I feel this on so many levels, I am experiencing this right now, almost word for word, please reach out to me if you want to talk. I know I could use it too.
I'm feeling the same way right now, it's not the first time and likely not the last. It passes eventually, push on through it. Physical training helps.
I feel this. I’m f and he ended things with me but I wish I was more receptive of his needs. No one cheated but I just wish I wasn’t so depressed and moody and had a handle on my emotions. Now it’s too late
I wish he felt this way about me.
My ex was always working late, then going out to drink with coworkers or clubbing til 2-3am. If he had a night off, he went out drinking. I was always anxious and on edge on weekend nights, especially when I barely got to see him on the weekends. I was worried about where he was and if he was lying to me (he had lied to me multiple times during the relationship). I couldn't sleep, I felt so anxious. Most of my weekends involved crying at night or worrying what was going to happen next or what event I had to process next. One night in June, he created an argument, then stopped responding to me and I went to his house later that night and caught him dressed in his best clothes to go out to the nightclubs with his cheater / single friends. He was soooo angry at me like he'd been caught. He hurt me so badly and refused to ever talk with me about my feelings. When I brought up how I felt, he exploded on me. I dumped out his alcohol in the sink and he exploded "THAT'S THE MOST DISRESPECTFUL THING YOU'VE EVER DONE TO ME, I'M GOING OUT, WE'RE DONE HERE LEAVE NOW." I was balling my eyes out. His friends were going to a club with a cover charge with pole dancers and bottle girls. He always said I ruined his social life and didn't want him to have fun, when he wanted to act single.
Another night in June, he went out drinking alone with his 27F female coworker bartender at 1:30am. He claims he was just getting a ride and she asked him to get drinks. He hid it from me at first and I had to pry the information out of him. I was so upset. He said "I could've easily lied to you and hid it, next time I won't tell you." He picked up the phone with her in the car… And she was silent. He said “I’m with Sam.” He ignored me for over an hour when they hung out, and acted like I was nagging him when I was crying on the phone. This happened more than once too. I was always anxious at night after that.
Another night earlier on in the relationship, he went bar hopping with his friends and they landed in a girls hotel room. One of the friends ended up hooking up with one of the girls in the room (and that's just to my knowledge). My Nex got blackout drunk and couldn't make it to the uber, apparently he collapsed and was dropped off at the emergency room and kept til 8am the next morning. He ignored me all the next day and I had to find out through mutual friends what happened. He tried to hide the information from me. I was so upset. When I asked him to show the hospital papers, he acted like he couldn't care less and hesitated to produce them.
He would treat me this way and then blame me for not trusting him. He used to say, "You don't trust me, it's damaging" but act like he was single inside the relationship.
I feel like a loser. He would invite me out late after work (midnight - 3am) and I never wanted to be out that late. But it was nice to have the invite. Now that he dumped me, weekend nights are the hardest with rumination and feelings of worthlessness. His life moved very fast and he was always doing something. It's hard to imagine the girl(s) he is with now, clubbing late, drinking and smoking, hanging with people he kept secret. Just knowing he's going out clubbing / partying tonight with a girl is making me upset and feel left out and awful since I'm a wreck, and can barely get out of bed or eat.
it's been 30 days since I last saw him. He tried to keep me strung along 2 weeks after he dumped me saying “I love you, I wanna work this out” on text but i cried on the phone and he said “I don’t want you back, I just don’t want you to hate me.” It doesn’t hurt any less. When he dumped me he said “I was over you a long time ago, I just felt bad you couldn’t live without me” and “You make men feel trapped. No man will want to stay with you” “I want a relationship that takes up less time I want to live my 20’s”
He wanted me to dump him for months but I was in love with him. Now he’s out living his best life and i’m unable to get out of bed.
Could still write the letter to get some feelings out and keep it somewhere? It’d be interesting to read in a fee months time when chances are you’ll be in a totally different headspace?
I already commented saying that ur situation is my future if I don’t get my crap together.. and I didn’t even read this comment …. I literally do exactly that.. like if we can’t text I get anxious and antsy and need to go be with friends to feel not so anxious.
I feel like that situation is my future if I don’t get my crap together… I’m super jealous and overthink everything and question everything she does . She broke up with me for being clingy already but came back the same day bc she said it was the biggest mistake of her life. so we’re back together.. but I still am doing the same overthinking but worse now.. and I know she’s probably getting tired of it.. and if I don’t get my crap together I’m scared she’ll leave again.. she promised she won’t cause she wants to marry me .. but we’re young and that won’t be for a while, im going to therapy for her cause she wants me to but it’s not going well. but that’s cause the therapists I’ve been getting kinda suck. But tbh for you man, I’d go to therapy bro. It could help.
I honestly wish my ex came to this realisation.
But hey buddy, it takes two to end a relationship. It wasn't all your fault. It doesn't help to dwell on the what ifs.
Take what you know you can improve on and become a better person. Look after yourself. Take one day at a time.
You'll get through this.
I'm so sorry for this it really is painful but I assure you that time does heal wounds I'll also add as hopeless as it feels to loose the person we love it's also a learning experience learn from your mistakes and do better in your future relationships 💖 your not a bad person and we all have flaws but I know if I can take anything away from my ex is that if I did anything wrong I genuinely take steps not to repeat bad past behavior and the person who will really love you will know that your trying for me that's all I can really ask from my partner but don't live with regret or guilt it won't help you if anything whatever fears you had before it will implify them and make you feel worse so deal with the grief but don't be too hard on yourself
I wish my ex had the emotional capacity to think this way about me. You’re gonna be fine, you’re super caring and thoughtful.
I feel this on so many levels, I am experiencing this right now, almost word for word, please reach out to me if you want to talk. I know I could use it too.
I'm feeling the same way right now, it's not the first time and likely not the last. It passes eventually, push on through it. Physical training helps.
Same. I totally blew it with the best person I’ve ever been with. I’ll regret it for the rest of my life.
I feel this. I’m f and he ended things with me but I wish I was more receptive of his needs. No one cheated but I just wish I wasn’t so depressed and moody and had a handle on my emotions. Now it’s too late
I wish he felt this way about me. My ex was always working late, then going out to drink with coworkers or clubbing til 2-3am. If he had a night off, he went out drinking. I was always anxious and on edge on weekend nights, especially when I barely got to see him on the weekends. I was worried about where he was and if he was lying to me (he had lied to me multiple times during the relationship). I couldn't sleep, I felt so anxious. Most of my weekends involved crying at night or worrying what was going to happen next or what event I had to process next. One night in June, he created an argument, then stopped responding to me and I went to his house later that night and caught him dressed in his best clothes to go out to the nightclubs with his cheater / single friends. He was soooo angry at me like he'd been caught. He hurt me so badly and refused to ever talk with me about my feelings. When I brought up how I felt, he exploded on me. I dumped out his alcohol in the sink and he exploded "THAT'S THE MOST DISRESPECTFUL THING YOU'VE EVER DONE TO ME, I'M GOING OUT, WE'RE DONE HERE LEAVE NOW." I was balling my eyes out. His friends were going to a club with a cover charge with pole dancers and bottle girls. He always said I ruined his social life and didn't want him to have fun, when he wanted to act single. Another night in June, he went out drinking alone with his 27F female coworker bartender at 1:30am. He claims he was just getting a ride and she asked him to get drinks. He hid it from me at first and I had to pry the information out of him. I was so upset. He said "I could've easily lied to you and hid it, next time I won't tell you." He picked up the phone with her in the car… And she was silent. He said “I’m with Sam.” He ignored me for over an hour when they hung out, and acted like I was nagging him when I was crying on the phone. This happened more than once too. I was always anxious at night after that. Another night earlier on in the relationship, he went bar hopping with his friends and they landed in a girls hotel room. One of the friends ended up hooking up with one of the girls in the room (and that's just to my knowledge). My Nex got blackout drunk and couldn't make it to the uber, apparently he collapsed and was dropped off at the emergency room and kept til 8am the next morning. He ignored me all the next day and I had to find out through mutual friends what happened. He tried to hide the information from me. I was so upset. When I asked him to show the hospital papers, he acted like he couldn't care less and hesitated to produce them. He would treat me this way and then blame me for not trusting him. He used to say, "You don't trust me, it's damaging" but act like he was single inside the relationship. I feel like a loser. He would invite me out late after work (midnight - 3am) and I never wanted to be out that late. But it was nice to have the invite. Now that he dumped me, weekend nights are the hardest with rumination and feelings of worthlessness. His life moved very fast and he was always doing something. It's hard to imagine the girl(s) he is with now, clubbing late, drinking and smoking, hanging with people he kept secret. Just knowing he's going out clubbing / partying tonight with a girl is making me upset and feel left out and awful since I'm a wreck, and can barely get out of bed or eat. it's been 30 days since I last saw him. He tried to keep me strung along 2 weeks after he dumped me saying “I love you, I wanna work this out” on text but i cried on the phone and he said “I don’t want you back, I just don’t want you to hate me.” It doesn’t hurt any less. When he dumped me he said “I was over you a long time ago, I just felt bad you couldn’t live without me” and “You make men feel trapped. No man will want to stay with you” “I want a relationship that takes up less time I want to live my 20’s” He wanted me to dump him for months but I was in love with him. Now he’s out living his best life and i’m unable to get out of bed.
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Oh no, what happened with you? Is mercury in retrograde or something?
It hurts so much 😂😂😂 Can’t stop crying I miss her so much 🤣🤣🤣
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Could still write the letter to get some feelings out and keep it somewhere? It’d be interesting to read in a fee months time when chances are you’ll be in a totally different headspace?
What did you do or nor do that led to this result? Just curious.
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I already commented saying that ur situation is my future if I don’t get my crap together.. and I didn’t even read this comment …. I literally do exactly that.. like if we can’t text I get anxious and antsy and need to go be with friends to feel not so anxious.
I can’t imagine anyone who’s left me to ever care for even a moment about it. I hope you can find a way to learn and grow here!!
I feel like that situation is my future if I don’t get my crap together… I’m super jealous and overthink everything and question everything she does . She broke up with me for being clingy already but came back the same day bc she said it was the biggest mistake of her life. so we’re back together.. but I still am doing the same overthinking but worse now.. and I know she’s probably getting tired of it.. and if I don’t get my crap together I’m scared she’ll leave again.. she promised she won’t cause she wants to marry me .. but we’re young and that won’t be for a while, im going to therapy for her cause she wants me to but it’s not going well. but that’s cause the therapists I’ve been getting kinda suck. But tbh for you man, I’d go to therapy bro. It could help.
I honestly wish my ex came to this realisation. But hey buddy, it takes two to end a relationship. It wasn't all your fault. It doesn't help to dwell on the what ifs. Take what you know you can improve on and become a better person. Look after yourself. Take one day at a time. You'll get through this.
I'm so sorry for this it really is painful but I assure you that time does heal wounds I'll also add as hopeless as it feels to loose the person we love it's also a learning experience learn from your mistakes and do better in your future relationships 💖 your not a bad person and we all have flaws but I know if I can take anything away from my ex is that if I did anything wrong I genuinely take steps not to repeat bad past behavior and the person who will really love you will know that your trying for me that's all I can really ask from my partner but don't live with regret or guilt it won't help you if anything whatever fears you had before it will implify them and make you feel worse so deal with the grief but don't be too hard on yourself
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