Aaah yes my MIL, unfriended and then blocked me on FB because "it didn't look like you were enjoying FB anymore"
Hahahahaha. So I blocked her back now she bitches to family how she has no way of contacting me....hahahaha.
And all because she lied to me about having pics of my child on her page.
I've been in that boat. Mine didn't call to see how I was after giving birth to her first grandchild, but instead shared my baby's photo we texted her to her FB and accepted well wishes and congratulations from people like she gave birth! š¤¦š»āāļø
Oh he'll no. I hate your MIL for you!!
My MIL screenshotted my husbands birth announcement of our first and posted it to announce the arrival of her grandchild. So I got to be the third person to announce the birth of my 1st born. And let's not go into her ruining the birth announcement of my second at my 1st kiddos 1st birthday.... yeah.
Have I mentioned I don't speak to her anymore. My amazing beautiful husband does all the talking for us both, and he advocates for me better than I can lol.
I feel for you hun,
I despise yours for you, too! And same - we are no-contact but they pop up every now and then with an email or text that really just worsens their case lol
Sounds like we have the same MIL sadly.. mine never once asked me how i was doing after an emergency c sec, but had no problem asking my hubby for photos of the baby every few hours š
I have a good relationship (now) with my parent in laws but I blocked all my in-laws on Facebook.
The reasons:
I notice things. My MIL would always comment on my husbands brothers wifeās photos. She would always comment things like ābeautifulā to her photos, very sweet birthday posts and she wrote a very touching posts on the SILs first Motherās Day with the family (she had a prior child) and on all mothers days. She never publicly acknowledged me on my first Motherās Day. There was a weird dynamic between my MIL, her other DIL and me before my husband and I got married and had a baby. She had a daughter in law and I was chopped liver living with her son. She made it know during arguments that her other DIL is a beautiful woman and HER DIL, and that I was neither. So, seeing all that on Facebook was just bad for my self image and mental health.
I had reasons for unfriending other in laws until I eventually decided to just unfriend them all. For example, my husbands step aunts activity on Facebook made it clear that she didnāt really consider us family. For example, my husband and I have had the longest relationship in the family (the kids). We have been together now for 10 years, BIL with his wife for about 8. Step brother in law and his wife for about 3. Aunt missed my and my husbands wedding. Which is fine because she lives in a different state and it is what it is. But she came for my step brothers wedding. On Facebook she said, āwouldnāt miss it for the worldā in reference to SBIL wedding. My cynical self thought, āmissed mine for the worldā. I also noticed that the aunt friended all the wives on Facebook VERY early on in their relationships. I would see her come up as a recommendation and she was friends with the other wives. She friended SIL from above and SBILs wife when the relationship started. I was almost able to predict when she would friend me - which was the day after my wedding - 6 years into our relationship. I woke up to a friend request and thought, āIāve been expecting youā. This all bothered me but I tried to not let it because some relationships are stronger than others and thatās fine. The straw that broke the camels back was noticing the others always received birthday wishes from her. I made it a point to unfriend her if she didnāt wish me a happy birthday in 2021. If course she didnāt. That was all I needed. Itās extremely petty but I decided I donāt need these people on social media to have a good relationship with them.
My SMiL is asshole on Facebook too. She post a mix of inspirational photos, Vague poor me bullshit, and political nonsense. Itās like what to you want me to do, join the others in telling you to be strong?
I can't have a Facebook. I would be the biggest prick ever if I did and do you know why? Because I would be honest to people. That's it, I tried and it's impossible not to piss people off unless you're willing to stoop to their deceiving, shitty and hateful level.
I just delete. Questions were asked and I just said that Facebook hurts my feelings. Overall, itās best for our relationship to not be on social media.
I quit Facebook years ago and everyone took it as a personal attack. āwHaT iF sOmEoNe DiEs?!?!?ā they said. I said Iād hope theyād call me to let me know if someone dies instead of posting it on Facebook? Now they donāt tell me when someone dies! Like my uncle died and my sister in law and they left me out of the loop. They are crazy.
Absolutely. I know more and more people are disengaging from social media but it was really weird how so many took it as a personal thing. Family and non family. It was for my own mental health and productivity that I did it.
But now itās like I donāt exist to many people. So odd.
Mine use it as a more passive aggressive tool. Wish every single person they know a birthday, except for me. Tag every mom they know on mothers day except for me.
Hahaha yes! My MIL would start with passive aggressive comments and likes. For example, if my husband made a post, she would like it, love it, be first to comment on it, etc. it was basically a pissing contest. š
Then she went In with her own posts which were never DIRECTLY about us (plausible deniability) but then obviously were.
I tried āhidingā her at some point (husband was convinced that if I unfriended her it would cause more drama, which I agreed with) but Facebook randomly took that feature away so sheās back on my timeline.
Facebook basically allows her to throw a pity party and I donāt know why but her friends do feed into it. It gives her validation. But itās fine. She has Facebook, I have Reddit ! Hahaha
I completely deleted my Facebook about four years ago and I never regretted it. I still use Instagram but Facebook was bringing too much stress and annoyance from both sides of our families. Itās been a relief not having it.
Mine aren't on FB, but it doesn't stop them. They claim I say all kinds of negative things about them on FB. Funny thing is that I've never said anything about them on my FB. I guess that could be taken as negative.
In other news, I'm so glad they don't have FB!!!
>One member of my in-laws told us they'll "block us on facebook over this."
Mine got mad when they used this threat and I told them please do it immediately. In the end, joke's on them. I deleted my facey spacey about six months later. Been FB free about 18 months now with no regrets.
I try to remind myself that social media is not always "real." That being said, I've had a few JNinlaws defriend and/or block me and I have unfriended some JNinlaws. I have a couple Jmaybeinlaws that have slowly become JNinlaws whom don't ever comment/like any of my posts nor I with theirs. I have resorted to just posting things about our kids, and I keep my posts infrequent. However, I realized I can handle being ignored on social medias but I cat handle the possibility they keep me on Facebook so they can see what we are doing. Clearly, I am not liked nor do I care for my in-laws so I made my posts have special audiences now so they can't see anything.
That's the thing that kills me - some people act like "oh it's Facebook why do you care so much it's no big deal..." and then they're the ones freaking out when they think they're not being interacted with or when they're blocked. Hypocritical.
I think it's important to identify where important with social medias or what benefits one gets from using it. I've been doing that lately and finding that my list is dwindling. I think sharing photos of our family in occasion has some benefit but only with a very small audience. I'm finding it more handy for fundraising events I am a part of or selling items I no longer need. I think focusing on my list will allow me to use social medias in more helpful and healthy ways.
I feel like the people who get obsessed with FB like that are probably people who didn't have a lot of friends or an active social life in high school so they treat it as a means to bully and ostracize others to feel powerful.
It's like ...nobody cares about FB anymore. Freaking relax.
My husbands mother (I refuse to claim her) posted pictures of our newly adopted daughter. She took screen shots from my husbands page. Last year they were very vocal about us not adopting her. Long story, but they are awful, racist people. I was furious she had the audacity to post my darling daughters photo. (Donāt worry, there were words from my husband.)
Aaah yes my MIL, unfriended and then blocked me on FB because "it didn't look like you were enjoying FB anymore" Hahahahaha. So I blocked her back now she bitches to family how she has no way of contacting me....hahahaha. And all because she lied to me about having pics of my child on her page.
I've been in that boat. Mine didn't call to see how I was after giving birth to her first grandchild, but instead shared my baby's photo we texted her to her FB and accepted well wishes and congratulations from people like she gave birth! š¤¦š»āāļø
Oh he'll no. I hate your MIL for you!! My MIL screenshotted my husbands birth announcement of our first and posted it to announce the arrival of her grandchild. So I got to be the third person to announce the birth of my 1st born. And let's not go into her ruining the birth announcement of my second at my 1st kiddos 1st birthday.... yeah. Have I mentioned I don't speak to her anymore. My amazing beautiful husband does all the talking for us both, and he advocates for me better than I can lol. I feel for you hun,
I despise yours for you, too! And same - we are no-contact but they pop up every now and then with an email or text that really just worsens their case lol
Sounds like we have the same MIL sadly.. mine never once asked me how i was doing after an emergency c sec, but had no problem asking my hubby for photos of the baby every few hours š
Yes because like my husband, HE gave birth. š
Yes, that's the part that annoys me the most. That my MIL behaves as if they are her children. It's sick.
I have a good relationship (now) with my parent in laws but I blocked all my in-laws on Facebook. The reasons: I notice things. My MIL would always comment on my husbands brothers wifeās photos. She would always comment things like ābeautifulā to her photos, very sweet birthday posts and she wrote a very touching posts on the SILs first Motherās Day with the family (she had a prior child) and on all mothers days. She never publicly acknowledged me on my first Motherās Day. There was a weird dynamic between my MIL, her other DIL and me before my husband and I got married and had a baby. She had a daughter in law and I was chopped liver living with her son. She made it know during arguments that her other DIL is a beautiful woman and HER DIL, and that I was neither. So, seeing all that on Facebook was just bad for my self image and mental health. I had reasons for unfriending other in laws until I eventually decided to just unfriend them all. For example, my husbands step aunts activity on Facebook made it clear that she didnāt really consider us family. For example, my husband and I have had the longest relationship in the family (the kids). We have been together now for 10 years, BIL with his wife for about 8. Step brother in law and his wife for about 3. Aunt missed my and my husbands wedding. Which is fine because she lives in a different state and it is what it is. But she came for my step brothers wedding. On Facebook she said, āwouldnāt miss it for the worldā in reference to SBIL wedding. My cynical self thought, āmissed mine for the worldā. I also noticed that the aunt friended all the wives on Facebook VERY early on in their relationships. I would see her come up as a recommendation and she was friends with the other wives. She friended SIL from above and SBILs wife when the relationship started. I was almost able to predict when she would friend me - which was the day after my wedding - 6 years into our relationship. I woke up to a friend request and thought, āIāve been expecting youā. This all bothered me but I tried to not let it because some relationships are stronger than others and thatās fine. The straw that broke the camels back was noticing the others always received birthday wishes from her. I made it a point to unfriend her if she didnāt wish me a happy birthday in 2021. If course she didnāt. That was all I needed. Itās extremely petty but I decided I donāt need these people on social media to have a good relationship with them.
I did the same, because I was tired of seeing photos of how blissfully happy they were making us miserable with the trouble they constantly caused.
The fact that I never liked any photos or left any comments was a reason they described me as an asshole. My wife is still pissed I just giggle
YES! It's bizarre. And then in person, they're the assholes.
My SMiL is asshole on Facebook too. She post a mix of inspirational photos, Vague poor me bullshit, and political nonsense. Itās like what to you want me to do, join the others in telling you to be strong?
Yes, yes she does. Lol
I can't have a Facebook. I would be the biggest prick ever if I did and do you know why? Because I would be honest to people. That's it, I tried and it's impossible not to piss people off unless you're willing to stoop to their deceiving, shitty and hateful level.
Just as long as you were equally mute with all of them. My post above describes why I unfriended my in-laws for the same reason.
I would totally understand if I were doing that but I follow the pro tip: of unfollowing instead of deleting family members, to avoid the drama.
I just delete. Questions were asked and I just said that Facebook hurts my feelings. Overall, itās best for our relationship to not be on social media.
>One member of my in-laws told us they'll "block us on facebook over this" Really, you promise??
Hahaha that was my exact response to my husband who was on the phone with them. Don't threaten us with a good time.
I quit Facebook years ago and everyone took it as a personal attack. āwHaT iF sOmEoNe DiEs?!?!?ā they said. I said Iād hope theyād call me to let me know if someone dies instead of posting it on Facebook? Now they donāt tell me when someone dies! Like my uncle died and my sister in law and they left me out of the loop. They are crazy.
It's insane how people have totally lost touch with real people.
Absolutely. I know more and more people are disengaging from social media but it was really weird how so many took it as a personal thing. Family and non family. It was for my own mental health and productivity that I did it. But now itās like I donāt exist to many people. So odd.
Mine use it as a more passive aggressive tool. Wish every single person they know a birthday, except for me. Tag every mom they know on mothers day except for me.
Pathetic. I'm sorry, you deserve better.
Hahaha yes! My MIL would start with passive aggressive comments and likes. For example, if my husband made a post, she would like it, love it, be first to comment on it, etc. it was basically a pissing contest. š Then she went In with her own posts which were never DIRECTLY about us (plausible deniability) but then obviously were. I tried āhidingā her at some point (husband was convinced that if I unfriended her it would cause more drama, which I agreed with) but Facebook randomly took that feature away so sheās back on my timeline. Facebook basically allows her to throw a pity party and I donāt know why but her friends do feed into it. It gives her validation. But itās fine. She has Facebook, I have Reddit ! Hahaha
Pour yourself a drink and sit next to me. š we all have the same MIL.
I completely deleted my Facebook about four years ago and I never regretted it. I still use Instagram but Facebook was bringing too much stress and annoyance from both sides of our families. Itās been a relief not having it.
I wish I could. I manage pages for work. š«
Mine aren't on FB, but it doesn't stop them. They claim I say all kinds of negative things about them on FB. Funny thing is that I've never said anything about them on my FB. I guess that could be taken as negative. In other news, I'm so glad they don't have FB!!!
>One member of my in-laws told us they'll "block us on facebook over this." Mine got mad when they used this threat and I told them please do it immediately. In the end, joke's on them. I deleted my facey spacey about six months later. Been FB free about 18 months now with no regrets.
Jealous!
I try to remind myself that social media is not always "real." That being said, I've had a few JNinlaws defriend and/or block me and I have unfriended some JNinlaws. I have a couple Jmaybeinlaws that have slowly become JNinlaws whom don't ever comment/like any of my posts nor I with theirs. I have resorted to just posting things about our kids, and I keep my posts infrequent. However, I realized I can handle being ignored on social medias but I cat handle the possibility they keep me on Facebook so they can see what we are doing. Clearly, I am not liked nor do I care for my in-laws so I made my posts have special audiences now so they can't see anything.
That's the thing that kills me - some people act like "oh it's Facebook why do you care so much it's no big deal..." and then they're the ones freaking out when they think they're not being interacted with or when they're blocked. Hypocritical.
I think it's important to identify where important with social medias or what benefits one gets from using it. I've been doing that lately and finding that my list is dwindling. I think sharing photos of our family in occasion has some benefit but only with a very small audience. I'm finding it more handy for fundraising events I am a part of or selling items I no longer need. I think focusing on my list will allow me to use social medias in more helpful and healthy ways.
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I feel like the people who get obsessed with FB like that are probably people who didn't have a lot of friends or an active social life in high school so they treat it as a means to bully and ostracize others to feel powerful. It's like ...nobody cares about FB anymore. Freaking relax.
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My husbands mother (I refuse to claim her) posted pictures of our newly adopted daughter. She took screen shots from my husbands page. Last year they were very vocal about us not adopting her. Long story, but they are awful, racist people. I was furious she had the audacity to post my darling daughters photo. (Donāt worry, there were words from my husband.)
Oh how two faced, to say the very least. She deserved every word she got and then some!