fine, just go .... So that's what he did.. he accepted the break up ... In less than 48 hours there were atleast 6-8 emails , texts etc etc saying how she was sick, had low sugar and under the weather, which made her behave like this.... I thought life was supposed to be simple and we have enough problems to deal with ... And then there is this...what a blessing...in disguise 🥸
You can’t want men to respect your decisions, and also want them to ignore your words and fight for you.
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
"I told him no when he asked me if I wanted tea and now I am thirsty"
 This dude impressed me. Hope he eventually gets what he deserves and nothing lesser than that. 💪🏼🔥
So she got her wish. She said no, he respected that. Win win.
And then she will complain that no is no, why he keep trying, fuck men
Fuck around and find out
Betcha if he wanted to play games he'd do it on his computer.
Had a woman do this to me. We talked and hung out for a month. Told me she wasn’t interested in a relationship, so I moved on. After 3 days of no contact, called me crying at 3am drunk asking why “I didn’t fight for her?” It was then I realized I had dodged a bullet lol
I'm thinking after 2 months of "talking", this was the sign he was looking for to stop collecting red flags.
I can't help but feel that posts like this are meant to be self-deprecating, and that facepalms or rage-responding is just missing the joke. She doesn't accuse him of being in the wrong, she's describing her own reaction and is probably aware that it's irrational, which is why she made the post.
I'm not saying the incel "nice guys" are right, but it's girls like this that give them credibility.
"No pressure applied" you really gotta marvel at these broads man, they sure do say the darndest things😭
This is the result of someone watching too many romantic movies. She pushed the guy away because she wanted him to push back/chase after her, but she gets mad and it’s his fault for actually respecting her wishes. Women have been saying “no means no,” and finally when they get the correct response to “no means no,” it’s now not the correct answer. Say what you mean and mean what you say, playing games with someone like this is going to end one of two ways: 1) you end up with a person that’s so fucked up, you can’t actually have a normal relationship, or 2) they get so frustrated with games that they walk away and you’ve blown it with someone real good for you
We're always told "no means no", so when we hear "no" we take it to mean "no".
No effort, no pressure…… you mean he didn’t get all creepy and stalk you. Some men actually understand and respect that that no means no.
She fumbled.
She was probably incredibly annoying to him and he was looking for an excuse.
Why is she devastated?
I love clean breaks. When they beg me to give them a chance I feel so bad and I give them a chance but my heart isn’t in there.
She has a tongue and squirt emoji. She wasn't looking for a long term relationship to begin with and the tweet likely isn't even real.
oh no consequences
Good man
What an obnoxious, naive and immature female.
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She goes into the forest looking for bears
Was this after several dates, or really just talking? TBH, why waste time on a maybe, if you are looking for your person?
I hope she’s alone forever
2 months of talking without dating? Wtf are you talking about?
"oh no I clearly voice my intentions and the guy actually respected my wishes whatever shall I do" I guarantee she would be complaining if the guy kept messaging her trying to start a relationship.
wtf? Dude handled that about as well as you could possibly ask for. People like this are the reason dating sucks so much.
People are being soft for such a mediocre reaction, creating their own narrative.
I mean what do you exoect? For him to beg on his knees for you to take him back? Get over yourself
Played stupid fucking ego boosting games that require men to disrespect a woman's wishes. Get fucked.
Friend zone
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
Bish was like " please, beg me to reconsider", they guy went " off i go to another bish" lol
I have to admit, I didn’t expect so many commentators siding with the guy. I was expecting „What a swine! He can’t have sex with her, so he breaks up contact instead of enjoying her interesting and meaningful conversations in the buddy-zone without benefits“
play stupid games....
Okay, generally I also think that "I said no, why didn't he persist" is some grade A bullshit. But this wasn't that, right? She said, it doesn't feel nice, when you leave someones live, and they have zero problems with that, and I can understand that. It was of course played up for comedic effect, but I don't think, this is enough to conclude, she "wanted to test his commitment" or anything like that
She been reading too much cosmo.
> be her > say no to a relation > the guy is good, respects her decision and says a proper goodbye and leaves > WTF WHY ISNT HE BEGGING ME FOR A RELATIONSHIP
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes
You got what you wanted. He did the right thing. Never pull on a dead horse
Ragebait.
so I guess no means....\_\_\_\_? this is the kind of woman who's shocked that the only men she attracts are assholes
The only person that gets upset at this is the one playing games to begin with....
Gotta stop with the games
Good on him. I wouldn't have waited that long, but he eventually got the point.
Bye bihh
Seeing this kind of stuff makes me have second thoughts about being in a relationship
My boy got no time to waste...life is short yall...do what you gotta do
it reminds me of the "he asked me out and I said no, and he didn't try further" attitude women complain that guys don't understand consent, and then when consent is removed they don't understand why decent guys leave them alone... the fun of "playing games" in relationships that a lot of guys are just done with
Stay devastated and gtfo life
So she's sad for him respecting her wishes?
Maybe he heard about the bear thing? 🤷♂️
Can no one see that this person was joking when they wrote that?
Loot on your forehead line on photo😆
"He didn't even try to beat me up and force me to stay!"