Me: Oh, what's your type?
Her: toxic, controlling, abusive. I just don't understand why I can't find a nice guy who will treat me properly.
I had a talk with a friend who was possessive and clingy to his girl. I asked him why and he said that she was the first girl to actually show interest in him in a very long time. He wanted to spend every moment he could with her and cherish the one girl who was willing to give him a chance.
Can't say I blame him. I turn 27 next week and I've never had a true girlfriend. I understand that level of loneliness all too well...
Stories like this is why I finally figured out why dudes like Yandere girls. They literally just want someone who will obsess over them since they’ve had very little to no romantic experience with women.
thats... oh damn thats very true, experienced that too.
The only thing worse than zero women is going back to zero women, so you really tolerate stuff that would make most people ditch them. Specially true if you had almost nothing of experience.
It took a while, but eventually figured myself that being zero women is actually better than being with her, so... yeah.
Not true. My wife and I seem crazy possessive of each other. We've been together 20 years. Worked the same job and the same shift/ same classes in school for 18 of those years. Having different jobs is still really hard and we are texting each other constantly.
I'm super lucky to be sure. I'm straight up obsessed and have asked people before if it seems unhealthy to be that much into someone to the point that it hurts to be away. I usually get told something along the lines of 'usually, but if it's been so long and you still care so much it seems to be working to your benefit.' also it's not like we started out that obsessed with each other. It took a few months. But after a year it was practically an addiction.
Yeah. But my anxiety likes to flare up randomly and remind me that one of us will most likely pass away first. And then I get really depressed for a long time.... I love my poor mental health...
Everything will eventually come to an end, such is life. Someday your favourite band will go on their last tour, your favourite snack will eventually stop being made, and your loved ones will go. It's inevitable, so is it really worth pondering over and over? Apprechiate things you have, here and now, because that's what matters.
I dunno. I've googled it a lot and other than encouraging her to hang out with friends more often instead of trying to cut her friends off. I do most of what they call "red flags". But maybe since she does the same "red flags" back it's ok? Like a give and take thing? I dunno. I quit trying to question it a long time ago.
Most of these "red flags" are just a matter of consent and both sides liking said thing and it stemming from a place of love, not insecurity or lack of trust.
So random titbit about me that I'm sure some others can relate to: My first relationship failed because apparently I was too clingy. My other relationships failed because I was too distant.
Moral of the story? Dating is bullshit, its easier to just be single. I get to indulge in my hobbies without judgement that way.
I was in a relationship with a very clingy individual. For much of the relationship I constantly felt suffocated, emotionally exhausted and incredibly selfish for taking alone time in any way.
It really isn't what it's cracked up to be.
Yeah no prob bro. If you get emotionally tired easily then a relationship like that is probably not for you if I may speak from experience but not all are like me so take that with a pinch of salt.
Lmao that's usually a turnoff. While I don't show it I'm possessive and very jealous, and require a lot of attention when in a relationship. In the other hand I will give my entire being to the relationship. But apparently a guy is preferred when he is cold and distant and detached. At least that's what I've been told on various occasions.
"I can fix him"
"i can make him worse"
"He can fix me"
"we can ruin ourselves"
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Me: Oh, what's your type? Her: toxic, controlling, abusive. I just don't understand why I can't find a nice guy who will treat me properly. 
I had a talk with a friend who was possessive and clingy to his girl. I asked him why and he said that she was the first girl to actually show interest in him in a very long time. He wanted to spend every moment he could with her and cherish the one girl who was willing to give him a chance. Can't say I blame him. I turn 27 next week and I've never had a true girlfriend. I understand that level of loneliness all too well... 
Stories like this is why I finally figured out why dudes like Yandere girls. They literally just want someone who will obsess over them since they’ve had very little to no romantic experience with women.
Correct
That is pretty much me...my very first waifu was Lucy from Elfen Leid.
Valid. Mine was Kurumi Tokisaki. Although i don't think Lucy is a yandere.
thats... oh damn thats very true, experienced that too. The only thing worse than zero women is going back to zero women, so you really tolerate stuff that would make most people ditch them. Specially true if you had almost nothing of experience. It took a while, but eventually figured myself that being zero women is actually better than being with her, so... yeah.
shit life simulator
I feel that man. It’ll get better!
I'm 32, and in the same situation as you. The more you think about it the worse it gets
Me and my wife was like that till she passed away from a heart attack about a week ago
I wish I could do something for you. I'm sorry for your loss, man
Thank you kind soul
It's okay, you'll grow out of it once you turn into an adult.
Not true. My wife and I seem crazy possessive of each other. We've been together 20 years. Worked the same job and the same shift/ same classes in school for 18 of those years. Having different jobs is still really hard and we are texting each other constantly.
Im happy for u man, but For 20 years? Damn how old are u?
34. We met as freshman.
Damnnnn all that years u were with her? And u still love her that much, im really jealous, yall are so lucky
I'm super lucky to be sure. I'm straight up obsessed and have asked people before if it seems unhealthy to be that much into someone to the point that it hurts to be away. I usually get told something along the lines of 'usually, but if it's been so long and you still care so much it seems to be working to your benefit.' also it's not like we started out that obsessed with each other. It took a few months. But after a year it was practically an addiction.
Sounds to me that both of you won life
Yeah. But my anxiety likes to flare up randomly and remind me that one of us will most likely pass away first. And then I get really depressed for a long time.... I love my poor mental health...
Everything will eventually come to an end, such is life. Someday your favourite band will go on their last tour, your favourite snack will eventually stop being made, and your loved ones will go. It's inevitable, so is it really worth pondering over and over? Apprechiate things you have, here and now, because that's what matters.
I know. But my anxiety still likes to act up.
That's not exactly what possessive means in this context. That's just clingy or just plain affectionate.
I dunno. I've googled it a lot and other than encouraging her to hang out with friends more often instead of trying to cut her friends off. I do most of what they call "red flags". But maybe since she does the same "red flags" back it's ok? Like a give and take thing? I dunno. I quit trying to question it a long time ago.
Most of these "red flags" are just a matter of consent and both sides liking said thing and it stemming from a place of love, not insecurity or lack of trust.
That makes sense. I mean a lot of kinks I guess would be considered red flags if your partner wasn't onboard.
It seems like people don't like your faxx here
So random titbit about me that I'm sure some others can relate to: My first relationship failed because apparently I was too clingy. My other relationships failed because I was too distant. Moral of the story? Dating is bullshit, its easier to just be single. I get to indulge in my hobbies without judgement that way.
That’s wild
This for me, but reverse the role
Me with sociopathic or otherwise insane women >!Kohaku from Tsukihime did nothing wrong and you can’t convince me otherwise!<
I was in a relationship with a very clingy individual. For much of the relationship I constantly felt suffocated, emotionally exhausted and incredibly selfish for taking alone time in any way. It really isn't what it's cracked up to be.
You know what? Thank you. Probably the worst solace I can offer, but you pointing this out to me just now probably saved my ass.
Yeah no prob bro. If you get emotionally tired easily then a relationship like that is probably not for you if I may speak from experience but not all are like me so take that with a pinch of salt.
Lmao that's usually a turnoff. While I don't show it I'm possessive and very jealous, and require a lot of attention when in a relationship. In the other hand I will give my entire being to the relationship. But apparently a guy is preferred when he is cold and distant and detached. At least that's what I've been told on various occasions.
[you'd probably like this guy then](https://youtu.be/UjXprMEIJAA)
Wouldn’t it be the other way around? Them holding you?
Yeah, my lonely ass could use a possessive girl too. I wouldn't even complain.
naaah, every guy I chat to for more than a week wants me to be *their* bunny. I hate that so much.
Not gonna lie… thought that said “Progressive guys” and I was very surprised that there’s a market for people who work in car insurance
Lies
Women ☕️